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  • What is it like dating an Australian man? Is it different dating an Aussie? Are all Aussie the blonde surfer types? Are Australians romantic? Are all Aussie hot? What is it like dating in Australia?
    These are just some of the questions I've been asked in my 2.5-year relationship with my Australian partner. Even though we were in a long-distance relationship for two years and had a few cultural differences we've had to overcome, I've definitely noticed some differences between Australian mean and American men.
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  • @afpwebworks
    @afpwebworks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    The “Tall Poppy Syndrome” isn’t about knocking someone down a peg or two if the have ambition. Well not usually. It’s more about bragging about your successes. You can be as ambitious as you like, just don’t make a big deal about it. If you’re really outstanding in your field, people will notice and talk about you. There’s no need to do that yourself

    • @aperinich
      @aperinich 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Aussies typically simply don't like it people who excel beyond their perceived status-quo. It's a hangup from being a post-penal colony with overbearing Nanny state. I've noticed it my entire life, and its not great, but it is kinda cute to see it happen, unless the tear-downs are directed to you. I'm not a bragger, but find this constantly, especially underlying Australian suburban culture.

    • @rowanbrecknell4021
      @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Tall poppy is like the Chinese saying that the nail that stands up gets knocked down.

    • @paulsz6194
      @paulsz6194 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      No one likes people who like to big-note themselves...

    • @but_iWantedTo_speakGerman
      @but_iWantedTo_speakGerman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is not true. Australians are willing to chop off their own nose to spite themselves. Even those that side with them. They’re like a mother with NPD. They hate that there are people are better than them.

    • @mmlv44633
      @mmlv44633 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I had a date with an Aussie guy once and he asked about my PhD (which was a huge achievement for me and took 11 years of hard graft at Uni). At one point he said ‘a PhD is just a piece of paper’. Oh really?? 🙄 Then he proceeded to say ‘come check out my collection of 30 surfboards’. Wow dude, that’s some mega achievement right there! 🙄😂 No second date.

  • @markwilken2492
    @markwilken2492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    A lot of aussies don’t stress about the Valentine’s Day thing. Rather than buy flowers and stuff on a set day, pick a random day and show up with choccies and take her out to dinner. It means a lot more. Just subbed!

  • @kurtn4819
    @kurtn4819 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My daughter dates an Aussie bloke (they both have 1 boy each, so he sold his condo and moved in) and she's a great mom, does a lot of chores around the house, but so does he. The difference is that she earns twice as much as he does (and he has a very good paying job). While they are both managers, he's middle management & she is upper. While he doesn't seem uncomfortable with that reality, he also doesn't bring the subject up and answers anything related in a short manner. Everything else you say fits him to a tee. He a big guy and did construction & played rugby all his life. He could break me like a twig without even trying. But I never felt any macho testosterone alpha competition or potential aggression like you do with so many such men in the States. His handshakes are gentle & considerate. His whole demeanor is generous, kind, laid back & humorous. Anyway no men are perfect regardless where their from, and Australian men certainly have their faults as well. I suppose the real difference is that they don't wear their opinions like a badge. In fact it's quite the opposite. If they don't approve of you, you'll probably never hear about it, and suddenly that famous Aussie humor becomes a shield for them to hide behind.

  • @athag1
    @athag1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I once met this woman who had a high administrative position in the fire brigade. She said that occasionally a guy would chat her up at a pub, claiming he was a fireman. She'd say, "Oh, great! Which fire station do you work at?" And he'd bolt. So... Aussie men might not try to impress you with their credit card, but they just might pretend to be a fireman...

    • @utha2665
      @utha2665 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      LOL, when I was in the army a friend of mine would try and give the most ridiculous job titles to impress the ladies, my favourite was he was a tail gunner on an F-111, she actually believed him! 😂😂😂

    • @athag1
      @athag1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@utha2665 I wonder what she would have said if she’d actually been an army insider…

    • @utha2665
      @utha2665 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@athag1 I would guess she wouldn't have been as impressed, and maybe wouldn't have been so successful 😂

    • @chriskelly9476
      @chriskelly9476 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@utha2665 funny enough this has happened to me. I tried online dating once and this guy contacted me and the first thing he said was "so.. how would you like to chat with a military man? I hear women like a man in uniform..." I said to him "I was in the army actually, I knew plenty of military men, and honestly I prefer a man in a suit..." He deleted our chat and I never heard from him again. Funny thing is I really am ex-military and I wondered if he actually was. His long shaggy hair suggested otherwise. A man can't have long hair in the military.

    • @utha2665
      @utha2665 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@chriskelly9476 true, unless he was ex-military, I know plenty of guys that grow out their hair and a long beard, especially these days. But then why didn't he just come out and say ex-military? I think your instincts were correct, nothing like trying to start a relationship with a lie.

  • @rhysdbooth
    @rhysdbooth 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I would add that splitting the bill on dates is not uncommon or frowned on. The only time that people are expected to pay for the other person is if they have organised something in advance and asked the other person to come, rather than a mutual 'date'.

  • @victoriamanfield3711
    @victoriamanfield3711 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    That was actually really accurate… my boyfriend and I in the almost four years of dating have only ever been on one date, and that was because we got given a voucher to a restaurant for Christmas 😂
    You really hit the nail on the head with this video!

    • @aperinich
      @aperinich 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've never gone on dates, but had a lot of casual encounters, and 4 long-term partners... We do what we want/go where we like, but never feel compelled to go on formalised dates/events/outings, and especially not just because it's a birthday/anniversary. We get each other gifts whenever we want, and don't do it because of Hallmark holidays~!

  • @rowanbrecknell4021
    @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    2:29 My Mother did the book work for my Father's business. Just like a good secretary she bought herself a gift. He never forgot ;)

  • @gerardbryant4840
    @gerardbryant4840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My wife stayed at home to raise our girls to school age, mainly because the cost of childcare was about $15 dollars less than what she brought home, at that time. She took the opportunity to get some further qualifications, and got a better job once our youngest started kindy. That job happened to be with a neighbouring school, so no holiday child care costs was a bonus.
    Australians really don't like braggarts, so if you are good at something, letting someone else talk about how good you are, is the pinnacle of success.
    Milestones like a significant birthday, 40, 50, 60 for example, or an anniversary, are usually, but not always, celebrated with an extended family party. Most other celebrations are usually low key, maybe dinner at a fancy ($$$) restaurant, or a dinner cruise.

  • @JustSomeRando1331
    @JustSomeRando1331 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm Australian, my wife is from Louisiana. We've been married now for 15 years, and have 4 kids, so I must be doing something right. My wife likes appliances for gifts.

  • @rowanbrecknell4021
    @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    4:25 a long walk on the beach carrying the fishing bucket ;)

  • @dutchroll
    @dutchroll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    "Tall Poppy Syndrome" is universally true in Australia and is a bit of a double-edged sword. It's an extension of our desire to be down-to-earth and relatable to any ordinary citizen. The culture behind this is that perceived arrogance or boasting (your income, car, hot husband/wife, sporting prowess, etc) is very frowned upon. We'll probably already know and don't need to be reminded over and over, and if that happens the "tall poppy" might be cut down in a conversation. By all means if directly asked in a conversation, tell them you're a lawyer or a surgeon or whatever. But following it with tales of how amazing you are will lead to problems. Yeah we can often be direct. "What do you think of this dress?" "I don't like it." Well you asked! "I just did....... (obviously extremely silly thing)". "Well that was .....ing silly, wasn't it?" It's not designed as an insult, it's just a direct opinion! 🙂

  • @DaveWhoa
    @DaveWhoa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "the first year is paper, the second year is cotton" ... that's why we don't do it! it's STUPID! lol

    • @Rottnwoman
      @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The stupidest! But how many American marriages last very long?

    • @DaveWhoa
      @DaveWhoa 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Rottnwoman uhh, why "American marriages"?

  • @rowanbrecknell4021
    @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    9:05 Yeah we don't hold back. Even with mates you think it is rude but it is just staking your ground. You know where you stand.

    • @rowanbrecknell4021
      @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My x girlfriend was moping around and I said go to your room and get over your sh** then come back when your ready. Might be why she is an x but don't be mopey.

  • @warpspeednow
    @warpspeednow 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Enjoy your videos and cultural comparisons, very funny and entertaining. Have travelled to the US on a numdet of occasions, enjoying every trip. The best friends Australians have are the Americans. You are the best type of immigrant we could want for Australia. Please send more of your kind to Australia asap....

  • @rowanbrecknell4021
    @rowanbrecknell4021 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    14:09 For 3 years or more now I have a 24v solar lighting system that can run around the clock. No sense in waste. Don't take what you don't need.

  • @grandmothergoose
    @grandmothergoose ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tall poppy syndrome isn't about status or success, and it's not even really about bragging. It's really just all about the way people behave towards others, especially those less fortunate. If someone treats anyone else as if they're below them, they'll get cut down. We will judge people not on how much money they have, or their belongings, or their social status, but on how they treat other people. Aussies can and will brag about things, bragging is fine, they'll get ribbed for it, but not in a harmful nasty way... so long as they're not behaving as if whatever they're bragging about makes them better than anyone else, or more accurately, makes other people worth less than them.

  • @____0____
    @____0____ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    1:27 Had no idea this even existed lol.
    Yeah, 100% on the Mrs reference.

  • @liamshiels8626
    @liamshiels8626 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can't agree with the pride about stay at home mums. I brag about my partner's success and their career but i get it, it's not universal. It is a good indicator that they've got young kids though,

  • @GregoryMcDermott-p3b
    @GregoryMcDermott-p3b 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You pretty well nailed how Aussie men are, some of your options are close to the mark....but generally we are a laid back bunch of blokes, who tell it how it is.... better to be honest from the start than lie like a pig in shit. You have done well. Thankyou Caitlyn 👏👍💪🇦🇺 Brisbane bound.

  • @skyislands8887
    @skyislands8887 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Anniversary?.... Isn't that ANZAC day????? Celebrity.???? mmmm, Peter Brock.?????... Special event????? Barbie / BBQ. Date??? BBQ!!!!

  • @anasevi9456
    @anasevi9456 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Would say as a whole; holidays are very lowkey compared to the USA. Even Australia day, is easily the most enthusiastic celebrated day in straya; is basically a lazy day at the beach compared to madness of July 4th in the USA or Bonfire night in the UK. From the east midlands, former expat in California, yanks definitely love their holidays more than most. But for most aussies; holidays is mostly just another day to relax and grill.. Also you are bloody mad if you think they are think aussies are any more eco-conscious than yanks when they're not paying the bill. lol

  • @terryjohinke8065
    @terryjohinke8065 ปีที่แล้ว

    Typo- true.

  • @anziang100
    @anziang100 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like American date hahaha

  • @GeorgeWrightau
    @GeorgeWrightau 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Tall Poppy is about not forgetting your roots and putting on false airs - its very anti-class. It's not that Aussies don't like or admire success it that success shouldn't fundamentally change you.

    • @punchdiv1
      @punchdiv1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also asked his server in Vegas how much her mortgage was, then paid it off as his tip to her.

  • @kizitoomukaga2011
    @kizitoomukaga2011 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good stuff

  • @alpcrdh3702
    @alpcrdh3702 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brave video, I hope you didn't get a dud.

    • @KindaAustralian
      @KindaAustralian  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Nope, definitely not. I'm a lucky girl ☺️

    • @nickmaguire4914
      @nickmaguire4914 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@KindaAustralian that was a test, you know what a "dud" is!

  • @wajanaariyawongwiwat7360
    @wajanaariyawongwiwat7360 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a AUSTRIA MEN. Why you not dating me???? I waiting you long time!!!!

  • @andyjames2082
    @andyjames2082 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Being the bread winner is a sense of success, probably similar to the US in the 1940's

    • @Rottnwoman
      @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's a sign of an inferiority complex!

  • @jagobbin2
    @jagobbin2 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The first 4 mins of this video just sounds like Aussie men trying to deal with the current cost of living crisis

  • @sheerluckholmes5468
    @sheerluckholmes5468 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "Walking on the beach and discussing the meaning of life." ...... well obviously 42

  • @lucdelhaize4029
    @lucdelhaize4029 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This girl is totally a good sheila and will make a great Missus.

  • @lilhappy5493
    @lilhappy5493 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Argh, the worst

  • @gradystiles7515
    @gradystiles7515 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Has no idea what its like so wrong

  • @Rottnwoman
    @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    WOW! You amaze me. I have NEVER - in nearly 75 years in Australia - met the kind of people you mix with! I have NEVER met a man who was proud of his wife being a stay at home drudge. Please let me know where these people are so that I can be sure to avoid them!

    • @mariasofi419
      @mariasofi419 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Then you need to get out more.

    • @phoarey
      @phoarey 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She is accurate. My wife and I decided 32 years ago that she would stay home. She returned to work when children were high school age. I could easily imagine water cooler conversations where blokes speak pleasingly of the decision.

  • @jayneross6123
    @jayneross6123 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    As an Australian woman I don't want or expect the big gestures - how you treat each other every day is more important. But..... don't forget my birthday! A small gift is fine but don't forget!

    • @Alpha_7227
      @Alpha_7227 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What about anniversaries?

    • @neilt6480
      @neilt6480 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Alpha_7227 Late response, but anyway...
      First few anniversaries are likely to be remembered, maybe even celebrated, but don't expect it to be a forever thing. Of course different strokes for different folks. Some hubbies will make a big deal out of it indefinitely. Plus the increasing Amerikanization of Oz is changing things too. We see so many Seppo TV shows and movies where hubbie gets in deep doo-doo for forgetting an anniversary that it's becoming more of a thing here.

  • @bshorrock69
    @bshorrock69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Aussies, both men and women have a really good bullshit meter. We can smell it, hear it, sense it and don't put up with it - Aussies can sniff out a lier and ignore them or rebutt them most of the time. We don't fall for crap...

  • @gayleharris2957
    @gayleharris2957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I've been married to an American for 3 yrs. Yes being an Aussie I've noticed a huge difference. More so him with me. He's had quite a number of jaw dropping moments with me. I can honestly say that when I move to America. I'm going to blow alot of his friends minds with the unexpected and most Aussie ideas I'll be taking with me. There are a few things I have to remember. That is Americans dont get Aussie jokes. Americans don't know how to go with the flow. Like Aussies do and I know some of his friends wives expect him to treat me like their husbands treat them. For me I couldn't be bothered. I've already blown their minds already with some of my ideas of a good time.

    • @glenchapman3899
      @glenchapman3899 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As an Australian man living in the US, I can tell you Americans really struggle with our irreverent sense of humor. Also swearing, a well placed God dammit will get you looks like you are the spawn of Satan

  • @SH-qs7ee
    @SH-qs7ee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    "Australians are more eco-conscious, they make sure lights are off when not in use, hang their clothes outside to dry, don't have the air con on in rooms no one is it"
    That's not us being eco-conscious, that's because the electricity prices are insane.

  • @tanoz1440
    @tanoz1440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I’ve been watching your videos for a while now, and I mist say I’m quite impressed with this video, you have really done well here in describing the Australian dating experience and relationship. Well done..

  • @liandren
    @liandren 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Washing smells and feels so much better after drying on the line, better for your skin too as the sun sterilises your clothes.

  • @TheAverageGuy12
    @TheAverageGuy12 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ANZAC tradition. We laugh during war. Life isn't worth living if you can't share a joke.

  • @dalinean
    @dalinean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Deep philosophical conversations without laughter sound false to me.

  • @christophernicola9293
    @christophernicola9293 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I agree with everything you said especially the missus part.. lol I could be wrong, but Australia's convict/ working class heritage still runs through our veins. We are about getting the job done, don't think about stuff too much, look after ya mates, have a beer, don't be a knob, work hard, don't get a fat head or someone will take you down a peg or two.. the list goes on 🙂

  • @laurencetilley9194
    @laurencetilley9194 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Hi Kaitlyn, having dated and married an American lady I can relate to each and every point you make.

  • @davidmclauchlan8261
    @davidmclauchlan8261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    "Grab a Bickie & a Cuppa " every week goes by u get more & more Aussie ! Very sharp with your observations . Us Aussies really got no time for BS and it really is a national pastime for a lot of us to just take the mickey out of everything and everyone , we just like to keep things real !

    • @edmurks236
      @edmurks236 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Grab a Bickie & a Cuppa!! I never heard that and I've been in Australia all my life. Many people drink coffee these days anyway. Not American coffee though.

  • @alwynemcintyre2184
    @alwynemcintyre2184 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I didn't think stay at home mum as much of thing these days, now is more likely to be whoever is earning the most money would likely be the bread winner. That could be the man or the woman, being a stay at home parent is not a long term option for most families these days. Life's too expensive since the 80s/90s for a single income families to be a thing for most families.

  • @benparks7008
    @benparks7008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Celebrating anniversaries in the American way is a nod to commercialism. Aussies care more about how you connect everyday.

  • @alankohn6709
    @alankohn6709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Kerry Packer who was a media mogul in Australia and very rich was very fond of gambling he was Vegas playing poker with a group of high rollers one of which was a was a Texas oil millionaire who was bragging about how he was worth 5 million and his oil wells and ranches and so on finally this got on Kerry's nerves and he turned to the guy grabbed a coin from his pocket and said "Flip you for it" was he serious well that's hard to say but Kerry supposedly kept 5 million in gold in his office safe. So he could of covered the bet.

  • @nf6386
    @nf6386 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    On stay at home mums, the tax breaks and high costs of private childcare mean there is a big disincentive for a women with a low-to-mid income to rush back to paid work. But generous maternity leave and legally-enforced accommodation of returning mums to the workforce make a big difference too. I had a colleague who took 6mths mat leave on full pay, then the company kept her job on hold while she stayed away for another 9mths, then she returned to work and immediately announced she was pregnant again, so soon left for another 6mths of leave on full pay, and the company kept her job again even though half the people actually in the office were being made redundant.

  • @davidlean8674
    @davidlean8674 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    On the "Tall Poppy Syndrome". You know you are a leader when you look over your shoulder to discover others following you. If you feel the need to call yourself the leader, then you are deluded.
    Similarly, we are often bewildered by the idea of Limos. The US folks seem to be impressed by the idea of riding in one. To the Aussie, they are long, hard to maneuver, inconvenient & pretentious.

  • @suebolden
    @suebolden 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We are environmentally friendly but often it’s due to the horrific power prices.

  • @godamid4889
    @godamid4889 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Yeah, anniversaries are pretty low key. If you love your missus you will show her everyday 😉

    • @AndyViant
      @AndyViant 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And that's why we invented the helicopter dance

  • @utha2665
    @utha2665 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'm not sure men prefer their wife to be a stay at home wife, certainly not for me. It's nice to be able to provide for my wife so, if she chooses, can be a stay at home mum. But I certainly wouldn't want her to be at home for my own ego.

    • @Rottnwoman
      @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bless you - an actual modern man!

  • @osmonj
    @osmonj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ok, so when do we get Mark’s take on dating an American woman? 😉😁

    • @TiffanyKoral
      @TiffanyKoral ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Let's talk if you don't mind

  • @lucdelhaize4029
    @lucdelhaize4029 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You totally hit it on the head when you said us Ozzie guys are not nearly as materialistic as the US counterparts.

  • @cherie519
    @cherie519 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I like how your Australian teddy behind you is more laid back compared to the US one.
    I enjoyed this video. Thanks

  • @jaynemeulman8484
    @jaynemeulman8484 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    one thing about aussie guys...they are not conventionally romantic...but if you want a decent, reliable fella and a relationship based on mutual respect, leavened with humour .. well aussie men are the best... they may not offer many flowers...but they will be mowing the lawn on Saturday and heading up the Barbie for friends and family on Sunday...the men in my family will not win any prizes for being flash.. but they are there when you need them...

  • @shadowkyber2510
    @shadowkyber2510 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You even hear teenagers call their girlfriends their misses

  • @colinhughes2852
    @colinhughes2852 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    No wonder my daughter fell for an American guy

  • @downundarob
    @downundarob 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Expect your Australian partner to have friends of the opposite gender, long term friends at that.

  • @1000teresa4ever
    @1000teresa4ever 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You're "G'day " is sounding real native.

  • @deankennedy7025
    @deankennedy7025 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Australia is mixed with so many cultures from 150 countries and so glad you are living here hope It continues :) thank you for these videos

  • @FionaEm
    @FionaEm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Always interesting hearing your perspective 🙂 I'd say Aussie anniversaries need to be 'marked' in some way - a card, dinner somewhere nice, maybe flowers but they're soooo expensive - but the main thing is that the guy will be toast if he forgets 😅 Couples will often mark the significant anniversaries (40th, 50th etc) with a family 'do' so everyone can celebrate and catch up.
    As for the tall poppy thing, that's more about cutting down someone who's successful and (possibly) arrogant about it. We often do that to celebrities rather than our friends.
    A different phenomenon is that Aussie guys and girls often befriend ppl who are 'like them'; ppl who fit into their social & cultural sphere. That can be a good thing because there's an egalitarian spirit, but it can also narrow the field of potential friendships and stop them getting to know some amazing ppl.

  • @nf6386
    @nf6386 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great video! I’d be interested to hear your perspective on the recent election and democratic culture in Australia, without any need to comment on partisan politics. What did you make of “democracy sausage” fundraiser barbecues, people’s reluctance to talk politics socially, the relatively low-key political advertising? I’m guessing this might have been a contrast to the states.

  • @cree_VI
    @cree_VI ปีที่แล้ว +2

    mm, i think i would feel very comfortable in Australia, I like those minds

  • @punk46664
    @punk46664 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I feel like all of these point to one thing - our sense of egalitarianism.
    No one gets treated badly, no one gets treated special.
    You'll never see an aussie in the back seat of a taxi being chauffeured. You jump in the front and call the driver mate

  • @helenhartley6904
    @helenhartley6904 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your experience about stay at home mums may be a youth view. I don't think stay at home mothers are pulling their weight. I worked full time with 2 kids and a working hubby - it gave me satisfaction, good pay, a career and excellent super and 2 great independent kids.

  • @RobB-vz2vo
    @RobB-vz2vo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    'The Missus', and when you are older it becomes 'She who must be obeyed'.

  • @stephaniebell4272
    @stephaniebell4272 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My motto was always “you can’t pay someone to love your kids”

  • @timetherington1986
    @timetherington1986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Missus = Significant Other. On track to a full-time time position 😉😄

  • @samanthahughes5590
    @samanthahughes5590 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So just a few simple rules of thumb dating any Aussie, weather male or female:
    1. We don't care for materalism, don't get me wrong if thought was put into it we appreciate it. But if its following a trend, or doing what everyone else is doing or supppperrr last minute and we can tell, you're better off just getting a movie and ordering dinner sitting down and having some QT or TLC then buying something.
    2. It is truly the thought that counts. No matter how small or large the gesture is, if its done with heart we appreciate it (even if its over the top). With that said, don't waste money on something that's only going to be a moments enjoyment, instead book a weekend away or go fishing lol. We put more emphasis on life quality over quantity for the most part.
    3. It doesn't have to be a special day to give a gift. We aren't guaranteed our next breath little lone tomorrow, so we'd rather spend our time wisely and making the most of it then doing things that are overly.. planned? (wrong word but you get the gist).
    4. When it comes to special days - its not that we dont celebrate them, its more like.. we'll do something special in our own way and normally its based off of what we enjoy doing with our partner. Christmas, is family time, while we'd prefer to have one big massive family bbq (you know where you bring your family, he brings his etc), quiet days are also good too.
    5. When it does come to special days like anniversaries - we are more likely to rolls those up into holiday time because well.. working hard is a part of the Aussie way of life.
    With that said, everyones different. We have a more laid back culture to America and we like quality over quantity and money any day.
    Oh and welcome to the Aussie family. Try to relax and breath lol.

  • @markturner4020
    @markturner4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Once someone reaches 'Mark's Missus' that is a Status in our culture. You'll be treated as well as Mark in the community.

  • @rhysdbooth
    @rhysdbooth 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dating horror stories...Sounds like future content hahahahaha

  • @MrBCorp
    @MrBCorp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Interesting observation with the giving of gifts. I guess I've never really noticed, but it seems you are right. I don't know what it is about Aussie culture that makes us less interested in giving gifts, but it seems that both Aussie men are less interested in giving gifts and Aussie women are less interested in receiving them. Perhaps it's something to do with a feeling that we would be owing them something if we received gifts or we wanted something in return if we were giving gifts?

    • @Rottnwoman
      @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Less greedy / needy than Americans?

    • @MrBCorp
      @MrBCorp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Rottnwoman I wasn't just thinking of Americans when writing my post. I've heard and seen examples from Chinese and Japanese men and women. I guess gift giving & receiving is just less of an Aussie thing.

  • @mollymuch2808
    @mollymuch2808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I remember watching the world surf championships years ago when an American won the world surfing championship
    Kelly Slatter
    Aussie
    Mark Occolupo came second
    Kelly went waffling on for a long time about his win and what he was going to do with his winnings
    Occi didn’t say much just
    I dunno what I’m gunna do with my winnings

  • @paullynch4542
    @paullynch4542 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Well done to you Katlan. I'm a 50 year old Aussie and you didnt miss a beat. On ya mate.

  • @solreaver83
    @solreaver83 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    1,2,3 I completely disagree with. These are totally ip to the guy your dating. Maybe the difference is your not shamed here if your not a romantic but there are definitely romantics here in Australia.

  • @henvan8737
    @henvan8737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Glad to hear its working for you. Have to say it takes a female with a good mind set to be able to express and understand the differences.

  • @Fiorellandia
    @Fiorellandia หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like most things you mention as "aussie guys things" are just guys from most countries except United States, like, dating culture in United States is really different because is so influenced by extreme capitalism culture. In most countries people don't care about expensive gifts, big celebrations, social status or whatever. I'm saying this as an european who has dated an aussie but also guys from different places in Europe and from United States, the big difference is that American guys love to talk about work and money, which I find quite boring.

  • @bradg1660
    @bradg1660 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Boring....

  • @johnsamsungs7570
    @johnsamsungs7570 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I bought flowers and went for the cotton etc for my woman! And no I don't own her it is just a saying!!
    Not spending a lot of money. I like the occasional D&M. We don't like people who are up themselves.
    I want my girl to work it is good for her own mental health. Sydney is a different place to the rest of us.
    Celebrity isn't much fun anyway. If you find a good Sheila screw the family and friends. I think you are too Sydney centric, Sydney isn't Australia!!

  • @sharajackson2129
    @sharajackson2129 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very general,we do have materialistic Aussies who are status conscious maybe not as much as some other cultures.
    And sadly a strong chauvinist element still exists here on a large scale.
    There is a matey attitude towards females and thats why many Australian woman are strongly in there masculine energy .
    So many men have half arsed attitude to dating and are so tight arsed when it comes to money.
    Australia is a very expensive to live and the majority are striving to own a big house ,big car maybe a yacht and portray they have perfect kids ,lifestyle etc..while on the brink of divorce and massive debt.
    But like any other country there are wonderful people everywhere.

  • @shawnduddridge
    @shawnduddridge 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like this video says so much more about Americans than it does about Aussies... yea we're not over the top, fake, cheesy, super materialistic.. but so are most men around the world. Ive done a LOT of travelling and found that most people are pretty similar, but the one culture that really stands out like dogs balls are the Americans!
    Its so jarring to meet an American overseas after having so many casual, positive experiences with other tourists.. you feel like youre almost talking to a different species of human! 😂😂

  • @markgarrett8963
    @markgarrett8963 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    apart from #10 eco i’d say this was “10 Signs you’re DATING A BOGON”

  • @newshound2521
    @newshound2521 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Never done anything special for an anniversary.

    • @Rottnwoman
      @Rottnwoman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My husband did once but I have trained him out of it.

    • @nickmaguire4914
      @nickmaguire4914 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Rottnwoman where's he buried Sue?

  • @tomwareham7944
    @tomwareham7944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    In 42 yrs of marriage to my late wife I can honestly say that I never missed her birthdays or our anniversary once and she would go crook if I was extravagant in her presents Christmas was the same She always said that she preferred something inexpensive but personal and bought for her and not something we needed for the house or garden . Instead of expensive presents or dates we saved our money and went on exciting holidays . She was known as my missus from the moment my mates met her and.was exsepted by them as the woman I loved and was going to marry , good job they did except her otherwise I would be looking for new mates but generally you are correct if you're not liked as a partner usually you would have problems from mates and family . I was lucky , my mates would have killed for my lady wife .and I felt the same way about all of their partners . We do as Aussies have what's called the tall poppy syndrome its not that we're jealous or envious of successful people it's that we don't like them bragging or flaunting their wealth or status , real class is not expecting people to be impressed but to be impressive without trying . You've already been excepted , I'm sure there's lots of Aussies who agree with me that you'll make a bloody good Aussie as long as you go for NSW in the state of origin and go for Australia in anything competitive between us and the Pommies , keep up the good work

  • @kennethbell6912
    @kennethbell6912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’ve known millionaire business owners that still have a beer with their workers. If your wife is a stay at home mum it’s reassuring to know your kids are in good hands.

  • @barrylyon6074
    @barrylyon6074 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great stuff and love how you acknowledge Traditional Owners. See you round like a mud crab!

  • @andrewberkin5505
    @andrewberkin5505 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I made a big deal about 25th, and 40th wedding anniversary. Others we go out to dinner but often on a different day to our anniversary due to our life schedule

  • @thephsycoduckie
    @thephsycoduckie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Not to sound like a stalker/creep, but did you go to the Blacktown streets alive festival? And get some Poffertjes/ mini pancakes , if yes I served you and should have said hi , if not maybe check out the medieval fayre in September

    • @KindaAustralian
      @KindaAustralian  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol nope, sorry. Must have been my doppelganger. I'll have to check it out on September 🙂

  • @giuliana5111
    @giuliana5111 ปีที่แล้ว

    ... the video is really from US perspective, such superficial comparations 😂

  • @Ron-uq2hg
    @Ron-uq2hg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Completely of the subject. I love that you wear bright lipstick. It brings back the best memories of my life. In 1973 I went to an Easter party in North Sydney and saw a beautiful woman with red hair to her waist. We met talked and she was from San Francisco in Australia 2 years and I was a kiwi in Australia about 13 years. Things progressed and in January 1974 we married in NZ and six months later we moved to Canada. In 1988 we moved to New York as she got offered a VP job. In 2007 we retired and moved back to Canada. She passed away in 2014. We had a long 40 year marriage and I have to admit I would do it again in a heart beat. She was my soul mate. Now lipstick. When we met fashion was changing and pale flesh coloured lipstick were becoming popular. She refused to change. I only Remember one pale lipstick because she said Bright lipstick didn’t go with a particular dress. I wouldn’t argue because she was a professional colourist. One of those strange people who tells manufacturers the colours to use for the next few years. So thank you for brightening up an old guys day.

  • @johnboyd6943
    @johnboyd6943 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No going out to dinner to celebrate an anniversary, are you kidding? You've hooked up with the wrong guy!

  • @katchiewilliams4638
    @katchiewilliams4638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Although it’s amazing for a man to spoil you with materialistic things, most Aussie women prefer something more simple, more genuine and sincere gestures and mementos then flowered that die or expensive something that if you lose will be a bone of contention.
    I know I’d rather a love language that lasts than a superficial show of one’s relationship

  • @jondennert
    @jondennert 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    on the subject of anniversaries let me just say to ALL women a 6month anniversary is not a thing , nor is a 6 week or anything that is less than a 12 month period.. it just isnt. anniversary has anno right in the word it means year , stop trying to squeeze more anniversaries out of it you get one per year per celebration thats it im not doing any more

  • @nerome619
    @nerome619 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    'stay at home wife' - eff no! I want my wife to be able to do what SHE wants to do as long as it contributes to our partnership in an equal manner.

  • @terryjohinke8065
    @terryjohinke8065 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Really trye words Kaitlyn. Geez- you're practically an Aussie now. :)

  • @The_Stoic_PhilosopherAU
    @The_Stoic_PhilosopherAU 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yep, sounds about right! We do love very deeply though.

  • @-sandman4605
    @-sandman4605 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That is all so correct you really did the homework.
    👍🤠 ✔✔✔✔✔✔

  • @garrymercer757
    @garrymercer757 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ive bern an australian since i was born 69 years ago. Ive never met any australian male who takes huge pride in having a stay at home wife, the odd mysogynist might want thst but not take pride in it. Most guys couldnt care less whether either of them work or not. The only reason to work is money so you can enjoy your life