Hidden Costs of “Service with a Smile” | Laura Hockenbury | TEDxBoulder

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  • @markaidinovich1985
    @markaidinovich1985 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you Laura for brilliantly sparking an important discussion. As a retail employee, nothing is more depressing than someone not looking you in the eye. even a quick glance would make me feel more like a human... I am still not perfect so thank you for encouraging me to go the extra mile to make someone's day.

  • @margaretromney4357
    @margaretromney4357 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Wow...."do you feel shame about this job?" It's stunning to me that this shame and exhaustion is so invisibly interwoven into our every day lives. Thank you for showing me a new way to interact and why it's important.

  • @sueheilbronner
    @sueheilbronner 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This talk totally shifted my consciousness on interactions with service and retail industry workers. A must-watch.

  • @mwalimudeluca758
    @mwalimudeluca758 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks for bringing an ethnographic eye to the service industry. Thanks for diving deep into the emotional labor and shame in the work place.

  • @gavindsouza7401
    @gavindsouza7401 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Loved your talk especially because I work in hospitality. I could really connect with whatever you said.

  • @suzannemckee876
    @suzannemckee876 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was such a great talk, very powerful thank you! The world will be a better place when we can take your words to heart.

  • @AndrewHyde
    @AndrewHyde 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What a fantastic talk Laura! Loved how you closed it with such a simple and powerful ask.

  • @danielledannenberg8400
    @danielledannenberg8400 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I hope we can all put this into practice! So subtle and important.

  • @frostyxelectra
    @frostyxelectra 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    i just pretend to be a robot like a fancy walmart self-checkout, it really helps me disassociate​ from the disrespect for 8 hours a day

  • @wardka
    @wardka 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My social anxiety has reached the point I can no longer use the telephone without being debilitated for a good portion of the day afterward. Spending 17 years in accounts payable listening to the badgering of bill collectors hasn't helped. Therapy is helping, but I'll try to extend these ideas to the telephone / email customer service scenario. It sounds wonderful. If only there weren't too many incoming calls and emails for the average human to handle! People are already angry before I can get to them. Maybe connecting can diffuse some of that.

    • @Bryantist1
      @Bryantist1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Alienart you might want consider checking out The Power of Now. It helped my tremendously with my anxiety and helped to change my perspective. All the best.

    • @trash.pandaaa
      @trash.pandaaa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i hope you feel better each day^^

  • @luhhdeecee
    @luhhdeecee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i’m watching this for job corps lmao🙄 but no cap that message she gave at the end was very true & raw 💯

  • @Tube82ful
    @Tube82ful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Agreed, people in services are brave...

  • @blairy7400
    @blairy7400 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mutual respect and truly communicate

  • @UncompressedWAVmusic
    @UncompressedWAVmusic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk. It felt good.

  • @gavinleepermusic
    @gavinleepermusic 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great talk Laura! I really enjoyed hearing this.

  • @rizalinojuliano3702
    @rizalinojuliano3702 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great work.

  • @stoichr3324
    @stoichr3324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's literally a death. a slow one after stress and burnouts. At what cost?

  • @UneducatedPhotographer
    @UneducatedPhotographer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Produce clerks get to be both emotionally and physically drained.

  • @alex314pi
    @alex314pi 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    7:21 that's a restaurant in Argentina!

  • @matthewcross9314
    @matthewcross9314 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    While I appreciate the sentiment, these individualistic "solutions" do nothing to impact the larger systems/institutions that rely on low-wage/low-power work. Taking a moment to be kind to someone and listen does nothing to change their exploitation as a wage-earner. We can't "listen" or "care" our way out of this, though I truly wish we could.

  • @cheesyboicapree8110
    @cheesyboicapree8110 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Customers aren't even humans to me anymore

    • @ccmjj9770
      @ccmjj9770 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What type of customer are you? Do you also think of others who work in the service industry as not human, or just your customers?
      There are plenty of careers/jobs where you can be your miserable self without it affecting others.

  • @ksf3519
    @ksf3519 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Solid points, but would have been better if you included all the government subsidies available to that family of 4. It becomes a lot more reasonable when you do.

    • @searchingforchester
      @searchingforchester 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      its not the easy. You basically have to make nothing in order to get approved for assistance.

    • @johnprovias4837
      @johnprovias4837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Most ppl don't understand the struggle until they have walked it themselves. It seems that would apply to you Andrew P

  • @entrepreneur724
    @entrepreneur724 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    She completely misses the point. The jobs under the "livable" wage aren't meant to sustain a family. They are for teenagers learning how to work and take direction, just getting their feet wet in the work force. The real takeaway from these statistics is that many Americans don't have the drive to move to bigger and better things, and instead complain. You have the power to change your own life. Don't let this type of thinking hold you back. Go out and get what you want in life. No one is doing it for you.

    • @robertcook1344
      @robertcook1344 ปีที่แล้ว

      Says who? People rent out their time and talents where there is demand, and owners pay as little as they can get away with to maximize their own advantage. If the jobs were really either only meant for inexperienced teens or if they were even the best choices that’s all who would be hired. But the owner class selects the best workers they can get for the very least expense, because raw profit is all they care about, and that value is built into our entire system.

    • @entrepreneur724
      @entrepreneur724 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@robertcook1344 You are correct. The owner does pay as little as possible to maximize their own advantage. If someone applies for a job that is over qualified, knowing that the pay is X, and meant for the inexperienced, why should the owner pay them more? It is not the owners responsibility to pay them more. The employee chose to take the job at X. If the employee wants more than X, they can apply for jobs that pay more. If it was the opposite and you were buying product X, and the product was provided in a way a little better than you expected, would you pay them extra?

    • @onjulraz754
      @onjulraz754 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@entrepreneur724 these comments did not age well, lol. weird that you ask if people would pay more for a better service.. have you ever been to a restaurant?

    • @entrepreneur724
      @entrepreneur724 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@onjulraz754 Weird that you didn’t read my question right. I said, would you pay them more if the services was better than you expected? For example, in your comment of a restaurant, if you sat down, and knew the cost was $20, but the food blew you away, would you pay them $40? Of course you wouldn’t.

    • @mikeparrott8304
      @mikeparrott8304 ปีที่แล้ว

      You miss the point. The lower level substantial jobs such as colemining etc are gone. The non degree holders need reasonably paid jobs to.

  • @autumn1231
    @autumn1231 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    wow she's nervous...i would be too