Well i finally did it. I blocked him. Can't stand to be led on and toyed with anymore, and i no longer want to be tempted to keep reaching out to him. Time to start healing now.
They always start out as a best friend to build a solid foundation and then when it becomes romantic or intimate they get cold feet or take space or say they don't deserve someone like me. Men are very manipulative in getting what they want
That idea has really helped me. Just because my ex left me doesn’t mean the dream is dead. There is another person out there that will live our dream. My ex no longer deserves me or my dream.
For me it has been a year and a half, of a married man living in my head, with whom I've done nothing, who subtly but effectively boosted his ego with the admiration I'm sure I didn't succeed in hiding, while he endures a clearly diminished marriage he's not working to revive. I want to shove him out of my mind by meeting more men like him. The man I want is as alone as I am; so it's not him. I'm out there, looking, being seen. I'm ready for a time-out. Activity alone is not fixing this. And I know better than thinking easy sex will improve anything. It usually only makes it worse.
Good morning Susan 😊 I am trying to get over someone by going out on dates and meeting new people. It's hard considering he's constantly in the back of my mind, but it is what it is! Speaking of which, I'm going out on another date tonight. Wish me well hehe 😊 sending you love
Susan I have felt both attacked ( ticked most of the points addressed by you 😂) and so highly amused by your sharp wit and tough love! You were so loving but savage this evening 🎉 very much appreciated! Love all your work. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much! I'm finally validated. Susan said it's more likely to be left for someone “lesser.” After the 4th romance in a row, the fella either threw me over or immediately after the breakup, has gone into committed LTR’s with partners that I consider “way less” than me. It would be a refreshing change to be thrown over for a beauty queen with a Ph.D.! Hand to God, on all that I hold holy, the ladies that have “replaced” me are less attractive, less fit, less educated, from a less esteemed family, less fun, less laid-back, less of a professional career, than me. Clearly, I’ve been dating beneath myself. Men want to feel good about themselves; maybe by just being me, I somehow undermine their self-esteem.
Heyy, by chance would you like to be friends then? I'm a 24 year old from the Caribbean and just thought it would be cool to connect with someone else to get a different perspective on things and just to vibe out.
I did I also forgave him why he came to see me from another state he told me he loved me and I did too but spoke for a long time but went back said he was going back but changed his mind why tell me loves me I also feel family interefering
Fantastic video Susan, and might I add I sense a fiery powerful Susan this morning I love it ! You alone made me realise keeping the dream and replace the person, which I have as a reminder from your merch. It's been 2 and a half years since you helped me, halted the endless loop of what if this or what if that, different stage in my life now and for the better. I'm still growing as I listen to you every single week, thank you for being here not just for brightening my weekends, but for everyone here that you help. Much love always Susan. ❤️
OMG. I was watching this and I went pain shopping...went to see if he did his radio show Sunday and his new GF had her own mic. I'm not supposed to be pain shopping!
How to submit questions, video requests? Typing here, under the most recent video, hopefully Susan will see; why do I avoid men who give me sparks? I am not super attractive, but handsome men do signal attention, but I always shy away if a man is very attractive (I'm afraid to meet his eyes or hold eye contact for longer than a second, never smiling and even giving a cold shoulder if they try to talk to me first). I am more comfortable with those whom I feel nothing towards and I'm hoping the friendship will grow into attraction/love some day, but if it does I'm not sure it'll be long lived since there will be hardly any passion and only love shared by similarity and mutual respect and humor etc and I will still be craving for someone who can give me sparks
So I guess I'm intimidated by physical attractiveness of a man , even though I desire that in a partner and value it I guess not less than kindness, cleverness, humor, loyalty. So why do I have this fear?
Attraction comes in many different forms and what is attractive to one person isn’t attractive to another. Have confidence in who you are as a person, your attributes, your wonderful qualities and you will attract the right partner that sees you as you deserve to be seen
@@SusanWinter thank you Susan! Hm it is true Im no longer sure who I am and what I want, life has been a rollercoaster, and the past two years feel like 10, and who I am right now compared to one or two years ago- I'm no longer sure, need to self reflect
Well i finally did it. I blocked him. Can't stand to be led on and toyed with anymore, and i no longer want to be tempted to keep reaching out to him. Time to start healing now.
I’m glad you are starting on your journey of self love!
How are you now after a year?
They always start out as a best friend to build a solid foundation and then when it becomes romantic or intimate they get cold feet or take space or say they don't deserve someone like me. Men are very manipulative in getting what they want
Please read my comment, I sense you’ve run into my same situation I have encountered,
I love the phrase 'Keep the dream change the person' that is spot-on xxx
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That idea has really helped me. Just because my ex left me doesn’t mean the dream is dead. There is another person out there that will live our dream. My ex no longer deserves me or my dream.
For me it has been a year and a half, of a married man living in my head, with whom I've done nothing, who subtly but effectively boosted his ego with the admiration I'm sure I didn't succeed in hiding, while he endures a clearly diminished marriage he's not working to revive. I want to shove him out of my mind by meeting more men like him. The man I want is as alone as I am; so it's not him. I'm out there, looking, being seen. I'm ready for a time-out. Activity alone is not fixing this. And I know better than thinking easy sex will improve anything. It usually only makes it worse.
Good morning Susan 😊 I am trying to get over someone by going out on dates and meeting new people. It's hard considering he's constantly in the back of my mind, but it is what it is! Speaking of which, I'm going out on another date tonight. Wish me well hehe 😊 sending you love
I hope you’re date went well!
keep the dream replace the person- love it
Actually I feel whole just seeing your T shirt 😂❤ Those words are magic. Keep the dream, replace the person. On it.
Susan I have felt both attacked ( ticked most of the points addressed by you 😂) and so highly amused by your sharp wit and tough love! You were so loving but savage this evening 🎉 very much appreciated! Love all your work. Thank you ❤
I’m happy to help and glad to hear that this resonates with you! ❤
Thank you Susan, come hell or high water I will get over him 🙏
Yes you will!!! ❤❤❤
My significant other of 4 years, passed away in August of pancreatic cancer. Hoping this will help. 💔
Thank you so much! I'm finally validated. Susan said it's more likely to be left for someone “lesser.” After the 4th romance in a row, the fella either threw me over or immediately after the breakup, has gone into committed LTR’s with partners that I consider “way less” than me. It would be a refreshing change to be thrown over for a beauty queen with a Ph.D.! Hand to God, on all that I hold holy, the ladies that have “replaced” me are less attractive, less fit, less educated, from a less esteemed family, less fun, less laid-back, less of a professional career, than me. Clearly, I’ve been dating beneath myself. Men want to feel good about themselves; maybe by just being me, I somehow undermine their self-esteem.
Yes and Yes!! When a person does not know how to value what they are looking at, it doesn't matter how much you're worth… You're not on their radar
Heyy, by chance would you like to be friends then? I'm a 24 year old from the Caribbean and just thought it would be cool to connect with someone else to get a different perspective on things and just to vibe out.
Keeps. Me. In. Pain. All. The. Time. 😂😂😂😂. Wats. The. Way. Out. Thank. You. Susan
Thanks!
Thank you Max!
I did I also forgave him why he came to see me from another state he told me he loved me and I did too but spoke for a long time but went back said he was going back but changed his mind why tell me loves me I also feel family interefering
Fantastic video Susan, and might I add I sense a fiery powerful Susan this morning I love it ! You alone made me realise keeping the dream and replace the person, which I have as a reminder from your merch. It's been 2 and a half years since you helped me, halted the endless loop of what if this or what if that, different stage in my life now and for the better. I'm still growing as I listen to you every single week, thank you for being here not just for brightening my weekends, but for everyone here that you help. Much love always Susan. ❤️
Bryan!! I just saw this. thank you
You cannot know how much your words are like a remedy to my wounds !
Thank you so much. This was good help to me😊
You are a blessing to us all. Thank you for all you do. Your admirer…Susan.
Thank you for watching!
Awesome show, great tips, insights and solutions.👏👏👏 Thank you Susan for everything!🙏🧡
OMG. I was watching this and I went pain shopping...went to see if he did his radio show Sunday and his new GF had her own mic. I'm not supposed to be pain shopping!
Don’t put yourself through that for any reason! You deserve much better
Sending Love ❤️…@sandrabrigham…Are you single?
How to submit questions, video requests? Typing here, under the most recent video, hopefully Susan will see; why do I avoid men who give me sparks? I am not super attractive, but handsome men do signal attention, but I always shy away if a man is very attractive (I'm afraid to meet his eyes or hold eye contact for longer than a second, never smiling and even giving a cold shoulder if they try to talk to me first). I am more comfortable with those whom I feel nothing towards and I'm hoping the friendship will grow into attraction/love some day, but if it does I'm not sure it'll be long lived since there will be hardly any passion and only love shared by similarity and mutual respect and humor etc and I will still be craving for someone who can give me sparks
So I guess I'm intimidated by physical attractiveness of a man , even though I desire that in a partner and value it I guess not less than kindness, cleverness, humor, loyalty. So why do I have this fear?
Attraction comes in many different forms and what is attractive to one person isn’t attractive to another. Have confidence in who you are as a person, your attributes, your wonderful qualities and you will attract the right partner that sees you as you deserve to be seen
@@SusanWinter thank you Susan! Hm it is true Im no longer sure who I am and what I want, life has been a rollercoaster, and the past two years feel like 10, and who I am right now compared to one or two years ago- I'm no longer sure, need to self reflect
Love this pllssss make moreee
Another great video!!!! Thank you❤
You’re very welcome!
How to move on when you are bedridden with a chronic illness and don’t have other things to help coping with a 24 years long then relationship?
Just found you & subscribed. I’m currently heartbroken & your videos are bringing me comfort. Thank you❤
How are you doing today?