Nah, she got pregnant immediately with shady dudes kid. They'd been estranged for 3 years, and she has a two- three year old daughter with shady dude. The math ain't mathing. It seems like she was the cheater.
1) This! And, unless the OP has the wherewithall in him to help raise her child with love and not be triggered by what had happened between them, he should not get back with Alexis. 2) Henry is absolute scum. Good thing OP moved on and hope Karma hits Henry hard and the OP never seems him again. 3) OP's husband was having an emotional affair and was quickly moving towards a physical affair. It could have been stopped in its tracks but his ego wouldn't let him. He's a DB and a weak man. So sorry for the OP. I hope she burns him in the divorce.
None of that went through her mind, guaranteed. If she did, she would be sufficiently ashamed and wouldn’t dare to show her face. Her only thought was “why am I not getting my way”
Story 1) OP needs to tell Alexis it's too late. If he was the love of her life, why was she so willing to belive he would have cheated on her, with out talking with him, and that she has to accept the fact that she made her choice to think the worst of him because of a lie.
Agree. She decided one accuser was enough for a judgment and didn’t even ask for the accused testimony or witnesses. That’s not a person you want to stay around. On getting back together: does he really want to parent the child of the person who ruined his life and have to see him every time the child wants to see her bio dad? Do you really want to coparent with the woman who threw him out and the guy who ruined his life?? Because that would be a lot of resentment to live in. Not healthy for him and not healthy for the child.
@@WTC-1990 then she would act like a victim, my way, would hit harder and point would get threw to her she has no room to be a victim she made the choice and he doesn't have to forgive her, he just needs to move on.
She already had a child with Danny and do you think you want an ex who didn't believe you and then have a child with said. Plus even if they did get back together he probably won't treat the child well since she'll be a reminder of the bastard that ruined his life.
@@Void-a7k might not have cheated but "you are the love of my life" but spreading legs and having unprotected sex as soon as he is gone paints a different picture. She might as well be cheating if she is going to put out bold statements about how she only loved Op but got railed by the guy that falsely accused him.
@@Void-a7k Tilting at windmills. She betrayed him, strict definition "cheating" or not. And you can add 9 months to whatever the kid's age was, so may very well have been cheating. The math is suspect. Your "not a cheater!" statement has just as much support as "sounds like cheating to me" does.
Story 1, Alexis doesn't deserve anything. She tried to self harm? Who cares. They gave him no chance, refused to listen to him or give him any shot at explain. Alexis had no trust or faith in him and immediately believed someone else, someone they disliked mind you, over their own son without ever letting him say anything. "Hello, if it isn't the consequences of my own actions". No, op. Go NC with them and stay NC. They already showed you who they are. They will trust the word of any random person, even if they hate that person, before they will ever trust you.
That's true. People who do stuff like that shows proof that they were never the op's family nor girlfriend to begin with they are complete strangers to the op now.
Well Alexis was clearly already cheating with the guy if I did my math right. Moved on and had a baby all in the span of a year? Love of your life my ass
I fcking HATE it when toxic/abusive Exes resort to SH to gain sympathy or more access to the person they abused. That’s so freaking scummy and just makes me rage inside.
Even if OP got back together with Alexis there's a high chance he would be cold to the daughter that Alexis had with Danny. Like OP said to them that the man they knew was dead and gone just a husk of his former self.
This guy didn't cover comment section where op accidentally blurted out he was meeting her for months before whole suicide deal basically lying about no contact and someone brutalized him for unmatched timelines then op tried to backtrack by saying he only met her to "get closure" but was going on fucking dates with her apparently...yeah..1st op story is one hell of a reality vs reddit situation...1st op is quite the opposite guy to this resolute and edgy "dead son and lover" thing he put on reddit...doormat almost with how he straight up deleted his account once he got caught Don't believe this stories all the time folks...most of these are either fake or one sided...yes terrible people are there but in almost all these stories other guys are these irredemable pieces of sh*ts and somehow only op is this "pick me" person with normal morals and "kind" personality
I noticed no one in the last story with the final comments brought up that, while he was calling and begging for couples counseling and to make things work... HE WAS STILL ON THE FAKE WORK TRIP WITH AP AND WAS STILL NOT PLANNING ON COMING BACK TILL THAT NEXT FRIDAY If you go back and listen, she said the work trip was a lie. He was just going to meet his ap to have an affair because they don't work together. So he's still with the ap... is planning on finishing his little mini cheat-vacay... while still saying, "let's work this out baby" Like that would have been my first question... "did he offer to take the first plane home immediately? Or is he staying with her till that next Friday anyway?"
Story 1: I never understand these stories. They always give up too easily. If I was the accused, I would immediately say let’s take this so called “evidence” of my betrayal to an expert for verification. Anyone that was guilty of said betrayal would not be asking for verified proof of it. I would do everything I could to prove my innocence and I would hold the people responsible and take them to court for defamation and alienation. The father would also be getting charged with assault as well, mistake or not. You don’t handle these situations with your fists.
Why is it in the stories the girl immediately gets together with the 'friend' who lied? It's so trashy. Then wanting the guy they ditched back after abandoning them with zero doubt... She didn't even look into it before dumping him and letting her father wail on the guy, after being together for years? No honey. No. You can't un-burn that bridge, especially not overnight. Also, trying to get back together after all that while his mom's holding the baby you had with the other guy... Completely insensitive and selfish. I hope OP is able to move on with his life and fully heal from that betrayal. Hopefully he'll find someone who can genuinely love and trust in him. He deserves much better.
Story 1 Full NC with everyone When OP got married with kids, send a postcard with their photo saying they will never meet, talk or see their grandchildren and hos wife and that he will make sure to never raise them on his family image Also, change last name and show parents the new name But thats petty me
Most of these stories come off as either ai or creative writing exercise. The guy just so happens to bring his car to OPs shop, three hours from where he lives?
I don't know if I believe the first story because let's face it. 99% of us would have immediately called the police on the father. You assaulted me over a lie. I don't give a f*** what your emotions are bro. I'm pressing charges and you're going to f****** prison
Story number one is very heartbreaking, but he can never take her back. She's now just a single mom. She will never be the woman he needs. She'll never be the woman she was. She should just let this man go.
tbh its on her for not even listening to his side. she just took the lies and ran with it and got knocked up within a year. she moved on quick for someone claiming he was the love of her life.
S2: I’d like to hear how the therapist is responding if this was their suggestion. That feels like a violation and I honestly get skeptical when I hear OPs mention therapists telling them to post on a public forum, unless it’s exposure therapy or something.
great video, really appreciate how you shed light on such a tough situation. but honestly, i feel like there's always more to a story. i mean, what if there were misunderstandings on both sides? sometimes it seems easier to jump to conclusions without hearing every detail. just my two cents!
LOL. He feels like a teenager again. Yeah, that won't last long. PS. When an affair partner goes all in the way OP's STBX AP did, it's always a lie. That's what they do. If you like old movies, they do too. If you like a certain hobby, so do they! If you feel this way about something, hey! They do too! You can have endless hours of conversation when the other person becomes your yes man. All this WHILE seducing them, making them feel like the most beautiful thing in the world. Yep, and the married person is a goner. LOL. Until reality sets in and the AP sees they have won. It's all a game to some people. If I were OP, I would go scorched earth on her STBX ass. Notify his place of employment (they would both be fired since MANY places have a morality clause) because people like this are not trustworthy. Let his parents, family and his friends know. Take him to the cleaners. And rub salt in the wound making sure everyone knew how he didn't want OP to have any male friends (trying to isolate her) while she begged him to take her feelings into consideration in the present about his HIGHLY inappropriate relationship with his 'friend.'
Hey SecretVoices, I've been meaning to ask, did you ever post a story of the OP who was mad that his daughter cut contact with him for marrying her friend? I swear I remember watching a video like that, but I can't find it or remember which channel posted it. Edit: Oh, nevermind. Found it.
@@sweeety969 Yeah and then his daughter was even willing to hear him out, but he blew it by being late because he was "too occupied" with his child bride. Dude was depraved.
And the daughter gave a chance to reconcile but the dude got busy with horizontal salsa with his child bride while the daughter was waiting all alone for him. And he actually tried to justify himself in the comments saying that his child bride was just “too irresistible “ , that absolute idiot.
@@agirlwithglasses246 I remember that one too. Only that story made such an impression, that I remember him saying, 'she was just too cute,' Ugh. I may have vomited when I heard it. THAT made it seem like rage bait. LOL.
1st story: Ryder/Danny is finished. Child support is coming his way. Maybe more. Alexis probably will keep her distance from her daughter. Story 2: Henry is an idiot. He's going to prison and now has to pay damages too. Yes, he will have to pay for the damages. Henry definitely needed some time in prison, probably a make over too. Story 3: The husband messed up.
Its kind of gross that she touched him after what happened. The alexis girl was way to friendly way to quickly. but also she was a victim assuming she wasn’t already cheating which the kids ages make it seem like she was, but he definitely should not date her she is not worth the stress.
I'm honestly going to feel bad for a little kid that op ex had chances are the ex is probably going to hate the kid seeing it as a symbol of her mistake and a manifestation of the man who ruined her life chances are she might start abusing him or put him up for adoption
Why the hell does op in story 1 need a second opinion? The case is clear cut. Tell them to get the fuck out of his life and not care. I know it could be hard but hey he pulled himself up from his darkest moment so this shouldn't bother him
Your parents are only interested in an instant grandchild that's clear as glass, and as for the ex, it's a textbook case of someone wanting to reestablish the relationship they had previously that was far happier and the typical single mom fear
Story 1 - lol wtf? At minimum, Op needs to get a restraining order for all of these people. They belong in the same bag of trail mix because they sound nutsy and ballsy to expect forgiveness after what they put op through. Here's the thing. I fully believe Alexis wanted out of this relationship with op and used the allegations to get out of it without being the bad guy. Why else would she string along two guys and get knocked up so fast after the break up with op. Now she realizes she put her gamble on the wrong horse and wants her ex back. Screw her. Doubly screw her for using self harm to get sympathetic support. Op is NOT the love of her life. She just wants a meal ticket. Story 2 - op dodged a nuke. Henry sounds like another psycho that shouldn't be allowed to have children with anybody. Prison sounded like inevitable. Story 3 - omg op needs to grow a freaking spine. Her husband doesn't respect their marriage at all. This is an emotional affair. I'm rolling my eyes at the fact he actually told his s/o he feels lonely around her. The only response would have been to say "okay. I can fix that because I refuse to be a third wheel in my relationship. You can have your friend. I'm going to find myself a "friend" too." This boat is sinking and op needs to prepare a life boat. By life boat, I mean op needs to file for divorce first. It's pretty obvious op can clearly get a better man if she really put her mind to it and he can't stand that. I don't believe for a moment he cut contact from the other woman.
Ahh the ol' "try and self delete" tactic. Women do this often because they want attention and sympathy. Notice that they "almost" end themselves. Dont fall for it.
Plenty of toxic men use this tactic to control their partners, friends, and/or family members. People with Cluster-B Personality Disorders are capable of this.
Here are a few things to say about story one that made sense to me: Don't believe what you are told; double-check. Never accept an apology from somebody who just sucker-punched you. Never second guess yourself in a relationship and life.
1st story: this is what he needs to think about. Alexis tried to kill herself because Opie didn't want her but didn't think anything about the child that she made with his exbest friend. She was so desperate for a man didn't matter how she got one but didn't think twice about her child. And that's what you're confused about? There wouldn't be any misunderstandings when it came to that type of situation of you trying to harm yourself because a man didn't want to be with you or a woman knowing that you have a child that you have to take care of. And honestly this is a crappy story line that you posted up here to even ask for people to give you some advice when you know what advice they're going to give you that you need to move on with your life and you shouldn't have contacted these people. I don't understand what's so hard about that.
I love that everyone here cheers on when someone else exposes a cheater to the partner of the affair partner, causing a break up, but in this story everyones acting like the family is crazy for disowning him. They had the same level of evidence that all those other OPs give to their affair partners, but what, they aren't psychic.
Even though the family got those "evidence" that was made up. It will all be clear if they talk to OP first and demanded to see all his communications to verify. If OP is innocent he will gladly show there is nothing to hide. But since they do not think logically and proceeded to believe the worst in OP. These people jump to the conclusions without talking with OP first but physically assaulting OP when he went to the girlfriend's home. Even OP's parent do not like his friend but they believe him over OP. Communication is key and they failed in this. OP should definitely go NC with them and when his mother called him to say that his ex girlfriend tried to kill herself. OP response should be. "Do I looked like I gave a shit? If she wants to die, just jump off the building. You all are dead to me." Then proceed to block everyone.
Story 1 is a clusterfuck of mistakes, and some belong to OP too. He should have shouted his lungs out trying to explain instead of just rolling over and letting them all dictate his exile. But wow that alexis girl is also messed up, she just believed it without even hearing him out.
First story. "You know what? I'm willing to forgive all of you, on 1 simple condtion. Make it up to me. Now how you're all going to make the disastrous night that was meant to signify my engagement up to me is beyond my imagination however that's not an issue for me to worry about."
Had it not occurred to OP that Alexis might not have tried to end herself if OP didn't get weak and go back to his town when the smart thing to do would have been to stay away when those people who cut him off had tried to contact him ?
As Far as I can tell, OP from story 1 is a young Muscular broken man that rides badass bikes and wears boots like a badass!!! You have no idea how much women go crazy for a guy like him! He should just move on with therapy to deal with PTSD of what happened and continue NC either Toxic people that abandoned an already lonely boy that has grown up to be a strong independent man.
It was pretty obvious, but at the same time he should have dropped OP well before. Between the similar situation with the roles reversed 10 years ago and the “touchy” friend at the gym, there is at least a small dark part of me that feels like he was gaslit through therapy into accepting her bullshit and now what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
story 3: husband is an AH, he keeps moving his family every time his wife starts to make friends. he is very clearly isolating her. and gaslighting and manipulating OP and she doesn't see it. And the commentor is very clearly is a similar relationship with a husband who doesn't want her having friends and is gaslighting that commentator
So let me get this straight, him and his friend were dating the same girl, she cheated on his friend with him and he thought they should be together? God he is dumb
2nd story probaly one of those nice guys who had a crush on the OP initially and she chose the guy she lost her virginity too and wanted to "conquer" what turned him down and got with the other woman who probably claimed to be a Virgin and then he found out the other woman lied and / or was cheating and tried to reclaim him "property"
this is genuine question, i'm not trying to be sarcastic or anything. i'm just curious why would my partner read my messages or vice versa why would i read their's? are people in relationships not deserving of privacy?
stroy 1............ mom...........we know the truth OP...........i dont care. stop calling me days or weeks later mom.......alexis tried to end it me.........IDGAF. stop calling me
"Love of her life"- gets pregnant within 1st year of leaving him after immediately dating a guy who gave her false information
Nah, she got pregnant immediately with shady dudes kid. They'd been estranged for 3 years, and she has a two- three year old daughter with shady dude. The math ain't mathing. It seems like she was the cheater.
@smartypants8533 yeah I caught that too.
It's just a pity party
1) This! And, unless the OP has the wherewithall in him to help raise her child with love and not be triggered by what had happened between them, he should not get back with Alexis.
2) Henry is absolute scum. Good thing OP moved on and hope Karma hits Henry hard and the OP never seems him again.
3) OP's husband was having an emotional affair and was quickly moving towards a physical affair. It could have been stopped in its tracks but his ego wouldn't let him. He's a DB and a weak man. So sorry for the OP. I hope she burns him in the divorce.
Or more like the story is fake.
"My dad brutalized you, your friends betrayed you, and i got impregnated by the man who orchestrated it all! I need you back! I'M THE VICTIM!"
None of that went through her mind, guaranteed. If she did, she would be sufficiently ashamed and wouldn’t dare to show her face. Her only thought was “why am I not getting my way”
@SnerMerNer Did you genuinely say she would feel ashamed,she wouldn't cause she can only be a victim never a bad guy
@@Otis56reading comprehension
@@SnerMerNer What if he meant that even if she thought of all that, she still wouldn't feel ashamed..
@@SnerMerNeraccountability is like kryptonite, they avoid it.
Them: Alexis tried to self harm!
Correct response: And how is that my problem exactly?
Correct Response: Good. Not my problem. Then block them all.
“I hope it hurt”
All that showed was that she is too much of a coward to live with her actions
"Sounds like a big load of not my problem!"
*Insert “Oh, no! Anyway.” GIF*
OP should just remain NC with them. They never believed him and the trust is broken. There's no way of telling if they will do it again
Story 1) OP needs to tell Alexis it's too late. If he was the love of her life, why was she so willing to belive he would have cheated on her, with out talking with him, and that she has to accept the fact that she made her choice to think the worst of him because of a lie.
Agree.
She decided one accuser was enough for a judgment and didn’t even ask for the accused testimony or witnesses. That’s not a person you want to stay around.
On getting back together: does he really want to parent the child of the person who ruined his life and have to see him every time the child wants to see her bio dad? Do you really want to coparent with the woman who threw him out and the guy who ruined his life?? Because that would be a lot of resentment to live in. Not healthy for him and not healthy for the child.
Wrong
OP doesn't owe her anything but a nasty "go back to your child's father"
@@WTC-1990 then she would act like a victim, my way, would hit harder and point would get threw to her she has no room to be a victim she made the choice and he doesn't have to forgive her, he just needs to move on.
@@honeydroptheunicorn6557 she can act like a victim all she wants. All you say is, "You're no longer my problem"
It's the audacity for me
Story 1: once a cheater is always a cheater. His ex is very manipulative and family is helping
She already had a child with Danny and do you think you want an ex who didn't believe you and then have a child with said. Plus even if they did get back together he probably won't treat the child well since she'll be a reminder of the bastard that ruined his life.
@@Void-a7k no
@@Void-a7k guess I misremembered. I thought at 1:10 it Ryder and OP dated Alexis.
@@Void-a7k might not have cheated but "you are the love of my life" but spreading legs and having unprotected sex as soon as he is gone paints a different picture. She might as well be cheating if she is going to put out bold statements about how she only loved Op but got railed by the guy that falsely accused him.
@@Void-a7k Tilting at windmills. She betrayed him, strict definition "cheating" or not. And you can add 9 months to whatever the kid's age was, so may very well have been cheating. The math is suspect. Your "not a cheater!" statement has just as much support as "sounds like cheating to me" does.
He should've filed for assault on the girlfriend's dad
Alexis doesn't want OP back, she wants his money and support! Do not take her or your family back!!
Yeah, she got pregnant way to fast for OP to be “the love of her life”
Story 1 all the luck to op. He owes them all nothing.
He should probably make contact with his younger brother, as bro hasn’t done anything wrong and is still a minor
When i heard near the end of op1s story i was like "good" 😂
I’m sick of these spineless OP’s. “This person betrayed me and let her father physically assault me, but part of me wants to take her back.”
Same 🤦♀️ I feel no sympathy for these ppl
It's because these are AI generated stories lol!
In real life 99% of people would block the toxic abusers and whistle away as they live their lives.
@@maskednil You have too much faith in humanity.
@@maskednil I mean, this is definitely fake AF, but point stands, lol.
Story #1:
The World's Smallest Violins 👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻 for Backstabber Ryder , EX-GF Alexis AND OP’s bio - _“family”_ (🙄😮💨) !!!
😂😂😂
Get Mr Krabs to play that violin. 🎻
when you visited Alex in the ward, the best words to come out was "you should've done it right the first time"
Story 1, Alexis doesn't deserve anything. She tried to self harm? Who cares. They gave him no chance, refused to listen to him or give him any shot at explain. Alexis had no trust or faith in him and immediately believed someone else, someone they disliked mind you, over their own son without ever letting him say anything. "Hello, if it isn't the consequences of my own actions". No, op. Go NC with them and stay NC. They already showed you who they are. They will trust the word of any random person, even if they hate that person, before they will ever trust you.
It'd be better if she had to live with her guilt the rest of her life.
That's true. People who do stuff like that shows proof that they were never the op's family nor girlfriend to begin with they are complete strangers to the op now.
Well Alexis was clearly already cheating with the guy if I did my math right.
Moved on and had a baby all in the span of a year?
Love of your life my ass
Story 1 Your the love of her life yet she's why All the Evil things that happen to you. Happened. She Never loved you.
Should've never gone to the hospital. In his shoes, I would have kept up with the "man you loved doesn't exist" even if I was lying to myself.
@@southernflight5078He should have told her he was going to propose and show her the ring then ghost her. Make her feel even worse.
I fcking HATE it when toxic/abusive Exes resort to SH to gain sympathy or more access to the person they abused. That’s so freaking scummy and just makes me rage inside.
I dont i hope they actually keep there word
Even if OP got back together with Alexis there's a high chance he would be cold to the daughter that Alexis had with Danny. Like OP said to them that the man they knew was dead and gone just a husk of his former self.
Do you think the mother will love her daughter? 😆 She will always remind her of the man she lost. Her next children will be her favourites.
This guy didn't cover comment section where op accidentally blurted out he was meeting her for months before whole suicide deal basically lying about no contact and someone brutalized him for unmatched timelines then op tried to backtrack by saying he only met her to "get closure" but was going on fucking dates with her apparently...yeah..1st op story is one hell of a reality vs reddit situation...1st op is quite the opposite guy to this resolute and edgy "dead son and lover" thing he put on reddit...doormat almost with how he straight up deleted his account once he got caught
Don't believe this stories all the time folks...most of these are either fake or one sided...yes terrible people are there but in almost all these stories other guys are these irredemable pieces of sh*ts and somehow only op is this "pick me" person with normal morals and "kind" personality
@@infamouspotato2028 I could care less about authentication as long as it's entertaining.
Taking the coward's way out because like most modern women, accountability is kryptonite.
OP should have reported the assault
If OP 1 goes back to her, he'll inadvertently validate the way she used to reel him back in (ie. self harm), and that is NOT the way to go
I noticed no one in the last story with the final comments brought up that, while he was calling and begging for couples counseling and to make things work... HE WAS STILL ON THE FAKE WORK TRIP WITH AP AND WAS STILL NOT PLANNING ON COMING BACK TILL THAT NEXT FRIDAY
If you go back and listen, she said the work trip was a lie. He was just going to meet his ap to have an affair because they don't work together. So he's still with the ap... is planning on finishing his little mini cheat-vacay... while still saying, "let's work this out baby"
Like that would have been my first question... "did he offer to take the first plane home immediately? Or is he staying with her till that next Friday anyway?"
Story 1, weak. Should have stayed no contact.
Agreed
Story 1: I never understand these stories. They always give up too easily. If I was the accused, I would immediately say let’s take this so called “evidence” of my betrayal to an expert for verification. Anyone that was guilty of said betrayal would not be asking for verified proof of it. I would do everything I could to prove my innocence and I would hold the people responsible and take them to court for defamation and alienation. The father would also be getting charged with assault as well, mistake or not. You don’t handle these situations with your fists.
Why fight over people so easily fooled
8:12 Who the F is Danny? I thought the guy who framed OP and impregnated OP’s girl was named Ryder.
Why is it in the stories the girl immediately gets together with the 'friend' who lied? It's so trashy. Then wanting the guy they ditched back after abandoning them with zero doubt... She didn't even look into it before dumping him and letting her father wail on the guy, after being together for years? No honey. No. You can't un-burn that bridge, especially not overnight. Also, trying to get back together after all that while his mom's holding the baby you had with the other guy... Completely insensitive and selfish. I hope OP is able to move on with his life and fully heal from that betrayal. Hopefully he'll find someone who can genuinely love and trust in him. He deserves much better.
Story 1: so Ryder is Danny… 🧐🤨
Story 1
Full NC with everyone
When OP got married with kids, send a postcard with their photo saying they will never meet, talk or see their grandchildren and hos wife and that he will make sure to never raise them on his family image
Also, change last name and show parents the new name
But thats petty me
Who TF is Danny? His name was Ryder a minute ago 😂
I was thinking the same thing 😂
Pretty big difference in names which makes everything suspect.
Let us not forget that he said 'I (20m)' then said his 21st birthday. What?!
There are two possible explanation:
1. This all could be fake
Or...
2. The OP exposed Ryder's real name.
Most of these stories come off as either ai or creative writing exercise. The guy just so happens to bring his car to OPs shop, three hours from where he lives?
I don't know if I believe the first story because let's face it. 99% of us would have immediately called the police on the father. You assaulted me over a lie. I don't give a f*** what your emotions are bro. I'm pressing charges and you're going to f****** prison
Screw em they brought it all upon them selves
Why would she put her kids' names up on the internet like that? Especially when she gave them somewhat rare names?
I just assume that all names in these things are fake, unless they specifically say otherwise (usually with a "because f-ck them").
Story number one is very heartbreaking, but he can never take her back. She's now just a single mom. She will never be the woman he needs. She'll never be the woman she was. She should just let this man go.
tbh its on her for not even listening to his side. she just took the lies and ran with it and got knocked up within a year. she moved on quick for someone claiming he was the love of her life.
S2: I’d like to hear how the therapist is responding if this was their suggestion. That feels like a violation and I honestly get skeptical when I hear OPs mention therapists telling them to post on a public forum, unless it’s exposure therapy or something.
Uh… they disowned you. You are no longer their family, and have no obligations towards them.
I heard this story before, but it was 30 years later.
great video, really appreciate how you shed light on such a tough situation. but honestly, i feel like there's always more to a story. i mean, what if there were misunderstandings on both sides? sometimes it seems easier to jump to conclusions without hearing every detail. just my two cents!
Very nice countdown, i'll watch later in x2 tho
Story 1. OP was surrounded by toxic people.
LOL. He feels like a teenager again. Yeah, that won't last long.
PS. When an affair partner goes all in the way OP's STBX AP did, it's always a lie. That's what they do. If you like old movies, they do too. If you like a certain hobby, so do they! If you feel this way about something, hey! They do too! You can have endless hours of conversation when the other person becomes your yes man. All this WHILE seducing them, making them feel like the most beautiful thing in the world. Yep, and the married person is a goner. LOL. Until reality sets in and the AP sees they have won. It's all a game to some people. If I were OP, I would go scorched earth on her STBX ass. Notify his place of employment (they would both be fired since MANY places have a morality clause) because people like this are not trustworthy. Let his parents, family and his friends know. Take him to the cleaners. And rub salt in the wound making sure everyone knew how he didn't want OP to have any male friends (trying to isolate her) while she begged him to take her feelings into consideration in the present about his HIGHLY inappropriate relationship with his 'friend.'
"I 20M" "The bike I received for my 21st" which is it OP?
The first post was May 2023, the last was December 2023, he turned 21 during that period
@sweeety969 you thought you had something there? 😂😂😂😂
@@lastofadyingbreed4850yup. Time exists lol
😂😂😂😂@@AesopRock77
Hey SecretVoices, I've been meaning to ask, did you ever post a story of the OP who was mad that his daughter cut contact with him for marrying her friend? I swear I remember watching a video like that, but I can't find it or remember which channel posted it. Edit: Oh, nevermind. Found it.
I remember it too. And it was something like six months after he broke up with his ex or his ex died too. It was ridiculous.
@@sweeety969 Yeah and then his daughter was even willing to hear him out, but he blew it by being late because he was "too occupied" with his child bride. Dude was depraved.
@@crowfather0249 yes, I think this channel posted it, approx 2 wks ago I think
And the daughter gave a chance to reconcile but the dude got busy with horizontal salsa with his child bride while the daughter was waiting all alone for him. And he actually tried to justify himself in the comments saying that his child bride was just “too irresistible “ , that absolute idiot.
@@agirlwithglasses246 I remember that one too. Only that story made such an impression, that I remember him saying, 'she was just too cute,' Ugh. I may have vomited when I heard it. THAT made it seem like rage bait. LOL.
#3. NEVER give up your LIFE for a spouse!!!🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
That is manipulative and a form of abuse!
1st story: Ryder/Danny is finished. Child support is coming his way. Maybe more. Alexis probably will keep her distance from her daughter.
Story 2: Henry is an idiot. He's going to prison and now has to pay damages too. Yes, he will have to pay for the damages. Henry definitely needed some time in prison, probably a make over too.
Story 3: The husband messed up.
I was OBSESSED with the chronicles of Vladimir Tod 🖤
Its kind of gross that she touched him after what happened. The alexis girl was way to friendly way to quickly.
but also she was a victim assuming she wasn’t already cheating which the kids ages make it seem like she was, but he definitely should not date her she is not worth the stress.
I'm honestly going to feel bad for a little kid that op ex had chances are the ex is probably going to hate the kid seeing it as a symbol of her mistake and a manifestation of the man who ruined her life chances are she might start abusing him or put him up for adoption
Why the hell does op in story 1 need a second opinion? The case is clear cut. Tell them to get the fuck out of his life and not care. I know it could be hard but hey he pulled himself up from his darkest moment so this shouldn't bother him
Alexis just wants to feel less guilt. Run OP.
Your parents are only interested in an instant grandchild that's clear as glass, and as for the ex, it's a textbook case of someone wanting to reestablish the relationship they had previously that was far happier
and the typical single mom fear
What kind of one horse town is this? Smh ...and the names keep changing. This is ridiculous.
Story 1 - lol wtf? At minimum, Op needs to get a restraining order for all of these people. They belong in the same bag of trail mix because they sound nutsy and ballsy to expect forgiveness after what they put op through.
Here's the thing. I fully believe Alexis wanted out of this relationship with op and used the allegations to get out of it without being the bad guy. Why else would she string along two guys and get knocked up so fast after the break up with op. Now she realizes she put her gamble on the wrong horse and wants her ex back. Screw her.
Doubly screw her for using self harm to get sympathetic support. Op is NOT the love of her life. She just wants a meal ticket.
Story 2 - op dodged a nuke. Henry sounds like another psycho that shouldn't be allowed to have children with anybody. Prison sounded like inevitable.
Story 3 - omg op needs to grow a freaking spine. Her husband doesn't respect their marriage at all. This is an emotional affair. I'm rolling my eyes at the fact he actually told his s/o he feels lonely around her. The only response would have been to say "okay. I can fix that because I refuse to be a third wheel in my relationship. You can have your friend. I'm going to find myself a "friend" too." This boat is sinking and op needs to prepare a life boat. By life boat, I mean op needs to file for divorce first. It's pretty obvious op can clearly get a better man if she really put her mind to it and he can't stand that. I don't believe for a moment he cut contact from the other woman.
She doesn't love you 😂
When i heard near the end of op1s story i was like "good"
Tell her it's alright she'll do better next time.
do not get involved with a damsel in distress. all you end up with is a distressed damsel
Ahh the ol' "try and self delete" tactic. Women do this often because they want attention and sympathy. Notice that they "almost" end themselves. Dont fall for it.
Plenty of toxic men use this tactic to control their partners, friends, and/or family members.
People with Cluster-B Personality Disorders are capable of this.
The Chronicles of Vladimir Tod!! That’s a blast from the past holy shit
Here are a few things to say about story one that made sense to me:
Don't believe what you are told; double-check.
Never accept an apology from somebody who just sucker-punched you.
Never second guess yourself in a relationship and life.
I pray that the guy in the first story doesn't act like a pushover and give in because that's just so pathetic
Weed is stronger than Whiskey? I’m from the Netherlands don’t come with that nonsense 😂. Probably Ryder didn’t have tolerance for it then 😂😂😂
Never get together with whatever ahole provides the evidence that breaks you up from your partner.
1st story: this is what he needs to think about. Alexis tried to kill herself because Opie didn't want her but didn't think anything about the child that she made with his exbest friend.
She was so desperate for a man didn't matter how she got one but didn't think twice about her child. And that's what you're confused about?
There wouldn't be any misunderstandings when it came to that type of situation of you trying to harm yourself because a man didn't want to be with you or a woman knowing that you have a child that you have to take care of.
And honestly this is a crappy story line that you posted up here to even ask for people to give you some advice when you know what advice they're going to give you that you need to move on with your life and you shouldn't have contacted these people. I don't understand what's so hard about that.
You not only pushed me away, but you then got together with the jerk that lied about me.
Story 1: Who was Danny? And what happened to Ryder?
That’s just not my problem, thats just not my problem, problem not my problem
What tf is OP1 doing why did he eveb go back to them
"My ex commited self harm."
Sounds like an S. E. P.* to me.
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S - omebody
E -lse's
P -roblem
I find the first story hard to believe, guy did not fight back enough
I love that everyone here cheers on when someone else exposes a cheater to the partner of the affair partner, causing a break up, but in this story everyones acting like the family is crazy for disowning him. They had the same level of evidence that all those other OPs give to their affair partners, but what, they aren't psychic.
Even though the family got those "evidence" that was made up. It will all be clear if they talk to OP first and demanded to see all his communications to verify. If OP is innocent he will gladly show there is nothing to hide. But since they do not think logically and proceeded to believe the worst in OP. These people jump to the conclusions without talking with OP first but physically assaulting OP when he went to the girlfriend's home.
Even OP's parent do not like his friend but they believe him over OP. Communication is key and they failed in this. OP should definitely go NC with them and when his mother called him to say that his ex girlfriend tried to kill herself.
OP response should be.
"Do I looked like I gave a shit? If she wants to die, just jump off the building. You all are dead to me." Then proceed to block everyone.
Ok halfway im done i hate these kind of stories . U dont get over this kind of treatment
Is there an update for story 1? I wanna know how this ends 😬
Update got deleted but according to the comments ex bf abused ex gf, op takes them both at his house.
Story 1 is a clusterfuck of mistakes, and some belong to OP too. He should have shouted his lungs out trying to explain instead of just rolling over and letting them all dictate his exile. But wow that alexis girl is also messed up, she just believed it without even hearing him out.
GUYS NEVER TALK WITH SUCH PEOPLE, NEVER MEET THEM. THEY ONLY WANT CLOSURE FOR THEIR BAD DECISIONS THEY DO NOT CARE FOR YOU
Parents shouldn't have invited her. Too much too soon.
Story 3: why do people stay with assholes who hate them? Thank god it’s over
Story two... down here skewering at someone's house that late at night... that's two shots from a twelve
First story.
"You know what? I'm willing to forgive all of you, on 1 simple condtion. Make it up to me. Now how you're all going to make the disastrous night that was meant to signify my engagement up to me is beyond my imagination however that's not an issue for me to worry about."
Had it not occurred to OP that Alexis might not have tried to end herself if OP didn't get weak and go back to his town when the smart thing to do would have been to stay away when those people who cut him off had tried to contact him ?
As Far as I can tell, OP from story 1 is a young Muscular broken man that rides badass bikes and wears boots like a badass!!! You have no idea how much women go crazy for a guy like him! He should just move on with therapy to deal with PTSD of what happened and continue NC either Toxic people that abandoned an already lonely boy that has grown up to be a strong independent man.
just tell your parents to pound sand bro
Why didn't he press charges against ex-gf Dad for assault
These stories are getting weirder, harder to follow, and Way more violent.
The intro in story 3 is enough to say that he is cheating and projecting
It was pretty obvious, but at the same time he should have dropped OP well before. Between the similar situation with the roles reversed 10 years ago and the “touchy” friend at the gym, there is at least a small dark part of me that feels like he was gaslit through therapy into accepting her bullshit and now what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
Lol op is a doormat 😂
To bad there isn't a second update for the the first story since he delete his account.
story 3: husband is an AH, he keeps moving his family every time his wife starts to make friends. he is very clearly isolating her. and gaslighting and manipulating OP and she doesn't see it. And the commentor is very clearly is a similar relationship with a husband who doesn't want her having friends and is gaslighting that commentator
First story: the ex GF can f**k off with that crap, her actions have consequences, she had a kid with someone else, stay with that person
So let me get this straight, him and his friend were dating the same girl, she cheated on his friend with him and he thought they should be together? God he is dumb
I know the revenge I would take 18-20 years later, won't type it out youtube would banned it.
Story one: Sorry but OP is a dumbF for even getting in contact with his former family and ex. What a weak pushover.
Don't get back with her
2nd story probaly one of those nice guys who had a crush on the OP initially and she chose the guy she lost her virginity too and wanted to "conquer" what turned him down and got with the other woman who probably claimed to be a Virgin and then he found out the other woman lied and / or was cheating and tried to reclaim him "property"
this is genuine question, i'm not trying to be sarcastic or anything. i'm just curious why would my partner read my messages or vice versa why would i read their's? are people in relationships not deserving of privacy?
Doing self harm is such a manipulative move. If I were the OP I would tell her to do it and do it well and don’t eff it up.
Dude has no backbone. Weak men like this poss me off. Grow a pair
10:08 this is why women pick the fucking bear.
1st story "i do not blame you i would have done the same".
stroy 1............
mom...........we know the truth
OP...........i dont care. stop calling me
days or weeks later
mom.......alexis tried to end it
me.........IDGAF. stop calling me
I'd tell Alexis if she wants me back she needs to give up her child for adoption.
Why? The child's completely innocent in the whole mess.