@@lauralittle6899 Then you are feeding him with negative supply! If a narc can´t get positive supply out of you they will settle for the negative. What they can´t stand is indifference. No contact is all about removing yourself from their toxicity 100%.
Time IS a narcissist's worst enemy! When my ex detonated my life, kicked me out of our home and moved her boyfriend in, that wasn't enough for her, she had to try to destroy me too. She told people I'd been violent and abusive, and I couldn't believe it when people actually believed her. There's nothing you can do when that happens, people who believe it won't come and ask you, they'll just cut you off. But, in the years since, I have been me, and she has been her. THAT is what eventually becomes their downfall. They can't be anything other than themselves... they can lie and act, but eventually everyone sees through them, Stay genuine, cut them off and just go on being yourself. Eventually, the people who matter will realize.
Yup I agree. My ex is the ultimate loser as she pushes normal decent people away and in me has lost a loyal, caring, loving lifetime partner. However I think it will only dawn on her in her old age once her looks have faded and her ability to draw people in has gone. Until then she will continue on the hamster wheel that she cannot step off
@MegaRockstar48, I agree. Women seem to get away with it longer because it's easy to replace men temporarily. Especially now with social media and dating sites. Even into older age they just become cougars and manipulate younger men.
As you said.. It just "seems like it"..remember..everything about them is fake.. Karma gets them..usually really fast... Their "hoovering back" to you is the best proof!! Just don"t enable them..their bad behaviour by forgiving them and taking them back!! Its really that simple..
The true SAD thing is...most ppl or victims just don"t want to hear the TRUTH...they just keep searching for excuses for the narc...and why to take them back ... And then they wonder why a narcissist is keeping behaving this way again and again... It's the victims who ENABLE them to behave like this..by forgiving and taking them back again and again.... If every narcissist in this world..would be IGNORED after their first lie, deceit, cheating, discarding you like trash etc.. They would be forever ALONE..in their own misery (what they deserve!!) .. but victims keep taking them back..forgiving etc... enable them and teach them it's ok to behave like this...
Im no longer playing Tom and Jerry. They will get haunted regardless. No need to get revenge, they will go down anyway. Be grateful you got a chance to get escape them. Don't ever let that parasite in your life ever again.
Yes! Our silence and indifference are our super powers. Plus, it’s much healthier emotionally to set and keep boundaries while we focus on ourselves and others as we move forward on our healing journey creating a beautiful life for ourselves. 💕🙏🏼😃📚📖
When someone discards you like trash...for someone else.. Never take them back! Ever!! They allready showed you...how much they love/care/respect you!! Actions..not words!!You will allways be for them just a 2nd,3rd..50th etc.. choise!! Have some self respect please!! They showed you allready every thing you need to know with their discard!!
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient..
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
Silence, gray rocking, being nonresponsive and unavailable will more than likely irritate them and intensify their anger…. however, it might take a bit of internal preparation on our part to try this knowing that their intensity and anger will increase. 🔥
I really thank you for giving me the clarity after being married with my wife for 25 years but you’re absolutely right everything you mention about everything being my fault she should never marry me. She said with somebody else I want to give you sex then after I feel like you was nothing for four years now, but still hard for you to understand why she is where she is now that you said that it will never change. Glad to hear that you’re right. She never give me a straight answer again.
I exposed him very harshly. I told him he was a narcissist and when he gave me more of his antics, I told him he graduated to sociopathic narcissistic status. Then, I left a ❤️ and said “love you.” He knows I discovered much about his crimes. He knows he’s a narcissist. I told him his habit of playing victim was highly unattractive. And he knows this game is dead😂
You sure?!!? Yep..with saying you love him and a ❤️ after you "harsh exposed him" you def showed him his game is over.. Yup..feels really harsh...I bet he's still trembling and 😪especially after a ❤ in the end..🙄😂😂😂
Afraid of the unknown? Jealous and insecure by nature, I've noticed that. But the only consequences I've ever seen them afraid of someone more powerul of them, say someone in a higher position, or the law. Aside from that, it's just a spoilt child that gets angry when they can't have it their way, the usual, they're important, they matter, and they get off on taking that dignity away from you.
What’s worse is when it is a partner & it can vary from subtle to obvious. This makes perfect sense & no matter how much you try to voice your concerns and expect empathy, this is the best way to diminish their so called power.
Been watching all of your videos for a couple of weeks the last three days I think I’ve watched every single one. I’ve learnt so much I know she’s not to blame for everything but there was so many red flags I never saw.
Thanks SO MUCH. Have watched videos on this subject. I know a Narcissist. I was so baffled by this person. I was SURE there was something wrong & I knew it wasn't me. FINALLY I found your videos and they hit the nail on the head. I know this because something in me finally SNAPPED one day & took myself out of the picture. I am completely unresponsive and back in control of ME.
Like I don't want to hurt her, but I know that in order for her to change or at the very least, realize that she is a narcissist, I have to hurt her by staying away from her, and forget about her, and be happy on my own. I mean, there is no problem in me doing that, but just that feeling of hurting a woman like this doesn't make me happy at all =/
If you were raised by a narc, the 'go back to who you used to be' advice still applies. Took me 3yrs into no contact to discover my real personality, after a lifetime of being the scapegoat. The way it works is the narc panics when you enter toddlerhood and you're not a glorified baby doll for them to parade around for 'look what I made' attention from strangers. You have opinions, you might be sassy, you might sing all the time, you might love bugs in the garden, etc. None of that is acceptable to the narc, so the conditioning begins, be that golden child role or scapegoat role (other roles exist too, but these are the big ones). So yeah. After a certain point in recovery, don't be surprised if you're suddenly sassy, sing all the time, love looking at bugs in the garden or other quirks and behaviour changes pop up. That's just your original personality coming back.
This is exactly what I'm doing now..nothing triggers me anymore..now I'm laughing at her pretend we still have a relationship. I have put her in an impossible position of having her reciprocate and making it clear i won't lift a finger till she does..it's Xmas time and she's been posting all about Xmas expectations but now knows better not to ask me what she's getting..cause she can tell I won't do anything for her. Imagine: her birthday is on Xmas day..for 3 years she got 2 gifts..but now gone. I know she will try to Manipulate so I know what to expect..at this point I'm just riding the bus of relationship die a slow natural death.. I did a lot for her and family but I'm 90% done..but I'm griefing the inevitable without giving her one more penny
Basically I'm slowly getting her out of my system because it's a little hard to do a hard break..took me a while to get here but not much longer before I totally let her go..its a customized process...plus I'm coldly enjoying cutting off the financial supply she took for granted
We were having a conversation and he got me to agree with something that’s against my morals for the next day. I couldn’t sleep all night The next day I blocked him. It’s been almost 2 months. Yes I want to be the person I was before, happy and on my own. just working on getting my Life back again 😊 it’s going to take some time 💔 but I reflect on our relationship and it wasn’t til I got out I came to grips to the BS i actually allowed. Can you say Co-dependent!!!!!! 😕
I left in silence no warning nothing cut him off blocked him everywhere 3 months ago. He started intermittent silent treatments and being passive aggressive the day after I came back from spending 3 days with him. No reaction from me just silence no chasing him nothing. Waited for 3 days to see if he apologised nope so I blocked him everywhere and blocked and deleted his phone number. Think he was expecting me to chase after him no chance he was very much mistaken. It backfired on him big time.
I love your videos. I can't tell you how much they truly help. Thank you so much. I love your name, too. Is Anoushka Russian? It can also be Arabic. It's beautiful
I’m getting myself back to my old self. I left him after 8 yrs. But found out it was other women. So he’s not chasing me like he used to to. Just a call every other week
I never once chased after him throughput the almost 2 years he alway chased after me. I never text him unless he text me first. Or never rang him. We were friends for well over a year before meeting up. Bigistake on my part Yes i cut him off no warning nothing.
I’ve walked away gone no contact I feel so guilty for this there was no choice the mental abuse got to much is this the best way to break the trauma bond
relax your feelings are normal. guilt, remorse. and accountability , is proof that your not a narc . but it is something they will never, and can never feel. live well and stay smart : )
All this is well and good, but the time and effort it would take to "make the narcissist miserable" I could see it being better spent on pursuing my hobbies, and those people who are real, my cat, etc. I've already wasted enough time on these narcissistic zombies.
"The narcissist relies on chaos and the urgency to be able to manipulate."
That hit home.
No contact coming up to 3 years and I love it
How can you stand it ?. I haven't been able to do it because I keep telling him off over and over for my own satisfaction. 😮
Wow🎉🎉
@@lauralittle6899 Then you are feeding him with negative supply! If a narc can´t get positive supply out of you they will settle for the negative. What they can´t stand is indifference. No contact is all about removing yourself from their toxicity 100%.
@@lauralittle6899that’s exactly what he wants. Try total silence. 😉
Time IS a narcissist's worst enemy! When my ex detonated my life, kicked me out of our home and moved her boyfriend in, that wasn't enough for her, she had to try to destroy me too. She told people I'd been violent and abusive, and I couldn't believe it when people actually believed her. There's nothing you can do when that happens, people who believe it won't come and ask you, they'll just cut you off. But, in the years since, I have been me, and she has been her. THAT is what eventually becomes their downfall. They can't be anything other than themselves... they can lie and act, but eventually everyone sees through them, Stay genuine, cut them off and just go on being yourself. Eventually, the people who matter will realize.
But you better have went no contact with all their flying monkeys too…. They don’t get to come back in your life after they realize the truth.
Got the tee shirt too buddy
Same thing happened to me..she had me arrested and charged.. I'm a single Dad with my youngest child now.
It seems like they do what they want and Get away With everything With a smile…
Yup I agree. My ex is the ultimate loser as she pushes normal decent people away and in me has lost a loyal, caring, loving lifetime partner. However I think it will only dawn on her in her old age once her looks have faded and her ability to draw people in has gone. Until then she will continue on the hamster wheel that she cannot step off
@MegaRockstar48, I agree. Women seem to get away with it longer because it's easy to replace men temporarily. Especially now with social media and dating sites. Even into older age they just become cougars and manipulate younger men.
As you said.. It just "seems like it"..remember..everything about them is fake.. Karma gets them..usually really fast... Their "hoovering back" to you is the best proof!! Just don"t enable them..their bad behaviour by forgiving them and taking them back!! Its really that simple..
@@okram75
I did that once. No more.They Are FAKE!
The true SAD thing is...most ppl or victims just don"t want to hear the TRUTH...they just keep searching for excuses for the narc...and why to take them back ...
And then they wonder why a narcissist is keeping behaving this way again and again... It's the victims who ENABLE them to behave like this..by forgiving and taking them back again and again....
If every narcissist in this world..would be IGNORED after their first lie, deceit, cheating, discarding you like trash etc..
They would be forever ALONE..in their own misery (what they deserve!!) .. but victims keep taking them back..forgiving etc... enable them and teach them it's ok to behave like this...
Im no longer playing Tom and Jerry. They will get haunted regardless. No need to get revenge, they will go down anyway. Be grateful you got a chance to get escape them. Don't ever let that parasite in your life ever again.
Yes! Our silence and indifference are our super powers. Plus, it’s much healthier emotionally to set and keep boundaries while we focus on ourselves and others as we move forward on our healing journey creating a beautiful life for ourselves. 💕🙏🏼😃📚📖
When someone discards you like trash...for someone else.. Never take them back! Ever!! They allready showed you...how much they love/care/respect you!! Actions..not words!!You will allways be for them just a 2nd,3rd..50th etc.. choise!! Have some self respect please!! They showed you allready every thing you need to know with their discard!!
Couldn't have said it any better myself... Best comment hands down..... 🎯
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient..
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Silence, gray rocking, being nonresponsive and unavailable will more than likely irritate them and intensify their anger…. however, it might take a bit of internal preparation on our part to try this knowing that their intensity and anger will increase. 🔥
Toxic people harass, hassle, and hustle you
And cyberstalk you
Great advice. Live your best life! As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, living your best life is the best revenge.
I really thank you for giving me the clarity after being married with my wife for 25 years but you’re absolutely right everything you mention about everything being my fault she should never marry me. She said with somebody else I want to give you sex then after I feel like you was nothing for four years now, but still hard for you to understand why she is where she is now that you said that it will never change. Glad to hear that you’re right. She never give me a straight answer again.
I exposed him very harshly. I told him he was a narcissist and when he gave me more of his antics, I told him he graduated to sociopathic narcissistic status. Then, I left a ❤️ and said “love you.” He knows I discovered much about his crimes. He knows he’s a narcissist. I told him his habit of playing victim was highly unattractive. And he knows this game is dead😂
I did the same thing to that dog narcissist I was with called him out!! He was so mad he admitted it to me that he was😯😂
You sure?!!? Yep..with saying you love him and a ❤️ after you "harsh exposed him" you def showed him his game is over.. Yup..feels really harsh...I bet he's still trembling and 😪especially after a ❤ in the end..🙄😂😂😂
Afraid of the unknown? Jealous and insecure by nature, I've noticed that. But the only consequences I've ever seen them afraid of someone more powerul of them, say someone in a higher position, or the law. Aside from that, it's just a spoilt child that gets angry when they can't have it their way, the usual, they're important, they matter, and they get off on taking that dignity away from you.
What’s worse is when it is a partner & it can vary from subtle to obvious.
This makes perfect sense & no matter how much you try to voice your concerns and expect empathy, this is the best way to diminish their so called power.
Been watching all of your videos for a couple of weeks the last three days I think I’ve watched every single one. I’ve learnt so much I know she’s not to blame for everything but there was so many red flags I never saw.
Annushka is a goddess..saving our mental and physical health!!
Excellent content, this is so true.
I have walked away and gone totally silent.
He has tried and failed to hoover me.
Thanks SO MUCH. Have watched videos on this subject. I know a Narcissist. I was so baffled by this person. I was SURE there was something wrong & I knew it wasn't me. FINALLY I found your videos and they hit the nail on the head. I know this because something in me finally SNAPPED one day & took myself out of the picture. I am completely unresponsive and back in control of ME.
Winning an living my best life annoskia 🔥🔥🔥
Great advice. Live your best life!
Like I don't want to hurt her, but I know that in order for her to change or at the very least, realize that she is a narcissist, I have to hurt her by staying away from her, and forget about her, and be happy on my own. I mean, there is no problem in me doing that, but just that feeling of hurting a woman like this doesn't make me happy at all =/
If you were raised by a narc, the 'go back to who you used to be' advice still applies. Took me 3yrs into no contact to discover my real personality, after a lifetime of being the scapegoat.
The way it works is the narc panics when you enter toddlerhood and you're not a glorified baby doll for them to parade around for 'look what I made' attention from strangers.
You have opinions, you might be sassy, you might sing all the time, you might love bugs in the garden, etc.
None of that is acceptable to the narc, so the conditioning begins, be that golden child role or scapegoat role (other roles exist too, but these are the big ones).
So yeah. After a certain point in recovery, don't be surprised if you're suddenly sassy, sing all the time, love looking at bugs in the garden or other quirks and behaviour changes pop up. That's just your original personality coming back.
This is exactly what I'm doing now..nothing triggers me anymore..now I'm laughing at her pretend we still have a relationship. I have put her in an impossible position of having her reciprocate and making it clear i won't lift a finger till she does..it's Xmas time and she's been posting all about Xmas expectations but now knows better not to ask me what she's getting..cause she can tell I won't do anything for her. Imagine: her birthday is on Xmas day..for 3 years she got 2 gifts..but now gone. I know she will try to Manipulate so I know what to expect..at this point I'm just riding the bus of relationship die a slow natural death..
I did a lot for her and family but I'm 90% done..but I'm griefing the inevitable without giving her one more penny
Basically I'm slowly getting her out of my system because it's a little hard to do a hard break..took me a while to get here but not much longer before I totally let her go..its a customized process...plus I'm coldly enjoying cutting off the financial supply she took for granted
We were having a conversation and he got me to agree with something that’s against my morals for the next day. I couldn’t sleep all night The next day I blocked him. It’s been almost 2 months. Yes I want to be the person I was before, happy and on my own. just working on getting my
Life back again 😊 it’s going to take some time 💔 but I reflect on our relationship and it wasn’t til I got out I came to grips to the BS i actually allowed. Can you say Co-dependent!!!!!! 😕
I left in silence no warning nothing cut him off blocked him everywhere 3 months ago. He started intermittent silent treatments and being passive aggressive the day after I came back from spending 3 days with him. No reaction from me just silence no chasing him nothing. Waited for 3 days to see if he apologised nope so I blocked him everywhere and blocked and deleted his phone number. Think he was expecting me to chase after him no chance he was very much mistaken. It backfired on him big time.
My now X husband didn't care,he was already playing with his coworker. Im just focused on me cuz the damage they cause is ruthless
Brush the dirt off your shoulders with the help of a loving man who UNDERSTANDS!! 🌺
@honestpainter right now I'm focusing upon God,myself and reestablishing my Home🙏
Excellent explanation ❤🎉.
Great insight and advice!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Excellent.
Spot on 🎉
Thank you.x
There is a line in a move that fits this situation. In WAR GAMES the machine says at the end. "Strange Game" "The only winning move is not to play".
Silence ❤️🔥
I love your videos. I can't tell you how much they truly help. Thank you so much. I love your name, too. Is Anoushka Russian? It can also be Arabic. It's beautiful
I’m getting myself back to my old self. I left him after 8 yrs. But found out it was other women. So he’s not chasing me like he used to to. Just a call every other week
I never once chased after him throughput the almost 2 years he alway chased after me. I never text him unless he text me first. Or never rang him. We were friends for well over a year before meeting up. Bigistake on my part
Yes i cut him off no warning nothing.
I’ve walked away gone no contact I feel so guilty for this there was no choice the mental abuse got to much is this the best way to break the trauma bond
relax your feelings are normal. guilt, remorse. and accountability , is proof that your not a narc . but it is something they will never, and can never feel. live well and stay smart : )
All this is well and good, but the time and effort it would take to "make the narcissist miserable" I could see it being better spent on pursuing my hobbies, and those people who are real, my cat, etc. I've already wasted enough time on these narcissistic zombies.
crazy creatures
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