How I Found Out My Husband Of 9 Years Was Cheating On Me, Girrl I left

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  • @sanelisiwetonga7939
    @sanelisiwetonga7939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +515

    This is making me realize how important it is to have a separate circle and life outside of your partner. Dependency is so dangerous!

    • @nomvulazwane3525
      @nomvulazwane3525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Powerful cc and bult yourself up.

    • @emiejacktv2889
      @emiejacktv2889 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      True

    • @littlecrowders7089
      @littlecrowders7089 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Very true. I was so broken until I started letting a few friends into my life.

    • @Val-Valessa
      @Val-Valessa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very true

    • @shiyelia
      @shiyelia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly !!!

  • @carolmalesa6791
    @carolmalesa6791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +910

    Dont judge a woman that stays, also dont judge the one who leaves. Never regret loving someone wholeheartedly

    • @nomthimalunga7880
      @nomthimalunga7880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

      I feel so sorry for women who still talks like you, l can't wait until you have a daughter and also tell her that

    • @sweetboneandy2550
      @sweetboneandy2550 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I love this

    • @Lebzzza1
      @Lebzzza1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +104

      Most women stay because that’s their primary source of income. Always have your own so you don’t get stuck in marriage prison. Staying won’t change him. It enables him.

    • @neomalete5832
      @neomalete5832 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I wish I could relike this ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @chabalichabali8714
      @chabalichabali8714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      But why stay but keep on complaining and crying?
      If you stay and you happy then good

  • @nosieoneverything2288
    @nosieoneverything2288 3 ปีที่แล้ว +207

    What I learned from this is leave while you young and fresh and still stand a chance to turn your life around. Thank you Owamie❤ and you are strong girl!

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes ninja cos the danger signs are always there is we don't pay attention enough

    • @funtasiakhuhlane8717
      @funtasiakhuhlane8717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      100%

    • @tebogosithole8920
      @tebogosithole8920 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You can always reinvent yourself , most women are scared of starting over and honestly starting over makes you rediscover yourself it's so liberating 🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤

    • @kerrysmith9666
      @kerrysmith9666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      98% of men cheat, Even your next relationship may be worse, so please forgive him and go and reconcile with him.

    • @erickaortiz4385
      @erickaortiz4385 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@kerrysmith9666 Nope. You can knowingly stay, Anita. I would rather move on until I find the 2%. Disease exists for a reason. If he is cheating, you are opening yourself up to all of his partners' ailments.

  • @legaltalkwithshazzy
    @legaltalkwithshazzy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    I admire your strength for leaving. Girls are trained to “keep a man” and that if he cheats then it’s somehow “your fault” I really admire that strength. Love this for you

  • @misskmo1949
    @misskmo1949 3 ปีที่แล้ว +268

    As your sisters, we honestly don't care about his side of the story.

  • @sphelelezwane3608
    @sphelelezwane3608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +487

    Since you mentioned that Mr B didn't want a wife that made more money than him and all that, I noticed that you held back when you were in your marriage. Since you've been separated I've noticed such a huge difference, you're glowing, spending money on yourself, I feel like you lived too much for your marriage and not for yourself. I'm so happy you left that man I'm in love with single Owamie♥️

    • @hudihoodz
      @hudihoodz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      We could see how much she loved him she sacrificed a lot for him.
      Glad she moved on before losing herself!

    • @Nokss_20
      @Nokss_20 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      Unfortunately when you are financially independent, chances of ever finding marriage decrease by 60%. I'm speaking from experience...but it's better than diminishing yourself. 💛🧡

    • @mynameisgift
      @mynameisgift 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen

    • @sphelelezwane3608
      @sphelelezwane3608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@Nokss_20 exactly we don't need men that are intimidated by a woman's success in our lives ✊

    • @sibongilemngomezulu3454
      @sibongilemngomezulu3454 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yeh mogirl is looking free though she did not know she was a prisoner until now

  • @bongim9141
    @bongim9141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    Owami you were smitten and your love was pure . You fought a good fight.

  • @simi9397
    @simi9397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    It is definitely painful when someone checks out of the relationship leaving the other still invested.

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ninja it's so painful

    • @finance-talk
      @finance-talk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You're very beautiful

    • @nongcebomchunu3894
      @nongcebomchunu3894 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Worst pain

    • @simi9397
      @simi9397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@finance-talk thank you. thank you. thank you.

    • @lizziecn2729
      @lizziecn2729 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It hurts so bad, letting go and acceptance are the hardest

  • @KalogoMojalefa
    @KalogoMojalefa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Its so scary to me how y'all can be chilling and laughing, having an amazing time, while someone is busy on their phone betraying you in that very same moment. Im so happy that you are healing and in a better space. God will continue bless and heal you sis. I love that you know your worth. Keep shining

  • @alciviaglam
    @alciviaglam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +313

    I was in relationship with a guy and he left me for his ex and didn't even tell me, I just saw it on Facebook the way things ended up was so terrible to me, I felt like someone died. I've never experienced a pain like this, it was really terrible. I'm still recovering.
    -sorry for my English and much love from Moz 🇲🇿

    • @modikiramaisa4619
      @modikiramaisa4619 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I’m sorry babe same thing happened to me my Congolese ex married his ex behind my back I also found out on social media but via Instagram I too was crushed 💔💔💔 and I’m still healing I hope u heal and work on yourself

    • @nontombibashe571
      @nontombibashe571 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I am so sorry dear this happened to me also still recovering and some days i will find myself calling him

    • @alciviaglam
      @alciviaglam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@modikiramaisa4619 Amen...We'll be ok.

    • @alciviaglam
      @alciviaglam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@nontombibashe571 Im sorry for u dear but one day We'll look back and thank God for everything.

    • @alciviaglam
      @alciviaglam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@modikiramaisa4619 we'll be okay dear.

  • @beautymellz5600
    @beautymellz5600 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    My Aunt found out her husband had been cheating. She stayed because she loved him/didn't have the courage to leave, that is a question I am still asking myself. Nonetheless, they both got infected n both have passed.
    My uncle used to date one woman after another. He got infected and wasn't taking it easy emotionally n mentally. He died.
    Leaving a cheating partner is not easy but it's worth it especially when you have children to live for

    • @precious5106
      @precious5106 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      the dying part is even more sad

    • @sexyface5623
      @sexyface5623 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am so sorry for your loss

    • @Earthomo
      @Earthomo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It’s worth it when you have YOURSELF to live for first! Men are just human like us. We can’t live our life only for another human. Love self first.

    • @charitynamakau7531
      @charitynamakau7531 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very sad

    • @justine8455
      @justine8455 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Even the bible say don't devorce .but if it's a cheating then devorce

  • @SimzRight
    @SimzRight 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I relate to you having to leave... U gatta do watchu gatta do

    • @simplyme532
      @simplyme532 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey Simz🤗

    • @SimzRight
      @SimzRight 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@simplyme532 hey Mntase ❤️

    • @rirhandzubaloyi6717
      @rirhandzubaloyi6717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mtaka dad!

    • @SimzRight
      @SimzRight 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@rirhandzubaloyi6717 Mntase

    • @SimzRight
      @SimzRight 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@emelymoeletsi6566 Mntaka Aunty

  • @arccym3615
    @arccym3615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    The glow after divorce 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @Rele_M
    @Rele_M 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    I just realized that print on Owamie's t-shirt..😅😊
    You being able to talk and laugh about this shows a lot of healing on your part...we are proud of you. 🥺 If know your worth was a person...WE ARE LED. ❤

  • @MamaBearSA
    @MamaBearSA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    The fact that he keeps on saying cover up your cleavage even though there's literally nothing showing is also a red flag. And the fact that you knew there's nothing showing but tried over and over again to cover up shows your commitment to him and putting his needs first before your own. As women we keep on doing this💔So sorry mamas that you had to go through this. Love, light and healing to you sis❤

    • @hlengiweyourstruly
      @hlengiweyourstruly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Thought I was the only one who noticed

    • @Munei_Twin
      @Munei_Twin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      He was distant actually 😪

    • @MamaBearSA
      @MamaBearSA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@hlengiweyourstruly it's those subtle controlling tendencies hey. Possessive over her because he knows what he's doing outside

    • @MamaBearSA
      @MamaBearSA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Munei_Twin 💔 and when she got up and he couldn't wait to get on his phone nje. My heart sank to my knees

    • @Munei_Twin
      @Munei_Twin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@MamaBearSA and the way our Ninja was so bubbly ,yazin💔

  • @sibongilemngomezulu3454
    @sibongilemngomezulu3454 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Mina am here for the glow,luv women who take care of themselves even if they're going through something. Tnx to my dear mom for instilling that in me

  • @salphinaseale8165
    @salphinaseale8165 3 ปีที่แล้ว +317

    This Pandemic has shown us true colors of many. Many marriages ended because partners couldn't stand each other over the pandemic or thought they loved each other, only to find out that they love each other from a distance

    • @triciakekana
      @triciakekana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      So sad though

    • @salphinaseale8165
      @salphinaseale8165 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@triciakekana very sad

    • @beewest5704
      @beewest5704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Sad but true. I know many lockdown/ Covid divorces & breakups. Many cheaters had no reason to be in the streets so they were found out.

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes

    • @realenglishzone
      @realenglishzone 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@triciakekana 7

  • @Lebzzza1
    @Lebzzza1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I can’t compliment you enough for being brave and leaving your marriage. It shows you know your worth. I wish the same kind of bravery for other women in the same situation. Bekezela only makes it worse. Next thing the sidechick is pregnant. Run🏃🏽‍♀️ ladies 🏃🏽‍♀️

  • @nkulumlangeni
    @nkulumlangeni 3 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I seriously think we as Ninjas who loved Owamie and Big guy together also need to heal, watching the insert my heart is sore I really thought this love was forever 💔

  • @lydiahlongwane6820
    @lydiahlongwane6820 3 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I think i am you when i was inlove. Literally had no friends, he was my bestie and drove me everywhere literally

    • @hudihoodz
      @hudihoodz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      This was me too but I'm not complaining. I loved it! I miss my hubby so much
      RIP babe!

    • @thatobaloyi6194
      @thatobaloyi6194 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      That's how it's supposed to be but the quality of men we have at our disposal

    • @MsKay287
      @MsKay287 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@hudihoodz ❤❤❤

    • @lydiahlongwane6820
      @lydiahlongwane6820 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@hudihoodz sending love and hugs ninja

    • @lydiahlongwane6820
      @lydiahlongwane6820 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@thatobaloyi6194 you see the type of hurt i was hurt, i doubt i will have that type again. After 8 years, you are left with no one and so much pain. I went and bought myself a car because wow and met me some venda dude but 0 romance he literally stands me up on all dates. His driver is a stand in🤣🤣🤣

  • @LawChatsWithMadeline
    @LawChatsWithMadeline 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I sincerely admire you for leaving. Not many can chose themselves like that

  • @vanessascorner7501
    @vanessascorner7501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    I remember him saying the lock down will prevent him from meeting his side chicks, in a joking way

  • @TheSmileycece
    @TheSmileycece 3 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Theres a physiological reason why we miss the red flags with people we love. It's not that people don't always see them, sometimes they notice the little bits but when you love somebody you want to believe they want the best for you. That's the only reason why. Even family of murders find it hard sometimes to initially believe somebody they think they know so well would ever be capable of something like that.

    • @nomthimalunga7880
      @nomthimalunga7880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      For me I think you think someone is NOT CAPABLE of doing you like that because you know that wena you'll NEVER do such to them.....JUST Because you'll never cheat on your partner or do them dirty doesn't mean they'll never do that to you but what can we say LOVE blinds us for a certain period of time but once things start repeating themselves make note of each event, right it down in your mind and tell yourself to stop running away from the truth.

    • @angelk3912
      @angelk3912 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It’s called Stockholm syndrome. It’s so easy for a woman to fall in love with her abuser... sad 😞

  • @thandolwethu_SibuM
    @thandolwethu_SibuM 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Thank you for choosing and loving yourself more❤ and for showing other women that it's possible and it's okay to choose you no matter how broken you're but always choose you.
    Otherwise Men remain the biggest disappointment and they'll always embarrass you.PERIOD!!
    Ninja nation ☕✍❤

  • @tebogorammutla1160
    @tebogorammutla1160 3 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    talking about people who know their WORTH chile

    • @preciousdiamond1387
      @preciousdiamond1387 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What does Chile mean?

    • @crzyrdr
      @crzyrdr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@preciousdiamond1387 is 🤣🤣🤣Safricans adopting American lingo. Chile=Child

    • @nosindisomyeni
      @nosindisomyeni 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen

  • @asiphileni8949
    @asiphileni8949 3 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Cheating don't have an excuse. Its sad to see marriage ending but mental health do not have a cure . May God bless you owami

  • @Stephanie_Binla
    @Stephanie_Binla 3 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    Well being a good woman these days comes with a lot of consequences. God exposed him because he saw you were not fairly treated !! Love you Ninja

  • @flowerchialde
    @flowerchialde 3 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    I feel like God is the one that made you take that phone and he finally exposed him. The decision was tough but you were brave enough to choose yourself.
    May many people learn from you.
    I stan! You're a real ninja 🖤

  • @portiampatiramoshayi8899
    @portiampatiramoshayi8899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    AFTER NINE YEARS YOU STILL CHOOSE YOURSELF ,I SALUTE . AND WHAT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU IF YOU WERE NOT FINANCIALLY STABLE ? Keep on loving yourself 🌹🌹💕

    • @chabalichabali8714
      @chabalichabali8714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      If you can still go back to the village or location then so be it
      Than to sleep in a mansion with tears

    • @portiampatiramoshayi8899
      @portiampatiramoshayi8899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@chabalichabali8714 yes that's true and better loose material things than loosing yourself to not a cheater but a serial cheat 😲 I salute you Mtase💃💃💃

    • @sashalistemb6879
      @sashalistemb6879 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@chabalichabali8714 u can say that again and again.. I wish I had the courage

    • @chabalichabali8714
      @chabalichabali8714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sashalistemb6879 the fact that you can see what is right, that means you already have courage its just a matter of time.
      Those without courage are those that are still in denial

  • @tellyourstorywithlorraine8629
    @tellyourstorywithlorraine8629 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Never regret loving him, he will surely miss your love.

  • @vonaniusiba2348
    @vonaniusiba2348 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    No one deserves to be cheated on. That is one thing in a relationship that makes the partner who get cheated feel like they are not good enough.

  • @modikiramaisa4619
    @modikiramaisa4619 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Shame u really loved him it’s so evident. Everything that is done in the dark comes to light I hope you continue healing and bettering your life sis ❤️

  • @madamck5336
    @madamck5336 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    It's so scary looking at how happy you guys were before all that shende went down iyoh amadoda the men hai

    • @minkz002
      @minkz002 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      “Amadoda the Men” 😂

    • @realest_Tate
      @realest_Tate 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yhuu im shook

    • @loveandlight3486
      @loveandlight3486 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Scary hey.. n really sad!

  • @PhindileNdimande
    @PhindileNdimande 3 ปีที่แล้ว +242

    Let me comment even before I watch. We appreciate your transparency Ninja. You are helping and healing many. I applaud you for your boldness , wisdom and courage to leave. You did not subject yourself to such lowly treatment. You deserve better and you continue to see better. If more women would value themselves as you did. Such will heal the nation.
    We love you ninja ♥️🌹

    • @lebom2456
      @lebom2456 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen ❤️🙌🏽❤️

    • @letushilaalina
      @letushilaalina 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nothing is as beautiful as women that choose themselves ❣️

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You have said it ninja i respect your wisdom God bless you

    • @PhindileNdimande
      @PhindileNdimande 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@lebom2456 amen ninja 🌹♥️

    • @PhindileNdimande
      @PhindileNdimande 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@letushilaalina it’s beautiful and it is to be honoured 🌹

  • @sinazonke2
    @sinazonke2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    The Pandemic did dent into people relationships or let me say most people true colors shown and I am glad you choose your worth in that situation

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Heyi the pandemic has exposed a lot

    • @sithembiledlamini9652
      @sithembiledlamini9652 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Choosed?🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @sinazonke2
      @sinazonke2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@sithembiledlamini9652 Hamba English teacher with your red pen

    • @sithembiledlamini9652
      @sithembiledlamini9652 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sinazonke2 🤣😅😅😅

    • @ToxxicMafia
      @ToxxicMafia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Many of us had to leave our side chicks because of the pandemic and working from home. We ended things before getting caught. Most of us cheat but we are also capable of stopping, especially after getting caught or after getting hurt by our stupid side chicks.

  • @tshegofatsomonare8846
    @tshegofatsomonare8846 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Yoh, the clip at the end is ripping me apart. How things changed in a matter of minutes. Yah noh 👏🏽

    • @whynotKelly
      @whynotKelly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      just imagine

    • @prudencedantye9297
      @prudencedantye9297 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Even though they were laughing and all, he was talking to her in a condescending manner. I was shook😳 yoh🙀

    • @hichiive
      @hichiive 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@prudencedantye9297 I too noticed that.

    • @vuyelwanodlawu2571
      @vuyelwanodlawu2571 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yhuuu😭😭💔

    • @anythinggoeswithmisspim7615
      @anythinggoeswithmisspim7615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ei🥺😢
      Go sad maan😩

  • @chi2om
    @chi2om 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’ve always said this. If you cheat, you no longer love me. Or don’t love me enough to respect me. Respect is the least you can give in a relationship, especially a marriage. Nah I can forgive but I never forget. Cheating isn’t an accident.

  • @delieybeechauke5343
    @delieybeechauke5343 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You are a strong woman Owamie❤.
    I have so much love for you

  • @roslynjones5886
    @roslynjones5886 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow!!! This is the first time I’m watching your channel. I commend you for standing up for yourself. My ex-husband cheated on me too. I didn’t leave the first time I found out. Mostly because we had children and I was a stay at home mother.
    I hope many women are listening to the lessons you are teaching. God bless you my sister

  • @vuyolwethuntsomi1465
    @vuyolwethuntsomi1465 3 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    divorce is similar to a passing of a loved one.

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Passing is better than seeing him with another woman you begin asking yourself what is it that she has that I don't have

    • @thamichauke5639
      @thamichauke5639 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I'm scared of marriage 😭😭😭

    • @WNdaba
      @WNdaba 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Haaaaa, at least you know a dead loved one is gone and only hope they are in a better place and probably can now see all your efforts and love you had for them. Divorce!!!!! I can never wish it for even my worst enemy. That sh..t is painful. I have experienced death and divorce.

    • @mugalumyriam37
      @mugalumyriam37 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's very easy to move on when kids are not involved

    • @WNdaba
      @WNdaba 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@mugalumyriam37 kids or no kids, it's still painful. I had no kids, 2yrs down the line I am still healing. The pain is still excruciating.

  • @sphiwesihlenonhlanhla3612
    @sphiwesihlenonhlanhla3612 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Am I an essential worker?, Is gossiping essential workoo? That made me laugh out loud unexpectedly 🤣🤣

  • @BUILDINGCOMWITHBUBUM
    @BUILDINGCOMWITHBUBUM 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I've been beaten by mjolo a lot 🙉 and when I saw you guys loving each other it somehow brought me hope. But when you came with that video of divorce yoooh I realized that love is really what needs to be nurtured by both parties if not then let go before it gets sour. I'm so proud that in all you chose You, that's so important.

  • @realest_Tate
    @realest_Tate 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The closing clip🥺 so sad you were happy and there was someone out there laughing at u coz they knew man had already checked out😔

  • @eudeciamainganya5012
    @eudeciamainganya5012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I commend you for that decision, a true example of practice what you preach

  • @lifewithqueenSolo
    @lifewithqueenSolo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Oh my goodness Ninja, the betrayal, the hurt, the disappointment you had to experience. I thank god for your strength & courage. Life is only going to be better from here, the future is bright Ninja.

  • @booairmow
    @booairmow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    After God, FEAR MEN😭🙌🏾

  • @powertalks6936
    @powertalks6936 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Lets get together Ninjas and appreciate the Background ✊
    You look beautiful owamie❤😊

  • @confidencekhena1660
    @confidencekhena1660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    ey , some leave , some stays depends on the situation , but i think what made u leave is because you had enough money to start over , you were financially stable and you knew that u will move to a fancy apartment and have enough money to buy comfort food . and wine , others they dont know where they will go or how they are going to survive without if they leave their husbands , so my point is being financially independent made it easy for u , others shame they are bekezeling for the sake of survival not bcz they still love their spouses , so ladies let work hard , push so that when shit happens we will know our next move will be us not going to poverty or backroom with rats...but it will b an upgrade to a fancy apartment or house , good luck Owami , u seem happy

    • @mariankuna1428
      @mariankuna1428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree with you my sister...however, sometimes its deeper than a woman's independence and having their own income. I know of close women in my life who still run after a man regardless of his cheating, manipulative skills and lies in the name of 'societal status' perceived as a success when you're married. Others even go to an extreme and say "he can cheat with whoever he wants but at the end he comes back to me and I'm the one who has his last name". Sometimes we lack self love, setting boundaries and the absence of a father does contribute at times...income and independence does not always make us as independent as we think of we haven't resolved profound issues and insecurities from childhood and previous experiences.

  • @kundajudymwanza5844
    @kundajudymwanza5844 3 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    "Is gossiping essential work"😂😂😂😂

    • @maseisamolapo9302
      @maseisamolapo9302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂

    • @queenm2723
      @queenm2723 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Haha no!

    • @nontobekombokazi8445
      @nontobekombokazi8445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣

    • @simplygee7738
      @simplygee7738 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I have been shacky listening to the Owami bcoz I could relate to my relationship as well.. Moguy told me on my face that he was no longer interested and I thought I was gonna die coz I felt I was written Reject on my forehead I almost got hit buy a car after a just walked into the driveway
      But just when Owami said is gossiping an essential work I laughed my lungs out

  • @Mvula_90
    @Mvula_90 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    That time when you mentioned your going to divorce him and marry him out of property, that’s when I realized there’s something wrong and those days you were drinking on every video

  • @tasneembashir4880
    @tasneembashir4880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Love the new background😍 its perfect!

  • @patiencevhulade1754
    @patiencevhulade1754 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Ninja signing in 💞
    Look at how Owamie was sooo happy , jolly, inlove but hey things happen

  • @ReviesWithMe
    @ReviesWithMe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    most people always say I will never get married because I don’t bekezela, am just never the same once the person cheat so the best for me is to leave..

  • @malefuivy245
    @malefuivy245 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    It's so amazing how everyone changes within a blink of an eye... Ya'll were so happy that night 😢

    • @zandilemngxuma8460
      @zandilemngxuma8460 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😔

    • @beautymellz5600
      @beautymellz5600 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nothing lasts forever even ppl don't live forever everything comes to an end

  • @The-truth-about-the-truth
    @The-truth-about-the-truth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    So proud of you. You made a decision to leave the table once love was no longer being served.

  • @drbella3524
    @drbella3524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Phones are gonna be the death of us. I found out the same on my birthday, 4 days after we got married. I’m still going through it now. I’m very depressed and having a hard time moving on. Big ups to you Owami. Wish I had the strength.

    • @minkz002
      @minkz002 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      When was your birthday sis? Strength to you 🤍 I hope you get through it.

    • @Skhayism
      @Skhayism 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sending you love. Nobody deserves that pain. 💐

    • @modikiramaisa4619
      @modikiramaisa4619 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      4 days after your wedding omg 😮 what happened to the honeymoon phase ? I’m so sorry sis .... why are you depressed ? I’m guessing he got caught and is remorseful or he simply went back to cheating ? Sending u strength and love

    • @drbella3524
      @drbella3524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@minkz002 June 9th. With time wethu. It feels like time is still but I’m praying I snap back into my best independent self.

    • @drbella3524
      @drbella3524 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@modikiramaisa4619 yey there was none. I moved to a whole different continent to be with this person, lockdown happened and I couldn’t do anything. I was stuck with him. My depression is from being all alone in a foreign country with no family and friends for support. COVID, tryna figure out how I could put myself in such a situation. How I feel like such a failure. I came here to study but the only thing I obtained is heart break. I’ve been independent all my life and now I feel like my life is on this guys hands coz obviously this is his territory. Ngaske ndife.
      I’m on medication wethu and I’ll get through it.
      PS: I over shared.

  • @aronakabasia9625
    @aronakabasia9625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    "Is gossiping essential work" 😂😂😂

  • @Rele_M
    @Rele_M 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    "It was like a movie." 😂🤣😂🤣😂

    • @angelk3912
      @angelk3912 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Men will force you to be an actress 🙆🏽‍♀️😡

    • @candychi8307
      @candychi8307 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@angelk3912 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you killed me

    • @Rele_M
      @Rele_M 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@angelk3912 😂😂🤣😂😭

    • @bronwynza3582
      @bronwynza3582 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Angel K you killed me😂

  • @Motshidisimadito
    @Motshidisimadito 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    You guys looked so happy 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭haii mara amadoda why mara why💔💔korr just ruining such a beautiful thing 🚮

  • @KATLEGO_KAY
    @KATLEGO_KAY 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I’d be lying if I say Green is not your color 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @TheRedTablewithMokgadi1
    @TheRedTablewithMokgadi1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I was watching one of the vlogs during lockdown, and he said something like, lock down is boring i can't even cheat and you went hmmm, I thought it was a joke but a bit off, especially on a platform like this.

  • @ntokotoPM
    @ntokotoPM 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Life isn't fair shame. I can relate so much to your story. I love that you have self respect. I love that about you ❤️❤️

  • @monicadhlamini2019
    @monicadhlamini2019 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Haven't watched but brave of you to open-up even more about your situation.

  • @chabalichabali8714
    @chabalichabali8714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Owamie you look more happy and peaceful now, inspiration to many

  • @malebs8332
    @malebs8332 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The way I loved you guys together 😭😢💔 that clip @ the end just broke my heart. You guys displayed couple goals, shame. But let's that covovo for helping to reveal the truth.

  • @katlegomhlauli8423
    @katlegomhlauli8423 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I admire your strength for leaving and not participating in being disrespected and encouraging unacceptable behavior ❤️ BossLady 💪🏽

  • @siriusakari6729
    @siriusakari6729 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was raised by a divorced mom, she left my dad because he cheated even had two children with other two different women whilst they were married. She always used to say to me never love a man more than you love yourself. Because us women we are socialised to give and give, we give up our families, friends, career, body, time, energy, sacrificing who you are for them and they are socialised to be selfish so they just take and take and when they are tired of you they just move on to another woman, like the relationship meant nothing and that hurts like crazy. Am not saying lets hate men, some of them are really amazing but put yourself first. If he cheats the first time he will do it again so you are better off just leaving especially if you are young. You made the right choice Owamie! You glowing girl.

  • @lindisawilliams7801
    @lindisawilliams7801 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You’re beautiful dear. As long as u made a decision that makes u feel good and goodluck in the near future ❤️❤️

  • @basetsanalingwati4520
    @basetsanalingwati4520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    That “IM DONE WITH YOU “ at the end of the video is so accurate.... OWAMI IS LITERALLY DONE 😬!

  • @keneilwemarwane
    @keneilwemarwane 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    The background 🔥🔥. Wishing you the best in everything. Honestly dirvoce is devastating on both parties. Wish you and Mr B nothing but peace and the best Owamie.

  • @ThandoNonkosi
    @ThandoNonkosi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Owamie you know your worth. 🙌🏽

  • @mpoomzadube1429
    @mpoomzadube1429 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks Owami for the transparency and we thank God for giving you the strength 🙏🏽

  • @Day537
    @Day537 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for the courage of telling your story, that most women can relate too. It's women impowering. You are a hero.

  • @thabosibanda4923
    @thabosibanda4923 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I like the fact that despite the divorce, u acknowledge the good years u had with him

  • @thatobaloyi6194
    @thatobaloyi6194 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    I'm glad that if I get married and that shman cheats on me and I leave and people ask me where have I seen that happening(cause they think people think men are these helpless things that have no control of themselves) I'll be able to say I know someone and that someone will be you

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      No don't just leave at once try to fix by picking up peaces see if they can't ment try and fight first

    • @thatobaloyi6194
      @thatobaloyi6194 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      He should've picked up those pieces himself before he cheated

  • @TheRealTalkoSouthAfrica
    @TheRealTalkoSouthAfrica 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Missed you Sis Ninja, please don’t abandon us again. I have been checking out for your updates

  • @bonnitasabella1100
    @bonnitasabella1100 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Men can pretend shem💔

    • @angelk3912
      @angelk3912 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I honestly stopped believing in love 🤞🏾

    • @mookgomabe5886
      @mookgomabe5886 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So have i, it does not exist

  • @eudeciamainganya5012
    @eudeciamainganya5012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    And by the time of the back and forth running you had even forgotten you need to pee😂😂😂

  • @lesegomotalaute236
    @lesegomotalaute236 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You go gal..i respect u for what u did. Even though ppl can talk but u did what was best for life. Your happiness counts.

  • @sammym9259
    @sammym9259 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Life😢😢😢. I swear if my current husband check out i will literally never ever ever love again. I loved this man all my life. Thixo help us ppl in marriages👏👏👏

    • @mrs_tmi
      @mrs_tmi 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I fee you babe😓😓

    • @thuliramasodi7417
      @thuliramasodi7417 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Heyi mfazi i have been with my husband for 20 yaers i was 19 when i met him

    • @simplyme532
      @simplyme532 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey lucky you Thuli 20 yrs?How did you do it?

    • @hlogiledwaba9669
      @hlogiledwaba9669 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Men will make you attached 😭

    • @basaneringane5679
      @basaneringane5679 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If you have self love and strong faith, you will survive anything that comes your way. Never under-estimate your internal strength. When being strong is your only option, you survive. Love is great.

  • @nthatisimolefe8237
    @nthatisimolefe8237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's my first time watching your story times and Damn I just grew way fond of you. You're a great story teller and I can see your beautiful personality through it 😭❤️

  • @tabbimaepe3867
    @tabbimaepe3867 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So sad that this beautiful union had to end . Watching the clip brings back memories 😩

  • @Mizzmolf
    @Mizzmolf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    It is amazing that u now laughing abt it.u really strong

  • @Wyntah888
    @Wyntah888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The pap by the road thing just cracks me up everytime 🤣🤣🤣🤣 “she basically fries meat” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 shout out to all the entrepreneurs out there ❤️

  • @thando_k_6389
    @thando_k_6389 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So proud of your bravery Owami! Being vulnerable like this is a sign of strength👏🏾🙌🏾

  • @madechipimichael7458
    @madechipimichael7458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Gal you are an amazing person. God has shown you the true colors of Mr. B. You really look so happy keep praying for wisdom strength and guidance so you can keep your head up. God is amazing he opens doors for us. Stay blessed

  • @tebesutfunkambule715
    @tebesutfunkambule715 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so sorry...and at the same time I respect your boldness to be able to leave....some die in such situations.. I hope women learn from you..

  • @khosikhanyile9031
    @khosikhanyile9031 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It's the fight for the phone me, the running up and down🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @portiaposh_nona9537
    @portiaposh_nona9537 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Aah Owamie you were such a happy wife, it breaks my heart, it took me a while to finally sit down and watch this video, but the bit of humor you put into it...made it a bit better... I hate sad stories, but I know you're going to be okay...I love the fact that you moved on and faced life and not afraid to start all over, walking away is an underrated skill most women have...

  • @triniciousgabannelwe4104
    @triniciousgabannelwe4104 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Watching that vlog knowing that that was minutes away from the end broke my heart❤️❤️❤️

  • @Liskhanyisele
    @Liskhanyisele 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Big ups to you for loving yourself and standing for what you believe in! Healing is also a process and all the best!!!

  • @_molebogeng6281
    @_molebogeng6281 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The camera quality
    Background
    Make-up
    Hair
    T-shirt
    The whole look I'm here for it🙌🙌

  • @nompilosibanda3007
    @nompilosibanda3007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good on you for leaving Owamie coz you glowing. Obviously you have your time to yourself so u take care of only you. When we ladies get married we tend to focus on a man, use all our effort in supporting him but they get bored with that and start wondering around. Yes a good woman supports his man but man don know how to return and respect that. Carry on girl. Love yourself untill it hurts. Don forget your coin coz u need that.

  • @sivemqikela7960
    @sivemqikela7960 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Kumandi xa sekumandi kwa love ♥️
    But once kuthathwe wrong turn, jiki jiki mama, flames,,umlilo we big nuz ndazi kum😂😂

  • @unathiandlusanda7059
    @unathiandlusanda7059 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The glow is on another level, beautiful.

  • @cindyndlangamandla
    @cindyndlangamandla 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The transparency is out of this world 🙌🏿 I love you so much ninja you are truly my cancer sister ♋️🤍

    • @JessicaMSports
      @JessicaMSports 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol hi Cindy when are you posting videos on your channel? I always see you as a top commenter on these youtube streets

    • @cindyndlangamandla
      @cindyndlangamandla 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@JessicaMSports lol subscribe so long and stay tuned 😆

    • @beautymellz5600
      @beautymellz5600 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cindyndlangamandla I have just subscribed as well😂😂

    • @cindyndlangamandla
      @cindyndlangamandla 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@beautymellz5600 oh lord thank you now y’all are putting me under pressure to drop ASAP 😅 please just be patient with me

  • @lindennandi4887
    @lindennandi4887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Congratulations to you Owamie,you've healed on this one for the mere fact there is no tear in your eye. Keep staying strong and do what you like❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @mbalzz
    @mbalzz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank u Owamie. I don't mind the add after the short intro 😊😘❤

  • @mizzleefromsa3493
    @mizzleefromsa3493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for sharing your story with us girl. 💕

  • @misszee7673
    @misszee7673 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Okay maybe i love the Green colour More😍
    But Red looks good too😪