BS OP was the AH. Who forces their wife to have this hateful banshee at the most desperate time in her life. Dying doesn’t excuse the abject failure of OP to treat his family with respect. OP is a pig. The only one who isn’t an AH is the wife. I fairly hate the dying idiot for what he put his wife through by staying in contact with the evil mom.
This woman attacked her DYING SON TWICE each time leaving him in the hospital then bribed the lawyer to help her take everything for herself ..... Man now that is pure evil
I know right? Another perfect example of a woman who should've NEVER had children or even got married for that matter. No wonder OP's dad left that witch. It's a shame that he didn't or rather couldn't take the kids with him. I hope this heartless monster spends the rest of her life alone and miserable. And believe me, I don't like to wish misfortune on anyone.
Chinese commentor here. I can easily testify how restrictive our parents are who come from Asia. I really wanted to either go military or government job. My parents tried to control my career, and become a lawyer or doctor. Glad to see OP give his mother a taste of their medication. Wishing you all the best OP and your loved ones.
Good for you. My sister (we're Irish american) married Chinese for her second. He was and is a wonderful man and HIS parents (Hong Kong famiky) were very open and accepting. My sis had her problems and they later divorced, while she alienated the rest of the family but what my younger bro told some guests at his daughter's wedding was: "when sis and bro in law got divorced, we got rid of her and kept him." He and his folks were always good people.
That “mother” is on the upper list of insane mothers. He son was dying and instead of trying to spend the remaining time she had with him she schemed on how to get his money after he died. It’s sad that OP had to spend most of his remaining moments like that. RIP OP I hope your final moments was being surrounded by those who truly love you.
I hate the "She's still your mother" line. Yeah, she attacked her own son when he was terminally ill, knowing it could possibly kill him. But he should cut her some slack because she's his mom? Forgiveness can only go so far
Oh, that goodbye hit me in the feels hard. He should have had his mom arrested when she attacked him the first time, let alone the second time. Good for sis saving the day! So much for the siblings taking care of mom. I don't see that happening. I hope that scumbag lawyer has to live on minimum wage jobs the rest of his life. Thinking about something like that happening to my brother or sister makes my blood boil!
Same here! If one of my loved ones was getting ready to pass away and they had to deal with even HALF of this crap, I would've gone scorched earth on the person responsible. And believe me, I usually try to take the high road whenever I can.
The thought of the mother pleading and begging his wife and siblings for money for the rest of her miserable life somehow seems slightly satisfying. Rest in peace OP.
@@stephaniewilson3955 Me neither. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if they all went no contact after OP's passing. And she was spending the rest of her life alone, living with the consequences of her terrible actions.
Story 1, NTA!! That's NOT a mother that's a selfish entitled egg donor. All she cared about was money , herself and what she wanted. She's beyond vile to do all that to op's wife. I wouldn't be surprised if she got mad at her daughter for helping Op's wife not lose her scholarship. She deserves NOTHING from op same with the rest of her kids. She probably thought her threat would work and is upset that op won't marry who she wants. To interfere like that says that she's willing to do ANYTHING to get op to leave his wife. Not surprised that she expected to get money from op and wife to get nothing. That's a narcissist for you and she's especially beyond vile for actually assaulting op because she wasn't getting anything. When someone leaves a horrible person like THAT it's definitely for the best. Op should have pressed charges after the second assault. The narcissist egg donor is beyond disgusting and pathetic.
Rest in peace op and not the ahole, the mother should be in prison for what she did. So sad of op's passing but at least he fixed everything before his evil mother could do anything. Rest in peace, op 🌹
You are right Mr. Reiddito. This was a terribly sad story knowing OP is no longer with us and his heartless mother only thought of money when her son was dying. I 10000% back OP on his decisions and hope his remaining time here on Earth was the absolute best with his wife, siblings, and friends. Also my condolences to those that lost OP, at least the mom didn't succeed in changing his will and robbing OP's wife and siblings. I can only hope the siblings keep the mom at arm's length as her 'love' is contingent on the amount of money they give her. In the end, the mom deserves to be left all alone as she valued money over OP's life. A truly loving family member would trade their inheritance in a heartbeat if it meant their loved one would live on, but clearly, the mom didn't love OP as a mother should. I wish that was not the case because OP should have had all the love and support in his dying days. I also hope the mom realizes her mistake in putting such a value on money, but that will be too late for OP. Still, even without his mother's support, I hope OP found peace in the end surrounded by loved ones. Rest in peace OP.
Yes, my first thought was "Why didn't he press charges?" But then, I suspect being sick & dying means you can decide you don't want to spend your energy on that. Plus Asian background, it's socially/ emotionally harder to go against your parents, too. If I were OP I would be nasty enough not to leave her nothing, but leave her a small amount ($10K out of $15+ million) or something that would have sentimental but not dollar value.....maybe all my school reports up to the end of high school, or some small gift she gave me that I'd kept. A blown up picture of me as a kid, perhaps. Just to pour salt into the wound of not getting what she wants. Also then she can't complain she didn't get anything from her son. In my head I'm petty like that even if I don't usually act on those impulses.
This is why is extremely important to have a complete full, complete and in depth discussion with a lawyer about a will. About whats legal and not legal in your state. Different states have different laws, better safe than sorry. So many people immediately jump to that $1 thing, but it may take a little more that that. And for pity's sake, make sure you keep it updated. In NY state at the time of my dad's death my 1/2 sister tried to play dirty and contest dad's will. But the lawyer that my parent's had was young but he was highly intelligent and extremely knowledgeable of the law. Dad had planned to leave his daughter that $1 thing in his will because of her past actions. The lawyer advised him to leave her $500. When dad asked about leaving her just the $1, lawyer said, to leave her $500 would be much better if she tried to pull anything crappy. They had went to the lawyer to do up wills in 92. They both died in 94. The year that dad was killed mom had died only seven months before him, 2 months after they got legally married. There were four of us kids, my two older half-brothers were moms from a previous marriage and my half-sister was dad's from a previous marriage. My 1/2 sister thought she had it made! When Mom and Dad first had their Wills done they had owned three houses. Later after mom found out she was terminal she and Dad started getting everything in order. They sold my grandfather's old house to my oldest 1/2 brother, another house they sold outright to strangers so they only had 1 house left. They had updated their wills each time 1 of the houses sold. My 1/2 sister was rubbing her hands together at the thought of what she would be getting. She did get money from the state of FL for the vehicle accident that killed dad but also found out she was only getting $500 from the estate. Boy was she pissed. She got her lawyer to contest the will. My nephew was the executor of dads will, he called to let me know what she was doing. I called mom and dad's lawyer myself, he had been my lawyer for previous accident I had back in 75, they both liked him and they decided to use him as a lawyer too. That's probably why he was so candid with me. He told me she really didn't have a leg to stand on because of the way the will had been written up. But that she could drag it out for maybe year and make it a PITA until it was over. He said that she was contesting the will as she was the only legal offspring of dad's. I asked what would happen if there was another legal child, he said it would definitely throw a monkey wrench into her plans. So I told the lawyer to send her lawyer a letter telling her to back off and drop her plans or I would take her to court and not only take the money from Florida that she got but the rest of it too. He asked, "Are you telling me that you were a legal child of your father"? I told him yes and that I was also the 'only' child of both mom and dad. He got all excited and asked if I would be willing to have a DNA test done? Told him I sure was. He got to laughing like a fiend and stated, boy this is a game changer! He said he would send the letter and let me know as soon as he heard anything back. About a week and a half after that my nephew called and told me that he had just got off the phone with the lawyer and had been told that because of me my 1/2 sister had dropped everything, that my nephew and 1/2 brothers owed me a big thank you. He then asked, "What did you do"? When I explained he was shocked and asked me if I was sure. I told him yes that there had only been three people who knew who my real father was, mom, dad and me. He got laughing. We talked for a few more minutes and then he said he was going to call my two brothers. I didn't even get off the phone for 3 minutes and the lawyer called letting me know that it was done and there would be no wasted time to settle the estate.
Omg, i am tearing up on this story. OP is amazing to have dealth with so much feom his mother. I hope he has found some peace and his wife is supported by his brother and sisters. Bless him
I hope he knew that his siblings would look after his wife and future child. They've stood in their corner this long, I'm sure they wouldn't abandon her after. God rest op. As a side note, his mother getting sentenced actually guarantees she can't contest the will later on down the line. Inheritance fraud is no joke (at least in most us states). What a stupid B
People saying to leave the mother $1 so she can't contest the will are wrong. The mother and lawyer were both charged with trying to tamper with the will so no court would give the mother any of OP'S wealth, it's already in court documents why he wasn't leaving the mother anything.
My mom didn't care for my wife either, but only because she thought we didn't really fit together, which was partly true. She still loved her regardless and never pushed the issue at all. This mom kinda makes me think of Rich Crazy Asians.
I hope that OP found peace in his final weeks of life. It's such a horrible conclusion to their life. The mother lost any chance of a final farewell to her son and let greed overtake her. She found herself behind bars for her behavior and the lawyer lost his license. He should have lost a lot more but with that now on his record he will never be able to practice law again. He'll have to get a regular 9 to 5 job. He'll probably blame OP or he'll blame the mother but in the end it was his own choice and fault that made him lose his license. My condolences ultimately go to OP and his family because of the loss they have lost in this whole ordeal. It does sound like OP was a kind soul and caring. It was only due to his mother's behavior that she was cut out of the will and with that case in her file, if she ever tried to contest the will she'd likely lose without so much as a passing glance from the judge due to her prior behaviors.
What you do with YOUR money is up to you. You don't have to give an explanation.. Your mom knows EXACTLY why she's not in the Will... Actions have consequences and this is hers.. The mother is pitiful and pathetic.. We don't run our kids lives as adults!
Parents who think they can run their kids lives to get a meal ticket to a free life are vile and disgusting. They aren't meant to be parents. Also, given she's a narcissist I don't think she actually realizes why she's not in the will. Because narcissists think their in the right and never wrong.
@@onepieceisking5493 Right!? I have 3 grown kids. I could care less who they date, who are their friends and I don't get involved unless they are getting hurt or I see signs they could.. We have to trust that how we raised them was good enough to teach them the ropes and then let go! This woman here.. Wow.. How do you beat your dying son my goodness..
This is such a sad story. My heart goes out to OP and wife. OP was a very patient, respectful person all the way. His decision is the right one and he even try his best dealing with the mentally deranged mother even though his physical condition was very painful and difficult.. Rest In Peace OP. And thank you for your story.
My heart goes out to OP and his beloved wife too. No one deserves to have to deal with drama on their way out. I can only hope OP is resting in peace and his beloved wife or rather widow as well as his siblings are doing well and are healing. 💕
I was thinking the same, but can't help but wonder what trick the lawyer could play that would overturn the previous will. OP's signature wouldn't have been on it.
Different rules in different countries/states. And different levels of honesty in legal circles & courts. In a lot of jurisdictions the spouse is first on the inheritance list if you don't have a will, so it seemed strange to me that OP thought his wife would be disinherited if the will went through & wife disputed it in court. I suspect the will switcheroo ploy was based on OP being too sick to read what the lawyer had drafted as he signed the will & wife would have had to argue mental incompetency to have it overturned. That's why OP's ploy of pretending it was his last days worked to catch the fraudsters.
Poor OP, I just can’t imagine knowing his own mother valued money over her dying son. Truly sad! His mother deserved everything she got. I pray OP had a peaceful passing surrounded by his wife, child and those who truly loved him.
OP was in the right 💯 This story was the second saddest Reddit story I’ve heard and it’s a CLOSE second. Seeing how ruthless the mother was through this entire ordeal and racist she was. There is no remorse for how the wicked get their comeuppance. Seeing how far she was willing to go to screw over everyone for some cold, hard, unfeeling cash. My heart bleeds for OP truly. Words cannot describe this kind of sadness. And I hope those he cared for are taken care of.
I don’t understand why she would demand the money if the wife is still alive, she still has a long life to live. RIP, sad as it is he is taking the time to leave gracefully.
He was completely in the right. I am a Mom & can not imagine treating one of my adult children the terrible way she treated her dying son, and the wife who had been by his side thru thick & thin. Bless him, his wife, and those who loved him & respected his life choices.
I just saw this video and my heart is breaking even in the end OP loved his wife so much he made sure to keep his mother from hurting her more. If OPs wife ever reads these i hope she knows are hearts and prayers are with her.
That's actually a bad idea because if you do that, you are saying they deserve to be in the will, even for 1 dollar. Then she would be able to contest it from a more valid place. You can look it up on YT too, many estate attorneys say do not leave anything to someone you want left out of the will. If anything, you can put them in it and leave them nothing and explain WHY you are leaving them nothing. That way, it's pretty much impossible to contest.
Sad story, but OP did the right thing despite all the cruelty his mother showed over & over again. I Pray you rest in peace. Praying for your wife, the love of your life, and your siblings to find comfort once you're gone. If possible, can your wife give an UPDATE on her status in the future cause I'm sure this is not the Last of your mother's cruelty... May GOD Bless ALL of you 🙏🏽
Live urr life the way u want. Take care of ur wife and ur siblings. Leave ur money to whom ever u like because its urs to do with as u please. Ur mother has been an asshat and deserves nothing. Live the life u have left to the fullest and have a safe journey home. ❤
RIH OP! A crying shame about the mother. I don't think I be in contact with the mother after the first beating nor would I would have told her about the will.
OP was so blessed to have his wife by his side. My sympathies to her for her loss. Op should have pressed charges against him mom the first time she assaulted him. He didn't need that kind of stress and drama in his final days. I am so glad that his sister found out about the planned theft before they could get away with it.
Have found getting that news focuses you really quickly on what's important and additionally it does seem to be fairly common to accept the news and not freak out. 2020 lost my job after almost 28 years with the same company as a truck driver due to the beer bug ( while an essential job with an industry not so essential) and after 7 months of unemployment got a new job just before my 59th birthday but the job was really kicking my butt but simply chalked it up to not being the hard charging young stud I was almost 30 years earlier and having sat on my butt for the better part of the previous year. One month in I wake in the early morning hours and realized whatever it was it wasn't the job as I shouldn't be having issues lying in bed the same I was getting hustling on the job and something was wrong. My beloved wife had died suddenly 7 years earlier and being 9 years older than her I had pondered if such a situation arose would I call for help or pick a comfortable spot on the couch and wait to see my wife again. As I sat there with the phone in hand deciding it wasn't a vision or her voice but the thought of "you show up here before you're supposed to and I'm going to smack you". With that I dialed EMS as that was exactly the kind of thing my beloved would chide me with if she thought her hubby was about to do something self extinguishingly stupid. Condensing things a bit it was discovered some time anywhere from 7 months to just over a year after my wife's death I suffered a fairly major silent heart attack and had heart failure from running on the damaged ticker the last 6 years. I was given 50 50 odds of making it another 5 years. We had no kids so I've distributed a few items to friends and family and let it be known to next of kin to bring in someone familiar with pop culture to handle mine and my late wife's accumulated nerddoms and since I know I'm going to catch it for putting my tomboy wife in the interview dress when I see her again I've let it be known put me in my Starfleet finest with a phaser in my hand ( lived my life geek I'm going out geek). In the time I've got left I've made my peace with things and handled the news pretty good and actually had one of the nurses say for someone that just got that news you're dealing with it pretty good and I just told her always been the class clown type, not much I can do about it anyway so I'll meet death like an old friend with a smile on my face and a fart joke on my lips. If I get the 5 years or more that's great as I get more time with my family and friends, maybe knock out a few budget bucket list items but if the good Lord decides He can't be without my presence on high a second longer well I've got a good idea where I'm going and quite a few people, one in particular I'm not going to mind seeing again. Strangest thing I've noticed these last couple of years is that on those times I've cried over my situation it's not been woe is me I'm going to die but more over the having to leave ( at least temporarily) those I love behind, of not being there to see nieces and nephews at certain milestones, hanging with friends that have been part of my life all these years and such.
I am so sorry for your loss. And I belive that your wife was with you when you sat on the couch. True love conquers anything, and she will meet you when your time is coming. I dont want to sound like some new age nut, but I think that your heart was broken both in spirit and physically the day she passed. I'm happily married since 33 years and I deeply love my husband, I can't imagine living without him. My greatest fear now when we are a little bit older is that he will die before me. Take care of yourself, Hugs from Sweden 🇸🇪
@NickanM thank you. Nothing new age about it as broken heart syndrome is a confirmed phenomenon with the sudden stress and grief and I'm absolutely certain my going from about half a pack of Newports a day to a close to 2-2.5 pack a day for about a month after didn't help things. I was close to those couples you hear of passing in short order of each other but apparently just too damn stubborn to die.
@Gary Sprandel My little sister jumped in front of a train 2 years ago, she was our baby sister, I am 52 but she was only 37. What I have learned is that you never "get over" the loss of a loved one. You learn to live with the scars. My health dived after that, I got asthma (!) Not from anxiety, it is a physical one. I think that it is a reaction from my sisters death. I stopped smoking 15 years ago, but I smoked like a chimney the first year after my sisters death, but I dont connect the asthma with it. The timeline doesn't fit. Like 2 packs a day. Stress smoking is a thing. I have stopped again, but it wasn't easy psychologically.
I'm reading this one in the hospital with my girlfriend who had a brain injury. Last week we were happy-go-lucky, now I'm hoping we can make it through this. Appreciate the one you're with. Everything can change in an instant.
After your mother beat you OP you should have pressed charges. Also unless you sign that will and have it notarized it would never be legal or hold up in court. But that's why you continue with the against your mother that way she can not claim anyting.
I don't understand why no one called the police and filed charges against mother for bashing her dying and ill son in the head with a heavy wooden object. I know Asian cultures have a different attitude of a supposed respect to one's elders, but surely attempted murder would be an exception? Then again, shortly later, she further attacks you in a public restaurant, and beats you to unconsciousness. Then again you drop the charges? Then further she tries defrauding the will with your attorney, and screwing with your wife's inheritance. Then finally you press charges! (Perhaps if mother had been charged for previous violence's the last defrauding attempt would not have happened? I guess as a westerner, I will never understand! Coming from a European heritage, I too have a respect for elders, but there is a limit and accountability! Respect should be earned and not blindly given!) I hope this woman's afterlife one day winds up in a truly hot and horrible place, and the devil pays her back for all her treatments of her son! My condolences to the family for their loss!
Rest easy, my guy. This was the work of man who was a class act all the way, and the world is a poorer place with his absence. I can only hope I go out with half the grace, dignity, and composure as OP. May he be at peace in the place where the light knows no shadow. 🌹✌🏽
Sorry OP went thru so much. He should not have dropped the charges the first time. Wife needs to have restraining order fir life against that dangerous MIL
Sounds like a sequel to 'crazy rich Asians' that they got Stephen King to help write. Omg 😲 😱 RIP op and I'm sorry for your loss OPs family and sorry for your pain having to call his mother family.
This has had to be one of the saddest stories you have ever brought to your audience. I sincerely hope that man did pass in peace and is now residing in a heavenly place that he truly deserves. His Mother was a horrible grasping woman who did not deserve his attention at anytime because of her greedy ways. May you never have another sad story like this again. Thank you for bringing this to us, I truly never believed there were horrible, horrible people on this Earth.
I have Multiple sclerosis it runs in my family on both sides. my cousin who is younger than me has the worst of the MS he is in the nursing home unable to speak or feed himself it wont be long. Me I was diagnosed with relapsing and remitting multiple sclerosis, its not as bad as my what my cousin has. But 4 months ago I started getting worse now have been changed to progressive relapsing and remitting multiple sclerosis. When I did my will my parents felt entitled to everything but I left everything to my husband and sons . parents aren't happy but my husband and children come 1st. I feel for OP and his wife he should have charged her the 1st time but at least she was caught before she could screw his wife over. I feel sorry for the couple because instead of getting to spend time quality time together they had to put up with the moms bs. OP rip and love and many hugs to you and your wife and siblings.
As a mother nothing makes me more irritated than hearing a mother is owed something "because, after all she is your mother". At most she's owed for giving birth to you is a mother's day card. Everything else is what she earned by the quality of care and the sincere love she gave to you.
Was she ever your mother? Has she earned the respect and love a mother deserves? The rest of the family you only hear from occasionally; they do not get an opinion.
Rest in peace OP. Family is not defined by blood, but by love and loyalty. May your wife and loved ones find peace in your absence... man, this one got to me
Mom and lawyer should rot in the darkest dungeon that can be found! . Enjoy every minute you are given with your family OP!!! Condolences to OP's wife, sister and brothers. Lots of love and best wishes from a sister in grief.
Rest In Peace, OP. You did your best with your mother, now you can leave this world with a clear conscience.
You are totally right
OP was not the AH..He made an excellent decision. His mother was so heartless..My heart goes out to both OP & his wife!
Well, more or less ...he should never have dropped the charges the first time!
And housearrest? what a crappy decision!
She should be in jail!
BS OP was the AH.
Who forces their wife to have this hateful banshee at the most desperate time in her life.
Dying doesn’t excuse the abject failure of OP to treat his family with respect.
OP is a pig. The only one who isn’t an AH is the wife.
I fairly hate the dying idiot for what he put his wife through by staying in contact with the evil mom.
@@robertx8020 I agree. She attacked her OWN SON! Shame on her!
Her own DYING son. Was she trying to make him die even faster?!?!?
This woman attacked her DYING SON TWICE each time leaving him in the hospital then bribed the lawyer to help her take everything for herself ..... Man now that is pure evil
I know right? Another perfect example of a woman who should've NEVER had children or even got married for that matter. No wonder OP's dad left that witch. It's a shame that he didn't or rather couldn't take the kids with him. I hope this heartless monster spends the rest of her life alone and miserable. And believe me, I don't like to wish misfortune on anyone.
"You can't be serious"
"No I'm dead serious"
Sorry I feel bad for Op but I couldn't help but chuckle at that one
Fly away home sweet dreams forever young man
Chinese commentor here. I can easily testify how restrictive our parents are who come from Asia. I really wanted to either go military or government job. My parents tried to control my career, and become a lawyer or doctor.
Glad to see OP give his mother a taste of their medication. Wishing you all the best OP and your loved ones.
Good for you. My sister (we're Irish american) married Chinese for her second. He was and is a wonderful man and HIS parents (Hong Kong famiky) were very open and accepting.
My sis had her problems and they later divorced, while she alienated the rest of the family but what my younger bro told some guests at his daughter's wedding was: "when sis and bro in law got divorced, we got rid of her and kept him." He and his folks were always good people.
That “mother” is on the upper list of insane mothers. He son was dying and instead of trying to spend the remaining time she had with him she schemed on how to get his money after he died. It’s sad that OP had to spend most of his remaining moments like that. RIP OP I hope your final moments was being surrounded by those who truly love you.
I’m gonna miss this guy and I don’t even know him😢 Hope he lived the rest of his days enjoying LIFE.. RIH
I hate the "She's still your mother" line. Yeah, she attacked her own son when he was terminally ill, knowing it could possibly kill him. But he should cut her some slack because she's his mom? Forgiveness can only go so far
I agree. The mother should have been in his position. Then, karma would be great
She was never his mother. She was his egg-donor and insane. She would have been locked up in a secure facility long before in a civilised country.
“Be the bigger person “ BULLSHITE
Given this story because of OP's mother, it's tempting to say that life is too short to waste it on toxic family.
Oh, that goodbye hit me in the feels hard. He should have had his mom arrested when she attacked him the first time, let alone the second time. Good for sis saving the day! So much for the siblings taking care of mom. I don't see that happening. I hope that scumbag lawyer has to live on minimum wage jobs the rest of his life. Thinking about something like that happening to my brother or sister makes my blood boil!
Same here. OP's mother and her sleazy lawyer get me all fired up, too.😒
Same here! If one of my loved ones was getting ready to pass away and they had to deal with even HALF of this crap, I would've gone scorched earth on the person responsible. And believe me, I usually try to take the high road whenever I can.
OP played this brilliantly. I’m so sorry for his wife. 😢
So, am I. I'm sorry for his siblings, too 💔😔
Me too. I can only hope OP's wife and his siblings are ok and doing well now.
The thought of the mother pleading and begging his wife and siblings for money for the rest of her miserable life somehow seems slightly satisfying. Rest in peace OP.
After her behaviour I do not see any of OP's siblings offering her support.
@@stephaniewilson3955 Me neither. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if they all went no contact after OP's passing. And she was spending the rest of her life alone, living with the consequences of her terrible actions.
I'm shocked at the Lawyer action.
Rest in heavenly peace OP
Wow... so horrifically tragic, but completely glad his egg donner and lawyer didn't get away with their evil plan.
Prayers to you and your family!!
Story 1, NTA!! That's NOT a mother that's a selfish entitled egg donor. All she cared about was money , herself and what she wanted. She's beyond vile to do all that to op's wife. I wouldn't be surprised if she got mad at her daughter for helping Op's wife not lose her scholarship. She deserves NOTHING from op same with the rest of her kids. She probably thought her threat would work and is upset that op won't marry who she wants. To interfere like that says that she's willing to do ANYTHING to get op to leave his wife. Not surprised that she expected to get money from op and wife to get nothing. That's a narcissist for you and she's especially beyond vile for actually assaulting op because she wasn't getting anything. When someone leaves a horrible person like THAT it's definitely for the best. Op should have pressed charges after the second assault. The narcissist egg donor is beyond disgusting and pathetic.
Rest in peace op and not the ahole, the mother should be in prison for what she did. So sad of op's passing but at least he fixed everything before his evil mother could do anything. Rest in peace, op 🌹
You are right Mr. Reiddito. This was a terribly sad story knowing OP is no longer with us and his heartless mother only thought of money when her son was dying. I 10000% back OP on his decisions and hope his remaining time here on Earth was the absolute best with his wife, siblings, and friends. Also my condolences to those that lost OP, at least the mom didn't succeed in changing his will and robbing OP's wife and siblings. I can only hope the siblings keep the mom at arm's length as her 'love' is contingent on the amount of money they give her. In the end, the mom deserves to be left all alone as she valued money over OP's life. A truly loving family member would trade their inheritance in a heartbeat if it meant their loved one would live on, but clearly, the mom didn't love OP as a mother should. I wish that was not the case because OP should have had all the love and support in his dying days. I also hope the mom realizes her mistake in putting such a value on money, but that will be too late for OP. Still, even without his mother's support, I hope OP found peace in the end surrounded by loved ones. Rest in peace OP.
I was surprised to know that after OP was assaulted by his mom the first time he went back to meet with her alone in person. My heart goes out for OP.
Yes, my first thought was "Why didn't he press charges?" But then, I suspect being sick & dying means you can decide you don't want to spend your energy on that. Plus Asian background, it's socially/ emotionally harder to go against your parents, too.
If I were OP I would be nasty enough not to leave her nothing, but leave her a small amount ($10K out of $15+ million) or something that would have sentimental but not dollar value.....maybe all my school reports up to the end of high school, or some small gift she gave me that I'd kept. A blown up picture of me as a kid, perhaps. Just to pour salt into the wound of not getting what she wants. Also then she can't complain she didn't get anything from her son. In my head I'm petty like that even if I don't usually act on those impulses.
Mine, too. He's a better, and happier place, now.💛💛
Biggest mistake OP did was getting in contact with his mother again. But either way. RIP OP 😥
I wouldn't drop the charges, I'd ask the police what else she could be charged with.
This is why is extremely important to have a complete full, complete and in depth discussion with a lawyer about a will. About whats legal and not legal in your state. Different states have different laws, better safe than sorry. So many people immediately jump to that $1 thing, but it may take a little more that that. And for pity's sake, make sure you keep it updated.
In NY state at the time of my dad's death my 1/2 sister tried to play dirty and contest dad's will. But the lawyer that my parent's had was young but he was highly intelligent and extremely knowledgeable of the law. Dad had planned to leave his daughter that $1 thing in his will because of her past actions. The lawyer advised him to leave her $500. When dad asked about leaving her just the $1, lawyer said, to leave her $500 would be much better if she tried to pull anything crappy. They had went to the lawyer to do up wills in 92. They both died in 94. The year that dad was killed mom had died only seven months before him, 2 months after they got legally married. There were four of us kids, my two older half-brothers were moms from a previous marriage and my half-sister was dad's from a previous marriage. My 1/2 sister thought she had it made! When Mom and Dad first had their Wills done they had owned three houses. Later after mom found out she was terminal she and Dad started getting everything in order. They sold my grandfather's old house to my oldest 1/2 brother, another house they sold outright to strangers so they only had 1 house left. They had updated their wills each time 1 of the houses sold. My 1/2 sister was rubbing her hands together at the thought of what she would be getting. She did get money from the state of FL for the vehicle accident that killed dad but also found out she was only getting $500 from the estate. Boy was she pissed. She got her lawyer to contest the will. My nephew was the executor of dads will, he called to let me know what she was doing. I called mom and dad's lawyer myself, he had been my lawyer for previous accident I had back in 75, they both liked him and they decided to use him as a lawyer too. That's probably why he was so candid with me. He told me she really didn't have a leg to stand on because of the way the will had been written up. But that she could drag it out for maybe year and make it a PITA until it was over. He said that she was contesting the will as she was the only legal offspring of dad's. I asked what would happen if there was another legal child, he said it would definitely throw a monkey wrench into her plans. So I told the lawyer to send her lawyer a letter telling her to back off and drop her plans or I would take her to court and not only take the money from Florida that she got but the rest of it too. He asked, "Are you telling me that you were a legal child of your father"? I told him yes and that I was also the 'only' child of both mom and dad. He got all excited and asked if I would be willing to have a DNA test done? Told him I sure was. He got to laughing like a fiend and stated, boy this is a game changer! He said he would send the letter and let me know as soon as he heard anything back. About a week and a half after that my nephew called and told me that he had just got off the phone with the lawyer and had been told that because of me my 1/2 sister had dropped everything, that my nephew and 1/2 brothers owed me a big thank you. He then asked, "What did you do"? When I explained he was shocked and asked me if I was sure. I told him yes that there had only been three people who knew who my real father was, mom, dad and me. He got laughing. We talked for a few more minutes and then he said he was going to call my two brothers. I didn't even get off the phone for 3 minutes and the lawyer called letting me know that it was done and there would be no wasted time to settle the estate.
I've always said that you just need to get away from toxic people, even if it's family.
Omg, i am tearing up on this story. OP is amazing to have dealth with so much feom his mother. I hope he has found some peace and his wife is supported by his brother and sisters. Bless him
I hope he knew that his siblings would look after his wife and future child. They've stood in their corner this long, I'm sure they wouldn't abandon her after. God rest op. As a side note, his mother getting sentenced actually guarantees she can't contest the will later on down the line. Inheritance fraud is no joke (at least in most us states). What a stupid B
This was so incredibly sad and terrifying. Wills and other end of life legalities should NOT be able to be contested. Iron clad is the way to go.
I am so sad that he is dying!
Mr. Redditto. You covered this story nicely...respectfully. Thank you.
Hopefully OPs wife and family are doing okay.
Wow, this mom rivals Magda on so many levels .
I know right? Malicious Magda and this woman would get along nicely.
People saying to leave the mother $1 so she can't contest the will are wrong. The mother and lawyer were both charged with trying to tamper with the will so no court would give the mother any of OP'S wealth, it's already in court documents why he wasn't leaving the mother anything.
In a perfect world parents would never be in their children's wills.
Not without earning that right away.
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly I mean that kids would be die before their parents.
My mom didn't care for my wife either, but only because she thought we didn't really fit together, which was partly true. She still loved her regardless and never pushed the issue at all.
This mom kinda makes me think of Rich Crazy Asians.
I don’t think even those moms were this bad.
Rip Op, you are the most innocent person who didn't deserve that horrible mother.
Yes. OP deserved a better mother and so did his siblings. ❤️
I hope that OP found peace in his final weeks of life. It's such a horrible conclusion to their life. The mother lost any chance of a final farewell to her son and let greed overtake her. She found herself behind bars for her behavior and the lawyer lost his license. He should have lost a lot more but with that now on his record he will never be able to practice law again. He'll have to get a regular 9 to 5 job. He'll probably blame OP or he'll blame the mother but in the end it was his own choice and fault that made him lose his license.
My condolences ultimately go to OP and his family because of the loss they have lost in this whole ordeal. It does sound like OP was a kind soul and caring. It was only due to his mother's behavior that she was cut out of the will and with that case in her file, if she ever tried to contest the will she'd likely lose without so much as a passing glance from the judge due to her prior behaviors.
REST IN PEACE OP. What an amazing and strong person both you and your wife are
What you do with YOUR money is up to you. You don't have to give an explanation.. Your mom knows EXACTLY why she's not in the Will... Actions have consequences and this is hers.. The mother is pitiful and pathetic.. We don't run our kids lives as adults!
Parents who think they can run their kids lives to get a meal ticket to a free life are vile and disgusting. They aren't meant to be parents. Also, given she's a narcissist I don't think she actually realizes why she's not in the will. Because narcissists think their in the right and never wrong.
@@onepieceisking5493 Right!? I have 3 grown kids. I could care less who they date, who are their friends and I don't get involved unless they are getting hurt or I see signs they could.. We have to trust that how we raised them was good enough to teach them the ropes and then let go! This woman here.. Wow.. How do you beat your dying son my goodness..
I'm just now getting to the story.
Personally, I would have clocked her..By the time my court case came up I'd be dead.
@@onepieceisking5493 Agreed.😒
Should have pressed charges. She needed to go to jail for his wife's sake. His Mother will harasse the wife nonstop.
His mother should of gotten 3 years in prison
This is such a sad story. My heart goes out to OP and wife. OP was a very patient, respectful person all the way. His decision is the right one and he even try his best dealing with the mentally deranged mother even though his physical condition was very painful and difficult.. Rest In Peace OP. And thank you for your story.
Mine, too.😔
My heart goes out to OP and his beloved wife too. No one deserves to have to deal with drama on their way out. I can only hope OP is resting in peace and his beloved wife or rather widow as well as his siblings are doing well and are healing. 💕
I know time is an issue, but the $1 is very important for no contesting the will. God bless you and your family.
I was thinking the same, but can't help but wonder what trick the lawyer could play that would overturn the previous will. OP's signature wouldn't have been on it.
Different rules in different countries/states. And different levels of honesty in legal circles & courts. In a lot of jurisdictions the spouse is first on the inheritance list if you don't have a will, so it seemed strange to me that OP thought his wife would be disinherited if the will went through & wife disputed it in court. I suspect the will switcheroo ploy was based on OP being too sick to read what the lawyer had drafted as he signed the will & wife would have had to argue mental incompetency to have it overturned. That's why OP's ploy of pretending it was his last days worked to catch the fraudsters.
Thank you for sharing. Mother was greedy. Op said she would be taken care by his siblings so why was she so evil. Breaks my heart
He was totally in the right
Poor OP, I just can’t imagine knowing his own mother valued money over her dying son. Truly sad! His mother deserved everything she got. I pray OP had a peaceful passing surrounded by his wife, child and those who truly loved him.
Rest in peace! You went a humble and honorable man. I hope your wife is well, and your siblings helped. 🕊️
Dropping charges was a fail- herkind must have consequences too
OP has every right to distribute his assets as he chooses. His mother is crazy.
Mom should have gotten more jail time.
OP was in the right 💯
This story was the second saddest Reddit story I’ve heard and it’s a CLOSE second.
Seeing how ruthless the mother was through this entire ordeal and racist she was. There is no remorse for how the wicked get their comeuppance. Seeing how far she was willing to go to screw over everyone for some cold, hard, unfeeling cash.
My heart bleeds for OP truly. Words cannot describe this kind of sadness. And I hope those he cared for are taken care of.
This one was sad.
I don’t understand why she would demand the money if the wife is still alive, she still has a long life to live. RIP, sad as it is he is taking the time to leave gracefully.
He was completely in the right. I am a Mom & can not imagine treating one of my adult children the terrible way she treated her dying son, and the wife who had been by his side thru thick & thin. Bless him, his wife, and those who loved him & respected his life choices.
I’m glad he was able to stop his insane mother! It sucks that he is gone now. I hope his wife and the rest of his family are doing well.
13:50 "no, I'm DEAD serious"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I just saw this video and my heart is breaking even in the end OP loved his wife so much he made sure to keep his mother from hurting her more. If OPs wife ever reads these i hope she knows are hearts and prayers are with her.
Heck no OP NTA and leave her a dollar so she can't attempt to contest the will.
That's actually a bad idea because if you do that, you are saying they deserve to be in the will, even for 1 dollar. Then she would be able to contest it from a more valid place. You can look it up on YT too, many estate attorneys say do not leave anything to someone you want left out of the will. If anything, you can put them in it and leave them nothing and explain WHY you are leaving them nothing. That way, it's pretty much impossible to contest.
No longer necessary with the conviction.
Sad story, but OP did the right thing despite all the cruelty his mother showed over & over again. I Pray you rest in peace. Praying for your wife, the love of your life, and your siblings to find comfort once you're gone. If possible, can your wife give an UPDATE on her status in the future cause I'm sure this is not the Last of your mother's cruelty...
May GOD Bless ALL of you 🙏🏽
Live urr life the way u want. Take care of ur wife and ur siblings. Leave ur money to whom ever u like because its urs to do with as u please. Ur mother has been an asshat and deserves nothing. Live the life u have left to the fullest and have a safe journey home. ❤
Leave the mother 1 dollar so she can not contest the will op!
RIH OP! A crying shame about the mother. I don't think I be in contact with the mother after the first beating nor would I would have told her about the will.
There is a special place in hell for dragons like that. What a witch of a woman!
OP was so blessed to have his wife by his side. My sympathies to her for her loss. Op should have pressed charges against him mom the first time she assaulted him. He didn't need that kind of stress and drama in his final days. I am so glad that his sister found out about the planned theft before they could get away with it.
Have found getting that news focuses you really quickly on what's important and additionally it does seem to be fairly common to accept the news and not freak out.
2020 lost my job after almost 28 years with the same company as a truck driver due to the beer bug ( while an essential job with an industry not so essential) and after 7 months of unemployment got a new job just before my 59th birthday but the job was really kicking my butt but simply chalked it up to not being the hard charging young stud I was almost 30 years earlier and having sat on my butt for the better part of the previous year. One month in I wake in the early morning hours and realized whatever it was it wasn't the job as I shouldn't be having issues lying in bed the same I was getting hustling on the job and something was wrong. My beloved wife had died suddenly 7 years earlier and being 9 years older than her I had pondered if such a situation arose would I call for help or pick a comfortable spot on the couch and wait to see my wife again. As I sat there with the phone in hand deciding it wasn't a vision or her voice but the thought of "you show up here before you're supposed to and I'm going to smack you". With that I dialed EMS as that was exactly the kind of thing my beloved would chide me with if she thought her hubby was about to do something self extinguishingly stupid.
Condensing things a bit it was discovered some time anywhere from 7 months to just over a year after my wife's death I suffered a fairly major silent heart attack and had heart failure from running on the damaged ticker the last 6 years. I was given 50 50 odds of making it another 5 years. We had no kids so I've distributed a few items to friends and family and let it be known to next of kin to bring in someone familiar with pop culture to handle mine and my late wife's accumulated nerddoms and since I know I'm going to catch it for putting my tomboy wife in the interview dress when I see her again I've let it be known put me in my Starfleet finest with a phaser in my hand ( lived my life geek I'm going out geek).
In the time I've got left I've made my peace with things and handled the news pretty good and actually had one of the nurses say for someone that just got that news you're dealing with it pretty good and I just told her always been the class clown type, not much I can do about it anyway so I'll meet death like an old friend with a smile on my face and a fart joke on my lips.
If I get the 5 years or more that's great as I get more time with my family and friends, maybe knock out a few budget bucket list items but if the good Lord decides He can't be without my presence on high a second longer well I've got a good idea where I'm going and quite a few people, one in particular I'm not going to mind seeing again.
Strangest thing I've noticed these last couple of years is that on those times I've cried over my situation it's not been woe is me I'm going to die but more over the having to leave ( at least temporarily) those I love behind, of not being there to see nieces and nephews at certain milestones, hanging with friends that have been part of my life all these years and such.
I am so sorry for your loss. And I belive that your wife was with you when you sat on the couch. True love conquers anything, and she will meet you when your time is coming. I dont want to sound like some new age nut, but I think that your heart was broken both in spirit and physically the day she passed. I'm happily married since 33 years and I deeply love my husband, I can't imagine living without him. My greatest fear now when we are a little bit older is that he will die before me.
Take care of yourself, Hugs from Sweden 🇸🇪
@NickanM thank you. Nothing new age about it as broken heart syndrome is a confirmed phenomenon with the sudden stress and grief and I'm absolutely certain my going from about half a pack of Newports a day to a close to 2-2.5 pack a day for about a month after didn't help things. I was close to those couples you hear of passing in short order of each other but apparently just too damn stubborn to die.
@Gary Sprandel
My little sister jumped in front of a train 2 years ago, she was our baby sister, I am 52 but she was only 37. What I have learned is that you never "get over" the loss of a loved one. You learn to live with the scars. My health dived after that, I got asthma (!) Not from anxiety, it is a physical one. I think that it is a reaction from my sisters death.
I stopped smoking 15 years ago, but I smoked like a chimney the first year after my sisters death, but I dont connect the asthma with it. The timeline doesn't fit. Like 2 packs a day. Stress smoking is a thing. I have stopped again, but it wasn't easy psychologically.
I'm reading this one in the hospital with my girlfriend who had a brain injury. Last week we were happy-go-lucky, now I'm hoping we can make it through this. Appreciate the one you're with. Everything can change in an instant.
He should leave her 1 of the smallest coin he could think of as that is more than she values him at.
Wonder what the date was when this story was submitted to Reddit?
Op was in the right to do what he did he can do what he wants with his money and who gets it
Op was not the A hole but his mother sure is and his lawyer they should of had time in prison .
OP was totally right all the way.
Sending prayers 🙏🏻😔
Same here.🙏😔
After your mother beat you OP you should have pressed charges. Also unless you sign that will and have it notarized it would never be legal or hold up in court. But that's why you continue with the against your mother that way she can not claim anyting.
Mamacita got what she deserved!👍
NTA-You don't owe parents anything, you give or do things out of love. I don't blame you I wouldn't leave her anything. Rest your mind.
I don't understand why no one called the police and filed charges against mother for bashing her dying and ill son in the head with a heavy wooden object. I know Asian cultures have a different attitude of a supposed respect to one's elders, but surely attempted murder would be an exception? Then again, shortly later, she further attacks you in a public restaurant, and beats you to unconsciousness. Then again you drop the charges? Then further she tries defrauding the will with your attorney, and screwing with your wife's inheritance. Then finally you press charges! (Perhaps if mother had been charged for previous violence's the last defrauding attempt would not have happened? I guess as a westerner, I will never understand! Coming from a European heritage, I too have a respect for elders, but there is a limit and accountability! Respect should be earned and not blindly given!)
I hope this woman's afterlife one day winds up in a truly hot and horrible place, and the devil pays her back for all her treatments of her son! My condolences to the family for their loss!
RIP OP & i pray your wife & siblings are doing well
Rest easy, my guy. This was the work of man who was a class act all the way, and the world is a poorer place with his absence. I can only hope I go out with half the grace, dignity, and composure as OP. May he be at peace in the place where the light knows no shadow. 🌹✌🏽
Wow the last line has me crying
Sorry OP went thru so much. He should not have dropped the charges the first time. Wife needs to have restraining order fir life against that dangerous MIL
What you do with your money is your business.
Sounds like a sequel to 'crazy rich Asians' that they got Stephen King to help write. Omg 😲 😱 RIP op and I'm sorry for your loss OPs family and sorry for your pain having to call his mother family.
This has had to be one of the saddest stories you have ever brought to your audience. I sincerely hope that man did pass in peace and is now residing in a heavenly place that he truly deserves. His Mother was a horrible grasping woman who did not deserve his attention at anytime because of her greedy ways. May you never have another sad story like this again. Thank you for bringing this to us, I truly never believed there were horrible, horrible people on this Earth.
My heart goes out to his family. I keep hoping that magically he’s still alive.
I would have had her arrested with the restraining order the first time she attacked me at the dinner and never spoke to her again.
I have Multiple sclerosis it runs in my family on both sides. my cousin who is younger than me has the worst of the MS he is in the nursing home unable to speak or feed himself it wont be long. Me I was diagnosed with relapsing and remitting multiple sclerosis, its not as bad as my what my cousin has. But 4 months ago I started getting worse now have been changed to progressive relapsing and remitting multiple sclerosis. When I did my will my parents felt entitled to everything but I left everything to my husband and sons . parents aren't happy but my husband and children come 1st. I feel for OP and his wife he should have charged her the 1st time but at least she was caught before she could screw his wife over. I feel sorry for the couple because instead of getting to spend time quality time together they had to put up with the moms bs. OP rip and love and many hugs to you and your wife and siblings.
NTA as long as OPs wife is ok with the split. Really everything should go to your spouse unless you have children outside the marriage.
As a mother nothing makes me more irritated than hearing a mother is owed something "because, after all she is your mother". At most she's owed for giving birth to you is a mother's day card.
Everything else is what she earned by the quality of care and the sincere love she gave to you.
Was she ever your mother? Has she earned the respect and love a mother deserves? The rest of the family you only hear from occasionally; they do not get an opinion.
So sad. What a terrible mother
Rest in peace. I'm sorry to you and your wife. I wish you the best on your next adventure.
That poor man 😢😢😢😢😢
OP…. It’s your money. You can leave it to who ever you want to. You owe no one anything. Your mother was not a nice person.
Rip op and to his wife I’m sorry for your loss
Sad.
Rest in peace OP. Family is not defined by blood, but by love and loyalty. May your wife and loved ones find peace in your absence... man, this one got to me
Mom and lawyer should rot in the darkest dungeon that can be found! . Enjoy every minute you are given with your family OP!!! Condolences to OP's wife, sister and brothers. Lots of love and best wishes from a sister in grief.
Really nice of those police to arrest, convict and sentence the mother within less than a two week span.
After what OP's mother did he did the right thing
Rest in peace
Yeah she's sorry . Sorry she's left no money in your will !
Toxic mom gets nothing.