@@BRZkomarov do you know how this works? you telling people to not be shy doesn't work at all, that's like telling somebody with cancer to just get better, i dont fucking care if im over reacting.
What we can do to help people with social anxiety to relax a little bit when talking? I don't have this, I'm just very shy, but I can talk with people with a little more effort, so I don't understand you guys, but I'm trying to... How can I help? If someone with social anxiety try to talk with me, so I don't scare them, or I don't know... make things worse? Or if I see someone alone with this, should I try to talk? Better not? Give me advices, to smooth life for you guys!!
Sometimes i tried not to think that i'm going to be judges by the way that i drees etc. But i do feel my heart pounding like crazy wich i can't stand so i tried to walk fast and get out of there
I eat really fast even when I'm alone because it's just a reflex at this point. The faster I do things, the less time people are paying attention to me for. It causes acid reflux so I'm trying to stop, but it's hard to do.
@@bihayalimyok300 From someone with social anxiety, maybe you feel like you're being judged because you're subconsciously judging yourself. Try not to be so hard on yourself. I notice I feel most anxious when I'm showing a side of myself that I'm insecure about meanwhile, the other person isn't even paying attention to whatever it is at the time.
Alex J Alex J You have no idea how much I relate to this, without even making a mistake , by just talking to people, I can't look at them in the eyes thinking that they'll laugh at my personality and how weird I am, and sadly, I end up acting weirder and feel extremely embarrassed about it knowing that it"s the only way for me to escape the situation and that I'll redo it again and again.
Unluckiest Creature Alive, HeyItsKyra ! Me too, when I heard those words, I was like "That's me, literally me". I have a really good memory, so I think that everything I do is embarrassing and everyone will remember it till I die. So I'm constantly nervous. But the truth is that no one cares. I wish I could see that, but I don't.
Alex J I completely understand what you're talking about, and the worst thing about anxiety is wondering if you'll ever be understood or feel normal again, so here's a small piece of advice that I hope would help you in that case, a gentle reminder that the bad feelings will eventually go away can work wonders because you'll remember to anticipate that better time, it's like a beacon of hope. Well then, may god help you feel calm whenever you're most anxious, stressed, and worried, and may your burdens get released and days be filled with peace.😊
@@williamknudsen4856 True. The teacher keeps saying that I'm shy, when I really do want to speak to others with confidence but can't because fear takes over. I hate it when teachers pick on me to say something that I clearly am uncomfortable doing. I over-analyze that people will just judge me if I ever said anything.
The most depressing part is that, when you tried your best to be friendly, and then suddenly, it became awkard. After that, you'll start questioning yourself, backtracking every words you've said, then thinking all the flaws you did, and deciding not to talk to anybody, anymore. 😅😅😅
Yeah I definitely think that's how social anxiety starts for a lot of people. You try what you think is right but then it doesn't work so it wasn't right after all? What else am I doing that's not right? And you get in this spiral of overthinking bam, social anxiety in the house
So true I get an improvement about that aspect and know I can see All the opportunities I lost and it hurts a lot but now I can be happy I can be alive again
When you want to go to therapy because you're pretty sure you have social anxiety but you don't want to tell your parents because you're sure they'll only answer "you're just imagining it"
@@Len-nl2jf yeah my mom's just gonna ground me for even suggesting that i have something like anxiety without her telling me. She'll just end up ranting about how she knows me and that she just KNOWS that i don't have it.
Desta Melaku I think if my dad knew I had social anxiety he’d be supportive of me and not judge me for it. He got a call from my school saying that I’m gonna be in a program or something and that I’m gonna be in classes with fewer students because I hated being in big classes. But I really hope your mom could understand you and listen to you, hope everything works out
"social anxiety doesn't just ruin your life, it stops you from living it" hit HARD. i lost all my friends in 8th grade and now im in highschool. funnily enough, i havent made any new friends. school without closer bonds is terrifying, not to mention about most grades involving speaking. seeing people my age talking, laughing, going out and living their lifes hurts on a different level
Same and my friends joke about having anxiety and are like imagine having anxiety and it makes me feel upset because my anxiety makes my life miserable and I cry about it all the time
Or “why don’t you speak up” when I have to give a presentation 😭 Also, F the people who can’t understand that we hate talking in front of others! Also, the fact I have a high-pitched voice makes me feel self-conscious whenever I even have to utter one simple reply. Hence, the mumbling...
But they are. When you're in the car, don't you also look at them? And yes, everyone is making assumptions. But so what? That's human behavior. And remember: you'll never see them again. So fuck it. Let them stare.
What helped me with (social) anxiety is starting to speak WAY more kindly to yourself. The world is hard enough as it is. Please don't be hard on yourself too. Be your own cheerleader, have your own back. You all are working so hard just to survive. I recommend watching Mel Robbins. She has amazing tips and tools to help you make life a little bit easier.
that's true, it started to improve when I started to be gentle to myself, loving yourself even with your flaws is the best start to work on these flaws
Alejo Me at university right now living in student accommodation! When I need to cook and I’ve got my hand on the door handle ready to go to the kitchen, but I hear talking in the kitchen so I just mentally battle myself like “I need food! But there’s so many voices out there... but health! But awkwardness...” I leave my hand on the handle for ages til the noise dies down, sink to the floor and breath slowly for a bit, then go and eat. If it’s like one or two people at most, and I can hear who they are? If I know who they are and know I’m better at talking to them than other flatmates when we’re alone, I’ll probably manage to leave my room, even if I don’t say much, I’m better at talking to just one or maybe two people than talking in groups where I just feel left out. It just means there’s more opportunities to improve my social skills cause they have nobody else to talk to. But omg I spend so much time with my hand of my bedroom door handle feeling anxious because of loud flatmates on the other side. If I hear laughing it makes me really sad and makes me dive into thoughts like “they’re laughing and having fun... and look at me, hiding in my room. If I was more confident, I could be out there. Laughing with them...”
I'd stand outside and pace trying to reverse how I enter or stand or sit. Worse if I'm late and everyone stares at me and I end up standing up awkwardly trying to figure out where to go. And end up standing with a group of acquaintances. Then they realise how awkward I am then I get nervous and start panicking
I always leave my headphones on my head when I'm in public. Even if I'm not listening to music, I'll still have it on my head at all times to avoid interaction.
It's hard I know, but don't give up. Sometimes I think my life would be better spent if I went out and helped people in need all day every day and just forget about myself and everything else.
Go the other way. Stop saying “What do people think of me?” Start thinking “What do I think of them?” And heal any trauma based around social rejection. Let yourself feel the pain and eventually you will accept it.
damn, i’m in the same boat, 29 without a career due to dropping out of college. i wear a mask to work, even though it’s 2023, didn’t have the courage to not wear it. 😢 worse part is people know im socially anxious as i never make eye contact with anyone. taking some new medication, though… hopefully it helps
@@pieceofpie5402 it's good if you can practice making eye contact with strangers on the street. It can seem hard at first but it gets easier, then just smile when they make eye contact with you. just try a little bit each day
I'm guessing it's a weak attempt that's literally begging for everyone to ignore you lol. But to be honest, even normal pple get ignored and talked over every now and then. It's very normal. Only difference is they don't imagine negatively or too much into it, or see it as an attack on their self-identity etc.
Walking in ANYWHERE and everyone's head turns. It is THEE worst feeling ever. I go into panic mode...which makes them stare more...which makes me panic more....which makes them stare more...which makes me panic more. Never ending cycle. I would never turn around and look at someone who just walked in......1 I don't care..... 2 I would be too anxious to look anyway.
yess..exactly i am Engineering student and i am 22 but i am severly afraid of doing prezentation, or even to walk normaly around people who are just boys and girls of same age...! i am very afraid of starting any conversation with even classmates..i cannot talk to girls.. i lost my close friends, i failed at one subject and got year down(wasted year) i cannot talk to anyone about all this and i am depressed and hopeless worried about my future... i dont know why i just type all this sorry😓
Only the person having social anxiety knows how hard it is to live with.It’s like shutting yourself in an image you create of yourself to hide from being judge but in the end don't know how to behave anymore🖤🖤🖤
The worst is when you have that rare day when you feel confident and social, and then somebody has to say something that knocks your confidence, and you crawl back into that shell again. Seriously, f those people. Edit: I just wanted to say that you all sound like amazing people, and anyone putting you guys down sucks. Wish you all the best ❤
This happened to me today I was finally feeling ok and did my make up and dressed up and then family started saying how I look like I’m trying to be sexual and how I need to act like a lady and it ruined my whole day:/
My ‘close friend’, Emma, what I should really acquaintance, when I told her I had social anxiety (over messages) in later August, I shared with her the symptoms of the disorder, and she immediately self-diagnosed and said: “we both have a lot in common... i think i have social anxiety too, a mild case”. However, this was, is and never will be true. I see her communicating with our friends confidently, loudly and with full eye contact/etc, as well as with her family on her phone. She doesn’t stutter, and her oral presentations (for assessments) are pretty great and clear. Soon I allowed Emma to tell my other close friend, Cami, about my problems with social anxiety, but that didn’t go so well. Emma had made my condition look mild and ‘easy to get over/overcome’: Emma: Emily has social anxiety, and I have it too, but a mild case, that’s why she’s quiet. Cami: Oh.. I see... she is really quiet, you can be too, that’s fine. Cami is beginning to drift away from me and talk to other friends in our group more, and she kind of tries to run away/hide from me so she doesn’t have to talk to me all the time, because I’m ‘clingy’ (which I kind of am). Also, I’m genuinely very pissed right now, because where in the hell do you show any symptoms of social anxiety, Emma? You told Cami you had social anxiety too? A mild case? Or are you just diagnosing your mild case of shyness as a mild case of social anxiety? You’ve made Cami as well as yourself look as if social anxiety is easy and straightforward to overcome, as if it was mild shyness. It’s much worse than that. Don’t suddenly self-diagnose yourself with social anxiety because you haven’t been talking to people as much today - that was just a like ‘one-time’ thing. Compare and contrast yourself throughly with the symptoms, don’t be so straightforward. Emma and Cami don’t really talk to me much nowadays, unless if we sit next to each other in our classes or they needed something from me. Now at lunch I sit near the group, but alone and silent. Thanks for making social anxiety look like mild shyness that can be overcome very *easily!* Thank you so much Emma, I appreciated that!!! (Emma and Cami are just random names I used, not their real names)
I am 70 and have lived with social anxiety since my mid teenage years. I became aware of it was when in my early twenties. I learned to cope with it as soon as I accepted it and learned to embrace it. I’ve lived and worked alone for much of my adult life, and enjoy my life very much. However, until I found a way to support myself with a minimum of social interaction, it could be very difficult. The important thing for me was to accept it as being the way I am and learn to live with it. Others live their lives differently than me, but I am just as happy on my own as anyone with a lot of social interaction. Learn to take care of who you are and don’t compare your life to the lives of others. 😊
My dad used to treat me badly and i was bullied from some bad students 3 years of middle school that's the main cause of my social fears , what about u?
Samee but now that the pandemic is over..I can‘t wear one because nobody is doing it and I don‘t want people to stare. I had to put all my courage together to stop coming to school with a mask anyway.
Y.E.S I have a naturally quiet voice so ppl tell me to speak up ALL THE TIME. And it feels weird to talk louder than that because it makes me sound weird and then I get self conscious and insecure so I usually choose not to talk at all
always in class. the teachers pick me WITHOUT ME RAISING MY HAND and then i say something and then they are like “i cAn’T hEaR YoU” and i speak up and the answer is wrong then i start blushing and in the worst case they even point it out and i’m just there like AHHH
For real. Like no I had a literal disorder and needed help but my teachers just wrote me off as "not wanting to participate" even though I was a stellar student otherwise.
So true. And that feeling when you think of an answer and you are not sure if it's right and then it turns out that you were right but never said that and now you hate yourself for that
That happened to me in 6th grade, I was so confident. And this annoying guy named Danny called me a dumbass in front of the class and a lot of people laughed. The teacher just said “that’s not nice Danny” and that’s it. I’m in 7th grade now.
ok imagine if you are walking on the streets and ou saw somone talking. do you judge him and thing that he is a weirdo ? no cuz that is not how humans act and btw dont feel judged people got places to be. somthing to do they probably didnt even look at you. so dont feel judged unless you are doing somthing bad
literally same as my heart is beating out of my chest scared that my voice is gonna crack or i'm gonna pronounce a word funny while it feels like everyones eyes are locked on me
Forever5elena and coughing so many times before reading so your voice doesn’t crack, having extremely sweaty and shaky hands and your face turning so red while you’re reading so you try to hide your face with your hand or behind the book
jungkooksdumplings I always think about everything I say, but I still screw up, I thought my classmates were disgusted by me because I had a cold and kept blowing my nose every 2 minutes but in reality they weren’t.
This is the most relatable video I’ve ever seen. I’ve always known I’ve had social anxiety but people have always told me that I’m ‘just shy’, when really, it is SO much more than just being ‘shy’. Also the cinematography in this video is absolutely stunning!
The problem with highschool is you're stuck their with the same people for years. Out in public my social anxiety isn't as bad because I don't really care what people I'm never going to see again think of me, but in school you have to go back and see them the next day. Deep down, I don't really care what people think of me, but my anxiety tells me I should and then I end up caring. The moment someone even notices me I get anxious.
I just don't understand why we feel this way. Why some of us have to deal with this. Why I start to panic as soon as a stranger starts talking to me. Why interactions steal my confidence and self-worth.
Praise Max even though he isn’t above us. People like this usually have the lowest IQ, and end up on the bottom of the food chain. The reason people who have social anxiety tend to be smarter and more artistic is because these people like to know how and why things work. When they can’t figure it out, that’s where the social anxiety part comes in... fear of the unknown if you will.
"Social Anxiety doesn't ruin your life. It stops you from living it at all" Yeah I'm 21 with no friends, never had a boyfriend, or even been kissed because of it.
Same one time in school I raised my hand and a classmate said „ohhhh Alexa u can raise your hand?“ I directly stopped raising my hand and didn’t speak for the rest of the lesson...
- When I eat in public I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me - When I cross the road I feel like all the people in the car are staring at me - When I walk normally I think: am I walking weird? Are my arms swinging to much? Are those people laughing at me? Why are they whispering? - When my teacher calls my name I say “here” and I think: does my voice sound weird? Was it too squeaky? Did it crack? Why is everyone looking at me now? - When I walk into class after going to the toilet or something I feel like everyone’s head is turning towards me - When people say “I can’t hear you” - When I’m in a shop and someone is in the way so I just awkwardly pretend to look at stuff until the move - I feel like I can’t trust any of my friends because I’m to afraid they will tell my other friends stuff that I told them etc - When a boy I like likes me I can’t help but avoid them - When I wear a shirt/shorts or just show any bit of skin I feel super anxious - Sometimes I talk low and I mumble and nobody’s hears me - I feel awkward when I need help in class - It makes me so scared being in large crowds - I find it hard going to social events - I start to cry when something happens - I don’t like to text first because I have a horrible fear of bothering people so I just am terrified to message first - When it’s gym and people picks the team I’m praying that I won’t get picked last - Sometimes I can’t breathe and my chest hurt - My palms are getting sweaty when I’m feeling anxious - Sometimes my friends invite me out but I just lie and say I can’t - My whole body shakes uncontrollably and I start to hyperventilate - I’m feeling cold or it’s like a heat wave inside of my body - I can’t sleep I just start to think about something stupid I did 5 years ago - I want to die but I’m afraid to - People call me dramatic but they don’t really understand what’s going on - In class my heart starts racing - I avoid eye contact - I always say “what if ...” - I care to much - I turn red - My heart is racing - Hard swallowing and feeling like I have something in my throat - Always assuming the worst case scenario - I start to yell - Bite inside of my cheek and crack my knuckles I squeeze things to feel more calm but it never helps - When it’s my turn to answer in class is getting near I get nervous and constantly reading the line over and over again - When I read in class I talk to fast - Relying on others to help me instead of trying myself - When I mess up I feel like a disappointment - I can’t be seen alone - I panic when the door bell rings I refuse to open the door and pretend like there’s nobody home and wait for the person to go away There’s a lot more but this was all I could think of
I didn’t realize just how bad my social anxiety had gotten until I realized I was struggling to breathe on a train because I was terrified that people would think that my breathing was too loud, strange, creepy, or just irritating.
sitting in the front of the class gives me such bad anxiety, i shake really bad and constantly have to move positions, so scared that people are watching me and judging me, it’s horrible
literally me and then when i dont talk or act weirdly the teacher thinks i have some kinda issue and when they ask me questions i always get them wrong because im overthinking and then everyone thinks im stupid like ffs
i’m so sorry honestly, i completely understand. i just hit my 20s and it has never hit me harder that if i continue living like this, i’m going to struggle the rest of my life lol
Or until they die... That's cynical but true. I'm now 41 so some of my friends and people I know have died. And I often have the weird relief at the back of my head: "well no one now remembers this situation anymore. Thank goodness."
I'm writing this comment after overcoming my social anxiety, to everyone out there struggling with it. Know that healing is possible! You got this folks 💜
-i pretend not to be at home when someone rang the doorbell -most 80% of the time I won't answer phone calls -the idea of social gathering terrifies me, -even if i want to start a conversation,my mind would overthink everything im about to say or either it will be completely blank - I ignore people who reached out to me for no reason -i feel a terrible emptiness,loneliness,the feeling of missing out on life but I don't have any capability to change that -i want to be alone but I also don't want to be left alone. gosh I need therapy
Therapy and drugs disguised as medicine won’t ever help you. Social anxiety is an extreme vitamin deficiency in B , iron ,& vitamin D. Get a sun room, exercise sweat eat healthy . One step at a time, say “hi” to a stranger in public today for no reason. If not in person than yell it out the window in a random city or wave, baby steps and work up to a compliment , then work up to joining a conversation
Learn to hate your enemies, stand by the friends you have, even if it's just one, and don't give a sh*t about people that don't care about you much either. The system is often designed to keep you small, you are supposed to do what others tell you without questioning it and individuality has a low value in general. Whatever you do is wrong and don't dare to come up with own ways. But that way you can never find value in yourself, all others feel superior to you and there is always this what-if-I-fail. It's not easy to get rid of this if you were shaped that way when you were a child or teen. Also there is some percentage of people who are in fact different from the like 90% of the rest.
the most frustrating thing is when teachers think “oh they just have to get more practice speaking in front of people” or “oh their just shy, they’ll outgrow it” so they call on you more
Yeah, just loved it when I was picked first to present and my knees uncontrollably and _very_ visibly wobbled in front of everyone. That's a sure fire way to make a shy kid even more terrified of public speaking...
Well, I had social anxiety for as long as I can remember, even throughout university. I finally overcame it when I got a job that included me talking to people, every hour of every day I worked. Now I can proudly say I surpassed it, but at times I still get that feeling when alone with someone for example.
@@pauleta96 Well I had a philosophy teacher back in high school and she was also a therapist (somehow idk how she got that degree lol), so she thought I was only shy so she put me in very hard situations even normal people can't stand, like I'm already nervous when I am passing a test so what did she do ? she let me face 25 student while sitting at her desk for 2 hours passing the test. She even give compliments that I don't likely deserve or sth and she makes it even awkward among my classmate...
I've had this feeling, makes me feel like the dumbest person on earth and I think everyone will make fun of me and remember it "hey remember when that weird kid got the question wrong! Haha!" Sounds a bit dumb when I type it out..
I've never seen a video that describes my feelings so perfectly that it made me cry, thank you for creating it i am so happy to have something i can relate to
Yeah,i'm in a new class and i just cant talk to anyone cuz i'm not Luke them tou know,to get respect you have to be Luke them,play soccer,talk about girls,and this type of stuff,but i dont even know how to play soccer and i dont trust anyone to talk about it,and others stuff i'm not in,só this year is Boeing hard,tired of Boeing Aline,its sucks dude
As someone with Mild Autism and social anxiety I’ve learned to be under my own skin and that I’m not less because I’m wired different. I’ve learned that we live in a world of people that love to talk nonstop and learning to ask good questions is a life changing skill in human interaction. You can ask someone good a question and he or she won’t stop talking for hours. It’s not an easy task to learn. I’m not a expert on it but the little I’ve learned had helped me so much
the worst is when your parents don’t understand. they tell u to “just talk” or “stop being pathetic” or make fun of you when ur around people “i don’t know why she’s so quiet there’s definitely something wrong with her haha”
I was experiencing the same thing and I told my mom I wanted to go to therapy so we went there. I've built the courage and travelled far to go there. I've never ever talked about my problems to anybody so I was very nervous at first, I just cried a lot. I told some stuff but only like 5% of it out of 100%. When we got home, my mom got mad at me because "I wasn't cooperating with the therapist" when it's me who wanted to go there in the first place. She pulled the "Why are you making me suffer this much?!" It sucks.
just_zuziex to be honest I think socially awkward people are pathetic, I just can’t keep acting like they are not. Because if you want to succeed in life you *have* to be able to communicate with others, if not then you’re kinda pathetic. I hate to say it but it’s true
@@Trinthegay dude if you didn't knew already there's at least a few million people like me, there's nothing anyone can do about it. And people with social anxiety just have to adapt and learn that that is the truth. Instead of feeling bad for themselves
I don't know how i became an introvert guy at this age of 27.. Because at age of 10 i was good at making friends. Now i want to stay alone. I don't pick friend's phonecall, they think i'm ignoring them but answer is "I hate people" "I love my self" "I want to stay alone" It makes me feel sad & happy both but a lot better than meeting with new unknown person.
I have social anxiety, and I have no friends, but I feel like I need friends, I need people to open myself up and talk to, but I still just can't make those friends.
I have good friends, but I'm not comfortable talking about my anxiety with them or anyone for that matter. I know the people in my life will listen, but everytime I try to tell them the words dont come out, or I end up making excuses. I'm tired of living like this, but I'm too scared to change it and it makes me so mad at myself!
Yes...because of that, i don't have any friends, but really ... i spend my life alone, the only people i can confide in are my parents and my brother, if he's not bad mood 😂 ... it really starts to weigh on me ... I hope you don't suffer from this too :(
@@lachimolala9534 yeah im suffering of social phobia and anxiety issues and thats terrible every day ESPECIALLY at school but my family can't to figure out...
felt the part about how we may come off as not caring but we are so much more attentive than others. every time I speak I notice people looking away seeming very uninterested in anything I have to say, but I will look them in the eyes and really listen to every word they say
I do eat in school but almost every time end up blushing because I keep thinking that I eat weirdly or too fast or too slow or anything else. So I might just sit there casually eating and became red and then think that I became red for no reason and people might see it and that's why I end up being super red. I hate it
same, i haven't eaten at school for four years because i just cant stand the thought of other people watching me eat. i'd rather stay hungry than go through that...
My nickname on the high school baseball team was shy guy because of my social anxiety. You know it’s bad too when a teacher is taking attendance and you can feel your heart pounding at the anticipation of your name being called
you know whats even worse? living with anxiety *AND* depression. and if you dont know how that feels i can give you a perfect description of it from every angle in 9 words: wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely.
Me: *needs to sneeze in class* Also me: *is scared it’ll sound weird or everyone will look at me and ends up overthinking it so much that it ends up being silent or goes away*
I feel better knowing that there are people like me. I’ve always been on my own pretty much in school college and now workplace. I struggle with small talk, I’m awkward most of the time. Worst thing is when people notice it and point it you “hey you don’t talk very much”. Recently my dance teacher pointed it out in front of everyone “hey I wonder if you’re enjoying the classes because you don’t seem to talk like rest of us”. It gets so embarrassing and awkward. I kept thinking about this one simple thing she said for days. I don’t blame those people, but it makes it even harder for people like us. I’m also very lucky to find my best friend in my boyfriend. I’ve been slowly realizing that I express myself the most only with him. And he has been so easy on me…never judged me for anything which makes it easier as I’m able to share with him without much hesitation. Just wanted to let you know as well that you’re not alone. We’re all a certain type and it’s fine ok to be the way we are. We just need to try and get out of this mindset that everything revolves around us and that everyone is thinking about us all the time💪
@@chloem2319 I want to sing, but a few years ago, something about it started to make me so anxious, that it feels debilitating now to even think of it. I cannot record a proper video of me singing, nor can I think of entering an audition room anymore. I hope that one day we'd be able to do the things we want to.
I am soo proud of myself. so today I posted a video its only a drawing but I've been scared that people would just me but I just posted and now I'll see what happens with it
The Problem ist that your brain is not thinking rational it betrays you by creating szenarios of maybys If are alone after that your brain then tells you IT was false alarm after the fact.
I have anxiety too and autism which can really complicate my life. That said I still love going out and hanging out with close family and friends. So while I get nervous a lot I try to have a healthy balance with my life.
gattiyon i have been professionally diagnosed and I’m just saying that social anxiety does got farther than this video but if you do feel like you have slack anxiety don’t self diagnose go get professional helpppp
*"Don't be shy!"*
*i hate when people say that*
🅱️ruh just dont be , only reason to say you hate it is that you wanna keep playing the shy character and never know people , maybe its the kpop thing
@@BRZkomarov 1. Its.. not a kpop thing
2. I am not shy.. that's why i hate when people say it
ikr it doesn't help at all, it makes me more shy when people say that idk why, I hate that word
@@BRZkomarov wdym kpop thing?
@@BRZkomarov do you know how this works? you telling people to not be shy doesn't work at all, that's like telling somebody with cancer to just get better, i dont fucking care if im over reacting.
When you have to pee really bad but you have guests over and leaving your room is the worst option ever
True 😭😭😭😭😭😭 so I have to wait in my room.... It's the worst...
Oh shit you just explained me i pissed in my water bottle cause i had guests over
So relatable
So damn relatable!!😭😭😭😭
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no comment section has ever made me feel more understood than this one
Me neither
I know
@thot holy shit i commented that in my sleep
i am so sorry y'all had to witness what comes out when i roll around on my phoen 💀
Ikr
“Social anxiety just doesn’t ruin your life, it stops you from living it.” 💯I felt that
Same
Same
You can have very happy and good life without interacting with mostly stupid people, so it is not true.
Fr😔
I felt that too
"I come off as uninterested or rude but in reality im just afraid to speak"
Same girl same
Sameee
wtf i read this the same time she said it
but same💔.
this is all to true and its sad
What we can do to help people with social anxiety to relax a little bit when talking? I don't have this, I'm just very shy, but I can talk with people with a little more effort, so I don't understand you guys, but I'm trying to... How can I help? If someone with social anxiety try to talk with me, so I don't scare them, or I don't know... make things worse? Or if I see someone alone with this, should I try to talk? Better not? Give me advices, to smooth life for you guys!!
@@hellencristinamarcelino9910 Just smile while you talk and be nice 😊.
“Why don’t you ever talk?” the most annoying question someone with social anxiety can get
And "why do you talk so quietly" "your so smart- why don't you put your hand up and just answer the question"
Honestly
Emily Sank for real
That is so true when someone asks that question I don’t know what to say and feel awkward and then it is quite and it becomes even awkward
epic9yearold gamer same
the worst part of it is when you can't stop thinking about every single mistake you ever made
I knoooww
Same
And the funniest fact: I always thought I’m the only one who is overthinking everything and always scared to make mistakes
@@aikoyeon same i have the feeling in gonna end up as a criminal because it makes me feel alive. And I'm afraid people will hate me because of it
Eish
I can relate with: Eating in public, BEING in public, doing ANYTHING in public, feeling watched and judged all the time.
Feel ya
I don't even have to be in public. When I'm alone in my room I'm still feeling like judged
Sometimes i tried not to think that i'm going to be judges by the way that i drees etc. But i do feel my heart pounding like crazy wich i can't stand so i tried to walk fast and get out of there
I eat really fast even when I'm alone because it's just a reflex at this point. The faster I do things, the less time people are paying attention to me for. It causes acid reflux so I'm trying to stop, but it's hard to do.
@@bihayalimyok300 From someone with social anxiety, maybe you feel like you're being judged because you're subconsciously judging yourself. Try not to be so hard on yourself. I notice I feel most anxious when I'm showing a side of myself that I'm insecure about meanwhile, the other person isn't even paying attention to whatever it is at the time.
1:22 "If I make a mistake, people will remember it, judge and laugh until I die. At least, that's how I see it."
Alex J Alex J You have no idea how much I relate to this, without even making a mistake , by just talking to people, I can't look at them in the eyes thinking that they'll laugh at my personality and how weird I am, and sadly, I end up acting weirder and feel extremely embarrassed about it knowing that it"s the only way for me to escape the situation and that I'll redo it again and again.
Alex J that part hit me so hard because honestly that's what I think
Unluckiest Creature Alive, HeyItsKyra ! Me too, when I heard those words, I was like "That's me, literally me". I have a really good memory, so I think that everything I do is embarrassing and everyone will remember it till I die. So I'm constantly nervous. But the truth is that no one cares. I wish I could see that, but I don't.
Alex J I completely understand what you're talking about, and the worst thing about anxiety is wondering if you'll ever be understood or feel normal again, so here's a small piece of advice that I hope would help you in that case, a gentle reminder that the bad feelings will eventually go away can work wonders because you'll remember to anticipate that better time, it's like a beacon of hope.
Well then, may god help you feel calm whenever you're most anxious, stressed, and worried, and may your burdens get released and days be filled with peace.😊
Unluckiest Creature Alive That made me feel better, and it's so nice of you that you wrote an answer! Thank you very much! Really!
The only reason I have friends is because they talked to me first
My friends left because they stopped talking to me and I was too afraid to talk to them
Same
Yep same reason
What the fish.! I never realised that before.!
Okay edgelord
Stopping at the door and waiting because you hear people outside is something I’ve done so many times.
Relatable 😢
Or peeping through a crack in the door to make sure a vehicle or no one is around and then you make a run for it to your destination.
me when I see the comments: *I'm just like youuu, you're just like meee*
Oceane imperfect and human are we
*its* *something* *anyone* *can* *seeeeee*
Because it's so trueeee
Why did I sang that in my head?
Omg same! It’s so reliving Bc I don’t know anyone who has it and everyone just shamed you constantly. Thank you all❤️
"Oh,she can speak!"
Nothing makes me angrier.
„oh i didn‘t even know she is here too“ **laughing**
@@mustis_fangirl7721 Ooooooh yes every time I eat with my family.
Yeah, i want to kick their ass
oh he can looking to my faceeeee *_*
The worse😭
who else hates it when someone says you're just shy
Thermal Paste I was always told I was shy when I was younger. Turns out it manifested into social anxiety...
@@williamknudsen4856 True. The teacher keeps saying that I'm shy, when I really do want to speak to others with confidence but can't because fear takes over. I hate it when teachers pick on me to say something that I clearly am uncomfortable doing. I over-analyze that people will just judge me if I ever said anything.
I am not even shy. I am so extroverted. I'd just wish these thoughts wont hold me back.
Thermal Paste ughhh i hate that☠
Thermal Paste Hell yes. None on my family members understand...
The most depressing part is that, when you tried your best to be friendly, and then suddenly, it became awkard. After that, you'll start questioning yourself, backtracking every words you've said, then thinking all the flaws you did, and deciding not to talk to anybody, anymore. 😅😅😅
Yeah I definitely think that's how social anxiety starts for a lot of people. You try what you think is right but then it doesn't work so it wasn't right after all? What else am I doing that's not right? And you get in this spiral of overthinking bam, social anxiety in the house
@@rafaelac.1643 Yeah hahaha and it sucks especially if your job is a manager 😂
@@mikeea.15 damn, I'm sorry 😅😅. Hope you're able to overcome this!
@@rafaelac.1643 hahaha thanks 😁 you too.
This is sooo true
"Social anxiety not just ruin your life, it stops you from living it" 💯🙌
💯💯
and makes you hating socialy normal people and wishing their death
So true I get an improvement about that aspect and know I can see All the opportunities I lost and it hurts a lot but now I can be happy I can be alive again
@@Az-gv4bj this is so mee lmfao
I felt that on my soul
When you want to go to therapy because you're pretty sure you have Social Anxiety, but you also can't go to therapy because of that Social Anxiety..
When you want to go to therapy because you're pretty sure you have social anxiety but you don't want to tell your parents because you're sure they'll only answer "you're just imagining it"
@@Len-nl2jf yeah my mom's just gonna ground me for even suggesting that i have something like anxiety without her telling me. She'll just end up ranting about how she knows me and that she just KNOWS that i don't have it.
Desta Melaku I think if my dad knew I had social anxiety he’d be supportive of me and not judge me for it. He got a call from my school saying that I’m gonna be in a program or something and that I’m gonna be in classes with fewer students because I hated being in big classes. But I really hope your mom could understand you and listen to you, hope everything works out
Oh my gosh ikr
It takes me 7 years to break my fear and go to therapy... Seven... years....
"social anxiety doesn't just ruin your life, it stops you from living it" hit HARD. i lost all my friends in 8th grade and now im in highschool. funnily enough, i havent made any new friends. school without closer bonds is terrifying, not to mention about most grades involving speaking. seeing people my age talking, laughing, going out and living their lifes hurts on a different level
I can feel you:))
Same
Same
How relatable 😅
Oh sameee
i can't even write a comment without feeling judged
same
Yay you wrote it
Holy shit that’s me 😭
oh gosh same here
same
The worst part for me is the constant feeling that I’m being judged for EVERYTHING I do. Social anxiety is a nightmare to live with.
ME TOO 😭
@@lamargames3940 I’m sorry. We don’t deserve to go through this 🥺💓
@@Katherine-cs6dc yes😔♥️
Same and my friends joke about having anxiety and are like imagine having anxiety and it makes me feel upset because my anxiety makes my life miserable and I cry about it all the time
@@3gymnasticsgirls4 me too girl🥺😔 I hope you feel better love xo
When I'm alone with someone i always think that she prefers to be with someone else because I'm boring
Same
me too!
And if they leave you on read you think of all the things you did to turn them off
My best friend said once to me that before she got to know me, she'd thought that I'm boring, so this kind of fear is even greater to me
mee too!
Everyones talking about social anxiety but can we talk about the excellent framing in this video? The cinematography is on point
2021: “Why don’t you ever talk?” still the most annoying question for me
ikr
@Clarissa damn yes. same.
A guy in my class told me that yesterday :/
ugh I know right, people always say you're so quiet, why don't you say anything, or talk it's not that hard. But it IS
Or “why don’t you speak up” when I have to give a presentation 😭 Also, F the people who can’t understand that we hate talking in front of others! Also, the fact I have a high-pitched voice makes me feel self-conscious whenever I even have to utter one simple reply. Hence, the mumbling...
When I cross at the crossing I feel like all the people in their cars are staring at me.
Omg same 😭
same😭
Same 😥😥😥😭😭😭😭😭
But they are. When you're in the car, don't you also look at them? And yes, everyone is making assumptions. But so what? That's human behavior. And remember: you'll never see them again. So fuck it. Let them stare.
they are
When you're in a shop and someone is in the way so you just awkwardly pretend to look at stuff until they move
OMG YESSS. I also do this at family events
@@taylor8153 at family events I'm always the one taking photos so I don't have to be in them 😂
Sameeee!! I would feel so bad if I asked them to move bc I overthink it
So true😅...
Almost everybody does this. Quite normal.
What helped me with (social) anxiety is starting to speak WAY more kindly to yourself. The world is hard enough as it is. Please don't be hard on yourself too. Be your own cheerleader, have your own back. You all are working so hard just to survive. I recommend watching Mel Robbins. She has amazing tips and tools to help you make life a little bit easier.
this is true
I still cant do it. But...Music and Art does.
that's true, it started to improve when I started to be gentle to myself, loving yourself even with your flaws is the best start to work on these flaws
Its too hard to do that cuz i feel like everything i do and think is weird and wrong 😭
When she didn't open the door because she heard people talking outside...too relatable.
Omg yes
I wait for them to stop talking, or leave. then I dare to come out
True..
Alejo Me at university right now living in student accommodation! When I need to cook and I’ve got my hand on the door handle ready to go to the kitchen, but I hear talking in the kitchen so I just mentally battle myself like “I need food! But there’s so many voices out there... but health! But awkwardness...” I leave my hand on the handle for ages til the noise dies down, sink to the floor and breath slowly for a bit, then go and eat. If it’s like one or two people at most, and I can hear who they are? If I know who they are and know I’m better at talking to them than other flatmates when we’re alone, I’ll probably manage to leave my room, even if I don’t say much, I’m better at talking to just one or maybe two people than talking in groups where I just feel left out. It just means there’s more opportunities to improve my social skills cause they have nobody else to talk to. But omg I spend so much time with my hand of my bedroom door handle feeling anxious because of loud flatmates on the other side. If I hear laughing it makes me really sad and makes me dive into thoughts like “they’re laughing and having fun... and look at me, hiding in my room. If I was more confident, I could be out there. Laughing with them...”
Alejo me too😞
So many people with social anxiety here. We could do a social anxiety convention. Oh wait, no one would show up
Leila omg😂😂
😂😂
Or no one would talk to each other
I'd stand outside and pace trying to reverse how I enter or stand or sit. Worse if I'm late and everyone stares at me and I end up standing up awkwardly trying to figure out where to go. And end up standing with a group of acquaintances. Then they realise how awkward I am then I get nervous and start panicking
OMG HAHA 😂XD
“Never take your headphones off in public” this came for me
I never wear my headphones in public. I like to know what's going on around me and not be too distracted and vulnerable.
I always leave my headphones on my head when I'm in public. Even if I'm not listening to music, I'll still have it on my head at all times to avoid interaction.
i wouldnt say i use it to avoid social interaction i just simply love listening to my bangin tunes all day long...thats what theyre for
Everything you do in public, with headphones feels less awkward
im always scared the music is too loud
I’m 29 and have missed every opportunity because of social anxiety.
I feel like my life’s over already.
Me too 😢
It's hard I know, but don't give up. Sometimes I think my life would be better spent if I went out and helped people in need all day every day and just forget about myself and everything else.
Go the other way. Stop saying “What do people think of me?” Start thinking “What do I think of them?”
And heal any trauma based around social rejection. Let yourself feel the pain and eventually you will accept it.
damn, i’m in the same boat, 29 without a career due to dropping out of college. i wear a mask to work, even though it’s 2023, didn’t have the courage to not wear it. 😢 worse part is people know im socially anxious as i never make eye contact with anyone. taking some new medication, though… hopefully it helps
@@pieceofpie5402 it's good if you can practice making eye contact with strangers on the street. It can seem hard at first but it gets easier, then just smile when they make eye contact with you. just try a little bit each day
Also people will tell you to talk and just "be more outgoing". Then you try to and get ignored and talked over
I really fucking hate when this happens
I'm guessing it's a weak attempt that's literally begging for everyone to ignore you lol. But to be honest, even normal pple get ignored and talked over every now and then. It's very normal. Only difference is they don't imagine negatively or too much into it, or see it as an attack on their self-identity etc.
Naomi The Not so iconic shishter THIS
WORST FUCKING THING
Omfg i hate when this shite happens
I found my people in this comment section.
Same
Yep I’m with ya
Seriously. I was not expecting her to list out my entire thought process. Bit of a frustrating realization lol.
Same
Sup my dude
the worst is walking into class late and everyone's heads turning towards me
mallory murphy IKR OMG
Walking in ANYWHERE and everyone's head turns. It is THEE worst feeling ever. I go into panic mode...which makes them stare more...which makes me panic more....which makes them stare more...which makes me panic more. Never ending cycle.
I would never turn around and look at someone who just walked in......1 I don't care..... 2 I would be too anxious to look anyway.
I've never been tardy
yess..exactly
i am Engineering student and i am 22 but i am severly afraid of doing prezentation, or even to walk normaly around people who are just boys and girls of same age...!
i am very afraid of starting any conversation with even classmates..i cannot talk to girls..
i lost my close friends, i failed at one subject and got year down(wasted year) i cannot talk to anyone about all this and i am depressed and hopeless worried about my future...
i dont know why i just type all this sorry😓
omgg yes that's why I try to come at like recess or a free period lmao
Only the person having social anxiety knows how hard it is to live with.It’s like shutting yourself in an image you create of yourself to hide from being judge but in the end don't know how to behave anymore🖤🖤🖤
I still beat myself up over interactions that happened years ago ;-;
GiantDwarf815 :3 ...and makes me think I’m irrelevant
same
Oh wow that just sums up my entire life
Same!
Same,,, and I did a looot of things that I regret
The worst is when you have that rare day when you feel confident and social, and then somebody has to say something that knocks your confidence, and you crawl back into that shell again. Seriously, f those people.
Edit: I just wanted to say that you all sound like amazing people, and anyone putting you guys down sucks. Wish you all the best ❤
This happened to me today I was finally feeling ok and did my make up and dressed up and then family started saying how I look like I’m trying to be sexual and how I need to act like a lady and it ruined my whole day:/
It happen a lot
@Ruby Wallace That not stupid! It makes a lot of sense. Since you feel confident showing people your face without having your hair cover it!
This happened to me, I felt great about myself and felt I looked cute until someone said “it looks like you haven’t slept”
@@autumnolguin5329 I bet you looked great ❤️
“just be confident and talk to people” wow i never thought of that😒
exactly.
and when I do be confident, it results in an awkward silence..
I remember when my mom said that to me, thanks mom it totally worked🙂
Trot
My ‘close friend’, Emma, what I should really acquaintance, when I told her I had social anxiety (over messages) in later August, I shared with her the symptoms of the disorder, and she immediately self-diagnosed and said: “we both have a lot in common... i think i have social anxiety too, a mild case”.
However, this was, is and never will be true. I see her communicating with our friends confidently, loudly and with full eye contact/etc, as well as with her family on her phone. She doesn’t stutter, and her oral presentations (for assessments) are pretty great and clear.
Soon I allowed Emma to tell my other close friend, Cami, about my problems with social anxiety, but that didn’t go so well.
Emma had made my condition look mild and ‘easy to get over/overcome’:
Emma: Emily has social anxiety, and I have it too, but a mild case, that’s why she’s quiet.
Cami: Oh.. I see... she is really quiet, you can be too, that’s fine.
Cami is beginning to drift away from me and talk to other friends in our group more, and she kind of tries to run away/hide from me so she doesn’t have to talk to me all the time, because I’m ‘clingy’ (which I kind of am).
Also, I’m genuinely very pissed right now, because where in the hell do you show any symptoms of social anxiety, Emma? You told Cami you had social anxiety too? A mild case? Or are you just diagnosing your mild case of shyness as a mild case of social anxiety? You’ve made Cami as well as yourself look as if social anxiety is easy and straightforward to overcome, as if it was mild shyness.
It’s much worse than that. Don’t suddenly self-diagnose yourself with social anxiety because you haven’t been talking to people as much today - that was just a like ‘one-time’ thing. Compare and contrast yourself throughly with the symptoms, don’t be so straightforward.
Emma and Cami don’t really talk to me much nowadays, unless if we sit next to each other in our classes or they needed something from me. Now at lunch I sit near the group, but alone and silent. Thanks for making social anxiety look like mild shyness that can be overcome very *easily!* Thank you so much Emma, I appreciated that!!!
(Emma and Cami are just random names I used, not their real names)
I am 70 and have lived with social anxiety since my mid teenage years. I became aware of it was when in my early twenties. I learned to cope with it as soon as I accepted it and learned to embrace it. I’ve lived and worked alone for much of my adult life, and enjoy my life very much. However, until I found a way to support myself with a minimum of social interaction, it could be very difficult. The important thing for me was to accept it as being the way I am and learn to live with it. Others live their lives differently than me, but I am just as happy on my own as anyone with a lot of social interaction. Learn to take care of who you are and don’t compare your life to the lives of others. 😊
The problem is not in "standing out", but actually being lonely and basically sacrificing your life, hopes and dreams to an irrational fear...
Social anxiety for me feels like I don’t know where to put myself I feel like I always look stupid or ugly and I can’t walk in a straight line
same bro.
Sammme
My dad used to treat me badly and i was bullied from some bad students 3 years of middle school that's the main cause of my social fears , what about u?
tabib mohamed dhia literally the exact same reason
@@kylajayne8241 hope u get the power to break those fears ❤
People just make you even more lonely when you have social anxiety
True
true
fax
THIS
People just make everything worse.
When the teacher does the attendance, I can hear my heart beating
I feel you : (
sameeejdjsjs
Same
Yup😕
Same
You know u have society anxiety when wearing a mask makes you feel better
I don't think my face is attractive that's why I feel better with mask.
Samee but now that the pandemic is over..I can‘t wear one because nobody is doing it and I don‘t want people to stare. I had to put all my courage together to stop coming to school with a mask anyway.
I hate people attention on me 😅
nah that would gather more attention
yea, it felt A LOT BETTER
When people say “I can’t hear you.” and it makes me want to go off🗿
I felt that 🗿 The sentence I always got from the boys when I talked to them and regret
Y.E.S I have a naturally quiet voice so ppl tell me to speak up ALL THE TIME. And it feels weird to talk louder than that because it makes me sound weird and then I get self conscious and insecure so I usually choose not to talk at all
always in class. the teachers pick me WITHOUT ME RAISING MY HAND and then i say something and then they are like “i cAn’T hEaR YoU” and i speak up and the answer is wrong then i start blushing and in the worst case they even point it out and i’m just there like AHHH
EXACTLY I have a kinda quiet voice but sometimes people will just keep saying speak up and I’m like I ammmm
They say "CaN yOu sAy hEllO??"
Them: why don’t you talk that much?
Me: meh
My mind: cause I get talked over, ignored and no one cares.
Exactly...😭
Yup
Man thanks for putting my feelings in words
@@cherrymydear Worst Advice
@@nandozaw8453 alright then show me how to give advices
"She's just shy." So relatable. I've heard this so many times.
@@therealsl1me yeah they make you present and it traumatizes you and makes the anxiety worse 😩
For real. Like no I had a literal disorder and needed help but my teachers just wrote me off as "not wanting to participate" even though I was a stellar student otherwise.
@@blache24 yepppp same
Yup, it’s sad and I hate it
Every single comment here is the most relatable thing ever lol
My dad says to just be more confident in myself. IF IT WAS THAT SIMPLE, I wouldn’t be having an issue!
i freaking hate small talk, I feel like I'm being fake
Yeah same but I have to put on fake smile if I ever have small talk
Sameeeee
small talk is exhausting
Small talk - vomit.
Sameee
the fact that i can relate to everyone in the comments scares me...
moon :3 omg same
Same...
Me too.... I have really bad social anxiety
Same u.u
same lmao
Me: **has the answer for something**
Me: **is scared that I'll get it wrong and everyone will make fun of me or laugh at me**
Same here
And then feel so annoyed after because I got it right
So true. And that feeling when you think of an answer and you are not sure if it's right and then it turns out that you were right but never said that and now you hate yourself for that
That happened to me in 6th grade, I was so confident. And this annoying guy named Danny called me a dumbass in front of the class and a lot of people laughed. The teacher just said “that’s not nice Danny” and that’s it. I’m in 7th grade now.
Actually most of the time I'm most afraid of the teacher thinking I'm dumb or something.
I love it when my mum tells me to "snap out of it" as if it's that easy.
Also when I’m walking alone on the street I always feel that someone is watching, judging and even thinking that I’m a weirdo
Same here
Thats so true
ok imagine if you are walking on the streets and ou saw somone talking. do you judge him and thing that he is a weirdo ? no cuz that is not how humans act and btw dont feel judged people got places to be. somthing to do they probably didnt even look at you. so dont feel judged unless you are doing somthing bad
Same.
Yeah,when it happens i starts to be nervous and walk weirdly
When the whole class has to take turns to read a sentence of a book. I always have to search for the line I have to read and rehearse it in my head-
same
Halima faisal omg SAME
literally same as my heart is beating out of my chest scared that my voice is gonna crack or i'm gonna pronounce a word funny while it feels like everyones eyes are locked on me
Forever5elena and coughing so many times before reading so your voice doesn’t crack, having extremely sweaty and shaky hands and your face turning so red while you’re reading so you try to hide your face with your hand or behind the book
Āññā ̊ i cant cough though because I’m afraid people will judge me for coughing too much
Once time I couldn’t sleep for days because this girl in my class said she liked my shirt I thought the way I said thank you sounded mean
junkookie would'nt want u to feel this way u know army..
jungkooksdumplings I always think about everything I say, but I still screw up, I thought my classmates were disgusted by me because I had a cold and kept blowing my nose every 2 minutes but in reality they weren’t.
Ты наверное меня не поймёшь, так как я пишу на русском языке. Но я бы хотела узнать, ты мальчик или девочка?
Goswami .Vidushi ooo hi Army 💜
jungkooksdumplings relatable
This is the most relatable video I’ve ever seen. I’ve always known I’ve had social anxiety but people have always told me that I’m ‘just shy’, when really, it is SO much more than just being ‘shy’.
Also the cinematography in this video is absolutely stunning!
having social anxiety and going to highschool : hell
well, it doesnt get better in college...at least not for me....
Bro this is me,im so scared to need to go for there tomorrow😔
The problem with highschool is you're stuck their with the same people for years. Out in public my social anxiety isn't as bad because I don't really care what people I'm never going to see again think of me, but in school you have to go back and see them the next day. Deep down, I don't really care what people think of me, but my anxiety tells me I should and then I end up caring. The moment someone even notices me I get anxious.
@@bruh1214 that's the reason i prefer online
@@bruh1214 right. And i prefer a place has older people than younger one.
I just don't understand why we feel this way. Why some of us have to deal with this. Why I start to panic as soon as a stranger starts talking to me. Why interactions steal my confidence and self-worth.
I know it really sucks
I feel you 😭😭😭.
Praise Max even though he isn’t above us. People like this usually have the lowest IQ, and end up on the bottom of the food chain. The reason people who have social anxiety tend to be smarter and more artistic is because these people like to know how and why things work. When they can’t figure it out, that’s where the social anxiety part comes in... fear of the unknown if you will.
U are cute though
I used to feel like that too. But NoFap cured me.
"Social Anxiety doesn't ruin your life. It stops you from living it at all"
Yeah I'm 21 with no friends, never had a boyfriend, or even been kissed because of it.
TributesAndUnique i like youre quote. Very inspiring
TributesAndUnique and my friend used to ask me why I'm so quiet and never talk at all
welcome to the club
Same, but i'm 23
TributesAndUnique same omg!!!
What make it even worse is the way people don't understand
I have social anxiety. So when I finally have the confidence to speak people are always like “YOU TALK?!” I’m just like 👁👄👁
Same one time in school I raised my hand and a classmate said „ohhhh Alexa u can raise your hand?“ I directly stopped raising my hand and didn’t speak for the rest of the lesson...
“YOU TALK? OH MY GOD YOURE GROWING UP!!!”
*me who’s ready to strangle their throat:*
'so you *have* a mouth??!' is the most annoying thing ive ever heard in my life
IKR! I CAN RELATE TO THIS SO BAD It gets irritating sometimes
ikr or they just look at me weirdly
- When I eat in public I feel like everyone is watching me and judging me
- When I cross the road I feel like all the people in the car are staring at me
- When I walk normally I think: am I walking weird? Are my arms swinging to much? Are those people laughing at me? Why are they whispering?
- When my teacher calls my name I say “here” and I think: does my voice sound weird? Was it too squeaky? Did it crack? Why is everyone looking at me now?
- When I walk into class after going to the toilet or something I feel like everyone’s head is turning towards me
- When people say “I can’t hear you”
- When I’m in a shop and someone is in the way so I just awkwardly pretend to look at stuff until the move
- I feel like I can’t trust any of my friends because I’m to afraid they will tell my other friends stuff that I told them etc
- When a boy I like likes me I can’t help but avoid them
- When I wear a shirt/shorts or just show any bit of skin I feel super anxious
- Sometimes I talk low and I mumble and nobody’s hears me
- I feel awkward when I need help in class
- It makes me so scared being in large crowds
- I find it hard going to social events
- I start to cry when something happens
- I don’t like to text first because I have a horrible fear of bothering people so I just am terrified to message first
- When it’s gym and people picks the team I’m praying that I won’t get picked last
- Sometimes I can’t breathe and my chest hurt
- My palms are getting sweaty when I’m feeling anxious
- Sometimes my friends invite me out but I just lie and say I can’t
- My whole body shakes uncontrollably and I start to hyperventilate
- I’m feeling cold or it’s like a heat wave inside of my body
- I can’t sleep I just start to think about something stupid I did 5 years ago
- I want to die but I’m afraid to
- People call me dramatic but they don’t really understand what’s going on
- In class my heart starts racing
- I avoid eye contact
- I always say “what if ...”
- I care to much
- I turn red
- My heart is racing
- Hard swallowing and feeling like I have something in my throat
- Always assuming the worst case scenario
- I start to yell
- Bite inside of my cheek and crack my knuckles I squeeze things to feel more calm but it never helps
- When it’s my turn to answer in class is getting near I get nervous and constantly reading the line over and over again
- When I read in class I talk to fast
- Relying on others to help me instead of trying myself
- When I mess up I feel like a disappointment
- I can’t be seen alone
- I panic when the door bell rings I refuse to open the door and pretend like there’s nobody home and wait for the person to go away
There’s a lot more but this was all I could think of
I love you!!
Wooow i literally agree with you on every single one!!!
Agree with you on everything
bro you copied 🤣 but its ok we all relate those stuff you wrote on ur comment
I've never related to somethibg like I just did
Bruh I'm even scared to ask for a bag when I buy someting.
Better for the earth.
Sameeeeeeee
Go eco and bring a fabrinc bag, you can store it tiddy in your pockets (hope that helps)
I make people I know do it for me
Always bring bags with you
I didn’t realize just how bad my social anxiety had gotten until I realized I was struggling to breathe on a train because I was terrified that people would think that my breathing was too loud, strange, creepy, or just irritating.
Omg I think the same thing like people can see me breathing in and out and will think I’m weird or something:
Same
sitting in the front of the class gives me such bad anxiety, i shake really bad and constantly have to move positions, so scared that people are watching me and judging me, it’s horrible
same it i really hate i feel like i move too much and that everyone is watching me when in reality no one really gives a f what i do!
omg same
literally me and then when i dont talk or act weirdly the teacher thinks i have some kinda issue and when they ask me questions i always get them wrong because im overthinking and then everyone thinks im stupid like ffs
Same here.. 😬😬
Samee im glad its not just me
i'm crying. this is me. and, i'm tired.
Cheer up .. am bad at supporting ppl on text but sh.t works when I talk to them
Me too:((
i’m so sorry honestly, i completely understand. i just hit my 20s and it has never hit me harder that if i continue living like this, i’m going to struggle the rest of my life lol
I have it too. I can't stop thinking about doing mistakes. I dont want to say something wrong.
Me too
"Everything I do has to be perfect, because if I make a mistake people will remember it, judge it and laugh about until I die" I feel it
😭😭😭
Hits hard ngl
So true-
Or until they die... That's cynical but true. I'm now 41 so some of my friends and people I know have died. And I often have the weird relief at the back of my head: "well no one now remembers this situation anymore. Thank goodness."
true
I'm writing this comment after overcoming my social anxiety, to everyone out there struggling with it. Know that healing is possible! You got this folks 💜
How did u heal
Please tell how you healed
"You try to avoid the guy because you really like him." I RELATE SO VERY MUCH TO THAT ONE SIMPLE SENTENCE.
Okayy Dayy LOL ME TOO
Okayy Dayy same
MEEEE!!!! Everytime i see my crush and he starts saying "Hi" i simply ignore him and walk away as fast as possible
Same!!!
What the fuck. This makes him just not like you anymore. But yeah I know it makes no sense and you do it though....
"Never take your headphones out in public" I felt that one
Alan Seballes but then again i always feel like i'm breathing as loud as a horse or that everyone can hear my music when i wear headphones in public
@@ichwilldasapfelerlebnis4007 Same with me too, I worry that they will hear what l'm listening, I get scared ashamed and i worry too much....
@@ichwilldasapfelerlebnis4007 Same, I'm scared people will hear my music then judge me for the kind of music I listen to 😞
I want to do that but I just can't because I will think that people will judge me wearing headphone to look cool
i never put them in bc i feel like it looks weird :/
-i pretend not to be at home when someone rang the doorbell
-most 80% of the time I won't answer phone calls
-the idea of social gathering terrifies me,
-even if i want to start a conversation,my mind would overthink everything im about to say or either it will be completely blank
- I ignore people who reached out to me for no reason
-i feel a terrible emptiness,loneliness,the feeling of missing out on life but I don't have any capability to change that
-i want to be alone but I also don't want to be left alone.
gosh I need therapy
So me😂
Same, but I don't want it 😖
hi you explained my life😃😃
if i tell my mom im in depression she will not care
@@babiefanai1017 thank you
this video explained my life in just 6 mins it so relatable , i want to cure my social anxiety but don't know how.
Same 😢
Go to the gym
Therapy and drugs disguised as medicine won’t ever help you. Social anxiety is an extreme vitamin deficiency in B , iron ,& vitamin D. Get a sun room, exercise sweat eat healthy . One step at a time, say “hi” to a stranger in public today for no reason. If not in person than yell it out the window in a random city or wave, baby steps and work up to a compliment , then work up to joining a conversation
@@nicoleymacaroni I will surely try these all , thank you
Learn to hate your enemies, stand by the friends you have, even if it's just one, and don't give a sh*t about people that don't care about you much either. The system is often designed to keep you small, you are supposed to do what others tell you without questioning it and individuality has a low value in general. Whatever you do is wrong and don't dare to come up with own ways. But that way you can never find value in yourself, all others feel superior to you and there is always this what-if-I-fail. It's not easy to get rid of this if you were shaped that way when you were a child or teen. Also there is some percentage of people who are in fact different from the like 90% of the rest.
the most frustrating thing is when teachers think “oh they just have to get more practice speaking in front of people” or “oh their just shy, they’ll outgrow it” so they call on you more
Yeah, just loved it when I was picked first to present and my knees uncontrollably and _very_ visibly wobbled in front of everyone. That's a sure fire way to make a shy kid even more terrified of public speaking...
Ikr, people just lack to understand. And being an introvert if that's what you mean, isn't a bad thing.
Well, I had social anxiety for as long as I can remember, even throughout university. I finally overcame it when I got a job that included me talking to people, every hour of every day I worked. Now I can proudly say I surpassed it, but at times I still get that feeling when alone with someone for example.
@@pauleta96 Well I had a philosophy teacher back in high school and she was also a therapist (somehow idk how she got that degree lol), so she thought I was only shy so she put me in very hard situations even normal people can't stand, like I'm already nervous when I am passing a test so what did she do ? she let me face 25 student while sitting at her desk for 2 hours passing the test. She even give compliments that I don't likely deserve or sth and she makes it even awkward among my classmate...
or when they make you read stuff from the book...
You know u have society anxiety when wearing a mask makes you feel better
Yess that's so true!
Istgggg!!!
Yess but it made my acne worse
Yes.
That's the only thing good about the pandemic
I hate when I’m in class and the teacher points u out to answer the question but u get it wrong...
Worst feeling ever 😣
I've had this feeling, makes me feel like the dumbest person on earth and I think everyone will make fun of me and remember it "hey remember when that weird kid got the question wrong! Haha!" Sounds a bit dumb when I type it out..
I know right! It's absolutely terrifying. It's happened to me before and it was very embarrassing. 😖
Fr
I used to feel this way back then. But trust me, they don't really care at all :)
that’s why i never raise my hand and it got to the point where i cry if the teacher tells me to read something without me raising my hand.
I've never seen a video that describes my feelings so perfectly that it made me cry, thank you for creating it i am so happy to have something i can relate to
It hurts being lonely .
I was so Extroverted when i was younger but when puberty hits, i don't even know what happened to me
Yes! Couldn't agree more. When I was in 4th grade I talked so so much and then 6th grade happend.
Same here going to parties as a kid I would always dance now I sit and do absolutely nothing
Same
Can't relate more... I used to be so talkative until 8th grade but now I am just too scared
Yeah,i'm in a new class and i just cant talk to anyone cuz i'm not Luke them tou know,to get respect you have to be Luke them,play soccer,talk about girls,and this type of stuff,but i dont even know how to play soccer and i dont trust anyone to talk about it,and others stuff i'm not in,só this year is Boeing hard,tired of Boeing Aline,its sucks dude
anyone else hate when someone says “that’s the first time i heard you talk”
edit: tysm for the likes💕
That's so irritating 😬
I used to just laugh, but its getting annoying..
My teacher always used to say ‚Ohh you can actually talk ?!' and I was just like please shut the hell up
alwine mendes oh wow and ur so pretty I’d never expect u to have it
That happens to me alot, and a few days a girl said "I didn't know she could speak"
If I answer a question in class wrong I automatically think that everyone hates me and thinks I'm an idiot
Same
That's why I never raise my hand up
Sameeee but i was introverted before i had my period but confident when i was really young
Its like it been almost half of my whole life i had social anxiety alrdy it been that long
it's worse when you're that 'smart' kid in the class
As someone with Mild Autism and social anxiety I’ve learned to be under my own skin and that I’m not less because I’m wired different.
I’ve learned that we live in a world of people that love to talk nonstop and learning to ask good questions is a life changing skill in human interaction.
You can ask someone good a question and he or she won’t stop talking for hours.
It’s not an easy task to learn. I’m not a expert on it but the little I’ve learned had helped me so much
My life is terrible ..but I read the comments and I feel better because I'm not alone
:D me too
same
Oh i love you alex hahaha same
Feeling the same 😐
me too😭
the worst is when your parents don’t understand. they tell u to “just talk” or “stop being pathetic” or make fun of you when ur around people “i don’t know why she’s so quiet there’s definitely something wrong with her haha”
They telling me to talk everyday but they just don't understand!
Or just stop being scared rlly hits me because I wish to be confident in talking but I always stutter
Omg, yes. It's so frustrating
ShookAlready • Oh my goodness, same with me!!! I stutter so bad, I think that’s the cause of my social anxiety
I was experiencing the same thing and I told my mom I wanted to go to therapy so we went there. I've built the courage and travelled far to go there. I've never ever talked about my problems to anybody so I was very nervous at first, I just cried a lot. I told some stuff but only like 5% of it out of 100%. When we got home, my mom got mad at me because "I wasn't cooperating with the therapist" when it's me who wanted to go there in the first place. She pulled the "Why are you making me suffer this much?!" It sucks.
*looks at comments*
Me: "These are my people"
LOL the same thought went through my head as I read the comments.
Kuli The only pathetic person here is you.
just_zuziex to be honest I think socially awkward people are pathetic, I just can’t keep acting like they are not. Because if you want to succeed in life you *have* to be able to communicate with others, if not then you’re kinda pathetic. I hate to say it but it’s true
@@svan4748 ...or y'know, if idiots like you didn't exist maybe we wouldn't have social anxiety
@@Trinthegay dude if you didn't knew already there's at least a few million people like me, there's nothing anyone can do about it. And people with social anxiety just have to adapt and learn that that is the truth. Instead of feeling bad for themselves
I don't know how i became an introvert guy at this age of 27..
Because at age of 10 i was good at making friends.
Now i want to stay alone.
I don't pick friend's phonecall, they think i'm ignoring them but answer is
"I hate people"
"I love my self"
"I want to stay alone"
It makes me feel sad & happy both but a lot better than meeting with new unknown person.
The worst pain is when you have many things in your mind and have no one to say
This. It’s hard to form words in the spot and I just stop speaking and it becomes so awkward.
@@alishaaaax too relatable🥲
yessss :{
Yeah
Yes I can really feel that because I am suffering from this
I have social anxiety, and I have no friends, but I feel like I need friends, I need people to open myself up and talk to, but I still just can't make those friends.
Same here 😔
Finally someone like me. All I have is 'surface' friends. I just cant have a person who cares about me at all, I really hope it changes
@@spoodxrman Thanks, stay strong too
By time you will knoe somebody that will be able to understand you
I have good friends, but I'm not comfortable talking about my anxiety with them or anyone for that matter. I know the people in my life will listen, but everytime I try to tell them the words dont come out, or I end up making excuses. I'm tired of living like this, but I'm too scared to change it and it makes me so mad at myself!
Life with social anxiety just sucks. Literally
Yes...because of that, i don't have any friends, but really ... i spend my life alone, the only people i can confide in are my parents and my brother, if he's not bad mood 😂 ... it really starts to weigh on me ...
I hope you don't suffer from this too :(
@YamiYami17 Thank you very much :))
@@lachimolala9534 bro youre not alone im exactly like you 🤐🤐
@@manellemaiouf7389 I hope everything will work out for you! ^^ ♡
@@lachimolala9534 yeah im suffering of social phobia and anxiety issues and thats terrible every day ESPECIALLY at school but my family can't to figure out...
felt the part about how we may come off as not caring but we are so much more attentive than others. every time I speak I notice people looking away seeming very uninterested in anything I have to say, but I will look them in the eyes and really listen to every word they say
"I know I can't stay but I don't know how to leave" sums up every day for me
Tara Cannon So true! It makes me feel so tense and awkward as if I’m just lingering in a conversation or group
Lmao :(
me: having social anxiety
a friend : stop caring what others think
me: wow I've never thought about that
Lol right xd
Same girl
it's so hard to control it ugh
I'll just use my magical powers to "stop caring"!
Its similar to saying an asthma patient to "breathe you have so much air around you"
I don't eat at school, because I'm afraid my friends will judge me for the way i eat.
Just don't care about them and what you want to do comon pple will judge in everything
Tbh it's not just the way but what I eat*sigh*
I do eat in school but almost every time end up blushing because I keep thinking that I eat weirdly or too fast or too slow or anything else. So I might just sit there casually eating and became red and then think that I became red for no reason and people might see it and that's why I end up being super red. I hate it
same, i haven't eaten at school for four years because i just cant stand the thought of other people watching me eat. i'd rather stay hungry than go through that...
Yeah me too, I'm to afraid to eat infront of others, sometimes I even close myself in a toilet room and end up eating there because I'm to anxious
My nickname on the high school baseball team was shy guy because of my social anxiety. You know it’s bad too when a teacher is taking attendance and you can feel your heart pounding at the anticipation of your name being called
you know whats even worse? living with anxiety *AND* depression. and if you dont know how that feels i can give you a perfect description of it from every angle in 9 words: wanting to be alone but not wanting to be lonely.
@Marthe Lagast ikr
That’s how i feel omg
I've thought that for a while, and I've always thought it was just such a dumb statement so I bashed myself for it. Glad to see I'm not the only one.
Same
@@GensenPrime it may seem as though you're the only one but in reality there are so many people suffering from what we are. its sad but true.
Me: *needs to sneeze in class*
Also me: *is scared it’ll sound weird or everyone will look at me and ends up overthinking it so much that it ends up being silent or goes away*
This is EXACTLY ME I literally retain myself to sneeze because I'm scared that people would judge my sneeze
I COULD NEVER RELATE SO MUCH OMG
Dionne Cox
when you’ve already coughed once so you have to hold your breath and suffer
ALSO if you feel like you have to sneeze just say the word pineapple and you won’t, or if ur in class just mouth it behind ur hand
c w YESSS!!
My social anxiety works like this: i feel confident i can do this but when it comes to actually doing somthing i have a full on panic attack
omg yes, me too
Exactly...
I once failed my driving licence test cause everyone is watching uwu.
Same!
Same
I feel better knowing that there are people like me. I’ve always been on my own pretty much in school college and now workplace. I struggle with small talk, I’m awkward most of the time. Worst thing is when people notice it and point it you “hey you don’t talk very much”. Recently my dance teacher pointed it out in front of everyone “hey I wonder if you’re enjoying the classes because you don’t seem to talk like rest of us”. It gets so embarrassing and awkward. I kept thinking about this one simple thing she said for days. I don’t blame those people, but it makes it even harder for people like us.
I’m also very lucky to find my best friend in my boyfriend. I’ve been slowly realizing that I express myself the most only with him. And he has been so easy on me…never judged me for anything which makes it easier as I’m able to share with him without much hesitation.
Just wanted to let you know as well that you’re not alone. We’re all a certain type and it’s fine ok to be the way we are. We just need to try and get out of this mindset that everything revolves around us and that everyone is thinking about us all the time💪
As a person with social anxiety, I wouldn't even be able to dream of posting a video for the fear of judgment...it's scary to even face the camera
Muskan same, I am too scared to take aa vid of myself and post it. no wayy
@@chloem2319 I want to sing, but a few years ago, something about it started to make me so anxious, that it feels debilitating now to even think of it. I cannot record a proper video of me singing, nor can I think of entering an audition room anymore. I hope that one day we'd be able to do the things we want to.
sameee. i had a great idea for a tiktok, but then i couldn’t push myself to record it :(
@@ponzopa hope you find the courage to try
I am soo proud of myself. so today I posted a video its only a drawing but I've been scared that people would just me but I just posted and now I'll see what happens with it
"The most frustrating part is that i know im being irrational . " thats it.
Absolutely
The Problem ist that your brain is not thinking rational it betrays you by creating szenarios of maybys If are alone after that your brain then tells you IT was false alarm after the fact.
"If you dont start a conversation, we won't have one"
I have anxiety too and autism which can really complicate my life. That said I still love going out and hanging out with close family and friends. So while I get nervous a lot I try to have a healthy balance with my life.
You are so beautiful
@@idontknow1bro Thanks & Happy New Year ❤🙂
I've never been professionally diagnosed with social anxiety, but I relate to this so much. It's like I'm watching a video of myself.
this comment sums it perfectly i feel the same way! this strange world has a effect on all of us...
Pretty much me ;3
Yes. Same 🤣💚
i'd suggest you go get checked out by a professional :)
gattiyon i have been professionally diagnosed and I’m just saying that social anxiety does got farther than this video but if you do feel like you have slack anxiety don’t self diagnose go get professional helpppp
talking in the phone is one of the most terrifying things for me, sending voice mails too. I really wish I wasn't like this
I cant even call my grandma and wish her happy birtday..i had to whatsapp her..i feel so bad
xD for me I can't take a phone call or a voice mail seriously since I start to laugh and it gets weird so I have to stop
Same
I don't pick up calls unless it's from my family