My reputation was damaged when I was 27 in the jazz scene. It lost friends and work in a small community. I'm now 41 and filled with pain because I not only lost the scene and reputation, I actually stopped playing music and haven't been the same ever since. It ruined my life
I am the same .I came from the Dj scene and now ... people and I lost friends now I'm 28 and I'm trying to fix my reputation. It takes lots of strength but that's what makes you stronger !
I admit I have said some really mean and nasty things to people online and my reputation was screwed. But I deleted most of those comments and stopped immediately and am now being very positive
This is from my own experience. The only way to fix your reputation is to completely change the person that you are and everyone that used to be in your life especially from your past. Your never gonna get people that knew you from the past, like for instance, your old school friends and your relatives to see that your a changed person or even a brand new person. Here is how to fix and change your reputation: Change your full name, move to another state, buy new clothes, find a different job, find a new companion, don’t tell anyone about your life, don’t talk about the people that were in your life. Buy a shredder and destroy old photos from the past. Don’t put your pictures or any information about yourself on Facebook. If you meet new people let them do the talking, you just do the listening. Be humble and quiet. That’s pretty much about it.
I go to a very small charter school so information spreads very quickly. I’ve made lots of stupid decisions and literally everyone hates me. It’s gonna take a while to fix this, wish me luck.
Good luck, Yrok24, you can do this! Like you said, it may take a while to fix your reputation, but be consistent and authentic with your new self and others will notice the change. Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
I just recently learned that I have a bit of an anger issue, and that's what drove one of my best friends away without me knowing it. I'm going to try my best to repair this, thanks for the helpful video.
My reputation got messed up in my town from Taking the blame for other people, now no one will hire me or rent their houses to me. I had been well respected in my job, now old colleagues pretend they dont see me when i pass them on the street. I can deal with the social shunning, but being shut out of jobs and houses is very inconvenient
Well I am honored to be on your team, Julia. Please spend some time here on the channel - I recommend the Positive Personal Development playlist (th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html) and the Positive Relationship Resources playlist (th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html). Make improvements where you can, and find ways to serve others - even in small or anonymous ways. We do have a free 25 minute breakthrough call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches to assist you in a specific area of your life; if you wish to schedule an appointment, you can go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
I had an extremely poor reputation, the first quarter of my life. But it is my fault, as it was self imposed. I was painfully socially inept. And was a huge attention seeker. I’d constantly sing out loud in the middle of class, while my teacher was trying to lecture. I would always be involved in other peoples drama. And always talk out loud broadcasting my problems….. it ended up making me completely unapproachable in school. Ended up becoming more awkward in the process. I’m still trying to get a grip on the past. At least this video makes me feel better
I just discovered your channel recommended by my wife. I love each one of your videos, the way you talk and the topics you talk about. Thank you so much for producing valuable content.
10. Are you being a JERK 9. Care about how you impact people. 8. Take immediate action 7. Apologies appropriately 6. Make Amends when you can 5. Practice Patients 4. Be humble - open to feed back & input from others - it’s about what’s right not who’s right. 3. Practice Positive Behavior 2. Get a Coach or accountability partner 1. Be consistent
Here is my problem. I used to have no friends in school and act sad and not really include myself but that is something I grew out of in college. I come back from college in the summer to work in the holidays 2 years later and I still seem to have that reputation hanging over me even though I am such a happier person. I have really changed but people don't seem to see that and some still dislike me for it? I don't know how to change that.
@@singingcoversweekly3108 Apparently, some folks still have the outdated version of me on their mental shelves. I've upgraded to the new and improved 'Happier Me 2.0' edition. Now, with 20% more smiles and 50% less gloominess! If they're still clinging to the old model, maybe I should start handing out 'Friendship Firmware Updates' during lunch breaks...Just remind them to upgrade their system..
It's hard to not react negatively when people harass you due to slander and lies. I messed up, I guess. I responded with and angry look and walking away. Which in turn only sparked the gossip. So now I'm apparently mentally disabled and a stalker. It seems that's what they're saying. Actually I'm a university alumni who is trying to avoid them and to make new friends but they all know eachother and always interfere whenever I've made a new friend. Overnight, people turn against me, by the dozen. Don't people understand empirical evidence? Nothing has happened. I'm trying to live my life. I've moved away but I'm still grieving the loss of friendship as it is so rare. I lost people I thought I had some connection with.
When i was younger I was a huge school clown which terribly ruined my reputation and made people making fun of me. Sometimes even people i dont know about even jokes about me, i hate it here.
I really needed this as everything just seemed to being downhill in my secondary because of me joking around and i slipped a bit off my toungue and made a few people hate me. And I don’t want to be the funny and kind popular guy turning into someone without respect
Thank you for all of these amazing videos! Will you do more amazing videos with a diverse group of people in your field? I am a young minority female and I never seen representations in the field of psychology. :/ I am hopeful.
I will consider this, XAudreyS. I just love people and interacting with them, no matter the culture or race. We have so much to learn from each other and role models are important. It is great you are looking for them in your life.
I have a bad reputation in my school. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I cut people out. I also had a little psychotic behaviour which made me a joke in high school. I was involved in relationships so there are rumours about me which are not fully true. So I am also slutshamed. I really need help...
vaishnavi bhogi, that is a lot to deal with. Is there someone that you can talk to about what is going on? A counselor or trusted friend? Live your life the way you want and be your best self.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I do have a counselor. I've been getting counseling since 2 months. I feel better now but the memories and bullying keeps coming in my mind. I am trying to fix my reputation . And I have made few friends too...
@@camilla5705 hey, camilla. Thanks for reply and trying to reach out. If you relate, I would advice you to talk to your parents or teachers. You can also talk to a counselor. I know horrible being bullied feels. I reached out for help and it helped me. Hope you'll get the help you want..😄. Now I feel a lot better and I have a lot of friends. I'll just advice you to not care what other thinks but do try to make things right, if you get the chance...🥰😄
My thought are to just ignore them and get on with my new life. They seem bitter and negative and lack kindness. Everyone should be given a second chance or we are cold barbarians.
I made a mistake and I lied about a lot of things and now I lost my girlfriend my bestfriend my friends and also my parents, I want to mend my ways but I'm not sure how
Brinda Arun, I encourage you to try the ideas in this video. You can't change the past, so don't dwell on it. Remember the consequences of your mistakes ONLY so that you don't do the same things. Focus on what you can control at the present time. Apologies can also help your case. Need help with that? I've got you covered; here's a video: "How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - th-cam.com/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/w-d-xo.html It may take time and effort to fix your reputation, but don't give up hope. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
I will try to follow these! These seem like they will help a lot. I have had a bad reputation for years about be annoying and making stupid jokes at my school for years. I really hope I can fix my act up soon. Any tips to not laugh or not be urged to add a reply when someone says something funny? As long as that doesn't happen I won't slip up
i was in an online orientation for my new school and there were some students who were being noisy in the chat room and when i tried to answer a question it came at the same time as a warning of the teachers to the noisy students and they kicked mo out of the orientation so now everyone in my new school thinks im very rude to teachers😞
interacting with crass youth my whole life, i can say calling and making amends sounds wonderful. Do I believe they would do such for every person/relationship handled immaturely? HA, that'd be the day.
Hello Paul!thanks a lot!for this helpful podcast full of sense & inner wisdom,as the ppl watching this might already realise or know for real what's like to be a victim of defamation or experience & see the changes that is happening around them when "who they are is shaken" or affected by defamation in a world indeed of easy information & powerful social media.What strikes me the most is realising how much human is so gallable & what ignorance can do!(*Everytime I share my experience,I found that Google staff made sure he delets it😮despite its within the guidelines as it has happened few times now..,
My reputation at work and at home is ruined all because due to my condition, I make mistakes that I should not be making at my age. Even when I apologize and make amends, it's a waste of time because the people at home and at work, don't forgive me ever. Sometimes I wish I was working at a different job where the people are more forgiving and understanding toward me.
Did you say you interviewed Frank Abaganale?! Is there a way to hear that podcast? He was that second mouse! 😁 Seriously though I've listened to some of his speeches and he's really interesting and has a good heart.
Here is a link if you would like to listen to the podcast. liveonpurposeradio.com/tag/frank-w-abagnale/ I enjoyed the interview immensely. You can find all my podcasts at drpauljenkins.com.
Im a middle schooler.. ya know.. as a male who just hit puberty everything goes wrong and i do something really bad.. reallly really bad.. and the one who get the impact "the victim" is making a gossip and its a bad one.. me who was known whose everybodys friend.. suddenly dont have any.. i dont know what to do.. for 6 months i kept it all to myself.. any tips?
Pasha Fn, hard to say with the limited information. Be friendly, be open, be non-judgmental and don't give up. Things can change quickly in middle school. You may need to look outside the group you were a part of to other people to befriend.
I pushed a girl out of a party this day harshly, and someone said that I hit her instead of punching her when I didn’t. They lied about my actions and now many of my friends think I did it. People now think that I beat women now when this is not the case at all. It’s foking terrible man. Any good tips for how to fix’s my reputation in this situation?
Thank you for watching, Luke Stang. I hope the video gave you some ideas on how to fix your reputation. If you don't have school right now, you can use this time to change your mindset and attitude to a more positive one, and when you get back to school, start implementing the tips I give in this video. We have more videos on the channel for your age group. Please check out our "Just for kids and teens" playlist to start becoming a more positive person: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV.html
Live On Purpose TV ok thank you, also my middle school reputation really sucks right now and everyone knows me for it, I’m currently a junior in highschool
It is still possible to change, Bob Jaff. Be kind to others, give service whenever possible, and use positive uplifting words when speaking. It may take a while, but will be worth it in the end. Remind yourself that you have changed for the better, and don't worry about what others think of you. Thanks for watching.
I've a terrible reputation for mistakes I've made getting arrested and sending vile hurtful messages to people and now all my friends disowned me what can I do besides ending my life which l already tried. Does this bad reputation ever go away and will l get them friends back?
Shane Hefferman, learn from past mistakes and it may mean getting some new friends. I don't know if they will forgive you, you don't have control over that. You do have control over your actions.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV they won't forgive me it's been almost 3 years since they last spoke to me and I have now lost my best friend through the same mistakes its eating me up to be honest realising if I just was smart I could have still had them today but it is what it is now making new friends I'm afraid is way easier said than done :(
You are a very calming and supportive person. Thank You for the information. If I may share an experience, I would be grateful: I have a bad reputation. I had a period of being well "groomed" and had an image of someone "well paid". After awhile, I took much lower paying jobs in a bigger city where I studied. Soon, I ended up not working because of health reasons and high anxiety, and finally resting at my parents house. Because of it, people talk about me as "gold digger~hoe" and a disrespectful of the ladder. If I take a well paid job now, people will judge me for financial "job hopping", skipping the "ladder". Didn't have a man in my life at any point in this period. Is there a way to fix that?
Patricia 0206, just from this brief comment it seems that you are very concerned with how other perceive you. I wouldn't worry about that, decide what you want and what is in your best interest and go for that. When you do so staying true to your principles, then it all works out.
I have rhe same reputation girl . It's all about how you represent yourself now in the position you are in and especially in the career industry. Don't worry, you will outgrow it
I’ve had a bad reputation especially at workplaces by basically saying my piece to managers and not thinking before speaking even though I thought I was right at the time and only when calmed down have I realised how I have come across even though people agree with you at the time but when you act in the way the mood is in a workplace act in a way people talk between themselfs about x y or z and basically say what people say between themselfs to the people the same people can go against you ………….and look at you funny for acting like that then your upset because your like what I’ve said what everyone else thinks now you all think I’m a £#@& how does that work ??? Trouble is a reputation can follow you and people who don’t know you get told things by others and judge or dislike you automatically which is unfortunate even though they don’t know you just judging on what others have said I’ve done etc etc which isn’t nice I’m ashamed of my behaviour looking back but I get confused of the system of how people work lol people tell you x y and z about what they don’t like etc and when you say it to the organ grinders the same folk what agree with you are the ones turning the back on you after the event as if I’m a #£&@ then comes the paranoia as might be a sly eye or something and paranoidley you can start to think someone’s said something to that person hence the sly eye about something I’ve done before and you start to think they don’t like you naturally I’ve always found it good how people say I’d do x y z but when organ grinders there don’t say / do anything I’m the silly one doing it and it’s cost me jobs and credibility and reputation as a &#@£ which isn’t nice as from my point of view the things I’ve said and done in previous employments I only said what I thought everyone wanted to hear but when said everyone thinks your an idiot and turns against you I struggle with that as it’s like whattttttt??? Then the whole nobody likes you thoughts creep in etc etc then ye chasin trying to prove to people that actually I’m ok all that paranoia is driving you to chase peoples approval if that makes sense ……………..I’m not naturally a &£#@ there other things happen what got me to that point of giving it back …………when started world of work I found my breaking point I was bitter about things in the past and my head was just a mass of swirling thoughts ready to pop at any moment and unfortunately seeing how unfair workplaces can be it’s like I popped I found my breaking point and used to go on rants and rages regularly at things deemed unfair to the organ grinders on a daily basis and this trend followed me threw various employments in my life yes I was a man who had issues clearly but we all have a breaking point and a chapter to close and this is mine truthfully I’m ashamed and regret somethings I’ve said in the moment of madness ( I’ve had many ) however I was a literal preassure cooker waiting to go off and since starting work many years ago from Saturday boy to adult worker I’ve had many a run ins with many a boss and I am ashamed of it but if ever there’s a place where things can be seemed as unfair / unjust it’s work and all I will say is since starting work many years ago certain events what happened in the past it’s like my brain said enough I won’t take crap no more but it’s done me no favours only got me a bad rep which adds to more confusion lol which upsets me as it’s not the real me
My reputation was damaged when I was 27 in the jazz scene. It lost friends and work in a small community. I'm now 41 and filled with pain because I not only lost the scene and reputation, I actually stopped playing music and haven't been the same ever since.
It ruined my life
You still have a lot of life ahead of you. Figure out how to move forward and do what you love. It may look different, but it is possible.
I am the same .I came from the Dj scene and now ... people and I lost friends now I'm 28 and I'm trying to fix my reputation. It takes lots of strength but that's what makes you stronger !
Political leanings can severely damage your reputation, I’ve learned this lesson.
Tank The Pitbull, we all have a journey we are on through life. Thanks for sharing.
I admit I have said some really mean and nasty things to people online and my reputation was screwed. But I deleted most of those comments and stopped immediately and am now being very positive
j r robotics, we can always change, glad you are taking the necessary steps.
This is from my own experience. The only way to fix your reputation is to completely change the person that you are and everyone that used to be in your life especially from your past. Your never gonna get people that knew you from the past, like for instance, your old school friends and your relatives to see that your a changed person or even a brand new person. Here is how to fix and change your reputation: Change your full name, move to another state, buy new clothes, find a different job, find a new companion, don’t tell anyone about your life, don’t talk about the people that were in your life. Buy a shredder and destroy old photos from the past. Don’t put your pictures or any information about yourself on Facebook. If you meet new people let them do the talking, you just do the listening. Be humble and quiet. That’s pretty much about it.
Thanks for watching the video, Michael Bertolino.
Is this really the only solution? 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
@@wakeup6778 It’s really the best solution.
@@Anthony-nq4ki a man who speaks the truth, the harsh reality we need to face. Thanks “Anthony”
@@mrhouse9368 I see what you did there 😹
I go to a very small charter school so information spreads very quickly. I’ve made lots of stupid decisions and literally everyone hates me. It’s gonna take a while to fix this, wish me luck.
Good luck, Yrok24, you can do this! Like you said, it may take a while to fix your reputation, but be consistent and authentic with your new self and others will notice the change. Thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.
Live On Purpose TV thank you for the advice!
What's the update? I've done the same thing and feel hopeless 😢
I just recently learned that I have a bit of an anger issue, and that's what drove one of my best friends away without me knowing it. I'm going to try my best to repair this, thanks for the helpful video.
CloudyPages, very responsible, to see a weakness and work on it. You are ahead of the game and can do this.
My reputation got messed up in my town from Taking the blame for other people, now no one will hire me or rent their houses to me. I had been well respected in my job, now old colleagues pretend they dont see me when i pass them on the street. I can deal with the social shunning, but being shut out of jobs and houses is very inconvenient
Well I am honored to be on your team, Julia. Please spend some time here on the channel - I recommend the Positive Personal Development playlist (th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html) and the Positive Relationship Resources playlist (th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPA410uJ9woXx9B9WiPyM7fX.html). Make improvements where you can, and find ways to serve others - even in small or anonymous ways. We do have a free 25 minute breakthrough call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches to assist you in a specific area of your life; if you wish to schedule an appointment, you can go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Sorry
Try moving to another city 😂
This came at a perfect time for us, thank you
You are welcome, Guinea Pig.
Very nice name btw 👍👍👍
I had an extremely poor reputation, the first quarter of my life. But it is my fault, as it was self imposed. I was painfully socially inept. And was a huge attention seeker. I’d constantly sing out loud in the middle of class, while my teacher was trying to lecture. I would always be involved in other peoples drama. And always talk out loud broadcasting my problems….. it ended up making me completely unapproachable in school. Ended up becoming more awkward in the process. I’m still trying to get a grip on the past. At least this video makes me feel better
alex munoz, people notice when behavior changes, you got this.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks man. I’m trying my best
I just discovered your channel recommended by my wife. I love each one of your videos, the way you talk and the topics you talk about. Thank you so much for producing valuable content.
You are welcome, BookMattic. Glad you have joined the Live On Purpose family. Thanks for watching.
Live On Purpose TV it’s my pleasure. We’ll be exchanging more thoughts in the future.
Two years late but good video. I needed this, thanks.
Glad it helped!
10. Are you being a JERK
9. Care about how you impact people.
8. Take immediate action
7. Apologies appropriately
6. Make Amends when you can
5. Practice Patients
4. Be humble - open to feed back & input from others - it’s about what’s right not who’s right.
3. Practice Positive Behavior
2. Get a Coach or accountability partner
1. Be consistent
Thank you, Elize.
Here is my problem. I used to have no friends in school and act sad and not really include myself but that is something I grew out of in college. I come back from college in the summer to work in the holidays 2 years later and I still seem to have that reputation hanging over me even though I am such a happier person. I have really changed but people don't seem to see that and some still dislike me for it? I don't know how to change that.
@@singingcoversweekly3108 Apparently, some folks still have the outdated version of me on their mental shelves. I've upgraded to the new and improved 'Happier Me 2.0' edition. Now, with 20% more smiles and 50% less gloominess! If they're still clinging to the old model, maybe I should start handing out 'Friendship Firmware Updates' during lunch breaks...Just remind them to upgrade their system..
Thank you for taking the time to make this.
My pleasure.
It's hard to not react negatively when people harass you due to slander and lies. I messed up, I guess. I responded with and angry look and walking away. Which in turn only sparked the gossip. So now I'm apparently mentally disabled and a stalker. It seems that's what they're saying. Actually I'm a university alumni who is trying to avoid them and to make new friends but they all know eachother and always interfere whenever I've made a new friend. Overnight, people turn against me, by the dozen. Don't people understand empirical evidence? Nothing has happened. I'm trying to live my life. I've moved away but I'm still grieving the loss of friendship as it is so rare. I lost people I thought I had some connection with.
It is hard to not react negatively. You are never wrong with how you feel and feelings of betrayal can take a while to process. Hang in there.
Almost the exact same thing has happened to me
Can you please make a video on how to deal with jealousy among kids ?
Nour, check the parenting playlist, there are a few up now.
When i was younger I was a huge school clown which terribly ruined my reputation and made people making fun of me. Sometimes even people i dont know about even jokes about me, i hate it here.
To The Beyond, none of us are the same as when we were in school. You can change and grow.
I really needed this as everything just seemed to being downhill in my secondary because of me joking around and i slipped a bit off my toungue and made a few people hate me. And I don’t want to be the funny and kind popular guy turning into someone without respect
Joe Mama, You got this. You can turn this around.
Thank you! This video will hopefully help my life alot.
Hopefully....
OnilyDarkWolf, you can do it. Stay strong.
Thank you so much for all of this good information, I really needed it now.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for all of these amazing videos! Will you do more amazing videos with a diverse group of people in your field? I am a young minority female and I never seen representations in the field of psychology. :/ I am hopeful.
I will consider this, XAudreyS. I just love people and interacting with them, no matter the culture or race. We have so much to learn from each other and role models are important. It is great you are looking for them in your life.
Just work hard, do the right thing, and have courage. We repent for our past, learn from it, and do better everyday.
My good reputation went down the drain when people spread a rumor about me being a furry (behind my back) and I didn’t know about it until recently
AstraArt, be who you are and people will understand what happened. It may take a little time.
Another brilliant video. Thank you.
Thank you for watching, and commenting, Sikhipacksweekly. Glad you are finding the videos helpful.
I have a bad reputation in my school. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I cut people out. I also had a little psychotic behaviour which made me a joke in high school. I was involved in relationships so there are rumours about me which are not fully true. So I am also slutshamed. I really need help...
vaishnavi bhogi, that is a lot to deal with. Is there someone that you can talk to about what is going on? A counselor or trusted friend? Live your life the way you want and be your best self.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I do have a counselor. I've been getting counseling since 2 months. I feel better now but the memories and bullying keeps coming in my mind. I am trying to fix my reputation . And I have made few friends too...
I can relate
@@camilla5705 hey, camilla. Thanks for reply and trying to reach out. If you relate, I would advice you to talk to your parents or teachers. You can also talk to a counselor. I know horrible being bullied feels. I reached out for help and it helped me. Hope you'll get the help you want..😄. Now I feel a lot better and I have a lot of friends. I'll just advice you to not care what other thinks but do try to make things right, if you get the chance...🥰😄
@@vaishnavibhogi326 Thank you :)
Thank you
Our pleasure.
It’s hard when people not directly hurt by you use stuff from many years ago to hurt you now. Those people are evil imo.
Thank you for watching and commenting. No one should be throwing our pasts at us.
My thought are to just ignore them and get on with my new life. They seem bitter and negative and lack kindness. Everyone should be given a second chance or we are cold barbarians.
thank you, now i know what to do :)
Great! Better days ahead for you.
My reputation was severely damaged due to the lies I’ve told just to please everyone
I hope you have learned and are able to build a new reputation, the one you want.
I made a mistake and I lied about a lot of things and now I lost my girlfriend my bestfriend my friends and also my parents, I want to mend my ways but I'm not sure how
Same mate but dont worry we will do this together 💪💪
Brinda Arun, I encourage you to try the ideas in this video. You can't change the past, so don't dwell on it. Remember the consequences of your mistakes ONLY so that you don't do the same things. Focus on what you can control at the present time. Apologies can also help your case. Need help with that? I've got you covered; here's a video: "How To Say Sorry For Hurting Someone You Love" - th-cam.com/video/0iNknc8Rtoc/w-d-xo.html It may take time and effort to fix your reputation, but don't give up hope. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
Jordan Watson, thank you for supporting others on the channel. I hope you found this video beneficial.
My experience is negativity all the time im trying to change and not to give up as easily
I will try to follow these! These seem like they will help a lot. I have had a bad reputation for years about be annoying and making stupid jokes at my school for years. I really hope I can fix my act up soon. Any tips to not laugh or not be urged to add a reply when someone says something funny? As long as that doesn't happen I won't slip up
M1thical_XD, practice counting to 10 before saying anything. Slower responses helps our brains to kick in.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV oh thank you! I will try
i was in an online orientation for my new school and there were some students who were being noisy in the chat room and when i tried to answer a question it came at the same time as a warning of the teachers to the noisy students and they kicked mo out of the orientation so now everyone in my new school thinks im very rude to teachers😞
EpicNitro AAP, sorry this happened, you can show them from your behavior and they will see that you are not rude.
interacting with crass youth my whole life, i can say calling and making amends sounds wonderful. Do I believe they would do such for every person/relationship handled immaturely? HA, that'd be the day.
DearRendar84, probably not, one is better than none.
My problem is small towns never seem to forget. Even 4-5 years later when you are no longer 14-15
Hello Paul!thanks a lot!for this helpful podcast full of sense & inner wisdom,as the ppl watching this might already realise or know for real what's like to be a victim of defamation or experience & see the changes that is happening around them when "who they are is shaken" or affected by defamation in a world indeed of easy information & powerful social media.What strikes me the most is realising how much human is so gallable & what ignorance can do!(*Everytime I share my experience,I found that Google staff made sure he delets it😮despite its within the guidelines as it has happened few times now..,
Thank you for watching and commenting.
My reputation got tainted because I was obsessed with this girl and now everyone thinks I'm a creep. I've to do 3 years in that college
I wish you well with what you decide to do next in life.
My reputation at work and at home is ruined all because due to my condition, I make mistakes that I should not be making at my age. Even when I apologize and make amends, it's a waste of time because the people at home and at work, don't forgive me ever. Sometimes I wish I was working at a different job where the people are more forgiving and understanding toward me.
Farah Ahmad, try making changes for yourself, not for everyone else. Be at peace with you.
Did you say you interviewed Frank Abaganale?! Is there a way to hear that podcast? He was that second mouse! 😁 Seriously though I've listened to some of his speeches and he's really interesting and has a good heart.
Here is a link if you would like to listen to the podcast. liveonpurposeradio.com/tag/frank-w-abagnale/ I enjoyed the interview immensely. You can find all my podcasts at drpauljenkins.com.
Im a middle schooler.. ya know.. as a male who just hit puberty everything goes wrong and i do something really bad.. reallly really bad.. and the one who get the impact "the victim" is making a gossip and its a bad one.. me who was known whose everybodys friend.. suddenly dont have any.. i dont know what to do.. for 6 months i kept it all to myself.. any tips?
Pasha Fn, hard to say with the limited information. Be friendly, be open, be non-judgmental and don't give up. Things can change quickly in middle school. You may need to look outside the group you were a part of to other people to befriend.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV might as well try that.. thanks!
Thanks so much
CaliMeMuffin, you are welcome.
I pushed a girl out of a party this day harshly, and someone said that I hit her instead of punching her when I didn’t. They lied about my actions and now many of my friends think I did it. People now think that I beat women now when this is not the case at all. It’s foking terrible man.
Any good tips for how to fix’s my reputation in this situation?
El Dal, maybe you shouldn't touch anyone harshly. They will learn over time seeing you with your temper in check.
I have a bad reputation in my school because I acted gay but took it to far 😭
Thank you for watching, Luke Stang. I hope the video gave you some ideas on how to fix your reputation. If you don't have school right now, you can use this time to change your mindset and attitude to a more positive one, and when you get back to school, start implementing the tips I give in this video. We have more videos on the channel for your age group. Please check out our "Just for kids and teens" playlist to start becoming a more positive person: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV.html
Live On Purpose TV ok thank you, also my middle school reputation really sucks right now and everyone knows me for it, I’m currently a junior in highschool
Nice
Thanks, DrSundip.
What if I messed up about 15 years ago and now have to face all these people again?
That's not immediate action is it ?
This is really bad
Hopefully you can show you have learned your lesson by the last 15 years.
Or jealousy and sabotage ruin your reputation.
Sunshine, some things take longer to repair than others.
Ok sir
Jordan, thank you for watching and commenting.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, I look forward to implementing these strategies in my life
☝Alhamdulillah Gods timing is perfect 🥰
Thank you for watching.
Makes sense
kickinbackinOC, thanks for watching.
I have a bad reputation because I’ve been mean have did bad things I act like I’m better than people but i would like to change
It is still possible to change, Bob Jaff. Be kind to others, give service whenever possible, and use positive uplifting words when speaking. It may take a while, but will be worth it in the end. Remind yourself that you have changed for the better, and don't worry about what others think of you. Thanks for watching.
Drank too much, ended up Posting something I regrettd later and Im now paying the price! Oh well, live and learn. lol
Thagy1973, glad you are learning from it. That is how we move forward.
We i kinda uh.. made a rival school hate me and now my school and their school hates me..
Skifty Kitty, I am not sure how you feel about that. What steps are you taking to mend the rift? Hope the video gives you some ideas.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV this video did gave me some ideas but now I need to find out how to use body language to actually convey how sorry I am😅
Skifty Kitty, there are some videos on body language. I also hosted an expert on my podcast a while back. Live On Purpose TV.
I've a terrible reputation for mistakes I've made getting arrested and sending vile hurtful messages to people and now all my friends disowned me what can I do besides ending my life which l already tried. Does this bad reputation ever go away and will l get them friends back?
Shane Hefferman, learn from past mistakes and it may mean getting some new friends. I don't know if they will forgive you, you don't have control over that. You do have control over your actions.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV they won't forgive me it's been almost 3 years since they last spoke to me and I have now lost my best friend through the same mistakes its eating me up to be honest realising if I just was smart I could have still had them today but it is what it is now making new friends I'm afraid is way easier said than done :(
You are a very calming and supportive person. Thank You for the information.
If I may share an experience, I would be grateful:
I have a bad reputation. I had a period of being well "groomed" and had an image of someone "well paid".
After awhile, I took much lower paying jobs in a bigger city where I studied.
Soon, I ended up not working because of health reasons and high anxiety, and finally resting at my parents house.
Because of it, people talk about me as "gold digger~hoe" and a disrespectful of the ladder.
If I take a well paid job now, people will judge me for financial "job hopping", skipping the "ladder".
Didn't have a man in my life at any point in this period.
Is there a way to fix that?
Patricia 0206, just from this brief comment it seems that you are very concerned with how other perceive you. I wouldn't worry about that, decide what you want and what is in your best interest and go for that. When you do so staying true to your principles, then it all works out.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I didn't expect the answer, and even so fast.
I appreciate Your time.
I have rhe same reputation girl . It's all about how you represent yourself now in the position you are in and especially in the career industry. Don't worry, you will outgrow it
I tried most of this when working for Derbyshire County Council and guess what? It didn't work!
Steeple Jack, what did you do next?
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Left!!!!
“Jerkily “
Thanks for watching, Rain Reign.
Live On Purpose TV no problem 💛
Dude I got it worse off than most of u. Everyone thinks I’m racist.
Kajun Kracker, actions speak pretty loudly so keep your head high and do the right thing.
I’ve had a bad reputation especially at workplaces by basically saying my piece to managers and not thinking before speaking even though I thought I was right at the time and only when calmed down have I realised how I have come across even though people agree with you at the time but when you act in the way the mood is in a workplace act in a way people talk between themselfs about x y or z and basically say what people say between themselfs to the people the same people can go against you ………….and look at you funny for acting like that then your upset because your like what I’ve said what everyone else thinks now you all think I’m a £#@& how does that work ??? Trouble is a reputation can follow you and people who don’t know you get told things by others and judge or dislike you automatically which is unfortunate even though they don’t know you just judging on what others have said I’ve done etc etc which isn’t nice I’m ashamed of my behaviour looking back but I get confused of the system of how people work lol people tell you x y and z about what they don’t like etc and when you say it to the organ grinders the same folk what agree with you are the ones turning the back on you after the event as if I’m a #£&@ then comes the paranoia as might be a sly eye or something and paranoidley you can start to think someone’s said something to that person hence the sly eye about something I’ve done before and you start to think they don’t like you naturally I’ve always found it good how people say I’d do x y z but when organ grinders there don’t say / do anything I’m the silly one doing it and it’s cost me jobs and credibility and reputation as a &#@£ which isn’t nice as from my point of view the things I’ve said and done in previous employments I only said what I thought everyone wanted to hear but when said everyone thinks your an idiot and turns against you I struggle with that as it’s like whattttttt??? Then the whole nobody likes you thoughts creep in etc etc then ye chasin trying to prove to people that actually I’m ok all that paranoia is driving you to chase peoples approval if that makes sense ……………..I’m not naturally a &£#@ there other things happen what got me to that point of giving it back …………when started world of work I found my breaking point I was bitter about things in the past and my head was just a mass of swirling thoughts ready to pop at any moment and unfortunately seeing how unfair workplaces can be it’s like I popped I found my breaking point and used to go on rants and rages regularly at things deemed unfair to the organ grinders on a daily basis and this trend followed me threw various employments in my life yes I was a man who had issues clearly but we all have a breaking point and a chapter to close and this is mine truthfully I’m ashamed and regret somethings I’ve said in the moment of madness ( I’ve had many ) however I was a literal preassure cooker waiting to go off and since starting work many years ago from Saturday boy to adult worker I’ve had many a run ins with many a boss and I am ashamed of it but if ever there’s a place where things can be seemed as unfair / unjust it’s work and all I will say is since starting work many years ago certain events what happened in the past it’s like my brain said enough I won’t take crap no more but it’s done me no favours only got me a bad rep which adds to more confusion lol which upsets me as it’s not the real me
We all learn from our experiences and it sounds like you have learned a thing or two. Good job.
Get yourself involved with animals. They know your heart. My motto is ... I Love animals, tolerate people!
I like animals and people.
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Thank you for watching.
After hearing the first tip i m outta here. It is not just harsh but inappropriate
Thanks for stopping by.
My reputation is baddie, rude, feelingless so anything you could help?
iiSimplyCookieii, if you need more help after the video go to go.liveonpurposecentral.com.