Study: Effects Of Childhood Bullying Can Last Well Into Adulthood
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- The effects of bullying can last a lifetime, a comprehensive new study in the American Journal of Psychiatry has concluded. CBS 2's Jessica Schneider reports.
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I can attest to this. I was bullied often in middle and high school -- physical intimidation, name calling, humiliation, laughed at, you name it. You can't just switch this stuff off from your mind once the bullying stops and you graduate high school and enter adult life. The emotional / mental scars stick with you for a lifetime and impact damn near every aspect of your adulthood. 30-plus years later, and I feel like I'm still paying a heavy toll for what I went through. Granted, I was also dealing with an abusive father who routinely beat the crap out of me and called me every vile name in the book. That definitely exacerbates the problem. All I went through in my childhood came together to form the perfect storm that is the dysfunctional adult I am today. This is what my adult life is about -- trying to find ways to heal that damaged inner child. I can only hope by the grace of God that I am successful in that endeavor before it's too late, and then maybe, life won't be a total disappointment. We shall see.
I went through the same. Beaten by a man daily when I was around 6 years old for 5/6 years, then bullied and abused relentlessly (& physically) by other children during high school for another 5 years throughout.
I'm now 40, my life is a total utter mess. I've failed at everything. I'm a totally damaged person. I've been diagnosed with ocd, gad, depression, ptsd, anxiety etc. Had therapy, medication. Nothing works.
I feel an intense sense of worthlessness, and have no goals or dreams or aspirations. I'm just waiting to die..
@@zephorianvephorian777 I developed schizaffective disorder from all the bullying insult school and from home. You're not alone man. I'm on disability now and have been psychiatrically hospitalized 18 times in a Decade or so.
@@zephorianvephorian777 I'm sorry to hear that. People are awful! Uggh!
Yeah and the horse shit "Just ignore them!"
@@zephorianvephorian777 Don't give up ! I am sorry what happened to you I know your going through a lot ! I know life can be difficult some times but I want you to know that your life does matter ! You are actually a lot stronger than you think ! I'll be praying for you ! Just don't give up! Your gonna be okay I witnessed bullying myself even at 25 years old I can still feel the effects of the damage it cost ! And I did have to defend my self sometimes! Just pray to our heavenly father he will guide you and comfort you! Your gonna be okay buddy!
Schools dont do enough about it.
The school system is corrupt! I feel like teachers and principals today don't necessarily care for the kids at all!
I know the comment is old but I find it funny that the school do enough when victim try to defend themselves
I was bullied not only by students but by teachers as well, and most of the time I did nothing wrong but I was an easy target for some people because I have a disability, I once contemplated suicide in high school cause it was so bad, and sometimes I have little PTSD episodes whenever I’m out.
Same for mental health facilities by government. Pure pilling you when them locking you up and losing a good job is the actual harm@@codyelmore3809
I know in California there wasn't a psy test for teachers to pass before getting hired. Hopefully that policy has changed
I’ve been bullied almost my whole life, both by my peers and weird ass adults and teachers. I was never liked, and I still don’t know why. I was raised only by my mom, I don’t really associate or know any of my family, including my siblings. I was so soft, talkative, friendly. Now I’m 18, I got friends that love me, but I will never be the same. The bullying and feeling like I’m unloved and unliked by everyone made me feel no sympathy or empathy for anybody. It made me cold. Sometimes, it makes me feel upset how much it changed me. But at least people respect me more now that I dont let them fuck with me. I’ve truly had enough. Kids are the most cold, brutal kinds of individuals, but the parents and adults that be enabling them be even worse. It is true, society really fucks up the good people.
If I were to meet you and we struck a conversation , I’m sure I and most people would find you likeable at least , people are so mean for no reason
I agree with every word. I also developed a hatred for other people, I still try to be nice, but you're gonna have a hard time having conversations with me if, I feel like I'm not gonna like you
Bo truer words. SOCIETY TARGETS GOOD PPL
Same
Read untethered soul by micheal singer
I was bullied from the age of 11 to 18. I'm 43 and have never done anything other than labouring as a job. I can't handle dealing with the public or formal work environments; Both terrify me.
I get it I've been in the same situation 🙁I work at Amazon it not easy but I push myself to go anyway. I hope things get better for you 🙂
God is with you man.
@@lilsept77🥱👎
@@lilsept77no he’s not . He’s with people stepping over us and using us .
@@alurianirudh1918 thanks for your input militant reddit atheist
When I have memorize of be being bullied I feel angry and that I wish I could get back at the kid who bullied me.
Same here….
Right there with you.
same
Same here
Does it affect any of your dating lives an adults?
Oh yeah of course, you lose all self esteem as a kid if you are bullied. It's very hard to build that positive self image later on, if not actually impossible.
From 7 to 19 I was severely bullied, ridiculed by the whole school ('zombie ´, ´weirdo ´ among other names) and beaten up in the corridors. Picked on because of less appealing appearance and poverty (cheap clothes, no money for hairdresser). At 40+ still heavy damages: poor social skills, distrust, bouts of anger, extreme introversion, depression episodes. Sometimes I would like to confront my bullies, but it might make things worse. Just passing by my old
school trigger nightmares. Have to live like this for what remains of my days
And yet these people expect you to forgive them because they are different people now, am I right?
@@CourageousbrotherNahhh. Most don't see bullying that way. They think of it as a kids' thing. In their minds it was acceptable and they will never apologize.
@@truthhurts5980 You are right about that. I'm to the point where I don't need or want them to apologize. I just prefer that they stay far away from me.
@@CourageousbrotherFrom my experiences, decades later, the bullies l had when in high school still gossip and spread slanderous rumors about me, after l completed college and university. Most do not change. They turn into hating, abusive narcs as adults. There's no pride, integrity or introspection when it comes to them.
I am suffering from this. In my mind i was afraid to fight back because I didn’t want to get in trouble. Had I know now what I known then I would be in prison now.
Back in middle school and high school, I was also a recipient of bullying. I still have PTSD episodes every once in a while. When we had these horrible childhood experiences, we ended up not sticking up for ourselves primarily because we didn't know our own self worth. We might've lacked confidence or self-respect as a result of this; the bullying, of course, exacerbated this issue.
For those of you who read this, I'm gonna tell you this right now: YOU ARE AWESOME! If an asshole insults or torments you, they're actually giving you a complement. Their behavior towards you vindicates that you, as an individual, are the antithesis of the kind of person they are. There's no greater complement than that, is there?
I’m 58, bullied from kindergarten to high school. I’m a friendly, happy person but ‘friend’ relationships never last long with me. I’m pretty sure I sabotage them because I don’t trust.
Same
Yup me too
same age, same thing xx
I was bullied and my parents focused more on how I reacted; often, they told me the people were just joking; when I took a joke, they would fuss at me and tell me how stupid I was being; so many mixed messages; now, I deal with these scars and expect others to adhere
I dont think we needed studies to prove that lmao
Bullied and abandoment, makes it hard to let stuff go.....find myself apologising almost everyday
Went through it from 4th through 8th grade. I was called every name in the book from retard to dipshit, had gum stuck on my seat, was made fun of for my name (they called me Thomas the tank engine, one kid even wrote it on the chalkboard once) had basketballs thrown at my head in gym and was shoved down the stairs and slapped across the face by two other kids once. 34 years old now and yes, it's stuck with me. The damage is done.
I used to get bullied, picked on for being that pushover, being terrorized for being that easy type. I believe what would have melancholia more intense about being bullied in the past is regretting not standing up for yourself by allowing your bully to get away with terrorizing you and putting up with being manipulated. The regretting feeling of being passive to your bully, being too nice really sucks, it's like your anger about those moments catches up to you as time goes on. But I always try my best to think of God as preventing me from becoming angry, and not allowing no one to define me. It's not easy but have to keep strong. It should be videos on regretting not standing up to your bully for people that are being hard on themselves for failing to stand up to their bullies.
People are often first bullied & victimized in their families. This is where the fear starts. This is almost never realized by mental health professionals.
Well it's true. I'm 28. Still suffering. Alone forever I guess. In my eyes. First people impression. Everyone here to hurt me. No one can be trusted.
Yup agreed
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I am 28 as well now. Also victim of bullying. Classmates were stealing even food from my backpack 😭.
Despite being tall i was bullied by shorter guys cause i didn't knew any self-defense. A part of the problem was the divorce, so in a way i was deprived of a father/man model to teach me. And mother... she didn't care/knew how to raise 2 boys - that's for sure.
When I was 5 I was chased down after school by 2 classmates, attacked from behind, beaten in the dirt then they threw my school bag over a barbed wire fence into a property protected by two barking dogs. I had to climb the 6ft fence to get the school bag, then get home. Then I was punished by my mum for being late and being dirty. I never told her what happened. It happened every day.
Yea. And the "every day" part is underestimated in terms of the damage it does. This "every day" part is what distinguishes C-PTSD (from bullyying and frequent, constant abuse) to PTSD (sudden extreme trauma that can be a 1-off event). For me, finding out about C-PTSD was a breakthrough moment, for it has shown me that there was nothing wrong with the way I evolved and react. It was a huge step forward and allowed me to adress many of my issues. Please give it a try, go check out what C-PTSD means, if you haven't already. And forgive yourself, it's ok to feel resentful and bitter towards whatever wronged you.
@@Mellonen-Galadhl agree. In these circumstances, knowledge is empowering. Those of us abused throughout childhood learn to function in survival mode, and unfortunately remain here not knowing that our feelings and emotions are normal protective responses and not just us being troubled or damaged. Understanding my response to mentally ill people's treatment of me helped me to make sense of it all, which was therapeutic.
What stunned me is that my bullies still gave me dirty looks even after I changed my entire face with surgery plus makeup and better clothes .. so never do anything for bullies they will always find a flaw
The flaw is themselves
They hate themselves
I graduated school around eight years ago and my 10th grade (15 yrs age)around ten years ago I do still have lots of anxiety due to humiliation and bullying I have endured and being made fun of and being treated like a doormat be the punching bag being a laughing stock I still don't have any friends I am still alone I don't have any social life and 25 years old I will still struggling to have a friend the friendly contact with anyone has
The hurtful effects will still last until I have my revenge.
To live well is the best karma
Does revenge heal?
35 years ago i had about 3 years in my teens that i was bullied, hunted in a way by a well know kid whom everyone was afraid of. I was walking in the mall and wasvhit hard in my back upper v part by him i turned and saw him walking away from me back to his griup of feienda qho were laughing. Samevperson was in a car and jumped me walking down the street. Almost disconnected my jaw. Did a police report nothing happened. Was attacked about 5 times in span of about 3 years. Called me at my house, do t know how, and said"be pitside your house in 10 mins or ill break all the windows. Did not happen. Bit scared me. Ive never done anything to this person. And even tried tobask him why he is doing this to me, never said anything. I was 14 and im 50 now. i cant help but still think of it, him, wanted some type of justice that was never dispensed on him. And latley saw his name on someone i knows friend list on facebook. Bad bad nightmare for me. Sry for long txt. Ty.
Sending you love and light. ❤💐🧸🌻
as a hfa man i have a history of physical aggression due to being bullied and stereotypes i dealt with my whole life which is why i have social anxiety i fear of other people judgement
I was bullied so much in my class, it started at a very young age and lasted till school ended in 2017. Till date i get nightmares of those bullies bullying me. What hurts the most is, they're doing better than me in life right now, not in touch with them but i get to know... somewhere karma should've played a role but i can only hope that.. don't know how to overcome/move on/stop the nightmares/stop thinking about them😢
Try to just let it go,forgive and think about what your nightmares are trying to tell you
@@Superman-fl5szNo.
School teacher: gives a sh*t of bulling.
School teacher: becomes upset when you don't listen carefully in the class.
Shame on them!
Wow 😢this is so true, I was bullied (which I believe they are levels of bullying scale 1-5-5 being the worst) my bullying years was scaled 4 and it made me as an adult become (at the time) hateful for humanity an felt I don’t deserved to be liked which means to be loved and have a personal connection with someone😢 thank Goodness therapy and self help, helped me to overcome (not get rid of) those hurtful
Childhood memories that now it made me stronger as an individual that can tribute to society, I didn’t lose my virginity until I was (no shame in saying this) 48 with someone special I met because of that long lasting Trauma 😢 to know people and meet someone to share a life with. All this happened to me from Elementary to middle school high school Kids etc what most of them made me feel insecure, intimidated, inadequate as a human being let alone disrespecting me as a peer, 😢😢
for me it's a 2 but the effects are definitely there, I'm going to therapy to build up my assertiveness and doing stuff for my personal growth harder than my peers, it's helping to permanently heal
@@ZaphX796 awesome 👏 you will heal through one day at a time, I’m with you👍🥂🌹❤️
May I ask you something? It was helpful but you still feel the pain, am I right. I think you can't totally heal. Or am I wrong :(
And because of this, I would always get depression and suicidal thoughts. I don't mean to be offensive saying bad thinga or anything but it's the truth. I hate my school life now everyone iny school thinks I'm a weird person because it's sad, okay? I am just trying to socialize and this bully in my school here ruins my whole school life. He's been putting my life with his friends in to ruins. I hope anyone can understand.
I was so bully in school. They school did nothing. I have PTSD. Yesterday a meet a bully but that person never is changed. Still bully.
Dude same, they are still saying the same rude and racist stuff about me. They never changed at all. It hurts so much.
I was bullied and it definitely has lasting impacts to this day and I’m 43.
What’s so hard about this to understand? I hate the people bullied me and the ones who stood by and watched it happen and I’ll probably never overcome this.
We're all just animals in a cage.
Not all. Bullies. And people who innocent pure of heart suffer
I was abused and bullied throughout my early years of life. I still feel the effects now in my 30s. The only 3 things that will help my healing process are fitness, martial arts, and tactical training. I need to master all 3 to fully heal.
Im bullied from 7 to 12 . Im now 19 have anxietys , low self esteem. They killed somethibg inside me. Im became reserved and im low educated and all those bullies are high educted now. I wish i could take revenge on them :(
Me too. Those ages are brutal and the bullying is the worst. I'm also low educated and dropped out with PTSD. I want revenge as well. I want closure. I cant go on my life like this forever.
The hardest thing for me to overcome was the negative self talk. All that time I spent being told I wasn’t good enough caused me to start believing it myself.
I was bullied through the ages of 5-13. Idk how much its affected me
It weird that I still get bullied as an adult? By other adults? Not all of course but I mean in general. I'm struggling to trust people and make connections unfortunately.
Bullied people bully. Ask a prison guard. Or a narcissistic family member.
Narcissists are created by either being spoiled in childhood, or picked on and bullied by PARENTS.
Not all bullied people became bullies...Some of us would never inflict our pain on innocent people
why has this been up for 6 years and only have 1 comment weird
probably because most people involved into watching it were busy drugging/drinking themselves to death, homicide or planning a self-operative death.
My brother and I were segregated by our school from 1st-8th grade. We went to a parochial school in a tourist town that the church founded. We did not reside in that area. We were very poor. Many times our water was either shutoff, hot water heater broke, or we had leaky pipes that destroyed our floors.
Instead of helping us or protecting us as teachers, especially parochial should do, we were made a laughing stock and the butt of everyones jokes. This did not just occur by students. Their parents would take part. A few teachers would instigate and join in. Others just ignored it. Two stood up for us.
We even had pastors that would inform the other students of financial help requests my family had asked the church for.
I was relieved to leave there. High school was the opposite. I had friends. I then enlisted in the Marines. Attended community college, deployed to Iraq, married my wife, have a family, and a few VERY select friends.
I'm 20, was bullied throughout middle school and highschool for being a nerd, im terrified of talking to new people, I hate making eye contact, haven't had a formal diagnosis but I'm pretty sure I have some kind of depression. I'm not happy, haven't been in a long time
Hi, dude. I hope you are doing okay.
@@TS-678 kinda, still afraid to approach. But I'm getting in shape and saving money
Very true... I remember everything the exact people and although I cannot stand them for what they have done I would not do the crap they did to me in return...
I was bullied as child. I blame the bullies & the ones who I thought was my friends
I am witness to this i was bullied by my brother until now the memory is there
Thats true
I was bullied in 5th grade, the worst. Being that I was different, because of a mental illness, had issues learning and was overweight. It was constant and if I got emotional and had a temper tantrum, I was told by the teacher to be quiet and sit down. The whole class did what the 1 main bully did. So, I was tormented by the whole class. If I walked home from school, no matter what route I took, I would be run over by 2 of the bullies bikes. I never felt safe and the bike sh-t was on almost a daily basis. If we played dodge ball in PE, because I was clumsy and uncoordinated, I was always “it”. So, everyone else took turns hitting me as hard as they could. None of the teachers did anything about this, and I had 5 teachers. I couldn’t even get away from the mean girls, from my class in Girl Scouts. I didn’t earn as many badges, because I wasn’t invited to anyone’s houses and had to do everything myself, which was overwhelming. My mother sent certified letters to the school. But, nothing happened. The worst bullying boy was singled out by the principal for paddling. When that happened, he got worse. I also had bruises everywhere because of the bikes. Nothing seemed to help. So, I complained to my mother. She told me in frustration about the whole thing to “go fight my own battles”. Then, because I was using for to get comfort, I was told to get on the scale and yelled at because I gained weight. Of course you bet I had a crying jag. I hated those, because they were scary and I felt out of control. Every time I had a crying jag, they were miniature nervous breakdowns. I had to stop complaining and pray that the bullies would leave me alone. I was bullied in 4th grade by the same boy. But, the teacher had him under control and I walked home in peace. I was bullied from 1st grade to 3rd grade. But, the school had it under control. It was 5th grade that traumatized me so and I found out that I was one of the rare people who had schizoaffective disorder throughout my childhood. It’s totally amazing that I didn’t commit suicide, when I was in 5th grade. But, in 6th grade I did get anorexia nervosa, before anyone knew what it was. I went from 145 pounds to 75 pounds on a 5 foot frame, which stunted my growth. Then, I switched to overeating. In 9th grade I had my first hospitalization. My sister used to bully me, until my hospitalization. I don’t agree with my grandparents telling her she was the cause of my problems. Because she was the one who saw me when I was behind the house cutting my index finger until I had to get stitches. She didn’t say anything about it, because it was traumatic for her to witness. The deeper I went, the better. That’s one reason why I was hospitalized. But, they don’t have medicines, like they have now. Sadly to say, my schizoaffective disorder has gotten worse over time. I also picked a profession where I was bullied a lot. But to be fair, I couldn’t work in the fast paced environments that I was in. Now, I am not able to work and it’s the happiest I’ve been. Nobody bullies me now.
me too it's very situational 15-19 years ago i was bullied and when we have grand alumni I joined for the first time and all the embarrassing moments, bullying verbal and physical sync in my mind! It's starts comparing myself especially I was fresh un failures involving a girl who is 6 years in past relastionship at age of 20 and now I started comparing myself again to their highschool life and my highschool life
Schools need to treat bullying equal to physical violence or racism. If I call a kid a freak because they’re small then teacher just says “now be nice”. If I punch a kid and knock his tooth out I’m suspended if I yell the N-word at a kid I’m suspended. It should be just the same if I tell a kid he’s a loser because he’s small or stutters.
Bullies are just as bad as sex offenders in my opinion.
Why I support homeschooling 100%
Horrible for social development and heavily depends on if the family is financially well off
Survivor of west bridgewater school systems west bridgewater mass 02379. It was hell on earth until i just quit.
Yep.
Hey I am from india.I was bullied by my peers in high school and 11th and 12th.They ostracized me.Now I am here in law school.Not knowing if I will ever make it and succeed in my life.
I'd love to see a massively successful person who was continuously bullied as a child.. who didn't find fame in Hollywood. Does such a person exist?
Elon Musk
@@tomasleote6768 Wonder what extent of bullying he went through. I read his book and while I heard he was bullied, it didn't elaborate much on his bullying experience.
My private secondary school is shitload. The vice principal of the school is a good teacher, when in reality she always ignores me when I getting into a bullying incident with someone I hate so much. I have severe anger issues so I can understand that there will be a lot of comments. But I get so angry at my bully that I start to get violent, and low and behold I'm in trouble. And he gets away with this. I always feel like what I'm doing to him is wrong and that I should be ashamed of that. I hate my vice principal so so much. She doesn't think clearly and she doesn't have a clue what is school bullying. She's shit. I hate her, she chooses the bully's side for everything only because of my anger issues. I'm a very very angry person. I'm sorry if I am being a bit like a person in therapy. I really am.
Lol you cannot stop bullying. But what you can do is stand up against them. Don't be afraid to throw down if you have to. Bullies do not bully confident people.
Ummmm did they just say they tracked them? Em... am I being a crazy person right now
Schools never sort these things out
I used to get bullied and now im f***** sad thing noone bullies me now cause im intimidating
It really does
True
I've been bullied throughout most of my teenage years - The after-effects were shockingly painful for Me and it took Me through arduous journey. In the end, I got psychiatric help, but it is kinda too late.
I'm 24 and I have aspirations to be a Serial killer - because most of the times I feel only resentment and hatred for most things in Life.
They Gotta Pay !
I am thinking about getting my revenge from bullies, but I do not think that life is worth it to response them for the sake of my current position. Sometimes I want to beat them as hell, sometimes collecting all of them and kill in the first place. But, that's life...
I am reading the catcher in the rye to ease my pain, I suggest that read books, get a hobby to hang out with yourself and listen music.
Oh really??? I had no idea???
Same people we shop with ect
Is that plank in the background
The problem in the case of bullying has little to do with the children and everything to do with negligent adults.
Teachers don't want the hassle of dealing with the issues of kids, teachers don't give a crap about kids that are not their own.
It used to be parents raised their children and teachers taught classes, now nobody does either.
A kid had a loving and supportive mother to come home to after school, and a dad that was allowed to be a dad. Now they have neither.
It turns out that the decision to drastically reshape society from top to bottom, to appease a fringe group of radical feminist lesbian spinsters, may not have been well advised.
Oh well! You got your cake, now you have to eat it too. The children will bear the consequences of our failures, so we don't have to.
you are a bully
Bullying has been around forever.
I am not sure if radical feminists are the reason. For me, it is the departure from tribal communities. "It takes a village to raise a child" and all that. This is how humans evolved for hundreds of thousands of years and THEN, with the industrial revolution, came no more tribes, everyone moved to cities and both parents toil in factories / corporate offices so the children are sent to this "prison for kids" called school. To my mind, this here is the problem, and a lot of people avoid addressing it, obviously, since you need to re-think the entire post-industrialization society in order to improve this situation.
31 and it effects my relationship with men because it was always guys the bullied me.
0:50 bro looks like if Tony Hinchcliffe was a Giga Chad
This based af
I got asked (what is she trasgender ?)becouse I selfharmed from 2 boys wanting me for sex and having girlfriebds I felt degraded I thought it was degrading so I got bipolar and selfharmed and a boy that one of the pretty girls dated in school asked what is she transgender becouse I have scars then I got sizoeffective disorder and I hear voices and I hear his voice saying I look like a man when I look like a beautiful women I honestly have. Modeling contract but the abuse gets to me I feel like everyone jelouse and abusive but i v realize that im smart and that im ganna be a teacher or something and maby ill go to tharepy and find a bf to help me through it my tharpist told me ways to cope with the negative voices
There are not enough resources online for adults that suffered trauma from dealing with kids in school from K-12. I was so done with school, I refused to go to college. I still suffer with hurt and anger about it at 45.