7 Things Men Think Women Care About But Really Don't - Gentleman's Gazette
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Bottom line is, if a woman is really interested in you, the seven things we discuss here, may be nice to have but they're definitely not a NEED to have.
1. Fortune
Most of the time, your work ethic, your passion, your ambition, and your hobbies, matter more than your bank account. This approach can be extended to many things; it's less about what you have but what you make with what you have. If a woman is just interested in how much money you make it's probably not a good idea to date her in the first place.
2. Physique
In fact, all the women we talked to preferred that you weren't. Why? You might wonder. Well if you spent all the time in the gym and you're very ripped yourself as a man, that may be intimidating to the woman and she might feel like you judge her all the time which can be unhealthy for the relationship.
3. Size of your Manhood
Many men out there think that the size of their penis is really important and the bigger the better, not just for their ego, but also to satisfy women. In reality, the vast majority of penis sizes out there are just fine for most women. In fact, most women consider your size to be nun criteria in the first place.
4. Vulnerability
Most women are attracted to men who are emotionally stable and who can express their feelings. I think a lot of men don't want to show emotions because they feel like they need to save face from other men who might judge them as weak.
5. Worshipping Women
Yes, everyone likes a genuine compliment every once in a while but if you're being put on a pedestal all the time, it can lead to a disconnect between you as partners. Most women want a connection with you and they want to be treated as an equal to you, not as something that is superior or inferior.
6. Insincere Compliments
Yes, it's okay to compliment your spouse and her partner or the women in your life, however, if you repeatedly just tell them that they look gorgeous, it becomes old quite quickly.
7. Hair
Many women also associate gray hair with maturity which is a big plus for us men. Most women also don't care about the receding hairline, they care about your character, your humor, and the way you are as a person.
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I’m a woman who had questions regarding fashion and happened upon your website. I love your advocacy quality; not only of clothing and appearance, but of respect, kindness, productivity and honesty. Couples who share the same core values have a shot at being pretty happy in life. Thank you for your good work.
From buying suits and shoes to knowing if I'm acting accordingly and being useful to people. These are the things Raphael helped me with. Keep up the good work!
Much love from Brazil!
I'm a woman and I'm totally shocked about some comments, especially those that assume you can't trust what a woman says about what she wants (they're like "Oh, you don't want what you are saying, you want what I believe you want and that's all"). C'mon, guys! Yes, some women care about those things, some others don't... just pay attention to what she does and says and then make a decision if she is the woman for you or not (I've met men who don't care if she is a gold digger as long as she looks "trophy" enough). Nice video!
I understand we (mostly) cannot control our looks, but having a modicum of physical fitness should be an aspiration of men (and women).
OMG BodYShAmIng!!!!
(Ironical)
Yeah it’s not vain. It shows you care about your health and if anything, should show you want to live long with your loved one, and not just die young after sinking into a meaningless and unhealthy lifestyle
Do not make the mistake of chasing what women want. Focus on doing what you want to do, and not what women say they want.
I can't believe you got so many thumbs up for this selfishness. Try to find things you both enjoy and can do together. If you are doing sports 3 times a week, and she is out with the girls, well, what holds you together? Similarly once you start having children you will have to plan FAMILY activities, not just what you like to do.
@LVXH if you want to understand what women want, reverse everything this man just said. Women care PRIMARILY about how much you make, and how willing you'll be to share it with them and any children you may have together. This is why tying together your resources is still the primary and fundamental legal aspect of marriage, and divorce is all about the resources, and who gets them.
That fact that he got his information from women means it’s not reliable.
What women SAY they want is very different from what they really want or need. On top this can change depending on her mood, moment, age, and your capacity to buy gold...
I would really like to watch a channel like Gentleman’s Gazette but geared towards women.
@Marinebattleships 1 do tell?
Based on the comments, it seems many people who disagree are interpreting this list as things that are completely irrelevant in attracting a woman, but I think it was meant to be more of a list of qualities that aren't deal breakers if a woman is already attracted to you as a person with good character, passions, and ambitions, and you're both pursuing a meaningful, lasting relationship.
Gotta disagree on the money issue. That changes as time passes. When you're a student, she loves you for your potential and all is good if you are broke. If you are 28 and working at McDonald's, you don't stand a chance with most women unless they too work at McD's. When you are 40 and still working a dead end job, you don't stand a chance. They say money doesn't matter but when Pizza Hut is where you take her on a date, forget about it.
BTW, your wife looks very much like a girl I was madly in love with in college. Now I'm feeling nostalgic. :-)
Being 28 and working at McDonald's is not only a money thing though.
It often tells a lot about your ambitions and your character as well.
Gold Winger I agree. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
Somehow people find their equals, and they muddle through.
It's more about what type of job you have. Working at McDonald's isn't a respectable career and she sees you're a hopeless fool. They don't care too much about money, most of them anyways.
You wouldn't marry McDonald's woman if she were 30 year old and if you yourself were better placed either.
Haha didn't expect you to talk about penises!
It's what came up when we asked different women ;)
it came up... when we asked when we asked different women........lol..that best Germen joke ever....an lived there 4 years. super video also
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Love your content. I don’t always agree with all of your assessments, yet I still come away feeling that it was time well spent. Most genuine! Thanks and keep them coming
Great video and sound advice. Our society has become overly obsessed regarding the "perfect form" for both genders. It is important to be clean, neat, well groomed and healthy but to obsess over hair color, if you have a few extra pounds, and other physical attributes is unhealthy from a psychological point of view.
Its due to the mass degeneracy and destruction of European peoples by nefarious actors. Look at most Zommer women they are over 200lbs and on their death bed from Type 2 Diabetes. Its a symptom of sick society by parasites... We are in our Wiemar Republic stage...
More people need to watch this. I agree 100% with this. Crying is fine ... everyone has bad moments. There's no need to repress your feelings.
The battle in the comment section is adorable..........
Every woman is different but communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship. An honest man makes love a lot easier and trust inevitable.
I can't agree more. Every single point is 200% true.
Bravo! Really nice video. Interesting topic with interesting approach.
Outstanding as always Sven, thanks for the video
Today's outfit has been a favourite, it's autumn where I live and your colour scheme today really suits it
Another good one, Raphael! Thank you!
I agree with every point apart from not dyeing hair. I started going grey from 18. My own image confidence and even compliments increase when I dye it. The key is to not over do it but so it looks very natural.
I can tell you really care for your audience and want to get the best from us. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, sir!
So insightful. Thank you.
That's so sweet Sven!
Thanks!
I really like your style in this episode.Keep up the good work guys.
Great man. Thanks for the advice.
Not a bad presentation! Putting things in perspective. Yes! and being sure of oneself is crucial if a viable healthy relationship is to grow emotionally, (from the heart). Everything else falls in place. Be the man you were designed to be. Semper Fidelis
Insightful as always
This is very informative
If you are a woman, what do you think men care about that you don't?
If you are a man, what do you think women care about the most?
It's a little confusing... wear expensive (i.e. quality), well-tailored clothing, but own your graying hair? To be certain, a 76 year-old Wayne Newton with jet-black hair looks dreadful... but surely there's a middle ground?
I think it means that you should feel comfortable with your body, otherwise you risk 'trying too hard' to fix something, and people will notice it.
Well made does not always equate with expensive, and Rafa has gone to pains to advise that taking care of one's appearance is different to trying to fit in with certain stereotypical beliefs in what is necessary for a "real man" to adhere to
That's what I've gotten from all of his videos which is why I was a bit confused by him saying, 'don't do this' rather than, 'if you're going to do it, find an experienced men's hairstylist and get the job done properly.'
If you like to dye your hair, go for it.
Totally awesome list. Funny that the last point is REALLY true 😅😅
So for #2 I disagree only because of the health benefits of exercise. If my husband didn't care about his strength and health, I would not have been as attracted to him. It's not about appearance but about health and safety.
Everything else was dead on! Great video!
I agree to all of this. Well done!
Can’t agree more, if your are NOT financially well off and if you find a woman who wants YOU, you can be fairly sure it (relationship) can work as you are only able to give of yourself and not any worldly possessions (money). 👍
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Very nice but wrong. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This can change depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or popular (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. Still looking for a more reallistic video because not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs
I respectfully disagree and feel sorry for those people who are in the never ending battle to continually see a partner who is richer, successful, has more $$$ than themselves, taller, etc...as these are sad people who will truly never be satisfied or happy in life because they will forever be searching for this ideal mate. There are millions of wonderful people out in the world who are not rich, tall, or whatever label you wish to lay on them, but are deserving of a partner who can equally share their life with. Best of luck to you if you are stuck on the wrong side of this option.
I agree that these are sad people but women will naturally seek a mate that will guarantee security and good offspring which in today's society is often measured in money, looks and power. In the end they have to settle for less because there are much less truly successful, intelligent, rich, handsome, powerful, men in real life than perceived but women will attempt the three point basket, especially if they feel they deserve it, until the clock runs out of time, after which they can settle for a simple 2 point lay up.
The way I have experienced it are girls I fancied and categorically rejected me during university that come back more than 10-15 years later asking somehow if I am still interested. And I am not because I have evolved, do not see them that charming any more, plus they have been broken by their "cool rich studs" who left them stranded with kids for a younger woman. They made their choice, not my problem anymore.
Brilliant video. I wish I had seen this when I was 16. I love your point about working out. Keep fit yes. But guys who spend every day in the gym seek quite insecure and trying to prove something.
Hey Sven,
I just found out i have the extract same flat cap you have on the background.
Will it suit with a little bit lighter grey overcoat with the same pattern?
Interesting video. Needed to be stated. Thank you.
An excellent guide and a thoroughly nice chap
The real message is "Be yourself ,i.e a good person, and do not care about what others think, including women, and you will feel better in your life. If woman like you, that is good. If not, you dont have to waste time and energy to find out how to impress them; it will bring nothing. Continue to be yourself and be good person, your chances are much better.
Hey Rafael! I’m Bruno. You make great sense, and I tell my friends to look for the right girl at the right place, someone with some passions and interest as you. Good video!
As a woman I can agree on all of these points! Well put together sir!
you should make a video on all the different fabrics we can choose from if we were to go for a bespoke suits and maybe another videos of all the styles for the coat and jackets too! love your videos!
The key is to be yourself, as cheesy as that sounds. Doesn't mean walk around without a care and do and say whatever you want, when you want, but if you're putting on airs to try to seem a certain way, people can tell. You could do all the things in this video, but if you do them because that's who you are and you're truly passionate about working out, or working a high-paying job, then people will appreciate that you're forging your own path in life instead of obsessing over what you think other people want from you.
Thank you very much, Sven, for your videos. I am so glad I found your channel. There should be more man like you - and the views give me hope, that there is interest in such values.
In the world of Oil painting we would call the color harmony of your outfit a " Double Split - Complementary " color harmony. It really works!!!
As a woman, I found this list to be incredibly accurate. I've had relationships in the past that have failed because of his concern over a couple of the things you listed (most especially because of being set on a pedestal.) As it happens, this list seems to highlight my husband's best qualities and why I fell for him so hard.
As you mentioned, all women are different, but overall I think a lot of young men who would like some guidance would learn a lot from this.
This is really something to think about
you should be the next bond villain
Excellent video that covers important topics. I think woman want a man with a sense of humor, who is also able to be a good conversationalist.
Totally agree with points 2 and 5. I was “worshipped” once, and at some point it just became annoying. Other points make sense as well. I would like to add from my experience, men are often concerned about their chest hair, whether its amount is ok for a woman or not. How silly is that! As for me, chest hair is the last thing I would think of when starting to date a really nice man.
Thanks for adding your point of view!
As long as the cash keeps flowing in.
Gentlemen should be proud of who they are and what they have. A true gentlemen cares for everyone which makes you look more attractive to a woman. Women love well kept men.
Woman here: I could not care less about how big or expensive your car is.
True. When it comes to men and cars, all I care about is that you drive safely. Nothing worse than being driven on a date and wondering if you should have left a will on the desk before you left.
What matters is that you have a car that seems safe. Clean and rust free are also good.
As long as it works right, if not let’s fix it or work to get anew one.
@E KL Yes, clearly there is no reason a guy would ever want a cool car other than compensating right? Guess we should all be buying a silver base Camry LOL. Way to be a simp dude.
@E KL That is simply a projection on your part. There are several reasons a guy could have to purchase something ridiculous like an orange Lambo, the fact that you chose to see it as overcompensating without even knowing him would be a flaw on your end, not his.
It’s so cute how excited he looks talking about his wife
Shout out for featuring a Montblanc TimeWalker in your photo!
April 1st was 26 days ago.
@Hobbesian Thinker HER wife?
You read that right her wife is getting hosed down by the pool boy.
That guy sure is bluepilled af
I agree on all points if we're talking about good women. I must be the luckiest man out there for finding a woman that genuinely loves me for what I am. Both of us've matured (and still mature) as time goes by, for life can do nothing to separate us.
Are you serious? You don’t think that women would prefer a ripped guy with money over a broke chubby dude (all other things being equal)?
Amen!
Absolutely, but simps gotta tell themselves things to feel better. A better approach would be "you can still achieve your goals despite your shortcomings" rather than pretending they're not something women are after.
I love the stroller you wear in the wedding photo
Raphael, Bravo very good advise. You and Antonio must be on the same wavelength since he also put out some good advise just now also.
can I ask who made your jacket? I love the shape of the lapels, it is very vintage looking.
I think this is my favorite outfit I've seen you in. So distinct and well-matched, I love the colors too.
Raphae's Gentleman's Gazettel and Nick's Strength and Power are the 2 best sites out here.
So true
he loves those shadow stripes ! v good vid
Love you man
Extremely important video
All these things really fall under "treat people how you want to be treated category". As man however, you should apply these things 100% more to the woman you love.
Amen to all that!!!
would you kindly make a video about how we can apply the principles of fashion regardless of what specific type of clothing we're wearing? what parts of the decision making process are the same no mater what article of clothing we're picking out?
i literally need this fit
Looking good Raphael.
Not a problem for those who watch Gentleman's Gazette
"Never B#, Never Bb, always B natural !" ;)
Please do a video on casual streetware for mature gentlemen.
It would also be great to know what a man should wear on a canal cruise or plane.
All compressed into one sentence: Keep it real.
Be true to yourself!
Do you have a video on how to hand clean a shirt
no
No cash no women. I can agree about other points but stash means beautiful women, no doubt about that.
It honestly just depends. I think the woman i'm with is stunning, I only make 70k a year and she's a therapist with a masters degree. Maybe some people would consider that a lot of money but everyone of our friends live in houses by themselves that we couldn't afford with combined income and some of them have not so attractive partners. (to us anyway) personal taste and attraction varies. It's truly impossible to know.
Uh. If you’re after only beautiful women, you’re just as shallow as the women who are after only men with money.
You need to get over that mindset if you want to get a good woman. All women are shallow? Are you going to say you don’t care about looks either? What he’s saying is if the woman sees you are striving for something and that you are going somewhere then they don’t care if you are broke. No, women don’t want to be with a broke guy. But do you want to be a broke guy, no, so why do does it matter what they think
I’m a married guy and Raphael is mostly right!
As a woman, I completely agree with everything in this video. I love gentlemen! Great channel!
I should not cry in public? Haha try to stop me.
I really like the colors and style of the outfit. A slightly lighter pants color would have worked better thoughz
Men, please be comfortable around us women, so that we will be comfortable around you👍🙏
Here are some of the things that are red flags (as in, turn around, walk out, and don't look back) when I first meet a man: 1. He lies about something. Incredibly, most men lie within the first 10 minutes, or at least the first 30 minutes. 2. He looks disappointed because you are not attractive enough, or you are too tall/short, so he won't be able to impress his friends. 3. His haircut is too short, or weird in some way. 4. He is divorced (or not), with children he has left behind. 4. His wife left him, or he says that she was just interested in his money. 5. He is well out of high school, but has no means of transportation. 6. His politics/religion/life plans do not square with mine. 7. Profanity.
I had to compare my life experience with the advices given in this video, now I feel a lot more confused than ever... Well, that's it, enough Internet for today.
1:15 So sweet :D
it's not grey hair it's platinum highlights 😎
6:59 Use the Boresley Method " Just two easy steps, Shave your head, and Grow a Goatee" From Bald to Badass lol...
Loved this video, makes much sense the way you explain it, is sad to read that some men (sorry for the expression) still penis-measure their value and self confidence
#3...shit you actually touch that subject.
Good advice. I've learned these lessons over 74 years. BTW, your pants are too short.
Like your channel; wish I had a place to dress like that.
Rafael, are you personally aware of any channel that edifies women in the same way Gentlemen's Gazette does ? Can you please site them for us ladies? I am a great fan of GG and watch with interest because I too learn much from you about the genteel lifestyle, manners, good taste and the modern interpretation of the rules of etiquette and comportment. Thank you for your attention and I await your response with interest.
Wish I could be a GigaChad like Raphael so these advices apply to me 😢
What geographic region are you (your wifes friends from?) I would love to see if the answers change in an area such as NYC Metro
Hey what a beautiful photo with you and your wife!
I am digging that outfit.
I have a question pretty much unrelated to the video. I know it’s important to match the belts to the shoes and I have a pair of Allen Edmonds Jingle Bell Mocs which I really like, they are fun to wear but I don’t have a belt to match. They are a muted red and green wingtips, that sounds terrible but they look better than they sound I guess, at least to me. What should I wear?
AE does make a belt that matches but I think they only sell it during Christmas along with the shoes and it’s kind of expensive for something I rarely wear.
Wait... I remember watching this video like a month ago. Is this a reupload?
No, never been published before
Came for the content, stayed for the outfit
You are impressive.
Raphael have you and your wife considered doing a TH-cam channel for classy women? I have looked and come up with nil. I would so enjoy it. Please think about it.
At the end of the day you just need to find someone who is communicative otherwise you will never know how they actually feel about these things, just be guessing.
This is a really good point. Don't go looking on TH-cam for how your woman feels based on generalising videos. Remember she's just as individual as you are and she might match or vary from these statements, so you need to find out. You can only do that with someone who is self-aware and can can communicate about their needs, preferably early on so you both know what you're getting into, what expectations there are (mis-matched or uncommunicated expectations, in my experience, is responsible for a VAST number of break-ups) and what a person's non-negotiable needs are.
Exactly, this video is not about absolutes but more meant as food for thought