Try to Desexualize yourself and your mind
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- My thoughts on desexualizing your mind and body. It is tough, I know from experience, but it is possible. If you ever feel the struggle or temptation, ask a friend or someone you trust to help you. Let me know if I can help in any way.
- John
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You’re correct, it is getting worse, I’ve closed all my social media accounts apart from TH-cam, and massively controlling it. We are not built for this over stimulus. And many humans are being indecent and inconsiderate, and it will get worse.
Yeah, I am on the same boat. It is one thing to be stimulated and attracted to objectively attractive people but it is another for it to bombard our senses.
You’re on the right track. Think about this, we can pull out our phones and see more beautiful women in one hour than our ancestors would see their entire lives. We were not meant to live this way. Keep fighting the good fight.
Big facts. I actually have heard a very similar line before. It is totally fine and good to be attracted to beautiful women, but we are overloaded by the images of them constantly I feel.
Everything thay happens was meant to happen. At the end of the day you have to go looking for it. This about personal self control.
It's hard to admit but I think I needed to hear this.
I've deleted most social media around 10 months ago for this very reason, having to pick the actual content from the weeds.
I couldn't pinpoint the actual actual reason back then as I told people it was because of time spent on useless videos. Thinking back, these useless videos usually were somewhat like the things you spoke of here.
Keep up the honesty, it reminded me to think of how I use my time on yt (last platform I use, also ridded with similiar content).
I appreciate and thank you.
Ps. See how many people agree to this? I think everyone deep down knows this, it's just easier to not change as this would take effort out of the awfulness they have succumbed to.
Thank you, I appreciate the comment. I think there are a lot of people who've come to realize the time wasted on social media. It's not that everything everywhere is bad, but like you said, you have to sort through the weeds or garbage. I hope this journey is going well for you and more people come to a similar realization.
we need more people having these discussions, thank you brother
Thank you, I really think so as well.
Nah, this is some straight up simp nonsense. The vast majority of women would leave their fiance at the alter if they had the opportunity to exercise hypergamy instead. Despite the fact that they're already destined to contribute light-years less than the man will. If not to satisfy sexual desires, women contribute very little.
Ive had to delete my instagram tik tok and snapchat, i found it hard but these apps are so bad now
So glad you spoke about this
New sub btw
Make more videos
We as a whole generation have a massive massive problem with the sexualisation of society and porn
Agreed. It's a pain because there is potential for good in social media, but in my opinion the negatives far outweigh the positives unfortunately. I appreciate the sub and I will have another video out early next week.
Porn destroys your mind, your masculinity, your view of woman, your view of self etc… horrible addiction
I agree, it can be very detrimental if we allow it to become engrossed in our lives.
Nah, this is some straight up simp nonsense. The vast majority of women would leave their fiance at the alter if they had the opportunity to exercise hypergamy instead. Despite the fact that they're already destined to contribute light-years less than the man will. If not to satisfy sexual desires, women contribute very little.
This guy is so underrated 😢
You just earned a subscriber 😊
I really appreciate you saying that. Thanks for subscribing too!
... as a German Biologist - this is
Impulse Control
Hierarchy and Rank of Values
Identify with the Highest Valiue
then
I never waste 1 nano second
The Mind of an Engineer
to be constructive and create permanently
The Addict wastes his life and destroys others
Navy Seal Martial Arts training
I think I follow what you're saying. It is very important to know what you truly value in life and then work towards that. Over time, the improvement and betterment will come.
@@ClearDiscussion It is permament training to stay on Course -
never get distracted by Anything ever. Stubborn.
Boring....
Endurance...
Excitement kills...
@@raginald7mars408 Life of hell, but Im an artist so this is different mind.
Yoga pants are killin us
I chuckled reading this, but you have a point. There's a lot to be said about modern fashion and how little interest people have in modesty.
is it so hard to look away? you do control that, you know?
Thank you for being the first non-virtue signaling simp commenter.
Idk how i got lucky enough to get this in my feed but thank you for explaining this thing practically
Thank you, I really appreciate that.
dude it was great listening to you
Thank you, I appreciate you saying that.
Figuring out the healthy balance of embracing your sexuality and having self control is tricky. I think a huge part of the frustration is MKUltra trauma based mind control on the note of shame in particular.
I do not follow the 2nd sentence.
thankful for the helpful content, the world needs you.
I appreciate you saying that. Glad you found it helpful and I hope it can be useful for more and more people.
great video man, stuff got a lil more clearer for me
That's great! That is what I am hoping for. If this video can reach those who need it the most, maybe it can present a better path.
everyone should watch this video
Thank you, hopefully it reaches the right people.
I’ve been struggling with this longer than I want to admit. I need change.
Hey, I've been there. Let me know if I can help at all.
It seems like what you're saying is that we need to shape our environment, and also our habits, to reduce the payback for impulsive behaviors.
Yeah, in a nutshell that is a lot of what I say. Easier said than done, but still possible.
Support from Algeria. Good analysis.
Thank you, I appreciate it. Wow, Algeria, it's crazy how we can connect when we're in completely different parts of the world.
I hardly use instagram but when i did, i liked a few girls pictures on the suggestions feed and then when i checked it again it got worse where all it would show me was sexual women. And I'm like wtf, I only liked a few pics 5-10. And I did an experiment of how to stop being suggested that content and it took me clicking "Not Interested" over 100x plus liking other things (games, tech, anime) before it stopped showing me that smut. Like damn, the app will support in letting you destroy yourself if you let it. This was over the span of 1 day btw so don't worry, but man these apps can be destructive to your psyche.
Yeah, you got to be careful with that. I've done a similar experiment in the past as well. I actually do that with TH-cam a lot when videos get promoted to me with sexual titles or thumbnails. It's helped clean up my home page considerably.
THAT TUBELIGHT IS REALLY DISTRACTING , BTW GREAT VIDEO
Lol yeah, I've been trying to have a better set up for the videos. I'll figure out something that works.
You used to have x rated movies, porn videos. Now it's easy to get on the internet. Kids are exposed to this without ways of processing the contents. Etc. Etc.
Exactly. This was my experience growing up and it is the same if not worse for each younger generation.
The sheer amount of thumbnails that have a woman wearing a thong centered in the frame are astounding. You can try to avoid it but if you're on the internet...
When I was going through puberty about 20 years ago, if you wanted see images like that it took a bit of effort on your part.
You're right about that. Avoidance is possible but pretty hard. I can speak for myself with this. The amount of sexual imagery available to basically anyone/everyone is crazy. Growing up in this very digital oriented era is/was tough for me and for a lot of other guys in its sexual focus.
Great, insightful video, thanks for sharing this with us ✊
Thank you. Just trying to present the way I see and understand things, and apparently there are quite a few people who are seeing things the same way.
You’re welcome brother ✊, i’m one those people who fully understands you 🙌
I'm not per se religious, but say whatever you want, but back in the days when Christianity was dominant in the West, things were in general better.
And I think reintroducing Christianity provides at big scale brings a bit more harmony, discipline and sense of morality.
I agree in a sense. If you truly follow the tenets of Christianity, then you should overall be a decent to good person. I think the biggest problem with Christianity is that there are a large number of people who proclaim it, when they really don't believe or act it. This is a problem for a lot of religions to be fair. I myself am Christian and I try to be an overall good person, but I am not above failure or blame. I do see where you're coming from. I'm 24, so I didn't grow up "back in the day" and I don't have a personal perspective of what that is. I hope I'm making sense here.
The biggest takeaway from coming from a Christian family, or even society, is that there is an underlying belief/foundation that we all can relate to or follow. What seems to has happened with American/Western society is that Christianity has been somewhat removed from the mainstream, yet not much of anything has replaced it. So we've ridded ourselves of a structure, and the structure can be good or bad, and we haven't replaced it with anything. That's how it appears to me, but this is a nuanced and deeper topic.
@@ClearDiscussion I think you have nailed it pretty well with "we haven't replaced it with anything".
Most people need a kinda structure in their life or it becomes chaos. Christanity gave people a purpose, a (moral) guideline, a blueprint how a society should be structured. Many people can't handle too much freedom and thus need a sheppard.
And it is true you have a percentage of people proclaiming Christanity but don't respect its values, because they are probably surrounded by anti-christ mainstream sentiment and not really accompanied by real christians that could help them to guide their christian journey in a world full of anti-christ (internet, movies, ads or any other distraction).
I was thinking about becomming a christian too, because I am convinced Christanity was part of the formula that made Europe wealthy, successful, (economically & socially) stable (the more anti christ - the more unstability was growing along the timeline).
Also, the more I read about mother nature and the universe (astrology, biology, chemistry etc.) the more I grow attached to the idea there are indeed bigger forces at play like a god (and satan as its counter).
I probably left out a lot of things about its benefits and how I perceive things, but those came up to my mind at the moment).
I agree with you for the most part. I don't know how much you agree with me on this, but Jordan Peterson has gone over the need for order in the current world. Now I know mentioning him opens a can of worms for a lot of people but, in my opinion, he does say a lot of things that need to be said. Having some kind of structure or foundation for you/us is important. I think everybody should strive to be the best versions of themselves and having a mixture of freedom and order/structure is needed to attain that. Many people seem to see order and discipline as the opposite of freedom, and they are wrong. The combination of all of them allow us to be free in deciding who we want to be and how to attain it, and the order (discipline and structure) makes us stick to those plans we made.
I think your point of Christianity being part of the formula for a stable society has some truth to it, but I also want to point out that the world is relatively peaceful now in comparison to hundreds/thousands of years ago. The news access we have now makes us feel like the world is a piece of junk and something bad is always happening (which, yes there is usually something bad happening somewhere). There seems to be a lack of focus on the good, and I mean REAL good in life and because of this, I think we're led to be more pessimistic. A plus of Christianity is that, followed correctly, you should have an optimistic and joyful outlook on life. Yes life is hard, but that doesn't mean it sucks.
Lastly, I totally understand what you mean about reading about the world/universe. It's that exact idea that makes me believe there is something more out there. I just cannot perceive, with the amount of out of body experiences that people have, combined with my understanding of history and biology, that the physical world is all we have. I might be getting a bit off topic there, but I think some people can relate to what I am saying/have experienced.
I wonder how many are able to believe it, and how many are just going through the motions and trying not to lose Pascal's Wager.
Listen to this absolute chad, guys!!
Thanks, I guess. Not sure if chad is a compliment or insult with this.
@@ClearDiscussionChad is never an insult
I can agree that porn is negative for society for both men and women regardless of who uses it be they male or female. What I cannot understand is how are saying that sexualization in general is negative. As long as you are enjoying sexuality with your partner you should be able to enjoy it as much as you want, and do whatever you both consent to and or enjoy. I am highly sexual but do not fap or watch porn except maybe once a year with my partner just for fun. Obviously its the compulsive repetitive behavior surrounding porn and fap that is of concern.
What I'm addressing in the video is primarily when one is overly thinking about sex or porn in a negative way. Obviously sex has a place in life, I'm not arguing against that. When I talk about desexualizing, it is primarily focused on how hypersexual modern society is. Think about it: I or you can go on tik tok, snapchat, or instagram and immediately be presented with images of people sexualizing themselves. That shouldn't be normal in my opinion. The overload of this type of imagery that we see daily, and the continual focus of it, is desensitizing the average person to the actual act of sex and intimacy. It also creates unrealistic standards of beauty, but that is not the main point of this video per se. I learned far too much about sex and porn at a younger age than I should have and I believe that most people my age or younger are in similar boats. Being an adult now and having sex be a part of your life is not wrong, you can do whatever you want with your partner and I'm never going to tell you personally what you should do regarding that. This video is directed towards people who share a similar dispensation towards sex and porn as myself. It is something that I struggled with and I've realized that there are a lot of people in the same shoes. This is my advice to help in that situation.
@@ClearDiscussion To be honest I could make an entire video discussion just responding to this and I just might. I was also hyper hyper sexualized and activated sexually at a very young age had all kinds of super fucked up shit happen to me I was seduced by my older cousin a 17 y.o female when I was maybe 13 and had way more shit than that happen to me the first images of sex i ever saw was of these asian girls getting pissed on and shat on in a kiddie pool and swapping the shit piss and cum and being brutally sexually tortured and I sincerely thought that is what sex was for a long time because that was the only reference point i really had and everyone acted like it was a secret and really bad and raunchy so the images i had saw a friend had exposed me to fit with that idea for a long time until i got older and as a victim of over sexual culture i agree totally this shit is terrible. I could go on but I will not.
Yeah, it's crazy the access that many young people have to some very disturbing images and scenes. That doesn't even speak on what you have personally dealt with, I wish you peace with that. These topics are a struggle for a lot of us, but I do believe talking about this and more is really important for everyone, especially those who come from broken or troubled childhoods. Thank you for this conversation.
You know, just because certain things work for you, does not mean it will work for everyone. I tried no fap in every single way. Im 23 and not interested in modern women who dont seek committment in relationships. Last year i tried long intermittent fasting lReduced 10 kilos. Didnt work. Started doing intense strength training from this year, have transformed my body in the process but still could not give the sh*t up, ik its wrong but how are you gonna do that if you see sexual stuff both online and offline happening in front of you. Meditation and prayers did not even work for it. I get this whole no fap thing point but i do not think its practical after all in this generation at least.
Trust me, at the risk of sounding like everyone else, I understand. I'm 24 and it took me a very long time to feel any amount better in terms of porn and sexual urges. And you're right, what works for me, may not work for others. I try to say that relatively often in all of my videos. I'm just trying to do my best to show what has helped and what hasn't for me.
This very overly sexualized world does not help much at all. I have been in massive ruts and felt like shit for weeks. Nothing helped and I've felt like I would never get better. But I eventually did, and I'm trying to explain how I did as best as I can. I'm sure I could do a better job of it, but I'm learning. Deleting social media, all of it, was the first step for me and staying as busy as I could was the next. Once I got further and further away from the worst days, I felt like I had more willpower and more ability to cope with the temptations.
Btw, I'm not above any temptation. I still have them hit me somewhat randomly and there have been multiple times where I felt like I would crumble. My wife has helped me significantly with this, as I would tell her how I'm feeling and she would offer support. I will say, she is a massive help in that aspect. I do agree that the average woman in this day and age seems to be counterproductive to what I, and maybe you, want. I don't know what you do or have done with that, so I won't throw random advice your way regarding that.
I know this reply was long, but I hope it helps. Let me know if you want to chat privately too.
@@ClearDiscussion thanks. I deleted social media a year back. That initiative gave me mental peace but not spiritual. You are a lucky man to have a wife taking care of you. Hard on me. Thanks for the concern. Would like to chat privately if you have time. You seem a lot like me.
@@abidhossain6050 For sure. You can email me at cleardiscussion@gmail.com
Bro don't listen to these nutcases. Thinking about s*x and having high s*x drive is a healthy sign, the younger you are, and the more testosterone you have (The higher the better), the more your s*x drive will be present. Don't try to suppress it, just get your daily/dailies fabbing going so you can have a piece of mind and focus on what ever needs to be focused on.
Best of luck bro.
@@orion9k i am trying to do that man, but the way people talk about it and also being alone af sometimes i get depressed about life.
You say take that as you will a lot, like a habit
Yeah because I want people to know that it's incredibly individual and just because something worked for me, doesn't mean it'll work the same for you.
@@ClearDiscussion yeah that isn't conveyed through the words "take that as you will" and generally comes across as filler and a not mature speaking skills.
It's redundant when you've mentioned it once, and if you think you're addressing an audience that needs it to be said multiple times, they have other understandings to be developed before this
Well that's your opinion and I disagree.
Hypocrites, bots, A. I., NPCs. Who's even real anymore. Modesty is the way. Jesus is Lord. Shield your eyes-this world is wicked. Circumcision is wrong. Promiscuity is wrong. Joy-full, like a little kid again. Just some thoughts. Peace.
I hear you. Being child-like and in the moment can be wonderful. Hopefully we all can attain some peace.
Informative asf ❤
I'm glad you think so. Thanks
We need to quit putting women on pedestals and cleans our minds and find women who are wife material. We as men need to ne leaders and put God first and ask him to cleans our minds from this garbage and look at the morals and values of a person not just body part's . Focus on God he will heal your mind and body . Ask for forgiveness from God for sexual sin . Women can become objects not even a human being anymore .
Definitely need to look for people who are worthwhile to be with in the long term.
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Your doing great 😃👍🏻 hero!🎉❤ Keep on brotha'
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i chose to become a eunuch
Oh jeez, good luck!
Nutcases.. It's a healthy sign to have high sx drive
While I do agree that it is healthy to have a high sex drive, that isn't what I am talking about. This is about being overstimulated and overly focused on women as objects. I am married, and having a good balance of sex and intimacy in life is very important. It is good to disagree though, having this kind of dialogue is a huge part of why I started this channel. Thank you.
You goddamn right
About another videos previews
Yeah, which is unfortunate, because it defeats the purpose of the video to some degree. Comes across as scummy to me.
Great talk
Thank you. I'm glad you enjoyed it.
don't stop posting...
Don't worry, I won't. Thanks
Good video.
Too " slow " to become viral tho
That's okay! This video has already gained much more attention than I am used to. This is the way I prefer to present my thoughts and information right now and it sits well with me. Rather than going out of my way to chase views. I appreciate the comment.
great video
Thank you very much.
so you can just ditch the bullshit and live a bit? go on an adventure and then build your family. what worth is there in self-improvement if just comes down to ramblings on youtube?
I'm a bit confused here. Are you saying I am rambling or the self-improvement category in general has come down to ramblings? Because I do agree that self-improvement can become counter-productive. I actually made a video regarding that. My channel does have a good amount of conversation regarding self-improvement but there are other aspects of life that I try to cover. My channel is literally called Clear Discussion, part of what I strive for is more conversation regarding life's struggles and situations. Hopefully I explained how I and this channel operate and I would be happy to talk about almost anything with you. I genuinely enjoy when I can have long conversations because I believe it helps us (as people) grow. Disagreeing and understanding why we disagree is very important and I believe it can get lost in today's society. Thanks for commenting and hopefully this finds you well.
No.
That's fine, it's your life.
No. I won’t deny my nature and desexualize myself. It’s ok to be a man. It’s ok to be attracted to women sexually. It’s ok to be who you are. Stop this removal of masculinity. Take your own advice and leave it at that don’t spread this garbage.
I don't know if you actually watched the video. It's good to be attracted to women as a man, I literally say that. We live in a world where we can see hundreds of naked women in an instant. That's not a normal thing. Being a masculine dude is a good thing and I don't understand where you're coming from based on your comment. Would you argue that we , if we want, can see sexual images literally all day? That's not healthy or a good way to live. I don't know anyone who would want to live that way and be happy about it. That's the point of the video: to have a healthier view of sex and it's actual part in our lives vs non-stop porn or sexual images.
That's not what he's saying. It's about not letting it control your life and ruin it.
Maybe you don't have that problem, but some guys do. Now take your pants off, let me see that ass
Youvare correct
Thank you, glad to see this video getting some attention and hopefully reaches the right people.
Nice video
Thank you, I'm glad you appreciated it.
Read the bible book of proverbs.
I have, lots of wisdom to be taken from it.
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Not heard that one before.
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New sub 👍🏾
I appreciate it and I hope the video helps.
Nice video man
Much appreciated, thank you for the comment.
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The producers are winning the consumers are losing. You, sir need to get in shape and become a producer. This advice is mediocre.
First off, what do you mean "be a producer"? Without context that doesn't make too much sense given this video. Second, how do you know if I'm in shape or not, you never see more than the top half of my torso. For all you know, I'm an endurance athlete with a slim build. Confusing and unhelpful comment.