I’m 65, came to FL to retire. Thought I’d join all these clubs and make tons of friends. Never happened! I went back to work so on the weekends, I enjoy my alone time. I’m a bit lonely sometimes, however, I dove into TH-cam to research - Healthy Eating, spiritual research and tons of other things. Keep yourself mentally busy!!!
I am almost 62. The older I get, the more I really enjoy my alone time. Not that I’m anti social or anything, it’s just nice to do whatever the hell I want, by myself, uninterrupted. There’s an amazing peace and contentment that comes with it. I think about that Tom Hanks movie “Castaway”. I could totally do that. Build a nice beach pad and be perfectly happy for the rest of my life.
I love living alone. I have more than enough people when I go out on errands and stuff. It's so much better being responsible for yourself and not someone else as well.
@@robiness5344 have you thought about a pet ? Maybe getting involved in a community type thing like helping the homeless , a church group , walks. Anything that would put you in the public casually.
I'm in my sixties, I've lived alone for a long time, and I'm VERY happy -- I'm financially set, I do WHATEVER I want, and I find that I'm able to accomplish and enjoy a lot of things that married guys just never seem to do, either because of the demands on them or because their partner doesn't want them to do them. For example, I workout a lot, ride my bike, go to the beach, etc. I'm even learning to surf (if you're surfing, even the surfer girls are happy to talk with you. 👍😎) I've also advanced in my hobbies (playing guitar, meditation, woodworking, shooting, opera, etc ... yes, opera) and I've gone deeper into my study passions (things like; history, languages, math, etc.) I also like cars, and I do quite a bit of home improvement and landscaping. The key to living alone and being fulfilled & happy is to REALLY embrace life. *I find that the way to make friends is to go to events and classes about things you like, or try something new.* For example, if you're into investing, take a class on it and engage with the others there. If you're a veteran, find a local veterans group. If you like hunting, find a local range or shooting club and be open to talking with people there. Or maybe volunteer at the political party of your choice. It's MUCH easier to talk to people and you're much more likely to connect when you have a shared interest. Plus, at activities like this you're more likely to encounter people with values similar to yours, which is KEY to a long-lasting friendship. You might also try new things -- take up yoga, take cooking classes, go to a local music event in the type of music you like, join a volunteer group (like Habitat for Humanity,) become a docent at a museum that interests you, etc. It's also really good to try something that will push your boundaries, like maybe flight lessons, a sailing or scuba course, or a martial art. These things will make you more confident and interesting to others. You'll be surprised at the great people you can meet in these ways.
Sorry; I realize my initial post is already long-winded, but there are a couple of other key points: 1) It's surprisingly important to create a pleasant, orderly living space for yourself, and to keep it reasonably clean. Your living environment has a profound impact on your mindset, your overall outlook, and your prospects. It's nearly impossible to have a positive, organized attitude while living in an ugly, disorganized, cluttered, or dirty place. Having a living space like that also reflects poorly on you if anyone comes to visit, which makes it more difficult to make friends. For me, keeping my living space attractive and in order is an enjoyable, Zen or life-art activity. 2) If you actually want to make friends, be aware of how you present yourself. You're free, of course, to dress, look, and act however you want, but be aware that, if you come across as gruff, scary, slovenly, or sarcastic, of if you have bad breath or you don't shower enough to control body odor, most people will shy away from you. Whether we like it or not, these are just facts. Finally, consider getting RID of your TV. The vast majority of the content on it is worthless; it will waste your precious time, misinform & propagandize you, bombard you with obnoxious ads, and tend to make you passive, sedentary, overweight, & lethargic. Over time, it will literally suck the LIFE out of you. I haven't owned a TV in 25 years, and don't miss it a bit.
@@Olderguys777Did you actually read that novel? 😊 First time on your platform. You just popped up. If you want to make friends do some volunteer work. They are the friendliest and will always invite you to be part of them.
I have the stupidest trick for getting things done around the house. When I see something that overwhelms I say to myself "Can I do one thing? Yeah, I can do one thing". That one thing can be anything. But by focusing on 1 small thing, I get it done and then I do it again for the next item. Before you know it, things are organized, work is done.
No pal you can't make friends at the library, the gas station, the local pub, church or anywhere else you can only make an acquaintances that last as long as a popcorn fart. You can believe you have friends but they are as rare as $500 bills and most are like $3.00 bills (fraudulent and worthless). I've been around the world (literally) and people are all pretty much the same = out for number #1 at all cost (except to them). I'm living alone with my canine without anyone to talk to and without the need to talk to anyone; don't miss listening to meaningless gabber. You can never figure people out, can never count on them, can never trust them or understand their agendas (and they all have one particularly the females). Been there done that and my 4thQ of life is liberation from the herd. I'm not a misanthropist but I closing in.
Apart from not having a dog (although I am a dog lover too), you sound just like me. Reminds me of when Charles Bukowski was asked why he hated people. He replied that he didn't hate them, he just preferred it when they weren't around.
Just keep loving others with the love of Jesus. A kind word and outstretched hand can make all the difference in someone else’s life. After all, you’re still going home alone. Why not make a difference? 😊
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 --went to the grocery store yesterday and saw a homeless guy that I often observe. I purchased my needs and also a bag for him which I took to him plus a $20 bill. I try to make a difference for I walk with Jesus which does not imply I have to ignore the reality of the world.
Good advice, thanks a lot. Yeah, I'm pretty much by myself, all my friends moved away, some left and never said goodbye (they're no longer friends), and a few passed away. But I'm still here, so I'm just going to continue on. Whatever happens, does. Have faith, life is good, go out and appreciate it.
I'm 63 female I live alone I have one son he's 34 and lives clear down in Texas I'm in the midwest I have one really good friend I talk to every other week but I haven't talked to them in almost 2 months because they've been going through a couple of surgeries it can get quite lonely when you don't have anybody to talk to my son hardly calls me anymore you have to have a strong will be able to get through each day alone some days I like it and some days I don't
sorry to hear that, but instead of waiting for the call. I have figured out when the best times to call her. Also l do not make them long conversations. I just see how she is doing etc. then hang up. Now it is there turn to find out to have kids and have it happen to them.
If you’re older and have serious medical issues, all my friends have passed on and have no family in Australia. For me I don’t want acquaintances who just get in touch when they want something.and try to think am frail widow to be conned. My brain is working even after bad car crash and many operations. Memories ,music ,laughing at comedy shows keep me going.
I'm 65, but I'm in a shit marriage. I have no friends, but my hobbies keep me sane. Because we stay away from each other as much as possible, I can escape to my boats, or motorcycles.
Not so easy to make real friends when you’re an adult. The library is not conducive to making friends. It is not a place where all can be chatty, people are reading or on computers it’s quiet. The super market is a place where people are in and out, they are focused on getting what they need not there to make friends. The most you will get when walking to and fro is a pleasantry of hello or good morning etc… an acquaintance perhaps at some point. It is imperative that you be your own best friend and extremely comfortable with your own company. Even if you are married with kids “you” are the only one leaving this earth with “you”.🧿
I'm 61 and live alone and have no real friends. But it doesn't bother me. I come and go as I please and spend my money on me. Selfish, yeah maybe, but we all choose our paths in life. Me, my path is a country lane where I can take my time and focus on me.
As a male of roughly the same age, If I try to strike up a conversation with other men I can tell they’re thinking “is this guy trying to pick me up “…. Ok.... now that I think about it that’s mostly true .
I'll be 58 soon and don't really have any "friends" to speak of anymore. Life just unfolds that way sometimes but I'm not bothered by it. I have observed that this happens to a lot of folk. In my opinion, the big lesson to learn is that you need to be happy with yourself first. Personally I don't feel lonely but it's because I'm content with who I am and I keep myself busy. I've seen other single men in my family lose everything multiple times due to loneliness and attaching themselves to a partner that only wanted their material wealth. The leeches got what they wanted and then bolted leaving those men destitute. It's a real shame. Stay strong fellas. If you want to be with someone, first be happy with yourself and keep working on yourself every day. Once you do that everything else falls into place. Cheers.
@@jjshoot2425that’s ‘ cos the trick to being your own person should have been learned years prior to 70. I’m 75 and have no illusions of my capabilities and limitations of friendships
Hey Phil. Sixty six year old guy here, divorced for thirty years now after a ten year marriage, but living with my GF who I've been with for 18 or so years now. She's also divorced after she was married for almost 25 years to a not so great guy, but she kept it together for her four kids. LONG story, I have spent most of my life living alone. I only moved in with my lady five years ago and her son rents out my house, but as I said, we've been together a long time. To your point, I LOVED living alone. Don't get me wrong, I like the arrangement I have now, but to be honest, it's only due to having a PHENOMENAL woman with me. She does her thing and I do mine. We are both retired but she's always doing "side jobs" as she is a bit of a handywoman, and lots of people hire her to remodel the kitchen or bathroom or even put floors down. She doesn't care if I sit in the back yard and listen to the radio and drink a few beer or if I want to hop in my truck and take a two or three days camping trip alone or with my brother. The point I'm making is, life can be great regardless of the situation. I got divorced in 1994, and lived alone up until 2019, which also included moving to a completely different state so all new people and all new environment for me (I should note that I have no children which made it very easy) and I loved being by myself and living alone - even when I was in relationships. Lastly, I'll just add that my entire life I've always had close friends and always got along with people at work, but as far as a LOT of friends? Nope, and that's why I'm comfortable being by myself and being alone; I'm used to it and again, after being married to someone and going through some not so good times, I know a LOT of people who'd envy your situation, as again, I did it for a long time and loved it. Get up VERY early and go to work and leave an immaculately clean house, and after ten or eleven hours come home to that SAME immaculately clean house. You get my point.
Thank you for your ideas. I’m 80. Walk about 30 minutes daily, weather permitting. Live on a boat. Yes, I agree with you on your neatness comments. Up to you. 👍
You are totally right about this, and I practice that little "go out andctake a break" thing you mention! I love getting out in my car and druving down the road a bit! Just going outside and walking around or resting a bit, taking in nature is great as well. I am enjoying your talks!
Adopt some rescue pets. Better companionship (& loyalty) than any human can provide. Also, best to be an natural introvert, capable of meaningful introspection, & into interesting, thought-provoking hobbies/interests that keep the mind sharp/active.
If you run a business, the hardest thing to do is find a good person or two. Personal friends are even tougher. Most people will never find the friend they dream of. Everybody has flaws, our dream friends don't. Be the friend you dream of to your friends.
I loved living alone. Like you said if the house is a mess it’s on you. I had to have my mother move in with me because my father passed away. I wanted her to get her own space. Unlike me she has never lived alone. I love her but miss my own space.
A key thing that one has to do over the years is manage and keep up with their friendships and relationships. You cant put things on hold and expect people to jump through hoops when you need them. Also, I have found once you are 50 or over, many people are nice but arent looking to make friends as they have long established relationships in place and generally arent interested in making new friends.
The mistake in people already having established relationships & don’t want new friends is like some of these comments have said long time friends /family members die, move away etc & those people find themselves suddenly alone and the advice is to always add on a new friend or two because of that.
@@tracymorgan5386 I agree with you on that Tracy. That is one of the hardest things in life as we all age. One should try to stay engaged in their community, so they dont find themselves alone in the future. Wishing you and your family all the best.
Know how you feel brother just turned 60 the older we get we get lonelier divorced and hard to do everything yourself you have to pick your moments and spots
Ah I'll be living by myself soon! My main goals are to make sure I keep the place tidy and clean that's really important. And secondly to move forward with my life in a way that makes me happy 😁. Thanks for the video! You have made me feel better about being by myself. Although I will say it's not something I was ever terribly worried about
We deserve the feelings we get from having it done-we gotta encourage our steps. Being our authentic selves will bring the people we need closer. You got this!
the only sorta wrench in the works is if there had been someone in ur life that emotional loss can crush the motivation for quite a while anyway . if never married and no kids then having a pet -the right one will save the day
The internet provides millions of people to listen to and comment back . Going out shopping plenty of people to smile at hello how are you doing . Doctors now days talk on video so you don’t need to go out. Taking walks talk to neighbors is plenty .
I haven't lived alone since I was 24yrs old, I am now 57 and everyone is at my house! My son in law brought me a retired military dog and now I have him, who is a big baby! I wish I lived alone sometimes, but then I think of all the things that I would have to do alone and I don't think I could manage.
Getting up in age, retiring,losing family and friends, does change us. I'm retired in Danbury, CT. I'm on a fixed income. I have family, in other states. Sister in Austin TX, brother ,in Brinnon, Wash,and daughter in ,LA. My other sister, in Ridgefield, CT, died of Lewy Body Dementia. My ex husband , heart attack, and elderly mother, she was 96, natural causes.A close male friend , a heart attack , in Cali. I go to the senior center, for line dancing and zumba. Life is always changing. I'm on long waiting lists, for senior housing.
I try to do one thing each day. I do not let myself go to sleep until I tackle my one chore. Just one chore a day. I AM 30 years behind on my dusting. A lot of things that needed attention. Just ONE thing a day.
Phil - Every project, big or small, needs a plan. Start out with a plan and think it through. This gives you a direction to start and can keep you on track. I was an engineering project manager for 45 years. Also, engineers are notorious for having no friends. Most are married or in a relationship, good or bad, it's better than nothing.
I have never done so much commenting. Yes, I agree having someone to talk to is very nice. I really missed that in the morning when there’s no one to say what do you think will do today have a cup of coffee let’s go sit outside such a little thing and you can miss it so much.
Thats me and I love it. Most of my neighbours are idiot's that I don't want to talk to. If I want intelligent conversation I go to my local MENSA group.
Im 66 live alone ( no humans ) 12 cats and a few outside strays myself and niehbor take care of. I have friends. I don't see to often. Hobbys and just trying to take care of the house I was raised in , its large. Have a garden every yr , plenty to do all the time. . . or not. I can say Im content. Can't really complain but sometimes I do. The cats are use to it 😂 ✌
I married my husband when I was 19. We were married for 40 years when he passed away October of 2022 from brain cancer. I miss him every minute of every day so no, I do not like living alone.😔
I’m 66, I lived alone 22-32, 52-55 and 60 till present. I’m very self sufficient. My home is clean, cupboards filled with high quality food. 8000 records, 400 books. I go to my library often. Saturday night my town had a blues band playing so I went. I rarely talk with strangers. You never know how you’ll be perceived at 66 so I rarely try. I go to the pool in my development, alone. I do most things by myself. I don’t mind but I would love some femininity in my life again.
"I would love some femininity in my life again."--- I'm "more mature than 66" and the only problem with having some femininity in my life again is I don't want some old woman to hang with nor do I want to feel like a sugar daddy. I ran hard for years and had beautiful women with me but as they say: "every dog has its day." I had mine they are just memories now which is good enough for me as I would need training wheels to begin that ride again.
@@toothbrush5190 " Rare but they’re out there."--- what is not rare are the fatal attractions, STD donators, leaches, narcissistic personalities, those hidden agendas and a mountain of baggage. No not me. I'm not sorting thru that tangled mess. There is nothing they have that I need, want or desire = that time clock has expired.
I took up a game called Warhammer 40K and made a lot of good friends that range in age for teenagers to my age (53) or even slightly older. It’s a fun hobby and helps me pass my time and I talk to friends regularly.
Im in my 30s and idk that I could live alone. I get lonely really easily and as a woman I get kinda scared being home by myself. I enjoy being with my husband so I'm lucky
@@Olderguys777 me and millions of others. I'm 55 and still have people who would come to my aid if/when I needed it. I have lived in the city my entire life and cannot wait to retire and GTFO of here. I'm already looking at rural land out near Mineral Wells, TX.
Me… Can’t live alone. I can easily be alone in public or out of the house. But in the home… need someone. I don’t have many friends… true friends. Most are acquaintances. Lost a daughter… the true friends came out. The fakes that were there, during that time, were so easy to see.
well, now... i used to talk to the voices in my head ... BUT, they never listened to a darn thing i said.. so, you know what?... i stopped listening to them
I think its nice to have a partner but never live with them. Live alone and see that partner when it suits the pair of you. Ive found living alone to be really liberating.
Trying getting a cat.....shes always there......she doesnt talk back...and meows when she wants to go out. Family is good to have....cant trust anyone.....take care....how do you stop working at 60.....cause no one hire after 55 years old...???
“ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth, Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with. May we prove worthy of such a gift.” ~~~ Anonymous ~~~ GET A DOG In fact get 2 the best thing ever !!!!!!!
If you don’t already have a dog, get at least one. You will never need to be alone again. Dogs are wonderful companions don’t let natalists try to say otherwise.
So i must ask don't you know Jesus? His your best and most closest friend, some you can talk to anout anything? Faithful and true and listens to us and knows what you are going through. Call on him, his closet than you think😊
Pay close attention to every identity around. Moreso, the kind of people you spend time with. You just don't know what you don't know in this day and age. Many things can get involved into your world that are not for you. You can be feeding the insanity of some individuals or systems, not realizing eventually detrimental to your being. My two cents ...
My situation completely since 2020. It’s worse where you live in a foreign country and don’t really speak the language but I left the English speaking world 35 years ago and definitely do not want to return after I se how things have gone over there.
Being ALONE..is better than being LONELY!!!
Living alone and not having anyone to talk to beats living with someone and not having anyone to talk to
WELL stated. Been there, done that, and I'll be alone 10 times out of 10 given the choice.
I live in that scenario, I live with someone and it feels the same as living alone!
Hahaha yes. In that right now. I’d rather be alone.
Amen,well said
The trick is …….to be your own friend 😊
And stay busy, just cleaning your place is better than sitting and doing nothing.
I’m 65, came to FL to retire. Thought I’d join all these clubs and make tons of friends. Never happened! I went back to work so on the weekends, I enjoy my alone time. I’m a bit lonely sometimes, however, I dove into TH-cam to research - Healthy Eating, spiritual research and tons of other things. Keep yourself mentally busy!!!
I am almost 62. The older I get, the more I really enjoy my alone time. Not that I’m anti social or anything, it’s just nice to do whatever the hell I want, by myself, uninterrupted. There’s an amazing peace and contentment that comes with it. I think about that Tom Hanks movie “Castaway”. I could totally do that. Build a nice beach pad and be perfectly happy for the rest of my life.
You summed it up in two words, peace and contentment 👍
I love living alone. I have more than enough people when I go out on errands and stuff. It's so much better being responsible for yourself and not someone else as well.
I’m 57 alone for 9 years, had to cut out the narcissists from my life now I’m alone . Tough when there’s no one to talk to, literally no one!
Me too it's hard ❤
@@robiness5344 have you thought about a pet ? Maybe getting involved in a community type thing like helping the homeless , a church group , walks. Anything that would put you in the public casually.
Well Honey, talk to yourself like I do. Always be your own best friend. 🤗
@@robiness5344
I’m envious of you,, enjoy
Dogs are the best . I have 2 🐕 🐶. I enjoy my peace ✌️
Making friends and keeping them is especially hard, especially as you get older.
If you’re not happy with yourself, you’ll never be happy with anyone else.
I'm in my sixties, I've lived alone for a long time, and I'm VERY happy -- I'm financially set, I do WHATEVER I want, and I find that I'm able to accomplish and enjoy a lot of things that married guys just never seem to do, either because of the demands on them or because their partner doesn't want them to do them. For example, I workout a lot, ride my bike, go to the beach, etc. I'm even learning to surf (if you're surfing, even the surfer girls are happy to talk with you. 👍😎) I've also advanced in my hobbies (playing guitar, meditation, woodworking, shooting, opera, etc ... yes, opera) and I've gone deeper into my study passions (things like; history, languages, math, etc.) I also like cars, and I do quite a bit of home improvement and landscaping. The key to living alone and being fulfilled & happy is to REALLY embrace life.
*I find that the way to make friends is to go to events and classes about things you like, or try something new.* For example, if you're into investing, take a class on it and engage with the others there. If you're a veteran, find a local veterans group. If you like hunting, find a local range or shooting club and be open to talking with people there. Or maybe volunteer at the political party of your choice. It's MUCH easier to talk to people and you're much more likely to connect when you have a shared interest. Plus, at activities like this you're more likely to encounter people with values similar to yours, which is KEY to a long-lasting friendship. You might also try new things -- take up yoga, take cooking classes, go to a local music event in the type of music you like, join a volunteer group (like Habitat for Humanity,) become a docent at a museum that interests you, etc. It's also really good to try something that will push your boundaries, like maybe flight lessons, a sailing or scuba course, or a martial art. These things will make you more confident and interesting to others. You'll be surprised at the great people you can meet in these ways.
Wow!
Sorry; I realize my initial post is already long-winded, but there are a couple of other key points: 1) It's surprisingly important to create a pleasant, orderly living space for yourself, and to keep it reasonably clean. Your living environment has a profound impact on your mindset, your overall outlook, and your prospects. It's nearly impossible to have a positive, organized attitude while living in an ugly, disorganized, cluttered, or dirty place. Having a living space like that also reflects poorly on you if anyone comes to visit, which makes it more difficult to make friends. For me, keeping my living space attractive and in order is an enjoyable, Zen or life-art activity.
2) If you actually want to make friends, be aware of how you present yourself. You're free, of course, to dress, look, and act however you want, but be aware that, if you come across as gruff, scary, slovenly, or sarcastic, of if you have bad breath or you don't shower enough to control body odor, most people will shy away from you. Whether we like it or not, these are just facts.
Finally, consider getting RID of your TV. The vast majority of the content on it is worthless; it will waste your precious time, misinform & propagandize you, bombard you with obnoxious ads, and tend to make you passive, sedentary, overweight, & lethargic. Over time, it will literally suck the LIFE out of you. I haven't owned a TV in 25 years, and don't miss it a bit.
@@flyo7789 wow you get the award for the longest post thanks for watching
You are so right on point!! Thinking of getting rid of my TV - but I want to see the Olympics! 😂@@flyo7789
@@Olderguys777Did you actually read that novel? 😊 First time on your platform. You just popped up. If you want to make friends do some volunteer work. They are the friendliest and will always invite you to be part of them.
It is so much better to be alone than to wish you were . . .
I'm married and I've got no one to talk to.....
Been there .
Never been there but I listen closely to all guys who have been there. Their stories are amazing.
I'm an introvert so being at work with people is enough for me, more than enough actually. like please get me home so I can be by myself!
I'm retired now but definitely understand what you are saying.
I have the stupidest trick for getting things done around the house. When I see something that overwhelms I say to myself "Can I do one thing? Yeah, I can do one thing". That one thing can be anything. But by focusing on 1 small thing, I get it done and then I do it again for the next item. Before you know it, things are organized, work is done.
@@josephbalinski great but does it work for procrastinators?
@@Olderguys777 one thing I can do is not procrastinate 😹
@@josephbalinski procrastination? i'll put it off for tomorrow
@@Fernandez218 Buddy Epsen played a bum in the Andy Griffith show where he said "Any job is best done tomorrow"
@@josephbalinski sounds like a man after my own heart. tomorrow is always a day away.
No pal you can't make friends at the library, the gas station, the local pub, church or anywhere else you can only make an acquaintances that last as long as a popcorn fart.
You can believe you have friends but they are as rare as $500 bills and most are like $3.00 bills (fraudulent and worthless).
I've been around the world (literally) and people are all pretty much the same = out for number #1 at all cost (except to them).
I'm living alone with my canine without anyone to talk to and without the need to talk to anyone; don't miss listening to meaningless gabber.
You can never figure people out, can never count on them, can never trust them or understand their agendas (and they all have one particularly the females).
Been there done that and my 4thQ of life is liberation from the herd. I'm not a misanthropist but I closing in.
Apart from not having a dog (although I am a dog lover too), you sound just like me. Reminds me of when Charles Bukowski was asked why he hated people. He replied that he didn't hate them, he just preferred it when they weren't around.
Just keep loving others with the love of Jesus. A kind word and outstretched hand can make all the difference in someone else’s life. After all, you’re still going home alone. Why not make a difference? 😊
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 --went to the grocery store yesterday and saw a homeless guy that I often observe.
I purchased my needs and also a bag for him which I took to him plus a $20 bill.
I try to make a difference for I walk with Jesus which does not imply I have to ignore the reality of the world.
YES!!👍
While your disappointment in others is understandable, bitterness is a concern
Good advice, thanks a lot. Yeah, I'm pretty much by myself, all my friends moved away, some left and never said goodbye (they're no longer friends), and a few passed away. But I'm still here, so I'm just going to continue on. Whatever happens, does. Have faith, life is good, go out and appreciate it.
I'm 63 female I live alone I have one son he's 34 and lives clear down in Texas I'm in the midwest I have one really good friend I talk to every other week but I haven't talked to them in almost 2 months because they've been going through a couple of surgeries it can get quite lonely when you don't have anybody to talk to my son hardly calls me anymore you have to have a strong will be able to get through each day alone some days I like it and some days I don't
@@rosemaryschroeder3642 hey hun this is Phil any time you need to talk or you’re feeling lonely you text me I’ll talk to you have a great day
sorry to hear that, but instead of waiting for the call. I have figured out when the best times to call her. Also l do not make them long conversations. I just see how she is doing etc. then hang up. Now it is there turn to find out to have kids and have it happen to them.
If you’re older and have serious medical issues, all my friends have passed on and have no family in Australia. For me I don’t want acquaintances who just get in touch when they want something.and try to think am frail widow to be conned. My brain is working even after bad car crash and many operations. Memories ,music ,laughing at comedy shows keep me going.
I'm 65, but I'm in a shit marriage.
I have no friends, but my hobbies keep me sane.
Because we stay away from each other as much as possible, I can escape to my boats, or motorcycles.
Get out of the marriage. Your freedom and dignity are more valuable.
You make me SOOOO glad that, at 57, I'm single and childless.
@@bobjames6622 You're on the right track, Bob!
Not so easy to make real friends when you’re an adult. The library is not conducive to making friends. It is not a place where all can be chatty, people are reading or on computers it’s quiet. The super market is a place where people are in and out, they are focused on getting what they need not there to make friends. The most you will get when walking to and fro is a pleasantry of hello or good morning etc… an acquaintance perhaps at some point. It is imperative that you be your own best friend and extremely comfortable with your own company. Even if you are married with kids “you” are the only one leaving this earth with “you”.🧿
I’m 59 and I have 8 friends in total.They’re called Guitars.
Do any of them gently weep?
@@mikejohn0088 only when I use a Crybaby.
Lol
I got a bunch of those too. Keeps you busy.😃
I'm 61 and live alone and have no real friends. But it doesn't bother me. I come and go as I please and spend my money on me. Selfish, yeah maybe, but we all choose our paths in life. Me, my path is a country lane where I can take my time and focus on me.
@@johnq.public4252 thanks for sharing
As a male of roughly the same age, If I try to strike up a conversation with other men I can tell they’re thinking “is this guy trying to pick me up “…. Ok.... now that I think about it that’s mostly true .
I'll be 58 soon and don't really have any "friends" to speak of anymore. Life just unfolds that way sometimes but I'm not bothered by it. I have observed that this happens to a lot of folk. In my opinion, the big lesson to learn is that you need to be happy with yourself first. Personally I don't feel lonely but it's because I'm content with who I am and I keep myself busy. I've seen other single men in my family lose everything multiple times due to loneliness and attaching themselves to a partner that only wanted their material wealth. The leeches got what they wanted and then bolted leaving those men destitute. It's a real shame. Stay strong fellas. If you want to be with someone, first be happy with yourself and keep working on yourself every day. Once you do that everything else falls into place. Cheers.
@@simplesimon755 thanks
it doesn't fall into place when your 70 years old -- its just "plain over" .. thats it .
@@jjshoot2425that’s ‘ cos the trick to being your own person should have been learned years prior to 70.
I’m 75 and have no illusions of my capabilities and limitations of friendships
We’re all alone !!!
Hey Phil. Sixty six year old guy here, divorced for thirty years now after a ten year marriage, but living with my GF who I've been with for 18 or so years now. She's also divorced after she was married for almost 25 years to a not so great guy, but she kept it together for her four kids. LONG story, I have spent most of my life living alone. I only moved in with my lady five years ago and her son rents out my house, but as I said, we've been together a long time. To your point, I LOVED living alone. Don't get me wrong, I like the arrangement I have now, but to be honest, it's only due to having a PHENOMENAL woman with me. She does her thing and I do mine. We are both retired but she's always doing "side jobs" as she is a bit of a handywoman, and lots of people hire her to remodel the kitchen or bathroom or even put floors down. She doesn't care if I sit in the back yard and listen to the radio and drink a few beer or if I want to hop in my truck and take a two or three days camping trip alone or with my brother. The point I'm making is, life can be great regardless of the situation. I got divorced in 1994, and lived alone up until 2019, which also included moving to a completely different state so all new people and all new environment for me (I should note that I have no children which made it very easy) and I loved being by myself and living alone - even when I was in relationships. Lastly, I'll just add that my entire life I've always had close friends and always got along with people at work, but as far as a LOT of friends? Nope, and that's why I'm comfortable being by myself and being alone; I'm used to it and again, after being married to someone and going through some not so good times, I know a LOT of people who'd envy your situation, as again, I did it for a long time and loved it. Get up VERY early and go to work and leave an immaculately clean house, and after ten or eleven hours come home to that SAME immaculately clean house. You get my point.
Thank you for your ideas. I’m 80. Walk about 30 minutes daily, weather permitting. Live on a boat. Yes, I agree with you on your neatness comments. Up to you. 👍
You are totally right about this, and I practice that little "go out andctake a break" thing you mention! I love getting out in my car and druving down the road a bit! Just going outside and walking around or resting a bit, taking in nature is great as well. I am enjoying your talks!
Adopt some rescue pets. Better companionship (& loyalty) than any human can provide. Also, best to be an natural introvert, capable of meaningful introspection, & into interesting, thought-provoking hobbies/interests that keep the mind sharp/active.
If you run a business, the hardest thing to do is find a good person or two.
Personal friends are even tougher.
Most people will never find the friend they dream of. Everybody has flaws, our dream friends don't.
Be the friend you dream of to your friends.
If I need someone to talk to my neighbor is always there and she won’t stop talking until I fall over from exhaustion. Be well big guy!🤦🏻♀️👍🎈
@@lindasnyder2774 always listening thanks for watching
I liked your simple matter of fact approach. I wish you the best in life and in growing your channel.
In all honesty, get a few pets. Much better friends than humans.
Can't play board games with dogs, they take too long when it's their turn.
I loved living alone. Like you said if the house is a mess it’s on you. I had to have my mother move in with me because my father passed away. I wanted her to get her own space. Unlike me she has never lived alone. I love her but miss my own space.
A key thing that one has to do over the years is manage and keep up with their friendships and relationships. You cant put things on hold and expect people to jump through hoops when you need them. Also, I have found once you are 50 or over, many people are nice but arent looking to make friends as they have long established relationships in place and generally arent interested in making new friends.
The mistake in people already having established relationships & don’t want new friends is like some of these comments have said long time friends /family members die, move away etc & those people find themselves suddenly alone and the advice is to always add on a new friend or two because of that.
@@tracymorgan5386 I agree with you on that Tracy. That is one of the hardest things in life as we all age. One should try to stay engaged in their community, so they dont find themselves alone in the future. Wishing you and your family all the best.
I talk to myself and answer in the third person, crazy, but with no friends or family, what' s a guy to do?😢
me too lol I have lengthy conversations with myself
@@rosemaryschroeder3642 usually I talk myself through daily decisions, not just rambling about nothing, it helps organize each day.
Know how you feel brother just turned 60 the older we get we get lonelier divorced and hard to do everything yourself you have to pick your moments and spots
I’m 63 and live alone. I love it. One thing I notice is when I do meet someone for whatever reason
I talk nonstop. LoL
Ah I'll be living by myself soon! My main goals are to make sure I keep the place tidy and clean that's really important. And secondly to move forward with my life in a way that makes me happy 😁. Thanks for the video! You have made me feel better about being by myself. Although I will say it's not something I was ever terribly worried about
We deserve the feelings we get from having it done-we gotta encourage our steps. Being our authentic selves will bring the people we need closer. You got this!
the only sorta wrench in the works is if there had been someone in ur life that emotional loss can crush the motivation for quite a while anyway . if never married and no kids then having a pet -the right one will save the day
The internet provides millions of people to listen to and comment back . Going out shopping plenty of people to smile at hello how are you doing . Doctors now days talk on video so you don’t need to go out. Taking walks talk to neighbors is plenty .
I haven't lived alone since I was 24yrs old, I am now 57 and everyone is at my house! My son in law brought me a retired military dog and now I have him, who is a big baby! I wish I lived alone sometimes, but then I think of all the things that I would have to do alone and I don't think I could manage.
Getting up in age, retiring,losing family and friends, does change us. I'm retired in Danbury, CT. I'm on a fixed income. I have family, in other states. Sister in Austin TX, brother ,in Brinnon, Wash,and daughter in ,LA. My other sister, in Ridgefield, CT, died of Lewy Body Dementia. My ex husband , heart attack, and elderly mother, she was 96, natural causes.A close male friend , a heart attack , in Cali. I go to the senior center, for line dancing and zumba. Life is always changing. I'm on long waiting lists, for senior housing.
@@sallyclay1974 good luck in life
I try to do one thing each day. I do not let myself go to sleep until I tackle my one chore. Just one chore a day. I AM 30 years behind on my dusting. A lot of things that needed attention. Just ONE thing a day.
I had a friend once .
Phil - Every project, big or small, needs a plan. Start out with a plan and think it through. This gives you a direction to start and can keep you on track. I was an engineering project manager for 45 years. Also, engineers are notorious for having no friends. Most are married or in a relationship, good or bad, it's better than nothing.
I have never done so much commenting. Yes, I agree having someone to talk to is very nice. I really missed that in the morning when there’s no one to say what do you think will do today have a cup of coffee let’s go sit outside such a little thing and you can miss it so much.
Thats me and I love it. Most of my neighbours are idiot's that I don't want to talk to. If I want intelligent conversation I go to my local MENSA group.
Alone is just hell, nobody can say alone and I am happy. Every must have friends or have a good relation
Im 66 live alone ( no humans ) 12 cats and a few outside strays myself and niehbor take care of. I have friends. I don't see to often. Hobbys and just trying to take care of the house I was raised in , its large. Have a garden every yr , plenty to do all the time. . . or not. I can say Im content. Can't really complain but sometimes I do. The cats are use to it 😂 ✌
@@Bitterstone3849 wow 12 cats good luck to you
I married my husband when I was 19. We were married for 40 years when he passed away October of 2022 from brain cancer.
I miss him every minute of every day so no, I do not like living alone.😔
I’m so very sorry for your loss.🙏🏻😢💔 I pray you find comfort and strength in the midst of your grief…I know how much it hurts.❤
Church, senior center, meals on wheels, I agree w you on much
I’m 66, I lived alone 22-32, 52-55 and 60 till present. I’m very self sufficient. My home is clean, cupboards filled with high quality food. 8000 records, 400 books. I go to my library often. Saturday night my town had a blues band playing so I went.
I rarely talk with strangers. You never know how you’ll be perceived at 66 so I rarely try.
I go to the pool in my development, alone. I do most things by myself. I don’t mind but I would love some femininity in my life again.
"I would love some femininity in my life again."--- I'm "more mature than 66" and the only problem with having some femininity in my life again is I don't want some old woman to hang with nor do I want to feel like a sugar daddy. I ran hard for years and had beautiful women with me but as they say: "every dog has its day." I had mine they are just memories now which is good enough for me as I would need training wheels to begin that ride again.
No you wouldn’t. There are some fabulous 60 year old women out there. Rare but they’re out there.
I have a date with one Friday.
@@toothbrush5190 " Rare but they’re out there."--- what is not rare are the fatal attractions, STD donators, leaches, narcissistic personalities, those hidden agendas and a mountain of baggage. No not me. I'm not sorting thru that tangled mess. There is nothing they have that I need, want or desire = that time clock has expired.
I took up a game called Warhammer 40K and made a lot of good friends that range in age for teenagers to my age (53) or even slightly older. It’s a fun hobby and helps me pass my time and I talk to friends regularly.
Im in my 30s and idk that I could live alone. I get lonely really easily and as a woman I get kinda scared being home by myself. I enjoy being with my husband so I'm lucky
I love living in my own space and alone “ that’s just how I like it, But I understand that not everyone is the same.
This is how I live deliberately. Except for old friends I still see on a somewhat regular basis, I want the world and everyone in it AWAY from me.
@@ibuprofenPill sounds a little harsh 😂
@@Olderguys777 me and millions of others. I'm 55 and still have people who would come to my aid if/when I needed it. I have lived in the city my entire life and cannot wait to retire and GTFO of here. I'm already looking at rural land out near Mineral Wells, TX.
Dogs are great friends and they get you out of the house...they need exercise and so do you!
If you have one "true" friend you got more than your share ❤
Me… Can’t live alone.
I can easily be alone in public or out of the house.
But in the home… need someone.
I don’t have many friends… true friends. Most are acquaintances.
Lost a daughter… the true friends came out. The fakes that were there, during that time, were so easy to see.
Ignorance is bliss and not considered abusive so that's miserable or lonely.
You’re living my dream life
Enjoy how positive you are
We have openings on our bowling leagues. We get together and toss some balls around share some laughs, once a week.
I talk to Jesus he is my my number one friend.
haha.
I used have an imaginary friend to.
@@davidmitchell6873John 14:6 (KJV) Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. ✝️
well, now... i used to talk to the voices in my head ... BUT, they never listened to a darn thing i said.. so, you know what?... i stopped listening to them
Call-girls rock !!
@@bradart7289 ??
But STDs don't.
So you have the best life posibble 👍🏻
New subscriber here. Good advice
Seek God. He will answer your deepest desire.
I think its nice to have a partner but never live with them. Live alone and see that partner when it suits the pair of you. Ive found living alone to be really liberating.
I think there's a stigma of being a single man, living alone in his 60's. People think there must be something wrong with you.
@@angusm9419 nothing wrong with me I’m living a life that makes good sense my choices save me money to live comfortably
Good content here. Keep it up.😊
Trying getting a cat.....shes always there......she doesnt talk back...and meows when she wants to go out. Family is good to have....cant trust anyone.....take care....how do you stop working at 60.....cause no one hire after 55 years old...???
@@Jeff97405 if you can move ok try Amazon or Walmart
I wouldn't have it any other way Peace finally !!!
IS NOT THE WAY WE MEN ARE ALONE
Great vid...thanks!
Pretty cool guy. O like him.
“ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
~~~ Anonymous ~~~ GET A DOG In fact get 2 the best thing ever !!!!!!!
Try living with your wife and “family” and still being alone. It’s worse.
Happy Life No Wife
If you don’t already have a dog, get at least one. You will never need to be alone again. Dogs are wonderful companions don’t let natalists try to say otherwise.
So i must ask don't you know Jesus?
His your best and most closest friend, some you can talk to anout anything?
Faithful and true and listens to us and knows what you are going through.
Call on him, his closet than you think😊
You remind me of Mel, from Mel’s diner on the show “Alice” from the 70’s!
@@Yogagirl9935 is that a good or bad thing???
Pay close attention to every identity around. Moreso, the kind of people you spend time with. You just don't know what you don't know in this day and age. Many things can get involved into your world that are not for you. You can be feeding the insanity of some individuals or systems, not realizing eventually detrimental to your being. My two cents ...
My situation completely since 2020. It’s worse where you live in a foreign country and don’t really speak the language but I left the English speaking world 35 years ago and definitely do not want to return after I se how things have gone over there.
I’m in the same boat !
I found seasonal Tourette syndrome a comfort 😂😜
I think it's the best. I have two dogs tho.
If you want friends, be friendly.
embrace the suck.
if you get board being alone you are with bad company.
Do volunteer work!
Can't you join a club like a biking or walking club than you might find a friend
Get out! Be friendly!
Life is better when we share it it with others
You’re cute 🥰
A friend in need is a pest indeed.
I understand
Poochie!
A pet ( dog), also helps