I love being alone but isolation is really dangerous. I think enjoying being alone is really healthy. But when suffering from depression we have to still be in the "real and messy world" and I know that can be so scary I learnt: Talking about mental illness is the way to survive the mental illness . ! Talking is so important. I promise you if you want to win this fight you have to talk about it. Being ashamed just makes lonely and lonliness and isolation can kill. Take care (: (Also if you are not ready to talk, then just sit next to friends or family or in a restaurant and listen to other people talking. That can be healing too. Just never shut down! Never!) ♡
Living alone with mental health is so much better than living with someone who ruins ur mental health and living with narcisitic parents n toxic people in general
I have depression and I live alone it can get so bloody lonely sometimes when your just being swallowed up in your mental health thankyou so much for making this video it has really opened my eyes
Being alone is dangerous for me. It takes a lot of effort to focus on being positive. Its easy to fall into thinking traps. I'm self employed and it can be a challenge to meet my goals.
The part about living alone and being able to just go through the motions alone I totally get! If I wanna be sad and not shower and cry ALL DAY for who knows how long it’s SUCH A RELIEF not having someone around to witness it or be effected by it. I get an OVERWHELMING felling of being a burden or being others down with my mood and watching them try to make things better and it not work. I literally feel Ike I cause people to be sad or depressed. Without feeling like the ultimate buzz kill or burden kinda helps me pull through things faster... I think... I just feel like I’m sparing the world. I’ll re-emerge once I’m over the storm... eventually.
Needed this. I have bpd. My sons father left me before Christmas and I’ve been living on my own with our son ever since it’s been so hard but thank you for this video x
I can imagine thats been really tough for you! But you can 100% do your bets to shift your mindset and think of just the small positives of it just being you two x
i would love to live by myself,but unfortunately the mental illnesses i have prevents me from being able to drive.it would be great to hear some tips for my situation.
i have depression and anxiety and it has caused me to start harming myself on my arms and legs but thanks your vids help me realise i am not alone in this constant battle with my head
The part about being ill and living alone was so relatable for me atm..I'm currently sick since like 2 or more weeks and I feel more lonely that ever. 💗 thank you for your content about BPD 😘 new subscriber from Poland.
And YES for having a dog, I have a cat and a puppy (since 6 months) so I'm less lonely thanks to them and my puppy Luna "forces" me to go out and meet other ppl.
One thing is almost all present in mentall ilness that people get ill becouse their surronding and family problems... or are mistreated by their parents and they do not even rocognize that I have something like schizophrenia without halucinations. I am preparing to go live by myself as i funkcion normaly and i realized my family is worsening my illness I was living 3 months alone and it felt great - freedooomm! My parents are not bad people but i can not take any bs anymore from them. It is time to prepare myself with some extra money and go my way MY! Way
I'm 17 and in quite a big rut about having to start with college soon while also majorly struggling with mental health. While I'm still super nervous and scared to be having to live on my own someday, this video makes me a little more at ease with knowing I always have my own back. Thank you!
I am scared about living alone because I cut any time I think about cutting or see my scares, and if I don’t keep myself distracted I think of that. And I am scared that I will become more depressed if I am not around other people. This helped calm me a lot and thanks for making this video. 😀😀
I would definitely advise being in a better place with your cutting before you live alone. and when you do make sure that your triggers are lessened ie hide away all the sharps etc... its important to be around other people and if thats what keeps you safe stick to that!
themaddiebruce thanks I won’t move in by myself for a while due to age but I will not move in by myself if it is going to be harmful to my mental health or my cutting. I am REALLY trying to stop cutting so hopefully I will be able to stop as soon as possible.
Hi Maddie, I'm new to your channel and I'm really enjoying it! Yes I can relate about the living alone thing. I like to be alone, but at the same time, I wish there was somebody else there to take care of me whenever I can't take care of myself. I think it boils down to finding the right partner who understands our mental health issues. It's not easy to find such a person since everybody is so self-serving & unkind these days. Thank you so much for your honesty, your heart in wanting to help other people, and lessening the stigma against mental health.
Thanks so much for your lovely comment. I definitely agree! But I’ve found I’ve become so much stronger in being by myself without a partner to rely on. I actually became too reliant on him and actually we are stronger than we ever think we are x
I have a cousin that has been in and out of group homes--I am hoping she can do better living alone--and YES--I thought a pet would help--THANK YOU! I will have her watch you.
I struggle to be in house alone and both my mum and partner work so I’m in house alone a lot and my anxiety is so bad and it makes my ocd so much worse but I really appreciated the tips thank you xxx
It’s so odd when people say life is so short. Which is true, but with mental health issues it becomes very terrible at times and it becomes hard to be in the moment. Double edged sword I guess.
Great content well done! Wish I had heard this when I was living in shared accommodation at uni. Took me a long time to recognise what I was feeling as a mental health issue. xx
Tbh I’m quite excited to move out, my dad is the whole reason for my mental health issues, but I know that having no one there probs won’t be good for me. I’m hoping to get a room mate or something. Maybe a cat lol :)
agree with this epeciallly the tittle i have anxiety depression and ptsdand im only 12 turning 13 a week from thrusday, so im stilll young so i think this is important and im still afraid of the dark and being alone sometimes like this day im writing this im staying alone with my lil sister while my mum is at work and im proud that im finally not afraid of being alone
Hey how did you overcome the fear of being alone cause I'm 16 and I stay with my mother and grandmother and my mother is always at work and my granny is always busy with chores and due to lockdown I feel so lonely
I Have anxiety (panick attacks) and i will be living alone, so i am trying to prepare myself, i know it's going to be hard. I am 20 years old and I will be going to uni very soon, in another country. omg i'm scared as shit. But i am positive that i will get through this, it will be hard and scary but i pray to God that i will survive.
I have BPD and i live alone for some weeks now. My family is 1 day ways by bus I'm living so far away i just need help . I have two day left alone i just pray i feel better
this year i moved to go to college, i live in the netherlands and its a 2 hour train ride if we dont count the 45 min bus ride to my small town so i have to live in a student house, its not an option going back and forth every day. i had to leave my boyfriend back home and even though i have friends here now i feel so lonely and depressed being here. i can talk to my bf about it but hes so far away and im not so close with anyone here to talk about my feelings and its so difficult... does anyone have advice for me? because i love my major of ocean and coastal management and i dont want to quit but im clearly not ready living here alone
I'm trying to mentally prepare myself to live on my own someday.
same here...
I love being alone but isolation is really dangerous. I think enjoying being alone is really healthy. But when suffering from depression we have to still be in the "real and messy world" and I know that can be so scary
I learnt:
Talking about mental illness is the way to survive the mental illness . !
Talking is so important. I promise you if you want to win this fight you have to talk about it. Being ashamed just makes lonely and lonliness and isolation can kill.
Take care (:
(Also if you are not ready to talk, then just sit next to friends or family or in a restaurant and listen to other people talking. That can be healing too. Just never shut down! Never!)
♡
Living alone with mental health is so much better than living with someone who ruins ur mental health and living with narcisitic parents n toxic people in general
Yes that's definitely accurate
I have depression and I live alone it can get so bloody lonely sometimes when your just being swallowed up in your mental health thankyou so much for making this video it has really opened my eyes
I'm so glad it helped, totally agree x
Being alone is dangerous for me. It takes a lot of effort to focus on being positive. Its easy to fall into thinking traps. I'm self employed and it can be a challenge to meet my goals.
The part about living alone and being able to just go through the motions alone I totally get! If I wanna be sad and not shower and cry ALL DAY for who knows how long it’s SUCH A RELIEF not having someone around to witness it or be effected by it. I get an OVERWHELMING felling of being a burden or being others down with my mood and watching them try to make things better and it not work. I literally feel Ike I cause people to be sad or depressed. Without feeling like the ultimate buzz kill or burden kinda helps me pull through things faster... I think... I just feel like I’m sparing the world. I’ll re-emerge once I’m over the storm... eventually.
Needed this. I have bpd. My sons father left me before Christmas and I’ve been living on my own with our son ever since it’s been so hard but thank you for this video x
I can imagine thats been really tough for you! But you can 100% do your bets to shift your mindset and think of just the small positives of it just being you two x
I have BPD and am moving out on my own in a couple months. Very nervous..,thank you for the tips they were so helpful! Love the hair 💕
ahhh good luck!! thank you :)
i would love to live by myself,but unfortunately the mental illnesses i have prevents me from being able to drive.it would be great to hear some tips for my situation.
i have depression and anxiety and it has caused me to start harming myself on my arms and legs
but thanks your vids help me realise i am not alone in this constant battle with my head
taylor clampeth hope ur doing okay xx
Louisa Bramham I am not ok
@@taylorclampeth4486 Are you any better now?
Ameena not really
@@taylorclampeth4486 I'm sorry to hear that. My mental health has really deteriorated during quarantine too
That feeling when your parents were never there for you emotionally and you had to "pick yourself up" since you were seven years old 💀💀
Absolutely loved this. I also have anxiety, bpd and am scorpion! I loved living alone before I met my now husband xx
The part about being ill and living alone was so relatable for me atm..I'm currently sick since like 2 or more weeks and I feel more lonely that ever. 💗 thank you for your content about BPD 😘 new subscriber from Poland.
And YES for having a dog, I have a cat and a puppy (since 6 months) so I'm less lonely thanks to them and my puppy Luna "forces" me to go out and meet other ppl.
One thing is almost all present in mentall ilness that people get ill becouse their surronding and family problems... or are mistreated by their parents and they do not even rocognize that
I have something like schizophrenia without halucinations.
I am preparing to go live by myself as i funkcion normaly and i realized my family is worsening my illness
I was living 3 months alone and it felt great - freedooomm!
My parents are not bad people but i can not take any bs anymore from them. It is time to prepare myself with some extra money and go my way
MY! Way
I'm 17 and in quite a big rut about having to start with college soon while also majorly struggling with mental health. While I'm still super nervous and scared to be having to live on my own someday, this video makes me a little more at ease with knowing I always have my own back. Thank you!
Great video Maddie and stay strong 💪🏻💕
thanks lovely x
Thank you for this. I shared it with my son.
I am scared about living alone because I cut any time I think about cutting or see my scares, and if I don’t keep myself distracted I think of that. And I am scared that I will become more depressed if I am not around other people. This helped calm me a lot and thanks for making this video. 😀😀
I would definitely advise being in a better place with your cutting before you live alone. and when you do make sure that your triggers are lessened ie hide away all the sharps etc... its important to be around other people and if thats what keeps you safe stick to that!
themaddiebruce thanks I won’t move in by myself for a while due to age but I will not move in by myself if it is going to be harmful to my mental health or my cutting. I am REALLY trying to stop cutting so hopefully I will be able to stop as soon as possible.
thank you
Hi Maddie, I'm new to your channel and I'm really enjoying it! Yes I can relate about the living alone thing. I like to be alone, but at the same time, I wish there was somebody else there to take care of me whenever I can't take care of myself. I think it boils down to finding the right partner who understands our mental health issues. It's not easy to find such a person since everybody is so self-serving & unkind these days. Thank you so much for your honesty, your heart in wanting to help other people, and lessening the stigma against mental health.
Thanks so much for your lovely comment. I definitely agree! But I’ve found I’ve become so much stronger in being by myself without a partner to rely on. I actually became too reliant on him and actually we are stronger than we ever think we are x
I have a cousin that has been in and out of group homes--I am hoping she can do better living alone--and YES--I thought a pet would help--THANK YOU! I will have her watch you.
💗
I have BPD and live alone too. I have been for 3 years. Some days are awesome and some days are so hard.
completely relate, you've got this though, its a HUGE achievement within itself x
Thank you. I am heading down this path
you've got this!!
I struggle to be in house alone and both my mum and partner work so I’m in house alone a lot and my anxiety is so bad and it makes my ocd so much worse but I really appreciated the tips thank you xxx
Thank u
Thank you
It’s so odd when people say life is so short. Which is true, but with mental health issues it becomes very terrible at times and it becomes hard to be in the moment. Double edged sword I guess.
I loved this,I have dpdr,anxiety and depression and i just felt so alone until i got a service dog
What was the process of you getting a service dog?
Great content well done! Wish I had heard this when I was living in shared accommodation at uni. Took me a long time to recognise what I was feeling as a mental health issue. xx
thank you- ahhh yes it often does take a while! its taken me a long time to get to this place haha xx
Tbh I’m quite excited to move out, my dad is the whole reason for my mental health issues, but I know that having no one there probs won’t be good for me. I’m hoping to get a room mate or something. Maybe a cat lol :)
agree with this epeciallly the tittle i have anxiety depression and ptsdand im only 12 turning 13 a week from thrusday, so im stilll young so i think this is important and im still afraid of the dark and being alone sometimes like this day im writing this im staying alone with my lil sister while my mum is at work and im proud that im finally not afraid of being alone
Hey how did you overcome the fear of being alone cause I'm 16 and I stay with my mother and grandmother and my mother is always at work and my granny is always busy with chores and due to lockdown I feel so lonely
I Have anxiety (panick attacks) and i will be living alone, so i am trying to prepare myself, i know it's going to be hard. I am 20 years old and I will be going to uni very soon, in another country. omg i'm scared as shit. But i am positive that i will get through this, it will be hard and scary but i pray to God that i will survive.
I have BPD and i live alone for some weeks now. My family is 1 day ways by bus I'm living so far away i just need help . I have two day left alone i just pray i feel better
Fantastic video!!! I find it hard being alone with my thoughts. Thank you!!!
Her accent 🥰
this year i moved to go to college, i live in the netherlands and its a 2 hour train ride if we dont count the 45 min bus ride to my small town so i have to live in a student house, its not an option going back and forth every day. i had to leave my boyfriend back home and even though i have friends here now i feel so lonely and depressed being here. i can talk to my bf about it but hes so far away and im not so close with anyone here to talk about my feelings and its so difficult... does anyone have advice for me? because i love my major of ocean and coastal management and i dont want to quit but im clearly not ready living here alone
May I ask, what was the reason for the breakup?
I want to move out on my own in a year, but i don't know how with schizoaffective disorder
What do you do for a living?
I loveee this advice videos!!!!
I'm so glad!
I like dogs but if I feel lonely and the only one who lives with me is a dog would make me feel even more lonely
Thank u for this
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Hi I am new
I love you
Can i talk to u via Instagram? I have some questions about moving out