Competing is masculine energy. Walk away from that mindset. If a man isn't choosing you, you're an option. Do not work for him. Pick a man who will treat you with the utmost respect. Think you're number one and you will be #1👸
Fake it till you make it. That’s what happened with me I started to pretend that it didn’t bother me now I’m literally so unbothered and focused on myself
Golden advice here. Caring too much is one of the worst things you can do. Cut off anyone who brings you down and doesnt contribute to your happiness. Life's too short.
FACTS. VIRGO LIFE❤️♍️ I literally laugh at ppl when they try me. Hit them with a nice eloquent nasty works wonders every time. Ends up pissing the off even more👌🏽 👌🏽
First step to be unbothered is dealing with a man that has something to offer like stability protection so you can focus on that. if you are with a dusty all you can focus on is being bothered cus he has nothing else to offer you but his crazzy emotions to deal with.
I went freestyling at a bar the target man was chatting it up w me. Asked if we could go to another bar I said. Oh I only gave the babysitter a $20. He got right up n got $100 out of the atm n gave it to me n said. For your sitter and your time. I was so giddy that it worked lol it was too easy.
What helps me to be "unbothered" is to gain a high level of being secure with myself. Another thing that helps is to let the rotten fruits fall from my tree and let the new fruits grow.
When you are showing that you’re upset or bothered you’re giving them power to know they affected you but I’m the same way I love everyone but I do not argue, I have trained myself not to get emotional even at my husband or family. Shera being this way also makes you more respected, it’s part of your charisma.🌺
Yes I have a younger male cousin that spends the day doing little things to try to get a reaction out of me instead of getting a job. Some ppl just don't have lives and have nothing better to do lol
I always say if they ain’t paying my bills or benefiting me/helping me reach the next level💰🏠💸💵🛍, then I could care less what they say or think of me. Because at the end of the day, they ain’t the target🎯 I’m aiming for!
I’ve been getting feedback from others that I’m “mean and seem cold nowadays”. No I’m just unbothered and I’m so glad I finally am an unbothered person. These are compliments to me baby 😁😁❤️
Being unbotherred and coming of as a bitch are two different things... You can be unbotherred with grace. I smile and remain kind and calm which still portrays that I am unbotherred. Just sayin
Once upon a time ago, I used to care about everyone's opinion and I would legit stoop down and it didn't benefit me or my bag. Now that I am unbothered everything is falling into place. They're mad and I'm happy!
Another tip that I know for myself is to be detached from everybody else and what they have going on. Then the focus should really be on yourself because this is your world that they're living in 🤷🏿♀️
Being bothered created hate from others , anxiety , waiting for approval from people who are not engaged with with in family, friendship . or employment .
There are no rear view mirrors in ASCENSION. It's ONLY UP!! The PHOENIX rises & SOARS, leaving all the ashes (dust) of what was in the past 💯 Total RENEWAL & TRANSFORMATION ✨ RISE & SOAR!!!✨🦅✨🌟
I’m a cancer with a Pisces moon. Horoscope ain’t got nothing to do with it.... watching Shera has finally taught me to control my emotions and think logically, and that all comes from being unbothered. Ultimate freedom!!!!
I am Capricorn Sun with Pisces rising, being cap sun Ive always been good at hiding my emotions, but we should not hate that we are sensitive, take that sensitive energy and learn to channel it into creative hobbies! I play guitar, draw, paint, write poetry and song lyrics, crochet, sew etc. Sensitive people can be very successful in arts and music!
One time you said in one of your videos that love between you and your partner will never be unconditional, it’s nothing but conditional. That really changed my thinking and shifted my energy. Thankfully, I have a very loving family so I know what unconditional love feels like and that’s good enough for me.
Hi Shera, I’m so happy I found your channel before it’s too late. I’m in my mid thirties, not married yet and no kids yet. I truly feel like you taught me so much about the true nature of a man and my true value as a woman. Now I’m wide awake and I know exactly what I want and need. God bless you.
Yes I think it’s strange when ppl get bothered by ppl who are not even close to them. My mother is a pisces like Ashera and I’m a Scorpio. Lol I’m unbothered to the maximum 🤷🏾♀️ I do not care at all. And I don’t compete either lol You don’t compete where you don’t compare..I’m the Queen
Same. I’m naturally mysterious and people hate on me for not telling them everything and I don’t understand that at all. Like why does it bother you so much that you don’t know my life story lmao
I think the release of emotion comes with understanding. Understanding the motivation behind the actions of other people, and understanding why those actions are triggering you. Dig deep within yourself.
Family is one of those places I’ve learn to master this. Never thought I could but after losing my job in the most unexpected way possible, which turned out to be a blessing in disguised, everything changed. Before tht, I was someone who just didnt care in the first place but the ppl closest to me i tend to give, give. Smh have i learned. Even with them, I draw the line. Ppl used to tell me you need to speak up, you need to put your foot down etc., you need, you need none stop unwarranted advices about how to deal with ppl behaving badly but I really didn’t care deep I didn’t care enough abt their opinions to put any But after the last, nothing has settle more to me than me not giving a ish. Ppl have called me selfish, self centered; all I do is care about myself and I’m like yeah. Stuck up blah blah I should bc who gonna care for me more than me? You don’t even care abt me but you’re talkin abt how I should care about me. Boy bye.
I love that saying don’t waste your energy! It reminds me of the quote, “ words can’t hurt unless you let them.” So true, can’t please everyone 🤷♀️ but at least I can please myself so why care about the bs
The more I listen to you and compare it with what I see women do, the more you make sense more and more! It’s ashame that women have made having a man, having $3x and getting married the end all be all. Chileeee it’s crazy
In my mind, Shera is my favorite cousin...funny as shit!!! 😂😂😂 She tells the unadulterated truth and did not come to play...it’s all about the money, hunny...😭😭😭
OH EM GEE I remember you now! I used to watch you YEARS ago when I was a teenager. (And I shouldn't have stopped) yall when u listen to her u win! (I'm a witch, that's how I came across her page). She is RIGHT and she has a good innerstanding of karma. Trust in the sprinkle!
I’m Scorpio and respect to you all but according to astrology Scorpios are the most emotional sign. My moon is in cancer. Another emotional water sign and if I can shut off my emotions and leave them for the nearest and dearest ( kids and family) you can too !!!
Same I’m a Scorpio and my moon is cancer but I truly don’t care about much lol. I only care if it’s someone close to me. We’re(scorpio) passionate signs not emotional in a sense like everything bothers us though. Water signs in general feel but we are very controlled and calculated. I know bc my parents are also water signs.
I’m the true definition of a Pisces. It’s all over my chart. It helps me when it comes to my femininity because I’m naturally very womanly but these emotions of mine 🤦🏾♀️ I check everything and everyone at the door if I feel offended. Heart on my sleeve...but I’m working on it. One of my goals for 2020 is to be completely unbothered.
@@berrytaste9766 fellow Pisces here! I had to continually remind myself that they don’t care… just keep that in mind when diving in the hopeless romantic feelings, give that hopelessness to yourself and they will follow….. mama shera taught me 😂😂😂
I’m a Cancer..Gemini moon ... I learned to not care. I’ll cut a person off with the quickness. When I had my business, I terminated staff by telling them they’re no longer needed. PERIOD.
you look insanely unbothered since you discovered mgtow! i'm glad it helped! and since then you also started putting ads in your videos! amazing transformation!
Coming here to recharge after expressed my dislike for his mom who’s strange and he defended her saying I rely on feelings and that I am emotional. Gotta get back to be nonchalant
Thanks for teaching us Shera. Lord knows I need these lessons daily with this marriage of mine 🙄 cause hunny!!! I be trying not to catch a case😬😬😩😩😩😊😊.
“Put outfits together in your mind when negative people are talking” - Best advice I’ve received in my 20 some years on this planet 😹😭🙌
Lord Loring
Facts 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Facts it does work and just piss them off the most 😭😭😭😭
Lmaoo genius
Sometimes when they ask me a question I pretend I didn't hear it. Lol
I seen your videos. ok your 20 and getting Shera teachings and your beautiful.........YOUR .... DANGEROUS
As Coco Chanel once said, I don't care what you think about me, I don't think about you at all!
And that exactly right!!!
This is golden!👍💫
Facts!!🎯
she was a nazi tho
Iesha w l
Competing is masculine energy. Walk away from that mindset. If a man isn't choosing you, you're an option. Do not work for him. Pick a man who will treat you with the utmost respect. Think you're number one and you will be #1👸
Yessssss
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Love this!❤
Jesus bless you He loves you very much He died and rose again for you so repent and live for Him
i walk away the minute there’s another girl
Fake it till you make it. That’s what happened with me I started to pretend that it didn’t bother me now I’m literally so unbothered and focused on myself
Hil GM
These are facts.
👏💕💕
Jesus bless you He loves you very much He died and rose again for you so repent and live for Him
Same.
Golden advice here. Caring too much is one of the worst things you can do. Cut off anyone who brings you down and doesnt contribute to your happiness. Life's too short.
Amen
❤❤❤❤
What if it’s my parents
Once u learn yourself and master yourself from within NOTHING CAN STOP U and NOTHING WILL BOTHER U ♍
Facts So True!
FACTS. VIRGO LIFE❤️♍️ I literally laugh at ppl when they try me. Hit them with a nice eloquent nasty works wonders every time. Ends up pissing the off even more👌🏽 👌🏽
Exactly. I mastered this and it is such a great feeling. 🙏🏾🥰👏🏾
"The wicked flee when no man pursues, but the righteous are bold as a lion." Proverbs
Period
First step to be unbothered is dealing with a man that has something to offer like stability protection so you can focus on that. if you are with a dusty all you can focus on is being bothered cus he has nothing else to offer you but his crazzy emotions to deal with.
Big facts
holy shit you just did something...
Sad but too. When you have stability your focus is making life.
Truth
THISSSSS
Since i started watching videos , no man took advantage of me
"Find a focus that's bigger than that situation." That resonates nicely. Too many people never think about the bigger picture.
“Don’t base your self worth on trying to control a cheating men”So classic
It's common sense though 😅😅😅
I went freestyling at a bar the target man was chatting it up w me. Asked if we could go to another bar I said. Oh I only gave the babysitter a $20. He got right up n got $100 out of the atm n gave it to me n said. For your sitter and your time. I was so giddy that it worked lol it was too easy.
Bar* lol not barn
Nice ❤
🥰💕🌸🩷👛🎀
Men love themselves more and are selfish, and that is okay, just u have to be the same :)
Kris Mladjenovic generalization
@@matthewrowe5310 yes it is. I am generally speaking what it is, sometimes can be different, but most of the time it is general. :)
Right
I agree.
True
Free Therapy💚💚💚💫💫💫
Greyah Marie right
Yes!
What helps me to be "unbothered" is to gain a high level of being secure with myself. Another thing that helps is to let the rotten fruits fall from my tree and let the new fruits grow.
When you are showing that you’re upset or bothered you’re giving them power to know they affected you but I’m the same way I love everyone but I do not argue, I have trained myself not to get emotional even at my husband or family. Shera being this way also makes you more respected, it’s part of your charisma.🌺
I wish I can be this way
@@Gratefulphyl it takes a LOT of inner work but it gets better!
Yes I have a younger male cousin that spends the day doing little things to try to get a reaction out of me instead of getting a job. Some ppl just don't have lives and have nothing better to do lol
@@Luckimee yeah true
What if he is getting other girls names infront of you to make u jeolous. Should we need to be unbothered about that too?
I always say if they ain’t paying my bills or benefiting me/helping me reach the next level💰🏠💸💵🛍, then I could care less what they say or think of me. Because at the end of the day, they ain’t the target🎯 I’m aiming for!
People that wanna be friends at work are always so funny to me😂😂😂😂 Make your money and go home those are not your friendsssssss.
💯
Learned that the hard way
I’ve been getting feedback from others that I’m “mean and seem cold nowadays”. No I’m just unbothered and I’m so glad I finally am an unbothered person. These are compliments to me baby 😁😁❤️
And you never let them see you sweat.
Yes honey, I feel the same way.
Being unbotherred and coming of as a bitch are two different things... You can be unbotherred with grace. I smile and remain kind and calm which still portrays that I am unbotherred. Just sayin
@@queenr.480 I think this is better advice. I'm glad you brought that up
I got the same think
Once upon a time ago, I used to care about everyone's opinion and I would legit stoop down and it didn't benefit me or my bag. Now that I am unbothered everything is falling into place. They're mad and I'm happy!
Yes you go girl! I have that same problem and I’m trying to stop but it can be hard sometimes not to get irritated with other people’s bs
Why are they mad by the way?
"I never compete" said by Shera. That will be my lifestyle. I should keep that in mind. Thank you, Shera.
I need to adopt this mindset as well.
Don’t just keep it in mind, girl, live it breathe it be❤
Another tip that I know for myself is to be detached from everybody else and what they have going on. Then the focus should really be on yourself because this is your world that they're living in 🤷🏿♀️
3 yrs ago and this still holds gems
Every single on her videos holds so much relevance! Her advice never ages
Her advice is timeless.
Being bothered created hate from others , anxiety , waiting for approval from people who are not engaged with with in family, friendship . or employment .
My goal for 2023 is to be as unbothered as Shera lol ❤
Same
Same
Same here!!!!
Amen sister!
There are no rear view mirrors in ASCENSION. It's ONLY UP!! The PHOENIX rises & SOARS, leaving all the ashes (dust) of what was in the past 💯 Total RENEWAL & TRANSFORMATION ✨ RISE & SOAR!!!✨🦅✨🌟
Eileen I felt this
I’m a cancer with a Pisces moon. Horoscope ain’t got nothing to do with it.... watching Shera has finally taught me to control my emotions and think logically, and that all comes from being unbothered. Ultimate freedom!!!!
Dreamergirl93
I am just the opposite of you
Pisces sun
Cancer moon
And i agree..she’s teaching me things that i certainly need to know
Yup exactly, Mastering your emotions will naturally allow you to be unbothered
i'm a cancer with pisces moon too, and i agree!
I m a Pisces with Libra moon.... I hate how we Pisces have so many emotions
I am Capricorn Sun with Pisces rising, being cap sun Ive always been good at hiding my emotions, but we should not hate that we are sensitive, take that sensitive energy and learn to channel it into creative hobbies! I play guitar, draw, paint, write poetry and song lyrics, crochet, sew etc. Sensitive people can be very successful in arts and music!
48 laws of power .....is how to not be naive
I am listening ok
I feel so fortunate to have found you.
When you show your bothered people will give you MORE to be bothered about
“Cheat on him with his money.” Solid. Now if he doesn’t have that and got the nerve to cheat too you know you need to dip 😂
You are the big sister I never had.
“They say I’m not street smart” “go get in the streets and get smart” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
One time you said in one of your videos that love between you and your partner will never be unconditional, it’s nothing but conditional. That really changed my thinking and shifted my energy. Thankfully, I have a very loving family so I know what unconditional love feels like and that’s good enough for me.
I gave my ex 14 years unconditional love, in returned he cheated, then I listened to Sherra videos leveled up and he crawled back. Men..smh!
@@kikiblessed00you took him back?!?!
@@asiadp hahaha I think she took him back lmao
@@achiengdejihope not 😂
@@FBIOpenUp-qi5ph hahahahaaaa spinning the block is real in these streets!
Hi Shera, I’m so happy I found your channel before it’s too late. I’m in my mid thirties, not married yet and no kids yet.
I truly feel like you taught me so much about the true nature of a man and my true value as a woman. Now I’m wide awake and I know exactly what I want and need. God bless you.
Same
Same
Excellent chat. Stay Unbothered. Stay Striving. Stay Leveled Up. Also find a hobby to occupy your mind.
Yes I think it’s strange when ppl get bothered by ppl who are not even close to them. My mother is a pisces like Ashera and I’m a Scorpio. Lol I’m unbothered to the maximum 🤷🏾♀️ I do not care at all. And I don’t compete either lol You don’t compete where you don’t compare..I’m the Queen
Thank you
Exactly!! ❤
We are so similar people talk about me a lot but it’s truly because I don’t share everything about me and it bothers them
Same. I’m naturally mysterious and people hate on me for not telling them everything and I don’t understand that at all. Like why does it bother you so much that you don’t know my life story lmao
I think the release of emotion comes with understanding. Understanding the motivation behind the actions of other people, and understanding why those actions are triggering you. Dig deep within yourself.
I absolutely agree.
Family is one of those places I’ve learn to master this. Never thought I could but after losing my job in the most unexpected way possible, which turned out to be a blessing in disguised, everything changed. Before tht, I was someone who just didnt care in the first place but the ppl closest to me i tend to give, give. Smh have i learned. Even with them, I draw the line. Ppl used to tell me you need to speak up, you need to put your foot down etc., you need, you need none stop unwarranted advices about how to deal with ppl behaving badly but I really didn’t care deep I didn’t care enough abt their opinions to put any
But after the last, nothing has settle more to me than me not giving a ish. Ppl have called me selfish, self centered; all I do is care about myself and I’m like yeah. Stuck up blah blah I should bc who gonna care for me more than me? You don’t even care abt me but you’re talkin abt how I should care about me. Boy bye.
Lisa Quaye this!!!!!!
I love that saying don’t waste your energy! It reminds me of the quote, “ words can’t hurt unless you let them.” So true, can’t please everyone 🤷♀️ but at least I can please myself so why care about the bs
The more I listen to you and compare it with what I see women do, the more you make sense more and more! It’s ashame that women have made having a man, having $3x and getting married the end all be all. Chileeee it’s crazy
Don’t care about anything that does not get you results you want.
I know I’m late to the party , but this truly helping me ! I’m always so emotional it’s embarrassing! Thank you
Better late than never! Welcome!
same
Yesss! Do your work, and Leave! I agree with that workplace question. Do your job and go!
Now thats something to ponder,some aren't worth your energy or time...
In my mind, Shera is my favorite cousin...funny as shit!!! 😂😂😂 She tells the unadulterated truth and did not come to play...it’s all about the money, hunny...😭😭😭
I definintely needed this one! LOL
OH EM GEE I remember you now! I used to watch you YEARS ago when I was a teenager. (And I shouldn't have stopped) yall when u listen to her u win! (I'm a witch, that's how I came across her page). She is RIGHT and she has a good innerstanding of karma. Trust in the sprinkle!
I’m Scorpio and respect to you all but according to astrology Scorpios are the most emotional sign. My moon is in cancer. Another emotional water sign and if I can shut off my emotions and leave them for the nearest and dearest ( kids and family) you can too !!!
so am I 2nd November but I've learnt how to be less emotional from watching these videos
Same I’m a Scorpio and my moon is cancer but I truly don’t care about much lol. I only care if it’s someone close to me. We’re(scorpio) passionate signs not emotional in a sense like everything bothers us though. Water signs in general feel but we are very controlled and calculated. I know bc my parents are also water signs.
urScorpioLady I’m a cancer... starting to care less & less.
urScorpioLady yesss
I’m Scorpio with moon in Pisces and feel you sm!!! Haha when I finally perceived that I needed to control and wisely use my emotions I changed;)))
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It’s the “if you’re pretty enough you’ll get it, if you pick the right target you will get it “
I want to call you my mother. You’re kids are so blessed.
I cannot even keep up. So many new uploads!! 🤩🤩 Turning me into an unbothered savage. The money 😍😍😍
Having a bigger picture really does help put everything into perspective.
@8:03 “because they don’t have no money baby....SPRINKLE SPRINKLE” 😂😂😂
When she said “you with a feminine man” I screamed
LOL at the person who paid you $9.99 to ask how to get $1k on the second date just for you to say "i don't know baby"
Some these chicks too dumb 😂
How do I deal with my dusty?!?
Shera- same way you deal with all your dust.. Sweep him into the dustpan
I miss when you did videos just about the topic without answering so many questions
You can just look at the 20 first minutes its only the subject each time :)
Plus there’s not much else she can teach. ALL her videos are still up for reference
@@pepettehousemusic999 she is always getting new "untrained" subs just learning the game. Your an "advanced" sub
K B me too, I haven’t been watching as much because it’s so annoying
K B i personally appreciate that she interacts with people. She also gets paid as she goes when people tip 💅
i don’t even date men but I can’t stop listening to your videos 😂
me neither girl. im just taking notess sprinkle sprinkle💋
😂😂😂 same here
@@minxtica845 yassss
@@meyonmastermind7497 yessss
I am so done with men. But watch these videos for the fun of it😂 I am 53 y.o no one can guess my age - simply because I am unbothered all the time.
Every time my husband or his family members bother me, I set off to shopping😂.
Unbothereness is the key 🔑 to happiness ❤ keep going queens👸🏻 💅
U're a great teacher May God bless you forever amen.
Girl I love ur vibe u the only TH-camr I’ll watch this long 🤣🤣 I need u to be my therapist 🤣🤦🏻♀️
Yep! I watch and take notes.
You only go with the flow when you're in a riptide, and even then you swim sideways, not exactly with it!
You can cheat all u want I be in the Bahamas 🇧🇸 whew the coldest in the game 🤣😂🤣
I’m the true definition of a Pisces. It’s all over my chart. It helps me when it comes to my femininity because I’m naturally very womanly but these emotions of mine 🤦🏾♀️
I check everything and everyone at the door if I feel offended. Heart on my sleeve...but I’m working on it. One of my goals for 2020 is to be completely unbothered.
Hey I’m a Pisces too. How do you deal with the knowledge that true love doesn't exist? I’m unfortunately a hopeless romantic..:(
@@berrytaste9766 fellow Pisces here! I had to continually remind myself that they don’t care… just keep that in mind when diving in the hopeless romantic feelings, give that hopelessness to yourself and they will follow….. mama shera taught me 😂😂😂
@@DivinelyMeA hahahs hope it works! Thanks for advice! :)
*I need another video like this! With this length! I need to listen to this every morning!*
Being unbothered in 2024 is a survival skill ❤
This is a hidden gem Ashera! My 21 year old loves you so much and we both are Pisces too! Pisces gang! ✨✨✨💯💯♓️♓️♓️
Being unbothered is a choice !!!💋
I’m a Cancer..Gemini moon ... I learned to not care. I’ll cut a person off with the quickness. When I had my business, I terminated staff by telling them they’re no longer needed. PERIOD.
This is some real shit! She’s teaching spiritual laws fr
I was at a party this weekend and let’s just say I’m glad that my focus is on leveling up. Had the girlies uncomfortable with my presence 😂😂😂
got a party tomorrow, I aspire to be like you
Watching this video years later & hearing the diddy & cassie comment lollll
I wonder if you know how helpful your content is and the value you give out into the world 🙏🏽❤️
My Lil cousin is about to get married soon. She is 30 and he is 32.
She has 3 kids and 1 with him. I'm happy for her.
Appreciate you needed to hear this today
It wasn’t me it’ll be somebody else lmao I love her 😩
Why she give me niki Minaj vibes like CRAZYYY😂💕💖😍
I’ve always remembered the phrase. “Sticks & stones break my bones, but words don’t hurt me-!” ♥️
No I missed the Live AGAIN!!!
Hi y'all.
I believe it applies to all relationship relationships.
Indeed.
Goal goals goals.🌺🎆💅☕
I real badly need to learn to be unbothered! Likr just not care and focus on me ~ 💯
I do that to all my friends that call about man problems. I do something else while they tell me the same story for the 100th time. 😂😂😂
you look insanely unbothered since you discovered mgtow! i'm glad it helped!
and since then you also started putting ads in your videos! amazing transformation!
What is this ?
“Is this my soulmate” “no fool” I’m cryingggf
Ur so consistent in daily uploads and lives!!!! Kudos on growing ur channel
Them : is this my soulmate? Is this the one ??
Her : No fool 🙄
This is some very amazing advice! I’m takin all of it ❤this found me! Thank u divine
Omg EVERYTHING u r saying is real & crackin me up & its so how i think
Love your energy and vibration
Awesome nuggets!!! Your Tippets has help me an my personal life. Thank you for sharing
Thank you for helping me lift myself up
Coming here to recharge after expressed my dislike for his mom who’s strange and he defended her saying I rely on feelings and that I am emotional. Gotta get back to be nonchalant
“Then don’t be nice”😭
Thanks for teaching us Shera. Lord knows I need these lessons daily with this marriage of mine 🙄 cause hunny!!! I be trying not to catch a case😬😬😩😩😩😊😊.
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you for this video ! Really helped me with my confidence and how to stay unbothered ❤
These are nothing but facts.
Shera this is one of your funnier videos lol you have me laughing over here.
Thanks for this message, Shera! It has been much needed by me, and is truth!😎👍