The main points 1. They might have depression or other mental disorder 2. They feel stressed 3. They have fear of emotional intimacy 4. They have past trauma 5. They don't have enough 'me time' 6. They don't feel comfortable
Suddenly remember my mom yelling at me because I am emotionally distant, yet she’s my main source of constant stress and I fear her because of the yelling-
I was raised in a home where we weren’t allowed to talk about feelings at all, that definitely had a profound impact on me. I am very emotionally distant, if I have a problem, the only way I know how to deal with it is alone, no-one has ever been there & so, that’s how I’ve always been. The only times I’ve let my guard down & trusted third parties, I’ve lived to regret it & so, I think my way is better.
I was taken out of my family and put in boarding school at the age of three. I have difficulty bonding with people but have a strong character yet when harm is done to me I retreat and cope on my own. I tend to push every one away. When I left a narcissistic relationship 20 months ago I left all my friends too bc they couldn’t understand. I thought I could rely on siblings but hell no... so I left them too. I cope on my own and don’t give any information to anyone. I tell what they are allowed to know and that’s it.. I don’t want any relationship anymore
@@gilmourishgilmourish6205 Your story is a bit sad, I think you are hurting yourself and your closed relatives because you don't know how to express them how you feel. I hope you will learn to trust your vulnerability and maybe this will all get better eventually for you. Be brave my friend,
Charles Mallet : when I want to express how I feel to relatives I just hit a wall. We were 10 children. 5 boys and 5 girls. All the girls were put in boarding school bc of my brothers so no need to go down that road.
Then it’s their problem, not yours. You take it personally, you shut down and the vicious cycle continues. It takes courage to open up and be vulnerable but it’s totally worth it
Take it as you’re a unicorn. People wanna see it , touch it. But don’t know how to care for it’s majestic powers. They have no emotional attachments to it. But it’s wowed by its majestically stance and energy. Only a select few can’t withstand it and treat it as such.
I know how it feels to be too nice for your own good. Your needs go ignored. You start to resent the people you're nice to. You expect others to reciprocate your niceness in a certain way. You crave validation from others. You fear conflict. The moment you stand up for yourself and say no, it is seen as rude. Overly nice people tend to attract those who are looking to take advantage of their good nature and use it against them. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. They went from asking me if they could borrow my pencils, to asking me if they could copy my homework. I started to resent the kids I was kind to, and I found myself craving validation from my classmates. Sometimes the niceness that we show to others gets to the point where they start using our good nature against us.
Isn’t that the truth? I get taken advantage of all the time and I keep telling myself I’m not going to let it happen again, and then I do. And I absolutely fear conflict. Makes me sick. It’s unfortunate that we tenderhearted people are so often targets for others who are not so kind. 💕
1. They might have depression or another mental health disorder 0:59 2. They feel stressed 1:44 3. They have fear of emotional intimacy 2:18 4. They have past trauma 3:06 5. They don't have enough 'me time' 3:39 6. They don't feel comfortable 4:12
I yearn for true friendships/relationships but whenever someone gets too close, I feel so uncomfortable and disgusted that I wound up pushing them away and then pulling them back the second they're too far from me. Am I the only one who feels like this?
You're not the only one. I think it's because of trauma, pain or fear of abandonment. It's your defense mechanism. I hope you heal from pain and be able to find real connection with people who wants to love and support you. 🙂🙏💞
I feel like I don’t deserve it, that causes me to self sabotage & push people away. What I *really* want is someone to say “I know what you’re doing & I’m not going anywhere” hasn’t happened yet though 😔
Everyone Who isn’t part of my family but I know irl needs to see this. I’m sick and tired of them always thinking I’m being rude to others just because I don’t want to talk about every inch of my emotions and personal life.
But when you do actualy talk about that, they misinterpret it, downplay it, and deny it, and even try telling how you SHOULD be feeling instead. Or if you're unlucky they lash out at you for being ungrateful. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Honesty is penalized, so I guess I'll resort to lying. Smile and wave.
@@biblicallyaccuratecockroach Not everybody all the time... BUT when someone does, I generally make a particular note. Be dismissive of my issues even once after asking, and I'll respond forever after with "What the hell do you care?" and then cite the time(s) they've dismissed or down-talked me and my issues. Don't take crap. Don't give crap. Try to avoid the whole "Crap business". ;o)
Ugh,I don't know what is happening. When I'm on my own,I feel lonely and need someone to talk to. But when someone get close to me,I feel uncomfortable and push them away :(
Talk to your family like sibling or mom or anyone ur comfortable with?..idk maybe they can help .. Or just pray or find new hobbies so u don't feel lonely atleast ..💁💝
Shoutout to my special friend who is emotionally distant, know that I understand you and I am here for you, dont believe your negative thoughts, its lying, I know its hard for you to trust anyone because of your emotional trauma/pain, time will prove to you that I am here, no matter what. These are just words for now but I will do everything that I can to put these words into action. I understand if you dont want to talk rn, take your time, I hope you are healing. 🙂🙏💞
@@Psych2go I think there are 3 reasons: 1. Values and concerns. 2. Attitude and behaviour. 3. Biological reasons. No. 1 is pretty clear, that includes different cultures with different values as well. For no 2, i will explain by example: 2 persons share the same values, but person A does not like person B accent, body language, etc to the point A is not interested to discuss those same values. For No 3, it works similar to pheromone, a hormone that attracts opposite gender, but in this case only works to open the mind and emotion and not necessarily fall in love. It explains the word chemistry in this context.
@@kiringuyen i think there is just no reasons for this emotionally distant person to open up to the wrong people. Better be alone than be with the wrong person. Once the chemistry is found, talk all the way.
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@@gwynethmadelo8146 that's very sad to hear and it was only so I could help myself figure out how I could get help without having to pay an arm and a leg for therapy since insurance is a hassle
I don't tell people how I feel about certain things and open up because especially to some people I don't know, that's ammo they can chuck at me for manipulation.
The fun begins when you're dating someone (maybe) like this and you can't understand what they got in their mind or what they feel because they never tell you anything
Having an emotionally distant partner can be difficult, especially if you have no problem saying exactly how you feel. In a relationship they may keep their deeper thoughts and feelings to themselves, instead of sharing them with their partner, unfortunately.
I’m dating someone like that. I just let him be. If I feel a certain way, I comunícate it. If he takes his time, I don’t chase him. Not gonna lie, it’s hard not acting up because of my own fears and insecurities. I remember it’s about him and not me at the end of the day. I hope things improve once we close the distance, since in person connection happens with us, but ldr are hard. It’s hard to have a relationship over the phone.
I get all of this, but as someone with mental health issues and working on it. I feel like we need to do our best to be responsible for telling people we are taking space for ourselves. Because ultimately not letting them know means they feel awful and that’s not fair. Took me a while to get to this stage, but I inform people about needing space (the people who I know would feel it the most).
Reasons 4 &5 are bang on. I suffered extreme trauma during my childhood as I was told to "hide my feelings" from my mother. Due to several bad relationships (and being overwhelmed by work), I prefer to have "me" time.
Amanda Silvera's voice is SO comforting and conveys great compassion, tenderness and empathy. To further improve respectful inclusion of all your viewers, I hope that you will increase your representation of people of color, LGBT2+, people with disabilities, etc.
Guys, I luv luv luv your channel, a professional shrink speaking btw)), the problem is I live in a tiny Eastern Europe country,we don't have such a developed psychology culture here. Ppl still treat it as if it was some kind of magic))) Totally an offtop, BUT WHATS THAT MARVELLOUS TRACK in that video??!! Pleeeeeeaseee!!!)))
Yeah I usually ‚pull away‘ so I detach emotionally when I‘m exhausted from stress/ mentally tired and to save myself from strong emotions so no. 2&4 are the points I relate to 🙂
Some traumas happen gradually in adulthood. Not all traumas stem from childhood. As an adult you are expected to toughen it out at all times and to not feel anything. The result is emotional detachment, especially when you are beaten down with it over and over and over again until you give up.
For the past month or so I've noticed myself distancing myself from my friends. I was really depressed from 6th-8th grade, but I thought that I was past it all, for the past few years I still felt really sad at times, but I saw it as normal. My best friend knows I have a hard time opening up to people and have a huge fear of abandonment. I've always gotten stressed and overwhelmed by things especially since the world has been so hectic. Yesterday was the last day I would be able to hangout with my best friend and our group of friends before he got grounded. I played a bit, but then I got off and just felt so unmotivated to do anything, my cousin asked me to play a game with her and I did, she doesn't really have any other friends or a group she can be with, she's not online a lot and has been doing not so awesome mentally. I felt guilty for not spending time with my best friend on his last day, but for some reason I just couldn't join them again or even tell them I wouldn't join. I didn't think they'd care if I was there or not, they had a full party and I'm not all that important, they'd be happy even without me. The group messaged me today and asked me why I didn't come back, I didn't know what to say exactly so I just said I went to play with my cousin. They said it was alright but I should have at least told them I wouldn't be back, because it seemed like I was lying to them since I said I would come back. While I feel awful I just don't feel like I can tell them how I've been feeling recently, about how numb and awful I've been feeling and how I've been distancing myself from them. Would they even understand? I really love them all, so why am I doing this to them. They deserve someone so much better than me. I shouldn't be hard to replace.
It's very hard for other people to understand us when we do not express ourselves.But as long as you love your friends there's nothing to feel guilty about.It's just the way you are. Every person is different and eventually from time to time, people change. You will also be able to express yourself one day. Be sure to let your friends know that you love them, through some way.That's more than enough.
The signs below can help you recognize emotional unavailability in a partner.👇 They don't like making plans. They call the shots. You do all the relationship work. They avoid the word 'relationship' You never seem to grow closer. They reflect your feelings instead of offering their own. They show up late or blow off plans.
I'm thankful for these videos. I know it's not a professional diagnose, but these last years i had a bad feeling about myself, that something was not right. Well fast forward, 2 months ago i went to a therapist for the first time and seems like i do have some mental health problems
Some people are raised that way. Or they’ve been hurt so much by others that they’ve just lost trust in people. I know someone who used to be open and full of joy around others. She was full of life that you could just see it. But she is just so different now. I mean she’s social but it’s like she built this wall around her.
Just my view point: if someone is emotionally distant. Please respect their space. Unless you think they are suicidal or something extreme like that. People are distant for a reason, and they need not explain to others why. Forcing yourself into their space is disrespectful, even if you think you're trying to help. Why do people build a fence around their home? To keep people out, that's why! Yet no one questions or disregards the reason for building the fence. The "why" is usually respected and understood. The same principal applies to people whom are emotionally distant. Respect people's space and way of living, unless they are in danger. Great video btw ☺️. I'm Just sharing my thoughts.
I always get confused cuz people tell me how important I am as their friend or even that they love me and then they totally stopped talking to me. I don't know if I'm just supposed to stay away or continue to show them that I care about them because I assume I did something wrong. So, it almost feels like because I brought out emotions in them they have to get rid of me or something, anyone else go through that?
I am a very social person. I mingle with all kinds of people in the day. I care about others, play with people, being emotionally available to all, joke about my past, have a good sense of humor, talkative. All in all, I am bubbly and cheerful. But when the night comes, the beautiful wallpaper masking the broken wall peels off. I switch off my phone and sit in the darkness of my room. I merge into nothingness, simply staring at the sky with no sense of time or environment around me. I don't trust anyone. Although I share my thoughts with my friends and family. I do not do it, cuz I want them to give me solace or understand me. Instead, I feel they are an emotional sponge when I get overloaded with inner turmoil, I simply vent it out on anyone. Still, I make sure they are not burdened. But I don't differentiate between people. For me, all are strangers no matter how long we are friends, shared meals, or even if they are my family. I treat everyone the same, they mean nothing by the end of the day. I force myself to socialize cuz I live in human society. I need to depend on others for survival. I need people so I behave like a human else I am quite detached. I don't know if this is a sickness. I want to live a solitary life in a deep forest where no one can ever find me.
i know your determined to get a response from me...Well, here goes...for me, i choose happy because i made a vow to myself never to be sad cause i love the feeling of being happy, way more than emotional sadness...♡♡
Why this animation style is perfect (not only this one, there are other perfects too): The color palette - the tons used are like... Artists will understand if I say that the palette reminds the comfortable and warm past. The drawing style: is soft and cute. It's so cute seeing the small face on them, and it reminds a happy child. Extra: being able to work together audio and visual. The feelings of softness, warmth and comfort fit perfectly with the voice. We all see that, don't babe?
Please be gentle and try to communicate with those who try to give you support and love, we are all human beings with feelings and our own issue. I had a close friend that suffered from depression and anxiety, I would like to give him support and love, at first it was good but then he kept pushing me away, withdrawn and refused to communicate. It hurt me to the point that I could not stand and started blaming myself, I then explained my feeling toward this friendship and left. I am sorry but I really tried, maybe he didn't want to befriend me, maybe it was his self-sabotage, maybe he felt like he should give the same to me but can't. I will never know. Thanks for the video.
How do you deal or help this person or help get closer to a person like this. I was dating a girl who was just completely emotionally distant. I wanted to be close to her but it really felt like I was shouldering all of the emotional labor, it felt like I couldn’t be myself and express myself because it made her uncomfortable. She didn’t like physical affection upon other problems. If there’s no way, then I guess that’s fine too
Omg I loved this, the animation is so beautiful and the information is great as well. I’ve been watching your videos for almost 2 months now :0. Keep up the good work and stay healthy Psycho2go staff and everyone : )
I know now that I’ve been emotionally distant with my couple... for years. And I don’t surely know what causes it. I’m tired of this kind of life, but I keep trying. This was useful for me. Thanks!
"Especially if the depression has lasted for a long time" I assume over 8 years would be considered a long time. Thank God my depression has improved drastically I can actually enjoy life now
these videos always seem to be targeted to my situation, i clicked on recommended videos i never know i needed and start to realise things that usually goes unnoticed
In my childhood, I always had the pressure of expectations. Since I was five, I was taught to "stay in my dignity". In my household, apparently, if you call a person often, or if you have any contact with a person too often, you lose your "dignity" and "worth" in the other person's eyes. If you get lesser than 97% in your reports, you're a "disgrace to the family". If you fall in love at a young age, you're "easy on the heart", if you don't study 24/7, you're "a thief from your studies". When I was in 6th standard, I used to study for 8 hours, excluding school. And if I switch on the TV for half an hour in between that, the 8 hours of study + 6 hours of school would be forgotten and the only thing remaining in the minds of my parents would be, "How dare she switch on the television?! She's supposed to be studying right now." If I spill milk, I'm "the most irresponsible person ever". If I speak up against my parents, "just go and die". What my parents got out of this: 1: A depressed and socially anxious child. 2: A topper (It made them happy, but that percentage is just a number to me) 3: A child with no love life (I'm 23 and I've never dated, not even had my first kiss) 4: A child who's insecure no matter what. 5: A child who can't speak up to her bullies. 6: A child who would never show any emotion on her face. I hope you're happy mom and dad. :)
Narcissist abuse, past, parental, partners,friends. I’ve lost all desire for a relationship. My teenager drains most of my emotional energy. I know I will never go “all in” in ever again. I’m honest about it and don’t hurt anyone.
I would say just off the title and descriptions I think this is me 100%. And I guess it's why so many like to find a partner( Not by any means saying it's the best way), because having one is one of the most common ways to no longer become emotionally distant. You can pour your heart and soul into your partner and together further yourselves, breaking out of shells that you had trouble breaking out of on your own. I have avoided all of this for years after stuff in my life happened. I don't open up to my mother, because the trust is just not there. I don't open up to my sister because our relationship has been broken since day one. I don't open up to most of my older cousins so many of them just end up being insanely judgemental. Younger cousins I just don't want to feel like I'm dumping anything on them as I usually try to be the one that they can talk to. And well yea I just don't have anyone that I even trust enough to actually express myself to, to the point where I would sooner open up to 4chan users before anybody else. Some people think they're helping by small bits of text or saying hello but I think I'm at he point where that no longer really helps.
I feel like we come into the world alone, leave it alone and spend most of the the time in between alone. Life is fucking hard! 😞 I really need a hug. 😭
In my life I have learned that no one loves no one. Not even husband and wife. Seeing this I see how flat life really is. I don't really associate with no one and I know that many people think that I am crazy but I don't care what others think of me. Nothing really has any purpose or meaning and I see no need to try to make something of nothing. If I see an attractive face I am not phased by it. If a person seems charming in some manner I don't feel no attachment in no way. I really don't feel nothing for others and I know they don't feel for me.
Psychology is actually my second choice when i entered college but psych2Go makes me fell in love with it. I mean its really fun and interesting to study every aspects of psychology. And i feel like learning it is having an edge towards understanding other people, or i must say you can offer a helping hand when you know they need you the most.
I'm so, so sorry I'm like this. I really am. I'm not doing it on purpose. I'm not doing it to hurt you. I really, really, really wish I could treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Like in a romantic movie. But I fear that if I ever showed you how much you mean to me, you'd think I was annoying and clingy. I fear you'd reject me if I showed you, so I don't. It's easier for me if I adopt a cold, stone-like demeanor where I don't risk displaying too much emotional dependency on you because - when you inevitably get tired of me and move on - I won't feel as stupid and embarrassed for having wasted so much time and energy loving you.
Only child of divorced parents, lived mostly with mother who worked/slept most of the time, dad eventually got remarried and moved away, only saw him every other weekend, and so another woman's kid got that constant presence and support instead of me. Spent most of my time on video games, was fed a junky diet most of the time, and it felt like I had zero emotional support when it came to the more complex struggles of growing up. They always loved me, I knew that, but the parenting style was very detached and it took me until I was in my 20s to start realizing how badly this messed me up emotionally, and it's been a very hard realization that I'm still working through.
I like the notion that our past trauma is portrayed as little round frown monsters that stand on each others’ heads. I know trauma itself is a painful thing, but assigning to it a creature that’s entirely unrelated to the frightening experience makes the condition of (C)PTSD easier to stomach, for me at least.
I am worried that I’m emotionally distant because when someone hurts my feelings I don’t feel like spending time with my friends or talking to anyone. And want to be left alone.I have a fear of crying in front of people because I don’t want people to see me cry because when I start crying it makes my friends family and boyfriend worry about me because they think I have depression
I cannot speak for everyone else but I do this because I want to keep the person for a long time to a certain degree. Many times, seeing someone in the same room is good enough for me even if it only sometimes, and I cherish the casual acquaintance to friendship. But as face-to-face conversation turns deeper then there is when we see our individual differences: political, religion, family structure, perspective, general beliefs, and etc. and it can ruin the ‘friendship’. For me I rather stay neutral but keep the casualness.
@@Psych2go The man I love is emotionnally distant because of his depression, his familly issues and his abusive exes. But I still have hope for him by showing that I am honnest, letting him space and just wanting him to be happy
Ooof. All of them. But sometimes it is better alone. I got good friends in my head--sounds cray cray. That is why I write. I'm not crazy! Maybe a little, lol.
The boy I’m talking to has a lot of stuff going on in his life. He was fine one day and then the next day he just switched. Everything was different. He stopped replying the way he used to reply, he stopped smiling, he stopped doing all the little things that made me happy. He claims that this is in no way, shape or form anything to do with me, and that I’m not the cause of his problems. He says it’s just his “ fucked up” life. I’m seeing him today and I’m gonna try to talk this through with him, but I’m terrified of what he’s gonna say. I really don’t wanna lose him, he’s an amazing guy. I just don’t know what to feel anymore tho, or how to act…
I need affection and love. Someone i could emotionally depend on. But when someone is attaching to me, i feel angry. I'm scared that they'll leave me. I'm afraid of abundance
I can function if someone is sad but more with words than actions. it was in fact weird for me when someone is emotionally unwell bc i always try to do the right thing in this situation, like calm them down, say positive things, build them up to give them confidence and make jokes to make them laugh bc i don't like it when friends don't feel good. For myself its kinda hard, i don't want to feel naked in this way or bother someone with my feelings bc i always make people unhappy if i show them my inner self and how i got like this. I don't like to show my weak spots, i don't trust anyone with this. its even weirder if something is coming out i apologize for being emotional and say that this moment never happend. (diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder) hope i am not the only one who acting and thinking like this xD
What it feels to be emotionless when an friend invited you to play in his house you all have fun and trys to make me laugh to but feels nothing like an empty can.and when you all have a family bonding they ask me why dont i smile or have fun.because everything means nothing to us we dont wanna feel love,happiness,sadness,depression,and pain.
If you've never done anything to hurt that person then talk to them...if they can they will open up some people are conditioned and bullied into silence they can not speak about
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Do you know someone who’s becoming distant lately?
Ya i do my guy best friend T^T
Yes me, I don't have time to deal with it .
My best friend, it's been a couple months since we talked 🙃
Yeah I'm the distancer lol, Just accepted that I was depressed or whatever.
Story of my life!
The main points
1. They might have depression or other mental disorder
2. They feel stressed
3. They have fear of emotional intimacy
4. They have past trauma
5. They don't have enough 'me time'
6. They don't feel comfortable
thank you! ❤️
I have got all the 6 reasons..
Suddenly remember my mom yelling at me because I am emotionally distant, yet she’s my main source of constant stress and I fear her because of the yelling-
@@MissKrystalKnight or they love you and try to hide feelings
Krystal Knight that might be the thing with me and my friend 😔
I was raised in a home where we weren’t allowed to talk about feelings at all, that definitely had a profound impact on me. I am very emotionally distant, if I have a problem, the only way I know how to deal with it is alone, no-one has ever been there & so, that’s how I’ve always been. The only times I’ve let my guard down & trusted third parties, I’ve lived to regret it & so, I think my way is better.
I was taken out of my family and put in boarding school at the age of three.
I have difficulty bonding with people but have a strong character yet when harm is done to me I retreat and cope on my own. I tend to push every one away.
When I left a narcissistic relationship 20 months ago I left all my friends too bc they couldn’t understand. I thought I could rely on siblings but hell no... so I left them too. I cope on my own and don’t give any information to anyone.
I tell what they are allowed to know and that’s it..
I don’t want any relationship anymore
@@gilmourishgilmourish6205 Your story is a bit sad, I think you are hurting yourself and your closed relatives because you don't know how to express them how you feel. I hope you will learn to trust your vulnerability and maybe this will all get better eventually for you. Be brave my friend,
Charles Mallet : when I want to express how I feel to relatives I just hit a wall.
We were 10 children. 5 boys and 5 girls.
All the girls were put in boarding school bc of my brothers so no need to go down that road.
Yeah, when I trust most people, I find they betray me.
I can relate
Because, when I'm telling how I really feel, people abandon you.
Yup!
Fax
Then it’s their problem, not yours. You take it personally, you shut down and the vicious cycle continues. It takes courage to open up and be vulnerable but it’s totally worth it
Its really weird even if i let people get close i will regret it even tho nothing bad happend and i will get distant again.
Take it as you’re a unicorn. People wanna see it , touch it. But don’t know how to care for it’s majestic powers. They have no emotional attachments to it. But it’s wowed by its majestically stance and energy. Only a select few can’t withstand it and treat it as such.
I know how it feels to be too nice for your own good. Your needs go ignored. You start to resent the people you're nice to. You expect others to reciprocate your niceness in a certain way. You crave validation from others. You fear conflict. The moment you stand up for yourself and say no, it is seen as rude. Overly nice people tend to attract those who are looking to take advantage of their good nature and use it against them. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. They went from asking me if they could borrow my pencils, to asking me if they could copy my homework. I started to resent the kids I was kind to, and I found myself craving validation from my classmates. Sometimes the niceness that we show to others gets to the point where they start using our good nature against us.
You got me right there. Oftentimes, the less you interact, the less chance you get hurt or build something that's not gonna go well on the way haha
Isn’t that the truth? I get taken advantage of all the time and I keep telling myself I’m not going to let it happen again, and then I do. And I absolutely fear conflict. Makes me sick. It’s unfortunate that we tenderhearted people are so often targets for others who are not so kind. 💕
ok, but can we just give an award for cutest animations ever 💜
YASSSS
Yup
Ikr it feels very professional too! Like presentation for Ted talks
ALWAYS the case!! 😍😍
1. They might have depression or another mental health disorder 0:59
2. They feel stressed 1:44
3. They have fear of emotional intimacy 2:18
4. They have past trauma 3:06
5. They don't have enough 'me time' 3:39
6. They don't feel comfortable 4:12
My ex has #3. I pray she heals one day soon for a brighter future.
Thanks for the summary.
I never have ME time. >_
Thank you for this timelapse!!
7. They may just think I suck! :D They m-a-y be wrong though. :P
I yearn for true friendships/relationships but whenever someone gets too close, I feel so uncomfortable and disgusted that I wound up pushing them away and then pulling them back the second they're too far from me.
Am I the only one who feels like this?
You're not the only one. I think it's because of trauma, pain or fear of abandonment. It's your defense mechanism. I hope you heal from pain and be able to find real connection with people who wants to love and support you. 🙂🙏💞
Same here
This is uncomfortably accurate for me 😂
Nah man, I'm here too
I feel like I don’t deserve it, that causes me to self sabotage & push people away. What I *really* want is someone to say “I know what you’re doing & I’m not going anywhere” hasn’t happened yet though 😔
Everyone Who isn’t part of my family but I know irl needs to see this. I’m sick and tired of them always thinking I’m being rude to others just because I don’t want to talk about every inch of my emotions and personal life.
PREACH. I thought I was the only one!💖
This is it right here. Everyone thinks I'm rude and dont like ppl but I just like my own bubble.
You need to know NOT to crawl up my ass just to be my friend. ;o)
But when you do actualy talk about that, they misinterpret it, downplay it, and deny it, and even try telling how you SHOULD be feeling instead. Or if you're unlucky they lash out at you for being ungrateful. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Honesty is penalized, so I guess I'll resort to lying. Smile and wave.
@@biblicallyaccuratecockroach Not everybody all the time... BUT when someone does, I generally make a particular note. Be dismissive of my issues even once after asking, and I'll respond forever after with "What the hell do you care?" and then cite the time(s) they've dismissed or down-talked me and my issues.
Don't take crap. Don't give crap. Try to avoid the whole "Crap business". ;o)
Ugh,I don't know what is happening.
When I'm on my own,I feel lonely and need someone to talk to.
But when someone get close to me,I feel uncomfortable and push them away
:(
Anxious-avoidant attachment? (you might need to search this up if you dont know what it is)
icextearsXx ah yes, the fear of being alone but also the fear of intimacy. A wild combo that does not work well
Talk to your family like sibling or mom or anyone ur comfortable with?..idk maybe they can help .. Or just pray or find new hobbies so u don't feel lonely atleast ..💁💝
Fearful avoidant attachment style. Same as me.
@@PennyJackson123 rlly?
What is your uploading schedule?
Psych2Go: Y E S
trustfrated.
I won’t say it, no I won’t-
I won’t-
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@@deepikachandra7857 lmao yes😂💜💜
@Rebbecca ! 20 I WANT SЕЕХ !!!! OPEN MY VIDEO !!!!
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@@imnot1291 just report those ... comments ...
Sometimes you just need to withdraw, recollect, and breathe to regain perspective and be able to feel again.
Shoutout to my special friend who is emotionally distant, know that I understand you and I am here for you, dont believe your negative thoughts, its lying, I know its hard for you to trust anyone because of your emotional trauma/pain, time will prove to you that I am here, no matter what. These are just words for now but I will do everything that I can to put these words into action. I understand if you dont want to talk rn, take your time, I hope you are healing. 🙂🙏💞
Of all the points here, it is just because emotionally distant person usually only have chemistry to very few people. Its not so complicated.
Well, it depends, mostly. Some people were raised in an iffy way, with others they might just happen to click with certain people
I see :( What do you think contributed to the lack of chemistry with most people?
Psych2Go because they have a hard time opening up. It can take a very long time or never for that to happen
@@Psych2go I think there are 3 reasons:
1. Values and concerns.
2. Attitude and behaviour.
3. Biological reasons.
No. 1 is pretty clear, that includes different cultures with different values as well. For no 2, i will explain by example: 2 persons share the same values, but person A does not like person B accent, body language, etc to the point A is not interested to discuss those same values. For No 3, it works similar to pheromone, a hormone that attracts opposite gender, but in this case only works to open the mind and emotion and not necessarily fall in love. It explains the word chemistry in this context.
@@kiringuyen i think there is just no reasons for this emotionally distant person to open up to the wrong people. Better be alone than be with the wrong person. Once the chemistry is found, talk all the way.
I learn more here than I ever did in psychology class when I was in high school
We're glad our content has helped you
@@Psych2go we'll love to learn more from you on these topics
1.How to be more productive
2.How to deal stressful situations
3.How can we become the best version of our selves
Something like this!😊
Lucky, you have psychology class. In most Asian countries, psychology isn't a subject in schools which is why our parents are overbearing
You had a psychology class in high school?
@@gwynethmadelo8146 that's very sad to hear and it was only so I could help myself figure out how I could get help without having to pay an arm and a leg for therapy since insurance is a hassle
I don't tell people how I feel about certain things and open up because especially to some people I don't know, that's ammo they can chuck at me for manipulation.
Thankyou Psych2go to help me learn more about psychology.
Hi I'm Ken from ,Ken talk . I recently started a TH-cam channel on mental health and psychology on issues that many people go through .
We hope our content has helped you
@@Psych2go please a video
I regret my childhood mistakes
Anaops yeah thank y’all
The fun begins when you're dating someone (maybe) like this and you can't understand what they got in their mind or what they feel because they never tell you anything
Having an emotionally distant partner can be difficult, especially if you have no problem saying exactly how you feel. In a relationship they may keep their deeper thoughts and feelings to themselves, instead of sharing them with their partner, unfortunately.
I’m dating someone like that. I just let him be. If I feel a certain way, I comunícate it. If he takes his time, I don’t chase him. Not gonna lie, it’s hard not acting up because of my own fears and insecurities. I remember it’s about him and not me at the end of the day. I hope things improve once we close the distance, since in person connection happens with us, but ldr are hard. It’s hard to have a relationship over the phone.
@@mcd4370 I'm going through the same situation
Im distant because i dont want anyone to hurt me so i dont let people come close anymore cause if i do they hurt me
Me too-
This exactly, it’s like a trauma
@@alessadolan5718 yes it is trauma
@@PurpleFanatic64 sorry you go trough similar stuff
I get all of this, but as someone with mental health issues and working on it. I feel like we need to do our best to be responsible for telling people we are taking space for ourselves. Because ultimately not letting them know means they feel awful and that’s not fair. Took me a while to get to this stage, but I inform people about needing space (the people who I know would feel it the most).
I really like the color palette and the animation! Great job! c:
Thank you so much
@@Psych2go I'd love to c: This art style looks really interesting
Psych2Go Yes please! 🥰
@@Psych2go definitely !!
Reasons 4 &5 are bang on. I suffered extreme trauma during my childhood as I was told to "hide my feelings" from my mother. Due to several bad relationships (and being overwhelmed by work), I prefer to have "me" time.
Amanda Silvera's voice is SO comforting and conveys great compassion, tenderness and empathy. To further improve respectful inclusion of all your viewers, I hope that you will increase your representation of people of color, LGBT2+, people with disabilities, etc.
Here's a video that talks about the similarities and differences between and introvert and extrovert: th-cam.com/video/iwYHNQurrUU/w-d-xo.html
I’m both. But mostly extrovert because I go to school
You can be an introvert or extrovert either in or out of school. It doesn't matter which place or time. You can maybe be one or be all.
Guys, I luv luv luv your channel, a professional shrink speaking btw)), the problem is I live in a tiny Eastern Europe country,we don't have such a developed psychology culture here. Ppl still treat it as if it was some kind of magic))) Totally an offtop, BUT WHATS THAT MARVELLOUS TRACK in that video??!! Pleeeeeeaseee!!!)))
They look like walking marshmallows.. I'm gonna eat them tonight huehuehue..
nO WAIT-
Oh no!! Don't eat us!!
Yes they're so cute!
Yaa they look yummy😋
Psych2Go yessss >>:)))))))
Yeah I usually ‚pull away‘ so I detach emotionally when I‘m exhausted from stress/ mentally tired and to save myself from strong emotions so no. 2&4 are the points I relate to 🙂
Some traumas happen gradually in adulthood. Not all traumas stem from childhood. As an adult you are expected to toughen it out at all times and to not feel anything. The result is emotional detachment, especially when you are beaten down with it over and over and over again until you give up.
Honestly I want to be alone I'm happy when I'm alone, but is it normal to feel that?
Yes. It’s perfectly normal to like to be alone. I prefer being alone too. A lot of people do
I love being alone! I’m happiest! Other people’s energy affects me so much. Lol I’m happy all the time and I swear being alone is why hahaha
me toooo
A. Lot of people like their own. Space
I am the best when I am alone. It feels wrong to feel this way.
When i was younger, i got introuble when i cryed for something i couldn't explain
Her voice is so soothing that it instantly cured my stress.
Glad this made you feel better
For the past month or so I've noticed myself distancing myself from my friends. I was really depressed from 6th-8th grade, but I thought that I was past it all, for the past few years I still felt really sad at times, but I saw it as normal. My best friend knows I have a hard time opening up to people and have a huge fear of abandonment. I've always gotten stressed and overwhelmed by things especially since the world has been so hectic. Yesterday was the last day I would be able to hangout with my best friend and our group of friends before he got grounded. I played a bit, but then I got off and just felt so unmotivated to do anything, my cousin asked me to play a game with her and I did, she doesn't really have any other friends or a group she can be with, she's not online a lot and has been doing not so awesome mentally. I felt guilty for not spending time with my best friend on his last day, but for some reason I just couldn't join them again or even tell them I wouldn't join. I didn't think they'd care if I was there or not, they had a full party and I'm not all that important, they'd be happy even without me. The group messaged me today and asked me why I didn't come back, I didn't know what to say exactly so I just said I went to play with my cousin. They said it was alright but I should have at least told them I wouldn't be back, because it seemed like I was lying to them since I said I would come back. While I feel awful I just don't feel like I can tell them how I've been feeling recently, about how numb and awful I've been feeling and how I've been distancing myself from them. Would they even understand? I really love them all, so why am I doing this to them. They deserve someone so much better than me. I shouldn't be hard to replace.
It's very hard for other people to understand us when we do not express ourselves.But as long as you love your friends there's nothing to feel guilty about.It's just the way you are. Every person is different and eventually from time to time, people change. You will also be able to express yourself one day. Be sure to let your friends know that you love them, through some way.That's more than enough.
The signs below can help you recognize emotional unavailability in a partner.👇
They don't like making plans.
They call the shots.
You do all the relationship work.
They avoid the word 'relationship'
You never seem to grow closer.
They reflect your feelings instead of offering their own.
They show up late or blow off plans.
Thanks for this mate :)
Your voice already makes me feel better
I'm thankful for these videos. I know it's not a professional diagnose, but these last years i had a bad feeling about myself, that something was not right. Well fast forward, 2 months ago i went to a therapist for the first time and seems like i do have some mental health problems
Some people are raised that way. Or they’ve been hurt so much by others that they’ve just lost trust in people. I know someone who used to be open and full of joy around others. She was full of life that you could just see it. But she is just so different now. I mean she’s social but it’s like she built this wall around her.
The patients it takes to be emotional understanding and patient. Is draining..
This describes my boyfriend and we both have depression but he doesn’t want to open up to me about his depression.
Just my view point: if someone is emotionally distant. Please respect their space. Unless you think they are suicidal or something extreme like that.
People are distant for a reason, and they need not explain to others why. Forcing yourself into their space is disrespectful, even if you think you're trying to help.
Why do people build a fence around their home? To keep people out, that's why! Yet no one questions or disregards the reason for building the fence. The "why" is usually respected and understood.
The same principal applies to people whom are emotionally distant. Respect people's space and way of living, unless they are in danger.
Great video btw ☺️. I'm Just sharing my thoughts.
I always get confused cuz people tell me how important I am as their friend or even that they love me and then they totally stopped talking to me. I don't know if I'm just supposed to stay away or continue to show them that I care about them because I assume I did something wrong. So, it almost feels like because I brought out emotions in them they have to get rid of me or something, anyone else go through that?
This is awesome, i love this. I want to be psychologist, anything to help people like you guys❤
Hi ,I'm Ken .I recently started a channel on psychology and mental health. Kindly feel free to check and help is suggestion of topics .
Thank you for your positive feedback!
You never know what someone is going through ..
I am a very social person. I mingle with all kinds of people in the day. I care about others, play with people, being emotionally available to all, joke about my past, have a good sense of humor, talkative. All in all, I am bubbly and cheerful.
But when the night comes, the beautiful wallpaper masking the broken wall peels off. I switch off my phone and sit in the darkness of my room. I merge into nothingness, simply staring at the sky with no sense of time or environment around me.
I don't trust anyone. Although I share my thoughts with my friends and family. I do not do it, cuz I want them to give me solace or understand me. Instead, I feel they are an emotional sponge when I get overloaded with inner turmoil, I simply vent it out on anyone. Still, I make sure they are not burdened.
But I don't differentiate between people. For me, all are strangers no matter how long we are friends, shared meals, or even if they are my family. I treat everyone the same, they mean nothing by the end of the day.
I force myself to socialize cuz I live in human society. I need to depend on others for survival. I need people so I behave like a human else I am quite detached. I don't know if this is a sickness. I want to live a solitary life in a deep forest where no one can ever find me.
i know your determined to get a response from me...Well, here goes...for me, i choose happy because i made a vow to myself never to be sad cause i love the feeling of being happy, way more than emotional sadness...♡♡
Why this animation style is perfect (not only this one, there are other perfects too):
The color palette - the tons used are like... Artists will understand if I say that the palette reminds the comfortable and warm past.
The drawing style: is soft and cute. It's so cute seeing the small face on them, and it reminds a happy child.
Extra: being able to work together audio and visual. The feelings of softness, warmth and comfort fit perfectly with the voice.
We all see that, don't babe?
The reason why am such a cold person is because i’ve been hurt so many times in my life that i don’t want to be hurten anymore so i keep a distance
Used to getting hurt when I’m loyal now i can’t trust
Another great video. You should do a video on how to deal with mental health issues when no one cares/or have no support from loved ones.
Please be gentle and try to communicate with those who try to give you support and love, we are all human beings with feelings and our own issue. I had a close friend that suffered from depression and anxiety, I would like to give him support and love, at first it was good but then he kept pushing me away, withdrawn and refused to communicate. It hurt me to the point that I could not stand and started blaming myself, I then explained my feeling toward this friendship and left. I am sorry but I really tried, maybe he didn't want to befriend me, maybe it was his self-sabotage, maybe he felt like he should give the same to me but can't. I will never know. Thanks for the video.
Nobody is born emotionally distant. Past experiences, which are alive in one's conscious or subconscious mind, make someone do that.
I don't feel that I was emotionally repressed as a child, yet I still can't open up 🤷♂️
How do you deal or help this person or help get closer to a person like this. I was dating a girl who was just completely emotionally distant. I wanted to be close to her but it really felt like I was shouldering all of the emotional labor, it felt like I couldn’t be myself and express myself because it made her uncomfortable. She didn’t like physical affection upon other problems. If there’s no way, then I guess that’s fine too
This channel is in my top 3 favorite on youtube. There is always great content that helps makes sense of the world.
Super informative, i really needed this.
and btw that animation is really nice! i love the grainy feel
Thank you! We're glad you find this helpful and informative! Did you relate to any of these reasons?
Omg I loved this, the animation is so beautiful and the information is great as well. I’ve been watching your videos for almost 2 months now :0. Keep up the good work and stay healthy Psycho2go staff and everyone : )
I know now that I’ve been emotionally distant with my couple... for years. And I don’t surely know what causes it. I’m tired of this kind of life, but I keep trying. This was useful for me. Thanks!
I really love your videos . I love that you bring awareness to complex and misunderstood mental health in simple animation
Being emotionally distant is also like assuming that everyone else is a NARCISSIST😢
I like these sound effects this time. Not too loud and not taking away from the voice over. Very well edited 👍
watching this because I was raised by emotionally distant parents who, despite doing their best, still managed to hurt me. up until today.
Could you make a video about Schizoid Personality Disorder (SPD)?
I just come here randomly and make sure my friends are fine. None of them are emotionally distant, so today’s mission is complete
Psych2Go: "Do you know someone who sometimes seems emotionally closed off?"
The person in the mirror: "👀"
"Especially if the depression has lasted for a long time" I assume over 8 years would be considered a long time. Thank God my depression has improved drastically I can actually enjoy life now
these videos always seem to be targeted to my situation, i clicked on recommended videos i never know i needed and start to realise things that usually goes unnoticed
In my childhood, I always had the pressure of expectations. Since I was five, I was taught to "stay in my dignity". In my household, apparently, if you call a person often, or if you have any contact with a person too often, you lose your "dignity" and "worth" in the other person's eyes. If you get lesser than 97% in your reports, you're a "disgrace to the family". If you fall in love at a young age, you're "easy on the heart", if you don't study 24/7, you're "a thief from your studies". When I was in 6th standard, I used to study for 8 hours, excluding school. And if I switch on the TV for half an hour in between that, the 8 hours of study + 6 hours of school would be forgotten and the only thing remaining in the minds of my parents would be, "How dare she switch on the television?! She's supposed to be studying right now." If I spill milk, I'm "the most irresponsible person ever". If I speak up against my parents, "just go and die".
What my parents got out of this:
1: A depressed and socially anxious child.
2: A topper (It made them happy, but that percentage is just a number to me)
3: A child with no love life (I'm 23 and I've never dated, not even had my first kiss)
4: A child who's insecure no matter what.
5: A child who can't speak up to her bullies.
6: A child who would never show any emotion on her face.
I hope you're happy mom and dad. :)
Made me tear up. I feel the same. Stay strong. :)
I don't feel connected to reality anymore. I have trouble focusing or sensing the time.
most of the time, I feel nothing.
Narcissist abuse, past, parental, partners,friends. I’ve lost all desire for a relationship. My teenager drains most of my emotional energy.
I know I will never go “all in” in ever again. I’m honest about it and don’t hurt anyone.
I could listen to her voice all the time.
#7: very much an introvert and just want to be left alone.
I would say just off the title and descriptions I think this is me 100%.
And I guess it's why so many like to find a partner( Not by any means saying it's the best way), because having one is one of the most common ways to no longer become emotionally distant. You can pour your heart and soul into your partner and together further yourselves, breaking out of shells that you had trouble breaking out of on your own.
I have avoided all of this for years after stuff in my life happened.
I don't open up to my mother, because the trust is just not there.
I don't open up to my sister because our relationship has been broken since day one.
I don't open up to most of my older cousins so many of them just end up being insanely judgemental.
Younger cousins I just don't want to feel like I'm dumping anything on them as I usually try to be the one that they can talk to.
And well yea I just don't have anyone that I even trust enough to actually express myself to, to the point where I would sooner open up to 4chan users before anybody else.
Some people think they're helping by small bits of text or saying hello but I think I'm at he point where that no longer really helps.
I feel like we come into the world alone, leave it alone and spend most of the the time in between alone. Life is fucking hard! 😞 I really need a hug. 😭
Oh bless you ♥️
I'm glad this channel exists. I feel Psych2go says what's needed
In my life I have learned that no one loves no one. Not even husband and wife. Seeing this I see how flat life really is. I don't really associate with no one and I know that many people think that I am crazy but I don't care what others think of me. Nothing really has any purpose or meaning and I see no need to try to make something of nothing. If I see an attractive face I am not phased by it. If a person seems charming in some manner I don't feel no attachment in no way. I really don't feel nothing for others and I know they don't feel for me.
When you’re so early they didn’t give Hearts yet and yt is drunk
Here is a heart for you♥️
ONLY HUMAN thank you, and one for you too ❤️
Psychology is actually my second choice when i entered college but psych2Go makes me fell in love with it. I mean its really fun and interesting to study every aspects of psychology. And i feel like learning it is having an edge towards understanding other people, or i must say you can offer a helping hand when you know they need you the most.
I'm so, so sorry I'm like this. I really am. I'm not doing it on purpose. I'm not doing it to hurt you. I really, really, really wish I could treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Like in a romantic movie. But I fear that if I ever showed you how much you mean to me, you'd think I was annoying and clingy. I fear you'd reject me if I showed you, so I don't. It's easier for me if I adopt a cold, stone-like demeanor where I don't risk displaying too much emotional dependency on you because - when you inevitably get tired of me and move on - I won't feel as stupid and embarrassed for having wasted so much time and energy loving you.
This video may help my freinds to understand my present situation.
I see!! We're glad to hear. Which signs described you the most?
@@Psych2go feeling streesed & don't have enough me time.
Only child of divorced parents, lived mostly with mother who worked/slept most of the time, dad eventually got remarried and moved away, only saw him every other weekend, and so another woman's kid got that constant presence and support instead of me. Spent most of my time on video games, was fed a junky diet most of the time, and it felt like I had zero emotional support when it came to the more complex struggles of growing up. They always loved me, I knew that, but the parenting style was very detached and it took me until I was in my 20s to start realizing how badly this messed me up emotionally, and it's been a very hard realization that I'm still working through.
I like the notion that our past trauma is portrayed as little round frown monsters that stand on each others’ heads. I know trauma itself is a painful thing, but assigning to it a creature that’s entirely unrelated to the frightening experience makes the condition of (C)PTSD easier to stomach, for me at least.
I am worried that I’m emotionally distant because when someone hurts my feelings I don’t feel like spending time with my friends or talking to anyone. And want to be left alone.I have a fear of crying in front of people because I don’t want people to see me cry because when I start crying it makes my friends family and boyfriend worry about me because they think I have depression
this channel deserves every like they get honestly! dont know who would dislike tho :(
I wish I had this problem. I'm a basket case of emotions compared to most people.
This is so helpful! And I like the art style!
I cannot speak for everyone else but I do this because I want to keep the person for a long time to a certain degree. Many times, seeing someone in the same room is good enough for me even if it only sometimes, and I cherish the casual acquaintance to friendship. But as face-to-face conversation turns deeper then there is when we see our individual differences: political, religion, family structure, perspective, general beliefs, and etc. and it can ruin the ‘friendship’. For me I rather stay neutral but keep the casualness.
I feel like I'm the emotionally distant one
I’m going to start spending more time with myself. I’m tired of feeling like I’m chasing friends or people to hang out with
Thank you so much for helping me understanding myself and my dear ones 💛😚 great work
We hope this helps!! Did you relate to any of these reasons?
@@Psych2go The man I love is emotionnally distant because of his depression, his familly issues and his abusive exes. But I still have hope for him by showing that I am honnest, letting him space and just wanting him to be happy
Ooof. All of them. But sometimes it is better alone. I got good friends in my head--sounds cray cray. That is why I write. I'm not crazy! Maybe a little, lol.
The best coping mechanism
The boy I’m talking to has a lot of stuff going on in his life. He was fine one day and then the next day he just switched. Everything was different. He stopped replying the way he used to reply, he stopped smiling, he stopped doing all the little things that made me happy. He claims that this is in no way, shape or form anything to do with me, and that I’m not the cause of his problems. He says it’s just his “ fucked up” life. I’m seeing him today and I’m gonna try to talk this through with him, but I’m terrified of what he’s gonna say. I really don’t wanna lose him, he’s an amazing guy. I just don’t know what to feel anymore tho, or how to act…
Time to isolate, control, and regulate, our borders aka root chakra.
People have told me I'm cold and distant. I'm just not always that polite. And I don't display fake exuberant emotion
Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.
-The Shades
I need affection and love. Someone i could emotionally depend on. But when someone is attaching to me, i feel angry. I'm scared that they'll leave me. I'm afraid of abundance
It's like she knew i wanted this question answered❤
Who love watching this channel
Sometimes I just genuinely hate in the authentic sense of the experience
I can function if someone is sad but more with words than actions. it was in fact weird for me when someone is emotionally unwell bc i always try to do the right thing in this situation, like calm them down, say positive things, build them up to give them confidence and make jokes to make them laugh bc i don't like it when friends don't feel good. For myself its kinda hard, i don't want to feel naked in this way or bother someone with my feelings bc i always make people unhappy if i show them my inner self and how i got like this. I don't like to show my weak spots, i don't trust anyone with this. its even weirder if something is coming out i apologize for being emotional and say that this moment never happend. (diagnosed with bipolar 2 disorder) hope i am not the only one who acting and thinking like this xD
i just wanna hug the drawings, THEIR SO CUTE LIKE OMGGGGG CUTE LIL MARSHMALLOWS WITH FACES
What it feels to be emotionless when an friend invited you to play in his house you all have fun and trys to make me laugh to but feels nothing like an empty can.and when you all have a family bonding they ask me why dont i smile or have fun.because everything means nothing to us we dont wanna feel love,happiness,sadness,depression,and pain.
If you've never done anything to hurt that person then talk to them...if they can they will open up some people are conditioned and bullied into silence they can not speak about