'Don't wait until you're "ready" to get married...don't wait until you're "ready" to have kids.' YES. This is beautiful, and so true! But I know it scares the heck out of young people when they hear it. LOL. Celebrating 21 years this June with my husband and our 10 children are a living testimony to the lovely things that happen when you just jump right in full of love and hope. "Be not afraid," young couples!
I agree but 50% of the men under 25 reading this will get divorced, have a porn addiction, and be over 30k in debt before owning a home. They have a reason to be scared and it will not work out for many of them.
I feel we as Catholics need more people talking about their marriages positively like this, whether on or offline, especially to encourage the youth. Really appreciate y'all's past videos on marriage and dating as well, as I've been strategically trying to find and watch positive Catholic content on marriage to condition myself not to fear it or have negative bias against it (I grew up in dysfunction, isolation, and maternal abuse, so I never saw positive models of marriage or motherhood). Even though I've recently begun investigating consecrated forms of life more closely and believe that perhaps marriage is not my path, I know that many saints, especially St. Ignatius of Loyola, stress that holy indifference to all the vocational states is wise, so I'm trying my best to attain that and reframe my views on marriage.
“Matt was technically illegal” I laughed out loud with that one. I absolutely love Cameron. She’s such a sweet heart she didn’t even understand why Thursday had to clarify that Asian was someone’s name. Stay good Cameron. 💛
I think it’s cool that they have different moments that were meaningful to them. I think it would be unusual (if cute) their favorite dates were the same thing but they each had their different timeline to growing closer together and different moments that were especially meaningful to them. I bet Matt doesn’t even remember that moment as strongly as that moment when Cam felt like they were the only two people in the world
I had a steady smile on my face watching all of this. Such an incredible couple and one I genuinely look up to as a good Catholic example of the work God can do in marriage. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. May God bless you with many more years. Happy anniversary! 💒
This was such a fun video. I genuinely laughed out loud at some parts and the editing surely helped with that! But during Cameron's last segment, around the time of 15:43 when she speaks about not being ready and still going for it, really trusting in God by going into the unknown seemingly "unprepared", my eyes welled up with tears. Long story short; My heart yearns nothing more than that... I want to be "unprepared". I want to be unprepared and marry the woman whom I love, entirely at God's mercy (love). I want to do all that is asked of me as a man of God and give all of myself and break down the barriers which Matt spoke about at the end. I know that that is love and I know that is the beauty which I've been created to long for and desire. Oh how I pray that God prepares me well for marriage and makes me patient with the process because it is a heart-wrenching, yet even more beautiful pain. Mary and Joseph, pray for us
“There were so many” vs. “We didn’t go on many dates” is the most concise description of how (especially Christian) men and women move through relationships toward marriage differently. Men are almost always “sure” and want to get married sooner so it feels like lots of dates to us
Absolutely lovely! My husband and I share an anniversary with you and Cameron. We just lovingly celebrated 5 years of marriage, 10 years together total. We are young and have 3 littles. Marriage is one of the greatest gifts God has given us as people
I really appreciate that you did these answers separately. I think it was more insightful to see their responses on their own and how they compliment and contrast each other. Thanks for the video!
Thank you for all that you two shared. May God bless you with more happy years than you can count. For those who read this, please pray for me, my wife, and our marriage. Due to some mental health situations and a couple major physical medical things that came up, our marriage is in a murky spot. I almost really lost her due to the medical crisis she had. I fear we may lose this marriage if there isn't a ton of grace and a miracle or two.
Can we have more these from Cameron and Matt? I guess it’s important to get from the people who went through it - that friendships are good foundations of marriage and in marriage, it is key. How does one knows that a love was ignited from friendship to romance? Thank you both! Happy anniversary 🍻
I loooove the "becoming friends". That is my ideal courtship/relationship. That established friendship and then we go from there. It's so hard to communicate that w/ guys now. I tell any interested guy that & they think I'm putting them in the "friendzone" for them to never leave But you both reminded me that the right Godly man will be on the same page as me!
I'm gonna be honest, us guys are very blunt. We like straight answers. When we hear 'friend' from a woman we're interested in, we think that they'll never be attracted or into us. It's very one-sided. We're dumb like that. I'm very much open to the idea of two people who have a spark of attraction for each other, but aren't exactly sure if they want to be in a relationship with each other until they know the person better as a friend.
Great advice from Cameron!! Ive bern sharing with friends that same advice on not waiting for the perfect time to get married/have kids. My husband and I are going through the "being poor together" phase and I am honestly so grateful for this season, for the same reasons Cameron mentioned. Im not saying everyone has to have little money when they first get married 😅just not to let yourself fall into the traps of looking for reasons not to marry the person you love. People don't tend to listen to me but I've only been married two and a half years. Now we have a precious daughter and a beautiful life. God has been so good to us and brought us through so much together. Glory to Jesus Christ ❤️ Happy anniversary Matt and Cameron and thanks for this video! It was fun and filled with good nugets of wisdom. Y'all honestly have the best marriage advice I've yet heard and have been a blessing to my husband and me.
5:35 Lol I also accidentally shut my fiancé down the first time he tried to tell me what he felt about me, I was confused and wasn’t sure if he was trying to turn our dating into something serious, so I gave him a really vague answer like “I don’t normally go on dates” I guess that was a blow to his ego but it’s fine because we became boyfriend and girlfriend a week later and engaged a year later
What a beautiful story and what a blessing it is to meet a woman that is God fearing and willing to live a pure relationship!!..Man I hope🤔 I can also some day find a God fearing woman in this world.😌🇻🇦
Ive been married for 2 and a half years now. Im 27. And your closing remarks really resonated with my own experience with marriage. (Wow I can't believe Im a husband...still seems wild). Anyways, where you talked about going to Cameron in moments of weakness, wanting something from her to satisfy what you're missing within yourself...I find myself often afficted with that. I'm happy to get this validation from you Matt, as I really look up to you as a mentor. It's nice to know you share the same struggles.
27 years here; marriage is indeed very hard. I would phrase the challenges this way: breaking down my own selfishness for love of the other, aka dying to my own ego. That will bring the Love of Christ alive.
I was "almost" jealous, until I heard Vegemite. Then I was grossed out, and also gushing about you two, spider webs, non-kissing, and being absolutely wholesome. Good, blessed, love the story! 😘
F’ing perfection. Even being reminded of all of my failed attempts, I can’t argue with this trajectory. The one I would have wished for. Simply Agape. ❤❤❤
Hi Pints & co. ! love your channel. I am among those lazy people that are only listening to your videos (during... hmm work sometimes), without watching. So I wish those questions were made audible as well. God's blessing. Cheers.
I too would like a reaction video! But my first question is simply based on the first question. Cameron - why were you in Ottawa? Matt - did you go to Ottawa before Ireland?
This proves one thing ladies and gentlemen, be very clear whether you are on a date or if it’s just a hang. 😂 Literally say the word “date” somewhere in your asking.
Pray to discern if single-hood is your vocation or not. Few people talk about this vocation and it’s as valid as marriage. It is in the Catechism. This video might be helpful th-cam.com/video/HZYEMnNTL38/w-d-xo.html
Matt saying he didn’t find his wife attractive but really wanted to b/c she’s a wonder person is… not good. Honest but no woman likes to hear that. Especially 17 years later. The wife saying there was many cute guys there and Matt was one of them.. also not good. Again honest but men don’t like this idea of selection and them being picked. They’re jealous. But.. what do you think courting is? 😅
Seeking or putting oneself in the near occasion of sexual arousal outside the context of a licit marital act (sex in marriage) is mortally sinful. So passionate kissing is basically off the table according to Ligouri and Aquinas. Sweet, quick kissing will depend on the individuals involved.
@@anzot6903 I'm guessing some mortal sins are up to interpretation then and that it conveniently falls on the believer if they want to do the act or not. It's a shame that lgbt folks don't have that privilege.
God loves you as you are. And I love you as a brother in Christ. God does wonders to those who love Him. Strive to be like Christ. Help out the Church. You'll find your calling. If you don't, that's fine too, but may it be by your own discernment. To love your neighbor like yourself, you ought to learn to love yourself. The Almighty thinks you are worth loving, so must you.
Not true. I used to have those same thoughts, but there’s just so many people in the world, you’ll find plenty who will think that of you. Specially if marriage is Gods will for you!
Literally laughed out loud at the multiple interjections of “we didn’t go on many dates”
Same! 😂😂😂😂
That was a gem
Now we need a react video of each other looking each other answer
From your mouth to God’s ears!! Lol that would be SO good
YESS I was thinking the same thing!
Yes we need to see this.
'Don't wait until you're "ready" to get married...don't wait until you're "ready" to have kids.' YES. This is beautiful, and so true! But I know it scares the heck out of young people when they hear it. LOL. Celebrating 21 years this June with my husband and our 10 children are a living testimony to the lovely things that happen when you just jump right in full of love and hope. "Be not afraid," young couples!
🎉🎉
I agree but 50% of the men under 25 reading this will get divorced, have a porn addiction, and be over 30k in debt before owning a home.
They have a reason to be scared and it will not work out for many of them.
I feel we as Catholics need more people talking about their marriages positively like this, whether on or offline, especially to encourage the youth. Really appreciate y'all's past videos on marriage and dating as well, as I've been strategically trying to find and watch positive Catholic content on marriage to condition myself not to fear it or have negative bias against it (I grew up in dysfunction, isolation, and maternal abuse, so I never saw positive models of marriage or motherhood). Even though I've recently begun investigating consecrated forms of life more closely and believe that perhaps marriage is not my path, I know that many saints, especially St. Ignatius of Loyola, stress that holy indifference to all the vocational states is wise, so I'm trying my best to attain that and reframe my views on marriage.
“Matt was technically illegal” I laughed out loud with that one. I absolutely love Cameron. She’s such a sweet heart she didn’t even understand why Thursday had to clarify that Asian was someone’s name. Stay good Cameron. 💛
What Matt says around 18:00 about our spouse not being able to fulfill us and we know that but we have to REALLY come to know that…. 100% on point.
I think it’s cool that they have different moments that were meaningful to them. I think it would be unusual (if cute) their favorite dates were the same thing but they each had their different timeline to growing closer together and different moments that were especially meaningful to them.
I bet Matt doesn’t even remember that moment as strongly as that moment when Cam felt like they were the only two people in the world
Shows how different men and women are and what is meaningful to each other isn’t the same.
How amazing! May God continue to bless you both. My husband and I just celebrated out 1st year anniversary. Pray for us.
With pleasure:)
“You can be poor together.” That statement is so good!
I had a steady smile on my face watching all of this. Such an incredible couple and one I genuinely look up to as a good Catholic example of the work God can do in marriage. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. May God bless you with many more years. Happy anniversary! 💒
Ugh 😩 i just love Cameron so much, she is so wholesome and full of the spirit
This was such a fun video. I genuinely laughed out loud at some parts and the editing surely helped with that!
But during Cameron's last segment, around the time of 15:43 when she speaks about not being ready and still going for it, really trusting in God by going into the unknown seemingly "unprepared", my eyes welled up with tears.
Long story short; My heart yearns nothing more than that... I want to be "unprepared". I want to be unprepared and marry the woman whom I love, entirely at God's mercy (love). I want to do all that is asked of me as a man of God and give all of myself and break down the barriers which Matt spoke about at the end.
I know that that is love and I know that is the beauty which I've been created to long for and desire.
Oh how I pray that God prepares me well for marriage and makes me patient with the process because it is a heart-wrenching, yet even more beautiful pain.
Mary and Joseph, pray for us
“There were so many” vs. “We didn’t go on many dates” is the most concise description of how (especially Christian) men and women move through relationships toward marriage differently. Men are almost always “sure” and want to get married sooner so it feels like lots of dates to us
Editing on this was top tier. 😂
Good lesson for young people. Get involved with the Church and you’ll meet a quality spouse.
Absolutely lovely! My husband and I share an anniversary with you and Cameron. We just lovingly celebrated 5 years of marriage, 10 years together total. We are young and have 3 littles. Marriage is one of the greatest gifts God has given us as people
I love that their accents and manner of speaking have influences from each other. It’s so human and beautiful!
Awww love it! So sweet and fun! ❤Congratulations on your 17 years of Holy Matrimony!
Congratulations on your anniversary!!!
I LOVE when the Fradds talk about marriage. They are so real. Celebrating 5 years myself this month with my dear husband ❤
Yeah I’m gonna be single forever. Confirmed. Genuinely happy for Matt and Cameron. Genuinely happy for others who have successful marriages too
That's the spirit
@@pintswithaquinaslol
@@pintswithaquinasshould I be hopeful that I’ll win the lottery?
I really appreciate that you did these answers separately. I think it was more insightful to see their responses on their own and how they compliment and contrast each other. Thanks for the video!
These kinds of videos are fun. Marriage is a mystery and a miracle.
Woo, this was sweet. Y'all were preaching on the last question. So good!!
Thank you for all that you two shared. May God bless you with more happy years than you can count.
For those who read this, please pray for me, my wife, and our marriage. Due to some mental health situations and a couple major physical medical things that came up, our marriage is in a murky spot.
I almost really lost her due to the medical crisis she had. I fear we may lose this marriage if there isn't a ton of grace and a miracle or two.
Matt’s final insights are so profound and speak to the heart of a sinner, thank you
Can we have more these from Cameron and Matt? I guess it’s important to get from the people who went through it - that friendships are good foundations of marriage and in marriage, it is key. How does one knows that a love was ignited from friendship to romance? Thank you both! Happy anniversary 🍻
Love the colorful top. Cameron is radiating
I loooove the "becoming friends". That is my ideal courtship/relationship. That established friendship and then we go from there. It's so hard to communicate that w/ guys now. I tell any interested guy that & they think I'm putting them in the "friendzone" for them to never leave
But you both reminded me that the right Godly man will be on the same page as me!
I'm gonna be honest, us guys are very blunt. We like straight answers. When we hear 'friend' from a woman we're interested in, we think that they'll never be attracted or into us. It's very one-sided. We're dumb like that.
I'm very much open to the idea of two people who have a spark of attraction for each other, but aren't exactly sure if they want to be in a relationship with each other until they know the person better as a friend.
@richardmadigan9463Honestly it just depends on the person and situation. Sometimes there’s instant attraction and sometimes there isn’t.
Great advice from Cameron!! Ive bern sharing with friends that same advice on not waiting for the perfect time to get married/have kids. My husband and I are going through the "being poor together" phase and I am honestly so grateful for this season, for the same reasons Cameron mentioned. Im not saying everyone has to have little money when they first get married 😅just not to let yourself fall into the traps of looking for reasons not to marry the person you love. People don't tend to listen to me but I've only been married two and a half years. Now we have a precious daughter and a beautiful life. God has been so good to us and brought us through so much together. Glory to Jesus Christ ❤️
Happy anniversary Matt and Cameron and thanks for this video! It was fun and filled with good nugets of wisdom. Y'all honestly have the best marriage advice I've yet heard and have been a blessing to my husband and me.
Forever by Ben Harper was "our" song and was in our wedding (before we became Catholic). 21 years this year!
Thursday, your editing is improving! Keep it up man the subtle but repetitive jokes are killer!
5:35 Lol I also accidentally shut my fiancé down the first time he tried to tell me what he felt about me, I was confused and wasn’t sure if he was trying to turn our dating into something serious, so I gave him a really vague answer like “I don’t normally go on dates” I guess that was a blow to his ego but it’s fine because we became boyfriend and girlfriend a week later and engaged a year later
pretty understandable tbh, hope you're more forgiving these days to his human weaknesses 😅
What question do you wish we answered?
How has your spouse changed/grown in the past 17 years since marriage?
@@jasonfernandez1386is this a question or a comment?
What would you tell your kids about finding a spouse (if they are called to marriage)?
What has been the best part of marriage? The most difficult?
Do a part 2!
What a beautiful story and what a blessing it is to meet a woman that is God fearing and willing to live a pure relationship!!..Man I hope🤔 I can also some day find a God fearing woman in this world.😌🇻🇦
Ive been married for 2 and a half years now. Im 27. And your closing remarks really resonated with my own experience with marriage. (Wow I can't believe Im a husband...still seems wild). Anyways, where you talked about going to Cameron in moments of weakness, wanting something from her to satisfy what you're missing within yourself...I find myself often afficted with that.
I'm happy to get this validation from you Matt, as I really look up to you as a mentor. It's nice to know you share the same struggles.
"we didn't feel ready, but we felt called..."
27 years here; marriage is indeed very hard. I would phrase the challenges this way: breaking down my own selfishness for love of the other, aka dying to my own ego.
That will bring the Love of Christ alive.
Love this! Excellent video and thank you for sharing!
More of this please. Really cool and honest and enlightening
Hilarouos!!😂 loud! They both described each other first impression as loud
This is Thursday getting his revenge for all the ribbing he gets from Matt lmao
Lovely video thank you for sharing your love of each other with us and being a beautiful example of what healthy love should look like ❤
I was "almost" jealous, until I heard Vegemite. Then I was grossed out, and also gushing about you two, spider webs, non-kissing, and being absolutely wholesome. Good, blessed, love the story! 😘
Oh yeah!!! We doing St Michael's Lent in Auckland NZ BOY!!!!
Thanks for keeping on Matty!
I usually skip promotions but matt is hilarious 😂
F’ing perfection. Even being reminded of all of my failed attempts, I can’t argue with this trajectory. The one I would have wished for. Simply Agape. ❤❤❤
This is probably my favorite pints video ❤
Hi Pints & co. !
love your channel. I am among those lazy people that are only listening to your videos (during... hmm work sometimes), without watching. So I wish those questions were made audible as well.
God's blessing.
Cheers.
I absolutely love watching you two together on the podcast and listening to the marriage advice. Loved this episode
Petition for Matthew Fraddson to go on Pints with Aquinas!!!
41 years…we can answer all those questions. 18&21 and nowhere near ready but ready…still ready…always ready before the Lord.
Thursday stirring the pot with the edit 🧐🧐🧐
What a great anniversary show!
Don't wait until you're ready. WORD! I concur.
Shout out to Mary Queen. Cool to hear about one of our local churches on Pints.
Happy Anniversary Matt and Cameron🥰🥳
I too would like a reaction video! But my first question is simply based on the first question. Cameron - why were you in Ottawa? Matt - did you go to Ottawa before Ireland?
Great advice! Congratulations to the both of you on your beautiful marriage 😊
What a lucky mad lad.
I busted a gut laughing on the date question
You both had so many great things to say
You guys are the best. God bless y’all
Good stuff! Thank you for sharing!
Thursday had too much fun editing this.
“Crumpets and tea” the perfect date.
Matt is the best
Brought to you by Guinness.
I think you guys should compete in a trivia 😂 this is so funny. Thursdy can do the questions for trivia
“I am not telling you” lol I love thursday
This proves one thing ladies and gentlemen, be very clear whether you are on a date or if it’s just a hang. 😂 Literally say the word “date” somewhere in your asking.
congratulations for your 17th wedding anniversary. :D
Awesome shirt, Matt. Where can I buy one? Thanks!
I used to go to Mary Queen....That's amazing!!!
Can’t be an aussie story without Vegemite 😅
I love you guys so much 🤗❤️ God bless you ❤️
Absolutely beautiful!!
We actually didn’t go on many dates 😅
Have tons of kids
Cameron talked about not waiting, but what about those of us who are already older and still single (40+)? Any perspective?
Pray to discern if single-hood is your vocation or not. Few people talk about this vocation and it’s as valid as marriage. It is in the Catechism. This video might be helpful th-cam.com/video/HZYEMnNTL38/w-d-xo.html
@@calmontes651, Thank you. I have been considering that and will watch the video.
everybody who's single: aaawww...
Matt saying he didn’t find his wife attractive but really wanted to b/c she’s a wonder person is… not good. Honest but no woman likes to hear that. Especially 17 years later.
The wife saying there was many cute guys there and Matt was one of them.. also not good. Again honest but men don’t like this idea of selection and them being picked. They’re jealous. But.. what do you think courting is? 😅
Tell your wife to do the carnivore diet if she’s still in pain/other issues
❤💕
I want my boyfriend to propose to me so bad 😭😭😭
What are the rules on kissing before marriage?
Seeking or putting oneself in the near occasion of sexual arousal outside the context of a licit marital act (sex in marriage) is mortally sinful. So passionate kissing is basically off the table according to Ligouri and Aquinas. Sweet, quick kissing will depend on the individuals involved.
@@anzot6903 I'm guessing some mortal sins are up to interpretation then and that it conveniently falls on the believer if they want to do the act or not. It's a shame that lgbt folks don't have that privilege.
@@SuperKripke you support lgtb degeneracy
@@SuperKripke are you a Christian. Do you believe demons exist
@@sigmanocopyrightmusic8737 Nope and nope.
😂
NO PRE-MARITAL CUDDLING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Do you all get married when you were 10?
Don't even think thats legal mate, please don't start proposing to 10 year olds
Oof. No woman would ever feel that way about me.
God loves you as you are. And I love you as a brother in Christ.
God does wonders to those who love Him.
Strive to be like Christ. Help out the Church. You'll find your calling. If you don't, that's fine too, but may it be by your own discernment.
To love your neighbor like yourself, you ought to learn to love yourself. The Almighty thinks you are worth loving, so must you.
@@crusaderACR I know God loves me. Women don't.
@@hamie7624 Lmao
@@ReasonAboveEverything based
Not true. I used to have those same thoughts, but there’s just so many people in the world, you’ll find plenty who will think that of you. Specially if marriage is Gods will for you!