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Thank you so much for the video, Amanda! I particularly struggle with RSD and Social Anxiety as a result of my undiagnosed ADHD, as well as what you refer to as Newton's Law of ADHD (I think I'll start to call it that from now on!), so was deifnitely able to relate. I appreciate what you do, and the content you produce.

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idk i seriously doubt anyone has a sense of _years_ passing. there's the saying "it's as if it was yesterday" very common. i believe time blindness might refer to day to day stuff, shorter time periods.

Thanks for your incite.

Hi Watson!

I have a lot of clocks too.....

I have some time blindness, I have a clock near my computer to help me wt time.

We are the same I'm diagnosed autistic I am sure after 3 years I am audhd too

I relate so much. 😭🙈🫣🫥😶‍🌫️😳🙉🙊

I haven't even watched this yet, but I wanted to share with you a heartfelt THANK YOU, for sharing your stories, information, and lived experiences. I am grateful for it, I have found your content so helpful, and actually comforting as well. I have poor working memory, so I might have already told you before? Ironically. :) but yes. You are a sweetheart and it means a lot, and helps others feel less alone. Thank you. 🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♀️💖💕🥰🦋

Thank you so much! I teach in a school im 1-1 with a boy whos got ADHD ASC and has PDA. Extremely helpful ❤

Hello! 👋 Thank You so much !!!❤❤❤ I love every single word you say, your pauses! I feel the same. And for me it was important to hear about hustle and bustle world, full of rush. We are different ! We really need space for our thoughts and feelings , for watching energies and flows of life! I deeply believe, that it is rooted of who we are - we are from old ancient times, where time run slowly and it was Way of Living. We like used portal and now we are here- in modern days) Hugs 🤗 and Love to You 🌠❤️😌

I describe my brain when I try to talk as an engine that is running too fast and gets flooded with gas (words, ideas, info) and stalls (pauses).

The piece of paper in view, THE STRAND OF HAIR! Very pleased to meet you. I think we're twins, btw...

Thank you for sharing. I really needed to hear this today. This was exactly me today. Overwhelmed and overstimulated by every little normal life thing. Cold all the time. Tired. Ugh. And it made me wonder if I felt this way sometimes before my diagnosis… but I didn’t know why, so I ignored it. Anyway, thank you again for being so open and giving me someone to relate to. 🙏

14:35 you are ❤

I would never speak to her again. These kinds of misunderstandings are so sad. I have two amazing friends who can meet my high energy. I’m so lucky and you are so lucky to have your husband.

Honestly no one should hold anyone responsible for something they said that was indirect, autistic or not

I was in special education classes from preschool to high school and I was never diagnosed because I didn’t show behaviors too concerning to others, I was in speech therapy and I don’t know why my mom couldn’t see that I needed help .I’m not going to hold blame on her , it’s done.My brother was diagnosed with ADHD because he had a hard time focusing and had behavioral difficulties at home and school and I was masking my symptoms to prevent judgment. When my first son was getting diagnosed with autism,I was answering the questionnaire and I saw my symptoms too.

Thank you , thank you, thank you! Your courage in being raw and real helped me understand myself better and most importantly my grandson. I talk fast and (I'm learning) tangentially in areas that are of special interest - others I think I don't say much at all. *I see how I hurt my grandson but speeding him to respond and I'm horrified at that. He's a teen and been through so much and I've pressed masking on him. I thought I was helping him to get along in this world but I see how it's harmed him. Thank you!

I like to hide in bed Lol 🤣

Relatable ❤️

I have aphantasia and I SUCK the most at math and foreign languages. I can't technically read music, but I have a good ear for singing and can memorize music easily by listening and repetition.

Thank you so much for explaining your RSD feelings. I could see a mirror image of me in yourself . I suffered rwith this all my life. I would like to know more, where to go. Many thanks

Capitalism just loves blasting advertising into your ears. This product sounds incompatible with that aim but yes, I agree having ear buds that can provide variable control over ambient noise levels and isolate particular signals would be awesome and Id queue in line for that like I never would for a new phone.

This comment is for all of the autistic people who live with people who are not autistic. If you are a constant talker, this gets very taxing to the ears of others. It is literally nerve wracking to listen to someone talk non-stop for hours on end. Your autism does NOT make this easier for others to deal with. If you are an autistic person who can not sit still because you stim by pacing or moving, this is disruptive and distracting to everyone else around you. Your autism does NOT make pacing back and forth in front of the television or distracting everyone else less rude, especially if you have been told this is a problem. If you are a person who interrupts others when they are talking to you, this is ALWAYS rude and disrespectful! Your autism does NOT make this behavior less infuriating to everyone else. In short autism does not make your rude and disrespectful behaviors feel less rude and disrespectful to others even if they know you can't help it.... Sorry, but it is the truth. Btw I am a 44 year old woman who is married to an autistic person..... Her behaviors ARE still rude and disrespectful and hard not to get furious about. Period. The end. My understanding that she is autistic and my being head over heels for her does NOT make rude less rude!!!!!!!

I say I'm autistic, even tho I was DX with Aspergers... that's the past, and is facts, that was my past dx term. I call myself Autistic. Trex arms!

I'm 47, autistic ptsd bipolar. I can relate strongly. I'm down to two friends. Lost a friendship last year. I dont expect to have more. I've come to accept this, as losing the friend hurts too much.

Its almost painful how relatable this is. I stumbled upon this channel because of the SDAM content since I have it myself and I do have ADHD diagnosed since I was a child but im starting to come to the realization that I'm very likely on the spectrum myself.

Oh my. We talk so alike. And yes, I'm also on the spectrum but I also have aphantasia. And it's wild because no one wants to diagnose girls, but then they also don't want to diagnose you if you don't have a really visual mind in my experience as well. And for the same generalized problematic reasons.

Has anyone heard of a gasping of air for breath while talking since birth at 9 now

I was in the children section for my back surgery and they made me wear a mask to walk and I protested it but walked anyway. I would not eat after and right after my mom had to hand me water and tell me to drink it because I didn’t want to drink I said I won’t get dehydrated. Than that first night I got sick 10 times and I would not do the breaving tester due to anxiety and I was also annoyed. It took the nurse 6 times and I needed pt after that surgery your not alone

I had two open mri at the time one for that surgery I was 18 at the time they were kind of rude but I thought I could do it myself no they had to get my dad

It’s not just autistics that struggle external hard with surgeries all special needs and disabled people do

It's so interesting how body doubling works. I have helped a friend of mine a couple times by body doubling for her. We just chat as she cleans or whatever it is that needs doing.

Do we think that this is a trauma response?

🫂 I have really severe RSD... losing friends fucking murders me. Thank you, Amy.

Lots of good info, thanks. I have considered going to therapy a few times but never really went through with it. Not sure why that's the case, but maybe I should consider it a little more seriously. Also, for me personally, I didn't think that a diagnosis was necessary because of my life situation. Once I figured out I was autistic, I started giving myself more grace and accommodations. It really did help a ton to just understand my brain better. It also helps that I have an amazing husband, as well as a few autistic friends to talk things over with.

I'm sorry had to go through that. Losing a friend is really difficult. I am glad you managed to lighten up with that tea party though, it sounds like you had a lot of fun with it!

I love that phrase: people as a conceptual rather than visual /audio experiences. Explains face blindness and complete failure to judge people on appearance and or status symbols.

12:05 hey, why don't you just put both edits - pauses cut and uncut. It might depend on mood, if one wants to briefly get the message, or dive deep into whole situation immersed. I think that might be a great way to make your videos available for bot types of persons: who have ability to drive into your state right now, and for those who don't. For me right now it was right what i need - to dive in. But this is not always the case. You don't need to cry, if you don't want. Focus on those who understands, and leave some compassion for those who can't. Being neirotypical is so disabled from some point of view. All this surface thinking, you know. They pay their own price for being typical. Take care!

Listening to your thought processes , I think it’s less about not knowing your feelings than being reluctant to make decisions until you’ve done all the research - asking people for their opinions is part of the research process.

I think I experienced some regression with reading actually, back when I figured out I was autistic and started unmasking. I would struggle to be able to tell what any larger words were when I would try to read books. This was a little less than two years ago now, I think, and thankfully I have recovered that ability and improved my speed too! It's really frustrating to deal with for sure.

I am sorry about your breakup.....

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I’m so sorry Amanda. I wish you were my friend in real life. You are so wonderful and such a beautiful person. Thank you for making these videos.

I'm currently undiagnosed at almost 35, but I relate so hard to late diagnosed autistic women with PDA it's not even funny. I'm 99% sure at this point I'm autistic with the PDA profile, it just makes sense to me. My life makes sense with that label. And I'm struggling. Pretty sure it's a full-blown burnout from working a 7-3 lab job for almost 2 and a half years now. And trying to trick my brain by saying "everything is technically a choice" just doesn't seem to work for me. Because it's really not. I HAVE to make money. That's not a choice. Make money or lose your pets and home. That's simply not a choice in practice. And the only way I know how to make money is by going to work, I would be TERRIBLE if I was self employed, I don't even know what I would do. I feel SO trapped... :C Thankfully I don't have any kids, I don't know why y'all PDA'er chooses to have kids. Nothing in my body wants kids, they're nothing but demands and freedom robbers. My life is miserable enough as is, no need to make it harder. Heck, even my cats are demanding enough as is sometimes and I don't even have any legal obligations to them.

All the feels for you Amanda! Losing friends is so hard 💚

The TikTok ban legislation was originally initiated and supported by the current p.o.s. in office during his first administration. The Chinese government having access to our personal data is a real concern. No American company has offered to buy it, as was mandated within a certain amount of time. The deadline passed and has now been extended. I think “ban” is an unfortunate misnomer because it evokes censorship, etc. We saw what happened when FB data was used by Cambridge Analytics to manipulate certain users in the 2016 election. Sorry this was so long and tedious. Election integrity is my thing.

I’m sorry you have to struggle with this. I think you’re cool but I struggle with friends too, but I’m the opposite. I really like people but I can only handle brief interactions before I get overwhelmed and have to back away. But that doesn’t mean I don’t like them.