I’ve freed myself from MY color palette. Yes, I admit certain colors look better on me. I see it in the mirror. BUT… I was avoiding colors that just brought me so much joy! The older I get the more I realize how short life really is. WEAR THE BUBBLEGUM PINK !!!!!!
I have many silk blouses and 5 silk smooth knit tops that I have owned and worn for 25 years. They are definitely worth keeping as their quality is so superior to what is on the market now.
@@ElementalWhispers most require dry cleaning. Some are washable. If they require dry cleaning, I purchase an in home kit by woolite so I don’t have to pay up the wazoo at a cleaner’s. If they’re washable, I hand wash them (or put them in a delicates bag and cycle in the washer on delicate) and line dry. Also keep in mind that you can wear silks multiple times before you need to wash them, so it’s better to stretch out their wash cycle because doing it too often can decrease their longevity.
@@ElementalWhispers yup! Same. My mom told me about it and since then I’ve bought more natural fabric pieces since I know I can clean them at home. You should be able to find them at your local grocery store, but if not they have them on Amazon. They’re basically cloths you put into the dryer (idk what kind of solution they’re soaked in) with your dry clean items and they come out nice and fresh.
@@ElementalWhispers I machine wash all my silk pieces, even the vintage ones: inside out, cool delicate cycle, air dry & iron. In all the years, only one piece was damaged by this which I ascribe to poor quality. Everything else still looks brand new.
The “get rid of it if not worn in a year” rule probably applies more to ladies whose closets are overflowing and burgeoning with every trend that’s come down the pike in the last 30 years. In cases like that, it’s a good rule to implement to get a handle on all the “stuff”. With the Planetary Plague Pandemic, many of us have been in hibernation and so have our wardrobes. At this point, re-evaluation of lives and wardrobes is necessary. Personally I think it’s kind of fun to look through my clothing that’s been hidden away for two years & shop my own closet!
I really enjoyed this video and the topic. Would love if you do another one. For myself, I’m at a stage in my life that I dress to make myself happy, feel comfortable and look in the mirror and smile 😊 I enjoy reading about “fashion and styling tips” and following seasonal trends. That being said, I feel my best and most confident when I listen to myself and dress according to my own “rules”.
The great tragedy of my life is that now I’m 80 I’ve finally decided what suits me and exactly the look the I aspire to . It’s a look I could have looked good in at 20, 30 or any age so why has it taken me so long ?
A rule I’ve decided to break: that I have to stick to modern clothing! That modern clothing is the best thing on the market (it absolutely is not). I’m finding out that linen skirts, petticoats, light blouses, wool undergarments, etc are all pieces that can enhance one’s comfort and proportions that we’ve discarded as “old fashioned” and nonfunctional. They are quite the opposite and can make one feel fabulous and fit for the weather outside. Disengaging with what I’ve been told is “oppressive clothing” when it makes me feel liberated to wear it = aka my clothes give me the stylish silhouette rather than forcing my body to mold into the silhouette.
This was EXCELLENT! Unfortunately I also was a 'leggings police' for a while because they aren't considered chic. Leggings aren't for me, but if women want to wear them they shouldn't be shamed for it. At the end of the day, we should just focus on what we feel good wearing and not worry about 'style rules'. I'd love a part 2 of this. Thank you for a very uplifting video, Audrey. ❤️
Here it is often thought western clothes is equivalent to you are modern. But I love wearing Indian outfits and that are so much comfortable .😍 That don't make me old..
Once at a Christmas part one of my co-workers (who is from Pakistan, I think) showed up in an ethnic outfit. It was a tunic and slim pants, and her outfit took my breath away. She was stunning! I love it when people show their cultural heritage.
Indian women wear the most stunning outfits. The draping, the vivid colors and the jewelry. It's like that culture cracked the code of how to look like an absolute goddess.
Exactly. I mean Indian style is also constantly changing with the times. Who's to say it's "old fashioned"...by that logic dresses are old fashioned since Western women wore them for centuries lol
I like this topic. I think that the classic rules are good to learn to give us a foundation when we are lost or all over the place with our wardrobe but once we nail the classic style it is good to start experimenting and making it more personal. I think that the rules I mostly break nowadays are about colours. I’ve learned that black does not go with navy so you shouldn’t mix them. I wear the two colours together quite often now and I love it. I used to wear either silver or gold toned jewellery, while now I mix it but I usually wear one piece that is dual tone and brings it all together. Also I followed the “neutral tones” trend and while that is a great base for any wardrobe I missed proper colour. I don’t buy the whole notion that cobalt blue or fuchsia pink are not elegant enough. Life is too short not to wear colour!
Actually, black & navy go beautifully together and are quite the Parisienne, & Milanese staple. One of my favourite combinations, of course, one needs to take into consideration one's personal colour and style personality. I am always happy to chat about that :) Stay Stylish with love Xxx
I live in Canada. The dressing rule about white pants and accessories used to be “wear only May long weekend to Sept labour day weekend”. Now I feel free to dig out my white jeans whenever I want! Thanks for a great video😍
I was going to mention this, too, no white after Labor Day rule has been cancelled. Love seeing winter white worn: a big chunky white or ivory sweater & bottom are striking! 😍
I agree with all of these but specifically the one year rule. If you really love something and the time hasn’t come to wear it there’s nothing wrong with waiting for that moment or hopefully moments! Some peoples lives and life circumstances change and the time may come for that item. That being said if you have a closet full of these things it might be time for some of it to go:)
Re: one year rule. Maybe there was a time it made sense but in 2022 it does not. We are conscious of textile waste/pollution in a way we were not before. The pandemic seriously curtailed most peoples’ opportunities to wear their proudly curated pieces. Does a mild winter mean it’s time to ditch your warmest winter coat? Climate change is a factor as well. So no. If you love it, keep it and look for opportunities to happily wear it again.
I did declutter my closed, but only got rid of things that are never going to fit again (or never fit right in the first place) or are worn/stained/unusable. The rest I put into a storage bin. Makes it much easier to declutter without fear and gave me the “serene” closet I wanted. You do have to have the space to store the bin (under the bed is my favorite). If you don’t have space or have clothes you don’t want to fold up, you can create a “limit” by putting something on rod to define “use” & “maybe later”. I use my hanging sweater rack. Everything behind that is a keep for later and things in front are things for now. Even something like a garment bag would work. I also move out of season clothes there. Then my “use” portion is only what I am wearing now.
🤔 Museums often rotate 🔄 their costly 💰 collections 🖼, so why not apply those same principles of curation to our closets? It really needs to be stored in an alternate location, so you're not overwhelmed. Think this is a wise option〰️esp. if you live some where that actually experiences four distinct seasons. I do not, so heavily investing in Winter ❄️ Wear does 🚫 make a whole lot of sense. However, I do own several heavy coats (and a few lined wool items) that I refuse to part even if that means I only wear them sparingly here or reserve them when🧳 travel. 😉Favoring lightweight fabrics〰️ esp. those with moisture wicking capabilities〰️has been a major game changer for someone who runs hot 🥵 in a 😎 scorching Mediterranean-Desert climate🌡. Plus, I've always had significantly more regrets🤣 over being peer pressured to give away high quality or staple items that I LOVED😍. Pieces that also actually suited me, my hourglass shape, lifestyle, etc. Even though my style has transitioned, I've always valued variety. While I've kept to an overall color palette, I do like swapping silhouettes & introducing pops of color &/or pattern in smaller doses. Lately, I've been wanting to expand my use of stunning corporate 🏢 & church gear💒 I've collected over the years to suit other instances, but I also appreciate keeping some items strictly for more special occasion use to maintain their air of ✨️mystery & drama✨️ I've also gone up ⬆️ & down⬇️ in weight as well as 💲financial circumstances. Both reasons made me ever so grateful for being a hoarder. Learning smart tips from stylists on how to adjust oversized items or even things you might've outgrown has been ever so helpful. In fact, going on "No Buy" tangents has been quite liberating🎆. Looking for fresh online inspiration 👩💻, and shopping🛍 your closet can been very exciting🎉. 💚 Bridget from Cali ☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
I never thought the "one year rule" made much sense. We pretty much know if we like a garment & will wear it again even if it hasn't gotten worn in a year. If I like it I'm gonna keep it....I'll wear it at some point & it will feel "new" again.
I have roughly 20 white button down shirts of different cuts, I have numerous little black dresses and blazers of all the neutral or staple colours. The same with shoes and boots.
Thank you for posting this. I really find that I love buying things I know create classic outfits like the white shirt and black dress. The more of these you own the more you can focus on great detail on the pieces
After not tucking anything in for so long (because it seemed to go out of style for a couple of decades) I'm enjoying tucking tops in again and have revived my belt wardrobe (thank goodness I didn't declutter it!) although I don't always wear a belt, especially if I'm just doing a half-tuck. 🙂
This is what I call personal growth! Just because you believed in something in the past doesn't mean you have to stick to it if it no longer works for you presently. You can move on gracefully and you did that so well!
Winters in Florida are so different from year to year -some years I get a lot of use from my favorite jacket and blazer and some years I only get to ear them once. Hormones, pregnancy, nursing, also affect what I wear in a season. So it doesn’t make sense to ditch clothes I love just because it didn’t work out last year!
Audrey, I love the comfort of leggings for travel. Always loved gold and silver jewelry, but understood gold was a better color for my fair complexion. Now I’m sporting silver as I love it also. As my thought is ‘At this stage of my life’
Such a wise approach, it is well worth keeping well made classic items. Also, I prefer dark wash denim in the winter, mid wash or light wash in the summer, as it feels softer and fresher.
I use my leggings under dresses in the winter all the time. They are warm and work with my dresses as well as do tights. I have a bit of a boho streak in my style and love to have a funky item to perk up an outfit. I do have my wardrobe basics, but do love to make things personal and not just be a minimalist clone with black pants a white T and a blazer. Smart but can be a little boring. I was a nurse, but wore uniforms for most of my working life. So anything uniformy reminds me of work. I pay attention to colour and love a pop of a lovely shade to liven things up. Love your videos.
I’m right there with you on the leggings under a dress. I work with kids and end up sitting on the floor a lot, so I just wore pants to work every day for a while. Wearing leggings under my dresses & skirts (and bike shorts under dresses & skirts in the summer) let me get a lot more wear out of my skirts & dresses.
I absolutely agree Audrey! 🙌🙌🤗😘 Classic pieces slow fashion and dress for yourself/body type and colour that suits your skin tone! I love your videos Audrey ♥️it’s a master class and a calming meditation all in one! Thank you so much! 😘🙌🤗♥️🙏🌍
I'm a 78 year old hourglass petite and I'm pretty rule-bound in my dressing. I have few clothes and stick pretty much with my colors. Please do other videos like this!
After one mild winter I realized I hadn’t worn my heavy wool pants at all and realized it would be silly to get rid of them using the one year rule because the following winter could be bitter.
I have always hung on to a vest I crocheted 40 years ago in my twenties - just because I made it I guess. It's been in the back of my closet all that time. I noticed it once again a week or so ago, tried it on and decided what a fun addition to add back in to my wardrobe....after 40 years!
I’ve learned the hard way not to get rid of items that are made of good quality. They seem to be more and more difficult to find these days. If they are classic and they fit well, I put them in a certain section of my closet. I also agree that it’s not a good idea to get rid of things just to buy new things. Now I only buy some thing if I really like it and I am willing to live with it for a long time. This cuts down on waist and needless spending. it also forces me to buy things that are quality made.
One of my earliest fashion memories is from watching TLC’s “What Not To Wear.” Stacy London said that horizontal stripes make you look wider, while vertical stripes make you look taller. I still have a hard time ignoring this ‘rule’ when I’m out shopping - and still tend to avoid horizontal stripes - but I think width and color of the stripes really play a part in whether or not it looks good on me. It also makes me think of when pinstripe dress pants/suits were in fashion and I wonder if they’ll ever come back!
it's not a "rule" you are supposed to follow, it's a fundamental fact of design and visual perception. You can choose to ignore it, but it doesn't change it.
I got a lot of useful information on WNTW and loved that show. I think that horizontal stripes do make you look wider but I still wear them. I specifically love my blue and white striped tops.
Actually, if you're curvy, vertical stripes look awful. They don't bend around a curvy woman's body. Just because vertical stripes make a slim woman look skinny does not mean the inverse is true. The most slimming pattern is actually chevrons.
Hello Audrey! We evolve and so does our fashion sense. I am 59 and have had a lot of life changes in the last five years. I am getting ready to retire soon! I love fashion and I continue to develop my personal style. I take care of myself (I eat well and exercise) and I don't follow the, "What to wear over 50 rule." At this point in my life I wear what makes me feel confident, happy and comfortable. I loved this video!❤
I own half a dozen striped, poly-cotton shirts, all in the same style. I bought one in each available colourway and I've had them for at least thirty-five years. I've cycled them in and out of my current wardrobe many times over the years. I didn't wear them for a long time after I gained weight, but I'm glad to say that I can wear them again now. They still wash and iron beautifully and they weren't even expensive - I bought them at the Tesco supermarket. In my book, breaking 'the rules' really does pay off.
I like the idea of having several shirts of the same style in different colors. When you find an item you like, get it in many colors. I have some long-sleeved and short-sleeved T-shirts in the basic colors: black, white, and navy. I realized I needed T-shirts so I binged on them - now I don't have to think about that anymore. I do that often.
This is my favourite video you’ve made. I’m decades older than you, which may explain quibbles I have had with your advice in the past. Like you now, I know my style and my closet has multiples of things that work for me. Personally, I can’t have too many white shirts. I’ve also reached an age where I really dress to honour who I am, and not to look like anyone else’s version of a well dressed woman. I’m excited to see where you take this new approach!
Growing up my mother told me I should never wear black because I was too dark skinned 🤷🏽♀️ and that I should choose white to make me look “brighter”. It was only in my late 30s I started experimenting with black and realized stark white actually washed me out in photos and ivory/ecru shades of white were better for me. All these years I blindly listened to my mother’s rules and she’d compliment my bright white blouses etc but secretly I did not feel confident when I looked in the mirror
I no longer follow the basic wardrobe lists. I have purchased things based on that list that I never wear. Like cami’s. I have them in several colors and never wear them. Most still have the tags on. I also don’t follow the neutral color palette rule. My closet looks like a rainbow and I love it that way. I follow analogous color combinations and sometimes complementary color. Color makes me happy. 😁🥰
Rules I ignore: suede and velvet are for winter; no white after Labor Day; take off one piece of jewelry; no denim on denim. Rule I follow always: the shoe makes your outfit stylish.
.....thank you for this video.... I have NOT EVER subscribed to " get rid of something if you haven't worn it in a year , " EVER. This does limit one's ability to have on hand certain items that you can utilize, even if it's not been worn or used in a while. I have a nice pair of purple suede pumps... they go with a purple Suede fringed gorgeous jacket... I don't wear them a lot, but I'm not getting rid of those pumps ! They are classic design, and I wear them with certain things. Same with my " dressy dresses". Just because those aren't worn " all the time " does not mean I'm getting them out of my closet. I have certain dresses that I love, I've had them for over 12 years, they still fit,still look great fabric- wise , and that's that. Lol. I do go through my closet once a year. I just packed up 5 boxes of clothing, with purses, and shoes, to donate to the Women's Shelter. So I do " get rid of things,", but it's on what I decide stays .... not anyone else. 😉🙂😊
I so agree with the “fashion policing” comment. I have found myself judging others for what they are wearing and have been afraid to try new things for fear of being judged by others. I have been focusing instead on accepting all people for however they what to express themselves and sending them positive thoughts as we are all different and I am not the queen of the land. LOL. I feel more comfortable in my own skin and more loving and positive overall. Thank you for your gentle and loving content.
I also learned that being judgmental made me criticize myself more harshly. The more I accepted others, the more I accepted myself. I wish someone had told me this when I was younger.
Love this! You're a class act, as always. There are several items that these "20 essentials" lists insist everyone "should own", and they don't work for me: Little black dress, black blazer, white T-shirt, grey business trousers, ballet flats etc. As an autumn, I look so lifeless and washed out in black, white, navy, grey etc, and ballet flats make me look dumpy even with my slim build. So it's definitely best to do what you're encouraging: find your own essentials. :)
Sort of makes you wonder if the people we find most “fashionable” are actually the ones who don’t follow sort of arbitrary rules, but instead find what fits and what they like and play with it. 🤷🏼♀️
Nicely done, Audrey! That green jacket is stunning and wants to come home with me :+D It's been a pleasure to watch your style journey over the last five (!) years.
Could you do another video about upcoming trends and which ones you’d be interested in? I remember you made one ages ago and sure enough, about 5 months to a year after your video I saw some of those things become mainstream trends! So interesting.
The more I listen to the experts “rules” on dressing the less I can creatively put an outfit together . I use to ….pre internet ….yes I’m that old lol (61) dress according to what I love to wear and then I started trying to follow the advice of the experts and now I don’t feel as confident dressing . But your vlog has opened my eyes and I’m glad to hear your views on style . BTW I loved all your white blouses , I have a weakness for white blouses the more feminine the better . They go with everything , especially ever so slightly distressed jeans and a simple pair of flats . That’s my uniform I love everything about your channel, I always learn something new from you , thank you 😘
Love this video and agree with everything. I've never followed the rule that if you haven't worn something in one year, get rid of it. (Who came up with this anyway? It's as silly as the rule a woman should keep her hair short after a certain age!) I too think one year is not long enough. I've pulled out clothes I haven't worn in a few years and felt excited to start wearing them again and so glad I held on to them. Thank you for a great video Audrey 😊
This applies also with the “how to” wear, especially with tucking in! The huge variety in our bodies means there can be no singular rule. Such rules often impact harshly on larger ladies so it’s great to revisit all the ‘rules’. ❤️
I love this. As I grow older “fashion rules” become less important. I really enjoy dressing up but I also want to just have fun sometimes, so I’m starting to wear more colors, more prints, more leggings… I love it!
This was well needed. I'm someone who has always followed these rules (and many many more) blindly. Maybe it's because I lack confidence in my dressing game - it is safer to follow rules. My problem lately has been, now when I'm over thirty, I've gathered rules for fifteen years. And in my head they sound for example like this: " All black is always a classic choice! All black makes you look tired and older than you are! All black is slimming! You should always wear color with black! You should never wear navy/brown/beige/pink/yellow/pastels with black!" You get the idea...I've realized this actually causes lot of anxiety. So thank you for fresh thoughts.
I don't believe in any dressing rules for adults unless required by law or work. I look for style inspiration not rules. And some of the "rules" such as declutter, must haves, minimalism, capsules so on, seem wasteful. I think maybe the core of capsule wardrobes, decluttering, minimalism, is a desire to reduce consumerism. However, I suggest that sometimes the goals of reducing consumerism and minimalism etc., are at odds. As you mentioned, styles cycle back. I have worn outfits that are almost forty years old and could have kept outfits from my mother and aunts which are even older had I thought about before hand. I think the real trick is to be mindful of purchases so you don't need to throw things away. And for me, it's perfectly fine to have lots of clothes in my closet that I don't use all the time. Classic styles and lists are good starting points if you are starting from zero and want to get the most out of each piece and are still learning about your style. .But I enjoy working with what I have.
I've been waiting for someone to bring up this topic. The do's and don'ts started to wear on me. I don't declutter after a year anymore. Some things are timeless so I keep them. I watch suggestions but go with my own freedom of choice and comfort zone. Great topic!
My #1 reason for hanging on longer than a year: colors cycle in and out. My fabulous teals, corals, and straw yellows aren't always available. If the fit is good and the style isn't too trendy I hang on!
My mother in law always passes a comment if my shoes don't match the colour of my purse/hand bag hahaha! I think it's cute that she religiously still follows that old school fashion rule, but I have moved on from that one since the 90's. Same for not wearing white after Labor Day. I've been wearing white all year round for many years!
For me the rules I break and not pairing black & navy or black with brown. I do think you can, but perhaps just need to be careful what items you’re pairing and what shades of the two colours.
Dressing rules I have never followed: wear no more than three colours at a time; a blazer is a classic item everyone should own (I look ridiculous in them, like I’m dressing up); don’t wear black and brown together (didn’t even know this was one till someone told me); buy simple, high quality pieces because they are more flexible - this one may be true but I like to have a few special pieces because they are individual and fun and stop you looking generic. Biggest rule I break is to choose neutrals. I love colour and I think it can look just as stylish and chic as neutrals.
Good morning Audrey. I almost didn’t click on your video because I thought it was going to be another, “you can wear white after Labor Day.” But as usual your content is always spot on. You actually said things I’ve thought but didn’t put into words or thought inside I was wrong for wanting four white blouses but in different styles. Thank you. By the way, you look beautiful. xo, Cowgirl Deb
I appreciate this! After watching countless fashion style and wardrobe videos over the past three years, this is what I have figured out… First, you need to research and find the things that look great on your frame, and suit your personality. Basically, where are the things that you feel amazing in. Secondly, I really don’t believe in spending a ton of money on one piece of clothing unless it’s something that is super super consistent throughout the years in your life, maybe la blazer. Because sometimes, or usually, our style changes… or a trend that appears really appeals to us that we incorporate. That leads me to number three, which is our styles do change, and I understand the tension of fashion TH-camrs to be bringing new things and thinking of new things to show us and teach us, but really, we can spend too much time over thinking our wardrobes. I used to get caught up in the capsule wardrobe, all the different things that would come out each month from fashion TH-camrs. I have appreciated a lot of the advice, but when it all comes down to it, you just need to find what looks great on your figure, you feel fabulous in, and I don’t think you should spend a ton of money on clothing that you may not wear in a few years. Give yourself freedom to enjoy your wardrobe!
Yes, I don't get buying a really expensive piece of anything to last 10-20 years. There is pretty much NOTHING that I want to last that long. Perhaps you're working in a major city's law and finance district and you must dress conservatively, but you'll still want a new suit or two every year. And as for tees and blouses, I don't know anyone who doesn't want a bit of a collection in colors and prints. And truthfully, I also don't believe that most hugely expensive items are particularly notable while being worn. I have seen many a costly blouse that doesn't look one bit "better" or classier than what can often be bought at Penney's or Macy's. It's only my opinion, but I think the prevailing idea that only high priced designer goods show that you're classy is a major hoax.
I have tee shirts that I bought from Old Navy about 20 years ago now (the quality at ON is not what it was) I have a drawer of ON tanks & tees that are at least 10 years old. When the white ones start looking dingey I soak em in Oxyclean & they look fine. I used to watch a certain fashion TH-camr who gave advice to mature women until she tried shilling a plain white tee that cost $95. Her idea of an affordable dupe was a $1,500 jacket instead of a $5,000 jacket. She also never featured clothes that went beyond size L/14 or XL. I unsubscribed from her rather quickly.
I agree with so much. We all need to be original and authentic and just use these tools as possible considerations, that's all. One rule that always strikes me as just ridiculous is you either look good in silver or gold jewelry. Jewelry is art. It doesn't have a huge impact like a blouse does in terms of color, jewelry is an investment, jewelry is given as gifts and some pieces feel highly sentimental, and each piece of jewelry is unique, and last but not least over a lifetime you accumulate jewelry and why would you not wear beautiful jewelry regardless of whether it's silver or gold or other? Sometimes I build my outfits around my jewelry a bit.
This was such a freeing message. I'd love to hear you share about the "only wear your colour palette" rule.. For instance, I'm a warm neutral and white isn't my best... but I love white in the summer. Maybe a "how to" on breaking/bending the colour rules ;)
I definitely purchase certain items in different cuts. I love black and own all kinds of black tops, pants, & dresses. The rule I break is, "Don't buy the same piece in every color." While I don't purchase them in every color, I certainly buy them in my favorite colors. I should add that I'm talking about basics- tees mostly.
I agree on all your points! In particular, I've had clothes for well over a decade that I may take a break from, but will circle back to after a couple of years. 💛
Yes, great video. I am sure you could do a part two. One that I was always told by my grandmother was no white pants after Labor Day or before Memorial Day. Thankfully I no longer even remotely follow that rule, and I love my white jeans year round.
I never understood the “never wear white after Labor Day” rule. So if I want to wear white jeans or sweat pants in the Fall or Winter I do. Obviously I’m talking about the heavier denim here. The biggest life changing rule or premise I stopped doing was caring what other people think and/or said about me.
Thank you for this video! It’s always a pleasure to hear you. Decluttering is good and I think necessary from time to time, but archiving (if you have room for that) can be an even better option! Why buy something again because it’s back in fashion when you have « the real thing »? Plus my mom regrets getting rid of some pairs of shoes, thinking she would be able to afford/find the same quality later. Some things that were affordable at some point are much more expensive today (when they exist!) So that’s something I keep in mind now. Is it well made, a durable and/or precious fabric? Was it a lucky find? Does it suit me well? If so, I store it for later. Also, a lot of work goes into quality garments, from the materials to the finished products. Unless I know it’ll get used by someone, I’d rather keep it and give it a full life 😂 even if that means a break from time to time…
I cannot imagine my wardrobe with only one white shirt! I have four that all serve unique purposes for me. One very formal, custom fitted shirt that I reserve for weddings, funerals, and the like. A fitted thin poplin option that is perfect for layering under sweaters or blazers. A thicker, looser cotton shirt for everyday with jeans or trousers... certainly my most worn item in my wardrobe. Lastly, an oversized white linen shirt. Perfect for beach days, or for throwing over shorts and sandals for the southern CA summers.
One rule I don't follow is suddenly wearing pale colours, pastels and brights just because it's summer - they look terrible on me! The colours that suit me are traditionally 'winter' colours- grey/navy/clarets/dark green - so I continue to wear them in summer, just in more appropriate fabrics.
Audrey-I love that green jacket you are wearing! Can you tell us where you bought it or is it a vintage find? The color is amazing! And-I love all the classics so my wardrobe really never goes out of style. I gave clothes that’s are 20+ years old!
Audrey, your style has become so much more refined these past 2 years. I really love how you thoughtfully explored your silhouette and colors. I am so glad you dropped the restricted wardrobe mentality. I have clothes from as far back as 2 decades ago. I am SO GLAD I didn't ditch my "old" clothes. Consequently, I am approaching my wardrobe with interest and curiosity... How do I make this work? I see something someone is wearing (often on Pinterest) and realize that I have comparable items or can use the tweak to style my own outfit. You and Alyssa Beltempo have really inspired me, as well. Thank you!
I refuse to “dress my age” as I don’t think it necessary. I think ageless timeless style is key and can last for years. as long as the clothing fits my body and l feel amazing in them, I’m not going to style them with age or generations in mind.
I would also like to hear about your hair styling journey. I have been trying to fully embrace my natural 2c but I find it restrictive to only do one thing and never use a styling tool again 🙂 Your opinion and thoughts would be very interesting! Thank you!
My take away from the video is “how I want to represent myself!” I think this is the most important thing. We can have an overall theme or style that we can have. But functionality is also key along with what you love
I so appreciated this content. I grew up with a very controlling mother. Clothing & food were two of her biggest “tools” to control us. Now I’m 51, my body is changing, but I’m also feeling more freedom and confidence than I ever have in my life. The last thing I need is more rules. Thank you for these insights. 🙏🏼❤️
Yes! Clothes and food. At 67, I've been struggling to completely free myself of my mother's dictates, but it's still difficult. I find myself doing things due to that early training without thinking about it. Like, she never allowed me to wear clothes when they were new. Which was especially impractical when I was a growing child since my new clothes were often too small by the time she let me wear them. My husband still doesn't understand why I don't wear my clothes as soon as I buy them, but I've made a conscious effort recently to wear my new clothes immediately. Maybe I'll get to the point where it doesn't feel wrong in the next 10 or 20 years.
Wow. I totally get this. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s helpful to know that I’m not alone in struggling with these kinds of issues. We are in it together. ✨💕
I’m not that keen on some of the current style (chunky sneakers, torn jeans, etc.), but the one upside of fashion today is that there are pretty much no rules. Wear what makes you feel good, comfortable (ugh…even chunky sneakers) and confident.
Re: keeping clothes,they can be restyled and reworked/ updated with a tailor or if you can learn to do it on your own. Remember, Princess Beatrice wore a dress that her Grandmother first wore in 1947. Fabric is expensive,use your imagination!
This is the second video of yours that I’ve watched and so far I’ve really enjoyed them. I really want a classic and timeless wardrobe, but I struggle with putting pieces together so I end up just wearing jeans and a black shirt. Your voice is also very calming!
When I was growing up, going around beltless in jeans or in a skirt with belt loops caused an argument at home. I was considered half-dressed if I didn't put a belt on those garments. And sure, using those loops with a belt or even a scarf cinches a waist nicely. But today I think that belt-free belt loops just add their own aesthetic interest to an outfit.
I wear what I like and like what I wear. Elastic waist pants and skirts work well for me at the age I am. I also love a loose button front shirt since I live in the hot and humid south. Luckily I sew my clothes and can make what I want and make any pattern adjustments to suit my shape and taste.
Decluttering is good when you're trying to find your personal style. The only time I declutter things, is when I don't feel good in them or they don't fit properly. It can be really cathartic to declutter, but it does nothing for sustainability. Sometimes it's necessary, but I've always been the person to focus on what makes me feel good, as opposed to trends and what's popular. I'm very much a person that breaks rules, rebellious spirit I suppose. So the videos that say don't do this and do that. I want to do this and that!! So I will lol
I lost 50 pounds and now don’t store those in the attic, but I have unpacked boxes I stored there in the early 1990s when I was injured and the doc gave me medicine that caused me to gain 70 pounds in 7 months. !!! They are now in style again!!! Oversized blazers, wide leg pants, leather skirts…
I would like to see you do hot weather outfits. The outfits you chose, and the one you primarily wore, are beautiful, but they’re not friendly for my location which is similar to your hometown, Charleston.
This is an interesting concept. I have found myself following the rules because I wanted to be "well dressed". I am exploring history bounding which is such fun but also requires you to stop following "The Rules". Also, there are multiple things that I regret getting rid of, conversely I just saw a photo from 10 years ago and I still have those shoes! They are getting tired and I wish I could clone them...
Lovely video as always thank u ❤️ My favourite part of an outfit has always been the jewellery & bag. So I edited most of my clothes to mostly plain basics, so that my favourites get to shine! I dont follow any rules anymore & simply ask myself, what clothes can I wear today to go with this beautiful bag or jewellery! Makes me happy & i figure thats all that matters right?
LYCRA LYCRA LYCRA! after having a baby via c section in my early 50s, EVERYTHING on my bottom has to have lycra in the mix. Now its so easy to find, I never buy skirts, pants or any bottoms without the lifesaving properties of LYCRA!!!
🤫Developing our own style can be tricky〰️esp. as we continue to evolve & change. Plus, there are so many warring voices out there to contend with at a time. 🙆♀️There's a lot of militancy & shame out there. While it is helpful to start with a framework, we need to gain confidence to know when we can go our own way. Experiment with what suits us & what does not. 😉 You're speaking directly to my own experiences in this video. 🤔 Your wisdom & growth definitely applies to my own style journey. 🤗 Please do MORE features on the "rules" worth breaking. 🙏God bless you🕊! 💚 Bridget from Cali ☘️ (using my pal's YT acct)
Now I am 69 and I have learned not to get rid of clothes that I feel great in-this doesn’t mean I wear sweats and baggy muumuus-I wear what looks good, fits well, is comfortable and makes me feel confident! I don’t keep or wear anything that doesn’t fit that criteria. If I have hung on to clothes I don’t seem to wear, I ask myself why!
The one year rule went down the drain during the pandemic, I am not getting rid of my cloth if I didn't get the chance to enjoy it. also some cloth you only wear it a few months during the cold or hot season.
I live in a rough area, so I typically dress to fit in -no flashy jewelry, no makeup, no purse and no bright colors -and don’t draw attention to myself. I’m usually in t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers. I carry a small backpack like the bus riders and homeless. When I worked, I dressed office casual, but I’m retired now. I’ve saved my casual clothes -I’m looking forward to moving to a small town with low crime -in a few years -where I can dress pretty again. 🙂
Two things that I stopped following: 1. In order to be elegant wear elegant clothes, although part of this is true it is NOT the entirety of it. Because elegance is not only how you dress but how you act as well. 2. Baggy on baggy. Like seriously, with right styling it actually looks good!😄
I’ve freed myself from MY color palette. Yes, I admit certain colors look better on me. I see it in the mirror. BUT… I was avoiding colors that just brought me so much joy! The older I get the more I realize how short life really is. WEAR THE BUBBLEGUM PINK !!!!!!
I love this!
And don't forget the white shoes whenever you want to wear them, whether it's after Labor Day _or not!_
I have a white pair of denim jeans that I love ❤️ to wear during the summer.
@@phalynwilliams4119 you can wear those white jeans in the winter time too, if you want! 😊
@@Lavenderrose73 , thanks
I have many silk blouses and 5 silk smooth knit tops that I have owned and worn for 25 years. They are definitely worth keeping as their quality is so superior to what is on the market now.
How do you wash/care for them?
@@ElementalWhispers most require dry cleaning. Some are washable. If they require dry cleaning, I purchase an in home kit by woolite so I don’t have to pay up the wazoo at a cleaner’s. If they’re washable, I hand wash them (or put them in a delicates bag and cycle in the washer on delicate) and line dry.
Also keep in mind that you can wear silks multiple times before you need to wash them, so it’s better to stretch out their wash cycle because doing it too often can decrease their longevity.
@@BubblyViolin11 Thank you! It was the dry cleaning that's put me off buying silk. I didn't know you could buy home kits!
@@ElementalWhispers yup! Same. My mom told me about it and since then I’ve bought more natural fabric pieces since I know I can clean them at home. You should be able to find them at your local grocery store, but if not they have them on Amazon. They’re basically cloths you put into the dryer (idk what kind of solution they’re soaked in) with your dry clean items and they come out nice and fresh.
@@ElementalWhispers I machine wash all my silk pieces, even the vintage ones: inside out, cool delicate cycle, air dry & iron. In all the years, only one piece was damaged by this which I ascribe to poor quality. Everything else still looks brand new.
The “get rid of it if not worn in a year” rule probably applies more to ladies whose closets are overflowing and burgeoning with every trend that’s come down the pike in the last 30 years. In cases like that, it’s a good rule to implement to get a handle on all the “stuff”. With the Planetary Plague Pandemic, many of us have been in hibernation and so have our wardrobes. At this point, re-evaluation of lives and wardrobes is necessary. Personally I think it’s kind of fun to look through my clothing that’s been hidden away for two years & shop my own closet!
I am starting to see repetitions in these blogs from "fashion influencers" U see one, you have seen them all.
I really enjoyed this video and the topic. Would love if you do another one. For myself, I’m at a stage in my life that I dress to make myself happy, feel comfortable and look in the mirror and smile 😊 I enjoy reading about “fashion and styling tips” and following seasonal trends. That being said, I feel my best and most confident when I listen to myself and dress according to my own “rules”.
The great tragedy of my life is that now I’m 80 I’ve finally decided what suits me and exactly the look the I aspire to . It’s a look I could have looked good in at 20, 30 or any age so why has it taken me so long ?
I’m 68 and still don’t know what looks good on me, if anything, lol. Your post gives me hope!!!!
What did you decide looks good on you?
Enjoy the time while you have it! Make the most of every look every day 😊💕
If that’s the great tragedy then you’ve had a pretty good life.
If that's your greatest tragedy in life, then consider yourself extremely fortunate. 🙄
A rule I’ve decided to break: that I have to stick to modern clothing!
That modern clothing is the best thing on the market (it absolutely is not).
I’m finding out that linen skirts, petticoats, light blouses, wool undergarments, etc are all pieces that can enhance one’s comfort and proportions that we’ve discarded as “old fashioned” and nonfunctional.
They are quite the opposite and can make one feel fabulous and fit for the weather outside.
Disengaging with what I’ve been told is “oppressive clothing” when it makes me feel liberated to wear it = aka my clothes give me the stylish silhouette rather than forcing my body to mold into the silhouette.
This was EXCELLENT! Unfortunately I also was a 'leggings police' for a while because they aren't considered chic. Leggings aren't for me, but if women want to wear them they shouldn't be shamed for it. At the end of the day, we should just focus on what we feel good wearing and not worry about 'style rules'. I'd love a part 2 of this. Thank you for a very uplifting video, Audrey. ❤️
Here it is often thought western clothes is equivalent to you are modern.
But I love wearing Indian outfits and that are so much comfortable .😍 That don't make me old..
Once at a Christmas part one of my co-workers (who is from Pakistan, I think) showed up in an ethnic outfit. It was a tunic and slim pants, and her outfit took my breath away. She was stunning!
I love it when people show their cultural heritage.
Indian women wear the most stunning outfits. The draping, the vivid colors and the jewelry. It's like that culture cracked the code of how to look like an absolute goddess.
True that
@@ukrofinn1281 yes tunic with pants looks so cool! Along with a dupatta (long scarf).
Exactly. I mean Indian style is also constantly changing with the times. Who's to say it's "old fashioned"...by that logic dresses are old fashioned since Western women wore them for centuries lol
I only had one dressing rule when I was younger: Don't wear blue jeans with a blue shirt. Now, that's one of my favorite looks. 😂
I like this topic. I think that the classic rules are good to learn to give us a foundation when we are lost or all over the place with our wardrobe but once we nail the classic style it is good to start experimenting and making it more personal. I think that the rules I mostly break nowadays are about colours. I’ve learned that black does not go with navy so you shouldn’t mix them. I wear the two colours together quite often now and I love it. I used to wear either silver or gold toned jewellery, while now I mix it but I usually wear one piece that is dual tone and brings it all together. Also I followed the “neutral tones” trend and while that is a great base for any wardrobe I missed proper colour. I don’t buy the whole notion that cobalt blue or fuchsia pink are not elegant enough. Life is too short not to wear colour!
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Loved "Life is too short not to wear color!" I really hate the "all neutral" trend that has been going on for ages!
I love colour! When I wear it, I find I get many comments and it seems to bring others joy as well.
@@e.smeltzer9286 Amen! I get soooo many compliments with color!
Actually, black & navy go beautifully together and are quite the Parisienne, & Milanese staple. One of my favourite combinations, of course, one needs to take into consideration one's personal colour and style personality. I am always happy to chat about that :) Stay Stylish with love Xxx
I live in Canada. The dressing rule about white pants and accessories used to be “wear only May long weekend to Sept labour day weekend”. Now I feel free to dig out my white jeans whenever I want! Thanks for a great video😍
I was going to mention this, too, no white after Labor Day rule has been cancelled. Love seeing winter white worn: a big chunky white or ivory sweater & bottom are striking! 😍
I hear you Cindy💁🏻♀️🇨🇦 Im now reaching for my whites any time of the year!
Good for you Cindy
Same! I bought a pair of large and heavy white pants. Love them!
Same! Never understood that 😂
Audrey, if you would write a book I would immediately buy it! ❤️
Oh and she should record the audiobook version 🥰
It seems to be a trend to no longer follow trends - if you like the thing, wear the thing. This is a trend I can get behind ❤️
I agree with all of these but specifically the one year rule. If you really love something and the time hasn’t come to wear it there’s nothing wrong with waiting for that moment or hopefully moments! Some peoples lives and life circumstances change and the time may come for that item. That being said if you have a closet full of these things it might be time for some of it to go:)
Re: one year rule. Maybe there was a time it made sense but in 2022 it does not. We are conscious of textile waste/pollution in a way we were not before. The pandemic seriously curtailed most peoples’ opportunities to wear their proudly curated pieces. Does a mild winter mean it’s time to ditch your warmest winter coat? Climate change is a factor as well. So no. If you love it, keep it and look for opportunities to happily wear it again.
I did declutter my closed, but only got rid of things that are never going to fit again (or never fit right in the first place) or are worn/stained/unusable. The rest I put into a storage bin. Makes it much easier to declutter without fear and gave me the “serene” closet I wanted. You do have to have the space to store the bin (under the bed is my favorite). If you don’t have space or have clothes you don’t want to fold up, you can create a “limit” by putting something on rod to define “use” & “maybe later”. I use my hanging sweater rack. Everything behind that is a keep for later and things in front are things for now. Even something like a garment bag would work. I also move out of season clothes there. Then my “use” portion is only what I am wearing now.
🤔 Museums often rotate 🔄 their costly 💰 collections 🖼, so why not apply those same principles of curation to our closets? It really needs to be stored in an alternate location, so you're not overwhelmed. Think this is a wise option〰️esp. if you live some where that actually experiences four distinct seasons.
I do not, so heavily investing in Winter ❄️ Wear does 🚫 make a whole lot of sense. However, I do own several heavy coats (and a few lined wool items) that I refuse to part even if that means I only wear them sparingly here or reserve them when🧳 travel.
😉Favoring lightweight fabrics〰️ esp. those with moisture wicking capabilities〰️has been a major game changer for someone who runs hot 🥵 in a 😎 scorching Mediterranean-Desert climate🌡.
Plus, I've always had significantly more regrets🤣 over being peer pressured to give away high quality or staple items that I LOVED😍. Pieces that also actually suited me, my hourglass shape, lifestyle, etc.
Even though my style has transitioned, I've always valued variety. While I've kept to an overall color palette, I do like swapping silhouettes & introducing pops of color &/or pattern in smaller doses. Lately, I've been wanting to expand my use of stunning corporate 🏢 & church gear💒 I've collected over the years to suit other instances, but I also appreciate keeping some items strictly for more special occasion use to maintain their air of ✨️mystery & drama✨️
I've also gone up ⬆️ & down⬇️ in weight as well as 💲financial circumstances. Both reasons made me ever so grateful for being a hoarder. Learning smart tips from stylists on how to adjust oversized items or even things you might've outgrown has been ever so helpful. In fact, going on "No Buy" tangents has been quite liberating🎆. Looking for fresh online inspiration 👩💻, and shopping🛍 your closet can been very exciting🎉.
💚 Bridget from Cali ☘️
(using my pal's YT acct)
I never thought the "one year rule" made much sense. We pretty much know if we like a garment & will wear it again even if it hasn't gotten worn in a year. If I like it I'm gonna keep it....I'll wear it at some point & it will feel "new" again.
I have roughly 20 white button down shirts of different cuts, I have numerous little black dresses and blazers of all the neutral or staple colours. The same with shoes and boots.
Thank you for posting this. I really find that I love buying things I know create classic outfits like the white shirt and black dress. The more of these you own the more you can focus on great detail on the pieces
After not tucking anything in for so long (because it seemed to go out of style for a couple of decades) I'm enjoying tucking tops in again and have revived my belt wardrobe (thank goodness I didn't declutter it!) although I don't always wear a belt, especially if I'm just doing a half-tuck. 🙂
I have tons of belts. I like to drag them out every chance I get.
This is what I call personal growth! Just because you believed in something in the past doesn't mean you have to stick to it if it no longer works for you presently. You can move on gracefully and you did that so well!
Winters in Florida are so different from year to year -some years I get a lot of use from my favorite jacket and blazer and some years I only get to ear them once. Hormones, pregnancy, nursing, also affect what I wear in a season. So it doesn’t make sense to ditch clothes I love just because it didn’t work out last year!
Audrey, I love the comfort of leggings for travel. Always loved gold and silver jewelry, but understood gold was a better color for my fair complexion. Now I’m sporting silver as I love it also. As my thought is ‘At this stage of my life’
I have a 70's shirt with bright pink flowers that belonged to my grandmother. It represents Juliette, my French grandma. I will always keep it.
Such a wise approach, it is well worth keeping well made classic items. Also, I prefer dark wash denim in the winter, mid wash or light wash in the summer, as it feels softer and fresher.
I use my leggings under dresses in the winter all the time. They are warm and work with my dresses as well as do tights. I have a bit of a boho streak in my style and love to have a funky item to perk up an outfit. I do have my wardrobe basics, but do love to make things personal and not just be a minimalist clone with black pants a white T and a blazer. Smart but can be a little boring. I was a nurse, but wore uniforms for most of my working life. So anything uniformy reminds me of work. I pay attention to colour and love a pop of a lovely shade to liven things up. Love your videos.
I’m right there with you on the leggings under a dress. I work with kids and end up sitting on the floor a lot, so I just wore pants to work every day for a while. Wearing leggings under my dresses & skirts (and bike shorts under dresses & skirts in the summer) let me get a lot more wear out of my skirts & dresses.
I absolutely agree Audrey! 🙌🙌🤗😘
Classic pieces slow fashion and dress for yourself/body type and colour that suits your skin tone!
I love your videos Audrey ♥️it’s a master class and a calming meditation all in one!
Thank you so much! 😘🙌🤗♥️🙏🌍
I'm a 78 year old hourglass petite and I'm pretty rule-bound in my dressing. I have few clothes and stick pretty much with my colors. Please do other videos like this!
After one mild winter I realized I hadn’t worn my heavy wool pants at all and realized it would be silly to get rid of them using the one year rule because the following winter could be bitter.
I have always hung on to a vest I crocheted 40 years ago in my twenties - just because I made it I guess. It's been in the back of my closet all that time. I noticed it once again a week or so ago, tried it on and decided what a fun addition to add back in to my wardrobe....after 40 years!
Crocheted vests etc are the latest fashion items, if you have a grand daughter it may go missing. if not wear it yourself. Crochet is back.
I’ve learned the hard way not to get rid of items that are made of good quality. They seem to be more and more difficult to find these days. If they are classic and they fit well, I put them in a certain section of my closet. I also agree that it’s not a good idea to get rid of things just to buy new things. Now I only buy some thing if I really like it and I am willing to live with it for a long time. This cuts down on waist and needless spending. it also forces me to buy things that are quality made.
One of my earliest fashion memories is from watching TLC’s “What Not To Wear.” Stacy London said that horizontal stripes make you look wider, while vertical stripes make you look taller. I still have a hard time ignoring this ‘rule’ when I’m out shopping - and still tend to avoid horizontal stripes - but I think width and color of the stripes really play a part in whether or not it looks good on me. It also makes me think of when pinstripe dress pants/suits were in fashion and I wonder if they’ll ever come back!
it's not a "rule" you are supposed to follow, it's a fundamental fact of design and visual perception. You can choose to ignore it, but it doesn't change it.
I got a lot of useful information on WNTW and loved that show. I think that horizontal stripes do make you look wider but I still wear them. I specifically love my blue and white striped tops.
Actually, if you're curvy, vertical stripes look awful. They don't bend around a curvy woman's body. Just because vertical stripes make a slim woman look skinny does not mean the inverse is true. The most slimming pattern is actually chevrons.
@@annesullivan7553 they make me dizzy. 😁
It’s also been proven that the reverse can be true with stripes’
Hello Audrey! We evolve and so does our fashion sense. I am 59 and have had a lot of life changes in the last five years. I am getting ready to retire soon! I love fashion and I continue to develop my personal style. I take care of myself (I eat well and exercise) and I don't follow the, "What to wear over 50 rule." At this point in my life I wear what makes me feel confident, happy and comfortable. I loved this video!❤
I own half a dozen striped, poly-cotton shirts, all in the same style. I bought one in each available colourway and I've had them for at least thirty-five years. I've cycled them in and out of my current wardrobe many times over the years. I didn't wear them for a long time after I gained weight, but I'm glad to say that I can wear them again now. They still wash and iron beautifully and they weren't even expensive - I bought them at the Tesco supermarket. In my book, breaking 'the rules' really does pay off.
I like the idea of having several shirts of the same style in different colors. When you find an item you like, get it in many colors. I have some long-sleeved and short-sleeved T-shirts in the basic colors: black, white, and navy. I realized I needed T-shirts so I binged on them - now I don't have to think about that anymore. I do that often.
@@kauffrau6764 I totally agree. Stocking up when you find something that works saves time and effort.
This is my favourite video you’ve made. I’m decades older than you, which may explain quibbles I have had with your advice in the past. Like you now, I know my style and my closet has multiples of things that work for me. Personally, I can’t have too many white shirts. I’ve also reached an age where I really dress to honour who I am, and not to look like anyone else’s version of a well dressed woman. I’m excited to see where you take this new approach!
Growing up my mother told me I should never wear black because I was too dark skinned 🤷🏽♀️ and that I should choose white to make me look “brighter”. It was only in my late 30s I started experimenting with black and realized stark white actually washed me out in photos and ivory/ecru shades of white were better for me. All these years I blindly listened to my mother’s rules and she’d compliment my bright white blouses etc but secretly I did not feel confident when I looked in the mirror
Yes, we are most influenced by our mother’s fashion rules, which often don’t work with our style or body types.
I no longer follow the basic wardrobe lists. I have purchased things based on that list that I never wear. Like cami’s. I have them in several colors and never wear them. Most still have the tags on. I also don’t follow the neutral color palette rule. My closet looks like a rainbow and I love it that way. I follow analogous color combinations and sometimes complementary color. Color makes me happy. 😁🥰
Rules I ignore: suede and velvet are for winter; no white after Labor Day; take off one piece of jewelry; no denim on denim. Rule I follow always: the shoe makes your outfit stylish.
.....thank you for this video.... I have NOT EVER subscribed to " get rid of something if you haven't worn it in a year , " EVER. This does limit one's ability to have on hand certain items that you can utilize, even if it's not been worn or used in a while. I have a nice pair of purple suede pumps... they go with a purple Suede fringed gorgeous jacket... I don't wear them a lot, but I'm not getting rid of those pumps ! They are classic design, and I wear them with certain things. Same with my " dressy dresses". Just because those aren't worn " all the time " does not mean I'm getting them out of my closet. I have certain dresses that I love, I've had them for over 12 years, they still fit,still look great fabric- wise , and that's that. Lol. I do go through my closet once a year. I just packed up 5 boxes of clothing, with purses, and shoes, to donate to the Women's Shelter. So I do " get rid of things,", but it's on what I decide stays .... not anyone else.
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I so agree with the “fashion policing” comment. I have found myself judging others for what they are wearing and have been afraid to try new things for fear of being judged by others. I have been focusing instead on accepting all people for however they what to express themselves and sending them positive thoughts as we are all different and I am not the queen of the land. LOL. I feel more comfortable in my own skin and more loving and positive overall. Thank you for your gentle and loving content.
Beautifully put. I love your new approach :+)
I also learned that being judgmental made me criticize myself more harshly. The more I accepted others, the more I accepted myself. I wish someone had told me this when I was younger.
@@BbGun-lw5vi I wish I had been told that too. But we know now and that's the important thing 💗
Love this! You're a class act, as always. There are several items that these "20 essentials" lists insist everyone "should own", and they don't work for me: Little black dress, black blazer, white T-shirt, grey business trousers, ballet flats etc. As an autumn, I look so lifeless and washed out in black, white, navy, grey etc, and ballet flats make me look dumpy even with my slim build. So it's definitely best to do what you're encouraging: find your own essentials. :)
Sort of makes you wonder if the people we find most “fashionable” are actually the ones who don’t follow sort of arbitrary rules, but instead find what fits and what they like and play with it. 🤷🏼♀️
Nicely done, Audrey! That green jacket is stunning and wants to come home with me :+D It's been a pleasure to watch your style journey over the last five (!) years.
Guidelines are so useful when building a wardrobe and being authentic gives personality,thanks for your great view.
Could you do another video about upcoming trends and which ones you’d be interested in? I remember you made one ages ago and sure enough, about 5 months to a year after your video I saw some of those things become mainstream trends! So interesting.
Yes, guidelines are guidelines. Never follow them religiously
The more I listen to the experts “rules” on dressing the less I can creatively put an outfit together . I use to ….pre internet ….yes I’m that old lol (61) dress according to what I love to wear and then I started trying to follow the advice of the experts and now I don’t feel as confident dressing . But your vlog has opened my eyes and I’m glad to hear your views on style . BTW I loved all your white blouses , I have a weakness for white blouses the more feminine the better . They go with everything , especially ever so slightly distressed jeans and a simple pair of flats . That’s my uniform
I love everything about your channel, I always learn something new from you , thank you 😘
I found this true as well! I started dressing in a way that wasn’t even me when I started watching all the capsule content! Finding my way back…
Love this video and agree with everything. I've never followed the rule that if you haven't worn something in one year, get rid of it. (Who came up with this anyway? It's as silly as the rule a woman should keep her hair short after a certain age!) I too think one year is not long enough. I've pulled out clothes I haven't worn in a few years and felt excited to start wearing them again and so glad I held on to them. Thank you for a great video Audrey 😊
Ikr? As someone once said, that rule must have been invented by the fashion industry to make us buy the same clothes over and over again!
This applies also with the “how to” wear, especially with tucking in! The huge variety in our bodies means there can be no singular rule. Such rules often impact harshly on larger ladies so it’s great to revisit all the ‘rules’. ❤️
I love this. As I grow older “fashion rules” become less important. I really enjoy dressing up but I also want to just have fun sometimes, so I’m starting to wear more colors, more prints, more leggings… I love it!
This was well needed. I'm someone who has always followed these rules (and many many more) blindly. Maybe it's because I lack confidence in my dressing game - it is safer to follow rules. My problem lately has been, now when I'm over thirty, I've gathered rules for fifteen years. And in my head they sound for example like this: " All black is always a classic choice! All black makes you look tired and older than you are! All black is slimming! You should always wear color with black! You should never wear navy/brown/beige/pink/yellow/pastels with black!" You get the idea...I've realized this actually causes lot of anxiety. So thank you for fresh thoughts.
I don't believe in any dressing rules for adults unless required by law or work.
I look for style inspiration not rules. And some of the "rules" such as declutter, must haves, minimalism, capsules so on, seem wasteful.
I think maybe the core of capsule wardrobes, decluttering, minimalism, is a desire to reduce consumerism. However, I suggest that sometimes the goals of reducing consumerism and minimalism etc., are at odds. As you mentioned, styles cycle back. I have worn outfits that are almost forty years old and could have kept outfits from my mother and aunts which are even older had I thought about before hand.
I think the real trick is to be mindful of purchases so you don't need to throw things away. And for me, it's perfectly fine to have lots of clothes in my closet that I don't use all the time.
Classic styles and lists are good starting points if you are starting from zero and want to get the most out of each piece and are still learning about your style. .But I enjoy working with what I have.
I've been waiting for someone to bring up this topic. The do's and don'ts started to wear on me. I don't declutter after a year anymore. Some things are timeless so I keep them. I watch suggestions but go with my own freedom of choice and comfort zone. Great topic!
My #1 reason for hanging on longer than a year: colors cycle in and out. My fabulous teals, corals, and straw yellows aren't always available. If the fit is good and the style isn't too trendy I hang on!
Exactly! My best colours are slightly muted jewel tones so when they're in fashion I stock up.
Audrey, where are your pants and top from. As I was watching the video I couldn’t take my eyes off them 👀 I returned to the video just to ask you this
My mother in law always passes a comment if my shoes don't match the colour of my purse/hand bag hahaha! I think it's cute that she religiously still follows that old school fashion rule, but I have moved on from that one since the 90's. Same for not wearing white after Labor Day. I've been wearing white all year round for many years!
For me the rules I break and not pairing black & navy or black with brown. I do think you can, but perhaps just need to be careful what items you’re pairing and what shades of the two colours.
This black top that you are wearing is SO nice!
Dressing rules I have never followed: wear no more than three colours at a time; a blazer is a classic item everyone should own (I look ridiculous in them, like I’m dressing up); don’t wear black and brown together (didn’t even know this was one till someone told me); buy simple, high quality pieces because they are more flexible - this one may be true but I like to have a few special pieces because they are individual and fun and stop you looking generic. Biggest rule I break is to choose neutrals. I love colour and I think it can look just as stylish and chic as neutrals.
Navy + Black. I wear it and it works. But I’ve always been told they don’t go together
After I moved to Kentucky someone offered the rule “don’t wear white shoes until after Derby.” What! Oh Honey, thats your rule, forget that!
Good for you! I don’t even own any white shoes. I can’t get used to how they look on my feet so I just don’t own any.
Good morning Audrey. I almost didn’t click on your video because I thought it was going to be another, “you can wear white after Labor Day.” But as usual your content is always spot on. You actually said things I’ve thought but didn’t put into words or thought inside I was wrong for wanting four white blouses but in different styles. Thank you. By the way, you look beautiful. xo, Cowgirl Deb
I appreciate this!
After watching countless fashion style and wardrobe videos over the past three years, this is what I have figured out… First, you need to research and find the things that look great on your frame, and suit your personality. Basically, where are the things that you feel amazing in. Secondly, I really don’t believe in spending a ton of money on one piece of clothing unless it’s something that is super super consistent throughout the years in your life, maybe la blazer. Because sometimes, or usually, our style changes… or a trend that appears really appeals to us that we incorporate. That leads me to number three, which is our styles do change, and I understand the tension of fashion TH-camrs to be bringing new things and thinking of new things to show us and teach us, but really, we can spend too much time over thinking our wardrobes. I used to get caught up in the capsule wardrobe, all the different things that would come out each month from fashion TH-camrs. I have appreciated a lot of the advice, but when it all comes down to it, you just need to find what looks great on your figure, you feel fabulous in, and I don’t think you should spend a ton of money on clothing that you may not wear in a few years. Give yourself freedom to enjoy your wardrobe!
Yes, I don't get buying a really expensive piece of anything to last 10-20 years. There is pretty much NOTHING that I want to last that long. Perhaps you're working in a major city's law and finance district and you must dress conservatively, but you'll still want a new suit or two every year. And as for tees and blouses, I don't know anyone who doesn't want a bit of a collection in colors and prints. And truthfully, I also don't believe that most hugely expensive items are particularly notable while being worn. I have seen many a costly blouse that doesn't look one bit "better" or classier than what can often be bought at Penney's or Macy's. It's only my opinion, but I think the prevailing idea that only high priced designer goods show that you're classy is a major hoax.
I have tee shirts that I bought from Old Navy about 20 years ago now (the quality at ON is not what it was) I have a drawer of ON tanks & tees that are at least 10 years old. When the white ones start looking dingey I soak em in Oxyclean & they look fine. I used to watch a certain fashion TH-camr who gave advice to mature women until she tried shilling a plain white tee that cost $95. Her idea of an affordable dupe was a $1,500 jacket instead of a $5,000 jacket. She also never featured clothes that went beyond size L/14 or XL. I unsubscribed from her rather quickly.
Midwashed denim looks like its wearer has been outdoors, as for sport and/or work, and has been sun lightened. It's more approachable and relatable.
I agree with so much. We all need to be original and authentic and just use these tools as possible considerations, that's all. One rule that always strikes me as just ridiculous is you either look good in silver or gold jewelry. Jewelry is art. It doesn't have a huge impact like a blouse does in terms of color, jewelry is an investment, jewelry is given as gifts and some pieces feel highly sentimental, and each piece of jewelry is unique, and last but not least over a lifetime you accumulate jewelry and why would you not wear beautiful jewelry regardless of whether it's silver or gold or other? Sometimes I build my outfits around my jewelry a bit.
This was such a freeing message. I'd love to hear you share about the "only wear your colour palette" rule.. For instance, I'm a warm neutral and white isn't my best... but I love white in the summer. Maybe a "how to" on breaking/bending the colour rules ;)
This would be a really helpful video. Great suggestion!
There is a specific white out there for everyone ( there are more than 100 shades of white!)! Cool whites, warm whites- you get the idea :)
I freed myself from only wearing white after memorial day to labor day I wear white all year round
I definitely purchase certain items in different cuts. I love black and own all kinds of black tops, pants, & dresses. The rule I break is, "Don't buy the same piece in every color." While I don't purchase them in every color, I certainly buy them in my favorite colors. I should add that I'm talking about basics- tees mostly.
Exactly, not every color, but why not in all your favorite colors?
Me too! When I like the style I buy a sensible colour (black/white/grey) and a fun colour.
I agree on all your points! In particular, I've had clothes for well over a decade that I may take a break from, but will circle back to after a couple of years. 💛
Yes, great video. I am sure you could do a part two. One that I was always told by my grandmother was no white pants after Labor Day or before Memorial Day. Thankfully I no longer even remotely follow that rule, and I love my white jeans year round.
I never understood the “never wear white after Labor Day” rule. So if I want to wear white jeans or sweat pants in the Fall or Winter I do. Obviously I’m talking about the heavier denim here. The biggest life changing rule or premise I stopped doing was caring what other people think and/or said about me.
Thank you for this video! It’s always a pleasure to hear you.
Decluttering is good and I think necessary from time to time, but archiving (if you have room for that) can be an even better option! Why buy something again because it’s back in fashion when you have « the real thing »? Plus my mom regrets getting rid of some pairs of shoes, thinking she would be able to afford/find the same quality later. Some things that were affordable at some point are much more expensive today (when they exist!) So that’s something I keep in mind now. Is it well made, a durable and/or precious fabric? Was it a lucky find? Does it suit me well? If so, I store it for later. Also, a lot of work goes into quality garments, from the materials to the finished products. Unless I know it’ll get used by someone, I’d rather keep it and give it a full life 😂 even if that means a break from time to time…
I cannot imagine my wardrobe with only one white shirt! I have four that all serve unique purposes for me. One very formal, custom fitted shirt that I reserve for weddings, funerals, and the like. A fitted thin poplin option that is perfect for layering under sweaters or blazers. A thicker, looser cotton shirt for everyday with jeans or trousers... certainly my most worn item in my wardrobe. Lastly, an oversized white linen shirt. Perfect for beach days, or for throwing over shorts and sandals for the southern CA summers.
As child of the Seventies I can tell you that fashions DO cycle in and out!
One rule I don't follow is suddenly wearing pale colours, pastels and brights just because it's summer - they look terrible on me! The colours that suit me are traditionally 'winter' colours- grey/navy/clarets/dark green - so I continue to wear them in summer, just in more appropriate
fabrics.
Agree so much. I hate pastel colors on myself. Unfortunately, a lot of summer clothes are only made in these colors.
@@gussiefink-nottle2904 I've found so many color options for clothes on Amazon if you're looking for anything specific 😊
Audrey-I love that green jacket you are wearing! Can you tell us where you bought it or is it a vintage find? The color is amazing! And-I love all the classics so my wardrobe really never goes out of style. I gave clothes that’s are 20+ years old!
Audrey mentioned in another video that it’s vintage Chanel and she bought it years ago when living in New York.
So nice to hear that you have freed yourself from strict rules.
Audrey, your style has become so much more refined these past 2 years. I really love how you thoughtfully explored your silhouette and colors. I am so glad you dropped the restricted wardrobe mentality. I have clothes from as far back as 2 decades ago. I am SO GLAD I didn't ditch my "old" clothes. Consequently, I am approaching my wardrobe with interest and curiosity... How do I make this work? I see something someone is wearing (often on Pinterest) and realize that I have comparable items or can use the tweak to style my own outfit. You and Alyssa Beltempo have really inspired me, as well. Thank you!
Yes, Alyssa, too, is a great inspiration!
I refuse to “dress my age” as I don’t think it necessary. I think ageless timeless style is key and can last for years. as long as the clothing fits my body and l feel amazing in them, I’m not going to style them with age or generations in mind.
I would also like to hear about your hair styling journey. I have been trying to fully embrace my natural 2c but I find it restrictive to only do one thing and never use a styling tool again 🙂 Your opinion and thoughts would be very interesting! Thank you!
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I now mix metals with my jewelry‼️💍💙
My take away from the video is “how I want to represent myself!” I think this is the most important thing. We can have an overall theme or style that we can have. But functionality is also key along with what you love
Its important to evolve. Thanks for sharing your process.
Leggings will never be a classy or stylish option. Ditto for the rest of active wear. I can't imagine going to work or a nice restaurant in leggings.
I so appreciated this content. I grew up with a very controlling mother. Clothing & food were two of her biggest “tools” to control us. Now I’m 51, my body is changing, but I’m also feeling more freedom and confidence than I ever have in my life. The last thing I need is more rules. Thank you for these insights. 🙏🏼❤️
Yes! Clothes and food. At 67, I've been struggling to completely free myself of my mother's dictates, but it's still difficult. I find myself doing things due to that early training without thinking about it. Like, she never allowed me to wear clothes when they were new. Which was especially impractical when I was a growing child since my new clothes were often too small by the time she let me wear them. My husband still doesn't understand why I don't wear my clothes as soon as I buy them, but I've made a conscious effort recently to wear my new clothes immediately. Maybe I'll get to the point where it doesn't feel wrong in the next 10 or 20 years.
Wow. I totally get this. Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s helpful to know that I’m not alone in struggling with these kinds of issues. We are in it together. ✨💕
I’m not that keen on some of the current style (chunky sneakers, torn jeans, etc.), but the one upside of fashion today is that there are pretty much no rules. Wear what makes you feel good, comfortable (ugh…even chunky sneakers) and confident.
Re: keeping clothes,they can be restyled and reworked/ updated with a tailor or if you can learn to do it on your own. Remember, Princess Beatrice wore a dress that her Grandmother first wore in 1947. Fabric is expensive,use your imagination!
This is the second video of yours that I’ve watched and so far I’ve really enjoyed them. I really want a classic and timeless wardrobe, but I struggle with putting pieces together so I end up just wearing jeans and a black shirt. Your voice is also very calming!
When I was growing up, going around beltless in jeans or in a skirt with belt loops caused an argument at home. I was considered half-dressed if I didn't put a belt on those garments. And sure, using those loops with a belt or even a scarf cinches a waist nicely. But today I think that belt-free belt loops just add their own aesthetic interest to an outfit.
Where is your black top from in this video? The simple style is flattering.
I wear what I like and like what I wear. Elastic waist pants and skirts work well for me at the age I am. I also love a loose button front shirt since I live in the hot and humid south. Luckily I sew my clothes and can make what I want and make any pattern adjustments to suit my shape and taste.
I sew my own clothes as well…mostly dresses and tops and cardigans because fitting pants terrifies me! 🤣
Decluttering is good when you're trying to find your personal style. The only time I declutter things, is when I don't feel good in them or they don't fit properly. It can be really cathartic to declutter, but it does nothing for sustainability.
Sometimes it's necessary, but I've always been the person to focus on what makes me feel good, as opposed to trends and what's popular.
I'm very much a person that breaks rules, rebellious spirit I suppose. So the videos that say don't do this and do that. I want to do this and that!! So I will lol
I lost 50 pounds and now don’t store those in the attic, but I have unpacked boxes I stored there in the early 1990s when I was injured and the doc gave me medicine that caused me to gain 70 pounds in 7 months. !!! They are now in style again!!! Oversized blazers, wide leg pants, leather skirts…
I would like to see you do hot weather outfits. The outfits you chose, and the one you primarily wore, are beautiful, but they’re not friendly for my location which is similar to your hometown, Charleston.
This is an interesting concept. I have found myself following the rules because I wanted to be "well dressed". I am exploring history bounding which is such fun but also requires you to stop following "The Rules". Also, there are multiple things that I regret getting rid of, conversely I just saw a photo from 10 years ago and I still have those shoes! They are getting tired and I wish I could clone them...
One dressing rule I constantly heard growing up was ‘you cannot wear white in winter’ 😂😂
and then they actually named a color "winter white"
Lovely video as always thank u ❤️ My favourite part of an outfit has always been the jewellery & bag. So I edited most of my clothes to mostly plain basics, so that my favourites get to shine! I dont follow any rules anymore & simply ask myself, what clothes can I wear today to go with this beautiful bag or jewellery! Makes me happy & i figure thats all that matters right?
LYCRA LYCRA LYCRA! after having a baby via c section in my early 50s, EVERYTHING on my bottom has to have lycra in the mix. Now its so easy to find, I never buy skirts, pants or any bottoms without the lifesaving properties of LYCRA!!!
🤫Developing our own style can be tricky〰️esp. as we continue to evolve & change. Plus, there are so many warring voices out there to contend with at a time. 🙆♀️There's a lot of militancy & shame out there. While it is helpful to start with a framework, we need to gain confidence to know when we can go our own way. Experiment with what suits us & what does not.
😉 You're speaking directly to my own experiences in this video. 🤔 Your wisdom & growth definitely applies to my own style journey. 🤗 Please do MORE features on the "rules" worth breaking.
🙏God bless you🕊!
💚 Bridget from Cali ☘️
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Now I am 69 and I have learned not to get rid of clothes that I feel great in-this doesn’t mean I wear sweats and baggy muumuus-I wear what looks good, fits well, is comfortable and makes me feel confident! I don’t keep or wear anything that doesn’t fit that criteria.
If I have hung on to clothes I don’t seem to wear, I ask myself why!
LOVE THIS Video. 💘 FREEDOM WITH STYLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The one year rule went down the drain during the pandemic, I am not getting rid of my cloth if I didn't get the chance to enjoy it. also some cloth you only wear it a few months during the cold or hot season.
Yes I would definitely like more videos like this! It’s nice to know that we can free ourselves from those fashion chains
I live in a rough area, so I typically dress to fit in -no flashy jewelry, no makeup, no purse and no bright colors -and don’t draw attention to myself. I’m usually in t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers. I carry a small backpack like the bus riders and homeless.
When I worked, I dressed office casual, but I’m retired now. I’ve saved my casual clothes -I’m looking forward to moving to a small town with low crime -in a few years -where I can dress pretty again. 🙂
Two things that I stopped following:
1. In order to be elegant wear elegant clothes, although part of this is true it is NOT the entirety of it. Because elegance is not only how you dress but how you act as well.
2. Baggy on baggy. Like seriously, with right styling it actually looks good!😄