I get it! They can’t change what they won’t acknowledge. And if they say they can’t, they are right because it actually means they won’t and don’t want to.
Yes they won’t forget .. if you call them out.. they’ll remember and they’ll remember the “words”.. and they’ll just blame shift.. everything Ben said ..all true.. it’s very rare for narcs to become self aware.. they’re not capable of this.. best to just utilise the information provided by Ben and apply the tools (i admit I still need to apply the tools).. education is power (can’t remember who said that quote but it’s true).. thanks for the video.
If only I'd know about your content 2 years prior, it would have saved me so much devastation and mental torture. I'm getting stronger and happier everyday, but gosh darnit, I went through the absolute darkest slums to get here.
I get it! Already made the mistake years ago... now she called me the biggest narcissist on the planet..sigh.. you're stuck in a game that you can never win that you never even signed up to play in...thank Christ I'm out
TOPIC SUGGESTION: Ben, could you talk about "relationships" where the narcissist expects you to mother them. I don't know when or how it happened, but I "woke up" and realized that I had a mother-son relationship with the narc. I took care of him emotionally, financially, physically and he took no responsibility for anything. It was all one sided. I carried all the labour of the "relationship" and all he contributed was temper tantrums and disrespect. On top of that, he still wanted to be treated as "the man". He demanded I take his last name and that we marry in community of property. Thank goodness I escaped. But is this an experience that is unique to me, or are most narcs so dependent on their spouse that they turn them into a mother/father figure?
I told my ex "I can't be the manic pixie dream girl you want me to be. That's a one sided storyline and I'm working on my own development too". His response was "I know you aren't. You're not positive enough to be a manic pixie" 🤣🤣 He literally tried to turn not being the savior into an insult that I'm not enough of a woman save him.
This is the best video you done . I hope your this assertive ben when these narcs are getting coached. I could imagine if there malignant like I married he would shout over you and shut you down . Or they walk out therapy. Give them he'll Ben if they change subject. Mine went with are upstairs neighbour on are wedding day a bout 3 hours after. She had been going with him and was my flying monkey after wedding monster he bought her in are home befor I left he's trash.
BEN you need to say him or her is your Nassistist. Not just he, are Narcissist. I had a she Nassistist Ben. I was like this 😂+😢+😅. Now l am this 😊😇. So BEN keep the good work. I pray you and your family be blessed. Love is the Key BEN in marriage. Unselfish Love. 👨👩👦👨👩👦☺️💕
Rather than call him out, I used words to describe his behavior. He still hoovered. I thought that bringing up certain topics would cause us to talk about it. Not to be his savior, never that. But in his usual Narsistic behavior, he didn't bite. They do not get that they are Narcistic. He does know something is not right, but not Narcism.
Your video on sharing facts only helps. I focus on discussing actual incidents, comments etc. I don't ever use the word narcissist with him or others, it doesn't serve me.
Yes I did - and I would do it over and over again. I didn´t want to live a lie (never!). So it is better that happened this way... (I am sad though but I understand now). And no - I know it is not dangerous for me anymore because I am far away now... (Far away forever!).
Your harsh but you know what I like it 💪 keep pushing us i been out this relationship since Nov of 2022 and I’m still watching these videos the more information the better not ready to put myself back out there but I’m getting there I really appreciate your videos and the fact your a narcissist and wanted better for yourself is to be COMMENDED for 👏👏 ty for the support god will bless you 100 fold sir
I wish I knew this a month ago, it took me some years to work it out. I just didn't understand the mocking and belittling behaviour the cycle of the discard and all the abuse. But then yeah, I f@ked up, I called her on it. Right down the the type. Then it got nasty. Follow this advice . Just don't do it
guilty of calling out my ex wife and my mother. I;ve been waiting for awnser since August 2023 for.... " yes or no you asked for a 2nd mortgage behind my back for breasts implants?"
You will get no answers... Inform yourself about narcissm and just let it slide. There will never be an answer but at least you know ... (Because you do - don´t you?). Be careful with giving money ... (Normally people ask for money if they don´t have any so just don´t think that they will pay you back. My mother said to me: If you borrow money you have to see it as a gift - because you have to assume that you never get it back. She is right in that one (at least I think so too).
for sure he's a ducking duck!!!!!! d--n, Ben TAUGHT HARD in this video!!! i almost stopped watching bc he was making me feel...so bad!, but in a really good way!!!!
I wish he wouldn't just use "he" when he talks. There are more women who are narcissistic out there then men, but seem to get a pass because they're women. I think it would be more appropriate to use he/she rather than just "he".
Ben uses "he" for the ease of talking. I'm pretty sure he knows women are narcissists as well. Please stop telling people to do what you want them to do. If you don't like the way he speaks don't watch his content or make your own content with "he/she." You seem emotionally sick.
I think it’s also because most of his clients are female.. and perhaps his channel is targeted towards females more.. I was thinking that due to his history with his wife.. and what she endured.. that he’s trying to help others females that were in her situation too.. he knows the mindset of a male narcissist because he was/is one and so he likely creates his videos accordingly.
@@SeanOzzI agree with this. And I hope it doesn’t offend those who’ve dealt with overts or physical harm. But I’ve dealt with /dealing with that too (by a covert) and It’s more hard to prove what a covert is doing as it’s more manipulative which makes it harder and even more isolating.
Didn't watch this yet but I always call them out. God told me to fight and I do.. it can be fun.. just tease them playfully.. say they act like your mother..
This made me wonder- did he truly change for the new girl because she motivated him and he is just overall happier with her? I left 3 months ago. He's an influencer, a mindset coach who teaches people about personal development. It's so confusing to me because it makes me wonder if I just misunderstood him the whole time. *We were married for 15 years. The longest time he was ever faithful to me was probably about 3 months.
Narcs are dangerous. Educated narcs are even more devastating. Don't educate them about themselves because they will hurt the next person even more. I know my ex picked up more tools from me so that he can hurt the next woman even more. I pray for her.
Do you have any idea how it is easy for you to see this in other people but hard in yourself? Thats what is hard to understand. You definitely can accurately understand other people. Are you feeling some psychotic pain when questioned? Like do you feel like youre on acid or something? Because its really impossible to get through to narcissists, but they can seem to understand this in other people which is confusing
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I get it! They can’t change what they won’t acknowledge. And if they say they can’t, they are right because it actually means they won’t and don’t want to.
Yes they won’t forget .. if you call them out.. they’ll remember and they’ll remember the “words”.. and they’ll just blame shift.. everything Ben said ..all true.. it’s very rare for narcs to become self aware.. they’re not capable of this.. best to just utilise the information provided by Ben and apply the tools (i admit I still need to apply the tools).. education is power (can’t remember who said that quote but it’s true).. thanks for the video.
If only I'd know about your content 2 years prior, it would have saved me so much devastation and mental torture. I'm getting stronger and happier everyday, but gosh darnit, I went through the absolute darkest slums to get here.
I get it! Already made the mistake years ago... now she called me the biggest narcissist on the planet..sigh.. you're stuck in a game that you can never win that you never even signed up to play in...thank Christ I'm out
TOPIC SUGGESTION: Ben, could you talk about "relationships" where the narcissist expects you to mother them. I don't know when or how it happened, but I "woke up" and realized that I had a mother-son relationship with the narc. I took care of him emotionally, financially, physically and he took no responsibility for anything. It was all one sided. I carried all the labour of the "relationship" and all he contributed was temper tantrums and disrespect. On top of that, he still wanted to be treated as "the man". He demanded I take his last name and that we marry in community of property. Thank goodness I escaped. But is this an experience that is unique to me, or are most narcs so dependent on their spouse that they turn them into a mother/father figure?
I told my ex "I can't be the manic pixie dream girl you want me to be. That's a one sided storyline and I'm working on my own development too". His response was "I know you aren't. You're not positive enough to be a manic pixie" 🤣🤣 He literally tried to turn not being the savior into an insult that I'm not enough of a woman save him.
Thank you for helping me Ben! I am grateful! Court in 3 weeks on 2/23🙏
This is the best video you done . I hope your this assertive ben when these narcs are getting coached. I could imagine if there malignant like I married he would shout over you and shut you down . Or they walk out therapy. Give them he'll Ben if they change subject.
Mine went with are upstairs neighbour on are wedding day a bout 3 hours after. She had been going with him and was my flying monkey after wedding monster he bought her in are home befor I left he's trash.
I love not being assertive to them imma super empath I got almost killed by my ex and loved it cuz baby I’m crazy as well
BEN you need to say him or her is your Nassistist. Not just he, are Narcissist. I had a she Nassistist Ben. I was like this 😂+😢+😅. Now l am this 😊😇. So BEN keep the good work. I pray you and your family be blessed. Love is the Key BEN in marriage. Unselfish Love. 👨👩👦👨👩👦☺️💕
@@eatfood72 nobody loves anymore just lust narcissism is so weird narcissism isn’t evil it’s just lost souls
preach it, brother
Rather than call him out, I used words to describe his behavior. He still hoovered. I thought that bringing up certain topics would cause us to talk about it. Not to be his savior, never that. But in his usual Narsistic behavior, he didn't bite. They do not get that they are Narcistic. He does know something is not right, but not Narcism.
Your video on sharing facts only helps. I focus on discussing actual incidents, comments etc. I don't ever use the word narcissist with him or others, it doesn't serve me.
Yes I did - and I would do it over and over again. I didn´t want to live a lie (never!). So it is better that happened this way... (I am sad though but I understand now). And no - I know it is not dangerous for me anymore because I am far away now... (Far away forever!).
Yes I made this mistake. Now he just whines about it.
Facts understand that real talk 👺
Great motivation! Thank you, Ben!
Your harsh but you know what I like it 💪 keep pushing us i been out this relationship since Nov of 2022 and I’m still watching these videos the more information the better not ready to put myself back out there but I’m getting there I really appreciate your videos and the fact your a narcissist and wanted better for yourself is to be COMMENDED for 👏👏 ty for the support god will bless you 100 fold sir
The narc Im dealing with said to me once I called her out she said whatever you say she literally doesn't own up to nothing she's doing
I wish I knew this a month ago, it took me some years to work it out. I just didn't understand the mocking and belittling behaviour the cycle of the discard and all the abuse. But then yeah, I f@ked up, I called her on it. Right down the the type. Then it got nasty. Follow this advice . Just don't do it
guilty of calling out my ex wife and my mother. I;ve been waiting for awnser since August 2023 for.... " yes or no you asked for a 2nd mortgage behind my back for breasts implants?"
You will get no answers... Inform yourself about narcissm and just let it slide. There will never be an answer but at least you know ... (Because you do - don´t you?). Be careful with giving money ... (Normally people ask for money if they don´t have any so just don´t think that they will pay you back. My mother said to me: If you borrow money you have to see it as a gift - because you have to assume that you never get it back. She is right in that one (at least I think so too).
for sure he's a ducking duck!!!!!!
d--n, Ben TAUGHT HARD in this video!!! i almost stopped watching bc he was making me feel...so bad!, but in a really good way!!!!
I wish he wouldn't just use "he" when he talks. There are more women who are narcissistic out there then men, but seem to get a pass because they're women. I think it would be more appropriate to use he/she rather than just "he".
Ben uses "he" for the ease of talking. I'm pretty sure he knows women are narcissists as well.
Please stop telling people to do what you want them to do. If you don't like the way he speaks don't watch his content or make your own content with "he/she." You seem emotionally sick.
I think it’s also because most of his clients are female.. and perhaps his channel is targeted towards females more.. I was thinking that due to his history with his wife.. and what she endured.. that he’s trying to help others females that were in her situation too.. he knows the mindset of a male narcissist because he was/is one and so he likely creates his videos accordingly.
Covert narcissist are so much worse too than regular ones.
You're an adult. You know exactly what he means.
@@SeanOzzI agree with this. And I hope it doesn’t offend those who’ve dealt with overts or physical harm. But I’ve dealt with /dealing with that too (by a covert) and It’s more hard to prove what a covert is doing as it’s more manipulative which makes it harder and even more isolating.
I get it!!🗣️🗣️
Didn't watch this yet but I always call them out. God told me to fight and I do.. it can be fun.. just tease them playfully.. say they act like your mother..
oh.. and lock up your food / don't accept food or drinks from others LOL
This made me wonder- did he truly change for the new girl because she motivated him and he is just overall happier with her? I left 3 months ago. He's an influencer, a mindset coach who teaches people about personal development. It's so confusing to me because it makes me wonder if I just misunderstood him the whole time.
*We were married for 15 years. The longest time he was ever faithful to me was probably about 3 months.
I get it
What if you are finally done and calling it quits. Can’t hurt to throw it out on the way out ?
Narcs are dangerous. Educated narcs are even more devastating. Don't educate them about themselves because they will hurt the next person even more. I know my ex picked up more tools from me so that he can hurt the next woman even more. I pray for her.
Too late
Do you have any idea how it is easy for you to see this in other people but hard in yourself? Thats what is hard to understand. You definitely can accurately understand other people. Are you feeling some psychotic pain when questioned? Like do you feel like youre on acid or something? Because its really impossible to get through to narcissists, but they can seem to understand this in other people which is confusing
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