NICE HOW DO WE WIN A GIFT CARD? i SUB. & I SHARE BECAUSE I HAVE A VOICE TODAY..AND I HAVE A LOT OF AWARENESS... THAT LETTING GO... IS ALL ABOUT SAVING MY LIFE... MY RECOVERY COMES FIRST..NOT THE ALCOHOLICS OR ADDICTS IN MY LIFE... EVEN THOUGH I LOVE THEM.. I LOVE MYSELF MORE TODAY.. WHAT A CHANGE..XOXO 5/15/2021
Hi Kahlo - I'm sorry to hear you have had a bad experience. Unfortunately, it does happen. I've experienced it myself. I hope you are doing better now and wishing you a healthy, happy New Year.
Yes, and learned helplessness. 'we have the medical answers, you don't have to do anything, your ill'. Carolyn Springs podcast on her journey out of the psychiatric system, very imformative.
Thank you never dared to say stop or no. Also do not know how to set boundaries. But I have started with it. A bit like learning to walk. Redo and do right for me.
Hi Emilia - Glad you are enjoying the videos. I hope you have found this helpful. The great news about boundaries is that it's a skill you can learn. It just takes practice. Sorry for the late responses to your comments. I've had Covid for about 2 weeks now and just starting to feel better.
Great Topic! I have always had trouble saying No and I really loved what you said (When you say no to other people, you are saying yes to your self) and (You can say No nicely) Thank you Thank you KJ, I can't wait until your next video....
Glad this month is about boundaries...I really need to learn about this...I've gotten better with it.I used to totally neglect myself for other peoples needs now I only neglect myself maybe 35% of the time so I still need to work on that. Wish your videos were longer...They help me..I want to hear more of what you have to say.
@@DRKJFOSTER Of coarse I got a chance to practice this right after watching the video and yes I need more practice. It is interesting how that works. I will try to watch more of your videos.
Thank you so much for all your videos...they have been instrumental to my awareness and healing from codependent behavior...I am very grateful to have met you!! I also have a question... what would be a good example or 2 of being supportive of ones substance abuse recovery vs codependent?
Thanks, Alex! It has been great getting to know you too. Thank you for the question. One example would be allowing your loved one to be responsible for their recovery. The less, if any, questioning about their program (such as, "did you talk to your sponsor today" etc) the better. This was especially hard for me with my son and his recovery process, but it does make a difference AND #2 allow your loved one to build relationships on their own. Don't go to meetings with your loved, except perhaps on special occasions. Allow your loved one to have their own identity in their recovery and establish your own identity in your recovery. If you have limited time together, then perhaps choosing one open meeting on a Fri or Sat night or whatever works best for your schedule and attend only that one open meeting together once a week and make it into a "date night" experience. I hope you found that helpful? Do you think it would be beneficial to create a video on that topic? Thanks again, Alex 💜
FOSTERING RESILIENCE w/ DR. KJ FOSTER Thank you so much, yes it was very helpful! A video on that would be great ... your recovery wisdom for all parties involved is amazing!
@@DRKJFOSTER no need to aplogize or even leave a comment to get back.Its enough that you shared this video here.not sure was it in this video now or another but you said about saying no and how others may not like it.Thats huge cause it can be baffling when you do say no and it can hit hard as have experienced , was on my part a hugh letting go but came to realize it's not personal it's never personal, its just we all get used to things as they are and when things change things get rocky for a while, for everyone involved.But feel my relationships are healthier with boundries in place but can also at times maybe isolating.Its finding the balance between what is and is not my responsibility.What is loving and joyful and what isn't. A balancing act as am sure your aware of. Blessings Thanks for sharing your videos
DITTO ON THE THANK YOU..XOXO DJ.DEB.USA IS IN DA HOUSE.. SAYING SEE TOPICS ON CODEPENDENCY AND ALL BOOKS BY MEALODY BEATTIE AND OTHER PEOPLE WHO LIVED THRU THE CHAOS AND ADDICTIONS.... 5/15/2021
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NICE HOW DO WE WIN A GIFT CARD? i SUB. & I SHARE BECAUSE I HAVE A VOICE TODAY..AND I HAVE A LOT OF AWARENESS... THAT LETTING GO... IS ALL ABOUT SAVING MY LIFE... MY RECOVERY COMES FIRST..NOT THE ALCOHOLICS OR ADDICTS IN MY LIFE... EVEN THOUGH I LOVE THEM.. I LOVE MYSELF MORE TODAY.. WHAT A CHANGE..XOXO 5/15/2021
The mental health system fosters codependence. They nearly killed me/have endangered me. I'm protecting myself now.
Hi Kahlo - I'm sorry to hear you have had a bad experience. Unfortunately, it does happen. I've experienced it myself. I hope you are doing better now and wishing you a healthy, happy New Year.
Yes, and learned helplessness. 'we have the medical answers, you don't have to do anything, your ill'. Carolyn Springs podcast on her journey out of the psychiatric system, very imformative.
Healthy Bountries I love this. You told me this many years ago. No is a complete sentence 😊
Yes, it is 💜
Thank you never dared to say stop or no. Also do not know how to set boundaries. But I have started with it. A bit like learning to walk. Redo and do right for me.
Hi Emilia - Glad you are enjoying the videos. I hope you have found this helpful. The great news about boundaries is that it's a skill you can learn. It just takes practice. Sorry for the late responses to your comments. I've had Covid for about 2 weeks now and just starting to feel better.
Great Topic! I have always had trouble saying No and I really loved what you said (When you say no to other people, you are saying yes to your self) and (You can say No nicely) Thank you Thank you KJ, I can't wait until your next video....
Thank you, Roxanne 💜
YES, I DIDNT KNOW I COULD SAY NO???
Glad this month is about boundaries...I really need to learn about this...I've gotten better with it.I used to totally neglect myself for other peoples needs now I only neglect myself maybe 35% of the time so I still need to work on that.
Wish your videos were longer...They help me..I want to hear more of what you have to say.
Thank you, Greta 💜
DITTO BOUNDARIES
Thank you so very much for your wisdom on being co dependent. My son is an alcoholic and videos are helping me so much. Again thank you 😊
Hi Cathy - Sorry for the late reply. I'm so glad to know you are finding the videos to be helpful.
Recently found you. Great content. Itz right up my ally unfortunately.
Definitely getting the book!! Ty
Awesome! Thank you!
I agree with everything you said and I could watch this video every day as a daily reminder.
I'm so glad you found it helpful, Darin 😊
@@DRKJFOSTER Of coarse I got a chance to practice this right after watching the video and yes I need more practice. It is interesting how that works. I will try to watch more of your videos.
Thanks very clear informative with your own story, vulnerability
Glad it was helpful!
Jeannette dudley thank you for the lesson, it's really great to me know.
Hi Jeanette! Glad it was helpful!
Watching your playlist 💜
Skip to 8:00
Another one of the old ones I need to edit and repost 👍😉
Yes, the intro could be cut
@@DRKJFOSTERYes, It would be better😊
This was so helpful!
Hi Cary - I'm so glad to know you found it helpful!
Thank you. What a help!
I'm so glad you found it helpful!
Thank you so much for all your videos...they have been instrumental to my awareness and healing from codependent behavior...I am very grateful to have met you!!
I also have a question... what would be a good example or 2 of being supportive of ones substance abuse recovery vs codependent?
Thanks, Alex! It has been great getting to know you too. Thank you for the question. One example would be allowing your loved one to be responsible for their recovery. The less, if any, questioning about their program (such as, "did you talk to your sponsor today" etc) the better. This was especially hard for me with my son and his recovery process, but it does make a difference AND #2 allow your loved one to build relationships on their own. Don't go to meetings with your loved, except perhaps on special occasions. Allow your loved one to have their own identity in their recovery and establish your own identity in your recovery. If you have limited time together, then perhaps choosing one open meeting on a Fri or Sat night or whatever works best for your schedule and attend only that one open meeting together once a week and make it into a "date night" experience. I hope you found that helpful? Do you think it would be beneficial to create a video on that topic? Thanks again, Alex 💜
FOSTERING RESILIENCE w/ DR. KJ FOSTER Thank you so much, yes it was very helpful! A video on that would be great ... your recovery wisdom for all parties involved is amazing!
Thank you
Thanks for watching! Sorry for the late reply. Just catching up on comments.
@@DRKJFOSTER no need to aplogize or even leave a comment to get back.Its enough that you shared this video here.not sure was it in this video now or another but you said about saying no and how others may not like it.Thats huge cause it can be baffling when you do say no and it can hit hard as have experienced , was on my part a hugh letting go but came to realize it's not personal it's never personal, its just we all get used to things as they are and when things change things get rocky for a while, for everyone involved.But feel my relationships are healthier with boundries in place but can also at times maybe isolating.Its finding the balance between what is and is not my responsibility.What is loving and joyful and what isn't.
A balancing act as am sure your aware of.
Blessings
Thanks for sharing your videos
DITTO ON THE THANK YOU..XOXO DJ.DEB.USA IS IN DA HOUSE.. SAYING SEE TOPICS ON CODEPENDENCY AND ALL BOOKS BY MEALODY BEATTIE AND OTHER PEOPLE WHO LIVED THRU THE CHAOS AND ADDICTIONS.... 5/15/2021
I am learning that my ultimate “no” was to leave my verbally abusive & alcohol addicted spouse.
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Very nice all videos
Thank you 💜
Very true
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VERY important isue
Yes, so critical for growth in recovery! Thank you for your connent 💜
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To provide free resources to help people 💟