I’m a woman who had questions regarding fashion and happened upon your website. I love your advocacy quality; not only of clothing and appearance, but of respect, kindness, productivity and honesty. Couples who share the same core values have a shot at being pretty happy in life. Thank you for your good work.
I'm a woman and I'm totally shocked about some comments, especially those that assume you can't trust what a woman says about what she wants (they're like "Oh, you don't want what you are saying, you want what I believe you want and that's all"). C'mon, guys! Yes, some women care about those things, some others don't... just pay attention to what she does and says and then make a decision if she is the woman for you or not (I've met men who don't care if she is a gold digger as long as she looks "trophy" enough). Nice video!
From buying suits and shoes to knowing if I'm acting accordingly and being useful to people. These are the things Raphael helped me with. Keep up the good work! Much love from Brazil!
I can't believe you got so many thumbs up for this selfishness. Try to find things you both enjoy and can do together. If you are doing sports 3 times a week, and she is out with the girls, well, what holds you together? Similarly once you start having children you will have to plan FAMILY activities, not just what you like to do.
@LVXH if you want to understand what women want, reverse everything this man just said. Women care PRIMARILY about how much you make, and how willing you'll be to share it with them and any children you may have together. This is why tying together your resources is still the primary and fundamental legal aspect of marriage, and divorce is all about the resources, and who gets them.
What women SAY they want is very different from what they really want or need. On top this can change depending on her mood, moment, age, and your capacity to buy gold...
Yeah it’s not vain. It shows you care about your health and if anything, should show you want to live long with your loved one, and not just die young after sinking into a meaningless and unhealthy lifestyle
Gotta disagree on the money issue. That changes as time passes. When you're a student, she loves you for your potential and all is good if you are broke. If you are 28 and working at McDonald's, you don't stand a chance with most women unless they too work at McD's. When you are 40 and still working a dead end job, you don't stand a chance. They say money doesn't matter but when Pizza Hut is where you take her on a date, forget about it. BTW, your wife looks very much like a girl I was madly in love with in college. Now I'm feeling nostalgic. :-)
Gold Winger I agree. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc. What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
It's more about what type of job you have. Working at McDonald's isn't a respectable career and she sees you're a hopeless fool. They don't care too much about money, most of them anyways.
Based on the comments, it seems many people who disagree are interpreting this list as things that are completely irrelevant in attracting a woman, but I think it was meant to be more of a list of qualities that aren't deal breakers if a woman is already attracted to you as a person with good character, passions, and ambitions, and you're both pursuing a meaningful, lasting relationship.
The battle in the comment section is adorable.......... Every woman is different but communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship. An honest man makes love a lot easier and trust inevitable.
Great video and sound advice. Our society has become overly obsessed regarding the "perfect form" for both genders. It is important to be clean, neat, well groomed and healthy but to obsess over hair color, if you have a few extra pounds, and other physical attributes is unhealthy from a psychological point of view.
Its due to the mass degeneracy and destruction of European peoples by nefarious actors. Look at most Zommer women they are over 200lbs and on their death bed from Type 2 Diabetes. Its a symptom of sick society by parasites... We are in our Wiemar Republic stage...
Can’t agree more, if your are NOT financially well off and if you find a woman who wants YOU, you can be fairly sure it (relationship) can work as you are only able to give of yourself and not any worldly possessions (money). 👍
Louis Arv Very nice but wrong. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This can change depending on her mood, moment, age etc. What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or popular (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. Still looking for a more reallistic video because not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs
I respectfully disagree and feel sorry for those people who are in the never ending battle to continually see a partner who is richer, successful, has more $$$ than themselves, taller, etc...as these are sad people who will truly never be satisfied or happy in life because they will forever be searching for this ideal mate. There are millions of wonderful people out in the world who are not rich, tall, or whatever label you wish to lay on them, but are deserving of a partner who can equally share their life with. Best of luck to you if you are stuck on the wrong side of this option.
I agree that these are sad people but women will naturally seek a mate that will guarantee security and good offspring which in today's society is often measured in money, looks and power. In the end they have to settle for less because there are much less truly successful, intelligent, rich, handsome, powerful, men in real life than perceived but women will attempt the three point basket, especially if they feel they deserve it, until the clock runs out of time, after which they can settle for a simple 2 point lay up. The way I have experienced it are girls I fancied and categorically rejected me during university that come back more than 10-15 years later asking somehow if I am still interested. And I am not because I have evolved, do not see them that charming any more, plus they have been broken by their "cool rich studs" who left them stranded with kids for a younger woman. They made their choice, not my problem anymore.
Love your content. I don’t always agree with all of your assessments, yet I still come away feeling that it was time well spent. Most genuine! Thanks and keep them coming
It's a little confusing... wear expensive (i.e. quality), well-tailored clothing, but own your graying hair? To be certain, a 76 year-old Wayne Newton with jet-black hair looks dreadful... but surely there's a middle ground?
Well made does not always equate with expensive, and Rafa has gone to pains to advise that taking care of one's appearance is different to trying to fit in with certain stereotypical beliefs in what is necessary for a "real man" to adhere to
That's what I've gotten from all of his videos which is why I was a bit confused by him saying, 'don't do this' rather than, 'if you're going to do it, find an experienced men's hairstylist and get the job done properly.'
I agree with every point apart from not dyeing hair. I started going grey from 18. My own image confidence and even compliments increase when I dye it. The key is to not over do it but so it looks very natural.
As a woman, I found this list to be incredibly accurate. I've had relationships in the past that have failed because of his concern over a couple of the things you listed (most especially because of being set on a pedestal.) As it happens, this list seems to highlight my husband's best qualities and why I fell for him so hard. As you mentioned, all women are different, but overall I think a lot of young men who would like some guidance would learn a lot from this.
So for #2 I disagree only because of the health benefits of exercise. If my husband didn't care about his strength and health, I would not have been as attracted to him. It's not about appearance but about health and safety. Everything else was dead on! Great video!
The real message is "Be yourself ,i.e a good person, and do not care about what others think, including women, and you will feel better in your life. If woman like you, that is good. If not, you dont have to waste time and energy to find out how to impress them; it will bring nothing. Continue to be yourself and be good person, your chances are much better.
Totally agree with points 2 and 5. I was “worshipped” once, and at some point it just became annoying. Other points make sense as well. I would like to add from my experience, men are often concerned about their chest hair, whether its amount is ok for a woman or not. How silly is that! As for me, chest hair is the last thing I would think of when starting to date a really nice man.
The key is to be yourself, as cheesy as that sounds. Doesn't mean walk around without a care and do and say whatever you want, when you want, but if you're putting on airs to try to seem a certain way, people can tell. You could do all the things in this video, but if you do them because that's who you are and you're truly passionate about working out, or working a high-paying job, then people will appreciate that you're forging your own path in life instead of obsessing over what you think other people want from you.
True. When it comes to men and cars, all I care about is that you drive safely. Nothing worse than being driven on a date and wondering if you should have left a will on the desk before you left.
@E KL Yes, clearly there is no reason a guy would ever want a cool car other than compensating right? Guess we should all be buying a silver base Camry LOL. Way to be a simp dude.
@E KL That is simply a projection on your part. There are several reasons a guy could have to purchase something ridiculous like an orange Lambo, the fact that you chose to see it as overcompensating without even knowing him would be a flaw on your end, not his.
Gentlemen should be proud of who they are and what they have. A true gentlemen cares for everyone which makes you look more attractive to a woman. Women love well kept men.
Not a bad presentation! Putting things in perspective. Yes! and being sure of oneself is crucial if a viable healthy relationship is to grow emotionally, (from the heart). Everything else falls in place. Be the man you were designed to be. Semper Fidelis
It honestly just depends. I think the woman i'm with is stunning, I only make 70k a year and she's a therapist with a masters degree. Maybe some people would consider that a lot of money but everyone of our friends live in houses by themselves that we couldn't afford with combined income and some of them have not so attractive partners. (to us anyway) personal taste and attraction varies. It's truly impossible to know.
You need to get over that mindset if you want to get a good woman. All women are shallow? Are you going to say you don’t care about looks either? What he’s saying is if the woman sees you are striving for something and that you are going somewhere then they don’t care if you are broke. No, women don’t want to be with a broke guy. But do you want to be a broke guy, no, so why do does it matter what they think
Brilliant video. I wish I had seen this when I was 16. I love your point about working out. Keep fit yes. But guys who spend every day in the gym seek quite insecure and trying to prove something.
Here are some of the things that are red flags (as in, turn around, walk out, and don't look back) when I first meet a man: 1. He lies about something. Incredibly, most men lie within the first 10 minutes, or at least the first 30 minutes. 2. He looks disappointed because you are not attractive enough, or you are too tall/short, so he won't be able to impress his friends. 3. His haircut is too short, or weird in some way. 4. He is divorced (or not), with children he has left behind. 4. His wife left him, or he says that she was just interested in his money. 5. He is well out of high school, but has no means of transportation. 6. His politics/religion/life plans do not square with mine. 7. Profanity.
Absolutely, but simps gotta tell themselves things to feel better. A better approach would be "you can still achieve your goals despite your shortcomings" rather than pretending they're not something women are after.
I agree on all points if we're talking about good women. I must be the luckiest man out there for finding a woman that genuinely loves me for what I am. Both of us've matured (and still mature) as time goes by, for life can do nothing to separate us.
I agree and confirm as a woman you said nothing else but the truth! Beautiful outfit as usual. Thank you for educating men. They definitely need someone like you, since many fathers have failed in upbringing.
Hey Rafael! I’m Bruno. You make great sense, and I tell my friends to look for the right girl at the right place, someone with some passions and interest as you. Good video!
All these things really fall under "treat people how you want to be treated category". As man however, you should apply these things 100% more to the woman you love.
Outstanding as always Sven, thanks for the video Today's outfit has been a favourite, it's autumn where I live and your colour scheme today really suits it
you should make a video on all the different fabrics we can choose from if we were to go for a bespoke suits and maybe another videos of all the styles for the coat and jackets too! love your videos!
Rafael, are you personally aware of any channel that edifies women in the same way Gentlemen's Gazette does ? Can you please site them for us ladies? I am a great fan of GG and watch with interest because I too learn much from you about the genteel lifestyle, manners, good taste and the modern interpretation of the rules of etiquette and comportment. Thank you for your attention and I await your response with interest.
Hey Sven, I just found out i have the extract same flat cap you have on the background. Will it suit with a little bit lighter grey overcoat with the same pattern?
Thank you very much, Sven, for your videos. I am so glad I found your channel. There should be more man like you - and the views give me hope, that there is interest in such values.
would you kindly make a video about how we can apply the principles of fashion regardless of what specific type of clothing we're wearing? what parts of the decision making process are the same no mater what article of clothing we're picking out?
Of course they do, but to what EXTENT? Many men think those things are a great deal more important than they are - that's not to say they'r not important at all, and it will vary with the individual, but this video is a reminder that they may not be as crucial and you think.
Sir, you generalize. Culture has a huge impact. Also, I don't suggest the gentleman cry during a movie. I was always told by my mother that a gentleman must know how to manage (not hide) his emotions. Reserving tears for life-altering events and milestones crossed by your children should be nearing the limits of a gentleman's tears. Also, the seven points you've made here can easily apply to the gentleman's interaction with society as a whole. LOVE your channel.
Women protect themselves by never revealing truth about what they really want. Imagine I a woman ask you "what do you value in us". We likely are not going to tell her the truth that we value you the most when you are 18-25, slim and not many miles in meter. We tell her we value things like similarity, good soul and other phrases that women want to hear.
Please don't project your own superficiality onto all men. I have been with women of all ages and all body shapes ad have loved them to pieces and had many great experiences with all of them. If you still want a 25yo when you are 30+, chances are you are just immature, as no 25yo will hold a conversation as well or know as much as a 35 or 45yo, and yes, that's pretty important. As is communication ability and self-awareness. If all you care about is looks, you're likely after casual sex, not a relationship.
Darting makes a fair comment. My last gf had a high-paying job while I was unemployed, but she still had some expectations about when I would do something about that. I talked her into trying to be with someone that wasn't her usual "type" (I'm shorter), but she had definite physical preferences and if I had not been fairly fit, I would not have got a look in, regardless of other characteristics. I couldn't hold that against her, because she took the time to go to the gym and take care of herself as well. As for the length thing... I don't mean to lower the tone of the channel, but there are such things as extensions, sleeves, and toys, and you also have your own hands, if such... deep... sensations are required by your particular lover. Experience and knowledge will always reign in that department, and physical fitness pays off there, too.
Kutkis I defend Kutkis. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc. What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
love the video but, point2 is utter nonsense, I switch depending on what my goal is from 16-17 stone back down to 13, most prefer me at 13 stone, but whether 13 or 17 still in shape.
I had to compare my life experience with the advices given in this video, now I feel a lot more confused than ever... Well, that's it, enough Internet for today.
Loved this video, makes much sense the way you explain it, is sad to read that some men (sorry for the expression) still penis-measure their value and self confidence
The consistent theme here is that men who have something to offer women other than the things listed in the video recognise that the things listed in the video are not ultimately all that important to women. Meanwhile, men who do not have much else to offer women, and also can't offer these things, blame this on women only caring about these things to make themselves feel better about their failure. I don't know if this is because the men without much to offer are trying to blame it on things they think they can't control (looks etc.), or if those of us with more to offer have accounted for the better women who don't care about these things, but in either case it says more about the men complaining about women than it actually says about women. Be better, and these things won't matter all that much.
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The best 9 minutes of life coaching you will find on TH-cam.
but its all a lie
You're the best Gentleman's channel on youtube. No BS. No annoying ads. No shady promotions. Just straight up honesty!
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Common, you know you want that Vincero/MVMT watch
I’m a woman who had questions regarding fashion and happened upon your website. I love your advocacy quality; not only of clothing and appearance, but of respect, kindness, productivity and honesty. Couples who share the same core values have a shot at being pretty happy in life. Thank you for your good work.
I'm a woman and I'm totally shocked about some comments, especially those that assume you can't trust what a woman says about what she wants (they're like "Oh, you don't want what you are saying, you want what I believe you want and that's all"). C'mon, guys! Yes, some women care about those things, some others don't... just pay attention to what she does and says and then make a decision if she is the woman for you or not (I've met men who don't care if she is a gold digger as long as she looks "trophy" enough). Nice video!
From buying suits and shoes to knowing if I'm acting accordingly and being useful to people. These are the things Raphael helped me with. Keep up the good work!
Much love from Brazil!
Do not make the mistake of chasing what women want. Focus on doing what you want to do, and not what women say they want.
I can't believe you got so many thumbs up for this selfishness. Try to find things you both enjoy and can do together. If you are doing sports 3 times a week, and she is out with the girls, well, what holds you together? Similarly once you start having children you will have to plan FAMILY activities, not just what you like to do.
@LVXH if you want to understand what women want, reverse everything this man just said. Women care PRIMARILY about how much you make, and how willing you'll be to share it with them and any children you may have together. This is why tying together your resources is still the primary and fundamental legal aspect of marriage, and divorce is all about the resources, and who gets them.
That fact that he got his information from women means it’s not reliable.
What women SAY they want is very different from what they really want or need. On top this can change depending on her mood, moment, age, and your capacity to buy gold...
I understand we (mostly) cannot control our looks, but having a modicum of physical fitness should be an aspiration of men (and women).
OMG BodYShAmIng!!!!
(Ironical)
Yeah it’s not vain. It shows you care about your health and if anything, should show you want to live long with your loved one, and not just die young after sinking into a meaningless and unhealthy lifestyle
Gotta disagree on the money issue. That changes as time passes. When you're a student, she loves you for your potential and all is good if you are broke. If you are 28 and working at McDonald's, you don't stand a chance with most women unless they too work at McD's. When you are 40 and still working a dead end job, you don't stand a chance. They say money doesn't matter but when Pizza Hut is where you take her on a date, forget about it.
BTW, your wife looks very much like a girl I was madly in love with in college. Now I'm feeling nostalgic. :-)
Being 28 and working at McDonald's is not only a money thing though.
It often tells a lot about your ambitions and your character as well.
Gold Winger I agree. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
Somehow people find their equals, and they muddle through.
It's more about what type of job you have. Working at McDonald's isn't a respectable career and she sees you're a hopeless fool. They don't care too much about money, most of them anyways.
You wouldn't marry McDonald's woman if she were 30 year old and if you yourself were better placed either.
I would really like to watch a channel like Gentleman’s Gazette but geared towards women.
@Marinebattleships 1 do tell?
Based on the comments, it seems many people who disagree are interpreting this list as things that are completely irrelevant in attracting a woman, but I think it was meant to be more of a list of qualities that aren't deal breakers if a woman is already attracted to you as a person with good character, passions, and ambitions, and you're both pursuing a meaningful, lasting relationship.
Haha didn't expect you to talk about penises!
It's what came up when we asked different women ;)
it came up... when we asked when we asked different women........lol..that best Germen joke ever....an lived there 4 years. super video also
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More people need to watch this. I agree 100% with this. Crying is fine ... everyone has bad moments. There's no need to repress your feelings.
I can't agree more. Every single point is 200% true.
The battle in the comment section is adorable..........
Every woman is different but communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship. An honest man makes love a lot easier and trust inevitable.
Great video and sound advice. Our society has become overly obsessed regarding the "perfect form" for both genders. It is important to be clean, neat, well groomed and healthy but to obsess over hair color, if you have a few extra pounds, and other physical attributes is unhealthy from a psychological point of view.
Its due to the mass degeneracy and destruction of European peoples by nefarious actors. Look at most Zommer women they are over 200lbs and on their death bed from Type 2 Diabetes. Its a symptom of sick society by parasites... We are in our Wiemar Republic stage...
Can’t agree more, if your are NOT financially well off and if you find a woman who wants YOU, you can be fairly sure it (relationship) can work as you are only able to give of yourself and not any worldly possessions (money). 👍
Louis Arv
Very nice but wrong. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This can change depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or popular (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. Still looking for a more reallistic video because not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs
I respectfully disagree and feel sorry for those people who are in the never ending battle to continually see a partner who is richer, successful, has more $$$ than themselves, taller, etc...as these are sad people who will truly never be satisfied or happy in life because they will forever be searching for this ideal mate. There are millions of wonderful people out in the world who are not rich, tall, or whatever label you wish to lay on them, but are deserving of a partner who can equally share their life with. Best of luck to you if you are stuck on the wrong side of this option.
I agree that these are sad people but women will naturally seek a mate that will guarantee security and good offspring which in today's society is often measured in money, looks and power. In the end they have to settle for less because there are much less truly successful, intelligent, rich, handsome, powerful, men in real life than perceived but women will attempt the three point basket, especially if they feel they deserve it, until the clock runs out of time, after which they can settle for a simple 2 point lay up.
The way I have experienced it are girls I fancied and categorically rejected me during university that come back more than 10-15 years later asking somehow if I am still interested. And I am not because I have evolved, do not see them that charming any more, plus they have been broken by their "cool rich studs" who left them stranded with kids for a younger woman. They made their choice, not my problem anymore.
Love your content. I don’t always agree with all of your assessments, yet I still come away feeling that it was time well spent. Most genuine! Thanks and keep them coming
If you are a woman, what do you think men care about that you don't?
If you are a man, what do you think women care about the most?
It's a little confusing... wear expensive (i.e. quality), well-tailored clothing, but own your graying hair? To be certain, a 76 year-old Wayne Newton with jet-black hair looks dreadful... but surely there's a middle ground?
I think it means that you should feel comfortable with your body, otherwise you risk 'trying too hard' to fix something, and people will notice it.
Well made does not always equate with expensive, and Rafa has gone to pains to advise that taking care of one's appearance is different to trying to fit in with certain stereotypical beliefs in what is necessary for a "real man" to adhere to
That's what I've gotten from all of his videos which is why I was a bit confused by him saying, 'don't do this' rather than, 'if you're going to do it, find an experienced men's hairstylist and get the job done properly.'
If you like to dye your hair, go for it.
I agree with every point apart from not dyeing hair. I started going grey from 18. My own image confidence and even compliments increase when I dye it. The key is to not over do it but so it looks very natural.
As a woman, I found this list to be incredibly accurate. I've had relationships in the past that have failed because of his concern over a couple of the things you listed (most especially because of being set on a pedestal.) As it happens, this list seems to highlight my husband's best qualities and why I fell for him so hard.
As you mentioned, all women are different, but overall I think a lot of young men who would like some guidance would learn a lot from this.
So for #2 I disagree only because of the health benefits of exercise. If my husband didn't care about his strength and health, I would not have been as attracted to him. It's not about appearance but about health and safety.
Everything else was dead on! Great video!
April 1st was 26 days ago.
@Hobbesian Thinker HER wife?
You read that right her wife is getting hosed down by the pool boy.
That guy sure is bluepilled af
The real message is "Be yourself ,i.e a good person, and do not care about what others think, including women, and you will feel better in your life. If woman like you, that is good. If not, you dont have to waste time and energy to find out how to impress them; it will bring nothing. Continue to be yourself and be good person, your chances are much better.
It’s so cute how excited he looks talking about his wife
Totally agree with points 2 and 5. I was “worshipped” once, and at some point it just became annoying. Other points make sense as well. I would like to add from my experience, men are often concerned about their chest hair, whether its amount is ok for a woman or not. How silly is that! As for me, chest hair is the last thing I would think of when starting to date a really nice man.
Thanks for adding your point of view!
As long as the cash keeps flowing in.
In the world of Oil painting we would call the color harmony of your outfit a " Double Split - Complementary " color harmony. It really works!!!
The key is to be yourself, as cheesy as that sounds. Doesn't mean walk around without a care and do and say whatever you want, when you want, but if you're putting on airs to try to seem a certain way, people can tell. You could do all the things in this video, but if you do them because that's who you are and you're truly passionate about working out, or working a high-paying job, then people will appreciate that you're forging your own path in life instead of obsessing over what you think other people want from you.
Woman here: I could not care less about how big or expensive your car is.
True. When it comes to men and cars, all I care about is that you drive safely. Nothing worse than being driven on a date and wondering if you should have left a will on the desk before you left.
What matters is that you have a car that seems safe. Clean and rust free are also good.
As long as it works right, if not let’s fix it or work to get anew one.
@E KL Yes, clearly there is no reason a guy would ever want a cool car other than compensating right? Guess we should all be buying a silver base Camry LOL. Way to be a simp dude.
@E KL That is simply a projection on your part. There are several reasons a guy could have to purchase something ridiculous like an orange Lambo, the fact that you chose to see it as overcompensating without even knowing him would be a flaw on your end, not his.
you should be the next bond villain
As a woman I can agree on all of these points! Well put together sir!
Gentlemen should be proud of who they are and what they have. A true gentlemen cares for everyone which makes you look more attractive to a woman. Women love well kept men.
i literally need this fit
Not a bad presentation! Putting things in perspective. Yes! and being sure of oneself is crucial if a viable healthy relationship is to grow emotionally, (from the heart). Everything else falls in place. Be the man you were designed to be. Semper Fidelis
No cash no women. I can agree about other points but stash means beautiful women, no doubt about that.
It honestly just depends. I think the woman i'm with is stunning, I only make 70k a year and she's a therapist with a masters degree. Maybe some people would consider that a lot of money but everyone of our friends live in houses by themselves that we couldn't afford with combined income and some of them have not so attractive partners. (to us anyway) personal taste and attraction varies. It's truly impossible to know.
Uh. If you’re after only beautiful women, you’re just as shallow as the women who are after only men with money.
You need to get over that mindset if you want to get a good woman. All women are shallow? Are you going to say you don’t care about looks either? What he’s saying is if the woman sees you are striving for something and that you are going somewhere then they don’t care if you are broke. No, women don’t want to be with a broke guy. But do you want to be a broke guy, no, so why do does it matter what they think
I can tell you really care for your audience and want to get the best from us. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, sir!
I really like your style in this episode.Keep up the good work guys.
Brilliant video. I wish I had seen this when I was 16. I love your point about working out. Keep fit yes. But guys who spend every day in the gym seek quite insecure and trying to prove something.
Here are some of the things that are red flags (as in, turn around, walk out, and don't look back) when I first meet a man: 1. He lies about something. Incredibly, most men lie within the first 10 minutes, or at least the first 30 minutes. 2. He looks disappointed because you are not attractive enough, or you are too tall/short, so he won't be able to impress his friends. 3. His haircut is too short, or weird in some way. 4. He is divorced (or not), with children he has left behind. 4. His wife left him, or he says that she was just interested in his money. 5. He is well out of high school, but has no means of transportation. 6. His politics/religion/life plans do not square with mine. 7. Profanity.
As a woman, I completely agree with everything in this video. I love gentlemen! Great channel!
Raphae's Gentleman's Gazettel and Nick's Strength and Power are the 2 best sites out here.
Are you serious? You don’t think that women would prefer a ripped guy with money over a broke chubby dude (all other things being equal)?
Amen!
Absolutely, but simps gotta tell themselves things to feel better. A better approach would be "you can still achieve your goals despite your shortcomings" rather than pretending they're not something women are after.
Excellent video that covers important topics. I think woman want a man with a sense of humor, who is also able to be a good conversationalist.
I agree on all points if we're talking about good women. I must be the luckiest man out there for finding a woman that genuinely loves me for what I am. Both of us've matured (and still mature) as time goes by, for life can do nothing to separate us.
Totally awesome list. Funny that the last point is REALLY true 😅😅
I agree and confirm as a woman you said nothing else but the truth! Beautiful outfit as usual. Thank you for educating men. They definitely need someone like you, since many fathers have failed in upbringing.
Hey Rafael! I’m Bruno. You make great sense, and I tell my friends to look for the right girl at the right place, someone with some passions and interest as you. Good video!
All these things really fall under "treat people how you want to be treated category". As man however, you should apply these things 100% more to the woman you love.
All compressed into one sentence: Keep it real.
Be true to yourself!
I’m a married guy and Raphael is mostly right!
I think this is my favorite outfit I've seen you in. So distinct and well-matched, I love the colors too.
Bravo! Really nice video. Interesting topic with interesting approach.
Outstanding as always Sven, thanks for the video
Today's outfit has been a favourite, it's autumn where I live and your colour scheme today really suits it
you should make a video on all the different fabrics we can choose from if we were to go for a bespoke suits and maybe another videos of all the styles for the coat and jackets too! love your videos!
Shout out for featuring a Montblanc TimeWalker in your photo!
Interesting video. Needed to be stated. Thank you.
This is very informative
Not a problem for those who watch Gentleman's Gazette
I really like the colors and style of the outfit. A slightly lighter pants color would have worked better thoughz
Rafael, are you personally aware of any channel that edifies women in the same way Gentlemen's Gazette does ? Can you please site them for us ladies? I am a great fan of GG and watch with interest because I too learn much from you about the genteel lifestyle, manners, good taste and the modern interpretation of the rules of etiquette and comportment. Thank you for your attention and I await your response with interest.
An excellent guide and a thoroughly nice chap
Men, please be comfortable around us women, so that we will be comfortable around you👍🙏
Hey Sven,
I just found out i have the extract same flat cap you have on the background.
Will it suit with a little bit lighter grey overcoat with the same pattern?
Another good one, Raphael! Thank you!
Thank you very much, Sven, for your videos. I am so glad I found your channel. There should be more man like you - and the views give me hope, that there is interest in such values.
That's so sweet Sven!
Thanks!
So insightful. Thank you.
6:59 Use the Boresley Method " Just two easy steps, Shave your head, and Grow a Goatee" From Bald to Badass lol...
"Never B#, Never Bb, always B natural !" ;)
I agree to all of this. Well done!
I should not cry in public? Haha try to stop me.
#3...shit you actually touch that subject.
Like from a woman! :)
:) Merci
Great man. Thanks for the advice.
would you kindly make a video about how we can apply the principles of fashion regardless of what specific type of clothing we're wearing? what parts of the decision making process are the same no mater what article of clothing we're picking out?
Insightful as always
Raphael, Bravo very good advise. You and Antonio must be on the same wavelength since he also put out some good advise just now also.
I love the stroller you wear in the wedding photo
Speaking as a women yes I care and most women do.
In my experience, they care about all those things
Of course they do, but to what EXTENT? Many men think those things are a great deal more important than they are - that's not to say they'r not important at all, and it will vary with the individual, but this video is a reminder that they may not be as crucial and you think.
well said!
Do you have a video on how to hand clean a shirt
no
Please do a video on casual streetware for mature gentlemen.
It would also be great to know what a man should wear on a canal cruise or plane.
Sir, you generalize. Culture has a huge impact. Also, I don't suggest the gentleman cry during a movie. I was always told by my mother that a gentleman must know how to manage (not hide) his emotions. Reserving tears for life-altering events and milestones crossed by your children should be nearing the limits of a gentleman's tears. Also, the seven points you've made here can easily apply to the gentleman's interaction with society as a whole. LOVE your channel.
iimaniDAVID he said in the intro that it is not universal.
good points
Women do care about net worth, make no mistake.
it's not grey hair it's platinum highlights 😎
This is really something to think about
can I ask who made your jacket? I love the shape of the lapels, it is very vintage looking.
Came for the content, stayed for the outfit
Women protect themselves by never revealing truth about what they really want. Imagine I a woman ask you "what do you value in us". We likely are not going to tell her the truth that we value you the most when you are 18-25, slim and not many miles in meter. We tell her we value things like similarity, good soul and other phrases that women want to hear.
Please don't project your own superficiality onto all men. I have been with women of all ages and all body shapes ad have loved them to pieces and had many great experiences with all of them. If you still want a 25yo when you are 30+, chances are you are just immature, as no 25yo will hold a conversation as well or know as much as a 35 or 45yo, and yes, that's pretty important. As is communication ability and self-awareness. If all you care about is looks, you're likely after casual sex, not a relationship.
Maybe you guys hang out with the wrong women ;)
Darting makes a fair comment. My last gf had a high-paying job while I was unemployed, but she still had some expectations about when I would do something about that. I talked her into trying to be with someone that wasn't her usual "type" (I'm shorter), but she had definite physical preferences and if I had not been fairly fit, I would not have got a look in, regardless of other characteristics. I couldn't hold that against her, because she took the time to go to the gym and take care of herself as well. As for the length thing... I don't mean to lower the tone of the channel, but there are such things as extensions, sleeves, and toys, and you also have your own hands, if such... deep... sensations are required by your particular lover. Experience and knowledge will always reign in that department, and physical fitness pays off there, too.
Kutkis I defend Kutkis. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
I like how many men value young women even when they get old (and don't mantain the youth themselves) and think that they still deserve it at like 60
Amen to all that!!!
So true
love the video but, point2 is utter nonsense, I switch depending on what my goal is from 16-17 stone back down to 13, most prefer me at 13 stone, but whether 13 or 17 still in shape.
I am digging that outfit.
Extremely important video
I had to compare my life experience with the advices given in this video, now I feel a lot more confused than ever... Well, that's it, enough Internet for today.
Loved this video, makes much sense the way you explain it, is sad to read that some men (sorry for the expression) still penis-measure their value and self confidence
1:15 So sweet :D
The consistent theme here is that men who have something to offer women other than the things listed in the video recognise that the things listed in the video are not ultimately all that important to women. Meanwhile, men who do not have much else to offer women, and also can't offer these things, blame this on women only caring about these things to make themselves feel better about their failure.
I don't know if this is because the men without much to offer are trying to blame it on things they think they can't control (looks etc.), or if those of us with more to offer have accounted for the better women who don't care about these things, but in either case it says more about the men complaining about women than it actually says about women. Be better, and these things won't matter all that much.
Love you man
It depends on the woman.
Money yes. No woman wants a lazy man. And what my aunt used to say it's better to cry in a Mercedes. Than have to take a bus.
Looking good Raphael.