Nate Bagley! One of the things I love and respect about your work is that you are modeling vulnerability by not being afraid to GO THERE in your illustrations. I don't know very many men, or women, who would be willing to share cringy things that happen to them so that they can ultimately help others. You remind me of our pastor. Keeping it authentic. And I am so proud of your wife for approaching you instead of missing out on your awesome future together! It took maturity on both your sides! These approaches to conflict are very helpful and after the Epic Wives course I've had good results from them 🎉
Thank you for the clarifying the difference between sharing your thoughts and sharing your feelings. This is the first video I've seen from you, but I'm now subscribing to your channel. Is there a link for the next video you referred to?
I really enjoyed this!!! I always say “like” when I start a conversation and I was wondering why it wasn’t always affective. I was told to always say “I feel like” so I’m not pointing the finger but the way you explained it makes sense
I just wanna say that I’ve been watching a lot of videos about improving marriage/relationship and you’re the first that cared about not being gender normative - cause in my situation, we are 2 woman. I don’t usually feel seen. So thank you.
Excellent advice. I can confirm by own experience that the harsh startup has never worked for me and struggling for a better way to communicate. Since I have a multicultural background, I was wondering whether this advice also works across cultural borders.
Thank you so much for these videos. I am a huge fan of the Gottman's I love the easy way you break down their teachings. In another video you used your wife's analogy of dirty dishes in the sink and how much easier they are to clean if you clean them as they happen. I'm curious what to do if you have seven years of dirty dishes in the sink that you've avoided cleaning. I definitely feel like trying to clean them all at once would be overwhelming to my partner. Any suggestions?
Unbelievable. Adult man needs girlfriend to *ask for permission* to be his mommy and show him how to have basic personal hygiene. THE BAR IS WAY TOO LOW.
I used to make comments like this on youTube, and years later when someone liked them for some reason and they popped up as a notification, I felt ashamed to read how I used to displace my anger about my own experiences onto others. I hear your pain!
@@Kieslowski1 please do not project onto me. I am not displacing anger. This man’s example of the soft start up is hideously embarrassing. Men need to raise the standards for themselves. It is a widely recognized phenomenon that women everywhere are leveling up and are not interested in men who cannot meet them where they are. Men fall behind women when it comes to social-emotional skills. Not only do men need to brush their teeth regularly without a grown-up to supervise them, they are also expected to practice self awareness, self regulation, social awareness, relationship skills and responsible decision making. Men have been making women’s lives miserable for centuries- meanwhile, women have been the prize all along. If a man wants to enjoy all the benefits of having a woman in his life, he needs to raise his own standards or stop complaining about being alone. Your comment only proves my point.
Nate Bagley! One of the things I love and respect about your work is that you are modeling vulnerability by not being afraid to GO THERE in your illustrations. I don't know very many men, or women, who would be willing to share cringy things that happen to them so that they can ultimately help others. You remind me of our pastor. Keeping it authentic. And I am so proud of your wife for approaching you instead of missing out on your awesome future together! It took maturity on both your sides! These approaches to conflict are very helpful and after the Epic Wives course I've had good results from them 🎉
Thanks Gina! That means so much. Really.
100% agree!
The tip about avoiding "I feel like you..." is brilliant, and so on point!! Gonna share this vid for sure.
Thank you for the clarifying the difference between sharing your thoughts and sharing your feelings. This is the first video I've seen from you, but I'm now subscribing to your channel. Is there a link for the next video you referred to?
I appreciate the actual examples. Thank you
So glad it was helpful!
I really enjoyed this!!! I always say “like” when I start a conversation and I was wondering why it wasn’t always affective. I was told to always say “I feel like” so I’m not pointing the finger but the way you explained it makes sense
I feel = emotion
I feel like = thought
I just wanna say that I’ve been watching a lot of videos about improving marriage/relationship and you’re the first that cared about not being gender normative - cause in my situation, we are 2 woman. I don’t usually feel seen. So thank you.
🌈❤️
Great advice and explanations, thank you!
Bless you for sharing your story. Great example of showing humility ❤
So many good tips. Thank you!
Excellent advice. I can confirm by own experience that the harsh startup has never worked for me and struggling for a better way to communicate. Since I have a multicultural background, I was wondering whether this advice also works across cultural borders.
You're so right. That harsh startup NEVER works.
Loved this advice
Thanks for letting me know!
Once again, another very valuable video. Thank you, Nate!
Always.
Great video
Great comment.
Thank you so much for these videos. I am a huge fan of the Gottman's I love the easy way you break down their teachings. In another video you used your wife's analogy of dirty dishes in the sink and how much easier they are to clean if you clean them as they happen. I'm curious what to do if you have seven years of dirty dishes in the sink that you've avoided cleaning. I definitely feel like trying to clean them all at once would be overwhelming to my partner. Any suggestions?
Did I miss the link for the negativity threshold stuff?
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Be gender normative - it's far more clear.
Yeah, it can definitely get confusing. Thanks for the feedback.
Unbelievable. Adult man needs girlfriend to *ask for permission* to be his mommy and show him how to have basic personal hygiene. THE BAR IS WAY TOO LOW.
I used to make comments like this on youTube, and years later when someone liked them for some reason and they popped up as a notification, I felt ashamed to read how I used to displace my anger about my own experiences onto others. I hear your pain!
@@Kieslowski1 please do not project onto me. I am not displacing anger. This man’s example of the soft start up is hideously embarrassing. Men need to raise the standards for themselves. It is a widely recognized phenomenon that women everywhere are leveling up and are not interested in men who cannot meet them where they are. Men fall behind women when it comes to social-emotional skills. Not only do men need to brush their teeth regularly without a grown-up to supervise them, they are also expected to practice self awareness, self regulation, social awareness, relationship skills and responsible decision making. Men have been making women’s lives miserable for centuries- meanwhile, women have been the prize all along. If a man wants to enjoy all the benefits of having a woman in his life, he needs to raise his own standards or stop complaining about being alone. Your comment only proves my point.
You miss the entire point. nothing more to say. @julieholt7889