I had this realization Sophomore year of high school. Riding solo ever since. I'm 22 now and it gets lonely, but it's nothing compared to feeling lonely with "friends".
Tha's true, but don't rule out the possibility of having friends. You should definitely be selective. They need to be trustworthy, be willing to help you out when they're able, and accept you for who you are (i.e. you shouldn't have to pretend you're into clubbing if you're actually an introvert, for example). And you don't need a whole big group, just a few. But sooner or later you'll find that you do need a support system for difficult times. But, yes, anything is better than friends who aren't really friends, and you're very wise to figure that out in high school. And since you've learned to be okay on your own, you're in a much better position to be selective about who you allow into your life.
Damn. You made me realize something today. Well, I always knew, but hearing someone state it so clearly sort of hits different. I hope you find people who make you a priority for the rest of your life.
How the hell has this video not gone viral already? My man, you spoke da truth my guy. Ion know you bruh but this was awesome advice. Keep up the good work dude.
I don't care if I don't have any friends. It doesn't bother me at all because people drain you. I usually enjoy the comfort of my own peace and solitude.
@edboss36 Yeah, I can agree with that. At some point, you need companionship for comfort to vent to. Maybe I'm young and only in my early 30s, but it will bother me once I become old with no one taking care of me.
@@NewfieAsianKid Yes when you’re old and lonely that’s the worst. Some people are lucky with a big family. They got people to drive them places, they got so many cousins and the old people live longer because they’re not lonely
Bad friends? Try having bad family. The worst. My own nephew, who I was very close with, who I'd always treated well, kindly, thoughtfully, generously, didn't hesitate to stab me in the back when it suited his desires (to side with his pals, those attacking me, and of course for a pssy he wanted). Betrayal is the absolute worst thing you can have done to you in life. Almost. Even worse, is betrayal by a family member. Betrayal by a close family member who you'd absolutely least expect is the pinnacle of awful things to do to a person or have done to you. So many people in this world are garbage. Granted my nephew was raised by an absolutely awful evil nasty mentally-deranged abusive alcoholic woman, but I'd hoped he had learned better behavior from me. We 'were' close pals.
i feel you gng but we all have our own problems, its not a competition or nothing but i understand what you’re saying, i hope you can sort things out with your nephew. At the end of the day, you can’t control what others do or how they treat you but you can control what you do and how you react, stay true to yourself and don’t let things like that bring you down, know your worth but also be humble.
That’s rough man, gotta throw some hands, I swear sometimes it’s not good to bottle it up inside. Y’all gotta fight it out so they understand and if they don’t then gotta kick them out your life, do what Josh did to Drake if you remembered watching that show.
I feel you bro. I had a cousin that goes to the same college as me and I introduced him to my group, making sure he has a place to stay and support him whenever possible. Things were going fine until I found out he has been spreading nasty rumors about me which basically made me an outcast to my group. Not only that but he also attempted to ruin my family business by saying that my father is sexually abusing his staff, but our business doesn’t even have female staff.
So young & so insightful, I'm very similar to you, but much older. Took me so long to understand what you know at such a young age. I haven't had a friend in over 25 years because of how similar we are & because I'm introverted. I had a so call best friend over 25 years ago, that I found out talked bad behind my back, only wanted to be around when he was going through issues & left me as soon as he found cooler friends. But I'm good now, I'd rather spend quality time by myself than with fake friends. May sound corny, but I'd definitely get along with you. We could be great friends. Take care bro
I remember one day when I was really depressed, I thought to myself *"My friends could care less if I kicked the bucket."* Despite knowing them for years, it never felt reciprocal as I was always the one hitting them up. So one day I stopped, and waited for them to hit *me* up for a change. The days turned into weeks and then months when I finally realized, none of them ever did. No calls, texts, visits, nothing. Not even on my birthday. Not even when I was struggling with drugs and alcohol. Not even when I was contemplating *"you-know-what"* and desperately needed someone to talk to. *But when THEY needed something??* A loan? A ride? A friend? You bet your ass they were always there. Some "friends" huh??
This hits home. I love all my friends but sometimes i just feel like a burden to them, because i'm mentally ill or i'm to kind or whatever else. I feel so hated
The most common thing some of us think. We often think we are ugly.. Being the reason we cant get dates. it's the same thing i thought when I was 22. You are NOTHING of ugly! It's the society that is ugly. They seem to like only obnoxious or troublemakers.
Hola beautiful soul! It's true what you say about friends. When I was a teenager and at my 20ties and even 30ties I used to try to connect with people and make friends. After a while I realized that I was only the one making the effort. Now as I mature and the last years I prefer going solo in activities I like and meet people. One thing that will help to make connections is being involved in activities you like. Also be a volunteer will help connect with other people with the same mindset. Friends come and go. Also they can change because life happens. They can marry, have kids and disappear and it's ok. As long as you don't have expectations from the others you are more free and you feel better ❤️Un abrazo corazón 🤗🤗❤️
so true...have felt like this basically all of my life. just know that you're not alone and that when you meet the right people who actually value your time and attention, they will be really there for life ♥
You are really putting yourself out there to learn from it all which is good because you find out what you want. I had a different experience than you growing up I had to cut bad influences from my life and it was the majority of them ultimately hindered my social ability. I had very few friends growing up and now I barely have friends. It sucks not having any friends’ support especially when I’m going through some things in my life right now. I know I’m a good person like you who knows what she wants having true friends are very rare.
I used to have a couple of friends in college. I was a little different from the rest as I was from a big city and stuff. They all spoke a language which I spoke too along with a bunch of other languages. These people would only interact with ppl who spoke that language although they knew English. Never thought much of it. I did get a feeling after about 6 months of hanging out with them regularly (we were in hostel together living very closely) that maybe I was not welcome. I came to know that all of them knew certain secrets about each other and I was never in those conversations. The thing that stuck me was that I needed help once and one girl did help, but the way she did it more like she did not want it but did it anyway. I used to pay for a lot of the lunches and stuff which I didnt realise until the final incident. One of the girls had a birthday party and all the others collected money for it. They told me that they would let me know about the party but I got to know later that the party happened without me. They took the money and didnt bother to invite me. Also my birthday was never celebrated although I had contributed to all their parties. They would never invite me to trips. I stopped hanging out with them and literally no one even asked me why I was behaving like that. I was very lonely and depressed but realised that I needed to work on myself rather than waste my time with a bunch of people who don't even like me. I did not have close friends for years after that (thanks to covid) but I learned many things about myself and indulged in hobbies. I learned to play the guitar and started working out. I'm very cautious about making friends but I did find a great bunch of people and right now I', happy with my little circle.
I get what you’re talking about. If I didn’t make the sole effort to hang out with my “friends” they would never invite me to hang out. I mean they’d go years without reaching out to me if I stopped being the one to initiate.
Unfortunately you've got you're awakening of the inocence sleep. Fellas no longer made as we used to know, i was 29 and have like 2 real friends and one of them is moving to Germany soon, so im still try to find another fellas. If you find good friends take care of them, you look like a sincere and sensible young man, take care of yourself. And sorry 4 ny bad English, it's not my first language as it's evident 😅😂 cheers!
I've had all of those things happen. A "friend" flaked out and didn't call to apologize or reschedule. Several months later I ran into him and he acted like nothing happened. I told him I'm done and he said he was "going through something." I told him when we were supposed to hang out, I was "going through something."
@cookiegirl891 we think it is the other, but it is actually ourselves. We are the gatekeepers of who has access to our time, attention, and energy. We should safeguard ourselves from toxic people, treatment, environments, situations. Failure to do so, lacking boundaries, and lacking self awareness prevents us from doing so Therfore we are our own worst enemy or own best friend.💚
@cookiegirl891 same. But I'd rather be alone than be in bad company. And I prefer silence over gossip, drama, and surface banter. I used to be afraid of being alone, but I've grown to love it. I've become my own best friend and I am FREEE to be and do whatever I want with my time, my energy, my life. It's actually quite liberating once you make peace with it
the answer is a spiritual path, discover why we are here, on this Earth, we chose to be here to learn about the struggles. Each obstacle is the best teacher. Happiness comes from within. Its all true. If u look for happiness from others, big dissapointment. Of course, we do get joy from being with others, but ultimatley, happiness comes from having the correct perspective of WHY we are here. BUddhism, zen, has the answers. It really really helped me.
People are attracted to what they can not have. And certain 'cool' people attract people to themselves by not caring about others and letting them drop. People end up chasing after them for 'approval'. Wondering 'Am I good enough to hang around them?". But a genuinely caring person already gives them their time, so they don't chase after that person and don't invite them. They already got what they want out of you. So its best to stay closer to neutral. Don't give other people that much of your emotional energy. Help them if they really need it, but don't go overboard. Because then they will disrespect you. Being more neutral is best because then you don't drain your own energy, and you also teach them that friendship must be earned not just taken from you and thrown away.
Here's a really simple test to know who your TRUE friends are. *Don't contact them first.* Friendship should be reciprocal and if you're ALWAYS the one contacting them, *stop.* See how long it takes for one of your friends to hit you up. You'll be shocked at how few, if any, of them actually do and that should tell you a lot.
I have information for you, my friend. I saw it through extensive observation. Sometimes the problem of lack of friends is due to those with you constantly comparing their advantages to you. In sensitive moments in your relationship with them, their inner anger toward you appears in ways that you never thought possible. Their arguments for severing ties become ridiculous, especially when they get married suddenly
I can so relate to this, it pisses me off. All my "freinds" at uni made a group without me which led to me having nobody to work with. It just drags me down mentally to think about. They just picked their cooler friends. Im so pissed
i hear you loud and clear, but you do have a friend that cares about you more over anything else, and once you come who to know who this friend is.. all of a sudden you become everybody's number one priority but loyalty important
Shiii this topic is a “battle” for me. I’ve had 2 real friends before but, bc of my past I didn’t keep in touch. A lot of “friends” aka associates, in the past, no friends in the present. 🍃
Narcs do that. You're but a mere utility. A doll on the shelf. A fleeting fancy. You will feel it in your body and thoughts immediately when you're around them. Get away from them )
I’ve had freinds in the past used me for money when I was working and they was at uni . I used to go on nights out and buy them all drinks . I once went on a camping holiday my dad hired a mini bus from work I was going to share a tent with some one but he didn’t want me in it then my other freinds had a tent ⛺️ and wasn’t allowed in that one and had to sleep in the entrance of there’s was crying all night felt hurt betrayed was awful . One time slept at some ones house they picked me up in a sleeping bad and threw me outside the house they thought it was so funny they played pranks on me every lunch brake wouldn’t leave me alone constantly teasing me 😢 was so upset I guess I had the wrong freinds was so upset they thought it was funny but I didn’t they used to laugh at me when I got upset .
Are these friends of yours people of other races? That's probably the real reason why you are this "last place friend" who they aren't really inviting places. Most people have their closest friends with people of their own race and then have these "just kind of OK-ish" relationships with people of other races. A lot of Asians in the US end up trying very hard to form relationships with people of other races, only to end up with mediocre relationships.
I personally haven't witnessed a lot of racial segregation, I think it's more of a rat-race culture that inadvertently promotes qualities such as ignorance, impoliteness, and petty disdain in the face of corruption, greed, and selfishness
Guys just want to be friends with someone looks like in my country all of them are fake😢😢 so any one who wants to be close friends and basically brothers just reply so that we can talk 😢
this is so effed up. you extroverts have issues. try books. make friends with books. good books. have a voice other than these ppl who put you down in your head for a while.
Geez that's racist. Color doesn't have a sound, we all get our accents and language based on other people around us. There's a phenomenon where hispanic kids start speaking british english because of Peppa Pig.
"Sound your color" what a stupid ignorant and racist thing to say. So I guess in order to speak a certain way, you HAVE to be a certain skin color? Grow up.
that's so true. as a very friendly, people-loving person i'm happy to interact with many people around me, that led me to a lot of heart breaks over people like you talk about. now i have 2 friends my age and 1 older, and for sure we got each other backs. it's not a lot, we don't meet every week but we can call when we want to share happiness and sadness, get a good advice and heart warming words and feel connected. i still like interacting with many lol, but take it as a one-time friend :) we have the control over who we connect with. also, a person being and selfness is not defined by others. internalizing that helps me build myself for me, find my purpose and naturally finding my good friends.
The universe IS Evil. So having bad experiences shouldn't,..... surprise us. Ultimately perfect good can only exist in your mind,heart and soul. There perfect love and justice can be guarded and preserved from the evil universe and evil humans who only want to bring you down to their useless level
Some of them have the “I’m busy” syndrome. Recently, I began to notice this quality constantly. In this particular case, the best response to this unjustified negativity is to return to your frame, your life, and your own achievements with ease and acceptance. Some of them play ego games and mind games like any insecure woman, and then you start to be really surprised by the type of men these days
So much of this is relatable to the core. Seriously. Hurts to think about those whom I've valued and have given my energy to for years, but it's just not reciprocated or appreciated.
When you were younger you’re in school every day seeing the same people. You made a lot of friends just because you’re exposed to them every day. But finding people with the same values is much harder
Bro its a blessing to know who your true friends are and who are not. Dump those that dont add value in your life. I think I am going to start a channel to help the young generation and I pray God gives me the right words to help. Bro social media has really corrupted society. They are the real losers bro!
your getting stronger:) you know the world we live in! now its time to ghost the world and focus on yourself, its time to level up and get to moving on!!!! Lets Go!!!
You know what's funny? Similar and relatable shit except they labeled me as the bad friend for not standing their bs. If I demand the same respect that I give out, especially. They try lecture me that I AM THE FOOL, only for them to do the same and then justify it in whatever means they can nitpick into. Edit: As of one month later after making this comment, I will have you know that things are better because I walked away and cut people off out of my life. Over 90% of people that I thought understood me, I cut them out of my life. It became too toxic and disrespectful and I am tired of hearing their way of logic.
you need someone that's loving, and caring, and very loyal, and respectable and you need a friend that's going to be by your side all the time and you need someone that's got your back in the hurt and the healed bro like you need someone like me fr❤❤🔥
I really respect that bro I don't deal with bunch of drama I don't like people that's why I don't dealing with nobodies feelings I'm not it's self just focus on me went on my own life that's all I did just when on about my business.
Instead of trying to impress people or get someone to be your friend, you should just pursue what you want in life, don't depend on other people to make you happy. People actually only really care about themselves. When you are happy and successful in your life, that will be attractive to others, but that should not be your goal to attract other people to validate who you already are.
I feel you, man. All of sudden, at the end of my year in high school, I just had between 2 to 5 friends and never had that much, plus i realized I was surrounded by fake friends wherever you are in the world GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🙏
i wish i had a friend like you bro
I had this realization Sophomore year of high school. Riding solo ever since. I'm 22 now and it gets lonely, but it's nothing compared to feeling lonely with "friends".
Friends are fake af
Tha's true, but don't rule out the possibility of having friends. You should definitely be selective. They need to be trustworthy, be willing to help you out when they're able, and accept you for who you are (i.e. you shouldn't have to pretend you're into clubbing if you're actually an introvert, for example). And you don't need a whole big group, just a few. But sooner or later you'll find that you do need a support system for difficult times. But, yes, anything is better than friends who aren't really friends, and you're very wise to figure that out in high school. And since you've learned to be okay on your own, you're in a much better position to be selective about who you allow into your life.
had this Realization TODAY in junior year
No fr
Got plenty of acquaintances, but no friends. Life goes on.
Damn. You made me realize something today. Well, I always knew, but hearing someone state it so clearly sort of hits different. I hope you find people who make you a priority for the rest of your life.
How the hell has this video not gone viral already? My man, you spoke da truth my guy. Ion know you bruh but this was awesome advice. Keep up the good work dude.
Good genuine people are hard to come by
I don't care if I don't have any friends. It doesn't bother me at all because people drain you. I usually enjoy the comfort of my own peace and solitude.
This! People do drain you. They want your time, attention, and conversation at their convenience. I enjoy my solitude and peace.
But humans are social by nature. You need good social interaction in your life so try actively find good friends
@edboss36 Yeah, I can agree with that. At some point, you need companionship for comfort to vent to. Maybe I'm young and only in my early 30s, but it will bother me once I become old with no one taking care of me.
@@NewfieAsianKid Yes when you’re old and lonely that’s the worst. Some people are lucky with a big family. They got people to drive them places, they got so many cousins and the old people live longer because they’re not lonely
@@edboss36 ^This
Preach couldn't have said it better myself.
Bad friends? Try having bad family. The worst.
My own nephew, who I was very close with, who I'd always treated well, kindly, thoughtfully, generously, didn't hesitate to stab me in the back when it suited his desires (to side with his pals, those attacking me, and of course for a pssy he wanted). Betrayal is the absolute worst thing you can have done to you in life. Almost. Even worse, is betrayal by a family member. Betrayal by a close family member who you'd absolutely least expect is the pinnacle of awful things to do to a person or have done to you.
So many people in this world are garbage. Granted my nephew was raised by an absolutely awful evil nasty mentally-deranged abusive alcoholic woman, but I'd hoped he had learned better behavior from me. We 'were' close pals.
i feel you gng but we all have our own problems, its not a competition or nothing but i understand what you’re saying, i hope you can sort things out with your nephew. At the end of the day, you can’t control what others do or how they treat you but you can control what you do and how you react, stay true to yourself and don’t let things like that bring you down, know your worth but also be humble.
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how much that must hurt.
That’s rough man, gotta throw some hands, I swear sometimes it’s not good to bottle it up inside. Y’all gotta fight it out so they understand and if they don’t then gotta kick them out your life, do what Josh did to Drake if you remembered watching that show.
Stop devaluing. Both are completely s(f)uck. Especially if you are very tired and don’t have the energy resources to fix your mindset and go on.
I feel you bro. I had a cousin that goes to the same college as me and I introduced him to my group, making sure he has a place to stay and support him whenever possible. Things were going fine until I found out he has been spreading nasty rumors about me which basically made me an outcast to my group. Not only that but he also attempted to ruin my family business by saying that my father is sexually abusing his staff, but our business doesn’t even have female staff.
So young & so insightful, I'm very similar to you, but much older. Took me so long to understand what you know at such a young age. I haven't had a friend in over 25 years because of how similar we are & because I'm introverted. I had a so call best friend over 25 years ago, that I found out talked bad behind my back, only wanted to be around when he was going through issues & left me as soon as he found cooler friends. But I'm good now, I'd rather spend quality time by myself than with fake friends. May sound corny, but I'd definitely get along with you. We could be great friends. Take care bro
I remember one day when I was really depressed, I thought to myself *"My friends could care less if I kicked the bucket."* Despite knowing them for years, it never felt reciprocal as I was always the one hitting them up. So one day I stopped, and waited for them to hit *me* up for a change. The days turned into weeks and then months when I finally realized, none of them ever did. No calls, texts, visits, nothing. Not even on my birthday. Not even when I was struggling with drugs and alcohol. Not even when I was contemplating *"you-know-what"* and desperately needed someone to talk to. *But when THEY needed something??* A loan? A ride? A friend? You bet your ass they were always there. Some "friends" huh??
I’m the type of person who will always remember your Birthday if we were good friends. 😂
Why am I going through this exact same thing. I legit have like one genuine friend.
you have more than most people out there.
I’m that genuine friend but I don’t like being that friend if it’s not reciprocated or at least acknowledged.
this is so damn true
This hits home. I love all my friends but sometimes i just feel like a burden to them, because i'm mentally ill or i'm to kind or whatever else. I feel so hated
Don’t worry man don’t be mentally ill
The most common thing some of us think. We often think we are ugly.. Being the reason we cant get dates. it's the same thing i thought when I was 22. You are NOTHING of ugly! It's the society that is ugly. They seem to like only obnoxious or troublemakers.
Who needs enemies when you got friends like those.
Hola beautiful soul! It's true what you say about friends. When I was a teenager and at my 20ties and even 30ties I used to try to connect with people and make friends. After a while I realized that I was only the one making the effort. Now as I mature and the last years I prefer going solo in activities I like and meet people. One thing that will help to make connections is being involved in activities you like. Also be a volunteer will help connect with other people with the same mindset. Friends come and go. Also they can change because life happens. They can marry, have kids and disappear and it's ok. As long as you don't have expectations from the others you are more free and you feel better ❤️Un abrazo corazón 🤗🤗❤️
Each time I watch your videos, I just want to hug you and tell it’s going to be okay Kev ❤️🩹
Speaking all facts 💯 🙌
You dropped this 👑
so true...have felt like this basically all of my life. just know that you're not alone and that when you meet the right people who actually value your time and attention, they will be really there for life ♥
You are really putting yourself out there to learn from it all which is good because you find out what you want. I had a different experience than you growing up I had to cut bad influences from my life and it was the majority of them ultimately hindered my social ability. I had very few friends growing up and now I barely have friends. It sucks not having any friends’ support especially when I’m going through some things in my life right now. I know I’m a good person like you who knows what she wants having true friends are very rare.
I used to have a couple of friends in college. I was a little different from the rest as I was from a big city and stuff. They all spoke a language which I spoke too along with a bunch of other languages. These people would only interact with ppl who spoke that language although they knew English. Never thought much of it. I did get a feeling after about 6 months of hanging out with them regularly (we were in hostel together living very closely) that maybe I was not welcome. I came to know that all of them knew certain secrets about each other and I was never in those conversations. The thing that stuck me was that I needed help once and one girl did help, but the way she did it more like she did not want it but did it anyway. I used to pay for a lot of the lunches and stuff which I didnt realise until the final incident. One of the girls had a birthday party and all the others collected money for it. They told me that they would let me know about the party but I got to know later that the party happened without me. They took the money and didnt bother to invite me. Also my birthday was never celebrated although I had contributed to all their parties. They would never invite me to trips. I stopped hanging out with them and literally no one even asked me why I was behaving like that. I was very lonely and depressed but realised that I needed to work on myself rather than waste my time with a bunch of people who don't even like me. I did not have close friends for years after that (thanks to covid) but I learned many things about myself and indulged in hobbies. I learned to play the guitar and started working out. I'm very cautious about making friends but I did find a great bunch of people and right now I', happy with my little circle.
I get what you’re talking about. If I didn’t make the sole effort to hang out with my “friends” they would never invite me to hang out. I mean they’d go years without reaching out to me if I stopped being the one to initiate.
Deep stuff. And remember, guys- never text and drive. Or drink and drive. Stay safe on the roads!
Unfortunately you've got you're awakening of the inocence sleep. Fellas no longer made as we used to know, i was 29 and have like 2 real friends and one of them is moving to Germany soon, so im still try to find another fellas. If you find good friends take care of them, you look like a sincere and sensible young man, take care of yourself. And sorry 4 ny bad English, it's not my first language as it's evident 😅😂 cheers!
After 19 years of constant disrespect and let down I'm going to stay alone again for quite some time
I've had all of those things happen. A "friend" flaked out and didn't call to apologize or reschedule. Several months later I ran into him and he acted like nothing happened. I told him I'm done and he said he was "going through something." I told him when we were supposed to hang out, I was "going through something."
my boy going through it u_u
He's going through it? You obviously haven't been there
Average Roblox enjoyer
.-. yeah he's going through something. And already gone through some stuff..
Yes. Relatable. Been burned and abandoned so many times..then, i looked in the mirror😮
What do u think it is about yourself? Genuinely asking
@cookiegirl891 we think it is the other, but it is actually ourselves. We are the gatekeepers of who has access to our time, attention, and energy. We should safeguard ourselves from toxic people, treatment, environments, situations. Failure to do so, lacking boundaries, and lacking self awareness prevents us from doing so
Therfore we are our own worst enemy or own best friend.💚
@@iamsoohappy very true ! I let go of toxic people constantly and I feel free but I’m very lonely .
@cookiegirl891 same. But I'd rather be alone than be in bad company. And I prefer silence over gossip, drama, and surface banter. I used to be afraid of being alone, but I've grown to love it. I've become my own best friend and I am FREEE to be and do whatever I want with my time, my energy, my life. It's actually quite liberating once you make peace with it
Ooof all the fake friends I’d have fought with if they knew how I really felt
the answer is a spiritual path, discover why we are here, on this Earth, we chose to be here to learn about the struggles. Each obstacle is the best teacher. Happiness comes from within. Its all true. If u look for happiness from others, big dissapointment. Of course, we do get joy from being with others, but ultimatley, happiness comes from having the correct perspective of WHY we are here. BUddhism, zen, has the answers. It really really helped me.
this is really heartbreaking
It's called boundaries. Quit whining and start building healthy boundaries.
I've found that you need to be your own best friend.
Love your content man keep this up it helps out in so many ways
Post-highschool crisis
U don’t if he’s in high school or not he looks 18 or 20
People are attracted to what they can not have. And certain 'cool' people attract people to themselves by not caring about others and letting them drop. People end up chasing after them for 'approval'. Wondering 'Am I good enough to hang around them?". But a genuinely caring person already gives them their time, so they don't chase after that person and don't invite them. They already got what they want out of you.
So its best to stay closer to neutral. Don't give other people that much of your emotional energy. Help them if they really need it, but don't go overboard. Because then they will disrespect you. Being more neutral is best because then you don't drain your own energy, and you also teach them that friendship must be earned not just taken from you and thrown away.
Here's a really simple test to know who your TRUE friends are. *Don't contact them first.* Friendship should be reciprocal and if you're ALWAYS the one contacting them, *stop.* See how long it takes for one of your friends to hit you up. You'll be shocked at how few, if any, of them actually do and that should tell you a lot.
Yup I know so called 40+ friends, only 2 or 3 ever hit me up first they the ones I trust and for good reason
I have information for you, my friend. I saw it through extensive observation. Sometimes the problem of lack of friends is due to those with you constantly comparing their advantages to you.
In sensitive moments in your relationship with them, their inner anger toward you appears in ways that you never thought possible.
Their arguments for severing ties become ridiculous, especially when they get married suddenly
I can so relate to this, it pisses me off. All my "freinds" at uni made a group without me which led to me having nobody to work with. It just drags me down mentally to think about. They just picked their cooler friends. Im so pissed
real shit
That's my middle school life.
i hear you loud and clear, but you do have a friend that cares about you more over anything else, and once you come who to know who this friend is.. all of a sudden you become everybody's number one priority but loyalty important
its such a shit feeling when you “cut someone out” but they cut you out first.
Shiii this topic is a “battle” for me. I’ve had 2 real friends before but, bc of my past I didn’t keep in touch. A lot of “friends” aka associates, in the past, no friends in the present. 🍃
real talk
Narcs do that. You're but a mere utility. A doll on the shelf. A fleeting fancy. You will feel it in your body and thoughts immediately when you're around them. Get away from them )
My boy your scooter is all that matters.
I hate to say it but I've gotten more support from my co workers and even strangers than family who's supposed to know me in real life.
Like those that like you. Befriend people that befriend you...
Great video
By the way... YOU ❤️ ARE HANDSOME... truly!!!!!!!!
I’ve had freinds in the past used me for money when I was working and they was at uni . I used to go on nights out and buy them all drinks . I once went on a camping holiday my dad hired a mini bus from work I was going to share a tent with some one but he didn’t want me in it then my other freinds had a tent ⛺️ and wasn’t allowed in that one and had to sleep in the entrance of there’s was crying all night felt hurt betrayed was awful . One time slept at some ones house they picked me up in a sleeping bad and threw me outside the house they thought it was so funny they played pranks on me every lunch brake wouldn’t leave me alone constantly teasing me 😢 was so upset I guess I had the wrong freinds was so upset they thought it was funny but I didn’t they used to laugh at me when I got upset .
Bro should just throw down some hands, we ain’t friends if he acting like that. You might as well be my worst enemy. 😂
Are these friends of yours people of other races? That's probably the real reason why you are this "last place friend" who they aren't really inviting places. Most people have their closest friends with people of their own race and then have these "just kind of OK-ish" relationships with people of other races. A lot of Asians in the US end up trying very hard to form relationships with people of other races, only to end up with mediocre relationships.
I personally haven't witnessed a lot of racial segregation, I think it's more of a rat-race culture that inadvertently promotes qualities such as ignorance, impoliteness, and petty disdain in the face of corruption, greed, and selfishness
It’s so hard to make freinds
I hope we get to meet soon, you're a huge inspiration for my channel
Move on and keep attacking, fam
real
He looks 20.
@@johanruiz3422 He looks 17-18
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yea a couple of them have gone, but I won’t give up
when your kpopmaxxing card doesnt work on black and ethnic-american community
WYA? I'll be your friend
Guys just want to be friends with someone looks like in my country all of them are fake😢😢 so any one who wants to be close friends and basically brothers just reply so that we can talk 😢
Hope all is well with you my friend!
exactly
Is nothing wrong with you,you are the real one they just fake
if he cant offer you any value then why even bother.
5:17 do i
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I think the sideways angle has something to do with visually complementing how he expresses his message
this is so effed up. you extroverts have issues. try books.
make friends with books. good books. have a voice other than these ppl who put you down in your head for a while.
What the fuck is all this styled like how we grew up ?
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Appreciate you but please stop speaking like that. You would be taken more seriously if you spoke with a correct intonation.
Sounds like a you problem. True alphas don't keep friends
Good words. You did not sound your color
Geez that's racist. Color doesn't have a sound, we all get our accents and language based on other people around us. There's a phenomenon where hispanic kids start speaking british english because of Peppa Pig.
"Sound your color" what a stupid ignorant and racist thing to say. So I guess in order to speak a certain way, you HAVE to be a certain skin color? Grow up.
Needed to hear this 🙏🏻
that's so true. as a very friendly, people-loving person i'm happy to interact with many people around me, that led me to a lot of heart breaks over people like you talk about. now i have 2 friends my age and 1 older, and for sure we got each other backs. it's not a lot, we don't meet every week but we can call when we want to share happiness and sadness, get a good advice and heart warming words and feel connected. i still like interacting with many lol, but take it as a one-time friend :)
we have the control over who we connect with. also, a person being and selfness is not defined by others. internalizing that helps me build myself for me, find my purpose and naturally finding my good friends.
The universe IS Evil. So having bad experiences shouldn't,..... surprise us. Ultimately perfect good can only exist in your mind,heart and soul. There perfect love and justice can be guarded and preserved from the evil universe and evil humans who only want to bring you down to their useless level
Actually, sometimes you need those toxic, backstabbing people so you can learn a lot from your mistakes.
Some of them have the “I’m busy” syndrome. Recently, I began to notice this quality constantly. In this particular case, the best response to this unjustified negativity is to return to your frame, your life, and your own achievements with ease and acceptance.
Some of them play ego games and mind games like any insecure woman, and then you start to be really surprised by the type of men these days
So much of this is relatable to the core. Seriously. Hurts to think about those whom I've valued and have given my energy to for years, but it's just not reciprocated or appreciated.
I’m glad I find your channel. Keep it real..I cut off many so call friends.
This is one of the reason why I feel like I don't really have any friends. The older I get the harder it becomes..
When you were younger you’re in school every day seeing the same people. You made a lot of friends just because you’re exposed to them every day. But finding people with the same values is much harder
Bro its a blessing to know who your true friends are and who are not. Dump those that dont add value in your life. I think I am going to start a channel to help the young generation and I pray God gives me the right words to help. Bro social media has really corrupted society. They are the real losers bro!
your getting stronger:) you know the world we live in! now its time to ghost the world and focus on yourself, its time to level up and get to moving on!!!! Lets Go!!!
You know what's funny? Similar and relatable shit except they labeled me as the bad friend for not standing their bs.
If I demand the same respect that I give out, especially. They try lecture me that I AM THE FOOL, only for them to do the same and then justify it in whatever means they can nitpick into.
Edit: As of one month later after making this comment, I will have you know that things are better because I walked away and cut people off out of my life.
Over 90% of people that I thought understood me, I cut them out of my life. It became too toxic and disrespectful and I am tired of hearing their way of logic.
Haha, for a long time.. I have not even realised there was something cooled "friends" ..
Haha
Dealt with sum very shitty friends in hs didnt really reliaze until after hs that i didnt mean shit 2 dem and they jus looked as me as an option
I hope one day I come across you, I’ve never seen anyone soo genuine and real
you need someone that's loving, and caring, and very loyal, and respectable and you need a friend that's going to be by your side all the time and you need someone that's got your back in the hurt and the healed bro like you need someone like me fr❤❤🔥
There are no friends. They're there when they need you. They never care when you're in need. There are no friends.
True😢
I really respect that bro I don't deal with bunch of drama I don't like people that's why I don't dealing with nobodies feelings I'm not it's self just focus on me went on my own life that's all I did just when on about my business.
Instead of trying to impress people or get someone to be your friend, you should just pursue what you want in life, don't depend on other people to make you happy. People actually only really care about themselves. When you are happy and successful in your life, that will be attractive to others, but that should not be your goal to attract other people to validate who you already are.
I feel you, man. All of sudden, at the end of my year in high school, I just had between 2 to 5 friends and never had that much, plus i realized I was surrounded by fake friends wherever you are in the world GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🙏
I had been flaked out before by a girl I was trying to befriend. Tried to give her a chance but I couldn't deal with it.
You have spoke the real truth! I love it! I have been there and through it all before. So I can relate. 👍🏾
Wowww that's so cowardly to stand-up like that. At least say it the same day.
real
Kev, are you Korean?
i think he is vietname or phinliphin some asia like that
He doesn't look Korean, he looks Chinese