never forget when my daughter put new cut grass under mig t-shirt and caught a lot when she get her special time, I took the comic way play screaming and say whit a playful small voice, oh no, oh no och she laugh a lot for 10 min 😅
How intelligent your son is testing your commitment to this! We say build up trust in the process by saying yes to TV 6-12 times you offer Special Time. Remember, you are setting a timer, so you do get to choose how long your sessions are. If you are not ready to handle big cries that may come by cutting a show early, you could think about choosing a time that fits the length of his show - say 20 minutes if you can. While he is watching, it can help to focus in on his enjoyment of it, and his enthusiasm for watching it with you, rather than trying to enjoy the actual content. This fits with the aim of pouring in your warmth and attention - even if it doesn't look like it, he'll pick up on it. After those 6 -12 times, you can begin to set a limit. "Today we won't watch TV in Special Time, but you can choose anything else," or "We'll watch TV some other time, but not in Special Time." Keep in mind Special Time during these times could be you listening warmly to his complaints or outrage about the limit, and that's OK. Or, you may decide you've found something worthy in watching TV with him, and you decide not to set a limit. That's OK too. You will know what you want to try when the time comes, and you'll see if you like how it goes. Enjoy your time together - you are pouring in good times and warmth.
I give my daughter the option to choose whatever she wants that is not an electronic. Typically anything she chooses involves a phone or tablet but during this time she wants to play mom and daughter and I’m the daughter
Incredible video! I am gonna practice this everyday. Thank you.
love to listening at you Patty 🥰
never forget when my daughter put new cut grass under mig t-shirt and caught a lot when she get her special time, I took the comic way play screaming and say whit a playful small voice, oh no, oh no och she laugh a lot for 10 min 😅
What if it’s only tv that they want as special time? My son is 8
How intelligent your son is testing your commitment to this! We say build up trust in the process by saying yes to TV 6-12 times you offer Special Time. Remember, you are setting a timer, so you do get to choose how long your sessions are. If you are not ready to handle big cries that may come by cutting a show early, you could think about choosing a time that fits the length of his show - say 20 minutes if you can. While he is watching, it can help to focus in on his enjoyment of it, and his enthusiasm for watching it with you, rather than trying to enjoy the actual content. This fits with the aim of pouring in your warmth and attention - even if it doesn't look like it, he'll pick up on it. After those 6 -12 times, you can begin to set a limit. "Today we won't watch TV in Special Time, but you can choose anything else," or "We'll watch TV some other time, but not in Special Time." Keep in mind Special Time during these times could be you listening warmly to his complaints or outrage about the limit, and that's OK. Or, you may decide you've found something worthy in watching TV with him, and you decide not to set a limit. That's OK too. You will know what you want to try when the time comes, and you'll see if you like how it goes. Enjoy your time together - you are pouring in good times and warmth.
I give my daughter the option to choose whatever she wants that is not an electronic. Typically anything she chooses involves a phone or tablet but during this time she wants to play mom and daughter and I’m the daughter