Femininity Channels are Taking Over: TOXIC Femininity & the Pressure to be a High Value Woman
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ก.ย. 2024
- I'm talking about black femininity channels and the content that they talk about in their videos. In recent times I've been seeing more content aimed specifically at black women. My criticism is on how they promote toxic femininity ideals using celebrities like Lori Harvey, Ciara etc to show you how to level up and how easy to start your femininity journey.
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Battle of the feminine
Every girl screaming at the top of her lungs "I'm feminine I hate masculine women, look at me I'm feminine I wear pink, feminine, feminine feminine"
Heels skirts and makeup don't make you a woman because, guys wear that too, and alot of them, (Trans or crossdressers.) You can't just be a woman gheeeeez.
That part!!🙌🏾 I see it as the gateway to "pick me" town
Lol this comment funny asl
That’s why I prefer “feminine” channels that focus more on self improvement like mental/emotional health, advise that help you be self sufficient, and give beauty tips. Just advice that helps you make your day easier and living with purpose.
I watch these two former femininity channels and they aren’t too bad.
me too self improvement feminine channels are best
@@mariharrik5987 Will you please share any example channels that you like?
@imontosomething2609 Will you please share any example channels that you like?
That just sounds like self improvement. Idk why they need to throw femininity in it. Men work on their grooming and looking better as well when they are trying to improve themselves.
@@shantelpujols3121 One of the TH-camrs The “Feminine” Fancy doesn’t heavily focus and the topic of femininity anymore but kept the name of her channel. The other one Karine Alourde just gave up on the “how to be feminine” vids and just talks about famous women old and new as inspiration and has a separate channel for self improvement.
Both the redpill/alpha male manosphere crap and the dark femininity/femcel trend is so cringe. Both are glorified cults. Just be yourself. No good can come of these toxic games.
They are cults. The people that spearhead this content seem to have antisocial tendencies personality wise. They're obsessed with power
I couldn't agree with you more. I'm so fed up of the gender politics and all these gurus trying to tell me how to be what their narrow-minded image of a woman is. It reflects more on them and the fact that they see themselves only as servants to men in exchange for "keep". I'm an independent woman and I don't have to rely on anyone else. No matter of the skin colour, women need to accept and love themselves for the person they are and that would attract the right partner if they would like to have a companion in life.
Absolutely Geri. Its lowest common denominator thinking. It's like the Stepford Wives- on acid!! The older I get, the more I wanna throw away the rulebook and just be myself, whether that is "feminine" or not 🙄
Independent = Self Destruction !!! 🍎 (see: Eve ... the 1st w!tch !! )
Your advice is great advice if u want to be single or be in an unhappy relationship..
What they say is simple biological and by extension sociology..
It is how reality works...
As I said,if ur goal is to be alone,then by all means do what pleases u..
Some others see the complimentary design in a man and woman and would like to take advantage of that
@@fewblack1572 it's sad that you believe that in order to be in a happy relationship you need to compromise with who you are. That's exactly where the problem lies. I am in a happy marriage and have been for over 15 years, so believe me when I say that you can be happy in a relationship and be yourself simultaneously.
@@geripanayotova8288 Ok that's good for you..
Let me phrase it this way..
A man is not a woman- biology 101
That difference is also clearly reflected in behaviour,inclinations and way of doing things and this is a fact that is easily observed(just like positive and negative energy if u will.)Even a look at nature,u will see that is pattern is undisputed..
In terms of bonding,the overwhelming majority of men are attracted to women because of their feminine attributes.Feminine attributes is what attacts a masculine man.A masculine woman is a turnoff to the overwhelming majority of men just as how a feminine man is a turnoff to feminine woman...
therefore if your aim is to have a long term strong fufilling relationship with a masculine man,then let your femininity shine..Bonding with a masculine man is only possible if he finds you attractive..
Luckily for women,being feminine is natural to them.Cos that how they are inherently designed..
We are all condemned to this role by biology...Accept reality and play your part or fight against it in the name of "not needing a man" and die alone..
The choice is yours
My issue with these videos is that they’re insulting AF. Black women don’t need special “instructions” to be feminine. This plays into the racist stereotypes of Black women being too “hard” and mannish.
Exactly!! Why do we need special coaching on being feminine... Do we lack the femininity "chip"??
It's so demeaning
@SM I just reported your comment as hate speech. Have a nice day 👋🏾
@@gmarie3082 she didn’t lie though. if you don’t want to do the work just say that. 😂
@@xshesyourqorqeousxx3 ewww
Written by a female ..... Wearing "Another Woman's Hair" ?!!! Rofl !!! (0% Logic)
My question is how the heck did a natural hair channel go from speaking about natural hair to become a feminity guru channel
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These fake "life coaches" NEVER Stow a picture of themselves with a Boyfriend Or Husband !!! Facts !!! - They NEVER ... "Walk The Walk" !!!
If you are as analytical as I am, I find many of them to be misleading and borderline narcissistic. I stopped watching them. You conveyed my exact thoughts. Thank you for this video.
You're welcome 😊
I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way
and some of these gurus say that they're better than everyone else and their way is the only way and the absolute truth
You is pressuring you to listen to what they say ? Where does common sense kicks in ? If a TH-camr tell you to be classy you can’t wear colorful nail polish , will you just stop wearing that ? This has nothing to do with being narcissistic, they are giving you their opinions , not pressuring you to be like them. Make your own image , simple as that. Y’all eat everything up.
They really are!
It’s belittling yourself to live for someone else’s expectations and changing who you are at your core for everyone else.
Agree completely,
So, I watched one of these channels and her advice was too:
*If he gets mad and tells you something , don't snap at him, kinda sort of cry and appear sad so he will see you as a feminine being...
*A lot of feminine behaviors are child like, the more soft you want him too be with you, the softer you gotta be. You gotta let him see that he is this ultimate masculine man and you are a fragile...
"I'm so little and precious and you are so masculine and mean.... And it helps him feel masculine"
Imagine having to damn near infantilize yourself to let your man know that you don’t care for him speaking to you in a condescending/gruff/angry tone.
why the hell do women have to soften their voice and downplay accomplishments in order to make men feel masculine.
It's stupid. It's the ultimate in "low value thinking" of having to pretend or put on infantilizing behaviours to appeal to men. The reality is that you can't pretend for long, and it's not healthy to pretend *if* you're in an unhealthy relationship to begin with.
Sh*.....t w!tches Say !!!
@@Gtjsn you're reaching for the stars right now, 🤦🏾♀️
@@Gtjsnthese channels are trying to normalize Lowe self esteem and self worth and package it as femininity. Infantalizing yourself isn’t healthy any way. Society already carries childist attitudes so they don’t have a healthy view of even understanding what healthy child like qualities are healthy. Coming from someone who is babyface and has duality of being soft and fierce because my cultural background people will be triggered that I can stand my own. Women should not be cosplaying in order to be seen a certain way. Because you’re expecting validation from outside yourself. These channels can end up telling vulnerable females it’s okay to be abused in the name of being feminine. Femininity is a curated thing based on multiple things. And there is more than one way to appear feminine such as the 70s era is one that isn’t full of pink. Even places in other parts of the world can be feminine.
@@Gtjsn You are going to the route of what-about-isms and you’re missing the entire point trying to prove yours 🤦🏾♀️
I have seen some of such channels. There are many things that bother me about them, one of them is the idea that being properly feminine is so materialistic and consumerist. You need to put much money and time into your looks, having the best clothes, makeup etc. Another idea that's a lot more problematic is discouraging women from putting effort into their studies and work because the ideal goal is to become a housewife to a rich man.
I love the femininity side of youtube because it helped me find the parts of me that I wanted to be. Yes, they are often 'one size fits one' but they often state that they know they're not for everybody and anybody is free to make their own spaces. I love the idea that there is power in the way you present and keep yourself as a woman but just because it works for me does not mean it would work for another.
there is but i don't think there should be, it is true that women who are conventionally attractive and feminine are often treated better, respected more, desired more etc and than can be powerful. However women should all be given the same access to power, given the same respect and treated the same regardless of how they look or how "feminine" they act
@@miajade5715 well that’s not going to happen so …
@@quinr9810 exactly like that ain’t how the world works.
@@chiaramartin8426 That's because the world has been operating in Masculine energy and the toxic shadow version at that. But if you haven't noticed, feminine energy is reemerging and will be here for our entire lifetime. It will only strength until it reaches its own toxic, shadow version and the cycle will continue. So yeah, both men and women being accepted for who they are without the need for performative actions will become more mainstream. It's already happening.
yess its all about taking what resonates and leaving what doesn't im a lesbian and i do not want a man but i enjoy watching these videos for my own sake
It's just pickme women selling us the "new" way to be.
THIS. And its getting bigger everyday on young people and they hide political interest too
I agree
I am quite a masculine woman although my physical traits are feminine so I am never called a tomboy. I feel much more confident in sneakers and t-shirts and I practice martial arts and I am also quite assertive. When I was a kid I was a ballerina but also a karateka. Always was drawn to very feminine and very masculine stuff. Guys are attracted to me because they like my yin yang mix. They like that I am strong and outspoken. But rich and so called high value men were never interested in me. I attract only younger and sweet guys and I like it. I actually initiate the relationship, which is inherently quite a masculine thing to do. I could never be with a Dominant, alpha male probably because I have a lot of yang in me. For what I see, very feminine women attract very masculine men and yin yang women attract yin yang men.
Absolutely loved your video! ♡♡♡
I think I was a monkey in my past life because as a child I used to love playing in trees, climbing, swinging and literally hanging out. Alas with age and responsibilities, I don't do it anymore.
I think guys are attracted to what they're attracted to, and there's a lid for every pot. But to rely on these femininity coaches as if they've got the "cheat codes".... Sigh... I doubt it
And thank you for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it ☺️☺️
There is indeed a lid to every pot. That's a lovely expression. I really like your content and the fact that you take the time to answer everybody individually. It is very respectable. ♡ greetings from France
Ps) "literally hanging out" was so funny. You did hang out a lot as a tree climber. Loved that too. God do i miss my childhood!
@@kingkris6877 thank you, and nice tats! :D
Masculine Women = a w!tch !!! ( see: Eve .... the masculinity w!tch !! )
Hey guys I'm a feminine girl. I just wanna say that these feminine videos/channels help me a lot but I don't take everything that they give because what works for them might not work for me. For example, most "feminine " women are expected to wear dresses and such. I don't always do that. I wear what I want and I'm happy about it. Femininity and Masculinity are just energies. It doesn't have to be toxic. Someone can be a really feminine man and I find nothing wrong with that. It's actually nice that people are waking up to this kind of topic. Don't be pressured, you do you 😊
Yup, I'd advise you to take what works from it and leave the rest. 👍🏾
@@DrKayExplains thankss
I don't mind wearing dresses on occasion or in the summer, but not all the time. Especially since I have to take public transit which isn't the cleanest lol.
Agreed! I’m feminine as well and do love dresses, skirts and makeup but I also like wearing my steel cap boots and khaki pants, and long sleeve shirt working on our property on the tractor lol! My husband still thinks I’m cute in the latter 😆
Unless women are turning into a man all women are feminine in their own way.
I am a very feminine woman, especially in my personality, and I used to love these videos but I can’t help but notice a few things:
1. I am an autistic girl, and the advice that many of the women give doesn’t quite work for autistic girls. What about the neurodivergent individuals?
2. I feel like the only aesthetic that makes someone feminine is the “luxury” style, the expensive bags, the minimalist clothing, the straight hair, and for me, that doesn’t fit. I’m natural, have a boho-grunge-glam style (yes, I have my hair blow dried a lot or in twist outs, I wear heeled boots often, I wear a LOT of dresses and skirts), but styles like mine are hardly ever recognised. Black girls aren’t all one style type.
3. LGBT individuals never seem to be a topic of conversation. Femininity shouldn’t be just in terms of trying to date a male counterpart. I am bisexual, and in a long term relationship with a high value man, but I believe that femininity is something that connects a woman or feminine being to themselves, first and foremost.
4. I am so immensely grateful to the feminine community for making softness popular again, but it does seem to be one kind of softness. I’m not quite sure how to explain it, but it’s like their softness is represented by a dainty flower, whereas I know girls with the softness of a still forest, or an ocean at sunset, or the feeling you get when you look up at stars.
These are just my personal opinions, and I know these channels won’t cater to everyone, I don’t expect them to. And I don’t hate these channels at all, I’ve enjoyed quite a few of their information. But it’s just some interesting things to notice. It gives me very “popular black girl” vibes, and not necessarily “weird outcast black girl” vibes.
EDIT: I want to add that I believe femininity is an important and beautiful thing. I’ve often been teased for being too sensitive and soft and vulnerable and due to these videos, I’ve appreciated those things more. But I don’t think there’s only one kind of femininity and that’s my issue. These videos can sometimes come across as if there is, and I don’t believe that’s true.
Preach!!
Everything you're saying is echoing my thoughts exactly Shan.
Like a lot of things there are some useful tips in what they say, but if you have to do a whole load of filtering to find those nuggets of truth, I'm not sure if it's worth it
The whole high value man thing is so cringe-worthy as well. Who came up with a definition for this?
@@MarshasJourney That is very true. “High value” isn’t just being financially well off, it’s being a genuinely good person. Being a logical, caring, wise individual. Not putting others down, but building others up. Looking out for yourself, your family and your community. Being kind and caring to people even when they have nothing to offer you, financially, romantically or otherwise. Those are the kinds of things that make the man I’m with a “high value” man, and there are so many people that can be high earning but treat those around them terribly just because they think they can. Money only amplifies the character you were born with.
@Shan: Great points beautifully stated. Thank you!
THIS THOUGH. THANK YOU. You're not alone in feeling this way
One thing that they always repeat is that Men and Women aren't the same. What they don't seem to understand is that ALL women in aren't the same. A mother isn't the same as her daughter. A woman isn't the same as her grandma or her 3rd cousin. ALL women have their own beliefs, personalities, mannerisms, characters and values. These femininity coaches act as if womanhood is one experience and they ignore the experiences of oppressed and minority groups. They also have no understanding of womanhood outside of the western world. Our culture and environment impacts our mannerisms. I guess a poor Indigenous woman farming and working hard is considered masculine and unwomanly by these people? and notice how these black women who are promoting these ideas shun african-american culture. One of the ladies was talking about how Rap music makes you ratchet....exactly what racist whites say about African american music and culture.
You summed up the entire problem
Oh goodness… thank you for making this video! I can’t stand these femininity channels… I agree that they are so performative and a little uncomfortable to watch. There are a lot of women, such as myself who are mostly very feminine but also can tap into my masculine side when life or situations call me to do so! Women are capable of doing both! There’s nothing wrong with it. To exist in a world like ours where we as women feel unsafe or threatened, we have to tap into our masculinity bc safety is kind of a huge deal for us as well as we are the smaller of the sexes. We need to stand up for ourselves and feel confident in doing so! New subbie btw.. Thank you for sharing your insight! 🙏🏽
Thank you for the lovely comment and welcome 😊
This is why everyone is wearing black, nude and white clothing these days. It’s all so pretentious
I pretty much take what resonates and leave what doesn’t when comes to feminine channels. For instance the fashion sense, and internal growing myself(not focused on growing for men but for myself) character traits that I can improve ex. being more nicer, calmer (When necessary), more approachable, & self care tips. I’m working on balancing my masculine traits & feminine traits.
Nicer* or more nice* not more nicer.
@@Rosemary46840 Thank you for being the grammatical police. I really appreciate you for your service. 😊 I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day policing dear. 😘
It’s going back to women being a LADY and conducting herself like one.
That's fine. But do you have to be a lady to be feminine?
@@DrKayExplainsAh sweetheart . One is innate and the other is you. Being feminine is innate for a woman. Being a lady encompasses how you carry yourself . How you talk walk and act. Are you soft and subtle with your femininity? Or more dominant and assertive? Some women fall in between . I guess we strive for that balance .
Just based on your account’s photo most of these channels would not consider you a feminine woman
So because a woman has a raspy voice, wants to be a boss lady, or pays her own bills, makes her less feminine.
Thank you for this. I also grew up in the 80s/90s (turned 20 in the year 2000 so I’m either a year 1 millennial or last year X depending on who you ask) and during the grunge era women were all about strong looks with a bit of feminine twist. We wore jeans and flannel with thick eyeliner and dark lipstick. We were all pushed (men and women) to go to college and compete for careers before you do anything else. Now as a 40 year old adult I own a house, have a masters, work independently, and men can’t even handle it. I’ve tried many times to look and act more feminine but it’s just not natural for me. I can’t walk in heels and I have no interest in dresses, makeup, or handbags. I’d rather spend my money on running shoes. In order to be somewhat feminine I wear the basic white girl uniform in the fall- leggings and boots with a tunic and down vest- insert pumpkin spice latte in hand. It’s the best I can do. But the pressure to love heels and makeup is making me question- am I even a woman? Am I cis gender? Am i straight since now I’m scared of men (they tend to mistreat you if you’re not ultra feminine). Why isn’t anyone talking about why men aren’t evolved enough to date modern women? Why are women having to cater to their outdated views of us that reduce us down to appearances?
Oh my goodness. I think those of us who remember the 90s/naughties the first time round totally get it. Such a weird turnaround from Miss Independent to now chasing after supposed "high value males"...
I bristle at the idea that Becca woman isn’t dressed to the nines, she “doesn’t care about herself.” Owning running shoes and using them to run on a regular basis is a healthy part of self-care.
They are very stereotypical and narrow. So many of these types will talk about how hyper sexual society is while presenting a hyper sexual man pleasing look . They make out as though all men like a particular look or asthetic.
they measure people of high and low value because of sex ""market" and the thing is that if you dont look to fit in it you are not connected to your true self woman energy. Wich is DANGEROUS to spread this messages. At some point it is quite repetitive and boring. This feminity channels and manosphere ones (wich are worst) are becoming shameful for genders. I would say like a cult and most of their followers are pasive/agressive or violent!
Thank you for this video. There is a woman called Sadia khan giving advice to people on how to be a high value woman and she would wear these really traditionally feminine makeup and clothes with her hair curled and cheeks have blush on. People are praising her that she is so sensible and she is the real deal.
All I can see is her perfectly curled hair, layers of makeup, fake lashes and well tailored clothes.
Exactly, all they see is a gorgeous woman and they click and follow! If sadia was average looking, no one would care.
Very interesting observations! Personally, I am not about competing with men. I have my own purpose in life as a woman. I also know that there is more to being a woman than a superficial outer appearance. Anyone can "look" a certain way, but it's more important to be authentic and truly have good character. Knowing who we are on the inside is extremely important. 💯
I like fashion advice because I like looking femme. But I do feel unsatisfied abd trapped with life abd you just pointed out a flaw in my logic when seeing how prosperous other people seem. Thank you.
I love fashion and watch a lot of fashion content on TH-cam too. And if you like a specific look because that's what *you* like then by all means. I just hate the fact that everyone has to look the same, sound the same and be the same...
Take everything with a grain of salt. I love femininity channels that focus on mental health. My peace and ability to rest and give that energy to others around me is the focus. A woman who has peace will operate in ways to maintain it. Also, I believe in balance. I'm a balanced human (feminine and masculine). That's my two cents.
As a guy, this divine masculine is the same thing. It is defined by what women supposedly find attractive. A women cannot sustain by herself, so she want a provider, so it is masculine to provide. She cannot protect herself, so it is masculine to protect. To lead to control to direct etc.
The assumption is that all men like this qualities. But what women and alpha men don't understand is that many men are hurt by this as well. We do not wish to grind that be the top 10% provider, we are not interested in spending all the time in the gym to have the uber masculine body.
But if men reject this notion we are called feminine, soyboy, weak men, men don't know how to be men anymore. Just like there is the tend of being feminine, there is also the concept of masculine that is being pushed.
Some men don't like the "alpha" idea of having to decide every time, or to make the final decision every time. Some of us enjoy women taking the lead and pleasing us. Even in sex, a lot of men like women to take control. This goes against the idea of what it means to be manly and masculine today.
Thank you so much I was just talking about this to my sister. That most feminity channels are like this and about white European hair and beauty.
Ma'am you dropped this 👑. You deseve million views!!!
From one queen to another: thank you Jadriene 😊👑
@@DrKayExplains 😭😭 thank u!
Thank you for this video. It is so true that these limiting beliefs are both "real convenient" for men with a "patriarchal" agenda, AND, at the same time, hurt men and limit their options and expression, too! It also effects the way certain male types are valued in society, just as it effects women. I have been thinking a lot about "feminine" vs "masculine" traits/energy and how those categorizations seem arbitrary to me, and you addressed so much of that here. The yin/yang alternative makes way more sense as an explanation that doesn't "assign" traits to one or the other gender, nor the judgement/shame that goes along with not matching one particular "box".
Finally someone said it!!!
For me, dating isn’t about getting a man. It’s about learning more about myself, discovering new things I like about men, socializing with men, receiving, practicing how to communicate my desires and have difficult conversations.
Thee are so many opportunities for growth when dating for yourself. If a commitment to an amazing man happens as a result, that’s a plus. But that’s not my why.
I really appreciate your take on everything. I have been really interested in femininity content but all of it seems to be be about how to get a man!! It’s lazy and small minded and immature to describe feminine simply as the opposite of masculine. They can’t explain femininity without saying “oh, this is how to NOT be masculine.”
Hey girl, thanks for stopping by my channel and I'm glad I'm not alone on this. For me, centering our identities around men and defining femininity in the eyes of what men like is really stupid imo. I mean, men themselves are not a uniform group. At the end of the day I think it's best for women to focus on themselves, developing their goals, wants, dreams and personality... and the man is just a happy bonus.
I think the Ying and Yang concept in general it's gone. Feminine gurus that give toxic tips or cardi b and ect. *I don't cook and I don't clean, but let me tell you I got this ring* gets cheated on. Beyonce singing *all the single ladies* have a whole man at home. Feminist that doesn't want to be seen as an object so they go naked to protests. The balance is just gone
Its funny my style is hyper feminine, but in more of a glitter/unicorn/princess/ballerina sort of way lol.
I watched one of these videos and I was suprised to see that my cutesy version of femininity doesn't apply 🤷♂️🤷♂️. 🤷♂️ its just so narrow and seems exhausting ☹☹. It seems like a very one dimensional life
OMG ! Thank you for your relevant POV 🤝 I am so sick of those so called « coaches ». You’ve said it all, it’s performative hence FALSE, insincere and useless. Not to mention manipulative as well.
Excellent video ! I am subscribing !
I follow a lot of channels talking about femininity and I've never heard someone saying that ambition is not feminine or that women shouldn't be independant or have carrier goals. I actually hear the opposite, that a woman has to have her own life and own value. And that is when you can eventually enter to a relationship, because you know your value so you won't choose someone who isn't perceiving that and isn't treating you like the queen you are. It's never saying that women NEED to find men, but when they WANT or are open to it (this is human to want to connect with others), they should choose wisely. I don't see anything wrong about that. However, the channels I follow aren't about a specific skin colour so I don't know exactly if the messages given in the majoritity of black femininity channels are superficial or not.
I was in that space last year after hitting a new low, and I got sucked into it being young, but after awhile of discovering myself more I realized how damaging all of it was. I’m Non-binary and queer, but neither of those things I knew/accepted about myself because I was listening to advice that genuinely didn’t apply to me at all 😭. And I’m a feminine person who passes for a woman since I was AFAB and also embrace my masculine traits as well, but that space made me really confused and unhappy about who I was, but I’m so glad I got out while I could.
i have seen femininity channels that are truly insulting to women, but i have also stumbled upon feminine channels that empower and celebrate all women ambitious or not
yeah and masculine and manosphere channels are violent too. there are just little portion of few ones that are no political oriented indoctrinated oriented and toxic
While my personal taste is more in line with traditional feminine clothing (skirts, dresses etc) I have more interest in the spiritual perspective of femininity. Those channels definitely helped me raise my standards but then I surpassed them in the sense that I wanted more spiritually.
Plus the avoidant dating advice was suffocating. I don't want any man that needs me to hold back affection to remain interested 🤣 I'd rather die alone
They can also tend to be rude and passive aggressive, which goes against their "femininity" agenda lmao I got called out by one of these famous "feminine" youtubers implying that I'm crazy just because i said that masculinity and femininity can be mixed in both men and women, and that traditionally speaking, one purpose of marriage was supposed to be about the husband learning feminine energy in his wife and vice versa, and finally getting to a point where both partners through learning from each other can balance both the energies within them later on. She literally dismissed my religious background (I'm a Hindu woman), and instead of being professional about my comment and just ignoring it if she has nothing nice to say, she just implied I'm crazy and told me to watch the video again ,😒
Girl, this is on point, don't change your view, hold your ground. ❤️
I stumbled upon a Feminity videos....all good until I come across how to be damsels in distress . It was literally about manipulation and to be ' maintained ' by boyfriends as if it was going to be free of cost. She didn't mention as how you might have to give time,sex for all that ' receiving' or if not that then you are just taking advantage of a good person.
In my opinion, there's no such thing as a free ride. Someone is paying... Most of the time the idea of a spoiled gf is a fallacy and means you're selling yourself to the highest bidder. It leaves women to be exploited and stay in damaging relationships purely because they're financially being taken care of. Not good IMO
@@DrKayExplains i would literally give you a hug for that comment , this is soooooo true 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Maybe I'm a bit cynical, but i always feel most of the advice on these channels only work if your white or close it to, and are well above average attractiveness. Like most feminine guru channel feature a beautiful young woman doling out "how to get a man advice" and all I think "yeah ok thats easy for you to say, you're stunning!"...if I tried that crape, I'd be consistently rejected or laughed at. Life's easy when you're beautiful, pretty privilege and all that.
I see your view point. I think it mostly depends on who you watch and what communities you are apart of. When instated my journey, it literally changed my life for the better. Perhaps it comes down to filtering what content you consume. Great points ❣
You're right that there is a kernel of truth in most things and some aspects can be helpful. To me I started being more critical of the stuff I was consuming and how it was shaping the views I had of myself and others around me and causing me to react in certain ways which was not necessarily "me"
But I'm glad you found some of the content helpful though 😊
I feel like it just depends on the content of the femininity influencer you’re listening to. Like in every other channel you as a viewer need to discern and ask yourself if the advice you are being given aligns with the values of your higher self. I’ve been reading a lot of the comments below and I will also say I don’t listen to those channels to attract “high value men“ I listen to them to elevate myself as a woman and I also find it interesting how you can as a woman can achieve all your goals and objectives while maintaining and leveraging your feminine softness as we have been conditioned to think that feminine traits A sign of weakness and hinder ambition progress and achievements.
Perfectly said
Omgg thank you like I’ve been trying to force myself to watch these videos but I seem repelled to do so. It’s like they make it seem like it makes sense, but to me something just didnt feel right. Like what they were saying didnt resinate with me and I couldn’t imagine myself being like that but they make it seem like that’s the way that women should be. That we’re naturally suppose to act that way, but like you said it feels hella performative and fake and i wouldnt feel like my authentic self. The idea of being that feminine makes me very uncomfortable and weird idk if somethings wrong with me for it or what.
For the long flowy straight hair I disagree 100%,most encourage embracing your beauty as it is without giving any thought to featurism or colorism.
I saw one of your video titles once, something about "high value" something or other, and I couldn't even believe my eyes. I didn't click on it.
I've once been sucked into watching these femininity videos, at first it seemed harmless enough. To me it was similar to a kid spying on their mom spritzing perfume and doing her makeup. But then as I watched, I understood that these women were actually very serious about the whole thing. And their emphasis on "value" and being "polished" quickly turned me off.
So I'm really relieved and happy to see that you position yourself as a critic of the whole thing. Thank God! 😅
I have seen some of the appearance standards and it's just not for me, never has. I'm more of a natural type. I dislike that typical femininity is so much about materialism and consumerism and unnecessary vanity. You need to buy lots of clothes, shoes, accessories (much more than you really need) and cosmetic products. And what's even more problematic is when they say women shouldn't have jobs and their own salary. So they'll always be dependent on someone which is potentially a dangerous situation and poor at old age (not entitled to any retirement money).
I’m 14 and I listen to some of these femininity podcast but I sit down and choose what I want for me I don’t use it to Chase after boys at my school no I use it to feel more confident in myself because I feel prettier when I do these things to be honest. And it just helps me stand up for myself better and made me pay attention to myself the way I dress if my nails are clean I personally don’t do my nails but I make sure that I cut them for them to look clean the vids just made me pay attention to myself more. But I make sure that I set my goals my values my morals and stuff there are feminine videos that are just bad for you and there are videos that are good for you you just have to know how to pick and choose the channels don’t listen to all of the channels don’t listen to a random one just pick and choose which one you like the most. I know they always say you have to wear high heels I disagree with that I cannot be wearing that in school I have places to go so I just make sure that my shoes are clean whatever shoes I’m wearing they’re clean. When I see that these videos are leading to what men like oh you’re going to attract more men like that you’re going to find a high value man I just change the channel because to be honest you don’t need a man to survive I only like the way they dress I like the way they act and I like how clean these women look that’s what I personally follow in these vid
Ife, I'm glad you are discerning about the advice that these channels give and you take away the parts you find useful. I love fashion, beauty, makeup and I do it for me and it makes me happy which is why I do it. As soon as you feel that you're doing it for someone else - that's when you need to question yourself.
The number one advice I have for you is to develop your own sense of self. Lots of people will come and go, and they will say things or try to get you to change for their own selfish reasons. It doesn't matter if it's a boy or girl, the result is the same. Try to listen and develop your intuition and follow it- even when people say you're being crazy/ overreacting. Trust your self and listen and honour yourself. You won't regret it
@@DrKayExplains When I was 14 years old, I didn't even think about such things. I'm highly concerned that kids are already susceptible to this kind of indoctrination.
Thank you so much for this. I've been getting fo many of these femininity vids on my TH-cam and it confused the hell out of me.
You know what gets me? The fact that you think "femininity is a sign of weakness" what bugs you ladies when other women want to better themselves?
These content creators don't look the same. I've seen a lot of femininity channels that advice black women to wear extension of their same hair textures! Also no one tells you to be a slave to the man,none of them advice to be soft and not be a go getter. I wish you ladies would let other women enjoy what they like
Then go ahead and enjoy what *you* like. None of "us ladies" are stopping you. 🤷🏾♀️
No one says femininity is a sign of weakness but my main point is that femininity channels by and large focus and label certain characteristics as being feminine and others as masculine. Given that we live in a world where people are varied and come in all shapes and sizes. This does not make sense. Surely we should focus on people being the *best of themselves* rather than promoting a specific way of behaving?
Why do we even need videos on how to be feminine? Who made these people the authority on deciding what is feminine and what isn't? Why do *they* have all the answers?
These are questions you need to be asking yourself...
The same way there are videos educating people on different topics maybe like cooking,how to walk in heels and even learning a new language is the same way there will always be a topic on teaching women who want to know how to be feminine,no one says they're made in charge of teaching anyone how to be anything. You click on the video if it piques you interest and it's something you want to know.
Passing down femininity lessons have been there for generations and so is old men teaching young men about masculinity etc, it's not going to stop anytime soon.
However,some channels may say things that don't align with the modern woman and that's where I choose who to listen to or not.
It was nice seeing your views on this topic.Wishing you all the best in your TH-cam career and have a nice time 🤍
Thanks Filsan 😊, there is a lot to this topic and I'll plan more videos on this as it's a very interesting topic for me. Stay tuned.
Exactly!
Masculinity is weak than Feminity
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Wholeheartedly agree, and I wish I'd seen this video sooner. Sadly I made the stupid mistake of buying into all that femininity stuff and it made me really unhappy and self-conscious and hurt my self-esteem. Thankfully I had a reality check and now I'm back to being my true self which is much more fun and enjoyable.
Besides, one of the best parts of my personality that I love the most is my tomboyish side. I like being wild and playfully competitive and wearing hoodies and jeans and sneakers and calling people "dude". And I never liked makeup or dresses and skirts that much, I will never be able to tame my unruly curly hair, and will avoid heels at any costs lol. That's just me. Part of me anyway.
But femininity influencers find that horrifying and unladylike and don't allow you to be any of those things. They just deny women their individuality and complexity. Femininity is their whole personality.
OMG MY NEW FAVOURITE BLACK FEMALE YOUTBER 👸🏾🙌🏾💯
Thank you!!
'preciate it 😊
hey this is my first ever tuning into feminist’s channel after so much talk about it by my girlfriend . I told her exactly what am hearing from you .
It's a ridiculous "movement".
Yup, while I'm in favour of anything that improves the lives of black women, and women in general, pushing them into these artificially constructed relationships ain't it.
Wearing another Woman's Hair = Not Ridiculous ?! (your w!tch logic)
@@caramelking-zf8wu Let it be
have you guys even really watched these channels? femininity isnt just about looking the part its about BEING the part. being softer and more nurturing to a man helps you in the long run… and all the channels i watch and or watched have taught self love FIRST. so maybe you guys are just scared of doing the work and are just content with finding excuses.
I've watched the videos and I still stand by my point. Why is there only one way to be feminine? And why is it only revolves around "softness"??
As women we are many things, we are tall, short, shy, loud, etc... so why is it we all have to behave a certain way to be regarded as feminine? Isn't the fact we have XX chromosomes and ovaries enough??
truth.
@@DrKayExplains femininty isnt one size fits all. Like i said they teach self love first lol. You can take what resonates with the results you want and leave what doesnt
the last lines of your comment proved the point of the video, the conclusion is wrong, you are telling someone how should behave (be soft, submisive, bla bla bla) besides obvious moral that applies for everyone not just woman!. Sorry girl but this bussines of how a man or woman should be to fit, is indoctrination. You can say self love and paint it with whatever you want but the message its still the same.
@@DrKayExplains Your content should be more popular. This open minds
Honestly, it sounds like you’ve watched a few bad videos and deemed all femininity advice as bad but honestly, I think some of the stuff works and some of it straight up manipulation. I think modern day feminism is way more damaging than femininity.
I've seen a few of these channels in passing. Total loads of crap.
Yes sis, call them out!
My thing is, if it takes living in modern society and putting on a performance to be feminine then your femininity is being assisted.
I try to see things from a natural pov. In nature, what does femininity look like? Especially for myself. But I will agree, society has conditioned us as humans to step away from our natural selves and that’s why men and women are so drawn to femininity and masculinity content and influencers. The more we progress the more likely people will start getting nostalgic and want to go back to our natural selves as a species and being “traditional” is all we’re familiar with
Such a great video!! You addressed very valid points!!
I have found the black feminity channels insightful given that white women have always had glamour as a options often to the exclusion until recently of minority women.
As you state it's Ying and Yang. Finding your place and balance.
You really are in trouble if your life is one of following, information and advice and not accessing what's right for you. It about opinions and perspective. Glamour relationship have their problem and so to un glamourous ones, it really just depend on what two people bring to the relationship and their values. Please don't tear black women down for making what is their content. I now enjoy a bit of black glamour and I very occasionally get rid of my flats and do afternoon tea with confidence in my high heals and hat. There is space for everyone to make the content that reflect them and their values. I like your channel by the way.
So we're supposed to basically act like a little girl so he feels like a superhero... How fake and exhausting. Performative is right.
Also the way they speak about mixed black people like they are enemies to shoot at in a armybase or something, because they are competition scares me
Yin = femininity
Yang = masculinity
I'm not sure what changed
It's too far with the way unwanted children is one of the top 5 reasons for filicide because some people changed their minds like they change their personality type. I don't understand why people act like it changes. People may try to act differently but their true colors always come out. Meaning their true personality traits.
What femininity coaches are telling black women to have long fake hair and muted nails? The women i follow are all talking about embracing femininity for you, not for men AND they all undarstand that there are many feminine archetypes and they are all different. Who are yall listening to? Cause all I hear is that its not what you do or wear, it's who you are. Thats a real question. Can someone list the names under this comment?
The delivery may not be perfect on some channels, but at least Black women are waking up to the reality that we do need to be more feminine in the traditional and spiritual sense. If you believe its a social construct that you don't want to adhere to, you have every right to choose a different lifestyle. We are late to the game, and need to wake up. Black Family First✊🏾
Agreed.
I was shopping in ASDA supermarket and as I turned the corner I made eye contact with another black woman. She proceeded to look me up and down with a stinkface as if us making eye contact was the worst possible thing that could have happened. That lets me know that I cannot be soft in this world, if you are soft in this world people will mistreat you and get away with it.
So that's my whole ISsUE with the feminine channels that's why I'm torn between the two. Yes I want to be more attractive XYZ but at the same time I don't want to be so soft and docile I can't speak up for myself I can't be independent, different or strong.
I also think it's extremely bad that they teaching young girls and women that you can't step out your house without an ounce of makeup.
How was you standing there soft
tbh I find this masculinity/femininity thing really confusing, attributing certain traits to them just makes them painfully limiting in my opinion. Can't we all just define femininity however we like? It would remove so much of the pressures and expectations that come with it
Most people would consider me 'masculine' but it hurts to hear that, I want to do all the things that make me happy but I don't want any outdated labels placed on me either.
Whatever works for you, and makes you feel comfortable, should be your goal when it comes to your gender expression, that's my view at least
Hello. What can I say? I think I'm a girly girl to the core. I was born in a christian traditional SAD family and I don't have a single pair of pants sadly,because in my religion it's forbidden. My Grandma had 4 girls and only 1 boy. We are very girly naturally. I remember when I was in elementary school when I was about to go to school,my grandma used to put moisturisers and powder to my face so I look good. Very young,I learned to take care of my hair,nails and I was wearing heels since I was like 7 or 8 years old? I think femininity is a state of mind and most importantly an art of living. What these channels did for me? They made me aware about all the things I was just doing unconsciously but seriously a girl got to live,so maybe they are using their natural talent to make money by helping other people to find their true-selves ,but it doesn't mean that what they are teaching is worthless or it is'nt valuable. It resonates with me,it resonates with many women. So I try to take the best advices by leaving those ne who aren't that interesting! Please people do you,and let people be themselves 💗
Bravo.
Well words means thing so if all these women are explaining what it means to be feminine and they are saying the same thing doesn’t that mean they are jus explaining the same word? No? I mean since the beginning of gendered clothing, pants have been masculine and skirts/dresses have been feminine. And feminine pants tends to be light colored, light material, professional attires. You can disagree but words mean things so….
Actually clothes have changed throughout history, with men and women in different cultures finding significance in clothing items.
If you have to watch videos to be elegant, chances are your not an elegant lady, being elegant starts with the heart. True intentions always come out, as a person cant pretend for long who they really are.
I agree and disagree in some things. But yes. Some of these femininity channels just make it seem like you can't do certain stuff. I honestly disregard it. I follow what I like and fits within my life style. I understand you're talking about just bad femininity but to every side there's good and bad. There's also some channels that talk about femininity in a way about having standards and not doing it for someone else but you. But I think we need both masculine and feminine. Because some ladies disregard femininity and also feel the pressure to be more like men by society. There's some things we can't do the same way they do. We have things that they can't do, like give life. I see it from there. Like we women deserve more because we create life but also with the help of men. Not being shameful to either group, but having a mix of both. Also we really don't know the women who make these videos or live by this are only happy through the outside. That can be anyone in any situation and not every women wants the modern life. Some do want to get married, serve their man and children and that should be respected. But now days we shame those women calling them lazy and assume they can't have independence. I personally like using my masculine and feminine traits to make my life easier. All about balance. But interesting topic, I see your perspective and how pressuring channels can be. But we have to also be smart about what we take in and what we disregard. I personally don't have the luxury to depend on someone nor do I want too. But I don't believe feminine it's just about looks and luxury. It's about being a women. How can a women not be feminine, if we are women I think we are. Everyone in their own way. Cause who really gets to determine it. It's all perspective..
Eve's .... 1st Mistake = Not Asking Her Man 1st !!! (take notes)
I mean if you listen to the older ones thy don’t make it about looks..thy encourage healing from the inside rather than just looking pretty . Thy hardly speak on looks and actually encourage women to be bosses just not aggressively. It’s the young ones that are very problematic because Ofcoz thy speaking on something thy don’t have a broad understanding of .
I agree! The new ones and also masculine and manosphere channels are violent too. there are just little portion of few ones that are no political indoctrinated oriented and toxic
Of course it would seem toxic for the eyes of the intoxicated.
But when you truly understand, then you'll no longer have that negative perspective. Take what resonates.😊
I think you owe SOME of the channels you displayed here an appology because I know some of them, and you have completely twisted what they said. listen to them again, you'd realize that you took them out of context.
Respectfully, I disagree. Last time I checked it's a free country and I am free to have an opinion on this topic, the same way you are. I don't OWE anybody an apology. If what I'm saying doesn't apply to specific channels then let it fly, otherwise ...🤷🏾♀️
@@DrKayExplains your a bitter person...
And those who follow what u say will become bitter themselves...
@@fewblack1572 What are you doing here then? That was a bitter comment for you to make, lol.
@@kaylee7639 It may have been a bitter comment but being a bitter person is about attitude,not just a comment..I hope u know the difference..
Well I happened to stumble on the channel...
@@fewblack1572 I'm actually a very open, warm and positive person in real life 🌈💕. You don't know me to make such a statement.
Let's just agree to disagree without resorting to ad hominem attacks on my personality
Interesting video. The femininity thing is huge if you ask me. As a professional black man I love femininity, I love my ladies to wear heels, pearls, skirts and to be fun and well spoken. I think its good because our sistahs need it because the upwardly mobile brothas want that and want families with our sistahs so it matters.
I also think as a black community being so single aint helping us at all. I tell countless single black women if a black man is good, got a job, can breathe and don't beat yo a$s you need to be with him. Our black community needs families and family structure more than full love at this time, its just the truth. It hurts but its the truth.
Yes we need family structures but I’m not going to just settle for man because he has a secured job because we may not be compatible all
@@madisoncontroversial7348 settling how? Ladies throw that word around a lot when to me it just sounds like a man's inability to give you a Housewives lifestyle...again if he's good to you ans wants a solid family, not getting everything u want or even 75% of all you want is not the end of the world, its ok. You can grow into better things together as a unit that can produce a family that can start having examples for other little and lost black kids who have not. Again we need families so kids have examples and thus give us some better foundation to grow from. But thanks for your response though.
I agree with you on the importance of family structure and the need to have strong, healthy communities. However, that should not be at the expense of ignoring the issues that plague our communities. We need to be *honest* : there are fundamental issues between how we relate to each other as black men and women, and resorting to threats about "you'll die alone as a crazy cat lady" or pressuring women who do not feel comfortable into wearing heels and a dress *is not* the right way to solve this issue.
Part of the problem lies with acknowledgment- by both sides, without always resorting to "whataboutisms" and deflection. Until this happens, it'll just be like someone putting a plaster (bandaid) on a wound, rather than fixing it from the inside.
@@DrKayExplains I agree with your points but we still gotta even get to the table and then be together and not quit for small reasons because we're not getting 100% of what we want 75% might just be good enough, hell even 60%, most things can be figured out later and love can come with time. Some black folks like myself truly want to see my black community get better and not continually be at the bottom. We require commitment and staying because we will never go anywhere without our families being the foundation of any and everything. Thanks for your points Dr Kay!
My question to you is why are you only into women who look feminine and have reduced her down to her jewelry and shoes? Why not date the strong CEO, entrepreneur, academic, or athlete? I feel more confident in running shoes and a tank top than dresses and heels and I have my own business, own my own house etc. But men aren’t evolved enough to date someone like me. The problem is with men, not women.
Can someone fill in the blank? Get a _____ and _____ alone. 😂😂😂😂
Thank you , thank you, thank you 🙏🏻
I completely agree
0:14 because of that 😂 0:20 yes 😆
You should do a segment of reaction videos where you react on totally ridiculous examples of toxic femininity. You will broaden your viewer base and give good examples to the bad ones. Reactions youtubers are THE thing and you can cultivate an educated viewer base by giving well balanced reactions to stupid counseling videos. Like one time I read "In Style", it's a young women magazine and it is so full of shit, I was disgusted by their writers thinking that women should even fall for their stupid counseling.
Anyway that way you will grab the users from the baddies.
I don't have enough time to come up with an in-depth opinion about this (I'll revisit it later, but I have to deal with college stuff rn lol), but I generally agree with you on how toxic these channels can be. Just wanted to point out that Yin and Yang are actually gendered, and that Yin (shadow/shade) is considered feminine while Yang (light) is masculine, although every person is considered to have both Yin and Yang in their system, so it's less toxic in that aspect. Also fun fact but somehow this applies to Chinese medicine but uhh I'm no expert, I'm just going by what my mom has told me. Apparently everyone needs a balance of the two or smth. Either way, it's not completely ungendered and can definitely be appropriated to fuel toxic mindsets, but I guess it's less blatantly sexist.
Yes that is true that Yin/Yang does have masculine and feminine elements, I however like the key word of balance and the fact it's possible for men and women to possess both elements 😊
Just a question, if these topics are taboo and out of touch, and independent means you can take care of yourself, why are you consuming that content?
The topics are not "taboo". The reason I came across it is not something of my own doing, more so the algorithm suggesting them.
My critique is that they misrepresent the interpersonal dynamics between men and women, and are more damaging than helpful. Just my opinion
You sound like a hater, it just teaches balance geez, go re-watch those videos, and femininity encourages school and work it just about balance
Literally!
the net its full of those dangerous channels and spreading everywhere. i see most of this manosphere and femeninity indoctrination channels have violent followers. The hide a political view and tell how woman should behave because if not you are not woman of worth. THIS HAS TO END
Regret making this comment!
I tried watching this but the constant popping sounds were pissing me off just seconds in. You don't need those, take them out and I'll watch the whole video.
🤣🤣 HOW DARE WOMEN TELL OTHER WOMEN TO BE MORE FEMININE!🤣🤣🤣
That's the point. I'm not telling anyone how to be anything.
There's such a thing as variety and not one size fits all ...
Women come in all shapes and sizes, and shouldn't be pressured into being "feminine" (if that's not what they want to do).
I’m not sure what channels you’re watching but a lot of the channels I watch do not say this. They also specifically tell black women NOT to feel pressure to wear straight hair. I guess it depends on the source.
Most channels from both the manosphere and dark femininity umbrellas will contain 90% common sense, but it's that last 10% that can be quite damaging to the viewer. Hamza is a great example of this.
@@nickanthropocene6502 mmm no. mansphere is even worse. This channels may have good hypotesis but invalid conclusions therefore bad advices
All of these black femininity videos and concepts are ridiculous distractions. I'll be glad when it plays out. LOL
men love Femininity period ....thank you kevin samuels for letting it out the bag.
I will never pay attention to the deranged ravings of a male that hates black women. Period. 🛑✋🏾
@@DrKayExplains Absolutely 👏
@@DrKayExplains u seem unhappy
@@DrKayExplains say less
@@fewblack1572 you're a troll. Why are you still commenting on this post, 🤔 You've already made several other comments that shows you don't agree with what Dr. Kay is saying. Just leave and go look at some of the femine channels you're going so hard for 🤷 is trolling apart of being femine? Seems very masculine to me.
"I actually feel quite belittled..." then don't watch/listen to those people? Lol stop subjecting yourself to content that makes you feel bad.. I genuinely don't understand why this is so hard for people to do
Social medias companies did understand why, and they make profit of of content that make people feels bad and react.
If it was that easy nothing would be viral. Today the black Ariel is viral because white people find it hard not to subject themselves to content that make them feel bad. It is pure genius ..or evil.
because its dangerous and spreading everywhere. i see most of this manosphere and femeninity indoctrination channels have violent followers. The hide a political view and tell how woman should behave because if not you are not woman of worth. THIS HAS TO END
Glad to see that at least some women in your comments are pushing back on the primarily lazy takes and examples you used. The reason those channels are popping up and gaining popularity is because it is an issue men have been dealing with. I think you should have a live discussion with the women you called out because a lot of people will see through this passive aggressive video you made. You clearly missed the main points of the very women you called out just to make a so called straw man argument.
I don't really care whether or not you disagree with what I have to say. It's a free world and you can KIM.
My issue is not whether or not women are free to be feminine *if they choose to do so* but the fact that femininity is seen through a narrow and male-identified gaze. I discuss the unintended harms that this kind of thinking can have, especially on those women who do not fit into this characteristic.
Nothing I've said stops you from pursuing women who fit your ideas of femininity and I even closed the video stating that if women want to change, then they can do so *if that's what they want to do* but to be careful and critical of what information they consume.
Thanks for stopping by and offering your opinion, but I still stand by what I've said. The fact you have a conflicting opinion doesn't negate my observations.
@@DrKayExplains lol your issue is femininity is seen through a narrow and male identified gaze but you are calling out what women said but lets say that is true….I hope you keep that same energy and stance when women try to define what a real man and masculinity is. Men can complain all we want but more often than not we just have to deal with whatever standards a women adheres to regardless if they are realistic or not. Our list more often than not is shorter and men like myself have grown tired of the rhetoric that has the majority of women’s egos thinking they are better than they really are when it come to the dating or marriage market. Friends that are on my 5% level above it and below it all say the same thing and its not just a black women issue.….For example, we all would choose Savannah James (Lebron Wife) over Gabrielle Union, Ayesha Curry, Lala Anthony, and Ciara. That is why Marilyn Monroe is a bad example just fyi.
Yall are "pushing back" via group think.
Proverbs 31 ❤
It's all about the economy baby.
You're not wrong. Too often we think our experience in the dating market is men's fault or women's fault or left or right, when in reality there are so many reasons beyond our control.
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Nice video 😊
It’s a cult lol
It's superficial.