Great job BUT She interviewed you. And spent a lot of time on YOU. But now you need to interview HER. Fair is fair. And I'm curious about her as well!!
I so relate to the last thing said about small talk, when he said "I learned to say..." That's the biggest thing I've found being a female who (likely) has mild autism... I can function normally. But all the things that come naturally to everyone else are things I've learned. I learned how to do small talk. I learned how to interact. So there's always a certain level of social anxiety/stress there, because my social skills aren't as autonomous as they are for everyone else. They require just that tiny bit more thought, and the pressure of having to put that thought into it produces the social anxiety I feel.
I relate to all you say about learning to small talk. A thing that bugs me about the way general people just chat on and on about themselves or totally vacuous stuff and you just have to pretend you’re interested to be polite. So tedious!
It's not even that I find it tedious (Although sometimes that's the case) but it's like... you know how a lot of grandparents are slower and not as smooth with technology compared to a teenager who has grown up doing it? I'm like that with small talk. Slower, haltering, because I had to learn it later in life instead of picking it up naturally. 0
The expectation to small talk with strangers is INCREDIBLY cultural as well. I am Icelandic, and it is very common for foreigners (especially Americans, in my experience) to say that they find it odd (or rude/uncomfortable) how Icelanders don't talk to strangers. If two Icelanders who don't know each other sit next to each other at a bus stop, they would rather stare into the distance than say anything (though probably they'd just be on their smartphones nowadays). Nobody really sees any reason to talk to strangers & people find it unusual when American tourists start talking to them out of nowhere. Small talk still exists, but it's something that happens between vague acquaintances (distant relatives, someone you went to primary school with, friend of a friend etc) rather than strangers. I still struggle with what limited small talk we do have though, when I have something to say I can talk your ear off but when I don't have anything to say I'd rather not say anything at all.
Can i just say THANK YOU for the bit about ND’s and NT’s compromising and working together! ❤️ I totally agree. As an autistic I know I do my best to try to meet my NT peers halfway and I almost always get a positive response. It’s frustrating to see other autistics with the attitude, “this is me and I don’t have to change.” That’s just arrogant and doesn’t get us anywhere. We ALL have to consider others in our interactions.
Right?! So true! THANK YOU for bringing it up. I so often see it on both sides and find it just so sad and feel like you guys (no matter if ND or NT) don't know what you're missing when you never break out. it's not like we are different species.
yeah small talk, i like to talk About weather, the weather in North Germany is so interesting. It depends on the direction of the wind and on the Season and when this and this come together we will have this and.... ok Maybe weather is not typical small-talk for me
Hi! I’m a girl dating a boy with autism. I’ve known him for about 1.5 years, and i learn more and more each day. I am often googling and doing research from time to time to understand even more. Going to be honest and say it’s difficult from time to time, but that is also why i put so much effort to understand. I would really appreciate you making a video about relationships, and maybe your girlfriend also have som tips? Love your videos! Regards Celina!
This is really good stuff, and helpful to me, as a 39 year old adult who's only now realising I'm probably on the spectrum. I just thought all this time I was just a really rubbish person, but actually seeing aspies on various youtube channels talking about their experiences, it's so familiar. All the stuff about school, and friends, and small talk, and obsessive interests, and being utterly unable to engage with things that I'm not interested in- it's exactly how I've been the whole time. I wish I'd known earlier, instead of spending my entire adult life unable to hold down a job or make friends with people and feeling like a failure because of it. I'm going to get a diagnosis.
WOW! I mean … WOW! I was first diagnosed by doctors and child psychiatrists as 'hyperactive' when I was six … which is now known as ADHD and was diagnosed with ASD/Aspergers much, much, much later. I soooo... relate to both of you and your experiences, especially when it came to 'small talk', also about difficulties connecting socially unless they were into what I was/am into and how my ADHD affects me in lots of ways! Oh, and I love Jess' doggy, too, Dan! Peace and All Good.
The Aspie World and How to ADHD, oh boy! At least try to collab more often! Like a monthly/bi-mo thing. The world needs such communities working for a better future.
Small talk- where I work I have to spent time in cars with my coworkers and it’s great when they start conversations and ask me about stuff so that the conversation can actually go somewhere because I do enjoy talking to them, but I’m SO bad at thinking of things to talk about with them and there are times when we sit in silence for 20+ minutes because I can’t think of any way to start a conversation
@@TheAspieWorldI already subscribed more then a week ago. (Lol, you're welcome though) I really like your videos btw and whenever I hear your intro(Aspergers, ADHD, etc) I'm like:"Damn, He hit the jackpot!"
OMG! So amazing! My two favourite TH-cam influencers in one video 🙂🙂🙂. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 20s and now with going through the process of getting a diagnosis for my daughter of Aspergers I will be seeking a diagnosis for myself because I just tick too many of the boxes to ignore. I have found both of you so helpful in reminding myself that my challenges are real. That it's a part of who I am... I am dealing with extra challenges not just lazy, antisocial, weird, stupid all the negative self talk that tends to hammer you when you are totally confused about not reacting in a neuro-typical way to life.
I totally get where you're coming from, I love learning new things all the time, never wanna stop=) I love TH-cam and that is how I found your channel, I love the ASD world we're apart of, I love learning new things from you, and new things in myself :) I have a friend named Jess, and the Jess in the video, looks as though that's somebody else who I would want to be my friend, love her top 💓, and her energy is good, just like yours:), and so positive. Worst small talk ever I've experienced plenty of times Me- "Hi, how you going" them- "Good thanks" Me- "That's great to hear" them- "And how are you going" Me- "I'm good thank you" them- "Good" Sometimes I may even throw in the occasional "Yeah", then the convo just ends there ugh that's never fun, but I love asking others how they are, checking in that sort of thing 😊❤💙 Subscribed=)
That's how I have crashes too! Its so odd and I cant understand it. When i'm keeping busy I'm ok, I keep myself so busy that there comes a point where I need a day off.. and on that day off I end up having a kind of meltdown/shutdown because I feel so lost, depressed and directionless. Half a day off is all my mind can manage, but I also cant work full time cause I burn out. The balance seems impossible!
I feel you on so much of this. I came over from Jess's channel and I really enjoyed the video! I have the opposite problem with small talk where someone will say something like "how was your weekend?" and 10 minutes later I see the panic in their eyes that means "I was expecting 'good, you?' and I got a monologue".
So lovely to find your channel via Jessie, I am a 40+ lady diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia last October, on a journey of learning first how to cope, knowing/getting a diagnoisis alone has explained so much, I would love to connect - I'm in Dublin, only across the Irish Sea, I'd love your advice on starting a youtube channel. I am a content creator already. Thanks, Marie-Clare
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In my current situation it's full-on trying to find services with little success, which leaves almost no time and mental energyto learn ways to function in the neurotypical world. Your and Jess' videos remind me to work that in somehow, some way from time to time. Keep it up! You two rock!
Love both channels. Thanks for this. Daughter is Aspie w/ ADHD. Both my brothers are Aspie (my Dad and I are undiagnosed, but pretty sure we are.) My fiance, son and younger daughter also have ADHD. I'm Bipolar. We have a lot going. Both your channel and her's helps a lot! Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
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I relate so much with what you said when talking about crashing. When I learned about How to ADHD I got super productive because I was using lists and a BuJo and I had things to do, but as soon as I finished my list of things I couldn't get started on anything else because I crashed like you. And this happens whenever I finish a video. I've finished my project so there's nothing left to do, so I have to start immediately on the next video or else it takes me at least a week to start on my next video
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I struggle a lot with boundaries when trying to compromise and step out of my comfort zone. I always push myself too hard. I'm not that rigid and quite open minded, but I burn out from unintentionally neglecting myself in the process. Balance is challenging.
Hey I usually have hard time to talk to people or keep the conversation going. And I have some hard time to communicate and talk to my friend's and they think that i don't like them or something. Do u have any tips .
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I have adhd and also hate small talk. I always listen to music and when people I don't know, try to talk to me, I just nodd and point at my headphones and then continue to listen to my music.
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Dan your down time is almost the same as mine. I too love watching documentaries about random subjects and I believe I am in an Aspergers burnout right now. I don't know if it is Aspergers or if I am just lazy. I loved the interview
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Thank you for this video. I have a 16 year old son that has ADHD. He's on medicine for it he may also have autism which he's being tested on the 21st. I'm having issues with his school he's being bullied. I've spoken to his principle and his teachers about it. He has quirks he can't help it. If it doesn't stop I'm going to get an attorney.
This was really interesting. I can particularly relate to the job bit right now. My current job isn't a good fit for me, but I like working only 4 days a week. Finding something new has been frustrating.
I can resonate with on so many levels. I have always struggled with (live) communication, even among friends and family. Relationships generally didn't last, including my marriage. Sometimes I struggle to have a conversation with my son and I hate that because I don't get to see him often. He lives in another state and although I could visit him, I feel uncomfortable about visiting alone because I just feel like it would be awkward. I can't connect with his significant other either. I have gone with my niece to visit a couple of times but I don't think she really wanted to do it. I think she did it FOR me but we aren't so close anymore, so I don't know when I will visit him again.
How to ADHD guided me here and I am so grateful. I am a teacher in special settings so the more resources the better. OMG as a teacher, we need to small talk all the time with kids. I hate it! The kids end up looking at me like I am strange. I am awful at it. Unless it is science. I can nerd out with the best of them.
I struggle with eye contact (one of the reasons I'm starting to suspect I might have mild autism, along with crippling social anxiety and sensory issues) and I learned that I can't handle looking people in the eye but I can stare at their lips without a problem. It helps me understand what people are saying and no one seems to notice I'm not making eye contact because I'm still looking at their face.
Very interesting video. The small talk part is so true haha. I am always awkward when someone starts talking to me. :D Except when I am with my horse in the riding stable - but I guess this is because of the people there - they will talk about horses and horse stuff all the time and because horses are my special interest since I was a little girl, this is something I can talk about for hours... :) But even if I wouldn't talk to them - they're not mad or offended. We've got a girl with selective mutism (and probably also ASD, but it isn't diagnosed yet) and still, everyone says hello to her and is accepting her the way she is. It's great there. Probably the only place on earth where I meet a lot of people that I am comfortable with. ^^ And I think it's good to learn new stuff that you actually don't like that much. I am a wreck when it comes to phone calls but due to my full time job as a media designer I need to call people. My boss always pushes me to do things I am afraid of. And what should I say.. it works. I am less afraid of calling customers or talking on the phone in general. :D That's a huge achievement for me.
Small talk is tedious but I think of it like a game. The object is to find out what the other person likes. Some times it works most time now but once in a while I find people who love Lego. Now that's a good day.
Love you both! And on relationships: I'm a "Brain" married to an Aspie! We have been together 12 years, married 11. Asking questions and trying to understand each other is HUGE. We have 4 kiddos too 😜
I have an ADHD assessment on Monday (Internalized screams 😅) and although I don't believe that I have ASD - it was great to hear people talk about some of the problems that I also face which I think I'd have trouble articulating to the psychiatrist if I hadn't have seen this... so thanks! P.S. SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT HAPPENS AT AN ASSESSMENT. EVERYTHING I CAN FIND ONLINE IS REALLY VAUGE!
I feel like everybody in school thinks I’m weird because I plug my ears when the bell rings or when everybody screams and sometimes i rock back and forth and everybody on my bus or class I bet they think I’m so weird
The problem with the "meet in the middle" philosophy expressed at 11:19 is that NT's seem to think "the middle" is their front porch, when we live a whole mile away.
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I hate small talk and I don't understand why it is important. Someone explained it to me... Still don't understand. If it is snowing I can see it too, right? So why telling me it's snowing. Thanks for you videos :) They are really good!
My son was not diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome until he was in his teens. I did not know that there was such a thing as Asperger's I knew something is definitely different about him but he has such a big heart and as such a wonderful person I just didn't think it was Asperger's I just didn't know about it. I wish I had because I would have sought help for that. Even though he was seeing a psychiatrist and saw him for many years Asperger's never was thought of. Then later on in life his father had him tested not for Ashburn Ice but just in general tested and he has ADHD and Asperger's. I have ADHD and I am dyslexic. So I don't know if it is coming from my jeans probably it is but I just never knew about Asperger's and I feel really horrible that he didn't receive what he needed. He was teased at school. Ostracized by the teachers. And I tried to do everything I could do to help them I just wish he could have had the right help sooner. He's now in his early twenties and is okay but I just don't know if the Asperger's is being addressed he is such a great person and I love them with all my heart..
❤😂😅 I'm self DX with ASD because I read Michael John Carley's book Asperger's from the inside out he & his son both have ASD Michael mentions self Dx❤😂😅🎉
How did you feel getting an adult diagnosis? Im going threw the process of some of the stuff i suspect evaluated for, it is hard to finally being validated.
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The job haven’t work for me, I love to work with children, dogs and horses, they never judge, children can but not as much as grown up. Except for ADHD and ASD, I have fibromyalgia so it can’t be to heavy physical either. I have applied for get retired because of all problems.
i relate to you alot. relax by learning. and being burned out, you know alot about yourself relative to Asbergers. I hope to be that way because it will help me with my goals. You have therapists and people helping you? i need help
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I wonder if ADHD and Autism are connected. Both my husband and myself are ADHD (different subtypes) we both scored lowish (19) on the AQ test. Our son is diagnosed mild/moderate Autistic. It seems like his Autism almost is a mix of my husband's quirks and mine. Granted my husband also has OCD like (sub-clinical?) qualities and generalized anxiety disorder.
Hi, my internet nickname is Green Roc. Overall I liked what you had to say in this video. I have edited my comment a few times because of reading it and feeling like I shouldn't have typed it. Do you have this issue where you type/say stuff without thinking, and quickly regret what you said moments later when you re-read your own comment?
Man i really wanted to see this but all the background noise is triggering me so bad :( its too bad that the closed captions aren't edited to be accurate because then i could turn down the sound and read what is being said.
It's not your fault Dan. I appreciate all the content you put out. And everything you do for all us aspies. I absolutely am in love with the Discord. I try to use it everyday. I can only imagine how hard it is to try and find a quiet place to interview someone.
Yes, yes we are. We neurodiverse see the world in a way that makes sense to us and when we share our view via art, you tube videos, music and poetry we blow neurotypical people away because we enrich all our worlds. Like music. I believe there is space on our planet for all ways of living. These videos are wonderful ways of showing everyone how amazing people are. Glad you are there.
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Great job BUT She interviewed you. And spent a lot of time on YOU. But now you need to interview HER. Fair is fair. And I'm curious about her as well!!
When or how old were you when you were diagnosed with dyslexia autism and ocd ADHD
When that's exactly what you are thinking and you come to realise you are not alone ....
I so relate to the last thing said about small talk, when he said "I learned to say..." That's the biggest thing I've found being a female who (likely) has mild autism... I can function normally. But all the things that come naturally to everyone else are things I've learned. I learned how to do small talk. I learned how to interact. So there's always a certain level of social anxiety/stress there, because my social skills aren't as autonomous as they are for everyone else. They require just that tiny bit more thought, and the pressure of having to put that thought into it produces the social anxiety I feel.
I relate to all you say about learning to small talk. A thing that bugs me about the way general people just chat on and on about themselves or totally vacuous stuff and you just have to pretend you’re interested to be polite. So tedious!
It's not even that I find it tedious (Although sometimes that's the case) but it's like... you know how a lot of grandparents are slower and not as smooth with technology compared to a teenager who has grown up doing it? I'm like that with small talk. Slower, haltering, because I had to learn it later in life instead of picking it up naturally. 0
Melissa Bergthold ha! I get you. But I am that technophobe granny!
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small talk always feels stilted and awkward to me XD I can do it but it's sooo boring
The expectation to small talk with strangers is INCREDIBLY cultural as well. I am Icelandic, and it is very common for foreigners (especially Americans, in my experience) to say that they find it odd (or rude/uncomfortable) how Icelanders don't talk to strangers. If two Icelanders who don't know each other sit next to each other at a bus stop, they would rather stare into the distance than say anything (though probably they'd just be on their smartphones nowadays). Nobody really sees any reason to talk to strangers & people find it unusual when American tourists start talking to them out of nowhere. Small talk still exists, but it's something that happens between vague acquaintances (distant relatives, someone you went to primary school with, friend of a friend etc) rather than strangers. I still struggle with what limited small talk we do have though, when I have something to say I can talk your ear off but when I don't have anything to say I'd rather not say anything at all.
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Yeah, it's the same in Finland 😁 also not standing too near the other person is recommended, at least 1-2 meters distance is good, if possible 🙊
Can i just say THANK YOU for the bit about ND’s and NT’s compromising and working together! ❤️ I totally agree. As an autistic I know I do my best to try to meet my NT peers halfway and I almost always get a positive response. It’s frustrating to see other autistics with the attitude, “this is me and I don’t have to change.” That’s just arrogant and doesn’t get us anywhere. We ALL have to consider others in our interactions.
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Right?! So true! THANK YOU for bringing it up. I so often see it on both sides and find it just so sad and feel like you guys (no matter if ND or NT) don't know what you're missing when you never break out. it's not like we are different species.
yeah small talk, i like to talk About weather, the weather in North Germany is so interesting. It depends on the direction of the wind and on the Season and when this and this come together we will have this and.... ok Maybe weather is not typical small-talk for me
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Hi! I’m a girl dating a boy with autism. I’ve known him for about 1.5 years, and i learn more and more each day. I am often googling and doing research from time to time to understand even more. Going to be honest and say it’s difficult from time to time, but that is also why i put so much effort to understand. I would really appreciate you making a video about relationships, and maybe your girlfriend also have som tips?
Love your videos! Regards Celina!
Super hard for me to concentrate with all the background noise ☹
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oh... you already commented that ;) haha
Is this guy's name Orien Kelly??? The autistic Guy with ASD ADHD OCD dyslexia???
My friends are Michael John Carley Temple Grandin Dr Stephen Shore the special education professor at Garden City New York Adelphi University
This is really good stuff, and helpful to me, as a 39 year old adult who's only now realising I'm probably on the spectrum. I just thought all this time I was just a really rubbish person, but actually seeing aspies on various youtube channels talking about their experiences, it's so familiar. All the stuff about school, and friends, and small talk, and obsessive interests, and being utterly unable to engage with things that I'm not interested in- it's exactly how I've been the whole time. I wish I'd known earlier, instead of spending my entire adult life unable to hold down a job or make friends with people and feeling like a failure because of it. I'm going to get a diagnosis.
WOW! I mean … WOW! I was first diagnosed by doctors and child psychiatrists as 'hyperactive' when I was six … which is now known as ADHD and was diagnosed with ASD/Aspergers much, much, much later. I soooo... relate to both of you and your experiences, especially when it came to 'small talk', also about difficulties connecting socially unless they were into what I was/am into and how my ADHD affects me in lots of ways! Oh, and I love Jess' doggy, too, Dan! Peace and All Good.
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OMG! OMG! OMG! You're my favorites! 🥰
My life isn't the same after I found you two.
It would be a dream to have a channel/show with both of you!
Haha that would be awesome!!
The Aspie World and How to ADHD, oh boy!
At least try to collab more often! Like a monthly/bi-mo thing.
The world needs such communities working for a better future.
If definitely subscribe to that!
Small talk- where I work I have to spent time in cars with my coworkers and it’s great when they start conversations and ask me about stuff so that the conversation can actually go somewhere because I do enjoy talking to them, but I’m SO bad at thinking of things to talk about with them and there are times when we sit in silence for 20+ minutes because I can’t think of any way to start a conversation
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I was looking for a video where "how to ADHD" would make an interview with someone with aspergers. What a surprise that one came out today XD
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@@TheAspieWorldI already subscribed more then a week ago. (Lol, you're welcome though) I really like your videos btw and whenever I hear your intro(Aspergers, ADHD, etc) I'm like:"Damn, He hit the jackpot!"
Relate so much to that feeling of always needing to progress. Love that you and Jess did a crossover!
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OMG! So amazing! My two favourite TH-cam influencers in one video 🙂🙂🙂. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 20s and now with going through the process of getting a diagnosis for my daughter of Aspergers I will be seeking a diagnosis for myself because I just tick too many of the boxes to ignore. I have found both of you so helpful in reminding myself that my challenges are real. That it's a part of who I am... I am dealing with extra challenges not just lazy, antisocial, weird, stupid all the negative self talk that tends to hammer you when you are totally confused about not reacting in a neuro-typical way to life.
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I totally get where you're coming from, I love learning new things all the time, never wanna stop=)
I love TH-cam and that is how I found your channel, I love the ASD world we're apart of, I love learning new things from you, and new things in myself :)
I have a friend named Jess, and the Jess in the video, looks as though that's somebody else who I would want to be my friend, love her top 💓, and her energy is good, just like yours:), and so positive.
Worst small talk ever I've experienced plenty of times
Me- "Hi, how you going"
them- "Good thanks"
Me- "That's great to hear"
them- "And how are you going"
Me- "I'm good thank you"
them- "Good"
Sometimes I may even throw in the occasional "Yeah", then the convo just ends there ugh that's never fun, but I love asking others how they are, checking in that sort of thing 😊❤💙
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That's how I have crashes too! Its so odd and I cant understand it. When i'm keeping busy I'm ok, I keep myself so busy that there comes a point where I need a day off.. and on that day off I end up having a kind of meltdown/shutdown because I feel so lost, depressed and directionless. Half a day off is all my mind can manage, but I also cant work full time cause I burn out. The balance seems impossible!
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I feel you on so much of this. I came over from Jess's channel and I really enjoyed the video! I have the opposite problem with small talk where someone will say something like "how was your weekend?" and 10 minutes later I see the panic in their eyes that means "I was expecting 'good, you?' and I got a monologue".
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So lovely to find your channel via Jessie, I am a 40+ lady diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia last October, on a journey of learning first how to cope, knowing/getting a diagnoisis alone has explained so much, I would love to connect - I'm in Dublin, only across the Irish Sea, I'd love your advice on starting a youtube channel. I am a content creator already. Thanks, Marie-Clare
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In my current situation it's full-on trying to find services with little success, which leaves almost no time and mental energyto learn ways to function in the neurotypical world. Your and Jess' videos remind me to work that in somehow, some way from time to time. Keep it up! You two rock!
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Love both channels. Thanks for this. Daughter is Aspie w/ ADHD. Both my brothers are Aspie (my Dad and I are undiagnosed, but pretty sure we are.) My fiance, son and younger daughter also have ADHD. I'm Bipolar. We have a lot going. Both your channel and her's helps a lot! Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
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I relate so much with what you said when talking about crashing. When I learned about How to ADHD I got super productive because I was using lists and a BuJo and I had things to do, but as soon as I finished my list of things I couldn't get started on anything else because I crashed like you. And this happens whenever I finish a video. I've finished my project so there's nothing left to do, so I have to start immediately on the next video or else it takes me at least a week to start on my next video
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I struggle a lot with boundaries when trying to compromise and step out of my comfort zone. I always push myself too hard. I'm not that rigid and quite open minded, but I burn out from unintentionally neglecting myself in the process. Balance is challenging.
Thank you so much for the collaboration I'm geeking out lol 💙
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Hi! New subscriber here :) Just came over from the How to ADHD channel. Thank you for charing your story.
Small talk sucks lol why do I need to listen to some stranger point out the obvious. Yes its raining haha
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Hey I usually have hard time to talk to people or keep the conversation going. And I have some hard time to communicate and talk to my friend's and they think that i don't like them or something. Do u have any tips .
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This video was so so interesting!! Plus two of my favourite TH-camrs in one interview - day made :)
Lastly: I want that puppy!!! Omigosh
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I have adhd and also hate small talk. I always listen to music and when people I don't know, try to talk to me, I just nodd and point at my headphones and then continue to listen to my music.
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Dan your down time is almost the same as mine. I too love watching documentaries about random subjects and I believe I am in an Aspergers burnout right now. I don't know if it is Aspergers or if I am just lazy. I loved the interview
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This was an inspiring perspective about productivity. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 👍🏼
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Thank you for this video. I have a 16 year old son that has ADHD. He's on medicine for it he may also have autism which he's being tested on the 21st. I'm having issues with his school he's being bullied. I've spoken to his principle and his teachers about it. He has quirks he can't help it. If it doesn't stop I'm going to get an attorney.
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Getting an attorney for what? Just teach your son how to deal with bullies.
@@shellyd1811 I have. He's being hit by kids at his school.
@@heatherevans9499 Children get suspended and expelled when they exert physical violence on other students....at least where I'm from in California.
@@heatherevans9499 Talk to the parents of the bullies, and if they still keep assaulting your child, call the cops and press charges.
This was really interesting. I can particularly relate to the job bit right now. My current job isn't a good fit for me, but I like working only 4 days a week. Finding something new has been frustrating.
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I can resonate with on so many levels. I have always struggled with (live) communication, even among friends and family. Relationships generally didn't last, including my marriage. Sometimes I struggle to have a conversation with my son and I hate that because I don't get to see him often. He lives in another state and although I could visit him, I feel uncomfortable about visiting alone because I just feel like it would be awkward. I can't connect with his significant other either. I have gone with my niece to visit a couple of times but I don't think she really wanted to do it. I think she did it FOR me but we aren't so close anymore, so I don't know when I will visit him again.
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How to ADHD guided me here and I am so grateful. I am a teacher in special settings so the more resources the better. OMG as a teacher, we need to small talk all the time with kids. I hate it! The kids end up looking at me like I am strange. I am awful at it. Unless it is science. I can nerd out with the best of them.
I struggle with eye contact (one of the reasons I'm starting to suspect I might have mild autism, along with crippling social anxiety and sensory issues) and I learned that I can't handle looking people in the eye but I can stare at their lips without a problem. It helps me understand what people are saying and no one seems to notice I'm not making eye contact because I'm still looking at their face.
Very interesting video. The small talk part is so true haha. I am always awkward when someone starts talking to me. :D Except when I am with my horse in the riding stable - but I guess this is because of the people there - they will talk about horses and horse stuff all the time and because horses are my special interest since I was a little girl, this is something I can talk about for hours... :)
But even if I wouldn't talk to them - they're not mad or offended. We've got a girl with selective mutism (and probably also ASD, but it isn't diagnosed yet) and still, everyone says hello to her and is accepting her the way she is. It's great there. Probably the only place on earth where I meet a lot of people that I am comfortable with. ^^
And I think it's good to learn new stuff that you actually don't like that much. I am a wreck when it comes to phone calls but due to my full time job as a media designer I need to call people. My boss always pushes me to do things I am afraid of. And what should I say.. it works. I am less afraid of calling customers or talking on the phone in general. :D That's a huge achievement for me.
Loved this! Loud background.
Small talk is tedious but I think of it like a game. The object is to find out what the other person likes. Some times it works most time now but once in a while I find people who love Lego. Now that's a good day.
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Awesome video Dan.
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Love you both!
And on relationships: I'm a "Brain" married to an Aspie!
We have been together 12 years, married 11.
Asking questions and trying to understand each other is HUGE.
We have 4 kiddos too 😜
Also: I do the budgeting and major scheduling (he keeps us on time!)
He refers to me as his conscious 😜
Productive hack for hikes with the family: listen to audiobooks or podcasts in one earbud! That is how hubby stays sane during family gatherings. 😁
I have an ADHD assessment on Monday (Internalized screams 😅) and although I don't believe that I have ASD - it was great to hear people talk about some of the problems that I also face which I think I'd have trouble articulating to the psychiatrist if I hadn't have seen this... so thanks!
P.S. SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT HAPPENS AT AN ASSESSMENT. EVERYTHING I CAN FIND ONLINE IS REALLY VAUGE!
I feel like everybody in school thinks I’m weird because I plug my ears when the bell rings or when everybody screams and sometimes i rock back and forth and everybody on my bus or class I bet they think I’m so weird
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The Aspie World okie ;3
The problem with the "meet in the middle" philosophy expressed at 11:19 is that NT's seem to think "the middle" is their front porch, when we live a whole mile away.
I also love to learn, draw, paint, looking at movies, read
Could you also do a video about people who are autism / aspergusw and what jobs would work best with them?
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I hate small talk and I don't understand why it is important. Someone explained it to me... Still don't understand.
If it is snowing I can see it too, right? So why telling me it's snowing.
Thanks for you videos :) They are really good!
love the video :)
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My son was not diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome until he was in his teens. I did not know that there was such a thing as Asperger's I knew something is definitely different about him but he has such a big heart and as such a wonderful person I just didn't think it was Asperger's I just didn't know about it. I wish I had because I would have sought help for that. Even though he was seeing a psychiatrist and saw him for many years Asperger's never was thought of. Then later on in life his father had him tested not for Ashburn Ice but just in general tested and he has ADHD and Asperger's. I have ADHD and I am dyslexic. So I don't know if it is coming from my jeans probably it is but I just never knew about Asperger's and I feel really horrible that he didn't receive what he needed. He was teased at school. Ostracized by the teachers. And I tried to do everything I could do to help them I just wish he could have had the right help sooner. He's now in his early twenties and is okay but I just don't know if the Asperger's is being addressed he is such a great person and I love them with all my heart..
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❤😂😅 I'm self DX with ASD because I read Michael John Carley's book Asperger's from the inside out he & his son both have ASD Michael mentions self Dx❤😂😅🎉
Omg it,s my too favorite TH-camrer,s together :0
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Do a video about what it was like to be diagnosed, like what did they do and ask you
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Thank you.
How did you feel getting an adult diagnosis? Im going threw the process of some of the stuff i suspect evaluated for, it is hard to finally being validated.
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The job haven’t work for me, I love to work with children, dogs and horses, they never judge, children can but not as much as grown up. Except for ADHD and ASD, I have fibromyalgia so it can’t be to heavy physical either. I have applied for get retired because of all problems.
i relate to you alot. relax by learning. and being burned out, you know alot about yourself relative to Asbergers. I hope to be that way because it will help me with my goals. You have therapists and people helping you? i need help
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I have ADHD,OCD and Asperger's. It's hard
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I'm not good at small talk, in general, unless I can steer it around to something interesting; I don't chat, I found I was boring . . .
I’m 24 and I’ve never been in a relationship 😭
i know how you feel, but i don't have a tipp (a few years older and also never in a relationship)
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I wonder if ADHD and Autism are connected. Both my husband and myself are ADHD (different subtypes) we both scored lowish (19) on the AQ test. Our son is diagnosed mild/moderate Autistic. It seems like his Autism almost is a mix of my husband's quirks and mine. Granted my husband also has OCD like (sub-clinical?) qualities and generalized anxiety disorder.
I really like the bits without the live podcasts. Unfortunately I have a really hard time with the background chatter. WAAAAY too distracting.
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Hi, my internet nickname is Green Roc. Overall I liked what you had to say in this video. I have edited my comment a few times because of reading it and feeling like I shouldn't have typed it. Do you have this issue where you type/say stuff without thinking, and quickly regret what you said moments later when you re-read your own comment?
Sometimes
I have ADHD autism and Borderline personality disorder
Good job
Thank you!!
Whats ironic is that i have both ADHD and aspergers
Man i really wanted to see this but all the background noise is triggering me so bad :( its too bad that the closed captions aren't edited to be accurate because then i could turn down the sound and read what is being said.
Sorry :(
It's not your fault Dan. I appreciate all the content you put out. And everything you do for all us aspies. I absolutely am in love with the Discord. I try to use it everyday. I can only imagine how hard it is to try and find a quiet place to interview someone.
Can you do a girlfriend tag video?
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Um, I was really enjoying this, until you said it takes you that long to RUN two and a half miles . . . unless there are extreme barriers.
Reeeeaally want to watch but the noise!!!!
Ello. The 1980s called;they eant their coffee pot back.
Small talk with no interesting, but THAT is hard for others to understand.
Way to much background noise.
great video!! thanx :) but next time..find a quiet room, because I almost can not focus on what you both talk about. To much background noise!
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Do we need neurodiverse ways of being cool?
Are we not already the coolest?
Yes, yes we are. We neurodiverse see the world in a way that makes sense to us and when we share our view via art, you tube videos, music and poetry we blow neurotypical people away because we enrich all our worlds. Like music. I believe there is space on our planet for all ways of living. These videos are wonderful ways of showing everyone how amazing people are. Glad you are there.
I know I'm not the only one who wanted to yell at everyone to shut up through the screen....ugh
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@@TheAspieWorld .(:
I LOVE the content of this video but as a Nurodiverse person, please do not make such amazing video content in a noisy background.
what a horrible enviroment ,but great intervieuw
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