I have a friend who stayed married to her toxic abusive husband way longer than she should have because she thought her very religious father would feel a way if she divorced him. When she finally had enough and decided to divorce him she told her father and his response was: ‘It’s about time!!!’ Shocked...she said: ‘Daddy I thought you would be mad because divorce goes against your religious beliefs...’ Her father said: ‘Ain’t no way God brought the two of you together!’
Leave. That one time you let red flags slide turns into years of wasted time. Things that are for you don’t confuse you or fill you with an empty void of pain/loneliness. God doesn’t lead with confusion. The healthiest couples have clarity and know where they stand with one another, which is in peace and understanding. Great topic ❤️
After 6 years and one beautiful son, I realized my partner was not the person I thought she was. She was unfaithful, and even though I found out I stayed for my son. Two months ago I grew the strength to leave because I realized from you, i do not need to be with this women to be the best father I can be!! Leave the toxic relationships people!! Even if you invested time it’s better to take that lost than to invest EVEN MORE TIME!!
@@Yesitsmandisa Honestly just by being the bigger person. I know my responsibilities as a father, and nothing can stop me from being a father. As of now we try to keep the situation out of court. So what we did is we made a schedule that fits the both of us to have the baby. And also make every conversation strictly about our child.
Damn this piece is mine lady ... wasting my time for the past 16 years of my life living with someone who continuously do not support my dreams. And the bullshit on anything you can think off under the face of this earth - keeps escalating day in and day out. It is just idiotic. Time to leave to protect my sanity. Damn the preaching he pulls up under his own bullshit is something else.
Preach Tony!!! I left a man with three babies under 3 and God save my emotional, spiritual life...My life became full of peace, joy and financial blessings....What a mighty God we serve!!
I know this is old, but when I got married to my ex husband, when the pastor asked me the question, a voice in my head said no, clear as day. I still said I do though. I still remember that day.
Sat through abuse in nearly every relationship; both subtle and surprise... Until recently, I didn't know my Mother, Grandmother, and Great Grandmother were abused in their marriages. I refuse to carry that trauma on. It ain't a blessing when it adds sorrow.
Withdraw, cold turkey from him might be tough but the sooner you get clean of him the easier it will be rather than letting him toxicate you more of the waste he has.
5.5 years into my toxic Marriage/ relationship and all I could remember from our last argument was me screaming at the top of my lungs (over and over again) “... ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!” We’ve been separated for almost two years now and I realized my children didn’t have a chance if I had stayed. Since I’ve left I’ve drawn closer to The Lord, my children are flourishing and we are at peace... He was the type to use the Bible as a weapon. But then I remembered I was saved before I met him and I would be saved after I left. Best decision I made. I thank The Lord for His grace and mercy. Thank you for all that you do Tony Godspeed 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m in the process of getting out of a marriage. And we’ve only been married 6months. The deal breaker is I’m 35weeks pregnant with our first child and he has been unfaithful while I’ve been pregnant. So take this advice to heart because it’s so true what he says. It’s the hardest thing to leave someone you invested in. But when you’ve put up with enough that’s it..
Sister.... when all is said and done... and you have got some coaching or counselling and get understanding... it will be well worth it and you will actually be doing your kid a favour by leaving instead of staying in a toxic relationship. Tony is hitting bullseye🎯 in everything that he is saying... if I had this information and wisdoms over two decades ago... wow... God knows where I would have been. But don’t look back. It’s not worth becoming like Lot’s wife. You will make it. Yes, it is painful at first, but you will get through it. Pick your head up and run with what God has for you. When I first wanted to get divorced, I stayed in it and ended up getting stuck, cause my sister said I should stay, just because the man was crying and begging for me to stay. Don’t be distracted by what others have to say. Listen to Tony. He is talking truth! AND REMEMBER, IT IS UNLIKELY THAT THEY WILL BE CHANGED... BE CAREFUL OF THE HOOVERING AS WELL. ... THEY WILL EVEN USE THEIR CHILDREN TO GET THEIR WAY. Unfortunately, they have no self-respect, so how on earth can they have respect for you??? STAND STRONG... I even ended up relocating... smh... DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO BUT STAND STRONG - You can do it. Huge hug from me🤗
I was in the same boat. Man lied and told me the woman wanted him, I responded she didn't just up and fall on your d***. Gave him another chance and was I foolish to do that. These men will say anything.
Be strong and follow your intuition. A man being unfaithful while you are pregnant is trash, there is no salvation for him. He will give you all sorts of reasons and tricks in the book, don't buy any of them. Get your team together (family, friends, etc.) and raise that child in a happy healthy single mother home.
Tony, thank you so much. I realize you get exhausted from repeating your words over and over again. It is not in vain, sir! You give us strength every single time, and I thank you from the bottom, top, and middle of my heart sir. May God bless you in every way.
I absolutely believe that God got tired of listening to me for years crying, whining and being miserable, so when I was finally ready to accept help, he sent me Tony....Yes, I needed a good swift kick in the ego to stop my foolish behavior, allowing grown boys to determine my destiny. I needed to start listening to God (and Tony) and become the woman I was meant to be.
Amen! I too, have been kicked up the behind too many times after being so naive. I have learned my lesson and keep on moving. Thank God for Tony, I wish I had met Tony 30 yes ago.
I watch your videos often and I never comment but I want you to know this truly bless me. I am in the process of getting a divorce. I was married for 13 years-together for 20. My soon to be ex-husband is involved heavily in ministry. He had multiple affairs and fathered a child during our marriage. He along with many church folk tried to gaslight me to stay using scriptures. God gave me the strength to leave. Watching your videos is helping me get stronger each day. Thank you for all you do. God bless you.
Just went through a 16 month silent treatment, porn and pills, to an anniversary band, 4 dating sites, and online gambling.......27 years, 3 grown kids, and small grandchildren.....there's no way life was meant to be lived like this......
You're not living, you're existing...and thats not what our lives were intended for....hope you get the chance to reconnect with your true ,inner self again someday.
Know your self worth, God made you to be perfect! You are already perfect, whole and complete. Don’t let your spouse/boyfriend/partner bring you down to their level of pain and suffering. If you need to heal the pain and hurt to understand and accept your self worth, then do the inner healing. You are taken care of by God, you are supported and protected by God. Always remember you must take care of yourself holistically, meaning emotionally spiritually mentally and physically before you connect with others. This should be a daily commitment🙏🏼
These are nothing but FACTS!!! Being"religious" got me into and kept me in bondage of an abusive marriage, by the grace of God it pushed me into a more spiritual relationship with GOD which lead me right on out of that mess... God is a jealous God and anything we put ahead of him won't work. When we are dealing with toxicity in relationships is extremely difficult to give God the focus because all of our attention is on "making it work". My belief is when you seek him first he will absolutely lead you out of that situation you got yourself into.
Hi Tony....thank you for taking your time to educate my close to 50 yr old behind.....thanks to Mrs. Gaskins, as well, for sharing you to be able TO educate......
My husband has cheated on me with porn many many many times. He knows this hurts me and yet lies straight to my face like it's no big deal. He is an emotional abuser. I am only allowed to talk about good things nothing negative. I receive very little affection/ attention constantly ignored and hurt by this man for years. He's also a bad alcoholic he definitely chooses this over our marriage. I plan to divorce.
I have dealt with the porn situation. Most people think that porn isn’t cheating since there is no physical touch. The Bible even mentions it and calls it wrong. I am sorry for what you’re going through. Keep watching the video’s. They’ve helped me a lot. Take care and be blessed.
Sounds like intimacy anorexia and porn addiction. Heart to heart centre in Colorado springs specializes with this and have a lot of books and resources just so you know, you're not alone.
I just had to leave a Relationship!! Glad I wasn't Married/had children with him...Whew!! He wasn't Abusive, just Extremely Immature (mind you he was 50yrs. old)!
Age is not maturity, ive dealt with someone like that, I was thinking he would be more mature than me and he constantly left me astonished with his level of immaturity. Every was a fight/tantrum
I watch your videos and I have learned a great deal. Could you please make a video, more for men that touches on the subject of men just pretending to live a woman only to be using her as a "beard" because he is secretly gay? There are men out there just using women for food, shelter, sex, but out there you think you're in a relationship with a man but he's only with you for what you can give him and to top it off, he's really gay. We as people aren't perfect but these are dangerous times and these are dangerous games. Thank you Tony.
Its true that it be hard to leave something you just started but if it starts getting bad, back out! Forget what his family and yo family think, leave! We all make mistakes and don't deserve to suffer in order for things to look good or not take a L that may be inevitable.💯
Thank you for the consistent videos , l'm absolutely obsessed with your channel .l'm learning so much at 23 and l feel privileged to have come across your channel ...all the way from Africa . Remain blessed🤩🙂🙂
Everytime he says congratulations I know tony will say here go a cookie lmao. I swear I listen to him so much I got some of his words in my brain to use lol
My friends and I have dubbed ourselves "Gaskin's Girls" when it comes to dealing with men. Thank you for your videos. They are life changing for us single women.
Thank you Tony! This is something I’ve struggled with when deciding to divorce my husband. I’m currently going thru the process now and I’ve never felt so free from the toxicity. Thank you for your helping us all! God bless 💚
Tony, this video really spoke to me. I divorced my husband after two years because of his alcohol addiction and unacceptable behavior which affected my kids also. It was a very stressful marriage which led me to the ER and i was officially diagnosed with anxiety disorder.. He refused to get help. Leaving him was the greatest feeling in the world. Divorce should not always be looked at in a negative light. Not only did we go to pre-marrital counceling, we also Got married in a Catholic church! Got to go! I can hear what God is saying now! 🙏🏻🙌
My god ! I have laughed so hard I’m in tears, but this is L E G I T! I took so many gems from this ! Y’all Tony said “ He ain’t been convicted so he goin keep doing the Lord’s work !” When he did the skit & God asked Esther & Ruth was they going to Choir practice !!😅🤣😂 he ain’t right for that ! Tony put this on LIVE REPLAY 💎
I had to find out the truth of what you're talking about in this video through my own harsh experiences. I was finally able to leave because I finally understood that the light of God or divinity had gone out from my relationship with my ex husband and without that, there is nothing good left.
I am a living witness to ALL of this!!! Yes I left the devil’s nephew and I am more than ok on the other side! My latter days are greater than my former days! I now have a marriage without sorrow!!Took me 26 years y’all but I got out and God gave me his best.
Your comment bless me. I filed for divorce after 29 years. Married at age 19. So I am starting over and praying I will be okay. I could not take no more of the abuse. I hope I find the right person to love in my later years. Reading your comment gives me hope.
@@mirroringlove3701 I will be standing with you in faith. What God did for me he will surely do for you. I got married at 19 as well. It is never God’s will for us to be abused and mistreated in a marriage. He didn’t ordain those marriages. Embrace the new season and REST. Let God be God for you now.
Thank you Tony. I needed to hear that. I just took steps today to leave my mentally verbally emotionally abusive husband. Although he not physically abusive. His words and emotion feel like a gun shot to the head. I see now I deserve better. So im gonna do better and get on with my life with me and my daughters
Fear is a snare, fear has torment, sometimes our worst fears can come to pass because of the energy we give it, instead of fear, trust God, pray, ask Him to reveal every hidden motive , Hes not a wicked father, he even shoes people that didnt ask, most people see the signs but ignore for whatever reason then it all goes downhill.
You have me rolling in here!!! BUT WHEN I SAY The truth shall set you ....YOU 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 with that truth!!! That transparency is most important !!! BUT YOU NOT WRONG!!!
Ohh yes I was drained . I thought I was going to go to my early grave. Tony is spot on. When you are in a poison relationship for so long , you might even have chronic illnesses developed from that. I’m glad I’m out of that abusive relationship. I am in the process of loving myself more and be in tune with my intuition. Spiritual path but I sometimes swear lol but I have cut down alot
TG is my dose of medicine everyday I listen to his videos to keep my mind straight! You are truly appreciate keep up the awesome work we need you out here in the world.
Preach Tony! If I could give this video two thumbs up, I would! It is imperative for us to seek God's wisdom, discernment and direction for our relationships before we proceed in our own way. Some folks can paint a great picture of how life will be post-nuptuals and flip the script before the ink is dry on the marriage license! Peace is priceless and sanity is not for sale! Cut it off, walk away and be with Christ!
Thank you just filed for divorce people in the church wanted me to stay in a toxic marriage! His family disrespected me constantly he allowed it! Infidelity he was pretending to be this holy man in church but behind closed door he worshipped the devil I’m so happy I’m out I’m never ever looking back! This video is confirmation thank you!
Applicable to the field I just left to step out and start my own venture. Most of the teachers I worked with and knew, were suffering mentally and emotionally as I was but they stayed for their kids or because of how long they were teaching. 1 year was enough for me to listen to myself. Thank you for what you said "If you leave make a mistake and leave prematurely or leave for your sanity, you will be okay... that's the point of grace".
Omg ,it’s so so funny .I can’t hold my stomach lol 😂 Tony ,enacting the scene of calling out the heavenly lords disciples and giving the example of us silly ones on earth .It’s so so funny and indeed a great way to teach ,so we will never forget the lesson .Thank you ,Tony.God bless you .It’s also hilarious when you start a sentence rolling your tongue 👅 “Ohhhh” imitating loose booty 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is most excellent!! I've been telling a friend to leave her toxic fake marriage for yrs but she uses bible verses and church stuff, I am done talking about it with her. People around her fall into the fakenes of her marriage. But I know what's really on, so I'm like girl, bye! Grown people gonna do what grown people want to do. Thank you Tony for your Godly wisdom and discernment ,. God bless your family and land!
That's true, we can be going to church but with no relationship to God and hearing from God. Keep on preaching brother!!!! You are helping so many of us growing in this walk.....
I got engaged on August 30th of this year. Last week we got into a disagreement and I left his house to go home. I decided to call him back about 2hrs later to communicate how I felt. He picked up and said he was eating dinner with a friend. I asked was it a male or female; he replied female. At that point, I felt he couldn't be trusted so I ended the engagement. I am still hurt. Great video, Tony G.
You were very brave and courageous to break off the engagement- most people won’t because they’ve invested all that time in the relationship- you’ve chosen the better level of pain- breaking off an engagement hurts but a divorce would hurt a 1000 x more
@@sacredspacesllc5260 so sorry- disappointment is painful- i pray you find the right one who will do right by you- i just see so many people willing to jump off the cliff anyway getting married knowing they should break up - your willingness to end it shows you value yourself more than a wedding ring - may the Lord heal you and bring you peace and comfort
😩😩😂😂😂 Not God calling in the crew so they see how you over there calling out scriptures but sinning in every other area 🤣🤣🤣 Tony literally keeps me LOL!
All I can say is that you preached tonight! Such passion for helping people. You went all the way in as usually. God bless you man of God and your beautiful family. Thank you.
I am so happy Tony touched on this subject. I see so many woman stay in these toxic relationships using the bible to stay. And they are bitter, angry, low self esteem holding onto a man who out there living his best life drinking, smoking, cheating, and being a whole devil.
TONY you too young to be knowing those saying “Bit mo know more than the man in the moon”. I love your delivery!! It’s sooo relatable and easy to receive. THANK YOU!!!🙌🏾💪🏾
I know that feeling Sis. I felt like I was out of my body. But I knew that he had to leave THAT day or one of us was not going to make it. It had gotten real BAD. I still praise God I didn't take that man out.
Tony Gaskin's channel is one of the few places where I laugh as much as I learn.
So true!!
Okay!! Absolutely!
Mannnnn
For real he is a character 😂
But he’s so wise!!!!
Extremely true.
Amen
I have a friend who stayed married to her toxic abusive husband way longer than she should have because she thought her very religious father would feel a way if she divorced him.
When she finally had enough and decided to divorce him she told her father and his response was:
‘It’s about time!!!’
Shocked...she said:
‘Daddy I thought you would be mad because divorce goes against your religious beliefs...’
Her father said:
‘Ain’t no way God brought the two of you together!’
😂😂 this is great. This is exactly how I was until I finally found the strength to leave years after my dad passed on
WHEW! That’s deep!
I felt this!!! “Ain’t no way!!”
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Amen thank God you out and free we live and learn
Leave. That one time you let red flags slide turns into years of wasted time. Things that are for you don’t confuse you or fill you with an empty void of pain/loneliness. God doesn’t lead with confusion. The healthiest couples have clarity and know where they stand with one another, which is in peace and understanding. Great topic ❤️
You better teach the people sis, this is nothing but Gods honest truth. God is definately not the author of confusion.
After 6 years and one beautiful son, I realized my partner was not the person I thought she was. She was unfaithful, and even though I found out I stayed for my son. Two months ago I grew the strength to leave because I realized from you, i do not need to be with this women to be the best father I can be!! Leave the toxic relationships people!! Even if you invested time it’s better to take that lost than to invest EVEN MORE TIME!!
Wow! Well said. Blessings
I pay for freedom by any means necessary 💯 😌 🙏
Bravo to you 👏
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How do you co parent with that toxic ex?
@@Yesitsmandisa Honestly just by being the bigger person. I know my responsibilities as a father, and nothing can stop me from being a father. As of now we try to keep the situation out of court. So what we did is we made a schedule that fits the both of us to have the baby. And also make every conversation strictly about our child.
Some of us have stayed too long and wasted precious time. Important to have the wisdom to know when it's time to leave.✌🏾
Yes looking back I can’t believe I wasted seven years
Yes, Stayed Way Too Long. 💯
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It's happened to the best of us, thanks be to God we finally saw the light.
Damn this piece is mine lady ... wasting my time for the past 16 years of my life living with someone who continuously do not support my dreams. And the bullshit on anything you can think off under the face of this earth - keeps escalating day in and day out. It is just idiotic.
Time to leave to protect my sanity. Damn the preaching he pulls up under his own bullshit is something else.
Preach Tony!!! I left a man with three babies under 3 and God save my emotional, spiritual life...My life became full of peace, joy and financial blessings....What a mighty God we serve!!
Amen...went through the same thing...put God first...and it all fall into place.
@@TheOmegaGamer339 Amen...indeed!!!
Glory to God
@@TheOmegaGamer339 keep pushing
Keep pushing
Exactlyyyyyy Stop telling random folks to "pray for you" everybody isn't anointed!
Amen 🙏 well stated and truth
Bullseye 📌📌📌📌
What’s wrong with telling “random people” to pray for you/family? I thought there was power in prayer?
And you don't know who they praying to either
@@kaleema1987 Thank You❤💯💯
We don’t even know if God honored your marriage! Wow that was good
He preaches girl!
@@officialwatchamber yes he does 🙌🏾🙌🏾
That was profound right there
🔥🔥🔥🔥 I needed to hear this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Definitely Freed Me
I know this is old, but when I got married to my ex husband, when the pastor asked me the question, a voice in my head said no, clear as day. I still said I do though. I still remember that day.
Sat through abuse in nearly every relationship; both subtle and surprise... Until recently, I didn't know my Mother, Grandmother, and Great Grandmother were abused in their marriages. I refuse to carry that trauma on. It ain't a blessing when it adds sorrow.
That's a DOPE hat I made for you!!!
send me your link so I can see your merch
You did a beautiful 😍 job sis...may God bless you to be very prosperous...smile
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Great job beautiful💜
LINK PLEASE
I clicked so fast because I'm trying to leave this guy, he's just draining me. Thank you!
Please leave him...please!
Withdraw, cold turkey from him might be tough but the sooner you get clean of him the easier it will be rather than letting him toxicate you more of the waste he has.
You will feel like a ton of bricks been lifted off your entire body once you leave! I know from experience!!!
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@@god1st551 right! As Tony said GOT TO GO!!!!!!!!!
I was at the gym today...two ladies near me on treadmills listening to Tony...famous in Philly
I have definitely been blessed since I left my ex husband. My faith is finally working. And I LOVE IT HERE...
5.5 years into my toxic Marriage/ relationship and all I could remember from our last argument was me screaming at the top of my lungs (over and over again) “... ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!” We’ve been separated for almost two years now and I realized my children didn’t have a chance if I had stayed. Since I’ve left I’ve drawn closer to The Lord, my children are flourishing and we are at peace... He was the type to use the Bible as a weapon. But then I remembered I was saved before I met him and I would be saved after I left. Best decision I made. I thank The Lord for His grace and mercy. Thank you for all that you do Tony Godspeed 🙏🏽🙏🏽
"Jesussss, Mary MagdaLIN, Martha, come here come here " I fell outttt 🤣🤣🙏🙏
Lol
Esther Ruth y’all come over here !!!! Just hollerin!
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It's sooo funny cuz I picture them doing just that 🤣 😂
Bishhhhh how I come across your comments lmao I’m sleeping with the demon fml the devils nephew fr
I’m in the process of getting out of a marriage. And we’ve only been married 6months. The deal breaker is I’m 35weeks pregnant with our first child and he has been unfaithful while I’ve been pregnant. So take this advice to heart because it’s so true what he says. It’s the hardest thing to leave someone you invested in. But when you’ve put up with enough that’s it..
Sister.... when all is said and done... and you have got some coaching or counselling and get understanding... it will be well worth it and you will actually be doing your kid a favour by leaving instead of staying in a toxic relationship. Tony is hitting bullseye🎯 in everything that he is saying... if I had this information and wisdoms over two decades ago... wow... God knows where I would have been. But don’t look back. It’s not worth becoming like Lot’s wife. You will make it. Yes, it is painful at first, but you will get through it. Pick your head up and run with what God has for you. When I first wanted to get divorced, I stayed in it and ended up getting stuck, cause my sister said I should stay, just because the man was crying and begging for me to stay. Don’t be distracted by what others have to say. Listen to Tony. He is talking truth! AND REMEMBER, IT IS UNLIKELY THAT THEY WILL BE CHANGED... BE CAREFUL OF THE HOOVERING AS WELL. ... THEY WILL EVEN USE THEIR CHILDREN TO GET THEIR WAY. Unfortunately, they have no self-respect, so how on earth can they have respect for you??? STAND STRONG... I even ended up relocating... smh... DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO BUT STAND STRONG - You can do it. Huge hug from me🤗
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I was in the same boat. Man lied and told me the woman wanted him, I responded she didn't just up and fall on your d***. Gave him another chance and was I foolish to do that. These men will say anything.
May God give you strength
Be strong and follow your intuition. A man being unfaithful while you are pregnant is trash, there is no salvation for him. He will give you all sorts of reasons and tricks in the book, don't buy any of them. Get your team together (family, friends, etc.) and raise that child in a happy healthy single mother home.
Tony preached a whole sermon. Any I've had so called Christians tell me I can't divorce, I'd tell them then you be married to him.
"God is NOT a Old White Man Sitting On A Chair.." Speak Truth to Power!
POINT BLANK PERI-YAHHD! WE ARE TO SEEK HIS FACE! BUT THEY DONE ALREADY GAVE HIM A FACE!? 😑MISS ME WITH THAT! LOL
He said started off saying “ohh!!” I know this is about to be good 💀😂😂💀💀
Same 😭 gets me everytime
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With the head nod! LOL!
Exactly!!!🤣🙌🏾😂
Tony, thank you so much. I realize you get exhausted from repeating your words over and over again. It is not in vain, sir! You give us strength every single time, and I thank you from the bottom, top, and middle of my heart sir. May God bless you in every way.
Man!!! I left home 10 percent battery life.saw this video...I turned around to get my car charger to listen to this!!!
This happened to me last week too!😂
I'm telling ya😂
Watching also with a dying battery 🤣
I absolutely believe that God got tired of listening to me for years crying, whining and being miserable, so when I was finally ready to accept help, he sent me Tony....Yes, I needed a good swift kick in the ego to stop my foolish behavior, allowing grown boys to determine my destiny. I needed to start listening to God (and Tony) and become the woman I was meant to be.
Amen! I too, have been kicked up the behind too many times after being so naive. I have learned my lesson and keep on moving. Thank God for Tony, I wish I had met Tony 30 yes ago.
Same for me ❤
Woman we have to know when love is no longer being served we have to get up from the table. Nina simone said it best
You must teach who you are with your love language. They were raised differently. Just speaking what a person should do will not cut it.
Powerful message. If churches taught this many women and children wouldn’t be suffering. Thank you.
Amen
I watch your videos often and I never comment but I want you to know this truly bless me. I am in the process of getting a divorce. I was married for 13 years-together for 20. My soon to be ex-husband is involved heavily in ministry. He had multiple affairs and fathered a child during our marriage. He along with many church folk tried to gaslight me to stay using scriptures. God gave me the strength to leave. Watching your videos is helping me get stronger each day. Thank you for all you do. God bless you.
You seem to give us lessons just when we need them the most, thank you for that.
Gabriel go talk to her 🤣🤣😭😭
He gathered everybody 😂😂
Just went through a 16 month silent treatment, porn and pills, to an anniversary band, 4 dating sites, and online gambling.......27 years, 3 grown kids, and small grandchildren.....there's no way life was meant to be lived like this......
It’s not.
At all ! You can move on and be happy !
God bless you Sis
Wow!
You're not living, you're existing...and thats not what our lives were intended for....hope you get the chance to reconnect with your true ,inner self again someday.
Where were you 25yrs ago? 🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️ better late than never. Thank you!
Amen to that
@pob option, facts...
Know your self worth, God made you to be perfect! You are already perfect, whole and complete. Don’t let your spouse/boyfriend/partner bring you down to their level of pain and suffering. If you need to heal the pain and hurt to understand and accept your self worth, then do the inner healing. You are taken care of by God, you are supported and protected by God. Always remember you must take care of yourself holistically, meaning emotionally spiritually mentally and physically before you connect with others. This should be a daily commitment🙏🏼
God made us Human and we are all imperfect but we must strive for perfection. That’s God’s word.🤷♀️
These are nothing but FACTS!!! Being"religious" got me into and kept me in bondage of an abusive marriage, by the grace of God it pushed me into a more spiritual relationship with GOD which lead me right on out of that mess... God is a jealous God and anything we put ahead of him won't work. When we are dealing with toxicity in relationships is extremely difficult to give God the focus because all of our attention is on "making it work". My belief is when you seek him first he will absolutely lead you out of that situation you got yourself into.
Thank you for sharing this!!
Hi Tony....thank you for taking your time to educate my close to 50 yr old behind.....thanks to Mrs. Gaskins, as well, for sharing you to be able TO educate......
Tony: “HEY HEY TONY GASKINS HERE!”
Me: “whoever I’m talking to and whatever I’m doing, “GOT TA GO!!” ❤️❤️
My husband has cheated on me with porn many many many times. He knows this hurts me and yet lies straight to my face like it's no big deal. He is an emotional abuser. I am only allowed to talk about good things nothing negative. I receive very little affection/ attention constantly ignored and hurt by this man for years. He's also a bad alcoholic he definitely chooses this over our marriage. I plan to divorce.
I have dealt with the porn situation. Most people think that porn isn’t cheating since there is no physical touch. The Bible even mentions it and calls it wrong. I am sorry for what you’re going through. Keep watching the video’s. They’ve helped me a lot. Take care and be blessed.
God bless you Sis!!!
Sounds like intimacy anorexia and porn addiction. Heart to heart centre in Colorado springs specializes with this and have a lot of books and resources just so you know, you're not alone.
Please leave for your sanity,mental/emotional abuse ain't no joke.
Yes.....good for you
I just had to leave a Relationship!! Glad I wasn't Married/had children with him...Whew!! He wasn't Abusive, just Extremely Immature (mind you he was 50yrs. old)!
Age is not maturity, ive dealt with someone like that, I was thinking he would be more mature than me and he constantly left me astonished with his level of immaturity. Every was a fight/tantrum
I watch your videos and I have learned a great deal. Could you please make a video, more for men that touches on the subject of men just pretending to live a woman only to be using her as a "beard" because he is secretly gay? There are men out there just using women for food, shelter, sex, but out there you think you're in a relationship with a man but he's only with you for what you can give him and to top it off, he's really gay. We as people aren't perfect but these are dangerous times and these are dangerous games. Thank you Tony.
“You’re there because you got your own set of fears that ain’t got nothing to do with God.” TG
Hello somebody I know tHats right
Right! That’s so me
Its true that it be hard to leave something you just started but if it starts getting bad, back out! Forget what his family and yo family think, leave! We all make mistakes and don't deserve to suffer in order for things to look good or not take a L that may be inevitable.💯
My life totally changed at 26 yrs old. Life is too short to remain miserable! Agree! Some things we can in fact control, such as how ppl treat us!
Selah
Thank you for the consistent videos , l'm absolutely obsessed with your channel .l'm learning so much at 23 and l feel privileged to have come across your channel ...all the way from Africa . Remain blessed🤩🙂🙂
So wonderful that you are learning this at an early age.
You are blessed to hear all this super early.
Everytime he says congratulations I know tony will say here go a cookie lmao. I swear I listen to him so much I got some of his words in my brain to use lol
I want a marriage without sorrow! Amen🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾...
Amen!!!🙏🙌🏾
Amen, that part❗❗❗
🤣🤣🤣🤣 "THAT was an accident, sorry we called it marriage"
"GOT TA GO" 🤣🤣🤣🤓
My friends and I have dubbed ourselves "Gaskin's Girls" when it comes to dealing with men. Thank you for your videos. They are life changing for us single women.
I love the thumpnail picture!!!😂😂 Thats how you know it’s going to be good if he looking crazy!
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Thank you Tony! This is something I’ve struggled with when deciding to divorce my husband. I’m currently going thru the process now and I’ve never felt so free from the toxicity. Thank you for your helping us all! God bless 💚
Man you better preach.
Tony, this video really spoke to me. I divorced my husband after two years because of his alcohol addiction and unacceptable behavior which affected my kids also. It was a very stressful marriage which led me to the ER and i was officially diagnosed with anxiety disorder.. He refused to get help. Leaving him was the greatest feeling in the world. Divorce should not always be looked at in a negative light. Not only did we go to pre-marrital counceling, we also Got married in a Catholic church! Got to go! I can hear what God is saying now! 🙏🏻🙌
My god ! I have laughed so hard I’m in tears, but this is L E G I T! I took so many gems from this !
Y’all Tony said “ He ain’t been convicted so he goin keep doing the Lord’s work !” When he did the skit & God asked Esther & Ruth was they going to Choir practice !!😅🤣😂 he ain’t right for that !
Tony put this on LIVE REPLAY 💎
I had to find out the truth of what you're talking about in this video through my own harsh experiences. I was finally able to leave because I finally understood that the light of God or divinity had gone out from my relationship with my ex husband and without that, there is nothing good left.
I fell off the bed when said.."comere Mary Magdaline." 🤣😅
I am a living witness to ALL of this!!! Yes I left the devil’s nephew and I am more than ok on the other side! My latter days are greater than my former days! I now have a marriage without sorrow!!Took me 26 years y’all but I got out and God gave me his best.
Your comment bless me. I filed for divorce after 29 years. Married at age 19. So I am starting over and praying I will be okay. I could not take no more of the abuse. I hope I find the right person to love in my later years. Reading your comment gives me hope.
@@mirroringlove3701 I will be standing with you in faith. What God did for me he will surely do for you. I got married at 19 as well. It is never God’s will for us to be abused and mistreated in a marriage. He didn’t ordain those marriages. Embrace the new season and REST. Let God be God for you now.
@@tanyawilliams2761 Thank you for your response. I'm literally in tears. May God keep blessing you.
Thank you Tony. I needed to hear that. I just took steps today to leave my mentally verbally emotionally abusive husband. Although he not physically abusive. His words and emotion feel like a gun shot to the head. I see now I deserve better. So im gonna do better and get on with my life with me and my daughters
Praying he n Sherri have a lil girl one day ! He the only dude besides my elder I can run and listen to.
Not “ hey the SPIRIT just left me!!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Tony the spirit AINT never leaving you!! Thank you 🙏🏽
Tony Gaskins went from Mentoring Coach to Reverend Gaskins ! He did that! Teach, Preacher, Keep it 100!!
This is my biggest fear when it come to getting married 😨
Yes!! but would still leave , just couldn't fathom the heartbreak.
Fear is a snare, fear has torment, sometimes our worst fears can come to pass because of the energy we give it, instead of fear, trust God, pray, ask Him to reveal every hidden motive , Hes not a wicked father, he even shoes people that didnt ask, most people see the signs but ignore for whatever reason then it all goes downhill.
Deminion!!! Dominion!! Weak😂😂😂 Keep teaching us God’s word Tony!! We need it Point blank Perioddddttt!! God bless you🙌🏽
You have me rolling in here!!! BUT WHEN I SAY The truth shall set you ....YOU 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥 with that truth!!! That transparency is most important !!! BUT YOU NOT WRONG!!!
Ohh yes I was drained . I thought I was going to go to my early grave. Tony is spot on. When you are in a poison relationship for so long , you might even have chronic illnesses developed from that. I’m glad I’m out of that abusive relationship. I am in the process of loving myself more and be in tune with my intuition. Spiritual path but I sometimes swear lol but I have cut down alot
Please re-upload this one on Sunday, and whatever else God tells you. Cause this one is so on point, that it's crazy.
I want to also add that my peace is more than money 💴 thanks for your calling of making it plain for the simple minded
Wayyyy more than money
No Longer Settling for Less🙌🏾🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
Honestly these are the fathers we need... Who guide and protect us. Super grateful for you sir💐
Always a good word no matter the title of the video. Always able to take something away. Blessings! 🙏🏽
peace of mind ....is priceless!!!!!
“You Hear Me,”Tony voice 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Point blank periyodd!!!
Nothing like it. Incomparable
The thumbnail 😂😂
Right 🤣🤣🤣
You ain't told nothing but the truth. God Bless You and your family
TG is my dose of medicine everyday I listen to his videos to keep my mind straight! You are truly appreciate keep up the awesome work we need you out here in the world.
Preach Tony! If I could give this video two thumbs up, I would! It is imperative for us to seek God's wisdom, discernment and direction for our relationships before we proceed in our own way. Some folks can paint a great picture of how life will be post-nuptuals and flip the script before the ink is dry on the marriage license! Peace is priceless and sanity is not for sale! Cut it off, walk away and be with Christ!
I LOVE when Tony acts as Jesus and he starts calling on all the deceased disciples to come look at the ignorance going on in earth.
So true, it makes me cry 😥
lol every time you do a woman's voice. 😂
It's the lip pop for me. 😂😂😂😂
@@shelitaj.1479 cracks me up EVERY TIME!!!! lol 😂
Just who is this woman? She has such an attitude 🤣
@@RenGib123 lol 😂 yep so funny
Gotta love Tony! He's hilarious, but he the Truth!!!!!! He be on point on EVERYTHING!!!!!!!
Thank you just filed for divorce people in the church wanted me to stay in a toxic marriage! His family disrespected me constantly he allowed it! Infidelity he was pretending to be this holy man in church but behind closed door he worshipped the devil I’m so happy I’m out I’m never ever looking back! This video is confirmation thank you!
Hilarious!! Tony’s becoming a sit down comedian!😂🤣😆
Applicable to the field I just left to step out and start my own venture. Most of the teachers I worked with and knew, were suffering mentally and emotionally as I was but they stayed for their kids or because of how long they were teaching. 1 year was enough for me to listen to myself. Thank you for what you said "If you leave make a mistake and leave prematurely or leave for your sanity, you will be okay... that's the point of grace".
AMEN!!! I finally got the courage to leave after over 20 + years. 🙌🏽
Omg ,it’s so so funny .I can’t hold my stomach lol 😂 Tony ,enacting the scene of calling out the heavenly lords disciples and giving the example of us silly ones on earth .It’s so so funny and indeed a great way to teach ,so we will never forget the lesson .Thank you ,Tony.God bless you .It’s also hilarious when you start a sentence rolling your tongue 👅 “Ohhhh” imitating loose booty 🤣🤣🤣🤣
"Son name Dominion"...🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣🤣 I can't with Tony!!!
This is most excellent!! I've been telling a friend to leave her toxic fake marriage for yrs but she uses bible verses and church stuff, I am done talking about it with her. People around her fall into the fakenes of her marriage. But I know what's really on, so I'm like girl, bye!
Grown people gonna do what grown people want to do. Thank you Tony for your Godly wisdom and discernment ,. God bless your family and land!
Me: just got off work I want to laugh, let me go on TH-cam.
Tony Gaskins's video pops up
Me now: never mind! Let me learn som'ing today.
That's true, we can be going to church but with no relationship to God and hearing from God. Keep on preaching brother!!!!
You are helping so many of us growing in this walk.....
You’re changing the game. Keep preaching I’m listening and taking notes👏
I got engaged on August 30th of this year. Last week we got into a disagreement and I left his house to go home. I decided to call him back about 2hrs later to communicate how I felt. He picked up and said he was eating dinner with a friend. I asked was it a male or female; he replied female. At that point, I felt he couldn't be trusted so I ended the engagement. I am still hurt. Great video, Tony G.
You dodged a bullet. Be blessed 🙌
You were very brave and courageous to break off the engagement- most people won’t because they’ve invested all that time in the relationship- you’ve chosen the better level of pain- breaking off an engagement hurts but a divorce would hurt a 1000 x more
@@overcomerbtboj thanks for the words of encouragement. Today was supposed to be our wedding day.
@@sacredspacesllc5260 so sorry- disappointment is painful- i pray you find the right one who will do right by you- i just see so many people willing to jump off the cliff anyway getting married knowing they should break up - your willingness to end it shows you value yourself more than a wedding ring - may the Lord heal you and bring you peace and comfort
@@overcomerbtboj that is so true. Most people nowadays are marrying for the wedding. The marriage starts after the wedding.
😩😩😂😂😂 Not God calling in the crew so they see how you over there calling out scriptures but sinning in every other area 🤣🤣🤣 Tony literally keeps me LOL!
I already knew the video was going to be good by the video pic lol ... thanks Tony!
Girl! That thumbnail alone had me cacklin’ 😂😂
A Kings Love Convo's right!😂🤣
Tony you are saving souls and helping finish gods work! Your a blessing! 🙏🏽❤️
That is what I respect about you. I enjoy the raw and uncut of your speech. I rather have that over someone giving us some bs they feed us.
God is good! Lead your life with a spiritual heart. The sun comes up everyday! Dont waste your time feeling unhappy.
Aye ,listen to me ,nah 🤣🤣
The last narc I dealt with would call himself trying to quote corithians
The devil quotes scripture all the time !
Thats what recognising the Slirit behind peoples actions is very key, the Bible says manipulation is the seed of witchcraft
All I can say is that you preached tonight! Such passion for helping people. You went all the way in as usually. God bless you man of God and your beautiful family. Thank you.
And he's even taking the remote!!🤣🤣🤣
I am so happy Tony touched on this subject. I see so many woman stay in these toxic relationships using the bible to stay.
And they are bitter, angry, low self esteem holding onto a man who out there living his best life drinking, smoking, cheating, and being a whole devil.
TONY you too young to be knowing those saying “Bit mo know more than the man in the moon”. I love your delivery!! It’s sooo relatable and easy to receive. THANK YOU!!!🙌🏾💪🏾
I wish I would have heard this when I was going through that, but it still makes me feel like confirmation that I did the right thing by leaving.
Tony Gaskins you my brother are SAVING LIVES 🙏 GOD Bless You and Sherry 🙏 and your family as a whole
I told my ex in a quiet still voice... you can go out the door or a body bag...he choose the first option
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I was so calm and reserved that it actually scared me!😂😂
I know that feeling Sis. I felt like I was out of my body. But I knew that he had to leave THAT day or one of us was not going to make it. It had gotten real BAD. I still praise God I didn't take that man out.
@@starznmyeyez8906 I’m glad we didn’t do it
😂😂😂....voluntarily....or involuntary manslaughter..."madea"
The "idiocracy!" PREACH IT Tony! I respect ALL of your truth and clarity of God's word. 🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾
You are on point, tell it like it is some of us need this, Tony, you on it