I use to take my Soldiers to the courthouse open cases so they could see what was waiting for them in the city. Very few listened and now they deal with this.
@@reginaldcharles1079 I've been attempting to get child support for 11.5 years. My ex keeps playing court games with new lawyers here and there and is dragging it out. I'm not allowed to claim a lot of things that are for the kids because the court doesn't want to take away too much of his money. He now owes 163k and they are worried about his retirement. Gee... Maybe if he paid it 11 years ago he wouldn't be in this problem. Btw... My ex is not allowed to have full access to my kids because of his mental health issues. He makes $105k a year but pulls the broke card 🤦♀️
So does this judge think this man risking getting killed as a border patrol agent is better than taking retirement? Sickening. She doesn’t deserve that amount to begin with. That judge is garbage. He needs to get a lawyer and file against this shit.
They don't care....the government-state gets a cut of the child support....this man ready to retire & this judge thin k s he should continue to work & gaslight hm to play on his emotions to the needs od his children...it's foul,, judge outta pocket...& I wouldn't GAG,,,lm retrining. F yall
he had the right to retire plan and simple . she wants the kids to have a life style . this is where the problem lies ok , the kids have no rights to a life style they have not worked for a damn dime he worked for , she wanted the kids but wants him to flip the bill for it all that is how all women are they dont care about the man they only care about the wallet and how much money is in it and she even admits she moved further away from him to keep the kids away and wants to play the victum and the courts always takes the womans side , she has a job she makes money she remarried she has plenty of money in her household to raise her kids she plans on taken his soc sec once he dies as well , she dont like him haveing anything ok she brought up the house he bought and his cars but he is not allowed to bring up her stuff , texas always fcks the man over never sides with the man . he put his life on the damn line protecting our border .next they factor in his 401 k trust me this man is going to get screwed , he needs a lawyer and sue her for custody .
Exactly, she took the kids 800 miles away remarried and consistently created parental alienation…which I heavily think included talking bad about their father in front of them with her new spouse, telling the children since they were little he was a bad dad….all the stuff u do when u are a narcissist who will manufacture stories and implant bad memories that didn’t ever happen about their dad into their kids minds to make them afraid of dad,. All sounds very much like parental alienation 101. Now the eldest daughter is by the mom ‘s representation , which is hearsay, said that the eldest daughter is afraid of her dad and didn’t want to go see him and now won’t even communicate with him via phone or text. But the youngest daughter is happy to go visit her dad and speak with him…she might not have said happy but whatever it’d was she has chosen to go see him many times. Dad should have had a lawyer present, and he paid the price.
Definitely needed a lawyer especially w/Ex-wife being represented! That $25,000 lump sum that wasn't disclosed kinda hemmed him up a bit...👀👎. Still, he did the right thing and went back to court for a reduction in child support when income decreased! $2300 down to $1500 is a decent amount! I'm sure her new husband helps her/step kids financially too....😎!
@@darock8574 And in one Year, when his oldest daughter turns 18, he can stop paying the mother for her, and support her directly as he see fit. In four years he will be a free man, and never have to talk to his ex-wife again!
Yes he has the right to retire but the point is he retired early and is still capable of working so combine that with him not wanting to answer the question about the 25,000 lump sum kind of makes me think he did this on purpose.
Mistake? I don't think so. His support was reduced by $800 per month, when she wanted it to stay closer to the $2300 a month before his retirement. He didn't have to pay a lawyer $2500 or more to represent him, but she did have to pay her lawyer his full bill out of her own pocket. Maybe if she appeals he will need a lawyer, to keep from getting screwed, but right now he made out pretty good. .
@jenreeves1339 I agree.. The courts need to stop entertaining these arguments of harming the children without the lifestyle that they were previously living. Without more money. When did a lifestyle become more important than just supporting your children with the most essential Necessities?
I've watched this judge a few times. He is very strict in following Texas law. If there is a problem with his ruling, such as a party does not like the outcome, it is because they got the ruling the Texas law demanded, and he just served as the carrier for those pigeon droppings. In this case, the woman will be squealing when she gets her lawyer's bill and compares it to the $800 reduction Mr Edwards received, totaling $1500 compared to the $2300 that she wanted. She really thinks she should be able to force him out of retirement and back into the workforce just so her kid can participate in a for-profit volleyball club?
I know, a year later too and for what? To cost everyone more money? Even tax payer dollars paying the court employees and judge salary.. just rule that it will change in one years time to reflect the change in the income and its sorted. Old school judge my ass.
Yeah what's up with the judge. When she only had to state her take home pay, not gross pay, and it was almost 5k compared to his it wasn't that much different. As a teacher I'm pretty sure she contributes to retirement fund from her gross pay, so she'll get that lump sum back when she retires. The 25000 was also his unused vacation and personal days, so that's money he earned before his retirement. I don't know anyone divorced that expects to keep the same level of living as before the divorce.
That judge followed the law. Texas law is pretty straight forward. Women get the kids and men get taxed by the state and by their spouse. It's the law. Luckily for this man his kids are nearly 18.
He absolutely did not follow the letter of the law! Refer to my post in comments. And Mom provided zero proof to the court about her Gross Income she got to state Net Income. And I would bet u almost anything that she and her new husband are filing a joint tax return. In that case, she and her souse is obligated to turn over all the money she has access too. Just like the attorney questioned the father about any and all income. Ans wouldn’t except net income or even EBITDA. This judge knew this case has grounds for appeal on how he handled it and gave legal advice to the father….which he is not allowed to do and told him to appeal this case and he holds now ill will if it is overturned. The mom lied through her teeth. And bc the father was pro se and thought he could tell the truth and people believe him he would win. People mistake make this mistake everyday and judges Hate dealing with Pro se “attorneys.”
My husband retired from 28 years in law enforcement and I can tell you all he wants to do is take a rest for a while like this guy. This woman can’t live off of him forever!
Law enforcement is a stressful job he deserves to retire if eligible. I'm not sure about Texas but in Georgia it clearly shows you on the child support worksheet what each parent should be paying. The only difference is the mother's portion isn't collected by child support. This is a clear indication that the kids are solely supported by his child support although she's married.
@@jgulley12 "just sitting at home" and even if that was true, men deserve it. We're not slaves in indentured servitude. Society treats men as a resource to be exploited until they drop and then move on to the next.
Why dad didn’t get an attorney is beyond me. He needs to appeal his decision and hire an attorney immediately. She has gotten so much in child support for years and the kids are older now. She is remarried and she moved 800 miles away which affected his seeing his children. It’s not right.
Sounds like he doesn't have the money mom does. Her husband probably makes a lot based on expenses kids have. Husband probably paid the $10k retainer most attorneys want these days.
Law enforcement officers regularly retire at 50 because of the tremendous toll the job takes on them. When my husband retired at 50 he was mentally exhausted, struggling with depression and still has PTSD and he’s now 73.
same as construction work. Not so much mental but the physical toll is huge. I have 2 bad knees, herniated disc in my back and a bad hip. Society "so? you can still crawl can't you"?
@@Townie7177Yes he should boring he’s retired and clearly has decent money that there should be Zero reason for him not to have gotten a lawyer and had more visitation and involvement in the kids lives. The kids may never know the money part but will remember him being there or not…
Mom should NOT have been allowed to move!! Hey lady, it is not YOUR daughter, it is BOTH of your daughters!! Dad needs to get an attorney and appral this judges unfair ruling!!
@@jennb5884 He's the one that moved and bought a house on the water for his boat$ and 4 vehicles. He didn't report that he received $25,000 when he retired before retirement age in the private sector. He has had nothing to do with his daughters lives in years. He's the type of MAN who whould be different if he had sons v daughters are hers to deal with and their 'womens monthly' issues ....
He should have rolled the $25k into a retirement fund. However Not sure how it would appear on his termination/tax certificate! Immediately On his retirement should have ill health - stress and anxiety - with advice from Dr. etc not to seek work. These family law proceedings will be mandatory viewing for all young single men, older men will see to it!
@@JaneDoe-tr5xypto money is not considered income under the fair labor standard act(flsa) it’s a fringe benefit from the company not required from the state and federal government yes they tax it because they tax everything but a one time payment does constitute wages
It’s funny to me because that’s this judge m.o. I wonder if he ever feels guilty about how fat his retirement fund is off of money that was supposed to be for kids.
He’s being ripped for unused vacation pay. HE LOST THE VACATION, NOT HER. He has every right to retire and enjoy his life. His daughters should be ashamed of their behavior. This man has paid every dime he owed them and more.
Really? Not everyone can afford an attorney. CS needs to be abolished! Let both parents take care of the kids. Mom/dad should not be funding the other parent
@@lynnemorgan4926 True, but he is an example of why you NEED an advocate. It's not just about what to say, but also about what not to say. Especially if the other side has a lawyer. If you cannot afford a lawyer, you will be at their mercy and they will take you apart anyway.
I did the 10k room & board, 2,500 for volleyball, 1,200 for travel for volleyball, 300/mo for food for the kids, 140/mo phone bill for the kids, 100/mo clothing allowance. This comes to 20,180/yr or 1,682/mo. He's dropping down to 1,500/mo, but in June her expenses on kids drop to 3,700 for volleyball, 150 for food, 70 for phone, and 50 for clothing or 6,940/yr or 578/mo. Honestly, 1,100/mo seems excessive given she should still have some need to commit to the children.
Then when dad tried to ask about her spouse, he was cut off. But her lawyer got to go into detail about what she makes. That should be irrelevant too. With the fact she moved 800 miles away, so he didn't get regular visits, this man really got taken. Very sad.
Worrying about your children is something that every parent does, and investing her time is a privilege that the father doesn't have, you are an idiot@@user-bo1rj2xu2s
This judge was an absolute ass towards the dad. He retired, he did his part and is still doing his part just at a lower rate. He said if he got another job he would let the courts know. He seems the type that he would. The mom is just greedy. Unbelievable.
Exactly. I've seen this judge in other cases. He is pro female no matter what. He gave a mom a pass on her child support order because she lost/quit her job@@joshsteinberg4271
Most of these men don't pay anything like this man here does, so I fully support the good ones who go way above for their children. That's why there are women in here supporting him and against the greedy ex-wife
@@noniboo1521agreed! And of course it would’ve been a “ lifestyle detriment” even if the parents were still together, that’s just the reality of life when employment changes. Dad‘s making a decent pension, mom is still working, I feel like the judge was scrutinizing dad way too much unnecessarily
I don’t understand. Dad filed this case. And he won. Mom claimed she didn’t want the reduction but the judge awarded Dad every penny of reduction that the law allows.
She has a spouse also making an income and contributing to their household expenses, which advantage the children whether they are the spouse's children or not. So the mom isn't bearing the whole burden of a household by herself. The child support surely exceeds the actual costs spent on the children and is probably mostly just profit. Shameful. But typical.
Dad should have hired a lawyer. He probably didn’t want to spend the $3-5K that would cost in the short-term. In the long term going pro se will cost him a lot more.
Why? The cash out of $25k is income and Texas is straight forward on calculating child support based on income. The rest of this was just plaintiff and defendant blowing smoke.
The attorney would have advised him to report that $25k because he could have gotten in a lot more trouble if the judge wanted to be a jerk. He could have been found in contempt for trying to get to hide income!
I don't know the retirement system he's in, but if it's FERS they don't get paid for a few months. I was lucky because of medical reasons and they did an emergency retirement. He should have taken his vacation time as vacation before his retirement date.
I am a divorced mother of 2 kids. My kids are both in their 30’s now. Mind you, this is just my opinion, but I think this poor guy got screwed over. He worked for over 20 years trying to protect us which to me, was a dangerous job. He absolutely deserved to be able retire. He had to have experienced burn out at his job more times than a can count. He may be 50 years old but he has done his duty and should not be forced to get another job to keep his ex wife in the life style she wants. It’s just wrong. Her kids are 17 and 14. She may be a teacher so it shouldn’t be hard for her to get a second job asking “ would you like fries with that”? Leave the guy alone to enjoy his retirement. He has more than earned it. I apologize for my rant but this just seems so unfair to him. When my kids were younger, I worked 3 jobs to take care of them. I just disagree with this. He served our country and protected our borders. He deserves a medal. When she said he is 50 years old and able bodied so he can get another job, it made my blood boil. He has already done his duty. She should have been told to get another job or 2. I hope this poor guy can hopefully get a chance to relax and I thank him for all he has done. ❤
She could also upgrade herself through certificates or more schooling and get a better job if it matters that much. Though we'll said. Boiled my blood as well.
This judge is an ass. How dare he berate this hard working, responsible father for retiring. Use that bitterness and rudeness on the deadbeat fathers that are out there that pay nothing. 😡
He absolutely needs to file an appeal. Then in May he needs to take her back for another reduction because the oldest is graduating. I would mow lawns or sell burritos for a few months until the oldest graduates in May. Then boom ask for the reduction. Men need to stop being lazy
@@silvermom2290 There is nothing lazy about this man. He did his time working and he earned a retirement. I am often surprised that there is discrimination against divorced people as they are "obligated" to provide resources and benefits to children even after the age of 18. Which married person is "obligated" to provide benefits to their kids after 18? Furthermore, the child support is for the kids NOT for the mother. Divorced people definitely have an obligation to provide benefits to their kids while under age but not after. There is a well known bias against men in the family court system. Lawyers definitely take advantage of this bias.
Same so called Judge that says the law doesn’t allow me when the date of change is, but will reach for back child support when it benefits the mother but never the man.
Mr Edwards just stated that the $25,000 was for him to LIVE ON until his retirement checks started. Meaning for 8 MONTHS he received NOTHING but that original $25,000 payout. That means he had $3125 a month to live on until his retirement started paying out. His first retirement check was for $2400, which is ALMOST HALF of what he's supposed to receive. I don't think the judge understands this... that in 8 MONTHS he has ONLY received that initial $25000 payment.
This man worked and sold his leave…why does she feel entitled to that money? She was already getting child support in accordance with his pay. Ridiculous… This judge is crazy.
Yeah its crazy af, attorney asks her if she could provide for her children with a lower amount of child support, she literally says yea but Id have to lower my living standard.. lady its child support not greedy cunt support
Probably the one complaining about his step child 😅 current husband is probably Matthew dad and at end of video, the mom was trying to get ex to pay for his CS👹
@@StevenCootwarethe point is that it was skewed and dishonest. The father, when he was asking questions, should have asked her what her gross income was, and also what the income of her husband is, because everyone knows damn well she's greedy.
it's still crazy her lawyer brought up everything the man has . he mentioned 1 thing. boom thts irrelevant like wth she clearly living off this man money. conveniently her payments are 2300 too.
Dad got screwed, the court has the option to make the modification effective the date the motion is filed. This means he's timely in filing and wins his case and still's paying an additional $8k this year and has to do this whole song and dance again next year.
She brings up that since he retired he can get another job. She, as a school teacher, only works 180 days a year. Normal people work 280 days a year. So, she can go get a job for the summer. Did she calculate her wages, spread out over 12 months or 9?
One of my sons had one son of his own and when him and his wife separated, he started giving her about $800 a month and bought everything his son needed. I asked him if he was keeping receipts and he said, "Mom, you didn't raise me to be stupid." Well when they went to court to start the divorce, his wife said he hadn't been paying anything. Well his attorney whipped out the copy of receipts my son had kept. The attorneys will tell you (whether it's a man or woman) you save a receipt for ANYTHING you pay for.
@cindifischer6919 in most courtrooms within the US, once you have proven yourself a liar in front of the court your testimony is no longer believed by the court and you can be held in contempt or given charges for perjury (which is knowingly giving false testimony in court proceedings).
@@cindifischer6919 She was held in Contempt. Her jaw dropped when his attorney showed proof of the receipts. She also didn't like having to serve jail time.
Why is the Judge so hateful to the dad? Judge telling mom “good answer” is out of line, IMO. So they think dad shouldn’t have retired and I don’t think that is any of their business. Mom is jealous because she wanted to have her hands in his pocket. Judge is harder on dad. He can do anything he wants for mom but not dad. He is being a smart ass for some reason.
This judge actually made it a point to tell the father that he did an excellent job as far as making his points. The judge was strict. Mom had an attorney so Mom didn’t make procedural mistakes like Dad did. It’s the judge’s job to correct folks and pro se folks need more correction.
Wait …didn’t he tell Dad “good questions “???? Yes he did. This judge is very fair. He’s by the book and follows all of the Texas guidelines. And if you try to hide or lie about something like dad did with the 25k …he gets stern. He could have found dad in contempt!!! But he didn’t. He gave him a little rope.
The Judge deflected the father’s reasoning the $25K was used as a buffer until his retirement kicked in after 8 months of retiring. Regardless the end result was not too bad of a ruling granted the mom is still short $800.
Dad was probably burnt out from a very stressful job..He can retire when he wants to... I'm 7 yrs older than he is but look 25 yrs younger.... She's greedy and the judge was a jerk...I bet her current husband has a salary they both live on to keep her in her preferred lifestyle...court needs reform
I agree, he should not go to work until he's done paying child support. He's getting his pension and then plus a job he would really be paying. Wonder how much money she makes?
Do you understand that if he makes more money, they will only take a percentage of it. So he would be making 75% less in order to deprive his children of 25% so that he can spite his ex? That’s called cutting off your nose to spite your face.
@@calebvalesko36 too bad he didn't get the kids then she could pay. In Minnesota child support is calculated on both parents income and how much time you have with each child. And what insurance don't cover, it is calculated between each parent.
When the Dad asked the judge if he can go to court next year to adjust his income, the Mom looked at her Attorney with a huge attitude. She is living on Champagne lifestyle with a Beer budget and thinks her retired husband should get back out in the workforce after 20 yrs at the same, tough job and continue to support her. I'm with you, Dad, hang in there.
My parents stayed together. If my father had lost his job when I was a child, my lifestyle would have gone down. This idea that, after the divorce, there should never be a reduction in lifestyle is absurd.
I was thinking the same thing. A old Army buddy of mine when they calculated his child support payments in Killeen TX they included his then wife income as a total of his own and based it off that. It pissed me off to see how they just brushed passed that
Well she didn't add that it is so if she doesn't pay any money. Per Child support theory she should be paying a similar amount every month, but she just wants the ex to pay so she does not have to.
Im 37 I make $190k before bonuses - my ex was getting $2k month when I was making $100k + insurance / tuition - I now pay around $5k before insurance for our one daughter (which I love and see very frequently) even though she is married and has another child… I also am married with two more children.. She would for sure get much more if I were not a financial professional - fortunate to be more knowledgeable on deferment / diversion vehicles to keep money away from court - i defer a big chunk and all bonuses into cash value whole life insurance lol the courts cannot touch it lol love handing that personal financial statement over and then they ask where the rest of that money is - “oh it’s right here in this LIFE INSURANCE policy!” 😂 that’s effectively built to be a Roth with all the benefits and no limitations… can’t touch that! It’s not about keeping money away from your kids as some people and judges will try to make you feel like - it’s about what’s right. $5k month for one child anywhere is fortunate. I will say I think this guy was trying to be slick “retiring” very early at 50 from BP acting like he’s done when it’s well known there is a hugeeee private sector market for security personnel / training / knowledge etc. I think he fully intended to cut the ex at the knees then go to work making. Double what he was making by consulting - Ive had some planning clients that worked for govt making 2-4X what they made with govt in the private sector. So he kind of shot himself in foot by having zero counsel and she had a competent lawyer. My point being - men get absolutely STUFFED in the courts and yet there is “NO EQUITY” for women apparently… there is no equity alright - but it’s very much skewed and almost incentivizes separation / split households because women can move on to another man, while milking the previous - of course, with the caveat that not all do - but it’s incredibly common and people wonder like there is this great mystery around the high divorce and separation rate - it’s almost incentivized for one party
I have 3 kids and get $641 a month in child support from their father he helps with nothing else nor does he spend time with them (maybe once a month and lives 5min down the road) i swear the legal system makes no sense
I think Judge was wrong to include the dads payout for unused vacation as income for computation of child support. That will never show up again and is not representative of his monthly earnings. If I was dad I’d appeal this ruling👍
I know unused paid time off. He got that by working instead instead of taking that vacation. Whats worse if he actually saved money by doing without they would count any interest yearly as income. He met his obligations did without while young to have something when older. The buzzards arrive.
True but it’s still income. Her lawyer knew that. If he had a lawyer he could have used that vacation before retiring instead of handing it over to her in an additional $400 per month. Even the worst lawyer can tear a non lawyer to shreds.
It's obvious that you're not a judge because lack of financial willingness does not constitute immediate custodial change when both parents have decent well-paying jobs or retirements.
They're jealous. Dad is 50 years old, lives in a nice house by the water, has a boat and a truck, and a pension. Meanwhile, they have years and years of work ahead of them, and will be lucky to retire in their late 60s.
There's YT video's of mom's having to pay child support but customarily, he's the bread winner and she's the child care provider and works outside the home as in this case.
@@JaneDoe-tr5xy well, this one specifically is mom left dad, shacked up with step-dad, moved the kids out of weekend visitation reach, and now dad pays for mom and step-dad to live it large... according to her own testimony. But sure. That.
My understanding is when a child turns 18, child support office automatically stops payments for that child (but I would check with child support office a couple months before to make sure).
Once a child turns 18 unless they're going to school child support automatically stops for that child and then it is recalculated for the remaining children
And dad knew it too that's why he didn't want to disclose how much he got from it because ex would definitely have her hand out in addition to what she's already getting.
Doesn’t matter he got his reduction and in a few years it’ll be 750$ cuz 1 will be over 18. Good move, he can start looking for a formal job after with is pension he will be ok. Meanwhile he can just accept cash.
These judges belong in prison. This is not court this is extortion and racketeering. If you still believe you are free in the USA after witnessing this your are sadly mistaken. We are nothing more than slaves
It's child support, it's required, it's used to keeps the children's lifestyle. The lazy assed dad, decides sitting on his butt is fine, the hell with his kids.
@brucehorton9963 you know exactly what he means and no they should the child should go with the parent that can provide the best life clearly that's not mom she was just doing it more while they were married and that how the court decides.
@@brucehorton9963 lazy assed moms get to just coast with trash jobs and make dads slaves. None of y’all tell able bodied heffers to get a job and pull your weight dontcha.
This one's got me heated. I got $50 each for my 2 kids in support. Now I get about $200 each in death benefits, they have everything they need and more. With his retirement he is making nearly the exact same as she is. And let me point out that extra circulars are a privilege, not a right. Make adjustments, maybe reconsider letting your minor daughter who's still in highschool, live at a college campus unsupervised and far from home for $10,000 a year. Like seriously, who does that? Plus this woman is remarried. I don't like the judge or the lawyer. At least the AAG is raising concerns about the relevance of his line of questioning, not that the judge has any sense.
How are they trying to make this dude look like a bum because he retired. And how was the mom able to receive such support when she moved 800 miles away, limiting the father's ability for joint custody? This is crazy.
@@PK-bh1wwThat's beyond the point. She could have stayed if that's the logic you're gonna roll with. She cares about his $, but he has to live off the $42k he has left over after paying her $28k a year. Not a lotta $ to travel on!
@@PaulWeezy50 He does not "have to" live off $42 k. He can "get a job". He's healthy and only 50. This isn't about "baby momma's income". This is about HIS responsibility toward his children's financial and welfare life that he has an OBLIGATION to. She could be making $100,000 a year and he is STILL responsible for supporting what he helped sire. He has no right to run off and live happily ever after just because Mom makes good $. What if the tables were turned? His obligation is to HIS children. Not the Mother. People have a hard time separating the two.
@@PK-bh1ww now that he's retired he should move out of country. The kids are old enough to work to support their desires and it would probably save them from becoming vampiric whores preying on the work and livelihoods of unsuspecting men.
@@MatthewC137 all of who? Women? I can say as a woman that a lot of them are lol but not all. I worked hard to heal and make sure I was never that way. I’m all for everyone being happy and having a good life no matter what went on between me and that person. I worked on myself and did not focus on them or what they did. I understand how you say that though. Especially watching these court cases. I’ve always known women got a lot more issues than people want to see lol but when I started watching this stuff! I was like dang! It’s even worse than I thought!
This woman is unbelievably bitter. She is the one who desires to continue to live the same lifestyle prior to the divorce, she chose to move 800 miles away from the children's dad and states that any amount below 2300 per month is hurting her children?? The oldest isn't living with any of her parents and mom shouldn't get credit for her. If that child is old enough to live alone in a college dorm,then she's old enough to get a part time job to help with her expenses and take out student loans just like the rest of us. Let dad retire in peace and thank him for serving and protecting the boarder for 20 years. He deserves a break.
Isn't he the one who moved away and bought a home on the river for his boat$. It's a shame he has nothing to do with his kids except for his court ordered child support.
@@JaneDoe-tr5xy he purchased the his current home a couple of years ago,most likely he already had plans to retire in West Virginia due to the cost of living. Does he have to retire in Texas when his children are almost grown and will be living their own lives? It's a 1300 mile distance vs 800 miles away is just a flight away like before. The mom is collecting enough money to buy a plane ticket and accumulate frequent flyer miles and incentives. I've turned in miles to fly round trip 1st class to Japan for 300.00 out of pocket. Bottom line, mom's just trying to make his retirement as chaotic as possible
This s*** p***** me off. Man is allowed to retire after working so long. Without his ex demanding that he works until he dies. Just so she can have more money in her pocket.
I agree that the judge was an asshole toward the father. She collected $2300.00 every month and moved the child 800 miles away out of spike. She sat on her butt and did nothing for herself, like getting a job. Now the monies are running out, and if I were dad, I would not work anywhere for the next year. Then she would 19 years old.
@eltern_herzthen she should get a better job. Everyone who becomes a dumbass teacher knows they don’t make anything. They can barely afford to wipe their own asses.
Oooh, a decrease in the ability to pay for their needs? Or their WANTS? Not everyone gets to do all the things they want to. If they were still married and he retired she wouldnt be able to sue for him to keep working. This is nuts.
Anyone else notice how her lawyer asked the guy what his gross income was, but when he got to his client, he asked her what her take home (net) income was?
I don’t feel he was hostile. He has guidelines he has to follow and he has no choice on many of them, so they are what they are. I think what most feel the hostility is aimed at, is the $25,000. But the facts are what the judge indicated, it IS income so it has to be considered. I realize he had to use it to live for the last 8 (don’t recall if he said 6or 8) months until his retirement payments began so it likely is gone. But he still received it, so it still has to be factored in. I did feel he made a couple of salty remarks about his early retirement, for instance when he went on about it being his right. I’m wondering if the judge felt he retired as a way to stop his ex from getting so much money and think the judge may feel the same. This man, who is perfectly capable of working, intentionally, and for no given reason other than personal preference, quit working, which impacts the lives of his children and how they are accustomed to living. If they were still married, I would hope his retirement and how his lesser income would affect the family would have been discussed because it wouldn’t only affect him. And I would hope after discussing they, as a couple, would have decided to put off the retirement at least until the youngest had graduated HS. As it were, it seems he cares not that his ex may struggle as she finishes school. And I think the judge was very aware of how he comes off as not putting his children first. 🤷♀️
He’s not. Watch prior court cases. He treats them all the same. He was a little bugged that he did not disclose the $25k and the fact that Dad kept interrupting when told several times that he would get a turn. As a retired law enforcement officer he knows how the court system works. He knows better
It is ridiculous that she moved the kids away from him, he chose to retire and now she is worried about money…get a second job! $1100 is plenty of money! I never got even close to that. My ex worked under the table and I got $50 per month when he actually paid!
My Dad paid $60/month for the two of us from age 7 (my brother was 5) to 18, and then I believe he continued that $60 until my brother turned 18. It was supposed to be $600/month back at the start.
Exactly, she is whining about maintaining lifestyle, she had years to adjust herself and the kids to a new lifestyle, or let dad have them, but no, she wanted to laze about parasiting of the dad.
I'm trying to figure out why it costs that much now, I remember it not costing anything but maybe the cost of shoes and whatever personal items may be needed to compete in said sport. After making those 1 time purchases, the school handled the rest.
@@CorruptHawkeyez Its different now. Used to be the only option was school sponsored activities. Nowadays there are independent clubs/leagues that provide competitive outlets for sports, cheerleading, dance, etc... Its big money to participate due to the club fees (its kind of like private tuition), uniforms, and equipment. Then there are travel costs (gas, food, lodging) because these private teams play each other regionally. Case in point, I have relatives that spent about $10,000 per year for their kids to participate in travel ball.
Young men should be required to watch 40 hours of these before graduating high school, college, or getting married.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿it’s needs to be a part of school curriculum
I use to take my Soldiers to the courthouse open cases so they could see what was waiting for them in the city. Very few listened and now they deal with this.
Yes😂 I agree great birth control.
BIRTH CONTROL!!
Good idea
Dad needs an attorney.
A man who is his own lawyer has a fool for a client
Child support gives women full access to a mans bank account but doesn't give men full access to their children. Pure foolishness 🤦🏾♂️
Bs. It's a table value based on income. Gender neutral
@@laundrygoddess4are you in child support?
@@reginaldcharles1079 I've been attempting to get child support for 11.5 years. My ex keeps playing court games with new lawyers here and there and is dragging it out. I'm not allowed to claim a lot of things that are for the kids because the court doesn't want to take away too much of his money. He now owes 163k and they are worried about his retirement. Gee... Maybe if he paid it 11 years ago he wouldn't be in this problem. Btw... My ex is not allowed to have full access to my kids because of his mental health issues. He makes $105k a year but pulls the broke card 🤦♀️
@@laundrygoddess4Elephant 💩
@@laundrygoddess4BUUUUULLLL SHIIIIITTTTT
So does this judge think this man risking getting killed as a border patrol agent is better than taking retirement? Sickening. She doesn’t deserve that amount to begin with. That judge is garbage. He needs to get a lawyer and file against this shit.
They don't care....the government-state gets a cut of the child support....this man ready to retire & this judge thin k s he should continue to work & gaslight hm to play on his emotions to the needs od his children...it's foul,, judge outta pocket...& I wouldn't GAG,,,lm retrining. F yall
he had the right to retire plan and simple . she wants the kids to have a life style . this is where the problem lies ok , the kids have no rights to a life style they have not worked for a damn dime he worked for , she wanted the kids but wants him to flip the bill for it all that is how all women are they dont care about the man they only care about the wallet and how much money is in it and she even admits she moved further away from him to keep the kids away and wants to play the victum and the courts always takes the womans side , she has a job she makes money she remarried she has plenty of money in her household to raise her kids she plans on taken his soc sec once he dies as well , she dont like him haveing anything ok she brought up the house he bought and his cars but he is not allowed to bring up her stuff , texas always fcks the man over never sides with the man . he put his life on the damn line protecting our border .next they factor in his 401 k trust me this man is going to get screwed , he needs a lawyer and sue her for custody .
Border agents off themselves more than illegal immigrant crimes against Border agents
Judge is not fair to the father..Can't wait till these children no longer eligible for support n see what that witch is gonna do
This women keeps saying my daughter. It’s their daughter. This is the problem
Right, it's their child until the child turns of age theeennnnn it's OUR child. I've been there It's funny to me the word play smh
Exactly, she took the kids 800 miles away remarried and consistently created parental alienation…which I heavily think included talking bad about their father in front of them with her new spouse, telling the children since they were little he was a bad dad….all the stuff u do when u are a narcissist who will manufacture stories and implant bad memories that didn’t ever happen about their dad into their kids minds to make them afraid of dad,. All sounds very much like parental alienation 101. Now the eldest daughter is by the mom ‘s representation , which is hearsay, said that the eldest daughter is afraid of her dad and didn’t want to go see him and now won’t even communicate with him via phone or text. But the youngest daughter is happy to go visit her dad and speak with him…she might not have said happy but whatever it’d was she has chosen to go see him many times.
Dad should have had a lawyer present, and he paid the price.
There are two kids
I mean that’s how modern women are 🤷🏾♂️
Maybe he's not the father
He has every right to retire. He needs to get a lawyer and sue.
Definitely needed a lawyer especially w/Ex-wife being represented! That $25,000 lump sum that wasn't disclosed kinda hemmed him up a bit...👀👎. Still, he did the right thing and went back to court for a reduction in child support when income decreased! $2300 down to $1500 is a decent amount! I'm sure her new husband helps her/step kids financially too....😎!
@@darock8574 And in one Year, when his oldest daughter turns 18, he can stop paying the mother for her, and support her directly as he see fit.
In four years he will be a free man, and never have to talk to his ex-wife again!
Yes he has the right to retire but the point is he retired early and is still capable of working so combine that with him not wanting to answer the question about the 25,000 lump sum kind of makes me think he did this on purpose.
@@dakotahsmith8320GOOD FOR HIM! I WOULD'VE RETIRED AND LEFT THE COUNTRY SO SHE COULDN'T GET A DIME!
@@michaelfowler2603 then you would be no better then the mom taking a pay cut to reduce the payment to the father in my opinion
Poor chap, he thought all he needed to do was say the truth and everyone would be reasonable. Big mistake not having a lawyer.
🤣😂 yes I was that naive to my first time
Honesty is not always the best policy!
Mistake? I don't think so. His support was reduced by $800 per month, when she wanted it to stay closer to the $2300 a month before his retirement. He didn't have to pay a lawyer $2500 or more to represent him, but she did have to pay her lawyer his full bill out of her own pocket. Maybe if she appeals he will need a lawyer, to keep from getting screwed, but right now he made out pretty good. .
@@ammoalamo6485 you mean out of his pocket because we all know she used the 2300$ from last months child support to pay for the court costs.
@ammoalamo6485 At least two of them are aging out, and the 3rd is not far behind. His child support will be ending soon.
Was that lawyer shaming the father for retiring "early?!" He did his time! Make the mom get a job! His assests and his life is no longer her business.
We need to normalize retiring as soon as possible. It's so backward that we work until we're dead
The mom has a job.
@robertjohnson4401 She may but she's acting like she's homeless and pan handling.
@jenreeves1339 I agree.. The courts need to stop entertaining these arguments of harming the children without the lifestyle that they were previously living. Without more money. When did a lifestyle become more important than just supporting your children with the most essential Necessities?
Definitely did.
This judge is a perfect example of what is wrong with this country.
Agree dad needs to go to district
Agree
Almost every single one on this channel falls under this example
I've watched this judge a few times. He is very strict in following Texas law. If there is a problem with his ruling, such as a party does not like the outcome, it is because they got the ruling the Texas law demanded, and he just served as the carrier for those pigeon droppings. In this case, the woman will be squealing when she gets her lawyer's bill and compares it to the $800 reduction Mr Edwards received, totaling $1500 compared to the $2300 that she wanted. She really thinks she should be able to force him out of retirement and back into the workforce just so her kid can participate in a for-profit volleyball club?
Judge obeyed the laws of Texas. Dad got a reduction. What's the problem?
He'll have to file again to modify his child support. Absurd.
I know, a year later too and for what? To cost everyone more money? Even tax payer dollars paying the court employees and judge salary.. just rule that it will change in one years time to reflect the change in the income and its sorted. Old school judge my ass.
This mother is a greedy witch. The judge is a biased jerk. Dad, get yourself an attorney.
Hella' YEAH! GREEDY HEIFER!
Yeah what's up with the judge. When she only had to state her take home pay, not gross pay, and it was almost 5k compared to his it wasn't that much different. As a teacher I'm pretty sure she contributes to retirement fund from her gross pay, so she'll get that lump sum back when she retires. The 25000 was also his unused vacation and personal days, so that's money he earned before his retirement. I don't know anyone divorced that expects to keep the same level of living as before the divorce.
That judge followed the law. Texas law is pretty straight forward. Women get the kids and men get taxed by the state and by their spouse. It's the law. Luckily for this man his kids are nearly 18.
@@Chimonya Yet so many continue to spread the myth that Texas is special and much "redder" than it is. I for one would never mess with Texas. 🤮🤮🤮
He absolutely did not follow the letter of the law! Refer to my post in comments. And Mom provided zero proof to the court about her Gross Income she got to state Net Income. And I would bet u almost anything that she and her new husband are filing a joint tax return. In that case, she and her souse is obligated to turn over all the money she has access too. Just like the attorney questioned the father about any and all income. Ans wouldn’t except net income or even EBITDA. This judge knew this case has grounds for appeal on how he handled it and gave legal advice to the father….which he is not allowed to do and told him to appeal this case and he holds now ill will if it is overturned. The mom lied through her teeth. And bc the father was pro se and thought he could tell the truth and people believe him he would win. People mistake make this mistake everyday and judges Hate dealing with Pro se “attorneys.”
What the judge didn’t listen to is the fact that the $25k was to cover 8 months of NO other income until his retirement kicked in.
No he did NOT!! 😵💫😮💨🤬
I would go full retirement
The judge got it right. That money was income, according to Texas law. He wouldn't be a judge long if he was making up his own laws.
@@ammoalamo6485the law 8s not always right just saying
That money was paid to him for vacation and sick days accrued while working. He shouldn't be penalized for days.
My husband retired from 28 years in law enforcement and I can tell you all he wants to do is take a rest for a while like this guy. This woman can’t live off of him forever!
How many accounts do you have with this photo?
Law enforcement is a stressful job he deserves to retire if eligible. I'm not sure about Texas but in Georgia it clearly shows you on the child support worksheet what each parent should be paying. The only difference is the mother's portion isn't collected by child support. This is a clear indication that the kids are solely supported by his child support although she's married.
@@joehawkins9122
@@jgulley12 "just sitting at home" and even if that was true, men deserve it. We're not slaves in indentured servitude. Society treats men as a resource to be exploited until they drop and then move on to the next.
Why dad didn’t get an attorney is beyond me. He needs to appeal his decision and hire an attorney immediately. She has gotten so much in child support for years and the kids are older now. She is remarried and she moved 800 miles away which affected his seeing his children. It’s not right.
He needs to see Judge Vonda
Sounds like he doesn't have the money mom does. Her husband probably makes a lot based on expenses kids have. Husband probably paid the $10k retainer most attorneys want these days.
Im so upset I cant write .....my heart goes out to this man and sooooo many others like him!!!
When I filed for divorce she wasn’t aloud to move the kids out the city with out my ok because it would conflict with my parent time
He couldn’t afford an attorney because he’s already paying for his ex wife’s attorney.
Law enforcement officers regularly retire at 50 because of the tremendous toll the job takes on them. When my husband retired at 50 he was mentally exhausted, struggling with depression and still has PTSD and he’s now 73.
I retired from LE at 44 !
same as construction work. Not so much mental but the physical toll is huge. I have 2 bad knees, herniated disc in my back and a bad hip. Society "so? you can still crawl can't you"?
The Dad should have hired a better lawyer.
How was she able to move so far away from him then complain that he doesn't visit them? This judge is terrible
He moved away as well. He moved further away to West Virginia and is living a pretty great life.
@@iveyd8327How do you do know? He also is a retired border patrol.he should be living good
@@Townie7177Yes he should boring he’s retired and clearly has decent money that there should be Zero reason for him not to have gotten a lawyer and had more visitation and involvement in the kids lives. The kids may never know the money part but will remember him being there or not…
Because of Texas law. It's not the judge's fault.
Because plains trains and automobiles exist.
Thank you for your service sir. Soon you will be free of this burdon and be able to rest. Shame on ex wife and the judge
What An evil woman, she turned his daughters against him.
Mom should NOT have been allowed to move!! Hey lady, it is not YOUR daughter, it is BOTH of your daughters!! Dad needs to get an attorney and appral this judges unfair ruling!!
He won, he got a reduction in child support by almost 50%
I agree she could have been forced to stay !!
@@jennb5884 He's the one that moved and bought a house on the water for his boat$ and 4 vehicles. He didn't report that he received $25,000 when he retired before retirement age in the private sector. He has had nothing to do with his daughters lives in years. He's the type of MAN who whould be different if he had sons v daughters are hers to deal with and their 'womens monthly' issues ....
He should have rolled the $25k into a retirement fund. However Not sure how it would appear on his termination/tax certificate!
Immediately On his retirement should have ill health - stress and anxiety - with advice from Dr. etc not to seek work.
These family law proceedings will be mandatory viewing for all young single men, older men will see to it!
@@JaneDoe-tr5xypto money is not considered income under the fair labor standard act(flsa) it’s a fringe benefit from the company not required from the state and federal government yes they tax it because they tax everything but a one time payment does constitute wages
The attorney and mother seems to think the father has no right to retire.
How disgusting to see this man being wrung dry by his hreedy ex and then guilt tripped by the judge.
And the joke is what does her new hus😮do band
It’s funny to me because that’s this judge m.o. I wonder if he ever feels guilty about how fat his retirement fund is off of money that was supposed to be for kids.
He’s being ripped for unused vacation pay. HE LOST THE VACATION, NOT HER. He has every right to retire and enjoy his life. His daughters should be ashamed of their behavior. This man has paid every dime he owed them and more.
It was foolish of the father not to have an attorney. Now, he’ll have to appeal this ruling.
There's only so much they can appeal on, and it's even more limited when they represented themselves as they should have objected then and there.
Really? Not everyone can afford an attorney. CS needs to be abolished! Let both parents take care of the kids. Mom/dad should not be funding the other parent
@@lynnemorgan4926 True, but he is an example of why you NEED an advocate. It's not just about what to say, but also about what not to say. Especially if the other side has a lawyer. If you cannot afford a lawyer, you will be at their mercy and they will take you apart anyway.
@@lynnemorgan4926lmao imagine she can pay for a lawyer with his money to screw him harder
I wouldn't, not for $400/mnth and considering 1 will age out in a few months, it's not worth it.
This judge is known for going after fathers, no matter what.
$2300/month is ridiculous! She’s not paying a dime for her own kids at all! What a pos!!
I did the 10k room & board, 2,500 for volleyball, 1,200 for travel for volleyball, 300/mo for food for the kids, 140/mo phone bill for the kids, 100/mo clothing allowance. This comes to 20,180/yr or 1,682/mo. He's dropping down to 1,500/mo, but in June her expenses on kids drop to 3,700 for volleyball, 150 for food, 70 for phone, and 50 for clothing or 6,940/yr or 578/mo. Honestly, 1,100/mo seems excessive given she should still have some need to commit to the children.
Then when dad tried to ask about her spouse, he was cut off. But her lawyer got to go into detail about what she makes. That should be irrelevant too. With the fact she moved 800 miles away, so he didn't get regular visits, this man really got taken. Very sad.
@@user-bo1rj2xu2s you’re higher than hell! He’s not supposed to pay for them 100% of the time! She’s supposed to pay too!
Worrying about your children is something that every parent does, and investing her time is a privilege that the father doesn't have, you are an idiot@@user-bo1rj2xu2s
@@user-bo1rj2xu2s😂😂😂😂
This judge was an absolute ass towards the dad. He retired, he did his part and is still doing his part just at a lower rate. He said if he got another job he would let the courts know. He seems the type that he would. The mom is just greedy. Unbelievable.
And the judge doesn't think step daddy should be contributing but dad should get a job
@@donnaporter9865why would the step dad pay for this man’s kids ?
@@kcarmymomxs2551Not pay for the kids, but he helps pay household expenses and that makes her costs much lower!
I agree. This judge is a moron. There is no need to wonder why the court system is so messed up. This judge is a perfect example.
Exactly. I've seen this judge in other cases. He is pro female no matter what. He gave a mom a pass on her child support order because she lost/quit her job@@joshsteinberg4271
Those kids know what she is and what she did. Hope he has a great relationship with his kids when they realize it.
Her lawyer is pissing me off with all those questions
Dudes good for doing that
That's just his job. He was being super complete at it. The issue is the judge and the mom.
Just makes me sick to hear how they treat men in the court system. The mom can take extra work if she wants more money. Men are more than a pay check.
Most of these men don't pay anything like this man here does, so I fully support the good ones who go way above for their children. That's why there are women in here supporting him and against the greedy ex-wife
@@noniboo1521agreed! And of course it would’ve been a “ lifestyle detriment” even if the parents were still together, that’s just the reality of life when employment changes. Dad‘s making a decent pension, mom is still working, I feel like the judge was scrutinizing dad way too much unnecessarily
I don’t understand. Dad filed this case. And he won. Mom claimed she didn’t want the reduction but the judge awarded Dad every penny of reduction that the law allows.
Not in Family Court they're not.
She has a spouse also making an income and contributing to their household expenses, which advantage the children whether they are the spouse's children or not. So the mom isn't bearing the whole burden of a household by herself. The child support surely exceeds the actual costs spent on the children and is probably mostly just profit. Shameful. But typical.
The judge seems preoccupied the entire time like he is not paying any attention.
He doesn't have to pay close attention. These things are done by rather simple math with little regard for circumstances.
Dad needs an attorney ASAP
Dad should have hired a lawyer. He probably didn’t want to spend the $3-5K that would cost in the short-term. In the long term going pro se will cost him a lot more.
Not really. Texas child support law is straightforward. A lawyer can’t change the law.
Why? The cash out of $25k is income and Texas is straight forward on calculating child support based on income. The rest of this was just plaintiff and defendant blowing smoke.
The attorney would have advised him to report that $25k because he could have gotten in a lot more trouble if the judge wanted to be a jerk. He could have been found in contempt for trying to get to hide income!
Always have an attorney at any court proceedings.
That $25,000 ain't gonna last forever. Geez this judge is a jerk. Get an attorney next time dad!
I don't know the retirement system he's in, but if it's FERS they don't get paid for a few months. I was lucky because of medical reasons and they did an emergency retirement. He should have taken his vacation time as vacation before his retirement date.
This was his holiday payment, ridiculous
I definitely agree with you. One time payments should not be calculated into child support.
@@emilykay115 nope it shouldn't. He should have just taken the vacation days and probably would have if he knew he was going to get screwed on them
@@emilykay115 Especially when it comes from him not taking vacation days to support his family.
I am a divorced mother of 2 kids. My kids are both in their 30’s now.
Mind you, this is just my opinion, but I think this poor guy got screwed over.
He worked for over 20 years trying to protect us which to me, was a dangerous job. He absolutely deserved to be able retire. He had to have experienced burn out at his job more times than a can count. He may be 50 years old but he has done his duty and should not be forced to get another job to keep his ex wife in the life style she wants. It’s just wrong. Her kids are 17 and 14. She may be a teacher so it shouldn’t be hard for her to get a second job asking “ would you like fries with that”?
Leave the guy alone to enjoy his retirement. He has more than earned it.
I apologize for my rant but this just seems so unfair to him. When my kids were younger, I worked 3 jobs to take care of them.
I just disagree with this. He served our country and protected our borders. He deserves a medal.
When she said he is 50 years old and able bodied so he can get another job, it made my blood boil. He has already done his duty. She should have been told to get another job or 2.
I hope this poor guy can hopefully get a chance to relax and I thank him for all he has done. ❤
She could also upgrade herself through certificates or more schooling and get a better job if it matters that much. Though we'll said. Boiled my blood as well.
This judge is an ass. How dare he berate this hard working, responsible father for retiring. Use that bitterness and rudeness on the deadbeat fathers that are out there that pay nothing. 😡
Corruption at its finest! The 25,000 was from the man not taking a vacation and it was back pay from the company. He needs a lawyer and file an appeal
He absolutely needs to file an appeal. Then in May he needs to take her back for another reduction because the oldest is graduating. I would mow lawns or sell burritos for a few months until the oldest graduates in May. Then boom ask for the reduction. Men need to stop being lazy
@@silvermom2290 There is nothing lazy about this man. He did his time working and he earned a retirement. I am often surprised that there is discrimination against divorced people as they are "obligated" to provide resources and benefits to children even after the age of 18. Which married person is "obligated" to provide benefits to their kids after 18? Furthermore, the child support is for the kids NOT for the mother. Divorced people definitely have an obligation to provide benefits to their kids while under age but not after. There is a well known bias against men in the family court system. Lawyers definitely take advantage of this bias.
He earned it while married so now it's hers
@@Wittlemermy sad female
@@Wittlemermy very sad and greedy.
Same so called Judge that says the law doesn’t allow me when the date of change is, but will reach for back child support when it benefits the mother but never the man.
Mr Edwards just stated that the $25,000 was for him to LIVE ON until his retirement checks started. Meaning for 8 MONTHS he received NOTHING but that original $25,000 payout. That means he had $3125 a month to live on until his retirement started paying out. His first retirement check was for $2400, which is ALMOST HALF of what he's supposed to receive. I don't think the judge understands this... that in 8 MONTHS he has ONLY received that initial $25000 payment.
DAD GET A LAWYER! The JUDGE IS BIASED!!!
Judge is doing his job, and we agree he needs to be represented
@@onicronprime118no he is not...they always favor the mother,,because they get( government state) get a cut of the child support
@@onicronprime118we all know the 25k was for 8 months of living this is bullshit and a biased judge
This man worked and sold his leave…why does she feel entitled to that money? She was already getting child support in accordance with his pay. Ridiculous… This judge is crazy.
He is going by the law. It’s not what he thinks.
The judge seems like he's not even listening.
She's crazy, her lifestyle should be cared for by her current Husband, and herself, NOT by child support. The new husband better watch out.
Yes I agree. Who knows, she probably has plans for him and he don't even know it.
Yeah its crazy af, attorney asks her if she could provide for her children with a lower amount of child support, she literally says yea but Id have to lower my living standard.. lady its child support not greedy cunt support
Probably the one complaining about his step child 😅 current husband is probably Matthew dad and at end of video, the mom was trying to get ex to pay for his CS👹
Iagree
So her lawyer asks the father what his gross income is, but asks the mother what her net income is.
That shit is fkn wild
You mean her lawyer plead her case to the best of his ability. What. A. Shock...
I noticed that too. Bro needed an attorney for this.. shame
@@StevenCootwarethe point is that it was skewed and dishonest. The father, when he was asking questions, should have asked her what her gross income was, and also what the income of her husband is, because everyone knows damn well she's greedy.
@@nickryan3288 he objected to the judge that her spouses income should be included and he was overruled.
Judge sounds like a hypocrite. Tells them to wait their turn then keeps interrupting
this judge super hostile towards dad like he isn't handling his business.
Yeah most are. Especially old-school judges like him.
He used to be a border patrol instructor so I'm sure he's used to that behavior (of the judge).😂❤
it's still crazy her lawyer brought up everything the man has . he mentioned 1 thing. boom thts irrelevant like wth she clearly living off this man money. conveniently her payments are 2300 too.
Dad got screwed, the court has the option to make the modification effective the date the motion is filed. This means he's timely in filing and wins his case and still's paying an additional $8k this year and has to do this whole song and dance again next year.
He is always hostile toward the men. No advice to them but gives side bars to the women all the time. Watch some clips that are out there.
This judge is a jerk! Mom is greedy!
This specific judge always seems to side with the mothers. Sometimes i feel his judgement is fair other times, not so much.
He is for sure a big Jerk.
@rosenars6665 at least he amended the award from $2300 down to $1500 which clearly p* used mommy off
Have u washed his videos this judge is the reason for the family court problem
I agree he's rude. i like strict judges, but I don't like jerks.
She brings up that since he retired he can get another job. She, as a school teacher, only works 180 days a year. Normal people work 280 days a year. So, she can go get a job for the summer. Did she calculate her wages, spread out over 12 months or 9?
Remember, that's 180 days with students.
@@Lisa-kf4iu AND, you’re still inside an AIR CONDITIONED BUILDING. Try working on an oil rig then holler at me
@@jericothompson8636 Was just correcting the amount, that's all. Also, no air conditioning.
Teachers choice to get paid year round ther monthly salary get divided Over 12 months..
Since dad's on the hook does he have a voice in financial decisions for his daughters like what school they go to?
One of my sons had one son of his own and when him and his wife separated, he started giving her about $800 a month and bought everything his son needed. I asked him if he was keeping receipts and he said, "Mom, you didn't raise me to be stupid." Well when they went to court to start the divorce, his wife said he hadn't been paying anything. Well his attorney whipped out the copy of receipts my son had kept. The attorneys will tell you (whether it's a man or woman) you save a receipt for ANYTHING you pay for.
Just curious on what was said then for her lying when she said he hadn't been paying for anything?
@cindifischer6919 in most courtrooms within the US, once you have proven yourself a liar in front of the court your testimony is no longer believed by the court and you can be held in contempt or given charges for perjury (which is knowingly giving false testimony in court proceedings).
@@cindifischer6919 She was held in Contempt. Her jaw dropped when his attorney showed proof of the receipts. She also didn't like having to serve jail time.
She should have been charged with perjury. Lying to the court!
I saved receipts and showed them to the judge she said they were gifts so the system is full of crap and bold face liers.
He was punished for having been a border patrol agent!!! It is a very stressful job!!
Dad did a great job defending him self. Even the judge complemented him. And he got his payment down too. Bravo dad!
Why is the Judge so hateful to the dad? Judge telling mom “good answer” is out of line, IMO. So they think dad shouldn’t have retired and I don’t think that is any of their business. Mom is jealous because she wanted to have her hands in his pocket. Judge is harder on dad. He can do anything he wants for mom but not dad. He is being a smart ass for some reason.
The judge is rarely on the side of the fathers
This judge actually made it a point to tell the father that he did an excellent job as far as making his points. The judge was strict. Mom had an attorney so Mom didn’t make procedural mistakes like Dad did. It’s the judge’s job to correct folks and pro se folks need more correction.
Wait …didn’t he tell Dad “good questions “???? Yes he did. This judge is very fair. He’s by the book and follows all of the Texas guidelines. And if you try to hide or lie about something like dad did with the 25k …he gets stern. He could have found dad in contempt!!! But he didn’t. He gave him a little rope.
It is their business they have kids to take care of with his very convenient timing retirement money😂
The Judge deflected the father’s reasoning the $25K was used as a buffer until his retirement kicked in after 8 months of retiring.
Regardless the end result was not too bad of a ruling granted the mom is still short $800.
Dad was probably burnt out from a very stressful job..He can retire when he wants to... I'm 7 yrs older than he is but look 25 yrs younger.... She's greedy and the judge was a jerk...I bet her current husband has a salary they both live on to keep her in her preferred lifestyle...court needs reform
Her lawyer focused on his GROSS income and only asked her "BRING HOME" income. What a joke.
Exactly
That's how it's calculated. Been there done that. In 4 years he will be free from child support. I was glad when it ended. 870 a month.
If this Dad wants to work, I hope he waits at least 4-5 more years.
I agree, he should not go to work until he's done paying child support. He's getting his pension and then plus a job he would really be paying. Wonder how much money she makes?
@@cindifischer6919 exactly!
@@cindifischer6919 she probably makes 75-100k as a teacher with her length of time…
Do you understand that if he makes more money, they will only take a percentage of it. So he would be making 75% less in order to deprive his children of 25% so that he can spite his ex? That’s called cutting off your nose to spite your face.
@@calebvalesko36 too bad he didn't get the kids then she could pay. In Minnesota child support is calculated on both parents income and how much time you have with each child. And what insurance don't cover, it is calculated between each parent.
When the Dad asked the judge if he can go to court next year to adjust his income, the Mom looked at her Attorney with a huge attitude. She is living on Champagne lifestyle with a Beer budget and thinks her retired husband should get back out in the workforce after 20 yrs at the same, tough job and continue to support her.
I'm with you, Dad, hang in there.
My parents stayed together. If my father had lost his job when I was a child, my lifestyle would have gone down.
This idea that, after the divorce, there should never be a reduction in lifestyle is absurd.
Let us not lose sight of the fact that apparently she has a spouse, they smoothed over that too quickly.
I was thinking the same thing. A old Army buddy of mine when they calculated his child support payments in Killeen TX they included his then wife income as a total of his own and based it off that. It pissed me off to see how they just brushed passed that
in some states the new husbands income is NOT considered
I’m pretty sure they are supposed to take that into account.
@@sarahpape6563- Not in Texas. Child support is based on the parents income, not the step-parents income
$2300 a month isn’t enough for basic and extras?!?!?! This woman is crazy!!!!
Well she didn't add that it is so if she doesn't pay any money. Per Child support theory she should be paying a similar amount every month, but she just wants the ex to pay so she does not have to.
Ikr!
Im 37 I make $190k before bonuses - my ex was getting $2k month when I was making $100k + insurance / tuition - I now pay around $5k before insurance for our one daughter (which I love and see very frequently) even though she is married and has another child… I also am married with two more children..
She would for sure get much more if I were not a financial professional - fortunate to be more knowledgeable on deferment / diversion vehicles to keep money away from court - i defer a big chunk and all bonuses into cash value whole life insurance lol the courts cannot touch it lol love handing that personal financial statement over and then they ask where the rest of that money is - “oh it’s right here in this LIFE INSURANCE policy!” 😂 that’s effectively built to be a Roth with all the benefits and no limitations… can’t touch that! It’s not about keeping money away from your kids as some people and judges will try to make you feel like - it’s about what’s right. $5k month for one child anywhere is fortunate.
I will say I think this guy was trying to be slick “retiring” very early at 50 from BP acting like he’s done when it’s well known there is a hugeeee private sector market for security personnel / training / knowledge etc. I think he fully intended to cut the ex at the knees then go to work making. Double what he was making by consulting - Ive had some planning clients that worked for govt making 2-4X what they made with govt in the private sector. So he kind of shot himself in foot by having zero counsel and she had a competent lawyer.
My point being - men get absolutely STUFFED in the courts and yet there is “NO EQUITY” for women apparently… there is no equity alright - but it’s very much skewed and almost incentivizes separation / split households because women can move on to another man, while milking the previous - of course, with the caveat that not all do - but it’s incredibly common and people wonder like there is this great mystery around the high divorce and separation rate - it’s almost incentivized for one party
I have 3 kids and get $641 a month in child support from their father he helps with nothing else nor does he spend time with them (maybe once a month and lives 5min down the road) i swear the legal system makes no sense
With her income, that's $6,700/month! And they want to know about his home and boat! God forbid he might enjoy his own life!
He's the Dad is extremely good at dealing with people . Polite respectful and stands up for himself.
I think Judge was wrong to include the dads payout for unused vacation as income for computation of child support. That will never show up again and is not representative of his monthly earnings. If I was dad I’d appeal this ruling👍
I know unused paid time off. He got that by working instead instead of taking that vacation. Whats worse if he actually saved money by doing without they would count any interest yearly as income. He met his obligations did without while young to have something when older. The buzzards arrive.
True but it’s still income. Her lawyer knew that. If he had a lawyer he could have used that vacation before retiring instead of handing it over to her in an additional $400 per month. Even the worst lawyer can tear a non lawyer to shreds.
I bet he wished he would have taken that time off.
@@ibiro868 But it was compensation he'd already earned.
I agree with you.
Imagine if the roles were reversed. This judge clearly does not believe in equality before the law.
Yep....I've seen this judge in many many cases and he almost apologizes to all mothers who come before him
That’s pure BS. He’s just as stern and straightforward with females as he is males. He follows Texas state guidelines to the T! He does not deviate
I wonder how much kick back this judge gets
Dads retiring. He can now take care of the kids full time. Boom problem solved.
This is too much like right...
Then the mom would refuse to pay child support to the dad.
Hahahahaha ok
The kids wouldn’t do that BOOM
@@aholmes6612and won’t go to jail either . Clown ass country .
It's obvious that you're not a judge because lack of financial willingness does not constitute immediate custodial change when both parents have decent well-paying jobs or retirements.
I cannot understand how she and her lawyer seem to think he cannot retire.
Slavery.
They're jealous. Dad is 50 years old, lives in a nice house by the water, has a boat and a truck, and a pension. Meanwhile, they have years and years of work ahead of them, and will be lucky to retire in their late 60s.
@@JugSouthgate jealousy is really a problem on this planet
Family court is the only court where slavery is still legal
They would have him working into his grave if they could of course.
Why does the lawyer ask for the man's gross income, but asks for the woman's take-home income?
Sneaky sneaky.
She MOVED THE KIDS 800 MILES AWAY!! How tf is he supposed to see them
That was her plan
Thats exactly why she will have done it.
Why TF didn't he fight it? He would have easily won that.
@@jenniferj939how do u know he didn’t?
Some women need to move that far away to get these abuse power hungry men out of their lives. You have no idea
How come you never see mothers who owe child support being vulturized like this?
There's YT video's of mom's having to pay child support but customarily, he's the bread winner and she's the child care provider and works outside the home as in this case.
@@JaneDoe-tr5xy well, this one specifically is mom left dad, shacked up with step-dad, moved the kids out of weekend visitation reach, and now dad pays for mom and step-dad to live it large... according to her own testimony. But sure. That.
Immunity
Salute
They treated me the same when I payed child support I payed until she was 18 they even told me I had to pay even if I died
This judge is the typical example of an unfair court appearance
I can’t even imagine getting $1,100 a month for support, then saying it will barely meet their minimum needs.
I shelled out $1,636 a month and was still called a dead beat!!! 21 years later I’m the one laughing.
I paid $465 a week during the year it took me to get divorced.
@@hdhd7402 Just know you were not a deadbeat Dad.
I only got $300 a month for 2 children, and he made good money. They are grown now, but they were raised 100% by me .
If the wife pays an equal amount the monthly income would be $2,200 per month. I would like to see dad raise the kids on this amount of money.
This judge was rude to the dad
And thats why i did not get divorced.
So $1000 less a month is decent ruling... And the amount will go down further in a year. Pretty cheap price for bring a Dad.
The Judge did everything but tell Mr. Edwards "go get a lawyer and file an appeal".
This judge always favors mom regardless of how horrible she is
Yea he is a giant dweeb and a main contributor to the lopsided issue in the family court system.
The judge says this is a complicated case? This is straight forward as hell
If i were dad I'd get an attorney and the DAY the oldest daughter emancipates I'd be back in court for another modification!!
Facts
My understanding is when a child turns 18, child support office automatically stops payments for that child (but I would check with child support office a couple months before to make sure).
He will see the oldest soon trust me
@@CarolSalminen If they choose to go straight to college the child support and continue for 4 additional years.
Once a child turns 18 unless they're going to school child support automatically stops for that child and then it is recalculated for the remaining children
The look on her face when he said he got a lump sum of $25k for his Annual Leave payout says it all.
And dad knew it too that's why he didn't want to disclose how much he got from it because ex would definitely have her hand out in addition to what she's already getting.
Doesn’t matter he got his reduction and in a few years it’ll be 750$ cuz 1 will be over 18. Good move, he can start looking for a formal job after with is pension he will be ok. Meanwhile he can just accept cash.
These judges belong in prison. This is not court this is extortion and racketeering. If you still believe you are free in the USA after witnessing this your are sadly mistaken. We are nothing more than slaves
the way the judge refers to the man being retired as 'sitting at home'is telling enough. The judge is prejudiced beyond what's legal.
All courts are ridiculously sexist against men.
Shame on her! She wants to keep her lifestyle, and have him pay.
It's child support, it's required, it's used to keeps the children's lifestyle. The lazy assed dad, decides sitting on his butt is fine, the hell with his kids.
He worked 20 years on his job he has a right to retire. Mom can get a better job not live off his money for kids @brucehorton9963
@brucehorton9963 you know exactly what he means and no they should the child should go with the parent that can provide the best life clearly that's not mom she was just doing it more while they were married and that how the court decides.
@@brucehorton9963 lazy assed moms get to just coast with trash jobs and make dads slaves. None of y’all tell able bodied heffers to get a job and pull your weight dontcha.
@@brucehorton9963how tf is he lazy for retiring from his job?? Your such clown for this comment.
He can come back in June when his first daughter ages out. They will help cut his payments by a lot.
With a lawyer....he better
This one's got me heated. I got $50 each for my 2 kids in support. Now I get about $200 each in death benefits, they have everything they need and more. With his retirement he is making nearly the exact same as she is. And let me point out that extra circulars are a privilege, not a right. Make adjustments, maybe reconsider letting your minor daughter who's still in highschool, live at a college campus unsupervised and far from home for $10,000 a year. Like seriously, who does that? Plus this woman is remarried. I don't like the judge or the lawyer. At least the AAG is raising concerns about the relevance of his line of questioning, not that the judge has any sense.
How are they trying to make this dude look like a bum because he retired. And how was the mom able to receive such support when she moved 800 miles away, limiting the father's ability for joint custody? This is crazy.
He's retired so he could move nearer to the kids. People do whatever they have to if they want to be with their children.
@@PK-bh1wwThat's beyond the point. She could have stayed if that's the logic you're gonna roll with. She cares about his $, but he has to live off the $42k he has left over after paying her $28k a year. Not a lotta $ to travel on!
@@PaulWeezy50 He does not "have to" live off $42 k. He can "get a job". He's healthy and only 50. This isn't about "baby momma's income". This is about HIS responsibility toward his children's financial and welfare life that he has an OBLIGATION to. She could be making $100,000 a year and he is STILL responsible for supporting what he helped sire. He has no right to run off and live happily ever after just because Mom makes good $. What if the tables were turned? His obligation is to HIS children. Not the Mother. People have a hard time separating the two.
@@PK-bh1wwwell, kids going to be 18 years old so there's that 😂
@@PK-bh1ww now that he's retired he should move out of country.
The kids are old enough to work to support their desires and it would probably save them from becoming vampiric whores preying on the work and livelihoods of unsuspecting men.
ANY judge could have done a better job than that pos! Our system sucks!!!
This woman makes me sick !! This lawyer makes me sick too
What is the b going to do when the gravy train stops.
i dont understand why this judge is so aggressive towards the dad. he is being treated like a deadbeat
This judge is a piece of work.
So, they ask dad about his gross, ask mom about her net... They net within $100 of each other.. So, he doesn't make significantly more than she does.
He did before retiring,
@@Seeingisntbelieving So what.
You can just tell that woman is bitter. She’s mad he’s not miserable.
They're all bitter whether they show it or not.
@@MatthewC137 all of who? Women? I can say as a woman that a lot of them are lol but not all. I worked hard to heal and make sure I was never that way. I’m all for everyone being happy and having a good life no matter what went on between me and that person. I worked on myself and did not focus on them or what they did. I understand how you say that though. Especially watching these court cases. I’ve always known women got a lot more issues than people want to see lol but when I started watching this stuff! I was like dang! It’s even worse than I thought!
This judge is a boneheaded, I’d turn around and lawyer up and come back when he’s having a better day
Dad gets the reduction and in less than a year the $1500 will be $750 because the oldest kid turns 18. Good move for the dad to do it now.
Not if that kid goes to college
Not always true
My brother had to pay his ex wife until his daughter was 25 because she was in college
My brother had to pay his ex wife 2000 month until his daughter was 25 because she was in college
You’re not obligated to support college hunny@@zacharythornton3237
This woman is unbelievably bitter. She is the one who desires to continue to live the same lifestyle prior to the divorce, she chose to move 800 miles away from the children's dad and states that any amount below 2300 per month is hurting her children?? The oldest isn't living with any of her parents and mom shouldn't get credit for her. If that child is old enough to live alone in a college dorm,then she's old enough to get a part time job to help with her expenses and take out student loans just like the rest of us. Let dad retire in peace and thank him for serving and protecting the boarder for 20 years. He deserves a break.
Isn't he the one who moved away and bought a home on the river for his boat$. It's a shame he has nothing to do with his kids except for his court ordered child support.
@@JaneDoe-tr5xyI feel sorry for your ex or future ex…your bitter ass will sit at home and live off of him cause you’re a lazy 304….
@JaneDoe-tr5xy any number of factors could play a role in this situation.
I'd reserve judgement on facts not in evidence.
@@JaneDoe-tr5xy he purchased the his current home a couple of years ago,most likely he already had plans to retire in West Virginia due to the cost of living. Does he have to retire in Texas when his children are almost grown and will be living their own lives? It's a 1300 mile distance vs 800 miles away is just a flight away like before. The mom is collecting enough money to buy a plane ticket and accumulate frequent flyer miles and incentives. I've turned in miles to fly round trip 1st class to Japan for 300.00 out of pocket. Bottom line, mom's just trying to make his retirement as chaotic as possible
@@JaneDoe-tr5xyNo she was the one that moved away!
They been kicking this dude in the balls for a long time with 2300 child support and she’s working with a NEW HUSBAND
This s*** p***** me off. Man is allowed to retire after working so long.
Without his ex demanding that he works until he dies. Just so she can have more money in her pocket.
I agree that the judge was an asshole toward the father. She collected $2300.00 every month and moved the child 800 miles away out of spike. She sat on her butt and did nothing for herself, like getting a job. Now the monies are running out, and if I were dad, I would not work anywhere for the next year. Then she would 19 years old.
@eltern_herzthen she should get a better job. Everyone who becomes a dumbass teacher knows they don’t make anything. They can barely afford to wipe their own asses.
Oooh, a decrease in the ability to pay for their needs? Or their WANTS? Not everyone gets to do all the things they want to. If they were still married and he retired she wouldnt be able to sue for him to keep working. This is nuts.
This judge needs to be fired. This dad did his job and retired. Why should he be penalized for retiring? She makes almost as much as dad
Anyone else notice how her lawyer asked the guy what his gross income was, but when he got to his client, he asked her what her take home (net) income was?
The more i listened the more disgusted i became, shame on this disgusting system and how it has been designed to smear the father
Why is the judge being so hostile towards dad?
Because the Court wants their cut.
I don’t feel he was hostile. He has guidelines he has to follow and he has no choice on many of them, so they are what they are. I think what most feel the hostility is aimed at, is the $25,000. But the facts are what the judge indicated, it IS income so it has to be considered. I realize he had to use it to live for the last 8 (don’t recall if he said 6or 8) months until his retirement payments began so it likely is gone. But he still received it, so it still has to be factored in. I did feel he made a couple of salty remarks about his early retirement, for instance when he went on about it being his right. I’m wondering if the judge felt he retired as a way to stop his ex from getting so much money and think the judge may feel the same. This man, who is perfectly capable of working, intentionally, and for no given reason other than personal preference, quit working, which impacts the lives of his children and how they are accustomed to living. If they were still married, I would hope his retirement and how his lesser income would affect the family would have been discussed because it wouldn’t only affect him. And I would hope after discussing they, as a couple, would have decided to put off the retirement at least until the youngest had graduated HS. As it were, it seems he cares not that his ex may struggle as she finishes school. And I think the judge was very aware of how he comes off as not putting his children first. 🤷♀️
He’s not. Watch prior court cases. He treats them all the same. He was a little bugged that he did not disclose the $25k and the fact that Dad kept interrupting when told several times that he would get a turn. As a retired law enforcement officer he knows how the court system works. He knows better
@@rex8255Sovcit I see
@@sdowns8302really good break down. Appreciate it.
It is ridiculous that she moved the kids away from him, he chose to retire and now she is worried about money…get a second job! $1100 is plenty of money! I never got even close to that. My ex worked under the table and I got $50 per month when he actually paid!
My Dad paid $60/month for the two of us from age 7 (my brother was 5) to 18, and then I believe he continued that $60 until my brother turned 18. It was supposed to be $600/month back at the start.
Exactly, she is whining about maintaining lifestyle, she had years to adjust herself and the kids to a new lifestyle, or let dad have them, but no, she wanted to laze about parasiting of the dad.
Thank you for your service at our border Sir. 🇺🇸
I DON’T UNDERSTAND HOW PARENTS PUT THESE KIDS IN ALL THESE ACTIVITIES THAT THEY CLAIM THEY CAN’T AFFORD, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.
The kids stop the activity after the money is paided.
I'm trying to figure out why it costs that much now, I remember it not costing anything but maybe the cost of shoes and whatever personal items may be needed to compete in said sport. After making those 1 time purchases, the school handled the rest.
@@CorruptHawkeyez Its different now. Used to be the only option was school sponsored activities. Nowadays there are independent clubs/leagues that provide competitive outlets for sports, cheerleading, dance, etc... Its big money to participate due to the club fees (its kind of like private tuition), uniforms, and equipment. Then there are travel costs (gas, food, lodging) because these private teams play each other regionally. Case in point, I have relatives that spent about $10,000 per year for their kids to participate in travel ball.