In this part 1 of Teacher Stories I share the stories of 5 different teachers and their stressful classroom/school situations. Teachers have a right to feel safe at school!
I've said it before and I will say it again. Teachers need to start pressing charges against students who commit physical assault. Once your school principal says they are not going to do anything or that they would only speak with the student about their behavior, you should notify them that you would be contacting law enforcement to press charges and ensure real consequences are implemented. This would also wake up parents who can't be "bothered" to address their child's behavior. Your legal rights don't end just because you were assaulted or threatened in a school building.
I understand why teachers don't. Unions do not always support the teacher enough when an admin who feels threatened starts taking out their feelings of aggravation on the complaining teacher. I say this with personal experience. People DO "shoot" the messenger. We need much better whistleblower protections.
Amen! I've started doing that on my school bus when my students injure me or other kids. I'm not going to play that "did you document that incident?" Game anymore.
Especially the parents(if the child is a young child- )IF the parent KNOWS that the child WILL be suspended for 5 or 10 days- THEN it will start to cost the parent money OFF their jobs-- and many will help find a solution
@@ashleyelizabeth8119 - Girl No-- then we would have went though the WHOLE list of his "student contacts"--- to SEE who can come pick him up... OR the principle should have let hi go to ISS- THEN-NOT send him home on the bus_ when his mother come to pick him up- be there-
It feels like being a good teacher doesn't matter anymore. The only thing that matters is classroom management, data, test scores, and how entertaining we are. Nobody cares if we are good at actual teaching or breaking down concepts or explaining things well.
LOL! yes exactly ! This helps me so much - We have Teacher " Happy Hours' on Fridays that are necessary decompression-sessions . But it's supportive and helpful to know that it's not just us here in the Bay-area . Peace , from South Berkeley
I feel like the more important thing in my room is being a therapist than a teacher. Seriously, I feel my content takes a complete back seat to making sure my kids feel safe and heard. Which is all fine and dandy and leads to great rapport... but not a whole lot of actual learning. I'm an elective so I have more wiggle room than most teachers but it's still sad how little some kids have learned by the end of the year because of how many times I've had to stop and address their basic need of feeling safe before being able to teach
@@ninimeggie4771 I'm also an elective, and yes I agree. Having a good relationship with students is obviously important, but the therapist/counseling part is where I don't feel qualified. I'm a great teacher, but a terrible therapist. It feels like within the last 5 years, the therapist part is the only thing that matters and they really don't learn much because we have so many fires to put out before we can actually do our jobs and teach 😭
As a teacher I know these are true. Teaching is a job where you can be physically assaulted and you have no protection. If you worked an office job and someone attacked you the police would be called. An IEP isn’t a license to commit crimes.
Especially as someone with an IEP, because, you know, I NEED it. It’s disgusting to hear that action isn’t taken because they have an IEP. It is absolutely used an excuse to not deal with the problem. It’s an Individual Education Plan, not individual effective protection!
I finally resigned from my position as a high school science teacher after a student pushed me. The student was back in my class the next day. It felt like a slap in the face. I’m now teaching online. It’s not the same bc I truly loved my job but at least my mental health isn’t suffering anymore. Thank you for sharing!
WHERE ARE THESE KIDS' PARENTS? They suffer zero consequences from admin and then the same lack of accountability is reinforced within the home! No wonder these students aren't afraid of anything or anybody! They know nothing of consequence is going to happen to them. What incentive do they have to do better? What punishments do they have to fear? My God this is heartbreaking! Many of my friends from high school are teachers today. I'm 40, so these friends of mine have all been teaching for over 15 years. Every single one of them is emotionally and mentally suffering as a direct result of their job. As if that weren't bad enough, the salary our childrens' teachers earn is insulting given how important teachers are to the future of those children's whole adult lives. Most of these friends of mine have a side hustle or even a whole second job because their teachers' salaries, alone, aren't even a living wage! Teachers are college educated, trained professionals. They invest so much time and energy and emotional support to your kids, people! Jesus, the LEAST a parent could do is teach their kid how to behave like a normal human being, which includes a lesson about respect. If Moms and Dads would just refuse to tolerate their kids disrespecting their teachers, incredible things could happen for EVERYBODY!!!
@@MeganVictoriaKearns If I ever did what kids today are doing, my mom would tear up a new one if I ever disrespected a teacher. Teachers were the second parent. Unfortunately, kids today are raised by parents who didn't care for the academics when they were kids. Most parents today want to be friends, not parents, to their kids. 😒🤷🤦♀
I am now working at a cyber school after leaving my teaching job after being assaulted twice. Not only did nothing happen to the students, but administrator bullied me and claimed I wasn’t hurt that bad.
the fact that the system will only defend students (and i say this as a student!) is insane. yes, they are kids, but also if teachers are not shown the same grace/respect as the students, there is a huge problem here, and clearly there is.
Fighting for your teacher is: fighting for yourself and your future. The system does not really "defend" students, it shields them from accountability and consequences. Those detentions and suspensions are your safety nets, but you will only figure that out later in life that these are things that give kids time and a fighting chance to get their futures back.
The system isn't even respecting the students: true respect would include treating them as mature enough to be held accountable for their behavior, not treating them like babies in bubbles that have to be "protected" from everyday life.
I’m in the classroom. 28 years now. So all I can say is thank you so much for doing this. Seriously thank you. The voice you’re giving to us is paramount. Take care girl. Proud of you.
As a parent, I am appalled at the situations teachers find themselves in unnecessarily. There are failures within this broken educational systems but the foundation of that failure rests with us parents. We are responsible/accountable for our children and there must be consequences for bad behavior. The same parents who don’t show up for conferences, or maintain relationships with those teachers to build a communication path, are the ones that claim surprise when their children escalate into even more dangerous behaviors.
We have zero problems with our kid's teacher but we had one instance where she messaged me (I prefer phone call so I can hear her tone) and she made it seem like he was being bad. Result, we got so mad at our son and she ended up clarifying it at conference time. Apparently he wasn't the only one in Pre-K not keeping hands to himself. She made it seem like he was fighting. The administration at his school on the other hand is just ridiculous. They changed policies left and right, gave us a hard time because of speech therapy, and have had zero communication since day ONE. Unfortunately, we would rather have him at this school because it's literally safer.
I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome from dealing with a psychotic 6 year old in my 13th year of teaching. It took four women to hold this child down. He tried to harm several adults and children. The stress from dealing with this for SEVEN MONTHS caused my immune system to be so weakened that I can never work a full time job again. I was told after asking for help that he was “ frustrated that he couldn’t read”. Later he was hospitalized for psychosis. But it was too late for me. This kind of thing happens all the time and especially in special education classrooms.
HOW IS IT THAT TEACHERS OVER HUNDREDS OF YEARS HAVE HANDLED THEIR CLASSROOMS ,,,NOW TEACHERS CANT DO THEIR JOB,,YOU ARE CRYBABIES,, YOU DONT WANT TO WORK,,,MY TEACHERS HANDLED HER CLASSROOM WITH PERFECT GUIDANCE WE RESPECTED HER
@@LB-eh5fz Because for thousands of years teachers were allowed to discipline, suspend, and expel. They no longer can. Also, parents typically backed up the teachers, were mortified by their child's misbehavior, and punished them at home. Remember, historically education was not universally available and often made all the difference in one's quality of life and opportunities. It still matters, but everyone in Western countries has - at least a chance - to be educated. Too bad many throw it away and hurt those trying to teach while some parents defend their children's actions no matter what they do. I would say the judicial system will catch up with these children later, but alas ...
I am sorry this happened to you. Please consider suing your school district. I hope you can find peace and healing. I left the profession in 2017 after 9 years because of lack of support from admin for similar situations.
I taught regular Ed kindergarten and dealt with these kind of things! I ended up in therapy my last year in my school and finally quit after 5 years there.
@LB do you even have kids? What would you do if your child punched a teacher? You are so off base. You spend a week observing a middle or high school class and then tell us your opinion.
“The principal didn’t want a suspension on her record on the first day.” They don’t want it on their records ever, because then they have to talk to the superintendents about why there are so many suspensions in their school and it makes them look bad. Suspensions are a necessary step in progressive discipline. If there are frequent suspensions there should be some questions from the superintendent, but the questions shouldn’t immediately imply that principals and teachers aren’t doing their jobs or something, it should be a hint that their are needs in that school that require additional support. The fact of the matter is, when there’s chaos in a school, there will be an increased amount of suspensions at first, but eventually once order is restored, it should come down because students will know there are consequences to their actions. And let’s not forget that when there are no consequences it isn’t just discouraging for the teachers, it is also discouraging for students who do follow the rules and are victims of these students who need more discipline, as well as the parents of these good students.
Yeah, too many suspensions and the principal gets in trouble. With the effing school grade cards dinging districts on referrals, it is just another way legislators can control what happens in public schools.
You are a precious, sweet, honest soul and I agree with you a million times. I teach 7th grade and I have never in my life experienced such a lack of discipline, respect, honesty, morals, values, and so on and so on and so on........ the fact that we have allowed CHILDREN to control how adults behave because they are terrified of being sued??????????????? I would love to know what in the world has happened to our country/ culture when we allow teachers to be 100% disrespected as college-educated professionals???? Why?
What you said in part 2 of your video about leaving your teaching job really sums up the main problem: Admin is afraid of county office. County office is afraid of the parents. Parents are afraid of the kids - And the kids ain’t afraid of nobody. Truer words were never spoken. The question is - How do we all fix this?? Exposing the problem with these stories is a start. Keep making noise, Bri!
Body-cams for teachers is where this is going...the problem is lazy parents who choose to medicate children instead of dicipline. Every bad behavior is some emotional problem and ADHD or some other bullshit. Beat that ass is what they need. I know from getting my ass beat...funny how you learn how to keep your mouth and your emotions in check if you know you have an ass whooping waiting for you. It is a deep seeded problem that I really don't see being resolved anytime soon it will end up changing education drastically. But we have an entire generation of demon posessed animal children on drugs what else do people expect will happen Bring back the fear of God and ass whoopin and this will change overnight.
I give up on it! But I’m happy that this platform is here and I will continue to support it. Even a mass shooting in my county, hasn’t made discipline any stricter.
Hold parents responsible for raising their own children. If they take their responsibility seriously, they wouldn't be afraid of their own kids. If they don't take it seriously, they should have to come in and "volunteer" in the classroom for a month, with the clear understanding that they are to uphold all class rules with all children at all times.
I appreciate you so much for giving voice to the teachers. As a parent, not only do I feel awful for these teachers but also for the innocent students that have to witness these horrific things AND see nothing be done to protect their teacher. That must be so frightening for them as well. If their teacher can't be kept safe from their child-peer, what does that tell the other children about if they can feel safe at school? I know that, unfortunately, a lot of other kids choose to laugh or even cheer on the horrific behavior. But I guarantee there are also students who are being traumatized watching these things and too afraid to let anyone know. It breaks my heart. My kids have absolutely NO doubt that they are expected to treat ALL school staff with respect, (as well as that school staff need to be respectful to them, even though they are children). Thankfully I haven't had a child thats really wanted to question adult authority but if i did, I guarantee I'd go toe to toe with them as often as i needed in order to enforce the fact that respect for all others, including the adults in their life, is required. Also,I talk to my kids everyday, including asking them questions specific to interactions with their teachers. What else can I do? I want to do what I can to help push the needed changes. Thank you again for raising awareness ❤
I was a teacher, English, ESL, and SPED. I'm not teaching now because years of stress in the classroom contributed to cancer, and I'm on disability now as I fight for my life. I was talking to my 19 year old son about your channel, the fact that I've enjoyed your content very much, and that I was shocked that even you, an obviously good teacher with quite a passion for the job, have quit. We were talking about some of my experiences--very similar to the stories you're sharing, and my son observed that there really is not any classroom management now because teachers have no authority and kids know it. He's exactly right. And admin will throw a teacher under the bus in a heartbeat. We are not valued at all; we're thought of as replaceable. And instead of changing this as more teachers quit, they change standards so that almost anyone can walk in off the street and replace a trained, professional, veteran teacher--and for less money. My son and I both counsel his friends NOT to go into this profession.
I am a retired teacher. I can absolutely say that THIS STORIES A TRUE!!! What I have learned after listening to you is that this is not a school, district or state problem. Considering what you are saying I can absolutely say it is a National issue. Something has to be done. It is not a child issue, it is and adult issue. We as a society are giving children the parameters of behavior. I do not care about what instructional issues are for the individual students, the expectation of behavior should be the same to all. When you have children of any age that think it is acceptable to confront an adult, shows that it is admisible behavior. Schools are instructional institutions. Schools are not correctional, day care centers, clinics, restaurants, etc. As years have passed schools have felt that in the need of assisting their communities services needed to be widened. However, now it is expected and in instances demanded, and it is the teacher who ends up in charge of managing all this services. Whether they are prepared, trained or ready is irrelevant and besides the point to the school system. One of the comments you made it is absolutely true. A good teacher does not make a good administrator. Unfortunately some school administrators do not get trained properly in human resources. Though they might have some instructional and classroom management knowledge, they have no idea of what to do when managing adults. In many instances they start treating the teachers as if they were their child students, and then they get upset because (some teachers) they behave like children. Micromanagement seems to be the law of the land. Why do I go to school and get a degree, when you are going to come in and micromanage my skills? To top it all everyone keeps adding procedures to improve "Instruction" that just adds to the teacher work load without any human and/or monetary assistance. Teacher shortage IS a problem that is going to come at a large cost in a short term. This is and endemic problem in the nation that requires immediate attention. AND NO BODY IS LOOKING. I am sorry if I was long winded, but some of those stories made me so angry. I could not help myself.
Thank you, for being an advocate to the teachers across this country. I know you have been through a lot with your own personal classroom situations but I truly feel God placed you in this position, to be the Voice.
It is so true; teaching staff can't get repeatedly assaulted by the same student while being sure to properly document everything that is accruing and there is not consequence for the student.
That teacher who broke her pelvis in 2 places needs to be suing that child's PARENTS for medical expenses and emotional distress at the very least! If they haven't already, they need to NOW! Kids putting their hands on anyone at all is wrong, period. Unless you are defending your LIFE, you need to keep your hands to yourselves!
I am retiring this year and truly love what I do. It is not the same for me because I didn't sign on for kids to just be a number for data and money. Thank you for your support of teachers and I applaud you for taking a stand and walking away. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
As a young mom hearing these story's make me fearful for my child and still out teachers need way more support ❤ I truly hope that we can make changes in schools across America
I’ve followed you a long time (TikTok). I was so with you the whole time. I quit in October. When you said you were going back…not going to lie…I was like “Don’t do it, BF. It’s way worse…don’t go back!” However, I do believe things happen for a reason. People ask my on the fly, “why did you quit?” I look at them and I honestly can’t answer. Not because I don’t know, but the amount of time it would take to explain it…takes so much out of me…and they still won’t fully know.
I am so tired of kowtowing to these parents! They don't give two rusty nickels about their kids or what chaos they're causing in our schools. I sat in on a parent/teacher conference where the mother told the teacher "I don't call you when my child acts a fool at home so why are you calling me when he acts a fool here at school"? WHAT??? Ummmm, because your child is disrupting the education of ALL of these other children! As I listened to you describe all that you went through just dealing with that one student who needed to be at an alternative school I thought how horrible it is that, not just you, but a majority of us deal with this same shit!! All of that wasted time on one student deprives ALL of the other children out of an education. It's not right and it's not fair to any of us! You are a better person than I am. I would have let her leave, shut my door, called the office to inform them that she walked out and was roaming the halls. I would have continued teaching the children who wanted to be there. I don't get paid enough to negotiate with these little domestic terrorists. I've had a chair thrown at me, been cursed out, called names I didn't even know existed, AND then asked by admin "what did YOU do to make them behave that way"! Excuse me??? I've been told by a parent that I didn't know how to teach black children because I was white....ummmm, I think all children learn the same unless they have a disability. I have THREE degrees and I'm paid ridiculously low pay for the education I have. It burns my biscuits that we are so undervalued, underpaid, and disrespected. When I hear people comment on how advanced educationally Asian students are compared to American children I tell them it's because education and teachers are valued in those cultures. It's time for us to take back these schools, have the hard conversations with parents, and quit backing down. Kids who behave like the example you gave need to be charged with disturbing the peace, assault, and anything else we can think of. This will never end unless we stand up and demand a safe place to work and the respect that is due us!
I had a new teacher, only 3 months into a maternity sub assignment, tell me today that she was not sure she could last two more months. She's no longer sure she wants to do this as a career and I did not try to persuade her to stay. I'm 10 months from retirement and so ready to leave.
You are inspiring, amazing, and brave! I left the classroom 22 years ago. I could have stayed so that I could be retiring in my mid 50's, but I needed to be mentally healthy. I also got to be a work at home mom and see all my children's "firsts". I work a lot of hours and hardly ever have a day off, but IT IS WORTH IT! I am alive and there for my children. Now I tutor online and in person to help parents and children who are frustrated because of the situation at school.
It has been my heart's desire to teach English for many years. Life happened, but that dream finally came true last summer. At 60 years old, I am a first year teacher in one of the most challenging districts in my state. The thing that keeps me going is that I feel that my administration is supportive. Thank you for what you do and telling teachers' stories.
The change is that they've been getting rid of suspensions and write-ups in the schools. People are unsafe in schools, but go into a district office and there's TSA-level security.
We're seeing the same kind of situation in our criminal justice system also. No or little consequences to criminal behavior. No bail, no charges being brought for criminal behavior, criminal behavior being justified because people are angry and just need to let off steam. Children see adults acting this way with no consequences so of course the children act this way. "What are you going to do to me?" Teachers are the bad guys at school and police are the bad guys otherwise. Now, we all know there are bad teachers and bad police but the majority of them are hard-working people trying their best. We must get back to being held accountable for our actions.
That part! You can’t even get 2 feet into the district office without a security officer trying to stop you, but they leave us alone with unstable out-of-control children in the classroom sometimes have up to 30, and we’re supposed to work miracles without any weapons without security or without an assistant to help.
And the thing is, I want to feel safe sending my child to school. I don't want him to have to deal with that crap. Or having my kid's teachers solely focusing on behavior mgmt instead of the actual lessons they're teaching.
@@nanasblessings more jail lint the answer. Places like Europe (Finland, Germany, Sweden, Denmark especially) not only have some ofthe best public education systems, they also have the lowest incarceration rates
Kelsey Landon, I think that's wonderful. Are those low incarceration numbers because the countries have no crime or are they just not prosecuting actual crimes? What do we do with people who commit crimes? What is your answer to repeat offenders? The video is speaking to the lack of accountability in the schools. Students being disruptive even to the point of violence and there is little to no accountability for that behavior. What are your suggestions for helping that situation?
Those stories make me glad my kids are grown!! I'm gonna be blunt the admin not backing the teacher is complete bullshit!! If I were the lady that was pregnant and punched by the child I would sue the school, the parents and the board of education!! Something has got to change!! Love you Bri and absolutely 💯 support your decision to walk away!!
I now live in France. Before moving, I was the school nurse in a high school. I was responsible for 1800 students and staff. My mother has told me if I ever move back to the states and take that job back, she will beat me. She cannot believe everything I had to deal with and the stress I was under and never wants me to go back. My heart goes out to you and all the teachers. ❤️
I have been following you for over a year now and was heartbroken when I heard you quit. I'm at a loss of words but I know firsthand the pain your are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Everything happens for a reason, I know you are where you need to be right now. I am glad that you chose your health over teaching because as you stated before you will be replaced in a nanosecond. Your are brave and inspiring so keep the videos coming! May God continue to bless you and guide all your ways!
No sorry I don't believe " everything happens for a reason - Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. Is the Violence happening in Yemen and Ukraine for a "reason?" If i punched you now - would that be for a "reason?" That type of mentality is part of the reason our Culture is imploding . The "reason" is the lack of funding and respect for working people in general and us Teacher's specifically > Being that most of us are women and most of us are represented by Unions , both of those are things the right -wing despises . Based on the new policies in Red States
Keep speaking queen! I’m interacting and sharing all of your posts. I’m done after year 7 in may. And I will be speaking my truth as well. Someone has to advocate for us!
I was just telling a co-worker the other day, HOW are we supposed to teach the kids that actions have consequences if actions don't actually have consequences? We are doing them a huge disservice. Thank you for making these videos. Honestly, if I wasn't a teacher I probably would think these stories were made up. They are so outlandish and unbelievable that it seems easier to deny them. Being a teacher though, I know that every last one of them is true. Everything that you said in your Pt. 2 video was stuff I could have said. I've dealt with very similar circumstances in my own job. It's sad.
Omg I am soooooo happy to have you as a voice for teachers! I applaud your strength!! I have a teaching degree I no longer use because of stories similar to this. My very first day teaching a student had a Bb gun in his back pack and nothing was done except to lecture me on classroom management to prevent that situation. So many behaviors later, no writeups approved, and my calls to the office for help with kids fist fighting basically being ignored caused me to quit. I called the office for help and was just told to handle it myself they had no one to send. That was my last straw, so I too put my keys on my desk and left. Fast forward to my second attempt at teaching at another school in another state, but sadly similar situation. My anxiety could not handle it. Since then I have found other ways to use my degree in environments where I feel safe and respected. Breaks my heart to hear so many other teachers experience similar things. I agree that something has to be done, but like you I am not entirely sure of the answer.
I too left my classroom in Oct 2019 and never went back. After 20 years, the lack of support and no consequences to violent behavior of students made my decision easy. People have no idea of the paperwork, accountability, and endless work that is expected. Also, I got tired of being expected to spend my own money to create FUN activities. No more. And I was also told by Admin that they didn't want to hire experienced teachers. They wanted someone new and young so they could have greater influence.
Amen. This is why I left education years ago...I have HEARD 3rd graders plotting to get a male teacher fired by accusing him of sexual assalut! (Lord knows what wouldnhave happened if I hadnt overheard the conversation), I have seen students AND THEIR PARENTS jump a teacher in the teacher parking lot, I have personally had a gun pointed at my head by student relatives, etc it sucks
Sorry I have a grandson with IEP and if he stepped out a line like some of these children have stepped out of line you wouldn’t have to worry about what the school is doing to him. Assault charges should be laid against these children it doesn’t matter who they are what they are or what their problems are they are not allowed to touch other people or hurt them.
This came across my heart... you need to hold a political office. Get on a board somewhere or an educational committee. These are being run by a number of people who have never been in the classroom.
We need more alternative schools. There are students who thrive with the smaller classes and (prison-like) super structured environment of alternative school. The fact is that some students do not belong in the regular classroom environment. It should not take an act of Congress to get a student into a behavior disorder unit or alternative school.
There is no respect anymore for teachers or education. There are no consequences for students no matter how bad their behavior gets. I don't know what everyone is afraid of. It does the students a disservice to not hold them accountable. The students know that there are no consequences. Parents have no idea how bad it is, and they really don't want to know. The same parents who will say that the teacher can't control the kids are the same parents that will claim "not my kid" when they're contacted about bad behavior. Basically it's a bad joke that everyone plays along with.
I was a teacher for 20 years and know your stories are absolutely real! I was an ESL teacher, and one of my students absolutely destroyed her kindergarten classroom. School policy was that when a child starts to do that the other children are to be removed, and the child is left to do whatever she wants including destroying everything.
My oldest told me a story about his high school principal breaking up a fight and getting punched in the face. Growing up we would never think of laying hands on a teacher- at that time teachers were also allowed to spank kids- so we knew there were consequences to acting out. I just read a story about a NC elementary teacher that was touched inappropriately by a 6yr old- got no help from admin and the child had a history of behavior issues in school. Sometimes I think public school is not the place for every child but parents may not want to see that their child requires a different level of support. And people need to stop using a child’s diagnosis as an excuse- it may help explain a behavior but it doesn’t excuse it. I feel for all the teachers and support you all💖
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😇😇💞💞💞💞 oh my goodness, I just don’t understand. I knew during Covid that I was not cut out to be a teacher yet and still I had to be home with my grandsons because my daughter and son-in-law worked. It was at that time that I realized how utterly important you guys are to our children. I have two grandsons one in the first grade and one in the third grade. My first grader spoke out of turn to his teacher, he was suspended for two days. The principal told my daughter they had he been in the fourth or fifth grade he would have been expelled from school. I love the school district that my grandsons are in they are totally behind the teachers but also fairly behind the students. These stories are outrageous. They made me cry because I don’t feel that any teacher should have to put up with the garbage that those teachers and yourself have put up with. I am keeping all of our teachers in prayer and praying that things will be better. But I am with you best friend, what are parents doing? Are parents even involved in their children’s education anymore? Do they not care? Are the children doing the same thing to them at home and they are afraid of their own children? I wish my daughter had done some of the things that I have heard you talk about in school or out of school. Ask her yourself, she most definitely would not have survived. Education is the most important thing beside love that we can give our children and our teachers go out of their way to take time away from their own families to provide love and security and education to our children , parents, come on, the school is not a glorified babysitter and you should be putting more effort into raising your children to be young responsible men and women and respectful! There is no excuse for the way that these children are treating these teachers. It’s a shame that it took Covid in a year of virtual learning for the word to get out about the abuse, yes I said abuse, that our teachers are suffering💞💞💞
I love you and I am 100% on your side! My kids are grown now and I have to say, had great teachers. At the beginning of each school year I let every teacher know that I was a hands-on mom and if they had any issues, they could call me any time. My kids knew then and now that I will NOT tolerate disrespect because I know how I raised them. This day, my kids are grown, I still have people tell me how respectful my kids are... which never ceases to delight me. I was primarily raised by my grandmother...nuff said. I still say yes ma'am, no ma'am to people much younger than me or people I don't have to say it to because that's how I was raised. I'm proud of that. Thank you Grandma...I love and miss you 😘🥲❤❤
I applaud you for bringing stories like this to light and bringing awareness to these issues! I know a principal of a private school who has her students pull weeds, scrub gym floors, clean bathrooms, etc as punishments. She has seen a lot of success with these types of consequences. And it’s something productive that helps the campus look better!
As a homeschool parent, this make me sick to hear. I put my heart and soul daily into training my kids to be godly people who will respect and love others. It’s heartbreaking to think how much of these issues likely result from lack of parent involvement (and the lacking admin support is a totally new topic to me now too). Even as a homeschooler we’re always thinking through how to be involved and support our community because these are still my kids’ peers, will be their coworkers and community. Thanks for sharing and my utmost respect to all the teachers out there fighting for decent working conditions.
First of all, thank you for sharing your stories. Thank you for being a teacher as long as you did. And THANK YOU TO ALL TEACHERS READING THIS. I’m not a teacher. I’m a parent. Some of these parents need to sign up and be a substitute. I can’t believe the disrespect teachers must take from all sides. I don’t understand parents who act like their kids’ shit don’t ever stink! There was a period of time I wasn’t doing my work in high-school. My dad had to come sit with me IN class. We were military so it was different. Embarrassing. It motivated us both to get our shit straight.
My school does parent shadowing. These kids are not embarrassed to have mom come along. They show up tardy with their kids, are on their phones, interrupt the lesson to talk to their kids, or just sleep through each class. Not. A . Fan
Omg as a student , hearing what some teachers go through and kids disrespecting teachers in class makes me sick to my stomach. This is why I am always respectful and try my hardest in class and whenever my friends and I can we advocate for our teachers liked advocate for us that’s how it’s supposed to be people come on 😢
My kids have been learning virtually for two years now. I looked forward to sending them in person next year, to pack a lunch for them, make friends and learn more social settings. The situations being shared not only here but all over the internet make me extremely worried about sending my kids into complete chaos.
We are considering pulling our kids out of public school to virtual only because of all of the bullying they are experiencing that we do not feel is being fully addressed. The issues these teachers are sharing isn't all directed towards teachers. A lot of kids are experiencing the same frustrations. School is not the safe place it once was anymore sadly.
I'm very fortunate in that I've found a small school with amazing admin. My children are thriving, and so am I as a teacher. So it is possible to still find a good school experience for your children, but it will probably be rare, and you definitely won't find it in a big public school system. I honestly think this is the goal of the government. Public school will be full of the troubled youth and uncertified teachers. Parents who care will have to find a way to pay for private school.
@@amandawilliams8382 That is not fair, I worked in several private schools and they have all required certifications or have helped teachers with the pathway to certification.
I had a second grade girl who would go home and tell her mother that I handed out toilet paper by the square and would refuse to give her any. She also told her mother that I shoved her into the freshly painted wall (she had bumped into it herself) and when the video showed me at the other end of the line with other kids, she started screaming at the principal that I did it. They spent the entire school year saying things like I had thrown pencils at her in the classroom, that I told her she didn't belong at our school and telling admin and the school board that I needed to be fired. They did this sort of thing to every teacher she ever had so my principal was used to them and backed me up. And every day she tried to come up and get a hug like nothing happened. It was an exhausting year.
No way that student would have any physical contact with me. I’m so, so sorry you endured that abuse. Why don’t parents understand what the world will do to these kinds of kids?
@@whyarepeoplecrazy yeah, after the throwing into the wall thing, I told her calmly and straight to her face with another teacher witness that if she was going to say things like that, I didn't feel safe hugging her bc she might say I hurt her again. She cried. I can't tell you how much I didn't care. Anyway, her mother and grandmother wanted her to be the way she was. And one day when she turns on them, it'll be Frankenstein's monster all over again.
YES!!! Protect teachers!! Protect the other students!! Protect society!! The kids who are allowed to behave in these violent ways with little to no consequences are learning to be murderers and they will kill someone whether intentional or not.
I wish there were different ways to discipline these students other than suspension/detention. Because the kids don't care. For many students suspension isn't a punishment. If that's the consequence they don't care. And calling home is often useless as the vast majority of the time I never am able to reach the family.
@@honestteachervibes I run into the issue of not wanting to report something because in my district the go-to response is either ISS, OSS, or just nothing. And very rarely do I feel their actions are bad enough to merit being removed from school (which is often what they want, so why reward them) but also the situations where I feel the OSS would be warranted are the situations where there seems to be a "talking to" and nothing else. I'm not blaming my admin, I feel like their hands are pretty much tied here too.
In-school suspension. They stay in the same room all day (with supervision, of course), including eating their meal(s) in that room. No talking; no interacting…only doing school work or sitting quietly. They hate it. And have security cameras in the room. Working cameras. My husband (band and general music director) volunteered to spend his planning period supervising in-school suspension for a whole school year. Very few of his kids landed in that room or on the ineligible list after that. He’s got 8 years until retirement left and today accepted an offer to teach at another school. Why? No admin back up, mainly; some really awful parents; and discipline not being passed out equally.
@@powers1217 ours just sleep in ISS. They're not allowed to but you cant really stop them. They just sleep and if it means more days out of class if they get in trouble for it, all the better in their minds....
@Julie Lourdes my own brother when I was in school would laugh in the teachers faces if they tried to give him a detention because he knew the discipline chain. No show to the first detention meant 2 more. No show those meant a Wednesday school. No show to that meant a Saturday school. No show to that meant OSS. He'd just ask for the OSS paper there and then saying he'd love a day away from them... My students are just as bold if not bolder. And yeah, the parents either don't care or downright treat the child on their day off! I had a student whose mom went out and bought them a new videogame they wanted for getting 3 days OSS so they wouldn't be bored... I just cannot understand some people's "parenting"
The reason children aren’t written up is demographic information. One superintendent actually told staff to STOP writing up black and brown students. In our fifth grade PLC meeting we were told that we had written up too many African American and Hispanic students and absolutely not one Caucasian student. I said “Well, in order for me to write up a Caucasian student I would have to go to third or fourth grade to FIND one, because we do not have one. single. Caucasian. student. in the entire grade level.” True story. So we were told to consider it carefully before writing up students. A few months later we found out there were stacks of write ups in the office that had NEVER been entered. We had wondered why everyone kept saying their write ups said “conference with students/parents. Yep. They never entered the information to keep our numbers low. The numbers the district needs to look at: How many teachers put in for transfers or just left the district entirely? Look at THOSE numbers!
And to add to the heartbreak, not letting those kids experience consequences will only put them more at risk for committing criminal activity as adults, adding to the claim that they're victims of the system (which in this sense they are); the indoctrination--I mean, "education"!--system is creating criminal victims for the justice system! This way, people can claim "systemic racism!" rather than having to be held accountable for their own behavior. Keeping people down in order to create a problem that they can pretend to try to fix is truly racism. It's all about control, not social justice.
I have the same issue. I have only two white kids in my class, and most of the teachers are white. Our principle told us in a PLC thst most students who get referrals are black or brown and are written up by a white teacher.
I just want to say THANK_YOU!!! Your latest Videos were so compelling and brilliant. I watched both of " why I quit teaching " twice ! I laughed , cried, felt validated and realized I wasn't crazy and stopped blaming myself for not being able to " just deal with it ". Peace through Justice, from South Berkeley, ca Sending love and gratitude . I deeply appreciate what you've done and the validation it brought me
These things are absolutely real. We do not suspend anymore in my district. We have had three teachers put on administrative leave this year because students went to admin about something they said. They said they felt “uncomfortable” That’s all they have to say and they know it. They are yielding their power to ruin teachers’ livelihood. I have another student who in our Auto Service class who was throwing tools at other students and was just given a talking to.
Thirty years ago my partner (who was working towards his teaching certification interning in Brooklyn, NY), walked out of his position and dropped his teaching education after a 13-year-old girl threw a desk at him, and the only follow-up he got from administration was “well, the desk didn’t hit you.”
What I find most interesting is some teachers may not even believe these stories. Not all schools are the same and not all school districts are the same. When you know, you know. I know some teachers could get together and write volumes and volumes of experiences exactly like the ones being shared here (myself included).
This is true. Not all districts have alternative schools. Some schools are much more dangerous than others. I've worked in multiple districts. Some schools we had these kinds of problems and other schools didn't
These are mind-boggling. I retired in 2018, and this type of mess hasn’t changed. I agree completely with everything you’re saying! I also fear for the other CHILDREN in classrooms where this is going on.
Thank you for using your platform for this. There are so many of us teachers feeling frustrated but we have no outlet. Knowing that someone is willing to be a bigger voice for us is huge. I’ve been saying what you said about consequences for a while now. These kids think they can hit us and each other, tear apart classrooms, swear at us, etc. because nothing happens when they do. Or they get to go to a “calm down room” and get a snack and iPad time. If I swore at my boss or tore apart a room, I’d get fired. But they are going into real life thinking they can do that and basically be rewarded for it. It’s not okay. Do you have a Google form or anything where we can send our stories? Again thanks for using your platform to help us, as well as entertain us. God bless you ❤️
my grandmother has been a teacher for 40 years, same school district, and time and again she'll tell me stories so similar to the ones you've shared that it genuinely IS hard to believe if you're not a teacher. god bless you for standing up for the rights of teachers and sharing what horrors go on in school because it is NOT safe, PERIOD, and if i seriously have to worry about my grandmother's safety in the goddamn 5TH GRADE then something needs to be done. its getting ridiculous
Thank you for sharing the stories of what is going on in real life classrooms. The problem is the students are not be held accountable. Keep sharing the stories and being the voice for the voiceless. Also, tell them to make sure they join a strong teacher's union and keep a lawyer's phone number on speed dial (just in case they need it). Teaching can be a very fulfilling job, but it is also like herding cats. I love teaching and have done so 30 years. I always worked with immigrant kids and had no problems. They come into the class wanting to learn. The immigrant child studies and does the homework. I did not have problems until I started working with American kids. Yeah, American kids are the "cats". Parents wake up and stay on top of what is going on in your child's life- Go to Parent/Teacher Conferences. Contact the teachers and ask what can you do to help your child succeed in the classroom? Kids need consequences. Be blessed.
As a former inner city public school student, thank you for speaking out about this. I saw plenty of my teachers break down, take verbal threats, take hits… I never saw the teachers perspective because some of my teachers took their frustrations out on me and other kids that were quiet/well behaved, but performed poorly academically. These kids are ruthless and it’s crazy to see that there aren’t any protections put in place for your safety and well being.
My child is only 7 but he punched a student and pushed another one within a week. He is going through some stress and has anxiety for going to school but I told his teacher I do not condone that behavior and that I expect and support consequences. I love my child and that is exactly why I support consequences.
I taught at an elementary school and we had a child actualy ESCAPE the school grounds and cross the street (he was in kindergarten) and a teacher's aid just arriving saw him as she was getting out of her car and walked him back. The Principal didn't want anyone contacting the parent because that student's parent was a principal at another nearby school. This was a school in an affluent area, and everything that our school didn't choose to "disclose" to parents was purely to protect the reputation of the school. Only after leaving that job did I realize how toxic a school work environment really can be, and it starts from the top.
Thank you for sharing for beloved teachers and parents who face the term "bullying" which is past off as a problem that will never go away. At most these children have NO family structure. They are NOT two parent households or the mother is with a non father of the child(ren) from my experience of disorderly children in the classroom. I am not a teacher but I do understand after working in headstart and daycare some years back also my daughters treatments in elementary / middle school / high school there was always rudely milmannnered classmates disrupting the class in the past. My gratitude and appreciation you spoke out on these situations 🙏 💖 👩🏽
@Julie Lourdes I know this is the case having witnessed how my own family are treated by someone who is not the biological father or mother.....so much can be done if family is restructured but children are looking outside to media for support. During my day many teachers walked out when students became violent towards the teachers during the 80's. Parents who want to make a difference need to step up and demand changes with their children too. It is not all on the teachers.
Thank you for being an honest teacher voice. I'm a 17 year veteran teacher, I never had a break from in person classroom during the pandemic. I can confidently say, that the kids have never been this bad before. They are out of control and grossly disrespectful. Parents, need to take control of their children and discipline them. Schools need to have adequate consequences for misbehaved students and everyone needs to stop making excuses. I don't know the remedy for the huge dysfunction, but something has to change. Maybe districts need to spend money on programs where parents of repeat - maladaptive students need to take parenting classes or something.
Thank you for speaking up on behalf of teachers. I have worked in schools, in various positions, for several years and currently work as a Substitute Teacher. One thing I'd like mentioned is that these students who are very hostile and aggressive are also that way towards their fellow students! I need more parents to speak up and demand action from school boards on how to handle these extremely disruptive students because these bad kids are threatening their peers and STEALING their education. Every time a teacher has to stop instruction for one disruptive student that means every other student is being robbed!! So the best thing parents can do is hold the schools accountable and say plainly that we are no longer going to tolerate having the majority of students receive a lackluster education just because 1 or 2 chuckle heads can't get their sh*t together. I firmly believe school is a right, not a privilege. However some students are not ready to be in an academic classroom and would be better suited at alternative schools where they can work on their social and interpersonal skills first and once they've mastered those then it would be good to slowly re-introduce them back into a traditional school.
I believe those stories. I had a student threaten other students with a knife. He showed it around at lunch. The asst principal tried to expel him and was told by the SPED teacher "He cannot be removed from the classroom if his behavior is a 'manifestation of his disability.'" So if a kid is EMOTIONALLY Disturbed, you CAN'T remove him for bring a knife to school and threatening others? I had him the next day and he kept screaming at me about this and that. I was a nervous wreck. The school went to court and a MONTH later the kid was sent to a special school. That was a time the admin tried to help. A few years later a kid started following me around the building carrying a big pair of scissors and the principal did not do anything. I told the principal it was him or me. The father came in to scream at the principal but DID pull his kid. That principal WROTE ME UP for not being "tolerant enough" of a student's emotional issues and suggested I was being dramatic. There no other part of this where I said anything to that kid to trigger that other than assignments he didn't want to do.
You are amazing and I appreciate your strength. This is my 33 year and I love my job. This is the first year I thought of retirement Students hit and cuss each other and when they are corrected they just say That is just how we play with each other. We ask then to stop something over and over and they say I did not do anything They are disrespectful, unmotivated and when we call home it’s our fault
My son was cut by a butcher knife at school by a kid bringing the knife to school. The knife was in this kids backpack. Allegedly he was wanting to cut down trees while at recess. My son was cleaning off his desk and throwing trash away along with other students. The trash can was by the book bags. My son went to toss his stuff in the trash can when he was accidentally knocked into the book bag that had the knife and lost his balance. It was so sharp it was sticking out of the bag which is the part that cut my sons thigh. Unfortunately the kid got a slap on the wrist (3 day suspension). We never heard from the parents at all, no apology etc. I guess because he had no ill intentions that’s why he only got suspended and not expelled. Unfortunately it caused my son to have nightmares and he didn’t want to go to school. When I was in school we would have been expelled for bringing a weapon to school. Times have changed and it’s sad and scary.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for speaking up for all of us who can't! Outrageous behaviors never cease and students don't get consequences. Students have learned nothing will happen to them no matter what they do. We've been told we don't suspend anymore by district admin. My coworkers and I have continually said until parents are held accountable and inconvenienced, nothing will change. Students and parents NEED to be held accountable. Teachers are continually disrespected and it has somehow become ok in our society for teachers to be assaulted and be human punching bags!!! This is why so many of us would quit if we could!
I am so very proud of you! There is no paycheck or benefits worth your metal. physical, and emotional health. I am retiring this year PRAISE GOD, after 25 years of teaching. This 2021-2022SY has been the WORST. Admin continues pacifying and placating to students and parents, while teachers are packing up and saying "Bye Felicia!!!" Let the principals teach all day.
I’ve been hit in the stomach (elementary), witness a kid threaten with scissors, and am in a district that has had schools apparently disregard weapons and SO much more. This is a big issue! I do hope you make more videos, maybe focused on different issues as well! Keep up the wonderful work!
This is so horrible, teachers deserve to be protected more so than students sometimes due to things like this. Students need to be held accountable for their actions a lot more than they are nowadays. I'm not a student anymore but I can't believe how much it's changed as I left school at 16 in 2017.
I remember when I was in high school, we had a brand new principal who was very involved in the school and determined to clean up the school from gang activity. He was expelling students and sending kids to ALC, making it a safer place for teachers and students. He was always approachable and knew most students by name. One day, he was jumped outside the cafeteria by some of the students that had been expelled. They bashed his head against the brick wall and he was bleeding a lot. Our school had actual police and security who tackled the students and arrested them on campus. The principle left and went to work at the wealthy all white high-school on the west side after that. A lot of the really good teachers went with him. We ended up with a constant revolving door of principles and teachers after that, and the riff raff of students in the school just continued to get worse. Really sad.
I'm a SPED teacher and can 100% say that an IEP does not give the kid the right to go around the do whatever the f@ck they want. I'm tired of administration/parents not taking what a kid does seriously as soon as they see that SPED label. We had one kid who was horrendously bullying another student, saying things like "KYS" and "Imma beat your ass." every single day and because he was SPED they held off on consequences. That is until he threatened to shoot the kid in the face and then, all of a sudden, things were very real. The teachers were accused on not 'deescalating' the behaviors before hand, when everyone on that team had a paper trail of documentation for every single time we had addressed the issue with them.
It would add a level of awareness as well if you tell where these things happen so people realize how widespread these issues are. That it is not just in certain areas and districts but it happens across all areas.
I was a teacher for 21 years. Then I became a counselor for 17 years. My last 2 years were with the 2 worst admins I’d ever dealt with. I quit my job, but I said I was retiring. It wasn’t the kids, it was the admins. I didn’t want to work for a couple of 7th grade mean girls. Thank you for speaking up for us.
Consequences and accountability. Those two would go a long way to fix things. I worked at a school once where there was a fight 2 or 3 times a week. Every time I’d write a referral the Discipline Coordinator would ask me, did you see this happen? What?! Why would i write the referral if I didn’t see it? SMH!
I’m not a teacher but I have a sister who is. I hear stories from her all the time! I’m a harder parent due to this. All I have to say is thank you for advocating for teachers from a teachers stand point. Our system needs more people like you.
Not only does this happen in schools it also in the work place no accountability for coming to or being late nor staying on the job while at work and the supervisor gets in trouble for not getting production when people don't do their job. No respect for authority.
Wow, this is all so new to me, I do believe everything, but it's like, I can't believe it! You feel me! When I was in school, the teacher had the right to literally hit your hands with his or her ruler!! If you still acted up and got sent to the principals office!! OH NO😪......NOT GOOD......HE HAD THE RIGHT TO PADDLE YOUR BOTTOM......WITH WHAT LOOKED LIKE A BIG PIZZA TAKER OUTTER.... Wow, and when you got home! Another whipping and grounded!! My heart goes out to ALL TEACHERS! 😍👍🙏❤
I've said it before and I will say it again. Teachers need to start pressing charges against students who commit physical assault. Once your school principal says they are not going to do anything or that they would only speak with the student about their behavior, you should notify them that you would be contacting law enforcement to press charges and ensure real consequences are implemented. This would also wake up parents who can't be "bothered" to address their child's behavior. Your legal rights don't end just because you were assaulted or threatened in a school building.
Absolutely
I understand why teachers don't. Unions do not always support the teacher enough when an admin who feels threatened starts taking out their feelings of aggravation on the complaining teacher. I say this with personal experience. People DO "shoot" the messenger. We need much better whistleblower protections.
You should be able to press charges against the administration as well for failure to protect the teachers
It’s so hard when it’s littles. They seriously ask us if we really felt threatened by a 5yr old or if being hit really hurts.
Amen! I've started doing that on my school bus when my students injure me or other kids. I'm not going to play that "did you document that incident?" Game anymore.
Half of this foolishness would stop if we hold these kids and their parents accountable.
Agree 1000%
Especially the parents(if the child is a young child- )IF the parent KNOWS that the child WILL be suspended for 5 or 10 days- THEN it will start to cost the parent money OFF their jobs-- and many will help find a solution
@@deborahb6294 so one time we suspended a kid and this kid’s mother dropped him off the next day, drove away and turned off her phone!
@@ashleyelizabeth8119 - Girl No-- then we would have went though the WHOLE list of his "student contacts"--- to SEE who can come pick him up... OR the principle should have let hi go to ISS- THEN-NOT send him home on the bus_ when his mother come to pick him up- be there-
@@ashleyelizabeth8119 bots daily
It feels like being a good teacher doesn't matter anymore. The only thing that matters is classroom management, data, test scores, and how entertaining we are. Nobody cares if we are good at actual teaching or breaking down concepts or explaining things well.
LOL! yes exactly ! This helps me so much - We have Teacher " Happy Hours' on Fridays that are necessary decompression-sessions . But it's supportive and helpful to know that it's not just us here in the Bay-area . Peace , from South Berkeley
I feel like the more important thing in my room is being a therapist than a teacher. Seriously, I feel my content takes a complete back seat to making sure my kids feel safe and heard. Which is all fine and dandy and leads to great rapport... but not a whole lot of actual learning. I'm an elective so I have more wiggle room than most teachers but it's still sad how little some kids have learned by the end of the year because of how many times I've had to stop and address their basic need of feeling safe before being able to teach
@@ninimeggie4771 I'm also an elective, and yes I agree. Having a good relationship with students is obviously important, but the therapist/counseling part is where I don't feel qualified. I'm a great teacher, but a terrible therapist. It feels like within the last 5 years, the therapist part is the only thing that matters and they really don't learn much because we have so many fires to put out before we can actually do our jobs and teach 😭
@@je-nay-nay5503 it's gotten to the point where I have considered going back to school to take classes on that because I agree I am not qualified!
@@ninimeggie4771 I'm leaving teaching because I genuinely didn't sign up for that lol, but if I were staying, I'd probably take classes as well
As a teacher I know these are true. Teaching is a job where you can be physically assaulted and you have no protection. If you worked an office job and someone attacked you the police would be called. An IEP isn’t a license to commit crimes.
This right here. IEPs are not designed to be a free pass for assault.
We called IEPs a ‘license to kill’ at my old school. Those kids can literally get away with murder.
@Desert Rose Exactly. It’s ridiculous.
@Desert Rose ordered her an entire pizza
Especially as someone with an IEP, because, you know, I NEED it. It’s disgusting to hear that action isn’t taken because they have an IEP. It is absolutely used an excuse to not deal with the problem. It’s an Individual Education Plan, not individual effective protection!
I finally resigned from my position as a high school science teacher after a student pushed me. The student was back in my class the next day. It felt like a slap in the face. I’m now teaching online. It’s not the same bc I truly loved my job but at least my mental health isn’t suffering anymore. Thank you for sharing!
God bless you!
WHERE ARE THESE KIDS' PARENTS? They suffer zero consequences from admin and then the same lack of accountability is reinforced within the home! No wonder these students aren't afraid of anything or anybody! They know nothing of consequence is going to happen to them. What incentive do they have to do better? What punishments do they have to fear?
My God this is heartbreaking! Many of my friends from high school are teachers today. I'm 40, so these friends of mine have all been teaching for over 15 years. Every single one of them is emotionally and mentally suffering as a direct result of their job. As if that weren't bad enough, the salary our childrens' teachers earn is insulting given how important teachers are to the future of those children's whole adult lives. Most of these friends of mine have a side hustle or even a whole second job because their teachers' salaries, alone, aren't even a living wage!
Teachers are college educated, trained professionals. They invest so much time and energy and emotional support to your kids, people! Jesus, the LEAST a parent could do is teach their kid how to behave like a normal human being, which includes a lesson about respect. If Moms and Dads would just refuse to tolerate their kids disrespecting their teachers, incredible things could happen for EVERYBODY!!!
@Julie Lourdes I agree. This is getting ready to reach a breaking point very, very soon.
@@MeganVictoriaKearns If I ever did what kids today are doing, my mom would tear up a new one if I ever disrespected a teacher. Teachers were the second parent. Unfortunately, kids today are raised by parents who didn't care for the academics when they were kids. Most parents today want to be friends, not parents, to their kids. 😒🤷🤦♀
I am now working at a cyber school after leaving my teaching job after being assaulted twice. Not only did nothing happen to the students, but administrator bullied me and claimed I wasn’t hurt that bad.
the fact that the system will only defend students (and i say this as a student!) is insane. yes, they are kids, but also if teachers are not shown the same grace/respect as the students, there is a huge problem here, and clearly there is.
I never understood why some schools treat teachers like shit and wonder why they leave in drones. 🤷♀️
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Fighting for your teacher is: fighting for yourself and your future. The system does not really "defend" students, it shields them from accountability and consequences. Those detentions and suspensions are your safety nets, but you will only figure that out later in life that these are things that give kids time and a fighting chance to get their futures back.
The system isn't even respecting the students: true respect would include treating them as mature enough to be held accountable for their behavior, not treating them like babies in bubbles that have to be "protected" from everyday life.
I’m in the classroom. 28 years now. So all I can say is thank you so much for doing this. Seriously thank you. The voice you’re giving to us is paramount. Take care girl. Proud of you.
As a parent, I am appalled at the situations teachers find themselves in unnecessarily. There are failures within this broken educational systems but the foundation of that failure rests with us parents. We are responsible/accountable for our children and there must be consequences for bad behavior. The same parents who don’t show up for conferences, or maintain relationships with those teachers to build a communication path, are the ones that claim surprise when their children escalate into even more dangerous behaviors.
Amen!! And im right here with you!! I'm a parent as well.
They don't care about the children or the parents. Gang,gang🇺🇲🤫gang
@Blue Sapphire we need parents who will challenge these teachers and the system, not ones willing to throw their children under the bus.
We have zero problems with our kid's teacher but we had one instance where she messaged me (I prefer phone call so I can hear her tone) and she made it seem like he was being bad. Result, we got so mad at our son and she ended up clarifying it at conference time. Apparently he wasn't the only one in Pre-K not keeping hands to himself. She made it seem like he was fighting. The administration at his school on the other hand is just ridiculous. They changed policies left and right, gave us a hard time because of speech therapy, and have had zero communication since day ONE. Unfortunately, we would rather have him at this school because it's literally safer.
@Anaja S Congress zero consequences, members that.
I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome from dealing with a psychotic 6 year old in my 13th year of teaching. It took four women to hold this child down. He tried to harm several adults and children. The stress from dealing with this for SEVEN MONTHS caused my immune system to be so weakened that I can never work a full time job again. I was told after asking for help that he was “ frustrated that he couldn’t read”. Later he was hospitalized for psychosis. But it was too late for me. This kind of thing happens all the time and especially in special education classrooms.
HOW IS IT THAT TEACHERS OVER HUNDREDS OF YEARS HAVE HANDLED THEIR CLASSROOMS ,,,NOW TEACHERS CANT DO THEIR JOB,,YOU ARE CRYBABIES,, YOU DONT WANT TO WORK,,,MY TEACHERS HANDLED HER CLASSROOM WITH PERFECT GUIDANCE WE RESPECTED HER
@@LB-eh5fz Because for thousands of years teachers were allowed to discipline, suspend, and expel. They no longer can. Also, parents typically backed up the teachers, were mortified by their child's misbehavior, and punished them at home. Remember, historically education was not universally available and often made all the difference in one's quality of life and opportunities. It still matters, but everyone in Western countries has - at least a chance - to be educated. Too bad many throw it away and hurt those trying to teach while some parents defend their children's actions no matter what they do. I would say the judicial system will catch up with these children later, but alas ...
I am sorry this happened to you. Please consider suing your school district. I hope you can find peace and healing. I left the profession in 2017 after 9 years because of lack of support from admin for similar situations.
I taught regular Ed kindergarten and dealt with these kind of things! I ended up in therapy my last year in my school and finally quit after 5 years there.
@LB do you even have kids? What would you do if your child punched a teacher? You are so off base. You spend a week observing a middle or high school class and then tell us your opinion.
“The principal didn’t want a suspension on her record on the first day.” They don’t want it on their records ever, because then they have to talk to the superintendents about why there are so many suspensions in their school and it makes them look bad. Suspensions are a necessary step in progressive discipline. If there are frequent suspensions there should be some questions from the superintendent, but the questions shouldn’t immediately imply that principals and teachers aren’t doing their jobs or something, it should be a hint that their are needs in that school that require additional support. The fact of the matter is, when there’s chaos in a school, there will be an increased amount of suspensions at first, but eventually once order is restored, it should come down because students will know there are consequences to their actions. And let’s not forget that when there are no consequences it isn’t just discouraging for the teachers, it is also discouraging for students who do follow the rules and are victims of these students who need more discipline, as well as the parents of these good students.
Best comment right here, 1000%
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Yeah, too many suspensions and the principal gets in trouble. With the effing school grade cards dinging districts on referrals, it is just another way legislators can control what happens in public schools.
This is the comment that best explains things imo. It comes from the policies at the top and negatively affects those on the ground.
This! One million percent.
You are a precious, sweet, honest soul and I agree with you a million times. I teach 7th grade and I have never in my life experienced such a lack of discipline, respect, honesty, morals, values, and so on and so on and so on........ the fact that we have allowed CHILDREN to control how adults behave because they are terrified of being sued??????????????? I would love to know what in the world has happened to our country/ culture when we allow teachers to be 100% disrespected as college-educated professionals???? Why?
Some of y’all don’t get what form of hell teachers deal with.Just a taste of their reality
I agree! They literally don't get it. 😢
What you said in part 2 of your video about leaving your teaching job really sums up the main problem:
Admin is afraid of county office.
County office is afraid of the parents.
Parents are afraid of the kids -
And the kids ain’t afraid of nobody.
Truer words were never spoken.
The question is - How do we all fix this?? Exposing the problem with these stories is a start. Keep making noise, Bri!
Body-cams for teachers is where this is going...the problem is lazy parents who choose to medicate children instead of dicipline. Every bad behavior is some emotional problem and ADHD or some other bullshit. Beat that ass is what they need. I know from getting my ass beat...funny how you learn how to keep your mouth and your emotions in check if you know you have an ass whooping waiting for you. It is a deep seeded problem that I really don't see being resolved anytime soon it will end up changing education drastically. But we have an entire generation of demon posessed animal children on drugs what else do people expect will happen Bring back the fear of God and ass whoopin and this will change overnight.
I give up on it! But I’m happy that this platform is here and I will continue to support it. Even a mass shooting in my county, hasn’t made discipline any stricter.
Hold parents responsible for raising their own children. If they take their responsibility seriously, they wouldn't be afraid of their own kids. If they don't take it seriously, they should have to come in and "volunteer" in the classroom for a month, with the clear understanding that they are to uphold all class rules with all children at all times.
I appreciate you so much for giving voice to the teachers. As a parent, not only do I feel awful for these teachers but also for the innocent students that have to witness these horrific things AND see nothing be done to protect their teacher. That must be so frightening for them as well. If their teacher can't be kept safe from their child-peer, what does that tell the other children about if they can feel safe at school? I know that, unfortunately, a lot of other kids choose to laugh or even cheer on the horrific behavior. But I guarantee there are also students who are being traumatized watching these things and too afraid to let anyone know. It breaks my heart.
My kids have absolutely NO doubt that they are expected to treat ALL school staff with respect, (as well as that school staff need to be respectful to them, even though they are children). Thankfully I haven't had a child thats really wanted to question adult authority but if i did, I guarantee I'd go toe to toe with them as often as i needed in order to enforce the fact that respect for all others, including the adults in their life, is required. Also,I talk to my kids everyday, including asking them questions specific to interactions with their teachers.
What else can I do? I want to do what I can to help push the needed changes.
Thank you again for raising awareness ❤
I was a teacher, English, ESL, and SPED. I'm not teaching now because years of stress in the classroom contributed to cancer, and I'm on disability now as I fight for my life. I was talking to my 19 year old son about your channel, the fact that I've enjoyed your content very much, and that I was shocked that even you, an obviously good teacher with quite a passion for the job, have quit. We were talking about some of my experiences--very similar to the stories you're sharing, and my son observed that there really is not any classroom management now because teachers have no authority and kids know it. He's exactly right. And admin will throw a teacher under the bus in a heartbeat. We are not valued at all; we're thought of as replaceable. And instead of changing this as more teachers quit, they change standards so that almost anyone can walk in off the street and replace a trained, professional, veteran teacher--and for less money. My son and I both counsel his friends NOT to go into this profession.
I am a retired teacher. I can absolutely say that THIS STORIES A TRUE!!! What I have learned after listening to you is that this is not a school, district or state problem. Considering what you are saying I can absolutely say it is a National issue. Something has to be done. It is not a child issue, it is and adult issue. We as a society are giving children the parameters of behavior. I do not care about what instructional issues are for the individual students, the expectation of behavior should be the same to all. When you have children of any age that think it is acceptable to confront an adult, shows that it is admisible behavior. Schools are instructional institutions. Schools are not correctional, day care centers, clinics, restaurants, etc. As years have passed schools have felt that in the need of assisting their communities services needed to be widened. However, now it is expected and in instances demanded, and it is the teacher who ends up in charge of managing all this services. Whether they are prepared, trained or ready is irrelevant and besides the point to the school system. One of the comments you made it is absolutely true. A good teacher does not make a good administrator. Unfortunately some school administrators do not get trained properly in human resources. Though they might have some instructional and classroom management knowledge, they have no idea of what to do when managing adults. In many instances they start treating the teachers as if they were their child students, and then they get upset because (some teachers) they behave like children. Micromanagement seems to be the law of the land. Why do I go to school and get a degree, when you are going to come in and micromanage my skills? To top it all everyone keeps adding procedures to improve "Instruction" that just adds to the teacher work load without any human and/or monetary assistance. Teacher shortage IS a problem that is going to come at a large cost in a short term. This is and endemic problem in the nation that requires immediate attention. AND NO BODY IS LOOKING. I am sorry if I was long winded, but some of those stories made me so angry. I could not help myself.
Thank you, for being an advocate to the teachers across this country. I know you have been through a lot with your own personal classroom situations but I truly feel God placed you in this position, to be the Voice.
Wrong answer
Thank you friend ♥️
Yes indeed
@@elnorablank487 Your birth was a wrong answer
Teachers go through so much crap. I have the ultimate respect for teachers.
It is so true; teaching staff can't get repeatedly assaulted by the same student while being sure to properly document everything that is accruing and there is not consequence for the student.
That teacher who broke her pelvis in 2 places needs to be suing that child's PARENTS for medical expenses and emotional distress at the very least! If they haven't already, they need to NOW! Kids putting their hands on anyone at all is wrong, period. Unless you are defending your LIFE, you need to keep your hands to yourselves!
And sue the school district for not protecting the teacher or the other students.
I would definitely sue the parents.
@@melaniecurtin6402 Absolutely agree. 100%
@@Jen.E And they would get nothing because most of these low class parents don't make enough.
I doubt it was a low class parent.
I am retiring this year and truly love what I do. It is not the same for me because I didn't sign on for kids to just be a number for data and money. Thank you for your support of teachers and I applaud you for taking a stand and walking away. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
They will peak their heads into your classroom in the middle of a crisis to remind you about the ADA attendance 😒
It's been like that since I was in school
As a young mom hearing these story's make me fearful for my child and still out teachers need way more support ❤
I truly hope that we can make changes in schools across America
Me too 😪 I don't want my baby in that environment
I’ve followed you a long time (TikTok). I was so with you the whole time. I quit in October. When you said you were going back…not going to lie…I was like “Don’t do it, BF. It’s way worse…don’t go back!” However, I do believe things happen for a reason. People ask my on the fly, “why did you quit?” I look at them and I honestly can’t answer. Not because I don’t know, but the amount of time it would take to explain it…takes so much out of me…and they still won’t fully know.
You could start with" because I am denied Human Rights as a teacher"!
I am so tired of kowtowing to these parents! They don't give two rusty nickels about their kids or what chaos they're causing in our schools. I sat in on a parent/teacher conference where the mother told the teacher "I don't call you when my child acts a fool at home so why are you calling me when he acts a fool here at school"? WHAT??? Ummmm, because your child is disrupting the education of ALL of these other children! As I listened to you describe all that you went through just dealing with that one student who needed to be at an alternative school I thought how horrible it is that, not just you, but a majority of us deal with this same shit!! All of that wasted time on one student deprives ALL of the other children out of an education. It's not right and it's not fair to any of us! You are a better person than I am. I would have let her leave, shut my door, called the office to inform them that she walked out and was roaming the halls. I would have continued teaching the children who wanted to be there. I don't get paid enough to negotiate with these little domestic terrorists.
I've had a chair thrown at me, been cursed out, called names I didn't even know existed, AND then asked by admin "what did YOU do to make them behave that way"! Excuse me??? I've been told by a parent that I didn't know how to teach black children because I was white....ummmm, I think all children learn the same unless they have a disability. I have THREE degrees and I'm paid ridiculously low pay for the education I have. It burns my biscuits that we are so undervalued, underpaid, and disrespected. When I hear people comment on how advanced educationally Asian students are compared to American children I tell them it's because education and teachers are valued in those cultures. It's time for us to take back these schools, have the hard conversations with parents, and quit backing down. Kids who behave like the example you gave need to be charged with disturbing the peace, assault, and anything else we can think of. This will never end unless we stand up and demand a safe place to work and the respect that is due us!
I had a new teacher, only 3 months into a maternity sub assignment, tell me today that she was not sure she could last two more months. She's no longer sure she wants to do this as a career and I did not try to persuade her to stay. I'm 10 months from retirement and so ready to leave.
You are inspiring, amazing, and brave! I left the classroom 22 years ago. I could have stayed so that I could be retiring in my mid 50's, but I needed to be mentally healthy. I also got to be a work at home mom and see all my children's "firsts". I work a lot of hours and hardly ever have a day off, but IT IS WORTH IT! I am alive and there for my children. Now I tutor online and in person to help parents and children who are frustrated because of the situation at school.
It has been my heart's desire to teach English for many years. Life happened, but that dream finally came true last summer. At 60 years old, I am a first year teacher in one of the most challenging districts in my state. The thing that keeps me going is that I feel that my administration is supportive.
Thank you for what you do and telling teachers' stories.
All I can say is how grateful I am that my children are all out of school. Wow
The change is that they've been getting rid of suspensions and write-ups in the schools. People are unsafe in schools, but go into a district office and there's TSA-level security.
We're seeing the same kind of situation in our criminal justice system also. No or little consequences to criminal behavior. No bail, no charges being brought for criminal behavior, criminal behavior being justified because people are angry and just need to let off steam. Children see adults acting this way with no consequences so of course the children act this way. "What are you going to do to me?" Teachers are the bad guys at school and police are the bad guys otherwise. Now, we all know there are bad teachers and bad police but the majority of them are hard-working people trying their best. We must get back to being held accountable for our actions.
That part! You can’t even get 2 feet into the district office without a security officer trying to stop you, but they leave us alone with unstable out-of-control children in the classroom sometimes have up to 30, and we’re supposed to work miracles without any weapons without security or without an assistant to help.
And the thing is, I want to feel safe sending my child to school. I don't want him to have to deal with that crap. Or having my kid's teachers solely focusing on behavior mgmt instead of the actual lessons they're teaching.
@@nanasblessings more jail lint the answer. Places like Europe (Finland, Germany, Sweden, Denmark especially) not only have some ofthe best public education systems, they also have the lowest incarceration rates
Kelsey Landon, I think that's wonderful. Are those low incarceration numbers because the countries have no crime or are they just not prosecuting actual crimes? What do we do with people who commit crimes? What is your answer to repeat offenders? The video is speaking to the lack of accountability in the schools. Students being disruptive even to the point of violence and there is little to no accountability for that behavior. What are your suggestions for helping that situation?
Preach it sister. Kids need to be held accountable for their actions and teachers need more support
Those stories make me glad my kids are grown!! I'm gonna be blunt the admin not backing the teacher is complete bullshit!! If I were the lady that was pregnant and punched by the child I would sue the school, the parents and the board of education!! Something has got to change!! Love you Bri and absolutely 💯 support your decision to walk away!!
I now live in France. Before moving, I was the school nurse in a high school. I was responsible for 1800 students and staff. My mother has told me if I ever move back to the states and take that job back, she will beat me. She cannot believe everything I had to deal with and the stress I was under and never wants me to go back. My heart goes out to you and all the teachers. ❤️
I have been following you for over a year now and was heartbroken when I heard you quit. I'm at a loss of words but I know firsthand the pain your are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Everything happens for a reason, I know you are where you need to be right now. I am glad that you chose your health over teaching because as you stated before you will be replaced in a nanosecond. Your are brave and inspiring so keep the videos coming! May God continue to bless you and guide all your ways!
No sorry I don't believe " everything happens for a reason - Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. Is the Violence happening in Yemen and Ukraine for a "reason?" If i punched you now - would that be for a "reason?" That type of mentality is part of the reason our Culture is imploding . The "reason" is the lack of funding and respect for working people in general and us Teacher's specifically > Being that most of us are women and most of us are represented by Unions , both of those are things the right -wing despises . Based on the new policies in Red States
You are so kind! Thank you! ♥️
People might not believe these stories but I’m a teacher who is here to tell you these kind of things happen EVERY DAY.
Keep speaking queen! I’m interacting and sharing all of your posts. I’m done after year 7 in may. And I will be speaking my truth as well. Someone has to advocate for us!
I was just telling a co-worker the other day, HOW are we supposed to teach the kids that actions have consequences if actions don't actually have consequences? We are doing them a huge disservice.
Thank you for making these videos. Honestly, if I wasn't a teacher I probably would think these stories were made up. They are so outlandish and unbelievable that it seems easier to deny them. Being a teacher though, I know that every last one of them is true. Everything that you said in your Pt. 2 video was stuff I could have said. I've dealt with very similar circumstances in my own job. It's sad.
Omg I am soooooo happy to have you as a voice for teachers! I applaud your strength!! I have a teaching degree I no longer use because of stories similar to this. My very first day teaching a student had a Bb gun in his back pack and nothing was done except to lecture me on classroom management to prevent that situation. So many behaviors later, no writeups approved, and my calls to the office for help with kids fist fighting basically being ignored caused me to quit. I called the office for help and was just told to handle it myself they had no one to send. That was my last straw, so I too put my keys on my desk and left. Fast forward to my second attempt at teaching at another school in another state, but sadly similar situation. My anxiety could not handle it. Since then I have found other ways to use my degree in environments where I feel safe and respected. Breaks my heart to hear so many other teachers experience similar things. I agree that something has to be done, but like you I am not entirely sure of the answer.
I too left my classroom in Oct 2019 and never went back. After 20 years, the lack of support and no consequences to violent behavior of students made my decision easy. People have no idea of the paperwork, accountability, and endless work that is expected. Also, I got tired of being expected to spend my own money to create FUN activities. No more. And I was also told by Admin that they didn't want to hire experienced teachers. They wanted someone new and young so they could have greater influence.
I hope you'll talk about the emotional abuse too. The unrelenting emotional abuse.
Thank you for advocating for teachers!
Amen. This is why I left education years ago...I have HEARD 3rd graders plotting to get a male teacher fired by accusing him of sexual assalut! (Lord knows what wouldnhave happened if I hadnt overheard the conversation), I have seen students AND THEIR PARENTS jump a teacher in the teacher parking lot, I have personally had a gun pointed at my head by student relatives, etc it sucks
Sorry I have a grandson with IEP and if he stepped out a line like some of these children have stepped out of line you wouldn’t have to worry about what the school is doing to him. Assault charges should be laid against these children it doesn’t matter who they are what they are or what their problems are they are not allowed to touch other people or hurt them.
This came across my heart... you need to hold a political office. Get on a board somewhere or an educational committee. These are being run by a number of people who have never been in the classroom.
We need more alternative schools. There are students who thrive with the smaller classes and (prison-like) super structured environment of alternative school. The fact is that some students do not belong in the regular classroom environment. It should not take an act of Congress to get a student into a behavior disorder unit or alternative school.
There is no respect anymore for teachers or education. There are no consequences for students no matter how bad their behavior gets. I don't know what everyone is afraid of. It does the students a disservice to not hold them accountable. The students know that there are no consequences. Parents have no idea how bad it is, and they really don't want to know. The same parents who will say that the teacher can't control the kids are the same parents that will claim "not my kid" when they're contacted about bad behavior. Basically it's a bad joke that everyone plays along with.
The parents who say that the teacher can't control the kids are the same parents who don't bother to control their own kids.
I was a teacher for 20 years and know your stories are absolutely real! I was an ESL teacher, and one of my students absolutely destroyed her kindergarten classroom. School policy was that when a child starts to do that the other children are to be removed, and the child is left to do whatever she wants including destroying everything.
My oldest told me a story about his high school principal breaking up a fight and getting punched in the face. Growing up we would never think of laying hands on a teacher- at that time teachers were also allowed to spank kids- so we knew there were consequences to acting out. I just read a story about a NC elementary teacher that was touched inappropriately by a 6yr old- got no help from admin and the child had a history of behavior issues in school. Sometimes I think public school is not the place for every child but parents may not want to see that their child requires a different level of support. And people need to stop using a child’s diagnosis as an excuse- it may help explain a behavior but it doesn’t excuse it. I feel for all the teachers and support you all💖
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😇😇💞💞💞💞 oh my goodness, I just don’t understand. I knew during Covid that I was not cut out to be a teacher yet and still I had to be home with my grandsons because my daughter and son-in-law worked. It was at that time that I realized how utterly important you guys are to our children. I have two grandsons one in the first grade and one in the third grade. My first grader spoke out of turn to his teacher, he was suspended for two days. The principal told my daughter they had he been in the fourth or fifth grade he would have been expelled from school. I love the school district that my grandsons are in they are totally behind the teachers but also fairly behind the students. These stories are outrageous. They made me cry because I don’t feel that any teacher should have to put up with the garbage that those teachers and yourself have put up with. I am keeping all of our teachers in prayer and praying that things will be better. But I am with you best friend, what are parents doing? Are parents even involved in their children’s education anymore? Do they not care? Are the children doing the same thing to them at home and they are afraid of their own children? I wish my daughter had done some of the things that I have heard you talk about in school or out of school. Ask her yourself, she most definitely would not have survived. Education is the most important thing beside love that we can give our children and our teachers go out of their way to take time away from their own families to provide love and security and education to our children , parents, come on, the school is not a glorified babysitter and you should be putting more effort into raising your children to be young responsible men and women and respectful! There is no excuse for the way that these children are treating these teachers. It’s a shame that it took Covid in a year of virtual learning for the word to get out about the abuse, yes I said abuse, that our teachers are suffering💞💞💞
I am so thankful that I am out of teaching. No teacher protection. Students lie, no team or admin support. Just sad and heartbreaking.
I love you and I am 100% on your side! My kids are grown now and I have to say, had great teachers. At the beginning of each school year I let every teacher know that I was a hands-on mom and if they had any issues, they could call me any time. My kids knew then and now that I will NOT tolerate disrespect because I know how I raised them. This day, my kids are grown, I still have people tell me how respectful my kids are... which never ceases to delight me. I was primarily raised by my grandmother...nuff said. I still say yes ma'am, no ma'am to people much younger than me or people I don't have to say it to because that's how I was raised. I'm proud of that. Thank you Grandma...I love and miss you 😘🥲❤❤
Thank you for keeping it real.
You're welcome best friend. Always. ❤
Thank you for sharing these real stories!!! It’s crazy what we have to deal with as teachers
I applaud you for bringing stories like this to light and bringing awareness to these issues! I know a principal of a private school who has her students pull weeds, scrub gym floors, clean bathrooms, etc as punishments. She has seen a lot of success with these types of consequences. And it’s something productive that helps the campus look better!
what a great idea!
As a homeschool parent, this make me sick to hear. I put my heart and soul daily into training my kids to be godly people who will respect and love others. It’s heartbreaking to think how much of these issues likely result from lack of parent involvement (and the lacking admin support is a totally new topic to me now too).
Even as a homeschooler we’re always thinking through how to be involved and support our community because these are still my kids’ peers, will be their coworkers and community.
Thanks for sharing and my utmost respect to all the teachers out there fighting for decent working conditions.
First of all, thank you for sharing your stories. Thank you for being a teacher as long as you did. And THANK YOU TO ALL TEACHERS READING THIS. I’m not a teacher. I’m a parent. Some of these parents need to sign up and be a substitute. I can’t believe the disrespect teachers must take from all sides. I don’t understand parents who act like their kids’ shit don’t ever stink! There was a period of time I wasn’t doing my work in high-school. My dad had to come sit with me IN class. We were military so it was different. Embarrassing. It motivated us both to get our shit straight.
My school does parent shadowing. These kids are not embarrassed to have mom come along. They show up tardy with their kids, are on their phones, interrupt the lesson to talk to their kids, or just sleep through each class. Not. A . Fan
Omg as a student , hearing what some teachers go through and kids disrespecting teachers in class makes me sick to my stomach. This is why I am always respectful and try my hardest in class and whenever my friends and I can we advocate for our teachers liked advocate for us that’s how it’s supposed to be people come on 😢
My kids have been learning virtually for two years now. I looked forward to sending them in person next year, to pack a lunch for them, make friends and learn more social settings. The situations being shared not only here but all over the internet make me extremely worried about sending my kids into complete chaos.
Don’t do it! If you do send them to a brick and mortar school find a small private school.
It’s not worth the trauma they will be exposed to. My heart aches for what the “innocent” students in my class were exposed to.
We are considering pulling our kids out of public school to virtual only because of all of the bullying they are experiencing that we do not feel is being fully addressed. The issues these teachers are sharing isn't all directed towards teachers. A lot of kids are experiencing the same frustrations. School is not the safe place it once was anymore sadly.
I'm very fortunate in that I've found a small school with amazing admin. My children are thriving, and so am I as a teacher. So it is possible to still find a good school experience for your children, but it will probably be rare, and you definitely won't find it in a big public school system. I honestly think this is the goal of the government. Public school will be full of the troubled youth and uncertified teachers. Parents who care will have to find a way to pay for private school.
@@amandawilliams8382 That is not fair, I worked in several private schools and they have all required certifications or have helped teachers with the pathway to certification.
I had a second grade girl who would go home and tell her mother that I handed out toilet paper by the square and would refuse to give her any.
She also told her mother that I shoved her into the freshly painted wall (she had bumped into it herself) and when the video showed me at the other end of the line with other kids, she started screaming at the principal that I did it.
They spent the entire school year saying things like I had thrown pencils at her in the classroom, that I told her she didn't belong at our school and telling admin and the school board that I needed to be fired.
They did this sort of thing to every teacher she ever had so my principal was used to them and backed me up.
And every day she tried to come up and get a hug like nothing happened.
It was an exhausting year.
No way that student would have any physical contact with me. I’m so, so sorry you endured that abuse. Why don’t parents understand what the world will do to these kinds of kids?
Sounds like that child needed some "mental health" aid-- so SAD when parents can't or won't realize this
@@whyarepeoplecrazy yeah, after the throwing into the wall thing, I told her calmly and straight to her face with another teacher witness that if she was going to say things like that, I didn't feel safe hugging her bc she might say I hurt her again.
She cried.
I can't tell you how much I didn't care.
Anyway, her mother and grandmother wanted her to be the way she was.
And one day when she turns on them, it'll be Frankenstein's monster all over again.
@@deborahb6294 her mother and grandmother wanted her to be like that.
YES!!! Protect teachers!! Protect the other students!! Protect society!! The kids who are allowed to behave in these violent ways with little to no consequences are learning to be murderers and they will kill someone whether intentional or not.
I wish there were different ways to discipline these students other than suspension/detention. Because the kids don't care. For many students suspension isn't a punishment. If that's the consequence they don't care.
And calling home is often useless as the vast majority of the time I never am able to reach the family.
I agree. It definitely feels like we just don't have alot of options sometimes. 😢
@@honestteachervibes I run into the issue of not wanting to report something because in my district the go-to response is either ISS, OSS, or just nothing. And very rarely do I feel their actions are bad enough to merit being removed from school (which is often what they want, so why reward them) but also the situations where I feel the OSS would be warranted are the situations where there seems to be a "talking to" and nothing else.
I'm not blaming my admin, I feel like their hands are pretty much tied here too.
In-school suspension. They stay in the same room all day (with supervision, of course), including eating their meal(s) in that room. No talking; no interacting…only doing school work or sitting quietly. They hate it. And have security cameras in the room. Working cameras.
My husband (band and general music director) volunteered to spend his planning period supervising in-school suspension for a whole school year. Very few of his kids landed in that room or on the ineligible list after that. He’s got 8 years until retirement left and today accepted an offer to teach at another school. Why? No admin back up, mainly; some really awful parents; and discipline not being passed out equally.
@@powers1217 ours just sleep in ISS. They're not allowed to but you cant really stop them. They just sleep and if it means more days out of class if they get in trouble for it, all the better in their minds....
@Julie Lourdes my own brother when I was in school would laugh in the teachers faces if they tried to give him a detention because he knew the discipline chain. No show to the first detention meant 2 more. No show those meant a Wednesday school. No show to that meant a Saturday school. No show to that meant OSS. He'd just ask for the OSS paper there and then saying he'd love a day away from them...
My students are just as bold if not bolder. And yeah, the parents either don't care or downright treat the child on their day off! I had a student whose mom went out and bought them a new videogame they wanted for getting 3 days OSS so they wouldn't be bored... I just cannot understand some people's "parenting"
The reason children aren’t written up is demographic information. One superintendent actually told staff to STOP writing up black and brown students. In our fifth grade PLC meeting we were told that we had written up too many African American and Hispanic students and absolutely not one Caucasian student. I said “Well, in order for me to write up a Caucasian student I would have to go to third or fourth grade to FIND one, because we do not have one. single. Caucasian. student. in the entire grade level.” True story. So we were told to consider it carefully before writing up students. A few months later we found out there were stacks of write ups in the office that had NEVER been entered. We had wondered why everyone kept saying their write ups said “conference with students/parents. Yep. They never entered the information to keep our numbers low. The numbers the district needs to look at: How many teachers put in for transfers or just left the district entirely? Look at THOSE numbers!
Wow! 😳
Kids of ALL races are written up everyday.
And to add to the heartbreak, not letting those kids experience consequences will only put them more at risk for committing criminal activity as adults, adding to the claim that they're victims of the system (which in this sense they are); the indoctrination--I mean, "education"!--system is creating criminal victims for the justice system! This way, people can claim "systemic racism!" rather than having to be held accountable for their own behavior. Keeping people down in order to create a problem that they can pretend to try to fix is truly racism. It's all about control, not social justice.
I have the same issue. I have only two white kids in my class, and most of the teachers are white. Our principle told us in a PLC thst most students who get referrals are black or brown and are written up by a white teacher.
I just want to say THANK_YOU!!! Your latest Videos were so compelling and brilliant. I watched both of " why I quit teaching " twice ! I laughed , cried, felt validated and realized I wasn't crazy and stopped blaming myself for not being able to " just deal with it ". Peace through Justice, from South Berkeley, ca Sending love and gratitude . I deeply appreciate what you've done and the validation it brought me
These things are absolutely real. We do not suspend anymore in my district. We have had three teachers put on administrative leave this year because students went to admin about something they said. They said they felt “uncomfortable” That’s all they have to say and they know it. They are yielding their power to ruin teachers’ livelihood. I have another student who in our Auto Service class who was throwing tools at other students and was just given a talking to.
Any suspensions that occur in our district MUST BE APPROVED at the district level. RIDICULOUS.
Thirty years ago my partner (who was working towards his teaching certification interning in Brooklyn, NY), walked out of his position and dropped his teaching education after a 13-year-old girl threw a desk at him, and the only follow-up he got from administration was “well, the desk didn’t hit you.”
I think this is great. These issues need to be discussed. It has to stop. At this point, parents are going to be the teacher.
So many stories for you... all this sounds so real and not surprising. Breaks my heart that it's everywhere.
What I find most interesting is some teachers may not even believe these stories. Not all schools are the same and not all school districts are the same. When you know, you know. I know some teachers could get together and write volumes and volumes of experiences exactly like the ones being shared here (myself included).
This is true. Not all districts have alternative schools. Some schools are much more dangerous than others. I've worked in multiple districts. Some schools we had these kinds of problems and other schools didn't
These are mind-boggling. I retired in 2018, and this type of mess hasn’t changed. I agree completely with everything you’re saying! I also fear for the other CHILDREN in classrooms where this is going on.
Thank you for using your platform for this. There are so many of us teachers feeling frustrated but we have no outlet. Knowing that someone is willing to be a bigger voice for us is huge.
I’ve been saying what you said about consequences for a while now. These kids think they can hit us and each other, tear apart classrooms, swear at us, etc. because nothing happens when they do. Or they get to go to a “calm down room” and get a snack and iPad time. If I swore at my boss or tore apart a room, I’d get fired. But they are going into real life thinking they can do that and basically be rewarded for it. It’s not okay.
Do you have a Google form or anything where we can send our stories? Again thanks for using your platform to help us, as well as entertain us. God bless you ❤️
THEN DO SOMETHING ELSE IF YOU CANT HANDLE YOUR JOB ,,MY TEACHERS ALL WERE RESPECTED,,🤔
You are amazing. Keep sharing
my grandmother has been a teacher for 40 years, same school district, and time and again she'll tell me stories so similar to the ones you've shared that it genuinely IS hard to believe if you're not a teacher. god bless you for standing up for the rights of teachers and sharing what horrors go on in school because it is NOT safe, PERIOD, and if i seriously have to worry about my grandmother's safety in the goddamn 5TH GRADE then something needs to be done. its getting ridiculous
Thank you for sharing the stories of what is going on in real life classrooms. The problem is the students are not be held accountable. Keep sharing the stories and being the voice for the voiceless. Also, tell them to make sure they join a strong teacher's union and keep a lawyer's phone number on speed dial (just in case they need it). Teaching can be a very fulfilling job, but it is also like herding cats. I love teaching and have done so 30 years. I always worked with immigrant kids and had no problems. They come into the class wanting to learn. The immigrant child studies and does the homework. I did not have problems until I started working with American kids. Yeah, American kids are the "cats". Parents wake up and stay on top of what is going on in your child's life- Go to Parent/Teacher Conferences. Contact the teachers and ask what can you do to help your child succeed in the classroom? Kids need consequences. Be blessed.
As a former inner city public school student, thank you for speaking out about this. I saw plenty of my teachers break down, take verbal threats, take hits… I never saw the teachers perspective because some of my teachers took their frustrations out on me and other kids that were quiet/well behaved, but performed poorly academically. These kids are ruthless and it’s crazy to see that there aren’t any protections put in place for your safety and well being.
My child is only 7 but he punched a student and pushed another one within a week. He is going through some stress and has anxiety for going to school but I told his teacher I do not condone that behavior and that I expect and support consequences. I love my child and that is exactly why I support consequences.
I taught at an elementary school and we had a child actualy ESCAPE the school grounds and cross the street (he was in kindergarten) and a teacher's aid just arriving saw him as she was getting out of her car and walked him back. The Principal didn't want anyone contacting the parent because that student's parent was a principal at another nearby school. This was a school in an affluent area, and everything that our school didn't choose to "disclose" to parents was purely to protect the reputation of the school. Only after leaving that job did I realize how toxic a school work environment really can be, and it starts from the top.
Thank you for sharing for beloved teachers and parents who face the term "bullying" which is past off as a problem that will never go away. At most these children have NO family structure. They are NOT two parent households or the mother is with a non father of the child(ren) from my experience of disorderly children in the classroom. I am not a teacher but I do understand after working in headstart and daycare some years back also my daughters treatments in elementary / middle school / high school there was always rudely milmannnered classmates disrupting the class in the past. My gratitude and appreciation you spoke out on these situations 🙏 💖 👩🏽
@Julie Lourdes I know this is the case having witnessed how my own family are treated by someone who is not the biological father or mother.....so much can be done if family is restructured but children are looking outside to media for support. During my day many teachers walked out when students became violent towards the teachers during the 80's. Parents who want to make a difference need to step up and demand changes with their children too. It is not all on the teachers.
Thank you for being an honest teacher voice. I'm a 17 year veteran teacher, I never had a break from in person classroom during the pandemic. I can confidently say, that the kids have never been this bad before. They are out of control and grossly disrespectful. Parents, need to take control of their children and discipline them. Schools need to have adequate consequences for misbehaved students and everyone needs to stop making excuses. I don't know the remedy for the huge dysfunction, but something has to change. Maybe districts need to spend money on programs where parents of repeat - maladaptive students need to take parenting classes or something.
Thank you for being a advocate.
Thank you for speaking up on behalf of teachers.
I have worked in schools, in various positions, for several years and currently work as a Substitute Teacher. One thing I'd like mentioned is that these students who are very hostile and aggressive are also that way towards their fellow students!
I need more parents to speak up and demand action from school boards on how to handle these extremely disruptive students because these bad kids are threatening their peers and STEALING their education. Every time a teacher has to stop instruction for one disruptive student that means every other student is being robbed!! So the best thing parents can do is hold the schools accountable and say plainly that we are no longer going to tolerate having the majority of students receive a lackluster education just because 1 or 2 chuckle heads can't get their sh*t together.
I firmly believe school is a right, not a privilege. However some students are not ready to be in an academic classroom and would be better suited at alternative schools where they can work on their social and interpersonal skills first and once they've mastered those then it would be good to slowly re-introduce them back into a traditional school.
I believe those stories. I had a student threaten other students with a knife. He showed it around at lunch. The asst principal tried to expel him and was told by the SPED teacher "He cannot be removed from the classroom if his behavior is a 'manifestation of his disability.'" So if a kid is EMOTIONALLY Disturbed, you CAN'T remove him for bring a knife to school and threatening others? I had him the next day and he kept screaming at me about this and that. I was a nervous wreck. The school went to court and a MONTH later the kid was sent to a special school. That was a time the admin tried to help. A few years later a kid started following me around the building carrying a big pair of scissors and the principal did not do anything. I told the principal it was him or me. The father came in to scream at the principal but DID pull his kid. That principal WROTE ME UP for not being "tolerant enough" of a student's emotional issues and suggested I was being dramatic. There no other part of this where I said anything to that kid to trigger that other than assignments he didn't want to do.
I'm a functional/life skills para. I see this kind of thing all the time. 🙁
That teacher has a serious misunderstanding of “manifestation of his disability”.
"manifestation of his disability.'" WE ARE SICK OF THIS BS!
You are amazing and I appreciate your strength. This is my 33 year and I love my job. This is the first year I thought of retirement Students hit and cuss each other and when they are corrected they just say That is just how we play with each other. We ask then to stop something over and over and they say I did not do anything They are disrespectful, unmotivated and when we call home it’s our fault
My son was cut by a butcher knife at school by a kid bringing the knife to school. The knife was in this kids backpack. Allegedly he was wanting to cut down trees while at recess. My son was cleaning off his desk and throwing trash away along with other students. The trash can was by the book bags. My son went to toss his stuff in the trash can when he was accidentally knocked into the book bag that had the knife and lost his balance. It was so sharp it was sticking out of the bag which is the part that cut my sons thigh. Unfortunately the kid got a slap on the wrist (3 day suspension). We never heard from the parents at all, no apology etc. I guess because he had no ill intentions that’s why he only got suspended and not expelled. Unfortunately it caused my son to have nightmares and he didn’t want to go to school. When I was in school we would have been expelled for bringing a weapon to school. Times have changed and it’s sad and scary.
This is the only channel where I don’t skip ads. Thank you for giving teachers everywhere a voice!
Thank you for advocating for positive change.
This needs to happen, these stories need to be spoken. My heart is grieved for every teacher. I believe you, every one.
Parents should be accountable for their children actions.... I've always been taught that a child's first teacher is the parent...
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for speaking up for all of us who can't! Outrageous behaviors never cease and students don't get consequences. Students have learned nothing will happen to them no matter what they do. We've been told we don't suspend anymore by district admin. My coworkers and I have continually said until parents are held accountable and inconvenienced, nothing will change. Students and parents NEED to be held accountable. Teachers are continually disrespected and it has somehow become ok in our society for teachers to be assaulted and be human punching bags!!! This is why so many of us would quit if we could!
Thank you for using your platform in this way! 💜💜💜
I am so very proud of you! There is no paycheck or benefits worth your metal. physical, and emotional health. I am retiring this year PRAISE GOD, after 25 years of teaching. This 2021-2022SY has been the WORST. Admin continues pacifying and placating to students and parents, while teachers are packing up and saying "Bye Felicia!!!" Let the principals teach all day.
I’ve been hit in the stomach (elementary), witness a kid threaten with scissors, and am in a district that has had schools apparently disregard weapons and SO much more. This is a big issue! I do hope you make more videos, maybe focused on different issues as well! Keep up the wonderful work!
Thank you so much. I love how you are speaking our truth. I appreciate you. ❤️
This is so horrible, teachers deserve to be protected more so than students sometimes due to things like this. Students need to be held accountable for their actions a lot more than they are nowadays. I'm not a student anymore but I can't believe how much it's changed as I left school at 16 in 2017.
You are my new hero. 48 days until I am retired after a 37 year career.
I remember when I was in high school, we had a brand new principal who was very involved in the school and determined to clean up the school from gang activity. He was expelling students and sending kids to ALC, making it a safer place for teachers and students. He was always approachable and knew most students by name. One day, he was jumped outside the cafeteria by some of the students that had been expelled. They bashed his head against the brick wall and he was bleeding a lot. Our school had actual police and security who tackled the students and arrested them on campus. The principle left and went to work at the wealthy all white high-school on the west side after that. A lot of the really good teachers went with him. We ended up with a constant revolving door of principles and teachers after that, and the riff raff of students in the school just continued to get worse. Really sad.
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I'm a SPED teacher and can 100% say that an IEP does not give the kid the right to go around the do whatever the f@ck they want. I'm tired of administration/parents not taking what a kid does seriously as soon as they see that SPED label. We had one kid who was horrendously bullying another student, saying things like "KYS" and "Imma beat your ass." every single day and because he was SPED they held off on consequences. That is until he threatened to shoot the kid in the face and then, all of a sudden, things were very real. The teachers were accused on not 'deescalating' the behaviors before hand, when everyone on that team had a paper trail of documentation for every single time we had addressed the issue with them.
It would add a level of awareness as well if you tell where these things happen so people realize how widespread these issues are. That it is not just in certain areas and districts but it happens across all areas.
I was a teacher for 21 years. Then I became a counselor for 17 years. My last 2 years were with the 2 worst admins I’d ever dealt with. I quit my job, but I said I was retiring. It wasn’t the kids, it was the admins. I didn’t want to work for a couple of 7th grade mean girls.
Thank you for speaking up for us.
Consequences and accountability. Those two would go a long way to fix things. I worked at a school once where there was a fight 2 or 3 times a week. Every time I’d write a referral the Discipline Coordinator would ask me, did you see this happen? What?! Why would i write the referral if I didn’t see it? SMH!
I’m not a teacher but I have a sister who is. I hear stories from her all the time! I’m a harder parent due to this. All I have to say is thank you for advocating for teachers from a teachers stand point. Our system needs more people like you.
Not only does this happen in schools it also in the work place no accountability for coming to or being late nor staying on the job while at work and the supervisor gets in trouble for not getting production when people don't do their job. No respect for authority.
Wow, this is all so new to me, I do believe everything, but it's like, I can't believe it!
You feel me! When I was in school, the teacher had the right to literally hit your hands with his or her ruler!!
If you still acted up and got sent to the principals office!! OH NO😪......NOT GOOD......HE HAD THE RIGHT TO PADDLE YOUR BOTTOM......WITH WHAT LOOKED LIKE A BIG PIZZA TAKER OUTTER.... Wow, and when you got home! Another whipping and grounded!! My heart goes out to ALL TEACHERS! 😍👍🙏❤