I agree. Imo Iove this song the feelings the pain heals. When I need yo digest some trauma this helps. Where as say, florence and the machines- Kiss with A Fist, is more when I'm feeling sassy and frisky about the trauma if that makes sense. And then I enjoy Amanda palmer when feeling vindictive. And Ani Difranco Dilate or Napoleon or angry anymore, they are when I'm feeling more healed and confident
In an Instagram Q&A, Hozier explained the line “she looks like sleep to the freezing,”, stating that the idea is that if someone who is freezing falls asleep, it will likely kill them, but to them sleep looks very attractive because it is relief of their suffering. So, although she is dangerous and will likely be the end of him, he is not strong enough to overcome her temptation. that line is just so good.
I like it, how I saw it was like her love is empty, it’s like trying to get sleep when freezing you can’t, you shift and move and shiver and try desperately to get sleep but can’t.
disgustipatedwon I interpreted it completely differently. Freezing is incredibly uncomfortable, falling asleep is probably bliss to them. It's a blessed escape from misery. He's talking about the good times and how amazing they are, and using them to justify staying during the bad times.
Candace TenEyck heyyy what he’s trying to say is when a person gets really cold.. as in about to die from hypothermia... you get realllly sleepy. Thats your body giving up.
@@kadetunit1330 People in freezing conditions tend to get tempted/want to to fall asleep by the cold, however if they do they will die. So I guess he's trying to say that her love is tempting and wanted but dangerous at the same time?
Wow this song sounds so raw and sweet like honey, yet when you listen to the lyrics it's actually horrifying. The contrast hits you like a brick. Not sure how to feel about this. With that said this song is so beautiful, masterly crafted.
Like a ton of bricks. Its beautifully horrifying. Its shedding light on a completely different point of view in domestic violence. The emotional rollercoaster wreckage it reaps on both parties.
@@chelbiebaysinger78HI CHELBIE BAYS THE SONG AS YOU SO DULY NOTED FULL OF ALL THE HAVOC & DEVASTATION WEAVED WITHIN THE WEB OF LIES & DECIET CONTINUOSLY SPREAD & INFECTS NOT ONLY TWO PRIMARY PLAYERS ! ALSO ENTIRE FAMILIES ! WHO ONLY WATCH ON WITH DESPAIR ! INSTEAD A SUPPORTING & WAITING GAME ENSUES & EVEN WITH THE FINAL , REALISATION & ALL THE SUPPORT TO OFFER THIS IS NEIR AN EASY . NOR . MAGIC FIX ! YET AN ADRENALIN DRIVEN FIGHT & BATTLE WINS OVER ! IRRESPECTIVE OF KNOWING HOW HAVING ANOTHER BELIEVE THIS IS LOVE ! WHEN THE REALITY OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS SO TOTALLY & SERIOUSLY DIFFERERT SO STRONG & I'VE TRAGICALLY WATCHED DAMAGED GOODS WHICH INCORPORATE THE ENTIRETY TO WAY TOO MANY VOICES SOME NOW HEARD & BRAVE ENOUGH TO COME FORWARD ! SO ANDREW HOZIER CLASSIC CREATIVE ARFISTIC DESIGÑERS CHOISE ! PERFETTE ! EXCELLENTE ! BELLISIMO ! GRAZIE ! THANKYOU ! LOVE AMICO LIZA XXX
Oh my goodness 😭 You can hear how soft and silent he is when singing “his part” and how rough and aggressive the music/his voice gets when representing “her part” and it tears me apart
i dedicate this song to my best friend. his girlfriend is mentally and emotionally abusive and i hope to god he finds someone better. he deserves the world..
As a child of abuse, the first time I heard this I genuinely broke down. I didnt think I would be able to enjoy it, but after a while of listening to it I came to really realize how much this song makes me remember Im not alone, and its not as impossible as it seems to recover.
Haze Newman yes yes yes! Here are a few: -Forest Fires by Axel Flovent -Bloom by The Paper Kites -Days Move Easy by Chase McBride -Now & Then by Plàsi -The Wisp Sings by Winter Aid -Always Gold by Radical Face If you want to find more folk music, I suggest AlexRainBirdMusic, a TH-cam channel full of music. Happy listening!
this song... sounds so happy and sweet but talks about accepted abuse. i didn't catch the meaning the first few times I listened to it, I was too immersed with the tone 💓💓💓
Of course its so happy and sweet. Because to the abused its easier to convince themselves that "Oh they love me, I just keep making mistakes.", or "They make me happy and I love them too much to leave them." than to say, I need to leave and be alone. Because for just a few seconds when the person isn't harming you or hurting you, you convince yourself you see a glimmer of love in their eyes and thats enough to make you stay.
too right to be honest i havent found a song that hits me harder when given the context anyone who has been there i can relate and i know it sounds cliche but having another male talk about it hits me right in the feels...
I used to sleep to it thinking it was a love song then one day I looked up the lyrics and was like 😱 Whoa, he makes it sound so beautiful and poetic that if you don't know the lyrics you'd think it's a lovely love song.
One has to learn to respect themselves to be respected by others; its better to be alone and respect yourself than be with someone who humiliates you, you can still love that person, hell you have no choice, but you do have a choice not to live with abuse
I don't really think he's going through an abusive situation he could be just hurting by the love he feels for her like it could be a loveless love kinda thing though I guess the stains on other sheets could mean that she might be sleeping with others but if I relate to this song does that mean that the person I love is an abusive person or maybe I'm thinking to much yeah it's bad to compare songs to people bc they aren't true
Olivia Salinas no this song was about his abusive relationship love. He made it sound like a love song to show how hard it is to hate someone for their actions just bc of how much you love them. It’s quite the song.
this song is like how people say “if there’s more hurt than happy, you should end it” but you want to do anything but that, because sometimes the bad lows are worth the really good highs, even if it doesn’t work out in the end
This song makes me cry because it’s talking about such a destructive thing but he somehow finds a way to change that into such a slow and calming song it’s.... it’s just beautiful and makes me cry every time i listen to the song and makes my younger memory’s flow back.🥺☺️😌
I don’t think people realize that hozier recorded this at 5am on the top of an abandoned hotel that’s why you can hear the birds and he did it all by himself
My first time ever hearing this song was a few weeks ago. I was sitting in my room listening to pandora and this came in. Not even halfway through the song I broke down in tears. I was taken back to my childhood when my father would abuse me and my brother behind our mothers back. He told me that if I were to ever say anything then he'd kill my little brother. He would openly abuse our mother in front of us and would abuse drugs and alcohol. He would even drug my mom so she couldn't get out of the bed. He would then rape her. She worked night shift so she was usually asleep or at work. I hid this from my mother and everyone for 9 years. This was until one day I couldn't handle it anymore and was thinking about finally committing suicide. My little brother who is only a year and a half younger than me walked in asking if I'd hang out with him. And I did. Later that night when my mom was about to leave for work I told her that I needed to talk to her. We stood in the yard in the headlights as I pulled my turtleneck off and showed her my bruises. I slowly told her everything that was going on over the course of a few weeks. Finally on my 11th birthday she made him leave and filed for divorce. Me being kindhearted and wanting to believe there was still good in him I gave him one more chance. He continued to be verbally and mentally abusive towards me and my brother for a little over a year. I called it quits and stopped talking to him. My little brother still wanted his dad in his life so we didn't stop him. My brothers 12th birthday he promised to come get my brother for his birthday and hang out with him. After several hours of my little brother waiting he never showed. I called him and went off. I told him if he ever tried to contact me or my brother again I would call the law and file for harrassment and I would get a restraining order against him. I'm about to be 19 and I havent heard from him since I was 14.
Wow, reading your story-- very similar to mine and my sisters. I understand that raw anger, that pain that comes from deep inside you, the guilt. please contact me if you ever need someone to talk to or perhaps maybe a friend 🧡 I am too turning 20. I stopped talking to my father once I turned 13. my insta is invaded.by.mars , my twitter is willowwarrior.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, and so grateful of the fact that you didn't take your life, i'm so happy that now you and your family found your peace. I wish you all the best, have a good life 🌇🌷
the change between "the way she TELLS me im hers" to "the way she SHOWS me im hers" makes me think that he now associates her abusing hand as her way of saying she loves him
I agree, I was in a toxic abusive relationship too. Found the strength to get out of it a few months ago, am much stronger now. I pray for everyone to have the strength. The universe is with you.
dude i've only heard like 2 of hozier's songs and... sounds like he's had a rough life? if he's writing from experience, that is. the songs i've heard have both had depressing lyrics :/
not necessarily alot of his songs derive from very controversial topics that he believes should be noticed by the public in the media. this one deals with domestic abuse and his most popular song Take Me To Church is a result of anti-LGBT groups as well as the Catholic Church. Not really depressing just kinda eye-opening.
Auva Stratos i think its what he saw in Ireland. all thw abuse irish women tend to take... well from my experience... and the growing opiate habits growing and well just hypocrisy of religous belief and what i call the good ol Catholic guilt. he just found a beautiful, respectful and amazing way to tell their stories..
It's such a beautiful and mesmerizing song, just as I'm sure it can be absolutely mesmerising to have the person you love be this way to you. Because when you love them you're vulnerable, you want to trust them with your heart your body and your mind. It really shows how sometimes, somehow, despite what they do to you, you can still trust them again, you can continue to trust them over and over again, to the point where you've been convinced that in some way, the abuse is affection. These abusers are terrifying, but sometimes you're so illusioned that they're beautiful to you, mesmerizing even. At least that's the message I got from the song; to say the speaker is illusioned, and so Hozier as the singer wants us not only to see what the speaker doesn't, but also see why they don't. I really appreciate the little things like how he goes up on, "she tells me I'm Hers," and then goes down faintly, softly and still affectionately, but with a subconscious disbelief that, "and she is mine." Honestly this song is gorgeous, and heartbreaking.
This is the most beautiful song ive ever heard. "Her fight and fury is fiery oh but she loves like sleep to the freezing" it's the absolute best written lyric I've ever heard.
Hearing this song makes me think of the times my mom could get very abusive while having one of her frequent bouts of depression. My father could be abusive as well, but he was more of the absent kind. They have both mellowed and sweetened over the years, so we do not speak more of those times. It's like it never happened. Anyway, thanks so much Hozier 💜
This is my favorite song😍❤The lyrics are so beautiful yet they tell of an abusive/toxic relationship so it merges together to form a song that is hauntingly beautiful, some might say.
this song doesn't seem masochistic at all. more like a serious case of stolkholm syndrom. *edit: i don't mean to say like literal stockholm syndrome as in his lover is a kidnapper, but the feelings associated with stockholm syndrome, yk the whole staying w someone who has wronged you yet for some reason seeing what they've done as affection and staying regardless. i hope this was just a song and nothing else. otherwise, it's really sad he went through this.
I feel as though the speaker may see it as perhaps masochistic, but as a song writer Hozier completely means to show how easy it is to romanticise abuse, and mistake it for affection, so yeah crazy Stockholm Syndrome.
it's about the uglier parts of love- the singer is trying to justify what their partner does to them, the singer is trying to brush it off because he's in love.
It doesn't have to be one or the other, it can also be both. There is no doubt that the contrast of the song's gentle melody and its horrifying lyrics is crafted on purpose. Statistically, the victim in an abusive relationship is very unlikely to leave the situation before it's too late (meaning they get seriously injured, psychologically damaged or even die). For those who have never been in this sort of relationship, it is hard to imagine that it's possible to love an abuser. That's because they instantly imagine a situation between two strangers. If someone hurts you, you have to leave, right? It doesn't work this way when you are hurt by a loved one. Abusers don't show this side of their personality in the very beginning. Violence may occur when the bond has already been made, when both are already emotionally involved, when good memories have been created. Once you see this side of them, you already care for them deeply and want "to save them". This song is so to the point, it's one of the most masterful pieces on abusive relationships. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
Hey just wanna say I agree with you that it doesn't sound masochistic. However I think it sounds more about emotional abuse than Stockholm syndrome. They're both different but similar. Emotional abuse causes you to be drawn back in and out despite them hurting your mental health. Just thought it was an interesting tidbit I had to add ha
the lyrics depict a woman beating her boyfriend/husband while the music video depicts a man beating her husband/boyfriend. so all in all Hoizer is a beast, he talks about things in music that people like to sweep under the rug.
I mostly feel that this song belongs to the early spring, when there's still snow, but it's almost gone, and you realise that the outside nature finally have a smell again. The smell of the earth. But hey, guess what. I just discovered that it was also really nice to FEEL it with in a coldd day of mid winter. But today, it's a shinny day. The sun is rising and reflect on the snow like a thousand sun in you eyes so your keep them close, or barely open and you feel his hotness keeping you so so warm for a split second and you enjoy it all, you take everything you can and even if you are at your lowest, for a second, you feel all the better in the world. You feel overwhelmed but a cloud take's your sun away and the cold grisp you even harder and the melancholy return.
I was in plenty of abusive relationships my worst one was this year he would always tell me what to do and always threaten to hit me and always made me do things I hate like not talk to my sister or always told me to not wear that or even worse told me to take my clothes off.....😔😔 but I'm stronger now...I have a fiance who loves me and cares for me and protects me through thick and thin he always has my back and I always have his we may fight sometimes but I love him very very much he is so so so amazing
Don't have someone protect you, don't live your life counting on "someone" to make you happy, to have your back... and so on. This is why those types of dudes "found" you sweetie. Be your own protector, be your own happiness. Look at what you've been through and yet here you are, still standing You my dear are strong, you're a bonafide badass. Remember that.
I’m so glad you got out of that horrible situation! I’m glad that you’re doing better now. You did not deserve to go through the abuse that you went though at all. Your ex-boyfriend sounds absolutely terrible I’m so glad you’re not with him anymore.
Hozier hits me right where it hurts and I love it so much because it makes me feel alive and brings out all my repressed emotions and in the end I feel better.🕊
i love how this song is masked as a love song but looking deeper you realize how abusive the relationship is. it really reflects how relationships can seem perfect on the outside but have dark secrets
I know its probably not about this but it really helps me with my recovery from anorexia and bulimia, thankypu and for anyone else who suffers with these stay safe and please try to get help. I know its hard now but it will be worth it 😘❤️ stay strong.
Girl at a school talent show played this tonight and I just knew I had to come find it. Happy coincidence about a sad song. Funny how life does that eh?
It kind of is; when in a toxic relationship, the abuser keeps the victim in love with them so they can keep abusing them. The victim stays because they think that this is the type of love that they deserve, they don't think they're good enough for anything better.
perfect for one sided angst love story between bitter enemies, like one lets the other do whatever they want cuz they love them to much to stop them from doing anything, but its not given back, its just purely one sided,
It's the studio recording (him). The file was slowed down a bit hence the jitteriness (pretty distracting imo) and pitch raised a half step. If this is avoid any copyright strikes, I don't understand but hey, at least it's here.
i used to listen to this song carelessly, not a thought in the world as to what the lyrics meant. i’ve just recently made it out of a disgustingly abusive relationship, and only now have i come to understand the real meaning of this song. this is my first time in awhile listening to it, granted, but the way i used to so ignorantly listen to this song hits me hard now, like i’ve been ignoring his (Hozier’s) abuse, as well as my own at the time. i’m so glad i’ve opened my eyes.
I know this song is about an abusive relationship, but I've always related to it because of my eating disorder. I know it's unhealthy and bad and it makes me upset, but yet when I feel like I'm losing control I always go back to it because it gives me that sense of control and being clean even though it's ugly.
I know that no one will ever see this comment but who ever may see this,I just wanted to tell you something Go to a mirror,look into it. Do you see that? 👀 That is a beautiful,and strong person that is worth every star in the sky,and every leaf on every tree. That is someone that deserves the world and so much more. That person is you,ofcourse. Now give yourself a hug. It's ok to cry. Its ok to hurt. Who ever hurt you,they never deserved you. Whoever made you cry was never worth your time. When they did what they did to you they lost an amazing,kind and loving person. You DO matter. Don't settle for someone that causes you such pain,don't settle for someone that tells you lies like "you are worthless" or runs around with someone else. You are better then that. You are better than them. Let them go, believe me I know it is easier said then done,and it's gonna hurt,but eventually you will feel so happy that you did that. Just remember that you are so loved,and people do care.💕💕 Stay strong,you will get through this nOw StArT lOvInG yOuRsElF bEcAuSe YoU aRe PrEtTy fUcKiNg AwEsOmE!! Me >(/･ω･(-ω-)< You
The same kids I went to hs with who bitched about going over reading comprehension and "why are the curtains blue" have death eater tattoos and played this at their weddings 😭
I listened to this song throughout my teen years and I always thought that it'd be foolish to abuse the man you love. But it happens to everyone. Even movie stars.
god this song is so devastating, because it sounds so soft and sweet and romantic until you really stop and hear the words he's saying, and how fucked up they are.
I’ve loved this song for years now and never really listened to it I assumed it was a love song it’s so poetic and gentle and I never listened to the lyrics. But now I have I feel like I understand the song so much more
I get scared listening to this because I know that I am just lonely and desperate enough that if I was to land in an abusive relationship, I wouldn’t have the strength to walk away from it. If they showed me something that even looks from a distance like affection, I would latch on and not let go even if I knew deep down what it really was.
Hey, I hope you find peace and happiness, sounds cheesy but you get it. you are deserving of genuine love and affection, not something that vaguely resembles it, you might know that already but I hope you can internalize this fact.
Unfortunately I used to be the same way and this resulted in a string of toxic relationships where I was extremely passive and dependent (I have DPD so that doesn't help lol). Then I found my current partner of 4 years. There's such a thing as love without pain. I know this now. Know that you deserve nothing less than that. I hope you find someone like that someday so you can heal those feelings of longing and insecurity that I know and remember so well.
My relationship of 6 years ended. At first I was sad and really missed him, but now I'm able to see how cold and cruel he was. He never hit me, but he would definitely yell, put me down, and blame me for his problems and for him being unhappy. The convincing yourself it's worth it and focusing on the good parts is so relatable. I always told myself I could never be in a relationship that I wasn't 100% happy in, I now see that I was miserable.
A girl recently broke my heart and I've been so depressed I've never felt so bad in my life. But there's a new girl who I started talking to and she told me to listen to this. I'm smiling
I know this is a song about a couple but the fact that I'm not the only one that relates it more with their relationship with their parents it's...something.
![[LIVE] : ONE ลุมพินี 70 | คู่เอก "โฟกัส vs สเตฟาน"](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/_fVieQ89DRQ/mqdefault.jpg)
![[Live สด] การออกรางวัลสลากกินแบ่งรัฐบาล งวดวันที่ 16 กรกฎาคม 2567](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/B8gcGM6I6e4/mqdefault.jpg)
The saddest aspect of this song is that it's still, first and foremost, a love song.
I agree.
Imo Iove this song the feelings the pain heals. When I need yo digest some trauma this helps. Where as say, florence and the machines- Kiss with A Fist, is more when I'm feeling sassy and frisky about the trauma if that makes sense. And then I enjoy Amanda palmer when feeling vindictive. And Ani Difranco Dilate or
Napoleon or angry anymore, they are when I'm feeling more healed and confident
@@EclecticG those are all my moods rolled into one
I guess he likes it rough 😂
it shows how hard it is to differentiate a healthy relationship and a toxic one, so yes, it is a love song in a certain way
It's about domestic abuse
In an Instagram Q&A, Hozier explained the line “she looks like sleep to the freezing,”, stating that the idea is that if someone who is freezing falls asleep, it will likely kill them, but to them sleep looks very attractive because it is relief of their suffering. So, although she is dangerous and will likely be the end of him, he is not strong enough to overcome her temptation.
that line is just so good.
thank you for this 💌 so pure and beautiful 🤧
I thought it said sleet to the freezing
yeah it is
@@siamandhaniya2083 He might have been rejected by her.
That’s deep. . .
"Like sleep to the freezing"
You know it'll kill you, but it's comforting all the same
ET Alii exactly. A particularly brilliant lyric from him.
I like it, how I saw it was like her love is empty, it’s like trying to get sleep when freezing you can’t, you shift and move and shiver and try desperately to get sleep but can’t.
disgustipatedwon I interpreted it completely differently. Freezing is incredibly uncomfortable, falling asleep is probably bliss to them. It's a blessed escape from misery. He's talking about the good times and how amazing they are, and using them to justify staying during the bad times.
I thought it was more like loved to death ..... because sleeping whilst freezing would most likely mean death
Candace TenEyck heyyy what he’s trying to say is when a person gets really cold.. as in about to die from hypothermia... you get realllly sleepy. Thats your body giving up.
“Oh but she loves, like sleep to the freezing” is probably the most poetic statement I’ll ever know
I’m bad at understand poetic remarks but what does it mean ?
@@kadetunit1330 People in freezing conditions tend to get tempted/want to to fall asleep by the cold, however if they do they will die. So I guess he's trying to say that her love is tempting and wanted but dangerous at the same time?
solarjetica thanks! My non english as a mother tongue ass could never
@@maytiPaTd No problem. Happy to help!
undershirtless colfer my English native ass could never as well hahahah
he recorded this at 5 am on a rooftop of an abandoned building.
Kt And Mer Vlogs Rlly????
Sounds about right that's where he belongs
Some of the most amazing recordings are in the most authentic and isolated places.
That adds up
@@spider_plantt that sounds like a threat lmao 😂😂😂
hozier is so underrated
So true
But in a way, he’s our secret gem 💎
While I'm happy he got early commercial success cause he deserves it, him becoming a secret oasis for us is so nice.
2020 and still relatable
He's more than just take me to church
In 2 of the verses its "The way she tells me" while the 3rd is "The way she shows me" Words turned into actions....
dangg
These Little Details Fuck Me Up
Blood is rare *
Actually, lyrics are wrong. It's tells the first time, shows the other two times.
AAAAA well yes lmao, I see it now..!
Jk, but I now think that it shows the development in the relationship if u know what i mean
Wow this song sounds so raw and sweet like honey, yet when you listen to the lyrics it's actually horrifying. The contrast hits you like a brick. Not sure how to feel about this. With that said this song is so beautiful, masterly crafted.
Like a ton of bricks. Its beautifully horrifying. Its shedding light on a completely different point of view in domestic violence. The emotional rollercoaster wreckage it reaps on both parties.
@@chelbiebaysinger78HI CHELBIE BAYS THE SONG AS YOU SO DULY NOTED FULL OF ALL THE HAVOC & DEVASTATION WEAVED WITHIN THE WEB OF LIES & DECIET CONTINUOSLY SPREAD & INFECTS NOT ONLY TWO PRIMARY PLAYERS ! ALSO ENTIRE FAMILIES ! WHO ONLY WATCH ON WITH DESPAIR ! INSTEAD A SUPPORTING & WAITING GAME ENSUES & EVEN WITH THE FINAL , REALISATION & ALL THE SUPPORT TO OFFER THIS IS NEIR AN EASY . NOR . MAGIC FIX ! YET AN ADRENALIN DRIVEN FIGHT & BATTLE WINS OVER ! IRRESPECTIVE OF KNOWING HOW HAVING ANOTHER BELIEVE THIS IS LOVE ! WHEN THE REALITY OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS SO TOTALLY & SERIOUSLY DIFFERERT SO STRONG & I'VE TRAGICALLY WATCHED DAMAGED GOODS WHICH INCORPORATE THE ENTIRETY TO WAY TOO MANY VOICES SOME NOW HEARD & BRAVE ENOUGH TO COME FORWARD ! SO ANDREW HOZIER CLASSIC CREATIVE ARFISTIC DESIGÑERS CHOISE ! PERFETTE ! EXCELLENTE ! BELLISIMO ! GRAZIE ! THANKYOU ! LOVE AMICO LIZA XXX
@Faeryn GullyVery nice. Form is function.
The song was recorded at 5 am on the roof of an abandoned hotel
chelbie baysinger Oh dude I legit thought this was just BDSM and he's a sub
“Open hand or closed fist would be fine”
Hit me really hard
Like she did to him
Ouch
You ok kermit? Miss piggy treating you right?
Thanks dad
Louve
Oh my goodness 😭 You can hear how soft and silent he is when singing “his part” and how rough and aggressive the music/his voice gets when representing “her part” and it tears me apart
“What do you love about music?”
“It can tell us the saddest of tales and stories but it’ll still be so magical”
“I love beautiful melodies telling me terrible things”
i dedicate this song to my best friend. his girlfriend is mentally and emotionally abusive and i hope to god he finds someone better. he deserves the world..
I hope he is doing better and left her 💕
it's been 3 years so i REALLY hope he found the courage to leave her
Usually, that means she is hurting and needs help. Nobody should accept that forever. You move forward together or let your demons tear you apart.
As a child of abuse, the first time I heard this I genuinely broke down. I didnt think I would be able to enjoy it, but after a while of listening to it I came to really realize how much this song makes me remember Im not alone, and its not as impossible as it seems to recover.
Was a child of abuse and this speaks straight to my heart.
I hope you’re away from the people who abused you and are feeling stronger and freer now.
@@faristasairuv5143 Thank you❤ I am; haven't really seen him in almost three years. I'm doing so so much better now. Thank you for caring❤
I’m so glad you’re doing better now! You deserve to be happy.
Does anyone know anymore folk like songs that are this soft and gentle? I just love how quite and sweet they are
Haze Newman yes yes yes! Here are a few:
-Forest Fires by Axel Flovent
-Bloom by The Paper Kites
-Days Move Easy by Chase McBride
-Now & Then by Plàsi
-The Wisp Sings by Winter Aid
-Always Gold by Radical Face
If you want to find more folk music, I suggest AlexRainBirdMusic, a TH-cam channel full of music. Happy listening!
The Oh Hellos are great for soft, gentle, folksy music
Anything by Tommy Ashby (especially Further and Passing through)
Chris knight Down the river
Haze Newman The tallest man on earth
this song... sounds so happy and sweet but talks about accepted abuse. i didn't catch the meaning the first few times I listened to it, I was too immersed with the tone 💓💓💓
Of course its so happy and sweet. Because to the abused its easier to convince themselves that "Oh they love me, I just keep making mistakes.", or "They make me happy and I love them too much to leave them." than to say, I need to leave and be alone. Because for just a few seconds when the person isn't harming you or hurting you, you convince yourself you see a glimmer of love in their eyes and thats enough to make you stay.
Anindita Howlader yeah same
too right to be honest i havent found a song that hits me harder when given the context anyone who has been there i can relate and i know it sounds cliche but having another male talk about it hits me right in the feels...
I used to sleep to it thinking it was a love song then one day I looked up the lyrics and was like 😱
Whoa, he makes it sound so beautiful and poetic that if you don't know the lyrics you'd think it's a lovely love song.
Being completely in love with a bad person
Why do so many of Hozier's songs put a huge lump in my throat and heart. They're so beautiful it hurts, yet I keep coming back for more 😢
I hope anyone finds the strength to leave an abusive person. It's not easy, I know. But it's not impossible
It makes it so much harder when shes the mother of your 3 sons... We accept the love we feel we deserve.
One has to learn to respect themselves to be respected by others; its better to be alone and respect yourself than be with someone who humiliates you, you can still love that person, hell you have no choice, but you do have a choice not to live with abuse
I don't really think he's going through an abusive situation he could be just hurting by the love he feels for her like it could be a loveless love kinda thing though I guess the stains on other sheets could mean that she might be sleeping with others but if I relate to this song does that mean that the person I love is an abusive person or maybe I'm thinking to much yeah it's bad to compare songs to people bc they aren't true
Olivia Salinas no this song was about his abusive relationship love. He made it sound like a love song to show how hard it is to hate someone for their actions just bc of how much you love them. It’s quite the song.
@@elzanatecatracho6267 I am so sorry I hope you're doing ok now
this song is like how people say “if there’s more hurt than happy, you should end it” but you want to do anything but that, because sometimes the bad lows are worth the really good highs, even if it doesn’t work out in the end
I love how raw this song is
His voice gives me the chills
Skylar Johnson ikr, damn
This song makes me cry because it’s talking about such a destructive thing but he somehow finds a way to change that into such a slow and calming song it’s.... it’s just beautiful and makes me cry every time i listen to the song and makes my younger memory’s flow back.🥺☺️😌
i cry every time 😢
I don’t think people realize that hozier recorded this at 5am on the top of an abandoned hotel that’s why you can hear the birds and he did it all by himself
this is such a great representation of abusive/ toxic relationship. Stay loving this song 💕
kinda sorta sab ?? Someone say Toxic?
+Natesax YOUR PROFILE PIC IS AMAZING!!!
Selma Cantu thank you thank you! Only one of my favorite bands ;d
kinda sorta sab ?? I
kinda sorta sab ?? I kinda cried when I read this because it’s so relevant
My first time ever hearing this song was a few weeks ago. I was sitting in my room listening to pandora and this came in. Not even halfway through the song I broke down in tears. I was taken back to my childhood when my father would abuse me and my brother behind our mothers back. He told me that if I were to ever say anything then he'd kill my little brother. He would openly abuse our mother in front of us and would abuse drugs and alcohol. He would even drug my mom so she couldn't get out of the bed. He would then rape her. She worked night shift so she was usually asleep or at work. I hid this from my mother and everyone for 9 years. This was until one day I couldn't handle it anymore and was thinking about finally committing suicide. My little brother who is only a year and a half younger than me walked in asking if I'd hang out with him. And I did. Later that night when my mom was about to leave for work I told her that I needed to talk to her. We stood in the yard in the headlights as I pulled my turtleneck off and showed her my bruises. I slowly told her everything that was going on over the course of a few weeks. Finally on my 11th birthday she made him leave and filed for divorce. Me being kindhearted and wanting to believe there was still good in him I gave him one more chance. He continued to be verbally and mentally abusive towards me and my brother for a little over a year. I called it quits and stopped talking to him. My little brother still wanted his dad in his life so we didn't stop him. My brothers 12th birthday he promised to come get my brother for his birthday and hang out with him. After several hours of my little brother waiting he never showed. I called him and went off. I told him if he ever tried to contact me or my brother again I would call the law and file for harrassment and I would get a restraining order against him. I'm about to be 19 and I havent heard from him since I was 14.
I know this song is about a relationship between a couple but I took it differently.
thank you for sharing your story. the strength it took for you to not only get thru that but to be able to share it is amazing ❤
Hugs from a stranger. It was very brave of you to share your story. I hope you're better now :(
Wow, reading your story-- very similar to mine and my sisters. I understand that raw anger, that pain that comes from deep inside you, the guilt. please contact me if you ever need someone to talk to or perhaps maybe a friend 🧡 I am too turning 20. I stopped talking to my father once I turned 13. my insta is invaded.by.mars , my twitter is willowwarrior.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, and so grateful of the fact that you didn't take your life, i'm so happy that now you and your family found your peace. I wish you all the best, have a good life 🌇🌷
the change between "the way she TELLS me im hers" to "the way she SHOWS me im hers" makes me think that he now associates her abusing hand as her way of saying she loves him
gives me chills every time
was once in a relationship like this
you never forget it
this song brings it all back
it follows you like a ghost
I’m glad you’re out of that relationship. You deserve to be free and respected and valued as a person and treated as an equal and safe and happy.
I agree, I was in a toxic abusive relationship too. Found the strength to get out of it a few months ago, am much stronger now. I pray for everyone to have the strength. The universe is with you.
dude i've only heard like 2 of hozier's songs and... sounds like he's had a rough life? if he's writing from experience, that is. the songs i've heard have both had depressing lyrics :/
not necessarily alot of his songs derive from very controversial topics that he believes should be noticed by the public in the media. this one deals with domestic abuse and his most popular song Take Me To Church is a result of anti-LGBT groups as well as the Catholic Church. Not really depressing just kinda eye-opening.
Tobias LaCrose Yeah that's true, thanks!
Auva Stratos i think its what he saw in Ireland. all thw abuse irish women tend to take... well from my experience... and the growing opiate habits growing and well just hypocrisy of religous belief and what i call the good ol Catholic guilt. he just found a beautiful, respectful and amazing way to tell their stories..
yeah i must agree he has a bit of a broken soul.. Know i do. &d i find so much comfort in his songs 😔
He put his own twist on a single verse of another song. Pretty amazing
It's such a beautiful and mesmerizing song, just as I'm sure it can be absolutely mesmerising to have the person you love be this way to you. Because when you love them you're vulnerable, you want to trust them with your heart your body and your mind. It really shows how sometimes, somehow, despite what they do to you, you can still trust them again, you can continue to trust them over and over again, to the point where you've been convinced that in some way, the abuse is affection. These abusers are terrifying, but sometimes you're so illusioned that they're beautiful to you, mesmerizing even.
At least that's the message I got from the song; to say the speaker is illusioned, and so Hozier as the singer wants us not only to see what the speaker doesn't, but also see why they don't.
I really appreciate the little things like how he goes up on, "she tells me I'm Hers," and then goes down faintly, softly and still affectionately, but with a subconscious disbelief that, "and she is mine." Honestly this song is gorgeous, and heartbreaking.
wow..I’m definitely gonna have a crisis now. knew better than to listen to Hozier at midnight.
bro you think midnight hits different try 4 am
Are you alright? Are you free?
It just hits different late at night
This is the most beautiful song ive ever heard. "Her fight and fury is fiery oh but she loves like sleep to the freezing" it's the absolute best written lyric I've ever heard.
Hearing this song makes me think of the times my mom could get very abusive while having one of her frequent bouts of depression. My father could be abusive as well, but he was more of the absent kind. They have both mellowed and sweetened over the years, so we do not speak more of those times. It's like it never happened. Anyway, thanks so much Hozier 💜
This is my favorite song😍❤The lyrics are so beautiful yet they tell of an abusive/toxic relationship so it merges together to form a song that is hauntingly beautiful, some might say.
Much like Poe's work: sonically wonder and beautiful.
Lyrically, macabre and brutal.
Great!
this song doesn't seem masochistic at all.
more like a serious case of stolkholm syndrom. *edit: i don't mean to say like literal stockholm syndrome as in his lover is a kidnapper, but the feelings associated with stockholm syndrome, yk the whole staying w someone who has wronged you yet for some reason seeing what they've done as affection and staying regardless.
i hope this was just a song and nothing else. otherwise, it's really sad he went through this.
I feel as though the speaker may see it as perhaps masochistic, but as a song writer Hozier completely means to show how easy it is to romanticise abuse, and mistake it for affection, so yeah crazy Stockholm Syndrome.
it's about the uglier parts of love- the singer is trying to justify what their partner does to them, the singer is trying to brush it off because he's in love.
It doesn't have to be one or the other, it can also be both. There is no doubt that the contrast of the song's gentle melody and its horrifying lyrics is crafted on purpose. Statistically, the victim in an abusive relationship is very unlikely to leave the situation before it's too late (meaning they get seriously injured, psychologically damaged or even die). For those who have never been in this sort of relationship, it is hard to imagine that it's possible to love an abuser. That's because they instantly imagine a situation between two strangers. If someone hurts you, you have to leave, right? It doesn't work this way when you are hurt by a loved one. Abusers don't show this side of their personality in the very beginning. Violence may occur when the bond has already been made, when both are already emotionally involved, when good memories have been created. Once you see this side of them, you already care for them deeply and want "to save them". This song is so to the point, it's one of the most masterful pieces on abusive relationships. It's absolutely heartbreaking.
Hey just wanna say I agree with you that it doesn't sound masochistic. However I think it sounds more about emotional abuse than Stockholm syndrome. They're both different but similar. Emotional abuse causes you to be drawn back in and out despite them hurting your mental health. Just thought it was an interesting tidbit I had to add ha
Its been a year
died when he sang staining the sheets of some other
Kyla Matrimony what's your interpretation of that?
my interpretation of that is while they are hurting each other the other is cheating ...at least that's what I see
i understood the same.
Rip
While she's trying to say he's guilty and make him feel awful, like he deserves her abuse, it's actually her going out and betraying him
the lyrics depict a woman beating her boyfriend/husband while the music video depicts a man beating her husband/boyfriend. so all in all Hoizer is a beast, he talks about things in music that people like to sweep under the rug.
I always thought it said "I'm tired of her breathing" instead of "in the tide of her breathing"
jamie in chains wow that's even darker!
Hahahahaha
I mostly feel that this song belongs to the early spring, when there's still snow, but it's almost gone, and you realise that the outside nature finally have a smell again. The smell of the earth. But hey, guess what. I just discovered that it was also really nice to FEEL it with in a coldd day of mid winter. But today, it's a shinny day. The sun is rising and reflect on the snow like a thousand sun in you eyes so your keep them close, or barely open and you feel his hotness keeping you so so warm for a split second and you enjoy it all, you take everything you can and even if you are at your lowest, for a second, you feel all the better in the world. You feel overwhelmed but a cloud take's your sun away and the cold grisp you even harder and the melancholy return.
bro it snowed 2 days ago wym 'almost over'
“and it’s worth it, it’s divine, i have it some of the time.” :((
I came here to cry but I have been soothed in a sad way
"while she stains the sheet of other" another very beautiful line with deep meaning.
i love how these heartbreaking lyrics are weaved into a beautiful melody.
I was in plenty of abusive relationships my worst one was this year he would always tell me what to do and always threaten to hit me and always made me do things I hate like not talk to my sister or always told me to not wear that or even worse told me to take my clothes off.....😔😔 but I'm stronger now...I have a fiance who loves me and cares for me and protects me through thick and thin he always has my back and I always have his we may fight sometimes but I love him very very much he is so so so amazing
I hope you're alright now 💗
Tiffany Grover Im glad you've found someone better :) I wish you all the best in your new relationship and everything you do
Don't have someone protect you, don't live your life counting on "someone" to make you happy, to have your back... and so on. This is why those types of dudes "found" you sweetie. Be your own protector, be your own happiness. Look at what you've been through and yet here you are, still standing
You my dear are strong, you're a bonafide badass. Remember that.
I’m so glad you got out of that horrible situation! I’m glad that you’re doing better now. You did not deserve to go through the abuse that you went though at all. Your ex-boyfriend sounds absolutely terrible I’m so glad you’re not with him anymore.
It’s wonderful that you got free.
the juxtaposition of the melody vs the meaning... wow. this is art.
Hozier hits me right where it hurts and I love it so much because it makes me feel alive and brings out all my repressed emotions and in the end I feel better.🕊
This song prepared me for the breakup I didn't know was coming. The lyrics put a lot into perspective. Music really is a wonder.
i love how this song is masked as a love song but looking deeper you realize how abusive the relationship is. it really reflects how relationships can seem perfect on the outside but have dark secrets
this song is so painful to hear, but it’s so comforting, because it feels like you aren’t alone in whatever situation you relate this song to
Wow...this song is so sad, and powerful. Hozier is a poet. I'm blown away by every song.
I know its probably not about this but it really helps me with my recovery from anorexia and bulimia, thankypu and for anyone else who suffers with these stay safe and please try to get help. I know its hard now but it will be worth it 😘❤️ stay strong.
Girl at a school talent show played this tonight and I just knew I had to come find it. Happy coincidence about a sad song. Funny how life does that eh?
So many emotions in one song, love it!
This is the most beautiful portrayal of an abusive relationship I've ever heard.
and here I thought this was a love song 😳😶
it is. for people who love others more than enough and don't love themselves enough.
It kind of is; when in a toxic relationship, the abuser keeps the victim in love with them so they can keep abusing them. The victim stays because they think that this is the type of love that they deserve, they don't think they're good enough for anything better.
this song feels like your heart is flying
Hozier is amazing jfc 💞
absolutely
hozier is the shakespeare of the music industry
I never knew such a song could be this pretty
perfect for one sided angst love story between bitter enemies, like one lets the other do whatever they want cuz they love them to much to stop them from doing anything, but its not given back, its just purely one sided,
" she loves like sleep to the freezing"
I know what it is to love an abusive person
and good god, its exactly like that
I hope you’re ok now
I seriously believe this song helps me to calm down when I'm feeling anxious or overwhelmed
2020 is a nightmare 💘
Anyone notice that this song is in another key? Look at any other version and you'll see what I'm talking about
Anyone else feel like Hozier doesn't sound like himself here?
yea cause it's not him i think😬 might be a cover tbh
It's the studio recording (him). The file was slowed down a bit hence the jitteriness (pretty distracting imo) and pitch raised a half step. If this is avoid any copyright strikes, I don't understand but hey, at least it's here.
This song pains me in ways words cannot describe.
Thanks u guys for telling the meaning of beautiful line "like to sleep to freezing" it has really deep meaning.
i used to listen to this song carelessly, not a thought in the world as to what the lyrics meant. i’ve just recently made it out of a disgustingly abusive relationship, and only now have i come to understand the real meaning of this song. this is my first time in awhile listening to it, granted, but the way i used to so ignorantly listen to this song hits me hard now, like i’ve been ignoring his (Hozier’s) abuse, as well as my own at the time. i’m so glad i’ve opened my eyes.
I kind of get it now
The song is sweet, a love song
But the lyrics are the painful truth
His emotion and love vs reality
his songs hit me in the heart. and his voice gives me goosebumps. obsessed with every. single. song.
I know this song is about an abusive relationship, but I've always related to it because of my eating disorder. I know it's unhealthy and bad and it makes me upset, but yet when I feel like I'm losing control I always go back to it because it gives me that sense of control and being clean even though it's ugly.
...the person who hurt me was the one who showed me this song
Makes you think...
I know that no one will ever see this comment but who ever may see this,I just wanted to tell you something
Go to a mirror,look into it.
Do you see that? 👀
That is a beautiful,and strong person that is worth every star in the sky,and every leaf on every tree. That is someone that deserves the world and so much more. That person is you,ofcourse. Now give yourself a hug. It's ok to cry. Its ok to hurt. Who ever hurt you,they never deserved you. Whoever made you cry was never worth your time. When they did what they did to you they lost an amazing,kind and loving person. You DO matter. Don't settle for someone that causes you such pain,don't settle for someone that tells you lies like "you are worthless" or runs around with someone else. You are better then that. You are better than them. Let them go, believe me I know it is easier said then done,and it's gonna hurt,but eventually you will feel so happy that you did that. Just remember that you are so loved,and people do care.💕💕
Stay strong,you will get through this
nOw StArT lOvInG yOuRsElF bEcAuSe YoU aRe PrEtTy fUcKiNg AwEsOmE!!
Me >(/･ω･(-ω-)< You
I somehow feel like this song is about my relationship with my mom
I'm also obsessed with this song and I partially relate to it, but to everyone that does experience this... I hope you become safe one day.
A song about abuse has no right being so poetic and beautiful :(
The same kids I went to hs with who bitched about going over reading comprehension and "why are the curtains blue" have death eater tattoos and played this at their weddings 😭
Maybe they arent feeling well. Some think this type of "love" is the only type of love.
Sounds like real people
Jake Mason This is my favorite comment
Because of how this sounds I always assumed this was a sweet love song, this is my first time actually reading the lyrics and oh boy...
I know this song is supposed to be about an abusive romantic relationship but this really reminds me of my mom
My daughter introduced me to this beautiful song I cried I felt the pain. I been in both situations. My daughter had no idea why I cried.
i know this is about an abusive relationship between like, two romantic partners but i cant help thinking of my mom when i hear this :/
I listened to this song throughout my teen years and I always thought that it'd be foolish to abuse the man you love. But it happens to everyone. Even movie stars.
god this song is so devastating, because it sounds so soft and sweet and romantic until you really stop and hear the words he's saying, and how fucked up they are.
This is a masterpiece.
This song oh my god 😍😍
jamie in chains ko
This is the very first song to give me chills in a LONG time. Very serious chills
so rare and sweet like cherry wine
His love songs feel like hymns made to worship his lovers with his entire being holy h e l l this is breathtaking
this is about a woman abusing a man in a relationship.
I’ve loved this song for years now and never really listened to it I assumed it was a love song it’s so poetic and gentle and I never listened to the lyrics. But now I have I feel like I understand the song so much more
Best song ever
I get scared listening to this because I know that I am just lonely and desperate enough that if I was to land in an abusive relationship, I wouldn’t have the strength to walk away from it. If they showed me something that even looks from a distance like affection, I would latch on and not let go even if I knew deep down what it really was.
Hey, I hope you find peace and happiness, sounds cheesy but you get it. you are deserving of genuine love and affection, not something that vaguely resembles it, you might know that already but I hope you can internalize this fact.
I feel the same way and this happens to me {not physical abuse} because in my mind the good is worth the bad
Unfortunately I used to be the same way and this resulted in a string of toxic relationships where I was extremely passive and dependent (I have DPD so that doesn't help lol). Then I found my current partner of 4 years. There's such a thing as love without pain. I know this now. Know that you deserve nothing less than that. I hope you find someone like that someday so you can heal those feelings of longing and insecurity that I know and remember so well.
I love this song♡
My relationship of 6 years ended. At first I was sad and really missed him, but now I'm able to see how cold and cruel he was. He never hit me, but he would definitely yell, put me down, and blame me for his problems and for him being unhappy. The convincing yourself it's worth it and focusing on the good parts is so relatable. I always told myself I could never be in a relationship that I wasn't 100% happy in, I now see that I was miserable.
Hozier always gets it.
I'm tearing up to this song , still can't over my first love
Regienell Lagarde Same
A girl recently broke my heart and I've been so depressed I've never felt so bad in my life. But there's a new girl who I started talking to and she told me to listen to this. I'm smiling
I hope you're in a better place and I wish you'll find peace and happiness in your life :)))
Uh
This song isn't a um
Love song
Perfect timing 🍒♥️
I know this is a song about a couple but the fact that I'm not the only one that relates it more with their relationship with their parents it's...something.
He's quite the poet, most of us have been in this kind of relationship at one time or another, liked this very much, gonna check him out
!!! Love all Hozier's music