I physically cannot handle the way she says "bye, son" at the end. The way she lit up upon seeing Harry just to have to stand in the middle of her lonely old living room and watch him leave again a few moments later and this after her monologue.......ugh. it's like I've been punched in the stomach. Ellen burstyn touched my soul with this performance. So beautiful and tragic and some of the best acting I will ever see. Man. I don't call my mother enough
@@pbchloestassie what in the actual fuck are you talking about?? I've read this book, watched this movie and lost my father, my grandmother, sister to addiction. I'm not at all ignorant and what I said was a direct and very real statement!! I said that this was sad because we all know a person suffering... This is sad and true! You'll NEVER know my pain, I'm not expecting any sympathy but you're sure as fuck the last person to call me out!! I'd NEVER do that to anyone!!
"I don't need a present, just have a baby" Just heartbreaking. A great line slipped in there so subtle right before her heartbreaking speech on having nothing else to live for, nothing exciting happening in her life anymore.
@@steelreal254 ugh I hated that part tbh. Thinking he can just make it up by buying her a new TV (which played a part in her downfall) when she would've preferred having him around and spending time with her. A grandchild would've brought her happiness again.
the worst part for me with this scene is the fact they never see each other again… they are completely unaware of the way the others life is unraveling at an accelerating speed before their own eyes… what a movie
I actually think that's the silverlining lining of it. At the very least, Sara last remembers her son to be a clean man with a successful job and a woman he loves. The worst part of it was Harry could've been there and helped his mother past her addiction as he recognized it, but how could he with substance abuse problems himself.
I bet if grade school children had to watch this movie, it would deter them from trying these drugs in the first place!! Show it to the 6th graders uncut and then ask them what they gleaned from this movie.....!!!
A dog would’ve helped. My grandma was like this (minus the addiction), and getting her a dog really pepped her up. She started sleeping at regular hours, going out for walks every day, and something to care for that loved her unconditionally. We got her a little dog so it could sit on her lap every day and she’s still happy with her pooch to this day.
I get what you're saying but I honestly don't think a lap dog would have changed this situation... She was indeed very lonely but had deeper issues! She was looking for love,fame, youth and acceptance all in return for popularity, she started to medicate in hopes to facilitate her dream, that desperation led her into an addiction. She had big food issues, she was taking uppers for her weight and downers to come off the diet pills. All of this led to an overmedicated mental breakdown. I don't doubt she was terribly lonely, a dog wouldn't have helped!! If you take all of her other issues away, a dog could have been a great comfort. She could no longer care for herself let alone an animal.
After watching this scene about 20 times and admiring Ellen's performance I start to focus on Jared's intentionally subtle acting as well. Notice his slow realization of his mother's addiction, the concern in his voice as he asks her about it, and the apparent guilt he feels as he hears about the sadness and pain she suffers. They are both brilliant and this scene is a masterpiece.
5:46, it's so gut wrenching to watch from this point on. I can't help thinking about my parents, I can't help thinking about the loneliness this woman is experiencing. This performance deserves an Oscar, any one denying this is robbing the actress.
Extremely well said. I keep thinking about my own mother when I see this, and because of that, it's one of the most difficult scenes for me to watch of any film. Without a doubt the most depressing film I've seen
I was thinking about my own mother when I watched this last week... It made cry a little bit, and made me think a lot of things about my relationship with her...
Yeah my parents are only 46 and 51. I'm 24. But I already have decided if one passes away and one of them is retired and alone I'm gonna have to move them in with me. Could never abandon them, especially my mother who is 46 and so glamaorus.. Dread thinking about her old and feeble. I'd pay her to be my stay at home babysitter or cleaner if she was too proud to move in free without a reason. Just wouldn't leave her alone. My dad would be less feeble I feel but I'd still offer him the chance to move in. God being old enough to realise one day your parents will be weak and you'll be looking after them and they become the child, sucks. We take that time from 5-18 with them for granted so easily.
@@shanehughes3511 your comment touched me. All I would say to you is; don't lose your compassion and empathy in a world which seems so focussed on individualism, and seek out those who share your values. I am almost at this point now with my Mum, and I feel the same as you (I always have done. I would never see her alone and will do what I can to take care of her.
Ellen asked the director and producers to shoot this last part of the scene in close up (that's why the rest is on diffetent camera) because she felt that it needed more intimacy. Despite the fact that it would be more expensive to do it that way they agreed and there you have the result :). Best scene in the movie and I think what earned her the Oscar nod.
I don’t understand the academy’s criteria, I read somewhere they didn’t give her the Oscar because they found her performance a bit “over acted” WTF?!?
@@omararturoramirez5262 do they know anything about filmmaking and art? The movie although supposed to be relatable and realistic was also clearly over the top and fanatical. She played the part extremely well, with humour, sadness and grace. They fucked up big time with that poor decision.
The Academy clearly knows nothing about film and acting. Ellen’s performance was by far superior. Anybody with a couple of eyes and ears could confirm.
You end the clip before the best part. Ellen walks to the fridge, open the door and out jumps Julia Roberts who grab Ellen's Oscar and ran out of the room.
This is by very definition a classically-trained actress. One of the last of her era. She played every role with such conviction. It was such a shame that the Oscars passed on her tortured performance in this film, probably due to the controversial subject matter.
Poor little lady. All she wanted was a bit of happiness and affection. Heartbreaking. She was completely innocent to what those damn pills were doing to her. And yes, I completely agree with everyone that Ellen was robbed at the Oscars.
The more I re-watch this scene, the more I pick up on. An absolutely powerhouse performance from Ellen Burstyn and heartbreaking in a million different ways. From the obviously sad things she says, to the little things such as her unnaturally high energy and erratic, speedy movement for a depressed lady of her age, all of which betray the true misery she is in beneath her happy façade - It all adds up to something so unbelievably tragic and genuinely crushing. I will never forget this movie.
The scene immediately after this with Harry breaking down in the taxi while he thinks of how he's failed as a son, only to get high and immediately switch to that uncaring, glazed over look never fails to make me weep.
I think this is really the turning point in the film, they could've overcome their addiction and lived as a family but instead they double down on it and start the beginning in the end.
@@connorbaldwin9872tbh they were both deep in addiction , there was no thought at their stage of overcoming their addiction , they were both in the middle of it , we just hoped they might have an awakening and instigate change ...but it was just a hope not a reality .
Yep, Harry's for the most part a good person who cares about the people in his life, but he uses drugs, among many other reasons, as a for of escapism for any guilt he has in regards to his mother. The drugs make him feel like the dangers of the universe around him are gone for a bit. Until all his bridges are burnt and he has nothing left. Like another comment said this is also a turning point. They could've tried to work things out at this point, actually open up, especially Harry since he knew more about addiction and had a lot of money, but they were already far into their addictions. That's the tragedy of all their fates, it simultaneously felt very avoidable, yet completely inevitable.
This scene makes me so grateful that my parents are on the internet and have friends and have hobbies. I’m so glad that they’re happy alone and comfortable with themselves. It’s a privilege to have happy healthy parents and I’m so grateful. Seeing relationships like this in media made me realize that
It's even more heartbreaking to consider this is the last time they see each other before everything falls. The next time they see each other, she'll be in an asylum, and Harry will be missing an arm. Assuming they ever see each other again...
@@irvinmorales1409 It’s open for interpretation, honestly. The electroshock therapy could’ve done additional brain/psychological damage, but people do and can heal from that. As for Harry, unless he got really bad sepsis, the jail wouldn’t have tried to amputate his lower arm, to prevent the infection from spreading.
@@isnowyazn According to the author of the novel, Harry doesn't die because he hasn't suffered enough yet. Sara's suffering in the book is much more detailed and graphic when compared to the movie.
One of the best actress performance i've ever seen. Absolutely remarkable. The scenes with the fridge, her arrival at Maylon and Blocks, this was a HUGE PERFORMANCE. Total respect for this talented actress !
This was a difficult movie to watch. Ellen’s masterful performance reduced me to tears, and that doesn’t happen to me that often. I started to sink as each character self-destructed under the weight of their very own personal issues and addictions. I don’t know how to explain this even to myself, but in spite of the powerful tragedies and grief, I was left feeling like the movie was beautiful.
Well said. I felt somewhat the same. I watch this scene by itself and I start getting choked up; it's so powerful. I had put off watching the movie for so long because of its reputation but was so glad I got the guts to experience it. It was harrowing to watch but after I had digested the movie I realized that I was glad to have watched it. RFAD is such a genuine slice of life. Yes, it's heartbreaking but sometimes a film should move you or shake you; it's not always escapism or fun. A movie like this, I finish it and suddenly my life seems beautiful even though it's ordinary and sometimes dull. And I believe that most people can relate to or sympathize with Sara Goldfarb's tremendous feelings of loneliness; we've been there, or it's waiting for us down the road a ways.
My favoriste moment is : "I'm somebody now, Harry. Everybody likes me. Soon, millions of people will see me and they'll all like me. I'll tell 'em about you, and your father, how good he was to us, remember? It's a reason to get up in the morning, it's a reason to loose weight, to fit in the red dress. It's a reasopn to smile. It makes tomorrow all right. (...) Now when I get to sun, I smile.
@@holi7412 There was a hint of hope in me, wishing that something good would ever happen to her at the end, for all the shit she was going through. But this movie is too real, so that would never happen
Ellen's performance is the focus of the scene. Jared's performance needs to be subtle, non-competitive so all of your attention is on Ellen. It moves me every time I watch this scene.
The way he heard the teeth grinding and assumed it was coming from someone else.. wow. Ellen Burstyn slayed this film. Best performance of that decade. Definitely robbed by Julia.
The mother was definitely the saddest story in there movie. Her life was the only life that couldn't be saved or turned around. Even him, losing his arm, he could turn it around, but her life is not salvageable at all.
3:14 the film is full of scary moments and disturbing scenes, and this sequence was the first part that made me think “okay this film is not going to end well” when Harry realized his mom was addicted already
As an addict it horrified so much that I legit got clean a few weeks after watching . And I’ll tell u to this day I have to be in the right head space to watch or I would most likely use.
Curious question. Do you turn into addiction when lonliness happens? It can be cured obviously but it kicks more in, thats the sad tale of this movie. You gotta get hobbies, just live for others and not give up
@@matrix91234 it messes up the receptors in your brain. Normally are brain makes there own endorphinen serotine etc that makes you feel happy and good. But the drugs takes that over so your brain Stops making it for it self. So to feel good you need the drugs or you will feel sick and depressed. It takes time to recover from that and let your brain works on it own again after you quit drugs.
Oh my GOD... she´s marvellous, absolutely brilliant!!! A heartbreaking performance. You don´t even need to listen, just look to her eyes and feel all the pain...
dioramaamaroid I saw this film three days before my older brother died in a motorcycle crash....The scene with Sara and Harry and how she didn’t want to be alone and had no one to care for made me burst into tears. Four days later, I saw the pain in my own mother’s eyes as we went to get my brother’s body 14 hours away from us. to my dying day I will never forget either one of their pain.
harry’s realisation still gives me chills. as someone who has basically taken every drug on the fucking planet i can relate to the scene. meeting my friend who had been straight edge before he met me turning into the biggest barhead i know. he’s got brain damage from all the molly he’s taken and now relies on xans to live. and not just any xans. he’s searching for fentanyl xanax especially. and i still remember the day i gave him his first joint (which i regret with my life) to the day i saw him fucked up and strung out on uppers. no amount of convincing can make an addict quit. which is why the realisation hits so much harder for me than sarah’s speech hope you get better isak.🙏
I've never been amazed by a female performance like this one. Can't believe she didn't get an Oscar for this, what the hell did Julia Roberts do in her stupid movie?!! The only scene I've ever seen that actually moves me so much. Just WOW!
Thank you for posting this full scene. It really gets to me that she says her friends don't need her, that it's not the same, but in the end they were the one who came to see her and sobbed at her condition. :(
GAAAH, you didn't include the (second-)best part, the denouement, where harry is sobbing uncontrollably in the car just after he leaves -- until the Dope Ritual leaves him feeling *nothing*, his face a waxen mask, staring straight ahead. Brilliant (and the best non-verbal explanation I could ever refer to people who ask what the atttaction of heroin could possibly be).
Ever since I watched the movie the first time , EVERY TIME he hears the teeth grinding and you can see the camera cutting to him actually realizing it’s coming from his mother it’s almost like a horror scene for me. Just the way he looks around to see wtf it’s coming from and he looks at her jaw and realizes. You can see the utter shock rush over him. Incredible acting, a true piece of ART ! Really and truly gets into the minds of addicts and the affected.
It's one of the hardest films to experience, but it's also one of the most authentic and revealing illustrations of life ever put on the screen. Some movies are surprisingly powerful and meaningful.
This is, hands down, one of the most brilliant, earth-shattering performances I've ever seen from any actor or actress ever. Right up there, in my opinion, with Meryl Streep in Sophie's Choice and Hilary Swank in Million Dollar Baby. Unbelievable.
@@Nepente333 I know what she meant. All of their characters in their own ways find themselves in a nightmare and all the while living like life is a dream.
My heart broke throughout the entire movie! Especially this scene and at 8:27 when he hugs his mother, even though she was happy for her son she was so sad and alone like she was no longer living, but just existing in her empty apartment, when Harry let her go from the hug it almost looked like as if she tried to hold onto him just a little longer knowing she's about to be alone in her apartment again. Harry hugging her was probably the first time she felt safe and secured again. I felt so bad for everybody in this movie! They all had dreams but it couldn't happen for whatever reason. 😭💔💔💔
My god this movie is absolutely soul crushing, her performance and her words are just some of the most heartbreaking and real shit I've ever heard in a movie.
I just finished reading the book and have never watched the film so I’m watching clips on TH-cam. This scene has been so perfectly adapted from the book it’s incredible. The acting just holy shit I’m blown away.
@@michelleloreto8528 Like I mentioned, I’ve only seen clips of the film not the whole thing but from what I’ve seen it appears to be a pretty spot on adaptation. The only differences in the book is that there are a lot more graphic, in depth descriptions & the relationship between Harry and Marion is slightly different. When Harry’s in the hospital he doesn’t give a fuck about trying to call Marion or get back to her. All they care about is heroin.
For those saying the acting is incredible... it's beyond. I have and continue to be experiencing life that is similar in many ways. The details, the responses, the words/grammar used, the mannerisms... it's all too perfect, it's like it's not a movie, but my memories of when it started are projected on the screen.
Everyone's got their favorite (or "most memorable" might be more appropriate) parts of this film and moments within this scene alone. I just wanted to be the dude that pointed out how soul-crushing the line Ms. Burstyn gives - "I like the way I feel", saying it through a completely pained, tortured face. A million times "Yes", her performance was the best of 2000.
This scene from the beginning still has an uneasy tone because you know what is happening to Sarah, but it is kind of peppy and on the goofy side with her bouncing everywhere and doting on Harry, but the part that gives me chills is before the monologue when Harry hears the sound of her teeth grinding. It really sets the tone.
She incredibly reminds (physically, I mean) me of an old woman that I know, which sees herself only as a grandmother, with no other reason and right to live besides her grandchild.Though she's always very optimistic, I'm sure he's depressed somewhere deep inside.Ellen reminds me of her in this scene in a disturbing way...Excellent performance, I have to say.
@@SwissMarksman it’s a process I suppose, I’m learning it myself. Sometimes other people need it though, i think we as humans also crave that honesty and truth from another.
I use to love this movie but watching now it make me physically sick. I've been addicted to both speed and heroine in the past. Now nearly 5 years sober watching clips of this gets me anxious. I feel bad for all the characters in this movie becasue it doesn't glamourise drugs but intstead shows you it's darkest reality.
Ariel Zayas that's why I hate the fandom around Trainspotting... they just glorify drugs and it's annoying. This movie instead shows you how fast things can go wrong and take you down in a hole...
@@RemmusDro Trainspotting is the opposite of glorifying drugs. Its not as demonising as here, but it stays real at least. Remember the scene where the baby died, because they forgot about it while being high?
Completely brilliant. He knew exactly what was going on. He’s from the streets. Me being 32 now I totally understand it much more. The last time I saw this movie I was 18 and I didn’t know about crank. So this part had no relation to me. Then years later I was prescribed adderall and then Ritalin and thought, it’s no big deal it’s from a doctor - just like she said in this scene and I became a speed junkie for those things. Thank God I never sniffed or injected it but I still loved popping them. I wish I never would have experienced even the feeling of taking my first dose because natural energy is never the same again and it haunts you. It’s better never to touch something in life rather than “ try it out “ and then spend the rest of your life fighting off the love you developed over a chemically synthetic medications also known as a drug. Only Jesus has delivered me. Praise Him ✝️
This scene reminds me of my mother during the time she became addicted to xanax. It happened after my uncle lost his battle to cancer and she survived the battle with hers (brother and sister diagnosed one month after the other with colon cancer and breast cancer respectively, both going through chemotherapy together while living in the same house). After he passed and she got better I think my mother went through some sort of survivors guilt and developed anxiety that kept her up at night. A friend of hers who worked in an old folks home became my mothers drug dealer (if you can't tell, this whole situation was difficult to everyone) and within a year my mother went from taking 2mg a day to 8mg a day. Year two and she was at 12mg. Year three, I moved out and no longer kept track of how often her dealer came over for coffee and gossip. It killed me, and everyone who knew what was going on.. and when I would beg her to taper off them she'd cry and tell me shes all alone with the burden to keep living while her brother was gone. -shes better now. We got her help, she kicked the stuff and is seeing a therapist
dude knowing the end of this movie there isn't hardly a scene without ellen i dont start choking up. this movie has some graphic scenes sure but its the sheer ripping apart of the heart the ending delivers - thats... its just too painful.
Oh god, i got tears in my eyes right now. It's been long time since i have first seen this movie at an age of maybe 16. At that time i had the impression that the main message of it is what drug abuse can do to your life. No i'm 31 and i realize that actually for me the main message is that it tells you what lonelyness can do to your life. She never would have touched drugs if it wasn't for beeing recognized by others. And today as an adult who had to deal with a lot of lonelyness already at a young age, i have the feeling that beeing lonely is something that happens to waaay more people than actual drug addiction. I really wonder how many people in our society live alone like she does.
That is the problem when all your life you lived for others. One day, you'll be alone until death or not but you'll be alone at some point and you'll have nothing to live for while people that have passions, that know how to live solitary, they will cope better and maybe still enjoy life
This is the most gut-wrenching movie I've ever seen. Such a great performance by the whole cast, especially Ellen Burstyn. I was literally shaking when the movie ended. Jennifer Connelly and Jared Leto are very convincing as a couple.💋💔🥰
This scene is so good, it changes the direction of the movie in a matter of seconds. You see Harry and this Mom at probably their happiest in the beginning and by the end, you know things will unravel tragically. Burstyn was incredible and I always think of her performance in this scene as the gold standard for acting.
And in the end in the fictional dream where he suprised her in his Suit, all well made & he's looking really sharp (like straight out from American Psycho).
She low key explained the reasons or why’s behind heroin addiction everyone likes me it’ makes tomorrow better it’s a reason to smile but deep down she also breaks down the negatives heroin addicts tend to live in the past and are depressed and are lonely I knew that
@@alexiastraduzioni537 Lmao, that might be because both a Brooklyn accent and a British accent involving dropping/not pronouncing the R's. Like when she says "Notice I'm slimma?" (Slimmer)
Man this is painful and being an ex addict we do know more about drugs than actual doctors and so many get hooked on prescriptions.If my mother was going through this i would've packed up moved back in with her.Seeing how loneliness can destroy some people is so sad.
Man i know this is just a movie but it is almost impossible for me to not think of my own grandmother. I thought every parent raised their childs to end those days of making the bed or wash the dishes, i didn't even think that what came before those days was a miserable existence or boredom and monotony. My grandma lives alone in a desolated place, only i visit her eventually on my way to work. Not even my mom or my aunts go there anymore, it just breaks my soul away.
This movie makes me so fucking depressed. She has her friends, but she's lonely and she's losing weight so she can wear that dress again, makes her look forward to something. A dream, that gets completely shattered from the drugs she takes. Harry loves her, yet you can tell his addiction is getting to him. "That I love you, and I'm sorry. And I want you happy." That makes me cry. The moment he realizes she's on uppers, I believe makes his addiction much worse, because he can see what it's doing to her. This movie depressed me for weeks, I still think of this scene... God, she should have won an Oscar. "Believe me Mom, I know." 😢 4:47
She was completely robbed of the Oscar. She should have won for this performance hands down!
Jack Celano FUCK Julia Roberts!!!
It should’ve been a tie
She is the winner for me...
Yeah, she is incredible
totally agree. ordinary tactic by the academy when they want to promote someone. Remember Emmanuelle Riva (rip) from Amour movie.....so unfair :/
I physically cannot handle the way she says "bye, son" at the end. The way she lit up upon seeing Harry just to have to stand in the middle of her lonely old living room and watch him leave again a few moments later and this after her monologue.......ugh. it's like I've been punched in the stomach. Ellen burstyn touched my soul with this performance. So beautiful and tragic and some of the best acting I will ever see. Man. I don't call my mother enough
It's really sad because we all know someone who feels this way, this story is about so many people in real life.
@@pbchloestassie what in the actual fuck are you talking about?? I've read this book, watched this movie and lost my father, my grandmother, sister to addiction. I'm not at all ignorant and what I said was a direct and very real statement!!
I said that this was sad because we all know a person suffering... This is sad and true!
You'll NEVER know my pain, I'm not expecting any sympathy but you're sure as fuck the last person to call me out!!
I'd NEVER do that to anyone!!
i guess that is what i should look forward to when i'm 60. yay me. can't wait. maybe suicide ain't that bad.
The feeling when you re high on uppers and someone who hangs out with you go home
Ok you guys are waaaay too emotional.
"I don't need a present, just have a baby"
Just heartbreaking. A great line slipped in there so subtle right before her heartbreaking speech on having nothing else to live for, nothing exciting happening in her life anymore.
It was more of her desire to see her son happy and relive the days where her husband was alive and Harry wasn't an addict.
"Will ya let me tell ya what I got ya? Will ya, ma?"
@@steelreal254 ugh I hated that part tbh. Thinking he can just make it up by buying her a new TV (which played a part in her downfall) when she would've preferred having him around and spending time with her. A grandchild would've brought her happiness again.
@@cortanaisawesome5575 "Christ, you are something else today. You know that?"
I wonder why didn't she volunteer or get a pet
the worst part for me with this scene is the fact they never see each other again… they are completely unaware of the way the others life is unraveling at an accelerating speed before their own eyes… what a movie
I actually think that's the silverlining lining of it. At the very least, Sara last remembers her son to be a clean man with a successful job and a woman he loves. The worst part of it was Harry could've been there and helped his mother past her addiction as he recognized it, but how could he with substance abuse problems himself.
speed lol
I bet if grade school children had to watch this movie, it would deter them from trying these drugs in the first place!! Show it to the 6th graders uncut and then ask them what they gleaned from this movie.....!!!
To be fair you don't know if they never see each other again but it does end badly for sure lol
This movie explains loneliness better than any movie I’ve ever seen. Every scene just drips with loneliness and regret. This movie haunts you.
you should also watch May (2003)
A dog would’ve helped. My grandma was like this (minus the addiction), and getting her a dog really pepped her up. She started sleeping at regular hours, going out for walks every day, and something to care for that loved her unconditionally. We got her a little dog so it could sit on her lap every day and she’s still happy with her pooch to this day.
Noemi B Sorry that she went through the addiction and all that stuff. Also, that’s really cool that she’s happy now with that dog of hers.
How heartwarming
Or cat
I get what you're saying but I honestly don't think a lap dog would have changed this situation... She was indeed very lonely but had deeper issues! She was looking for love,fame, youth and acceptance all in return for popularity, she started to medicate in hopes to facilitate her dream, that desperation led her into an addiction.
She had big food issues, she was taking uppers for her weight and downers to come off the diet pills.
All of this led to an overmedicated mental breakdown.
I don't doubt she was terribly lonely, a dog wouldn't have helped!!
If you take all of her other issues away, a dog could have been a great comfort. She could no longer care for herself let alone an animal.
That's a Great Comment! Thank you!
After watching this scene about 20 times and admiring Ellen's performance I start to focus on Jared's intentionally subtle acting as well. Notice his slow realization of his mother's addiction, the concern in his voice as he asks her about it, and the apparent guilt he feels as he hears about the sadness and pain she suffers. They are both brilliant and this scene is a masterpiece.
Totally agree, the way he says, "Believe me Ma, I know" is so sad
i hate harry...hes kind of a pos
@@razkable whats pos?
@@Gianni.achillea it stands for piece of sh!t
Agreed, the way he says "It's morbin time" just hit me on a whole new level
Not only was she crying, she was *sweating.* What a performance!
I sweat all the time : D. But its a good movie
5:46, it's so gut wrenching to watch from this point on. I can't help thinking about my parents, I can't help thinking about the loneliness this woman is experiencing. This performance deserves an Oscar, any one denying this is robbing the actress.
Extremely well said. I keep thinking about my own mother when I see this, and because of that, it's one of the most difficult scenes for me to watch of any film. Without a doubt the most depressing film I've seen
I was thinking about my own mother when I watched this last week... It made cry a little bit, and made me think a lot of things about my relationship with her...
Yeah my parents are only 46 and 51. I'm 24. But I already have decided if one passes away and one of them is retired and alone I'm gonna have to move them in with me. Could never abandon them, especially my mother who is 46 and so glamaorus.. Dread thinking about her old and feeble. I'd pay her to be my stay at home babysitter or cleaner if she was too proud to move in free without a reason. Just wouldn't leave her alone. My dad would be less feeble I feel but I'd still offer him the chance to move in. God being old enough to realise one day your parents will be weak and you'll be looking after them and they become the child, sucks. We take that time from 5-18 with them for granted so easily.
@@shanehughes3511 your comment touched me. All I would say to you is; don't lose your compassion and empathy in a world which seems so focussed on individualism, and seek out those who share your values. I am almost at this point now with my Mum, and I feel the same as you (I always have done. I would never see her alone and will do what I can to take care of her.
Ellen asked the director and producers to shoot this last part of the scene in close up (that's why the rest is on diffetent camera) because she felt that it needed more intimacy. Despite the fact that it would be more expensive to do it that way they agreed and there you have the result :). Best scene in the movie and I think what earned her the Oscar nod.
This is so heartbreaking,her being so lonely and all. Just breaks my heart. What a wonderful movie though.
If this scene doesn't convince you that Ellen Burstyn was completely robbed of the best actress Oscar, you need to reevaluate your life.
If only she had lost to a woman worthy of that Oscar, but she lost to JULIA ROBERTS. Good gracious, life just isn’t fair man.
I don’t understand the academy’s criteria, I read somewhere they didn’t give her the Oscar because they found her performance a bit “over acted” WTF?!?
@@omararturoramirez5262 do they know anything about filmmaking and art? The movie although supposed to be relatable and realistic was also clearly over the top and fanatical. She played the part extremely well, with humour, sadness and grace. They fucked up big time with that poor decision.
The Academy clearly knows nothing about film and acting. Ellen’s performance was by far superior. Anybody with a couple of eyes and ears could confirm.
Copy paste comment is cringe.
You end the clip before the best part. Ellen walks to the fridge, open the door and out jumps Julia Roberts who grab Ellen's Oscar and ran out of the room.
*fx: julia's laugh.
lmao
Yep
Fact
This is by very definition a classically-trained actress. One of the last of her era. She played every role with such conviction. It was such a shame that the Oscars passed on her tortured performance in this film, probably due to the controversial subject matter.
One of the hardest movies to watch. That's how well it was made.
Poor little lady. All she wanted was a bit of happiness and affection. Heartbreaking. She was completely innocent to what those damn pills were doing to her. And yes, I completely agree with everyone that Ellen was robbed at the Oscars.
quoted from someone else: This film doesn't just break your heart, it crushes it into a fine powder and then blows it in your eyes.
The more I re-watch this scene, the more I pick up on. An absolutely powerhouse performance from Ellen Burstyn and heartbreaking in a million different ways. From the obviously sad things she says, to the little things such as her unnaturally high energy and erratic, speedy movement for a depressed lady of her age, all of which betray the true misery she is in beneath her happy façade - It all adds up to something so unbelievably tragic and genuinely crushing. I will never forget this movie.
The scene immediately after this with Harry breaking down in the taxi while he thinks of how he's failed as a son, only to get high and immediately switch to that uncaring, glazed over look never fails to make me weep.
I think this is really the turning point in the film, they could've overcome their addiction and lived as a family but instead they double down on it and start the beginning in the end.
@@connorbaldwin9872tbh they were both deep in addiction , there was no thought at their stage of overcoming their addiction , they were both in the middle of it , we just hoped they might have an awakening and instigate change ...but it was just a hope not a reality .
Yep, Harry's for the most part a good person who cares about the people in his life, but he uses drugs, among many other reasons, as a for of escapism for any guilt he has in regards to his mother. The drugs make him feel like the dangers of the universe around him are gone for a bit. Until all his bridges are burnt and he has nothing left. Like another comment said this is also a turning point. They could've tried to work things out at this point, actually open up, especially Harry since he knew more about addiction and had a lot of money, but they were already far into their addictions. That's the tragedy of all their fates, it simultaneously felt very avoidable, yet completely inevitable.
@@connorbaldwin9872I actually think that’s all they really needed shit even someone like Tyrone could’ve really appreciated someone like Sara
This scene makes me so grateful that my parents are on the internet and have friends and have hobbies. I’m so glad that they’re happy alone and comfortable with themselves. It’s a privilege to have happy healthy parents and I’m so grateful. Seeing relationships like this in media made me realize that
It's even more heartbreaking to consider this is the last time they see each other before everything falls. The next time they see each other, she'll be in an asylum, and Harry will be missing an arm. Assuming they ever see each other again...
Even if Harry did go see her, she wouldn't recognize him. She was pretty much lobotomized. Also, Harry is pretty much gonna die afterwards.
@@irvinmorales1409 It’s open for interpretation, honestly. The electroshock therapy could’ve done additional brain/psychological damage, but people do and can heal from that.
As for Harry, unless he got really bad sepsis, the jail wouldn’t have tried to amputate his lower arm, to prevent the infection from spreading.
@@isnowyazn
According to the author of the novel, Harry doesn't die because he hasn't suffered enough yet. Sara's suffering in the book is much more detailed and graphic when compared to the movie.
@@isnowyazn I think according to the book he was in a Hospice. Which doesn't need any further explanaition.
@@irvinmorales1409 What happens to her in the book that's left out of the film?
I saw this movie at 15 or 16. Still teaches me lessons to this day!!! Best performance from each actor and actress in their career hands down.
One of the best actress performance i've ever seen. Absolutely remarkable.
The scenes with the fridge, her arrival at Maylon and Blocks, this was a HUGE PERFORMANCE.
Total respect for this talented actress !
The way she is screaming behind that smile is haunting.
Still relevant man
This was a difficult movie to watch. Ellen’s masterful performance reduced me to tears, and that doesn’t happen to me that often. I started to sink as each character self-destructed under the weight of their very own personal issues and addictions. I don’t know how to explain this even to myself, but in spite of the powerful tragedies and grief, I was left feeling like the movie was beautiful.
Well said. I felt somewhat the same. I watch this scene by itself and I start getting choked up; it's so powerful. I had put off watching the movie for so long because of its reputation but was so glad I got the guts to experience it. It was harrowing to watch but after I had digested the movie I realized that I was glad to have watched it. RFAD is such a genuine slice of life. Yes, it's heartbreaking but sometimes a film should move you or shake you; it's not always escapism or fun. A movie like this, I finish it and suddenly my life seems beautiful even though it's ordinary and sometimes dull. And I believe that most people can relate to or sympathize with Sara Goldfarb's tremendous feelings of loneliness; we've been there, or it's waiting for us down the road a ways.
My favoriste moment is :
"I'm somebody now, Harry. Everybody likes me. Soon, millions of people will see me and they'll all like me. I'll tell 'em about you, and your father, how good he was to us, remember? It's a reason to get up in the morning, it's a reason to loose weight, to fit in the red dress. It's a reasopn to smile. It makes tomorrow all right.
(...)
Now when I get to sun, I smile.
Es mi película favorita 😘😘😘😍😍😍
very pathetic, she thought she's feeling well
@@holi7412 More like depressing, she was feeling good because of the drugs, but at what cost
@@luisjoseherrera408 It’s like the difference between her ideal world and the cruel reality
@@holi7412 There was a hint of hope in me, wishing that something good would ever happen to her at the end, for all the shit she was going through. But this movie is too real, so that would never happen
Ellen Burstyn gives the best performance of her career. This scene is haunting and beautiful at the same time. A cinematic masterpiece.
As they say goodbye, you can very faintly hear children in the distance. It's like she's saying a final goodbye to his childhood and innocence.
Ellen's performance is the focus of the scene. Jared's performance needs to be subtle, non-competitive so all of your attention is on Ellen. It moves me every time I watch this scene.
but he is stunning as well, hes great
His part was genius because it’s show he cares and he also knows about drugs especially crank and what it can do to you. Amazing movie
Deer Heart yeah, he is.
The way he heard the teeth grinding and assumed it was coming from someone else.. wow. Ellen Burstyn slayed this film. Best performance of that decade. Definitely robbed by Julia.
What movie from Julia Roberts was it?
@@jurssikam Erin Brockovich
@@Joe_Parmesan thank you!
That was a great touch. To have him recognize the sound, and turn away to look around , because it COULDN'T be coming from her....
The mother was definitely the saddest story in there movie. Her life was the only life that couldn't be saved or turned around. Even him, losing his arm, he could turn it around, but her life is not salvageable at all.
He was in a hospice. Therefore his faith is allready sealed.
same with tyrone
@@doctorposting Oddly Tyrone is the one that is probably going to make it "out" alive.
@@doctorpostinghe would have gotten clean in prison
3:14 the film is full of scary moments and disturbing scenes, and this sequence was the first part that made me think “okay this film is not going to end well” when Harry realized his mom was addicted already
As an addict it horrified so much that I legit got clean a few weeks after watching . And I’ll tell u to this day I have to be in the right head space to watch or I would most likely use.
Curious question. Do you turn into addiction when lonliness happens? It can be cured obviously but it kicks more in, thats the sad tale of this movie. You gotta get hobbies, just live for others and not give up
same
@@matrix91234 it messes up the receptors in your brain. Normally are brain makes there own endorphinen serotine etc that makes you feel happy and good. But the drugs takes that over so your brain Stops making it for it self. So to feel good you need the drugs or you will feel sick and depressed. It takes time to recover from that and let your brain works on it own again after you quit drugs.
After wathcing this scene, I realized I need to go see my mom and give her a BIG hug!
This will always be in my top 5 movies ever. They all should have won awards for this movie. ❤️💔
Oh my GOD... she´s marvellous, absolutely brilliant!!!
A heartbreaking performance.
You don´t even need to listen, just look to her eyes and feel all the pain...
dioramaamaroid I saw this film three days before my older brother died in a motorcycle crash....The scene with Sara and Harry and how she didn’t want to be alone and had no one to care for made me burst into tears. Four days later, I saw the pain in my own mother’s eyes as we went to get my brother’s body 14 hours away from us. to my dying day I will never forget either one of their pain.
harry’s realisation still gives me chills. as someone who has basically taken every drug on the fucking planet i can relate to the scene.
meeting my friend who had been straight edge before he met me turning into the biggest barhead i know.
he’s got brain damage from all the molly he’s taken and now relies on xans to live. and not just any xans. he’s searching for fentanyl xanax especially.
and i still remember the day i gave him his first joint
(which i regret with my life)
to the day i saw him fucked up and strung out on uppers.
no amount of convincing can make an addict quit.
which is why the realisation hits so much harder for me than sarah’s speech
hope you get better isak.🙏
Her acting couldn't be any better. It's just... AMAZING!!!.
Both are very good
I've never been amazed by a female performance like this one. Can't believe she didn't get an Oscar for this, what the hell did Julia Roberts do in her stupid movie?!! The only scene I've ever seen that actually moves me so much. Just WOW!
its the academy, they have their own set of bullshit rules and politics, its all politics and business
I know Ellen most likely was “ to old.”🙄
@@dr2599 Amen.
Thank you for posting this full scene. It really gets to me that she says her friends don't need her, that it's not the same, but in the end they were the one who came to see her and sobbed at her condition. :(
5:55 the way her voice starts to break,she just wants to be liked and she’s so lonely,terribly sad story
I can't watch that part without feeling my soul getting ripped to shreds
Thats some top tier acting from Burstyn. You can really feel what she is going through..
One of the best on screen performances in all of cinema.
GAAAH, you didn't include the (second-)best part, the denouement, where harry is sobbing uncontrollably in the car just after he leaves -- until the Dope Ritual leaves him feeling *nothing*, his face a waxen mask, staring straight ahead. Brilliant (and the best non-verbal explanation I could ever refer to people who ask what the atttaction of heroin could possibly be).
Chesterette absolutely!!
I was looking forward to that myself. One of my favorite scenes. Dynamite.
Heartbreaking monologue. Incredible talent by Burstyn.
Ever since I watched the movie the first time , EVERY TIME he hears the teeth grinding and you can see the camera cutting to him actually realizing it’s coming from his mother it’s almost like a horror scene for me. Just the way he looks around to see wtf it’s coming from and he looks at her jaw and realizes. You can see the utter shock rush over him. Incredible acting, a true piece of ART ! Really and truly gets into the minds of addicts and the affected.
Also how she looked at him. Allmost like looking at the devil.
It's one of the hardest films to experience, but it's also one of the most authentic and revealing illustrations of life ever put on the screen. Some movies are surprisingly powerful and meaningful.
Just give her the damn oscar already
@@pbchloestassie she deserved one for this performance though
This is, hands down, one of the most brilliant, earth-shattering performances I've ever seen from any actor or actress ever. Right up there, in my opinion, with Meryl Streep in Sophie's Choice and Hilary Swank in Million Dollar Baby. Unbelievable.
This is the best yet worst scene in the best yet worst movie ever.
Lisbeth Basnett conundrum
Worst film ever?. WTF???!!!.
@@Nepente333 I know what she meant. All of their characters in their own ways find themselves in a nightmare and all the while living like life is a dream.
@@Nepente333 it's worst because it's scary, it hurts because it's real! I've lived this and get what is meant.
I feel u
This scene is so fucking intense. literaly should've got a academy award just for this. made me fucking cry deep inside bro
This is when the sobbing starts
Oh my god the way she acts this scene is so real.
"I don't need a present Harry. Just have a baby"
Such a sad thing.
My heart broke throughout the entire movie! Especially this scene and at 8:27 when he hugs his mother, even though she was happy for her son she was so sad and alone like she was no longer living, but just existing in her empty apartment, when Harry let her go from the hug it almost looked like as if she tried to hold onto him just a little longer knowing she's about to be alone in her apartment again. Harry hugging her was probably the first time she felt safe and secured again. I felt so bad for everybody in this movie! They all had dreams but it couldn't happen for whatever reason. 😭💔💔💔
My god this movie is absolutely soul crushing, her performance and her words are just some of the most heartbreaking and real shit I've ever heard in a movie.
this is the number 1 saddest film scene of all time.
Hello 14 year old comment 🤣
Holy shit this comment is almost as old as I am
I just finished reading the book and have never watched the film so I’m watching clips on TH-cam. This scene has been so perfectly adapted from the book it’s incredible. The acting just holy shit I’m blown away.
Does it end differently in the book? I want to read it
@@michelleloreto8528 Like I mentioned, I’ve only seen clips of the film not the whole thing but from what I’ve seen it appears to be a pretty spot on adaptation. The only differences in the book is that there are a lot more graphic, in depth descriptions & the relationship between Harry and Marion is slightly different. When Harry’s in the hospital he doesn’t give a fuck about trying to call Marion or get back to her. All they care about is heroin.
This movie is truly something else...
For those saying the acting is incredible... it's beyond.
I have and continue to be experiencing life that is similar in many ways. The details, the responses, the words/grammar used, the mannerisms... it's all too perfect, it's like it's not a movie, but my memories of when it started are projected on the screen.
Everyone's got their favorite (or "most memorable" might be more appropriate) parts of this film and moments within this scene alone. I just wanted to be the dude that pointed out how soul-crushing the line Ms. Burstyn gives - "I like the way I feel", saying it through a completely pained, tortured face. A million times "Yes", her performance was the best of 2000.
Ellen deserved the Academy Award, not princess roberts
This scene from the beginning still has an uneasy tone because you know what is happening to Sarah, but it is kind of peppy and on the goofy side with her bouncing everywhere and doting on Harry, but the part that gives me chills is before the monologue when Harry hears the sound of her teeth grinding. It really sets the tone.
She incredibly reminds (physically, I mean) me of an old woman that I know, which sees herself only as a grandmother, with no other reason and right to live besides her grandchild.Though she's always very optimistic, I'm sure he's depressed somewhere deep inside.Ellen reminds me of her in this scene in a disturbing way...Excellent performance, I have to say.
why don’t you tell her your thoughts.. this was over a decade ago and she’s prob long passed but I really really hope you did.
shes my mother, straight up
@@KiaraaVelez Very well said. I think we as humans are in general "scared" in terms of being honest & telling someone what lays in our head.
@@SwissMarksman it’s a process I suppose, I’m learning it myself. Sometimes other people need it though, i think we as humans also crave that honesty and truth from another.
I use to love this movie but watching now it make me physically sick. I've been addicted to both speed and heroine in the past. Now nearly 5 years sober watching clips of this gets me anxious. I feel bad for all the characters in this movie becasue it doesn't glamourise drugs but intstead shows you it's darkest reality.
Ariel Zayas that's why I hate the fandom around Trainspotting... they just glorify drugs and it's annoying. This movie instead shows you how fast things can go wrong and take you down in a hole...
@@RemmusDro Trainspotting is the opposite of glorifying drugs. Its not as demonising as here, but it stays real at least.
Remember the scene where the baby died, because they forgot about it while being high?
Train spotting is depressing af
3:30 this moment is brilliance directing wise.
Joris van Dijk yeah that part is when it gets dark asf
It's very brilliant
Completely brilliant. He knew exactly what was going on. He’s from the streets. Me being 32 now I totally understand it much more. The last time I saw this movie I was 18 and I didn’t know about crank. So this part had no relation to me. Then years later I was prescribed adderall and then Ritalin and thought, it’s no big deal it’s from a doctor - just like she said in this scene and I became a speed junkie for those things. Thank God I never sniffed or injected it but I still loved popping them. I wish I never would have experienced even the feeling of taking my first dose because natural energy is never the same again and it haunts you. It’s better never to touch something in life rather than “ try it out “ and then spend the rest of your life fighting off the love you developed over a chemically synthetic medications also known as a drug. Only Jesus has delivered me. Praise Him ✝️
@@tonyfuri9693 me too. i understand this scene when i broke one of my tooth on mdma. my situation is tragic but also hilarious at the same time.
@@jewwhovotedfornaziparty
Did you quit?
how she didn't win the oscar for this scene alone. some of the best acting you'll ever see.
7:55 subconsciously they both know what they are talking about is fantasy and will never happen but they go along with it
This scene reminds me of my mother during the time she became addicted to xanax. It happened after my uncle lost his battle to cancer and she survived the battle with hers (brother and sister diagnosed one month after the other with colon cancer and breast cancer respectively, both going through chemotherapy together while living in the same house).
After he passed and she got better I think my mother went through some sort of survivors guilt and developed anxiety that kept her up at night. A friend of hers who worked in an old folks home became my mothers drug dealer (if you can't tell, this whole situation was difficult to everyone) and within a year my mother went from taking 2mg a day to 8mg a day. Year two and she was at 12mg. Year three, I moved out and no longer kept track of how often her dealer came over for coffee and gossip.
It killed me, and everyone who knew what was going on.. and when I would beg her to taper off them she'd cry and tell me shes all alone with the burden to keep living while her brother was gone.
-shes better now. We got her help, she kicked the stuff and is seeing a therapist
Oh lmao.... we're from Brooklyn too
nice.
dude knowing the end of this movie there isn't hardly a scene without ellen i dont start choking up. this movie has some graphic scenes sure but its the sheer ripping apart of the heart the ending delivers - thats... its just too painful.
greatest act by a female actor in the history of cinema
You are correct. People have to really pay attention to every word.
Oh god, i got tears in my eyes right now. It's been long time since i have first seen this movie at an age of maybe 16. At that time i had the impression that the main message of it is what drug abuse can do to your life. No i'm 31 and i realize that actually for me the main message is that it tells you what lonelyness can do to your life.
She never would have touched drugs if it wasn't for beeing recognized by others. And today as an adult who had to deal with a lot of lonelyness already at a young age, i have the feeling that beeing lonely is something that happens to waaay more people than actual drug addiction. I really wonder how many people in our society live alone like she does.
That is the problem when all your life you lived for others. One day, you'll be alone until death or not but you'll be alone at some point and you'll have nothing to live for while people that have passions, that know how to live solitary, they will cope better and maybe still enjoy life
This is the most gut-wrenching movie I've ever seen. Such a great performance by the whole cast, especially Ellen Burstyn. I was literally shaking when the movie ended. Jennifer Connelly and Jared Leto are very convincing as a couple.💋💔🥰
This scene is so good, it changes the direction of the movie in a matter of seconds. You see Harry and this Mom at probably their happiest in the beginning and by the end, you know things will unravel tragically. Burstyn was incredible and I always think of her performance in this scene as the gold standard for acting.
You've summed it up. I always think her performance in this is one of the most incredible ever filmed. The gold standard indeed
Also the camera switch from the Brighter Side to the Darker Side when he realized she's churning on her teeth.
God, every single performance Ellen Burstyn gives is absolutely phenomenal; 😍🙏🏻🙏🏻
The end of this scene is so heartbreaking, the promises they're making to each other you know they'll never keep, but they think they will....
And in the end in the fictional dream where he suprised her in his Suit, all well made & he's looking really sharp (like straight out from American Psycho).
Her acting was just incredible no other performance matched her
She low key explained the reasons or why’s behind heroin addiction everyone likes me it’ makes tomorrow better it’s a reason to smile but deep down she also breaks down the negatives heroin addicts tend to live in the past and are depressed and are lonely I knew that
SHE IS ABSOLUTELY A FANTASTIC ACTRESS. She was ROBBED of an Oscar
Are you fucking kidding me? Julia Roberts has an Oscar?!
Ellen’s performance in this movie and this scene is a masterclass in acting. So real and painful
Jared's „for Christ sake” is amazing, lovely and humble!
that escene makes me cry
This scene broke me, is just so sad, so real, what a performance. She deserved that Oscar.
this is the best scene I've ever seen
i can hear the brooklyn accent.
Sky Talks good
She’s actually from Detroit
And my dad is from Detroit so I would know what a Detroit accent sounded like
Im Italian and i thought hers was a british accent ahhaa
@@alexiastraduzioni537 Lmao, that might be because both a Brooklyn accent and a British accent involving dropping/not pronouncing the R's.
Like when she says "Notice I'm slimma?" (Slimmer)
The scene immediately after, where he breaks down in the cab and self-medicates, is important and it's unfortunate you didn't include it.
Ellen Burstyn I love you. You are an amazing actress.
I hadn't noticed how good her performance was.
I haven't seen Ellen Burstyn in any other movie but she has all of my respect just for this performance
She's phenomenal in every single role. She also did an episode of Law & Order SVU, playing Det. Stabler's mother. Brilliant.
Man this is painful and being an ex addict we do know more about drugs than actual doctors and so many get hooked on prescriptions.If my mother was going through this i would've packed up moved back in with her.Seeing how loneliness can destroy some people is so sad.
Jared Leto did a great job as well.
Still my favourite performance of his!
He's marvellous
Really tragic to see mother and son fall victim to drug abuse, whether it’s being pushed on the street or by big pharma.
"am lonely" "am old" this two-word is kinda paralyzing.
i fed up with dis world
Sad movie... But an absolute masterpiece.... This film was and always will be in a class of it's own.
My God. One minute he says "Mama, don't go apeshit!" and you laugh. The next minute, you're in uncontrollable tears.
Man i know this is just a movie but it is almost impossible for me to not think of my own grandmother.
I thought every parent raised their childs to end those days of making the bed or wash the dishes, i didn't even think that what came before those days was a miserable existence or boredom and monotony.
My grandma lives alone in a desolated place, only i visit her eventually on my way to work.
Not even my mom or my aunts go there anymore, it just breaks my soul away.
This entire film is like a gut punch.
This movie makes me so fucking depressed. She has her friends, but she's lonely and she's losing weight so she can wear that dress again, makes her look forward to something. A dream, that gets completely shattered from the drugs she takes. Harry loves her, yet you can tell his addiction is getting to him. "That I love you, and I'm sorry. And I want you happy." That makes me cry. The moment he realizes she's on uppers, I believe makes his addiction much worse, because he can see what it's doing to her. This movie depressed me for weeks, I still think of this scene... God, she should have won an Oscar. "Believe me Mom, I know." 😢 4:47
This is the scene that made the cameraman cry, right? Because, I totally get it. That monologue just ripped my heart out and stomped on it.
yes
Totally get what she means about feeling unneeded. I feel unimportant, alone, and abandoned
Ellen and Jared did such an amazing job in this scene ❤