How To Give a Man The Pain That He Needs (Make him Obsessed)
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This is true for family too. They need to experience what your absence feels like when they take your presence for granted.
Inflicting pain on people with rejection and abandonment wounds a lot of times comes with strong reactions. Men have flipped their shit when I tell them I want alone time or I want to go home.
Scary
You pretty
Yes. They are usually the Dismissive Avoidants or Fearful Avoidants. Inflicting pain on them doesn’t work. It’s best to speak carefully and make a decision to either cut ties or try to make it work but it’s extremely difficult to do so if they aren’t aware of their attachment style and want to make it work by making real change.
@@MM-pb8ik it will work on someone they like just takes longer
@@ceyciemateo9411 thank you sweetheart! You are right it will work because they do want connection.
If you did wrong, and someone speaks the truth, then you deserve the pain you feel as a natural consequence of your own actions. You are supposed to grow from that. Just because you have trauma doesn’t mean everyone else has to put up with disrespect and hold their words back. You are not entitled to anything. He isn’t talking about randomly lashing out at people. He is talking about honest and truthful words and actions that can sometimes wound people’s pride. Because if they are wounded but accept the truth and want to work it out, your relationship will grow stronger.
I was so good to my first husband and he abused my kindness . I’m nice and sassy mean to my current husband I swear he loves it. If I’m too nice he starts a small fight for fun 🙄🤣
Reminds me of how guys act towards women that are not interested in them....
I heard we are supposed to treat the guys we are interested in the same way as the ones we are not... treating them like we aren't interested they will actually work harder
Hahaha
I love this😂
I wish I knew this information when I was in my 20s I’d prolly be married with some babies! But timing is everything currently 34 single and learning myself after a narcissist relationship. I was too nice as well and boy oh boy never again it will be earned
After 9 days of silence I think I am Done! We only just met but it hurts that I wasn't worth the effort in pursuit. I will get over it and consider that I dodged a bullet as if he can do this at the start, I need to protect my heart from these Playas 🙄
Girl their lost
Men are like boomerangs they always come back. When he comes back reject that clown 🤡!
Same here, going through same. There's this silence of 5 days. Idk should i wait till he calls or never pick it up again when he calls
@@thatshithitmehard20Go on and live your life.
Mf got me hoping they hit my line
I honestly loved this video, everything you are talking about it’s very true. You’re right it’s not just one way street, if people are allowed to have opinions but then they get defensive when you put them in their place. I honestly feel like they’re narcissistic. I’m okay with people letting me know if I am doing something wrong because I am open to make changes, but I do notice when I let others know their mistakes they get super defensive and start acting passive aggressive or with attitude 😅
I can accept criticism as well as take accountability. What I don't like is when a person has felt a certain way for awhile and has been hiding it until... To me that's fake.
Or they have childhood wounds. If you grow up never learning to speak your mind or people made fun of you for expressing emotions, you'll hide almost everything. I know men like that.
What’s awhile? 😅
I get what you're saying....but if they're going to inflict pain and make me hurt, I'd rather leave. I'm just that way. So, it doesn't make me fall in love. It makes me leave. 😅
Maybe look into healing that part of you that doesn’t like to hear truth that hurts.
@@EricaLaBelleTV it's unfortunate you came to the conclusion they're hurt by “truth”. What they said makes sense and is a healthier option.
I just saw you're a Christian who makes faith-base content yet you're watching a video on inflicting pain on men, it makes sense why you came here preaching down on someone.
@reginafigueroa7942 that is the better option, just to leave. Men who can't regulate their emotions, men who are sadistic, or who have childhood wounds will try to make you feel their pain.
Same, Regina!
@@EricaLaBelleTV inflicting pain on another isn't normal
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Make sure the person you try this on likes you. 😅
Someone called me out for being unintentional and unavailable. I genuinely did not care because I've told them severally i don't like them like that. It never bothered me at all.
The person has to at least care about you for this to work.
Even if one loves the other, it's not worth it. I'd just leave.
Exactly. I'm sick of all this🤦. For how long, if someone doesn't care about you, just leave
I wouldn’t care anyways
I didn’t even give pain and he’s already obsessed… well I take that back in the beginning… I just tap into thier insecurities which is usually abandonments or rejection… this is dangerous I’ve done it before without realizing it, then wonder why he’s stalking or acting crazy all I do is show a lot affection and attention then be inconsistent and take a step back then repeat… be careful 😂
😂😂😂😂 I have borderline personality disorder so this happens to me naturally..I am hot and cold..and I will never love you again as I loved you before which was pure unconditional love😂😂😂.
@@cynthia-jo1zzI almost typed something that would have you crying. Lol stop being a nuisance
Sounds like love bombing, sis
Sounds like intermittent reinforcement (hot and cold) behavior. This is toxic, btw.
or so you think 😂@@diamondsstatefinancialsolu6198
Love this message! 🥰🌹🌻 The background in your video is spectacular !
This makes sense thanks! You seem more mature with your advices as you get older.
He should have liked this coomment!
That green 💚 table is Absolutely beautiful 💯 did you paint it like that ?
People avoid pain to gain pleasure. Great video! Thank you❤️
Where are you? Love this space / background.
That's his home ❤
Didn’t work for Me
I recently called my ex out on ghosting Me , I was heartfelt but honest
He kept ghosting
My friend said what do You expect , If He so cruel to Ghost then He isn’t likely to sincerely apologise
This is true! Once gone sometimes they don’t come back. And we shouldn’t accept them back in if they do come back
If they ghosted you, just let them go. You deserve someone better. If they comeback and they usually do, don't open the door again.
Same here. I’m done with men.
That ain't the man for you,simple! It won't work on men who don't care about you and are egotistical.
Thats why it didn’t work. Never reach out to an ex that ghosted you,
It’s true, it works , as long you use your sixth sense common sense and empathy to do so
100% true , we all are wierd creatures😂
Father Alex is it OK if the comment section pops a cork while listening to you speak truth? ALCOHOL make great content more pleasurable
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Lol not the Modelo in the window 😂😂
Lmfao I am dead 1:35 maybe they don’t wash the dishes 😂I am listening to this washing my dishes that have been sitting here for a week finally and just so happen to hear this
Thank you for this Chanel. Keep going.
I think we are witnessing a narcissist and how they think. It is helpful to watch to see how manipulative some people can be, from their point of view. How a wounded man would treat women. If you are really truly evolved, you wouldn't go to all this effort to change others and their actions towards you. Just radiate love and the people who are meant for you will gravitate towards you and the ones who don't, won't. It is not up to us to make someone obsessed, because that is actually trying to control someone and causing pain is never right. I think its good to be honest but to do it for some sort of motive is a waste of your energy which should be conserved towards raising your own vibration. This guy is obviously kinda low key obsessed with himself.
💯 on point!’ Really enjoyed this video.
This background is so pretty ❤
Bravo! Excellent information
That can is about to fall over 😮
Bob the truth teller 😂
Your joke was hilarious 🤣
I can take anything but pain,u will never see me again.
I would have laughed at your joke and honestly matched your energy by adding to it
Not bc of you but bc that’s my kind of humor 🤪
Thanks for your insight!
Since we are at that topic, I don't like when you are drinking from bottle or smoking while doing a video. 😉
These contents and your followers deserve more respect.
People would have to have emotional intelligence in order to be able to benefit/grow from said discomfort (pain). Those without may take longer to get there, or never at all 😬
Tbh u just need to use this wisely. Its not like u should use this for every little problem ur unhappy with. I have the tendency to do this when this person did something to me which i feel its considered unfaithful
We need to talk ...
You should have podcasts
Don’t be rude honest. My ex complained and we had zero fights and all of a sudden he was rude and an argument ensued because he was so disrespectful and cruel. HOW a person says the truth is EVERYTHING. Our relationship which was beautiful was ruined. Probably because he listened to this guy and didn’t pay attention to the delivery. All this is manipulation.
It must be natural... genuine like not planned 😅
These are unexpected opportunities 😜
I work with a lot of women and they don’t know how to take me cause i laugh a little with some but straight to the point with others. I’m also quiet all the time they are shocked when somebody tries to be a bitch to me but I stand my ground and throw it right back. They literally stumble over their words
scooby doo mode 😅😅
You are so good !!
What if you curse them out and call them broke 😖 is there a chance? 😂
Just apologise and give space ❤ and take some time out to fill your cup girl
That harsh and immature. 😎
U pushing it now 🤣
That's a hoe tactic. They will open up the register But you gonna have to do alot of work. Dirty work. All raw. Not worth it.
That will def hurt his ego! 😂😂🎉@@Braveh3artGirl
I inflicted pain and they blocked me and left me. Not sure I recommend it.
They did not like you😅
Thx Alex ❤
Your right. I had to learn this the hard way. It's called self respect.
I thought it was funny…..🤭
Please try avoid repetition of words
I feel everything you say. Let's hook up ❤
U are so funny ❤
You can’t just tell the truth all the time 😂
I hate the f-king games. People hate you for telling the truth and they can get really angry. That can also be dangerous. If a woman challenges a man and he happens to be abusive...
You want me to inflict a little pain? Say less I'd rather inflict pain than be the nice girl
Always I gotta see how a man treat me when he upset 😂
❤❤❤thank you hottie!!
Facts
Yes
I don’t like that you drink like that during the video 😮
pure narcissistic advice. your narcissism likes to get off on giving toxic advice. you sold your soul already or maybe you werent born with one. best wishes golden rule
What is my guy looking at other women while hanging out togather. Staring literally. On a second date. What does that mean
Disrespect
Walk away.
It’s a cue for you to leave.
That mean You should RUN
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I never wanna hurt anyone ever again- been watching your channel since 2016 finally put my foot down on my boyfriend and he committed suicide 🥹
4:39 that's sexist