I’m glad you got this video up, and I’m sorry to know you’ve had a hard week. I’m new here-literally just realizing within the last week or so that I am very likely undiagnosed AuDHD. I’m 41 and so appreciative to have come across a channel by someone my age discussing your experiences with that duality. I feel like I may have finally found the missing piece to why I can’t get my executive function back after being out of a very bad part of my life for almost a year now. I had no idea that autistic burnout is so different from neurotypical burnout. And I had no idea about unmasking accidentally due to burnout and how it can finally make autistic and ADHD traits we didn’t even realize we’ve been hiding suddenly obvious. I’ve had a couple cries over the past week or so because I’m so relieved that there’s probably a reason why I’ve been struggling so hard and can’t seem to just “bounce back” like I feel like I should be able to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for making this channel and talking so honestly and openly about your experiences. You are saving people from so much pain. Thank. You.
To the E - Echolalia point: It also works like Context/Emotion gestalt language in kids. They make a pair of context+echo(what they heard at the moment) or emotion+echo(what they felt at the moment and someone said) and then when the same situation happens or they feel the same as last time, they echo/repeat the word or the whole fraze,sentence again to say "I feel the same as last time I heard this" or "The same thing is happening to me as the last time I heard saying you this". So do NOT suppress it in kids just help them "translate" their echos to typical language.
Thanks Amanda, I did learn something. I did not think I had any problems with eye contact but you made me realise I’m probably just not doing right. Which is probably why some people are looking away when I talk to them.
My autism and ADHD are at war in me constantly. I hear you on all points. I especially like the part about gestalt thinking and speaking.As always, I learn so much in my painful, awareness process.
Hunger cues come too late for me. Wonder over an inch worm. Information dumping. Literal thinking.Late discovery. Had no idea I was masking- always the outsider looking in. Have learned so much also this time around. If TH-cam let me finish this comment .Thank you so much, Amanda
“yeah it’s because the mask just shattered” oh man, felt that. 😅 Thanks for this video. It was very informative and also compassionate. I am still learning the language to help me understand how to manage things (I’m realizing how many of my difficulties are likely related to differences from autism, and how many difficulties I didn’t know I had until I started paying attention, like feeling better with less eye contact.) This is also helpful for communicating better with others. Definitely resonate with the idea that sharing interests is a *love language*, lol. Hope you are doing well and getting the rest you need!
Minute 13: OMG Amanda, I do both of it too! How not to repeat the word ecolalia with so much joy over and over again? I mean, it is made to! But that repeating my chatty cats meow all the times could be a form of it... Never thaught about! Thank You, I like that idea😊
Hah! Minute 23 cat meowed in your background and I "answered" in my head! If You wouldn't have mentioned it before I am pretty sure I wouldn't have mentioned me doung it. It's such a funny thing! ❤it I knew I am a cat person, but...😅
Really liked this alphabet. Would like too have it as a printable list to hand it out for others to start a research. Thank You for doing this work to help others❤
@@i.am.mindblind Well, for me I always need something to read additional to what I´ve heard (AudioVisual learning-type). So if I have a list with all words I can make to each some notice and then I rememver. Same if I want to talk about to help remember. I think You also have those moments You know a lot about a topic, but when You want to tell You forget most. So later You are disapointed You lost this possibility.
D - Decision Paralysis, I never heard this phrase before... I think I have that. Last time I interacted with my dad, he interrupted me ordering at a restaurant, he didn't like me taking so long. I walked out of that restaurant without ordering. At over 30 years old, I was tired of his mistreatment.
That thing about overdoing eye contact is something I experienced too. I genuinely thought I had to really focus on people's eyes to appear engaged. I did so in a couple of job interviews. I probably messed them up beacause of that. I had the first incling that it was too much when the interviewers looked away in an embarrassed way. I didn't even want to make eye contact in the first place, but I was told I had to in order to show respect and interest. If that's not literal thinking I don't know what is.
Society demands too much imo. Autistic masking is miserable and painful to me. I want autism acceptance. P.S. I know I'm a month behind in watching my TH-cam inbox. I'm delayed like that too... I was having fun with video games, I am trying to catch up on my inbox once again. I love your videos, I feel you could be a trend setter to help other autistics become more satisfied with themselves in society than whatever the heck this experience is for us now.
I love spicy food too. My favorite foods are Thai and Indian food. I love fruit. Textures usually don't bother me but I have good taste buds and am picky about tastes. I like a lot of foods and I hate a lot of foods.
2:20 I prefer emphasizing awareness because I think at the moment one of the core issues we're dealing with is that most autists are oblivious to being autists: it wasn't even really on my radar until after 30, and was only 18 months ago that I actually started doing serious research at age 36. Trying to boost awareness and acceptance among neurotypicals is great, and self acceptance is great too, but all of that becomes easier as we build a community, and we can't build a community if we're all oblivious to ourselves.
Hello. I love the idea of the ABC's of Autism. I'm excited to watch the rest to relax later today. I wanted to share a personal update along adding a comment here. I haven't been as active here checking because I have been on the journey since I unintentionally gotten healed enough to sense why I lost control and healed when needed last month. Ever since then and being able to actually gain knowledge more easier including the specifics. I healed from past issues including the masks, ablism, and getting autonomy back from the brain and senses and healed them by eating natural nutrients and not the fake chemical ones along with processed stuff that affected my body and brain. I'm curious though. I remembered back in the day (possibly still now?). That there was talks about how certain foods can "heal" Autism (and possibly any neurodivergent traits too). It's obvious that it's a myth and is pushing ableism because it's a type of brain and not a disease that needs curing. What I'm curious however if natural nutrient foods and supplements (depending on roles and they play for the body) can make the traits be in much more control for others, the same way it did for me. It did for me including being less prone to Emotion Dysregulation (more tolerance but can still happen) along with being in much more control and aware of my Hyperfocus instead most times. I'm Diagnosed with Autism, ADH*B* (B meaning Brain since it isn't exclusive to disabling), and Self Diagnosed Aphantasia. The funny part about me with my healed senses is that I'm somewhat able to find workarounds with other feelings to have better memory including being able to remember dreams again (since I was a kid) and making a drawing. While not straight forward and my minds eye is still and probably forever a blank. I'm grateful to find ways to help myself and be able to find my inner peace ✌ I hope you are able to get energy back. Like what Bella from Bluey says that helps me when I'm a bit down... "Your doing great" 🙏
I think that the more any person can look after themselves in all ways, the more energy they have and the better they feel across the board, so whatever they are dealing with is likely to be somewhat more effective.
@@tracik1277 I agree after being able to do so and know what was happening, getting rid of most of the brain fog and my damage senses by prebiotics like Garlic, Lemon Water, and Apple Cider Vinager when in need. One of the few contributers in helping remove my masks including people pleasing for the sake of it despite myself needing care when in need. My senses were so damaged that I didn't feel a .5mm kidney stone I had until it was peak over a year ago. Worst sensory experience and experience ever in general. I pray that no one will ever go though the same thing or similar.
@@tracik1277 I agree, tho only possible when i’m in my controlled state. Both the senses and brain health is very needed. My senses and brain were so damaged that I couldn’t tell and feel the 5mm Kidney Stone inside of me till the pain was peak over a year ago. That was worst pain I ever felt. Both sensory and in general. Not even my fractured dip joint pointer finger felt that bad. Lemon Water, Apple Cider Vinegar, and Garlic were hey helpers in helping my body get the needed cleanliness it needed. It can feel them more clearly. I do hope no one gets them 🙏🏻
Monotropism - Seems like I have it constantly. Being pulled away from whatever I am focused on, I have known myself to scream. Being redirected is sometimes painful.
Eye-contact: Allistics seeing the whole face at once? Wow. I see an area the size of an eyeball. Certainly feels better to me to NOT make eye contact. I lose some of my concentration on someone's conversation when I am spending focus on making eye contact... which took me until I was in my 20's to find proper "eve contact" that was demanded from me since I was a toddler. "Proper" emphasis, because a constant stare into the eyes is not appropriate. I find what worked for me is to tell me I can look away for 70% of the conversation. 30% of "eye-contact" seems to be enough for the allistics to NOT notice I have difficulty making eye contact.
Thank you so much Amanda. Today I needed to feel I'm not alone. That there are people out there who get me and feel the same crap :-) In burn-out for 2 years. Yes, I can not mask anymore the way I used to. And yes, I didn't know I was masking until I was 37 years old. I am so sad the last days. Grieving what I used to be able to do and not anymore: > I can't tolerate sunlight anymore, and I used to be a hugeeeeeeeeeeee 🌞lover; > I can not be around people for long anymore (on many days not at all) while in fact I am a person who loves to be among friends and I really miss the social interaction. I miss seeing my little nieces and nephews growing up; 🫂 > I used to be able to visit crowded places with a lot of noices like the carnival, a festival or a bar with loud music without problems. Now I am the opposite person. The sensory overwhelm literally cost me break-downs and makes me physically ill: neurologically I am unable to bear; 😵💫 > I have to move out of my lovely house, because neurologically I can't bear the environment- and neighbour noices anymore. People have no idea how dis-abilitating and life-changing an autistic burn-out can be! 😥 And doing a house-moving during burn-out is really not a good mix. 👁 My doctor once looked me in the eyes for about two seconds in a really intens way (she did that to look into my soul, to verify how she had to estimate me, and check on what her gut was telling her). This incident happened before I received the diagnose Autism. Until today, even thinking back about that moment it makes me physically unwell. Am contemplating telling her this, so she can take this info into the future. (She knows about my Aud(h)D diagnosis and is happy for me I received it). 😘 No need to excuse yourself fot the lenght of the video. We viewers can pause and watch in it bits and pieces if we want to.
I did it! I got the video up, but I'm not back on the couch resting. It's been a hard week. Love you all though. ❤
Brave! You 1 vs couch 0 !😅
Writing this in my cozy bed going to sleep...
I’m glad you got this video up, and I’m sorry to know you’ve had a hard week. I’m new here-literally just realizing within the last week or so that I am very likely undiagnosed AuDHD. I’m 41 and so appreciative to have come across a channel by someone my age discussing your experiences with that duality.
I feel like I may have finally found the missing piece to why I can’t get my executive function back after being out of a very bad part of my life for almost a year now. I had no idea that autistic burnout is so different from neurotypical burnout. And I had no idea about unmasking accidentally due to burnout and how it can finally make autistic and ADHD traits we didn’t even realize we’ve been hiding suddenly obvious.
I’ve had a couple cries over the past week or so because I’m so relieved that there’s probably a reason why I’ve been struggling so hard and can’t seem to just “bounce back” like I feel like I should be able to.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for making this channel and talking so honestly and openly about your experiences. You are saving people from so much pain. Thank. You.
@@poison_plays 💜💚💙 I would say, welcome to the journey😊
@@katzenbekloppt_mfThank you! 😊💚
To the E - Echolalia point: It also works like Context/Emotion gestalt language in kids. They make a pair of context+echo(what they heard at the moment) or emotion+echo(what they felt at the moment and someone said) and then when the same situation happens or they feel the same as last time, they echo/repeat the word or the whole fraze,sentence again to say "I feel the same as last time I heard this" or "The same thing is happening to me as the last time I heard saying you this". So do NOT suppress it in kids just help them "translate" their echos to typical language.
Thanks Amanda, I did learn something. I did not think I had any problems with eye contact but you made me realise I’m probably just not doing right. Which is probably why some people are looking away when I talk to them.
Yeah often even when we are masking eye contact we still aren't doing it the same as an Allistic person. 🤷🏼♀️
My autism and ADHD are at war in me constantly. I hear you on all points. I especially like the part about gestalt thinking and speaking.As always, I learn so much in my painful, awareness process.
first comment❤ love the unmasked you
Thank you, doing my best. 😊❤️
Hunger cues come too late for me. Wonder over an inch worm. Information dumping. Literal thinking.Late discovery. Had no idea I was masking- always the outsider looking in. Have learned so much also this time around. If TH-cam let me finish this comment .Thank you so much, Amanda
I'm so happy it's relatable. Thanks for watching. 😊
“yeah it’s because the mask just shattered” oh man, felt that. 😅
Thanks for this video. It was very informative and also compassionate. I am still learning the language to help me understand how to manage things (I’m realizing how many of my difficulties are likely related to differences from autism, and how many difficulties I didn’t know I had until I started paying attention, like feeling better with less eye contact.) This is also helpful for communicating better with others.
Definitely resonate with the idea that sharing interests is a *love language*, lol.
Hope you are doing well and getting the rest you need!
Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Amanda !!!! 💞👊. Glad you are feeling better. Continued health to you 💞🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💞👊
Just barely. I enjoyed making the video, but I had to crash afterwards! It's been a rough week.
About the decision making, I recently learned that making a snap decision like at random is a form of avoiding making the decision, I do it a lot
I LOVE to say squirrel 🐿️ how the British say it. Every time i say it out loud, thy repeat it alao. 😂
6:16 I hope that the mug message "Future Bestselling author" will happen in real life with your book. 🤓
eye contact is not EYE contact. wtf no wonder, I really never thought about that. great video
I know, it's bizarre! Lol.
Yay Amanda you did great here. This was a fun informative video. Now you deserve a rest ❤
I got some! Last night I had a couple hours of nice quiet time. It was really needed!
Minute 13: OMG Amanda, I do both of it too! How not to repeat the word ecolalia with so much joy over and over again? I mean, it is made to!
But that repeating my chatty cats meow all the times could be a form of it... Never thaught about!
Thank You, I like that idea😊
Hah! Minute 23 cat meowed in your background and I "answered" in my head! If You wouldn't have mentioned it before I am pretty sure I wouldn't have mentioned me doung it. It's such a funny thing! ❤it
I knew I am a cat person, but...😅
Really liked this alphabet. Would like too have it as a printable list to hand it out for others to start a research.
Thank You for doing this work to help others❤
Echolalia is such a fun word!
I think it'd be easiest to just link this video, a list of the words without the explanations wouldn't really make a lot of sense, I don't think...
@@i.am.mindblind Well, for me I always need something to read additional to what I´ve heard (AudioVisual learning-type). So if I have a list with all words I can make to each some notice and then I rememver. Same if I want to talk about to help remember. I think You also have those moments You know a lot about a topic, but when You want to tell You forget most. So later You are disapointed You lost this possibility.
D - Decision Paralysis, I never heard this phrase before... I think I have that.
Last time I interacted with my dad, he interrupted me ordering at a restaurant, he didn't like me taking so long.
I walked out of that restaurant without ordering. At over 30 years old, I was tired of his mistreatment.
That thing about overdoing eye contact is something I experienced too.
I genuinely thought I had to really focus on people's eyes to appear engaged.
I did so in a couple of job interviews. I probably messed them up beacause of that.
I had the first incling that it was too much when the interviewers looked away in an embarrassed way.
I didn't even want to make eye contact in the first place, but I was told I had to in order to show respect and interest.
If that's not literal thinking I don't know what is.
Oh dang. Yeah, I could see that being the situation. It's so frustrating that we are judged on these things
Society demands too much imo.
Autistic masking is miserable and painful to me.
I want autism acceptance.
P.S. I know I'm a month behind in watching my TH-cam inbox. I'm delayed like that too... I was having fun with video games, I am trying to catch up on my inbox once again. I love your videos, I feel you could be a trend setter to help other autistics become more satisfied with themselves in society than whatever the heck this experience is for us now.
I love spicy food too. My favorite foods are Thai and Indian food. I love fruit. Textures usually don't bother me but I have good taste buds and am picky about tastes. I like a lot of foods and I hate a lot of foods.
2:20 I prefer emphasizing awareness because I think at the moment one of the core issues we're dealing with is that most autists are oblivious to being autists: it wasn't even really on my radar until after 30, and was only 18 months ago that I actually started doing serious research at age 36. Trying to boost awareness and acceptance among neurotypicals is great, and self acceptance is great too, but all of that becomes easier as we build a community, and we can't build a community if we're all oblivious to ourselves.
I just felt so much better because i was learning about autism(special interest), sitting outside in the sunshine
Yay! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for another great video! 💚
I'm glad you liked it! 😊
💖💖💖
I wish restaurant had a menu with only 3 choices. Lol
Great vid very informative,, I left threads since it turned out to be a dump lol, but glad to see you here
Oh no, I'm sorry your experience of threads has been bad. I've enjoyed the app. But I'm glad you found me here! 😊
Thanks for the info, I am glad you are felling better.... I have the stomach flu today so I am dragging.
Oh no, that's miserable. Take care. ❤️
Hello. I love the idea of the ABC's of Autism. I'm excited to watch the rest to relax later today.
I wanted to share a personal update along adding a comment here.
I haven't been as active here checking because I have been on the journey since I unintentionally gotten healed enough to sense why I lost control and healed when needed last month.
Ever since then and being able to actually gain knowledge more easier including the specifics. I healed from past issues including the masks, ablism, and getting autonomy back from the brain and senses and healed them by eating natural nutrients and not the fake chemical ones along with processed stuff that affected my body and brain.
I'm curious though. I remembered back in the day (possibly still now?). That there was talks about how certain foods can "heal" Autism (and possibly any neurodivergent traits too). It's obvious that it's a myth and is pushing ableism because it's a type of brain and not a disease that needs curing.
What I'm curious however if natural nutrient foods and supplements (depending on roles and they play for the body) can make the traits be in much more control for others, the same way it did for me. It did for me including being less prone to Emotion Dysregulation (more tolerance but can still happen) along with being in much more control and aware of my Hyperfocus instead most times.
I'm Diagnosed with Autism, ADH*B* (B meaning Brain since it isn't exclusive to disabling), and Self Diagnosed Aphantasia.
The funny part about me with my healed senses is that I'm somewhat able to find workarounds with other feelings to have better memory including being able to remember dreams again (since I was a kid) and making a drawing. While not straight forward and my minds eye is still and probably forever a blank. I'm grateful to find ways to help myself and be able to find my inner peace ✌
I hope you are able to get energy back. Like what Bella from Bluey says that helps me when I'm a bit down...
"Your doing great" 🙏
I think that the more any person can look after themselves in all ways, the more energy they have and the better they feel across the board, so whatever they are dealing with is likely to be somewhat more effective.
@@tracik1277 I agree after being able to do so and know what was happening, getting rid of most of the brain fog and my damage senses by prebiotics like Garlic, Lemon Water, and Apple Cider Vinager when in need. One of the few contributers in helping remove my masks including people pleasing for the sake of it despite myself needing care when in need.
My senses were so damaged that I didn't feel a .5mm kidney stone I had until it was peak over a year ago. Worst sensory experience and experience ever in general.
I pray that no one will ever go though the same thing or similar.
@@tracik1277 I agree, tho only possible when i’m in my controlled state.
Both the senses and brain health is very needed. My senses and brain were so damaged that I couldn’t tell and feel the 5mm Kidney Stone inside of me till the pain was peak over a year ago.
That was worst pain I ever felt. Both sensory and in general. Not even my fractured dip joint pointer finger felt that bad.
Lemon Water, Apple Cider Vinegar, and Garlic were hey helpers in helping my body get the needed cleanliness it needed. It can feel them more clearly.
I do hope no one gets them 🙏🏻
Monotropism - Seems like I have it constantly. Being pulled away from whatever I am focused on, I have known myself to scream. Being redirected is sometimes painful.
Eye-contact: Allistics seeing the whole face at once? Wow. I see an area the size of an eyeball. Certainly feels better to me to NOT make eye contact. I lose some of my concentration on someone's conversation when I am spending focus on making eye contact... which took me until I was in my 20's to find proper "eve contact" that was demanded from me since I was a toddler. "Proper" emphasis, because a constant stare into the eyes is not appropriate. I find what worked for me is to tell me I can look away for 70% of the conversation. 30% of "eye-contact" seems to be enough for the allistics to NOT notice I have difficulty making eye contact.
Thank you so much Amanda. Today I needed to feel I'm not alone. That there are people out there who get me and feel the same crap :-)
In burn-out for 2 years. Yes, I can not mask anymore the way I used to. And yes, I didn't know I was masking until I was 37 years old.
I am so sad the last days. Grieving what I used to be able to do and not anymore:
> I can't tolerate sunlight anymore, and I used to be a hugeeeeeeeeeeee 🌞lover;
> I can not be around people for long anymore (on many days not at all) while in fact I am a person who loves to be among friends and I really miss the social interaction. I miss seeing my little nieces and nephews growing up; 🫂
> I used to be able to visit crowded places with a lot of noices like the carnival, a festival or a bar with loud music without problems. Now I am the opposite person. The sensory overwhelm literally cost me break-downs and makes me physically ill: neurologically I am unable to bear; 😵💫
> I have to move out of my lovely house, because neurologically I can't bear the environment- and neighbour noices anymore.
People have no idea how dis-abilitating and life-changing an autistic burn-out can be! 😥 And doing a house-moving during burn-out is really not a good mix.
👁 My doctor once looked me in the eyes for about two seconds in a really intens way (she did that to look into my soul, to verify how she had to estimate me, and check on what her gut was telling her). This incident happened before I received the diagnose Autism. Until today, even thinking back about that moment it makes me physically unwell. Am contemplating telling her this, so she can take this info into the future. (She knows about my Aud(h)D diagnosis and is happy for me I received it).
😘 No need to excuse yourself fot the lenght of the video. We viewers can pause and watch in it bits and pieces if we want to.
Thank you for this comment. I needed to read it today. We're in this together. ❤️