Wow. Coming straight from the woman and best dating coach ever who was in a long distance relationship herself. I’m sure you two live together now haha, but you’re a great testament to those who might be on the fence with long distance relationships. I learned this. Whether it’s long distance or close distance, relationships work. It’s the people that don’t work. And that all comes down to what you stressed. COMMUNICATION. TRUST. And ultimately confidence and willpower within yourself.
Been in a ldr, a very narrow chance of success, wouldn't recommend it to anyone not already in it, not at all, it's hell, and to the ones in it, I hope you can make it
Before I came across your channel (before Quarantine) I was a needy guy who made mistakes he didn't realize but you really changed my mentality and I've improved.. Still improving.. Thank you so much Apollonia
It may not have been you man,Some girls are so elusive in a relationship it’ll make you seem like you’re needy when you’re just trying to reach out to them
@@jamelslifestyle True true.. Sometimes it's not the guys who are bad at communicating.. Some girls think all you want to do is argue when you just want to talk.. And sometimes they aren't vocal enough to make you have an idea of what exactly is going on or what she feels and thinks about the relationship
I am in a long distance relationship with my love for three months and going strong I'm from the US and she is from the Dominican Republic due to the Covid 19 it's hard to make plans to meet and she travel to Spain for work but communication is the key to our healthy relationship and we have to be strong no matter what we still love each other very much
For mature people whom truly love and respect each other- ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER! The love of my life is oversees in China on business. Then COVID 19 happened, U.S.- China trade war, and now these Race Riots. We've been together for a year now, yet our love grows stronger day by day and we talk multiple times a day thru face time and text. Ms. Appollonia is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!
I moved for her after a long distance relationship after she asked me to relocate Big mistake as im a secret still her family doesn’t know I exist after 1 year and living in her state for 9 months. I was promised things and none of it has come to fruition. I made a huge mistake moving. She became someone totally different. I have to break a lease and move back where i came from. My advice be careful as relocating can blow up in your face. Things changed when i moved to her town and state. Moving to a new state makes you more needy because you moved to make her a big part of your life and when you aren’t brought into her life and you spend thanksgiving and Christmas alone and are left out can be pretty psychologically traumatizing. I moved with promises that never came to fruition after 9 months.
Video calling makes a huge difference and opens up many possibilities. I try to talk my wife into a FaceTime call even though we’re in the same house but if she’s going to be on camera, she needs to have hair, makeup, etc. all done. What a wonderful dress you have on today, Apollonia! The “LOVE” earrings are cute, too.
One thing that is a HUGE advantage in a LDR is that you get the ability for thorough Trial-n-error n fix issues that could otherwise had spoilt the relationship in the physical realm.
Best advice is this: if 2 people truly love each other and if they have really strong characters, they're not small minded... Then, they would be together no matter what!
I’ve been involved in one, over the past 3 years. Well, we are only 65 miles away. She’s finally moving in with me at the end of the month. I don’t suggest it, but it kinda is working for me, less drama I’ve delt with.
Thanks for the video. My girl and I parted in February due to the COVID-19 ( not separated ). We both based in China. We’ve been friends for over 2 years but started dating last year. When the virus started spreading , the mother called her to return back home to her country. I also decided to go back to my country. Before we parted I proposed to her with a ring and she accepted the proposal. She was able to return back to our base in March while I’m stuck in my country for now. We talk everyday for hours( voice and video calls). We sometimes organize dates, cook and dine online. We had projects for each other. Most are completed already. I’d order her gifts (flowers) and food , even though I haven’t been working but I just wanna make sure I’m doing everything just the way I’d do if we are together physically. The distance seems to be bringing us even more closer than we’ve been. I changed my sleeping routine already because we’ve got 7hrs time difference between us. Although it’s not easy as we don’t know the exact day we gonna see each other again. But we are still on our future plans. I love her deeply, she’s my best friend. I can’t wait to see her again.
This is so spot on. I can agree on every single point you made. Lately I've been able to see my flaws thanks to your other videos and the tips have applied to "long distance loving (not a relationship but we're both well aware of the feeling of each other)" the same way as they would apply to physical ones. Thank you for doing what you do!
Apollonia You are absolutely amazing. I swear you have soooo much information on relationships. I've been talking with someone for three months we talk everyday. She's stationed in Texas and in the Army. I live in Michigan. It's crazy because it just started out as just talking. Now we're waiting for this virus crap to get over with because we're dying to meet each other. without the physical part you definitely build something more, it feels more solid. You're the best keep up with the awesome videos.
I'm in America and my girlfriend is from the Dominican Republic the distance between the two of us is tough but we won't give up hope be strong and keep fighting and praying for our love
Wow that gave me some serious clarity especially in lockdown. I have a girl in Dallas TX and im in London. I feel I have pushed her away a little because I became a little OCD over her, her work became busy just at the wrong time for me as I didn't pay attention to ME. I guess she feels a little overwhelmed by it. Fingers crossed all is not lost.
Lol. There’s somethin bout those Texan girls hey? I’m in Sweden n the girl is in Texas an hour away from Dallas. We’re not in a relationship bc she’s legally still married albeit for Her that marriage is since long overdue, she just can’t get free yet bc he has her in his hands legally bc of the family laws there n he doesn’t want to even accept that she wants out of it. A LDR is difficult but it’s even more difficult when you can’t even START it bc of her being hands tied up unwillingly.
As someone who just got into a long distance relationship, set up consistent and constant communication, meet ups, and a goal in mind to end up living together in the near term. Not years on end. If god allows, I hope to have a home with her in the next 2-3 years. For the mean time, don’t get clouded or clingy and continue your life until the day comes.
I have a ldr, we have spoke every day for 13 months, every morning all day and every night. We have met many times. But live far away. We live in Russia. She has been a great help for me in many ways. I'm American. She's even saved my life when I needed to get to the hospital. Had no idea how to call them. She took care of everything.. and me.
sounds like you've got a winner you should seriously think about putting a ring on finger if you both want it. It is rare to find any person like that man or a woman
90 day fiance type stuff. Been there done it. Stay strong...keep communicating both of y'all future needs and desires. One plus side, is when you see each other, it's fireworks.
My woman is in Iran. She's looking on coming to America. Things are rocky because coronavirus. But we're staying strong so stay strong 💪. Long distance is tough but it gives you a chance to get things done
im in a long distance relationship and I first messaged her in October 2019, and we have plans for me to visit the Philippines to meet her next December. we message everyday. she know exactly what times i am free and we vid call each night when i finish work. . iI have been watching a lot of TH-cam vids of LDR's and each one has helped . I know i love her like crazy and I see in her eyes she loves me. Its sad we have to wait that long to meet but we both talk about it and have made plans for that.
I agree with you on the end goal part. I had been planning to move and it took years to iron that out. Right when I was able to get it sorted out she pulls the plug.. very painful because I had already committed to the move
I will be honest with you, Apollonia. There is a friend of mine who is very important to me, that I wish to get reconnected with. However it would be a long distance relationship with her.(Yes, her, but we really are just friends as that is what she wants and I what I agreed to.) Thank you for posting this video as it is quite helpful.
Good video, Informative. Styling outfit. I never had one long distance relationship ever. Not ever opposed to it just being an introvert sometimes getting lost in my head lead to not responding as often I should
I was in an LDR recently, but it fizzled out because we could not communicate effectively. The problem with LDR is if the communication isn't strong enough, then all else will ultimately fail in an LDR. It sucks and that's what happened with me.
I have considered a long distance relationship with a gal that lives about 100 miles away from me. She lives in San Diego County & I live in Los Angeles County. Plus, she has recently changed careers more than 1 year ago. On top of that, she is likely becoming financially established. Lately, I have been working towards my 1st of 2 occupational certificates at a community college. We follow each other on Instagram & lately returned to posting on Instagram after taking a 7 month break from April 2023 through last month. 1st date could likely be challenging but possible.
i just came across your channel. very easy to listen to and very easy on the eye you are. nice to meet you actually 😍 im somone who has very turbulent relationships. I blame it on society but im still living and learning. Maybe your channel could help me 🙂
Disadvantages of a long distance relationship - Even if you trust your partner but then she subconciously got attracted to another man, then later on that man lead her into a sexual-intercourse. Then question is: how can you STRENGHEN your trust now? Cause after, she may go for another sex 3-4 times with that guy. A few months after, she's going out with a different guy, then another different dude. Until she started changing and losing her sight as the end goal after she finish college or univercity is to get back with you.. But then she chooses to stay were she finished university that leads her to start her career right away to the province of were she lives right now. And then she decided to have new relationship with one of the men that she dated, or a NEW MAN! that is introduce to her by her new friends. SO NOW WHAT?
Just trust her. If she’s a good women with integrity then she won’t cheat. If she does cheat then that’s good for you; she’s dishonest and isn’t the high quality woman you deserve. Fear of cheating is beta male behavior and you’re going to attract what you fear. Have phone sex or something to satisfy both of y’all’s sexual needs
@@DiegoGarcia-mp6qc that is so true. I've been cheated on in a short distance relationship, long distance and everything in between. But if you are secure and content and at peace within yourself, those thoughts and fears won't consume you. I've always been called "beta" or "naive" for this. But 8 things i've learned- (1) a woman will do whatever she wants (2) be secure and at peace and confident from within (3) be understanding yet wise (4) know the woman in question (5) to the pure- ALL THINGS ARE PURE (6) KNOW THYSELF, MASTER THYSELF (7) SELF DISCIPLINE (8) Never tell people your business. Not everyone will be happy for you, people will put thoughts in your head, not everyone are strong, secure nor pure-hearted enough for this.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now and we only see each other once a fortnight because we live 3 hours apart and we always use video calls. We call when we wake up, when we finish work and before bed. We also video call while watching the same movie so we can have a date night once a week or so. There's no such thing as too much!! Just call them when you're thinking about them ❤️
Yes 100% true!. I projected many long distanse relationships in East Africa with Ethiopian and Kenyan girls and it’s have just been a emotional and financial drain and lost of time for me. Long distance relationship never work out because you can’t have the intimacy who is natural to connect with and it’s just a attention drainer for men and a attention boost for women. Only one who benefits is women .... Stay away from long distance relationship.
I’m in a long distance relationship. She can to visit me the second time in my home state, but when she was about to leave the state went into lockdown for 4 months. We didn’t have stable accommodation and so we moved 3 times, she has BPD and it was very difficult for her to get medication from her doctor and from any doctor down here. We went through a lot of good and bad during that 4 month period. Now she’s back at her home state and back at home with her mum, however she’s now pregnant (7 weeks in), we didn’t plan on having a baby and it’s completely unexpected, we both believe it’s not the right time, she’s 50/50 about wether or not to have an abortion. I’d like to move in with her but her mum blames me for everything that her and I went through in the 4 moths of lockdown and blames me for her being stuck in my state, so therefore her mum does not want me to move into her place. My girlfriend has a 4 year old daughter already and she went through her first pregnancy on her own and she suffer post natal depression, she’s worried that history will repeat itself, even though I’ve told her many times that I will be supporting her throughout the whole pregnancy and I will never leave her. She hates being pregnant and she gets very bad morning sickness. Anyhow, ever since she got out of a two week hotel Quarrantine and arrived back at her mums place our communication has dropped dramatically, she doesn’t ever call me unless I ask her like 3 or 4 times to call me. She only messages me when I message her, and sometimes I have to message her like 4 times before she actually replies. She doesn’t talk romantic anymore, she only calls me “babe” when she’s in a good mood, she doesn’t say she misses me, she doesn’t ask how I am or how I’m feeling or if I’ve eaten anything, like she used to do. Tell me please, is she losing interest in me? What should I do?😞
Here's mine... I'm in Europe she's in Middle East. We were together for one year which I accept its wrong but we haven't seen each other... And she ended it one year ago, just giving excuses as distance, arguments and family etc... I wish her the best and tried moving on but first 6 months was so hard and stressful as I really wanted to see her. But eventually managed to focus on myself and fix my anger issues etc.. Then all of a sudden she started texting (after 1 year) bit by bit, sending meaningful songs etc.. At first I took my time as I wasn't ready. Then bit by bit we texted back and forth etc.. She said I want to speak to u but pls listen and don't judge straight away etc. I said cool. She called and we spoke like 3 hours which 2 hours of her calling was she cried... She confessed the real reason, saying she had a one night Stand after getting drunk. The next day when she realised she was so regretful and angry with herself to do such a thing to a person like me... She said u was the best person for me. She said but understand me as I couldn't keep looking in your face (FaceTime) or speak to u like nothing happend as I know i did wrong etc.. For what ever reason I emphasized with her, tried to understand and like the coach has said temptation etc.. I forgave her. We started off slowly and one month superb. Then she got ill (covid) we couldn't interact etc. Long story short it was 4 month now since she came back.. And first month ok last 3 months less communications because of issues etc. Then we spoke on 21st January and thought the issues we're solved as our main problem was communication. But ever since that day she has pulled away and so have I. I texted just 2 days ago if things were ok or not but she didn't even check or respond even though she came online several times. I've texted wish u the best and I won't disturb u and left it. What's my chances now? I mean I do love her but also upset the fact she is being like this for the second time around.
Am in long distance Relationship with my girlfriend and we both understanding each other, individually, hobbies, likes, donts, behaviour our end goal is getting married to each other. We want it
Hi Apollonia. Ive been watching your content for some time, but i have one question that i havent been able to get the answer to: what do you do/say when she contacts you, after no-contact, and she tells you she misses you? Clearly, returning the “i miss you” isnt exactly the best idea. Ive imagined myself in that position, but i dont know what the appropriate response to her would be? Ive been told a lot that when that does happen, is that if she really means that, to set a date and time, and talk about it in person. What do you recommend? Thank you:)
Thank you for all your videos its help me learn ny self and things that i wasnt aware of ...i just now need to figure out how to keep us how we weren in the beginning , WILD LOL T.Y
Im in a long distanf relationship we talk everyday .I was in relationship with some local nevet got to talk to her but the long distance relationdhip and we of we hve a fight or some thing we talk every thing out
So far it works out for me. My fiance and I made it work and still. Well he's in the army and currently deployed and we'll still talking even with the different time zone. I set my alarm for 2-3am NY time cuz I know he will call me. I don't always get to talk too long but he does let me know and as long as I can tell him I love him and vice versa we are both happy. PS I tried pushing him a way in the beginning but he never gave up and still makes me fall in love with him. It can work out you just have to do more work but it's not work if there is love
Thank you for this video I am a long distance realationship but some times when we set time for video chatting she dose not show up . Then she leaves me hanging what do I do when that happends please help ? Thank you.
I will. I have been in long distance relationship with Ethiopian women and it’s a emotional and financial and tears on your health and happiness. I advise you to try to find someone in your city to connect with and if you don’t have good confidence or self esteem try to advance yourself and become more confident and attractive. I know it will not happen over night and it’s takes time and you maybe will be single for some years but trust me , it’s worth it!!
Hey what is a good way to approach a woman while they are at work? I haven't made a move yet because I dont want her to feel trapped while at work. I've asked for help finding an item but that the only interaction we've had. I get the feeling that she may be interested in me but I dont want to just assume and make an ass out of myself at a store I frequent.
What can i do to gain back my partners trust as i cheated mentally on her ? Im in Scotland she is in California and does your advice differ for same sex relationships?
I have an issue with my LDR. She is in Germany and I am in the states. She hid me from her children and they found and read our texts and letters. They have given her an ultimatum. Give me up or They will go with their father. She live her children like I do so this threat crippled her. So now we have to message in secret. We have been going very strong and passionate for over a year. We planned to meet and a week trip but she called it off and she let her children hold her hostage. I told her we will go a little slower and keep it going. We planned a weekend in a month but we have to do this in secret as well. I visit her while she is at work. How should I proceed? I am making all the adjustments and compromises. Again it is still very passionate but, I don’t want to waste many years of my life waiting for something that may never happen.
Is she native German? Or is she originally from a foreign country and now living in Germany. I'm thinking like from India or Islamic countries. I don't think regular German young people would act that way.
Yeah I've been in a relationship for three-plus years I still can't get my woman to video chat with me I'm lucky if she calls me one day a week always tells me she has to work she hasn't had a vacation in over 3 years she says she can't trust nobody at work to run her business so we still have not met but she says she wants me to be part of her life she loves me so much but she won't show me that I asked her to send me pics she won't do that
my LD ex have recently started becoming interested and showing strong sighs of attraction. we started after break up as friends but slowly over time shes become way more attracted to me like when we first meet. i really wanna see her and meet up but im worried to ask, do i wait more time to get feeling stronger or ask now and make plans for far in the future. we live in two uk and Sweden. and with this damn quarantine its making it seem like for it will be awhile even if i do ask. any advice? :D
Is SHE the one who’s in Sweden or is it you? Have her settle in Denmark, or You if you’re the one livin in the UK. Lol. Denmark allows relationship ‘partners’ (eg Bf Gf) on visit from Sweden.
Thank you so much for doing this video i would like to ask i am in lreland dawn is in america i was marrige have 7 year old girl dawn has her bussin and she writes books we talk on what up app she does not what me to move because of my dauther i am scare of losing dawn time is 7 hour so when i go to work she in bed when i am home dawn in work it is getting hard to commu is there anything to she or do for her will it work how to u tell alan from lreland❤ your work be safe
Bro my girl is has 8hrs difference. Well only 2 more weeks until I get to see her. Here is thing if you love someone you will make time and effort to be with them. For example you might have to sleep late to be able to talk to her or she will stay up a little late for you. On your off day sleep during the day and you will be up by the time she’s up. Hopefully that helps
Why do you say the same information multiple times slightly different ways ? Don't you think we are smart enough to get it , ? When you say it the first time . ?
A long distance relationship means fantasy and illusion. A SKYPE call doesn't replace spending time together. You are alone in a relationship. No sex life etc. CHEATING. WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY. There is no reality 😂😂😂😂😂and one question. How do you get know that person if you don't spend time together???
Wow. Coming straight from the woman and best dating coach ever who was in a long distance relationship herself. I’m sure you two live together now haha, but you’re a great testament to those who might be on the fence with long distance relationships. I learned this. Whether it’s long distance or close distance, relationships work. It’s the people that don’t work. And that all comes down to what you stressed. COMMUNICATION. TRUST. And ultimately confidence and willpower within yourself.
Been in a ldr, a very narrow chance of success, wouldn't recommend it to anyone not already in it, not at all, it's hell, and to the ones in it, I hope you can make it
Before I came across your channel (before Quarantine) I was a needy guy who made mistakes he didn't realize but you really changed my mentality and I've improved.. Still improving.. Thank you so much Apollonia
It may not have been you man,Some girls are so elusive in a relationship it’ll make you seem like you’re needy when you’re just trying to reach out to them
@@jamelslifestyle True true.. Sometimes it's not the guys who are bad at communicating.. Some girls think all you want to do is argue when you just want to talk.. And sometimes they aren't vocal enough to make you have an idea of what exactly is going on or what she feels and thinks about the relationship
Jamel Some girls are very selfish, especially the 10’s. Like you said, it may look needy to reach out once, but it’s NOT.
I am in a long distance relationship with my love for three months and going strong I'm from the US and she is from the Dominican Republic due to the Covid 19 it's hard to make plans to meet and she travel to Spain for work but communication is the key to our healthy relationship and we have to be strong no matter what we still love each other very much
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Just what i needed since am in one
For mature people whom truly love and respect each other- ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER! The love of my life is oversees in China on business. Then COVID 19 happened, U.S.- China trade war, and now these Race Riots. We've been together for a year now, yet our love grows stronger day by day and we talk multiple times a day thru face time and text. Ms. Appollonia is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!
I'm in a long distance relationship for 2 years now and planning when the travel restrictions are over to move to be with him.
Me too
I moved for her after a long distance relationship after she asked me to relocate
Big mistake as im a secret still her family doesn’t know I exist after 1 year and living in her state for 9 months. I was promised things and none of it has come to fruition.
I made a huge mistake moving. She became someone totally different.
I have to break a lease and move back where i came from. My advice be careful as relocating can blow up in your face. Things changed when i moved to her town and state.
Moving to a new state makes you more needy because you moved to make her a big part of your life and when you aren’t brought into her life and you spend thanksgiving and Christmas alone and are left out can be pretty psychologically traumatizing.
I moved with promises that never came to fruition after 9 months.
Video calling makes a huge difference and opens up many possibilities. I try to talk my wife into a FaceTime call even though we’re in the same house but if she’s going to be on camera, she needs to have hair, makeup, etc. all done.
What a wonderful dress you have on today, Apollonia! The “LOVE” earrings are cute, too.
One thing that is a HUGE advantage in a LDR is that you get the ability for thorough Trial-n-error n fix issues that could otherwise had spoilt the relationship in the physical realm.
Best advice is this: if 2 people truly love each other and if they have really strong characters, they're not small minded... Then, they would be together no matter what!
I’ve been involved in one, over the past 3 years. Well, we are only 65 miles away. She’s finally moving in with me at the end of the month. I don’t suggest it, but it kinda is working for me, less drama I’ve delt with.
Thanks for the video. My girl and I parted in February due to the COVID-19 ( not separated ). We both based in China. We’ve been friends for over 2 years but started dating last year. When the virus started spreading , the mother called her to return back home to her country. I also decided to go back to my country. Before we parted I proposed to her with a ring and she accepted the proposal. She was able to return back to our base in March while I’m stuck in my country for now. We talk everyday for hours( voice and video calls). We sometimes organize dates, cook and dine online. We had projects for each other. Most are completed already. I’d order her gifts (flowers) and food , even though I haven’t been working but I just wanna make sure I’m doing everything just the way I’d do if we are together physically. The distance seems to be bringing us even more closer than we’ve been. I changed my sleeping routine already because we’ve got 7hrs time difference between us. Although it’s not easy as we don’t know the exact day we gonna see each other again. But we are still on our future plans. I love her deeply, she’s my best friend. I can’t wait to see her again.
This is so spot on. I can agree on every single point you made. Lately I've been able to see my flaws thanks to your other videos and the tips have applied to "long distance loving (not a relationship but we're both well aware of the feeling of each other)" the same way as they would apply to physical ones. Thank you for doing what you do!
Apollonia You are absolutely amazing.
I swear you have soooo much information on relationships.
I've been talking with someone for three months we talk everyday.
She's stationed in Texas and in the Army. I live in Michigan.
It's crazy because it just started out as just talking.
Now we're waiting for this virus crap to get over with because we're dying to meet each other.
without the physical part you definitely build something more, it feels more solid.
You're the best keep up with the awesome videos.
I'm in America and my girlfriend is from the Dominican Republic the distance between the two of us is tough but we won't give up hope be strong and keep fighting and praying for our love
Wow that gave me some serious clarity especially in lockdown. I have a girl in Dallas TX and im in London. I feel I have pushed her away a little because I became a little OCD over her, her work became busy just at the wrong time for me as I didn't pay attention to ME. I guess she feels a little overwhelmed by it. Fingers crossed all is not lost.
Lol. There’s somethin bout those Texan girls hey? I’m in Sweden n the girl is in Texas an hour away from Dallas. We’re not in a relationship bc she’s legally still married albeit for Her that marriage is since long overdue, she just can’t get free yet bc he has her in his hands legally bc of the family laws there n he doesn’t want to even accept that she wants out of it.
A LDR is difficult but it’s even more difficult when you can’t even START it bc of her being hands tied up unwillingly.
As someone who just got into a long distance relationship, set up consistent and constant communication, meet ups, and a goal in mind to end up living together in the near term. Not years on end.
If god allows, I hope to have a home with her in the next 2-3 years. For the mean time, don’t get clouded or clingy and continue your life until the day comes.
Just in time. I really needed this advice.
Me too.
I have a ldr, we have spoke every day for 13 months, every morning all day and every night. We have met many times. But live far away. We live in Russia. She has been a great help for me in many ways. I'm American. She's even saved my life when I needed to get to the hospital. Had no idea how to call them. She took care of everything.. and me.
sounds like you've got a winner you should seriously think about putting a ring on finger if you both want it. It is rare to find any person like that man or a woman
I'm in a long distance relationship,
I'm in America, she's in South Africa. It's rocky
90 day fiance type stuff. Been there done it. Stay strong...keep communicating both of y'all future needs and desires. One plus side, is when you see each other, it's fireworks.
Get out!
My woman is in Iran. She's looking on coming to America. Things are rocky because coronavirus. But we're staying strong so stay strong 💪. Long distance is tough but it gives you a chance to get things done
Kurtis Miller 👍🏻
im in a long distance relationship and I first messaged her in October 2019, and we have plans for me to visit the Philippines to meet her next December. we message everyday. she know exactly what times i am free and we vid call each night when i finish work. . iI have been watching a lot of TH-cam vids of LDR's and each one has helped . I know i love her like crazy and I see in her eyes she loves me. Its sad we have to wait that long to meet but we both talk about it and have made plans for that.
Long distance relationships are very difficult. It is almost impossible to show love and receive it.
I agree with you on the end goal part. I had been planning to move and it took years to iron that out. Right when I was able to get it sorted out she pulls the plug.. very painful because I had already committed to the move
IM IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
IM IN TORONTO AND MY PERSON IS IN CALIFORNIA.
WE MET ON FACEBOOK LAST MAY 5 2020.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.
Apolonia is always the Princess ❤️👸
I will be honest with you, Apollonia. There is a friend of mine who is very important to me, that I wish to get reconnected with. However it would be a long distance relationship with her.(Yes, her, but we really are just friends as that is what she wants and I what I agreed to.) Thank you for posting this video as it is quite helpful.
I trough that my relationship is done... but now I understand that a normal relationship have almost nothing to do with a long distance relationship
Good video, Informative. Styling outfit. I never had one long distance relationship ever. Not ever opposed to it just being an introvert sometimes getting lost in my head lead to not responding as often I should
I was in an LDR recently, but it fizzled out because we could not communicate effectively. The problem with LDR is if the communication isn't strong enough, then all else will ultimately fail in an LDR. It sucks and that's what happened with me.
Great video thank you, I actually just started a new long distance relationship
Good luck I've been with my woman long-distance for 2 years now. Just try not to be too emotional at times 🙂👍
I won't
Great advice ! Glad you broke this down friend !🙌🤙🌴
Apollonia, thank you very much for the content. I really appreciate this
Preaaaaaaach Apollonia 🙌🏼
Great advice! Sweet shelves!!
Thanks dear Ponti
u have so much wisdom
Hi Apollonia ❤ and I am srinivasa sarma again 1st comment
Apollonia your the best 🙏🏾, this is some sounded advice
I have considered a long distance relationship with a gal that lives about 100 miles away from me. She lives in San Diego County & I live in Los Angeles County. Plus, she has recently changed careers more than 1 year ago. On top of that, she is likely becoming financially established. Lately, I have been working towards my 1st of 2 occupational certificates at a community college. We follow each other on Instagram & lately returned to posting on Instagram after taking a 7 month break from April 2023 through last month. 1st date could likely be challenging but possible.
Thank for making this video.
Ponti thank you very für this video
Very helpful !
i just came across your channel. very easy to listen to and very easy on the eye you are.
nice to meet you actually 😍
im somone who has very turbulent relationships.
I blame it on society but im still living and learning.
Maybe your channel could help me 🙂
Disadvantages of a long distance relationship - Even if you trust your partner but then she subconciously got attracted to another man, then later on that man lead her into a sexual-intercourse.
Then question is: how can you STRENGHEN your trust now?
Cause after, she may go for another sex 3-4 times with that guy.
A few months after, she's going out with a different guy, then another different dude.
Until she started changing and losing her sight as the end goal after she finish college or univercity is to get back with you.. But then she chooses to stay were she finished university that leads her to start her career right away to the province of were she lives right now. And then she decided to have new relationship with one of the men that she dated, or a NEW MAN! that is introduce to her by her new friends.
SO NOW WHAT?
Just trust her. If she’s a good women with integrity then she won’t cheat. If she does cheat then that’s good for you; she’s dishonest and isn’t the high quality woman you deserve. Fear of cheating is beta male behavior and you’re going to attract what you fear. Have phone sex or something to satisfy both of y’all’s sexual needs
@@DiegoGarcia-mp6qc that is so true. I've been cheated on in a short distance relationship, long distance and everything in between. But if you are secure and content and at peace within yourself, those thoughts and fears won't consume you. I've always been called "beta" or "naive" for this. But 8 things i've learned-
(1) a woman will do whatever she wants
(2) be secure and at peace and confident from within
(3) be understanding yet wise
(4) know the woman in question
(5) to the pure- ALL THINGS ARE PURE
(6) KNOW THYSELF, MASTER THYSELF
(7) SELF DISCIPLINE
(8) Never tell people your business. Not everyone will be happy for you, people will put thoughts in your head, not everyone are strong, secure nor pure-hearted enough for this.
Love you and your earrings Apollonia
I'm in long relationship he froms USA and Vietnam. But we are happy. Your video is great. I like to hang out with my family.
i'm struggling to keep long distant relationships, the lst one i had she was based in Nigeria and i am based in the Europe. Thanks for this video
AP, you're the best
What is the best tool for communication in a LDR? Also, how often does one communicate? That is how much is too much and how much is too little.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now and we only see each other once a fortnight because we live 3 hours apart and we always use video calls. We call when we wake up, when we finish work and before bed. We also video call while watching the same movie so we can have a date night once a week or so. There's no such thing as too much!! Just call them when you're thinking about them ❤️
Yes 100% true!. I projected many long distanse relationships in East Africa with Ethiopian and Kenyan girls and it’s have just been a emotional and financial drain and lost of time for me. Long distance relationship never work out because you can’t have the intimacy who is natural to connect with and it’s just a attention drainer for men and a attention boost for women. Only one who benefits is women ....
Stay away from long distance relationship.
I have a question I wanted to ask you
Thanks Apollonia.
but please where's the link for the 20 QUESTIONS MANUAL??
I’m in a long distance relationship. She can to visit me the second time in my home state, but when she was about to leave the state went into lockdown for 4 months. We didn’t have stable accommodation and so we moved 3 times, she has BPD and it was very difficult for her to get medication from her doctor and from any doctor down here. We went through a lot of good and bad during that 4 month period. Now she’s back at her home state and back at home with her mum, however she’s now pregnant (7 weeks in), we didn’t plan on having a baby and it’s completely unexpected, we both believe it’s not the right time, she’s 50/50 about wether or not to have an abortion. I’d like to move in with her but her mum blames me for everything that her and I went through in the 4 moths of lockdown and blames me for her being stuck in my state, so therefore her mum does not want me to move into her place.
My girlfriend has a 4 year old daughter already and she went through her first pregnancy on her own and she suffer
post natal depression, she’s worried that history will repeat itself, even though I’ve told her many times that I will be supporting her throughout the whole pregnancy and I will never leave her. She hates being pregnant and she gets very bad morning sickness. Anyhow, ever since she got out of a two week hotel Quarrantine and arrived back at her mums place our communication has dropped dramatically, she doesn’t ever call me unless I ask her like 3 or 4 times to call me. She only messages me when I message her, and sometimes I have to message her like 4 times before she actually replies. She doesn’t talk romantic anymore, she only calls me “babe” when she’s in a good mood, she doesn’t say she misses me, she doesn’t ask how I am or how I’m feeling or if I’ve eaten anything, like she used to do. Tell me please, is she losing interest in me? What should I do?😞
Here's mine... I'm in Europe she's in Middle East. We were together for one year which I accept its wrong but we haven't seen each other... And she ended it one year ago, just giving excuses as distance, arguments and family etc... I wish her the best and tried moving on but first 6 months was so hard and stressful as I really wanted to see her.
But eventually managed to focus on myself and fix my anger issues etc.. Then all of a sudden she started texting (after 1 year) bit by bit, sending meaningful songs etc..
At first I took my time as I wasn't ready. Then bit by bit we texted back and forth etc.. She said I want to speak to u but pls listen and don't judge straight away etc. I said cool. She called and we spoke like 3 hours which 2 hours of her calling was she cried...
She confessed the real reason, saying she had a one night Stand after getting drunk. The next day when she realised she was so regretful and angry with herself to do such a thing to a person like me... She said u was the best person for me. She said but understand me as I couldn't keep looking in your face (FaceTime) or speak to u like nothing happend as I know i did wrong etc.. For what ever reason I emphasized with her, tried to understand and like the coach has said temptation etc.. I forgave her. We started off slowly and one month superb. Then she got ill (covid) we couldn't interact etc. Long story short it was 4 month now since she came back.. And first month ok last 3 months less communications because of issues etc. Then we spoke on 21st January and thought the issues we're solved as our main problem was communication. But ever since that day she has pulled away and so have I. I texted just 2 days ago if things were ok or not but she didn't even check or respond even though she came online several times. I've texted wish u the best and I won't disturb u and left it. What's my chances now? I mean I do love her but also upset the fact she is being like this for the second time around.
Im talking to a beautiful dormma ahenkro in Ghana for a year we talking alot and she love me so much
I like this one!
Am in long distance Relationship with my girlfriend and we both understanding each other, individually, hobbies, likes, donts, behaviour our end goal is getting married to each other. We want it
You Africans....🙄
I’m in a long distance relationship. I’m in Philadelphia, and she’s in North Carolina.😅
Hi Apollonia. Ive been watching your content for some time, but i have one question that i havent been able to get the answer to: what do you do/say when she contacts you, after no-contact, and she tells you she misses you? Clearly, returning the “i miss you” isnt exactly the best idea. Ive imagined myself in that position, but i dont know what the appropriate response to her would be? Ive been told a lot that when that does happen, is that if she really means that, to set a date and time, and talk about it in person. What do you recommend? Thank you:)
Interdependence 🙌🏻
So smart & lovely...
The best advice for having a long-distance relationship is not having one at all 🤣
Apollonia, what is the title of your book that you suggested for those of us that are in an LDR get? I need a copy of that book ASAP!
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for all your videos its help me learn ny self and things that i wasnt aware of ...i just now need to figure out how to keep us how we weren in the beginning , WILD LOL T.Y
My last two relationships were long distance. I wasn't willing to move to Canada.
Im in a long distanf relationship we talk everyday .I was in relationship with some local nevet got to talk to her but the long distance relationdhip and we of we hve a fight or some thing we talk every thing out
How i do i convinced my lady not think im pretending Wht is your advice plzz c comment below
This is profound
Thanks Apollonia once again. You've given me something to contemplate on.
How do you know she isn't screwing around?
Reality dear 😊
So far it works out for me. My fiance and I made it work and still. Well he's in the army and currently deployed and we'll still talking even with the different time zone. I set my alarm for 2-3am NY time cuz I know he will call me. I don't always get to talk too long but he does let me know and as long as I can tell him I love him and vice versa we are both happy. PS I tried pushing him a way in the beginning but he never gave up and still makes me fall in love with him. It can work out you just have to do more work but it's not work if there is love
Wish I got this 3 weeks ago... just lost my 2 year gf because of the covid distance!
Thank you for this video
I am a long distance realationship but some times when we set time for video chatting she dose not show up .
Then she leaves me hanging what do I do when that happends please help ?
Thank you.
I will. I have been in long distance relationship with Ethiopian women and it’s a emotional and financial and tears on your health and happiness. I advise you to try to find someone in your city to connect with and if you don’t have good confidence or self esteem try to advance yourself and become more confident and attractive. I know it will not happen over night and it’s takes time and you maybe will be single for some years but trust me , it’s worth it!!
Looking for the 20 questions that you mentioned at the end of the video.
You mentioned a 20 question manual to get to know a woman's true self, but I see no link for it, would you plz help me get that.
wish i knew this before we broke up 😪
Hey what is a good way to approach a woman while they are at work? I haven't made a move yet because I dont want her to feel trapped while at work. I've asked for help finding an item but that the only interaction we've had. I get the feeling that she may be interested in me but I dont want to just assume and make an ass out of myself at a store I frequent.
Where’s those 20 questions? Did anyone catch that?
Nice dress
What can i do to gain back my partners trust as i cheated mentally on her ? Im in Scotland she is in California and does your advice differ for same sex relationships?
They shrink the definition of "long distance" from 3000 miles to 30 miles, from country codes to zip codes.
I never ben in a short and long term relationship
They are so hard to maintain
Does no contact rule really applies to LDR?
She is not replying the way like before in my messages. She is a nurse in Abu Dhabi and I am a teacher here in the Philippines. What should I do?
Give some space. If she still doesn't respond, leave her be. She could be busy. Which is why space first option.
I'm in a LDR my girlfriend stays in Lagos while I stay in Abuja. It's not been easy!
How many days do you guys talk?
Just went through a long distance break up. Is there a possibility to get back ?
Good question
I have an issue with my LDR. She is in Germany and I am in the states. She hid me from her children and they found and read our texts and letters. They have given her an ultimatum. Give me up or They will go with their father. She live her children like I do so this threat crippled her. So now we have to message in secret. We have been going very strong and passionate for over a year. We planned to meet and a week trip but she called it off and she let her children hold her hostage. I told her we will go a little slower and keep it going. We planned a weekend in a month but we have to do this in secret as well. I visit her while she is at work. How should I proceed? I am making all the adjustments and compromises. Again it is still very passionate but, I don’t want to waste many years of my life waiting for something that may never happen.
Is she native German?
Or is she originally from a foreign country and now living in Germany.
I'm thinking like from India or Islamic countries.
I don't think regular German young people would act that way.
It doesn’t work for long term
Talk about love scammers
Yeah I've been in a relationship for three-plus years I still can't get my woman to video chat with me I'm lucky if she calls me one day a week always tells me she has to work she hasn't had a vacation in over 3 years she says she can't trust nobody at work to run her business so we still have not met but she says she wants me to be part of her life she loves me so much but she won't show me that I asked her to send me pics she won't do that
Did you ever consider she isn’t who she says she is? I hope you haven’t been sending her money; many bad signs here.
my LD ex have recently started becoming interested and showing strong sighs of attraction. we started after break up as friends but slowly over time shes become way more attracted to me like when we first meet. i really wanna see her and meet up but im worried to ask, do i wait more time to get feeling stronger or ask now and make plans for far in the future. we live in two uk and Sweden. and with this damn quarantine its making it seem like for it will be awhile even if i do ask. any advice? :D
Is SHE the one who’s in Sweden or is it you? Have her settle in Denmark, or You if you’re the one livin in the UK. Lol. Denmark allows relationship ‘partners’ (eg Bf Gf) on visit from Sweden.
Thank you so much for doing this video i would like to ask i am in lreland dawn is in america i was marrige have 7 year old girl dawn has her bussin and she writes books we talk on what up app she does not what me to move because of my dauther i am scare of losing dawn time is 7 hour so when i go to work she in bed when i am home dawn in work it is getting hard to commu is there anything to she or do for her will it work how to u tell alan from lreland❤ your work be safe
Bro my girl is has 8hrs difference. Well only 2 more weeks until I get to see her. Here is thing if you love someone you will make time and effort to be with them. For example you might have to sleep late to be able to talk to her or she will stay up a little late for you. On your off day sleep during the day and you will be up by the time she’s up. Hopefully that helps
#1 they dont work
It's just for last pewdiepie video
for those who want to 20 question manual, cause I couldnt find it in the description box : www.apolloniaponti.co/20-deep-questions
Why do you say the same information multiple times slightly different ways ? Don't you think we are smart enough to get it , ? When you say it the first time . ?
Long distance relationships only work if she's underage.
Haha actually this is somewhat true... the young ones are inexperienced, clueless, and believe that love is some sort of fairytale.
A long distance relationship means fantasy and illusion. A SKYPE call doesn't replace spending time together. You are alone in a relationship. No sex life etc. CHEATING. WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY. There is no reality 😂😂😂😂😂and one question. How do you get know that person if you don't spend time together???