They're both pretty down to earth. They also like to involve everyone in the conversation instead of being one of those guys that pretends one person in the conversation doesn't exist which I view to be a form of passive aggressiveness, even if that wasn't their intention.
I really wanna see this video discussed by Wes, Phil and Ted. They've been together for SO LONG so it'd be nice to see how they juggle friendship and film~
lol. It reminds me of the times when Wes and Ted would say that they're better friends with each other than they are with Phil because they met each other first.
I think a best friend is someone who you go to to make each other happy, to share your secrets, to share moments, and to make each other laugh. Best friends should always be by your side, even during the toughest time of your life. You should be able to understand each other, and be able to be there when you need each other the most. 👯
And also, you should always be excited and super happy to see them everyday, let them know you love them and let them know you're their best friend by running in to their arms when you first see each other in the day. Me and one of my best friends run into each other's arms every time we see each other! Even if we see each other like, an hour ago, we always hug each other because we show each other that we care about each other. 💖
I'm on board with virtually every stance Ashley had lol, especially the "not good about texting" and "I don't like talking on the phone". Since I moved around a few times as a kid, I don't have many "childhood friends". My longest running best friends are mostly from college. I have a handful of good friends from high school, two or three deserve best friend status. It takes me a while to open up, so people who put in the effort to wait me out are usually genuine (in my opinion). I value understanding, honesty, and patience. There are things I'm into doing and things I'm not into doing. I don't need to be ridiculed for it, just note it and keep it moving. If we can be on the same page with some of those quirks? Even better. Dwindling friendships are painful to me, but it's a reality.
I think I value the intentionality the most. Like, how much effort people put into your relationships, usually keeping in touch or making the effort to get together.
I feel like everyone should have many best friends and so you have a group of people to trust and sure sometimes there is a slight bias towards a certain amount of people, but it doesn't change that fact that you still all care for one another.
🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻 that's me and my bestie. Been friends since birth. Family have been friends for over 20 years. We usually don't catch up and talk on the daily. It's usually a few months later do we make plans to catch up and include each other on what we've been up to. I honestly prefer it this way. Although some times it can get lonely, when we do meet up we have a lot to say and on our times off we get to learn to be independent and have time to do our own hobbies, meet new people, etc. 😊 it also causes for less chances to get into an argument for some thing stupid and small.
I would say I agree with Jenn's concept of making friends. People come and go and I don't put effort into making new friends and telling you more personal details about my life unless I know you're here to stay. 😛 it's never bad to be a bit cautious since I will never know if these people will end up stabbing me in the back using info they know about me.
I am honestly just curious.... Did you always think this way in terms of being more cautious and careful about who you let in? Or did that occur over time and having had more friendships that had burned you/that ended up backfiring? Me personally, I am more of an open, vulnerable person. It has backfired on me at times but I still try and stay true to my values and I try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. As I get older though, I do find it harder and harder to do that. And you do find yourself becoming increasingly jaded and disappointed.
Anthony Choi Definitely not. Being cautious started young. I learnt it from a situation in kindergarten. It's also good to mention that I was a shy kid and mostly liked to observe on the outside so that likely heightened my senses of being cautious. But it really kicked in when I was in grade 2 when I realized people can be mean and tell lies on purpose to hurt you. 😛 but I mean, it wasn't all bad. I learned what type of people I like to surround myself with and to not even waste time on people who I don't click with. Of course I do give the benefit of the doubt here and there. I just get a feel of the situation and adjust accordingly. * Just to add on..yes, through getting hurt I've realized this was my defence mechanism. My cautiousness helped reduce a significant amount of disappointment and pain. So I continue to go down this route. But honestly, life really is about trial and error so I try to not be too critical..
I can see where you're coming from. For me i can usually adjust to different people so I can be extroverted if i need to be. I'm a pretty cautious person though when it comes to who i keep close to me and who i open up to. It's possible to be friendly with everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt, but you have to keep in mind not everyone you meet is going to be your friend. So i think you can be cautious and open minded at the same time. I know for me I can usually just pick up on people's vibes and i can usually read people well. As you get older you have a better understanding of the kind of people you want to surround yourself with and that helps a lot.
I'm 28 and I've known my best friend since kindergarten. It was interesting to follow the lunch break discussion about the evolution of friendships as we grow up, because when we were in kindergarten, is was definitely "proximity" that lead to us being friends. When we were in different classes, we stopped playing with each other haha. But we'd always end up reconnecting the next time we were in the same class together :P Our personalities are quite different, but somehow we made it through middle school, high school, going off to different colleges, and basically leading very different lives now. We've even lived in different cities/countries for the past 10 years! But every time we see or talk to each other, it is like no time has passed at all. I definitely treasure this friendship a lot. I'm so lucky to have a friend like her!
i'm watching this at a really good timing. I'm about to leave a place I've just settled down not long ago and it's hard to say goodbye to the people I've gotten to know here, knowing that the chances of seeing each other again is slim to none. But you guys put it really well when you said that they'll always be a really good friend even if we eventually grow apart from each other, I like that. thanks, guys.
I value willingness to communicate very highly in my closer friends. If you don't feel safe enough to open up or if our friendship crashes just because we disagree, then I can't be close with you. I tend to over share and I don't expect my friends to do that or to call me all the time, but when we DO have time together, my close friends are really good about revealing what they think and feel under the surface of things. I really, really appreciate that.
I value friends who make you feel like your feelings are important, but at the same time, they are honest and objective when giving you advice or their input into a situation.
Yes same I refuse to call someone my best friend and I refuse to be best friends with anyone, I'd rather have a few close friends. Wes and I are practically similar with this
Wes! I totally can relate to you in terms of the show Friends. I watched it here and there when I was younger. I never personally got obsessed with the show. And not until I got to college did I realize it had such a cult following. It was just one of the shows that was on but never paid full attention to. Of course that is when I was in middle school... I'm sure I can relate much more to the characters and story now that I'm in my mid 20s.
i definitely agree with all of those points, especially loyalty, being positive and genuine, with also being an open person, but a 5th thing that is good to find is someone who's relatable
I think you should binge watch "F.R.I.E.N.D.S." Wes! And "Best Friends" are those friends who talk to you like you were together yesterday even when it has been so long (like 3 yrs) since you guys actually met face-to-face.
I have a friend who I actually met way back in Pre-School. We we're in the 4 year old class together, and then we ended up going to different grade schools. But THEN, for one year, she went to my grade school and we were in the same class and we were both at the same water fountain and we reunited like "hey we went to preschool together." She was my best friend for many years, but we did kind of go our different ways. I got into a lot of nerdy stuff like video games and anime, and though she did play some Pokemon with me back in the day, she kind of stayed more in the real world, while I'm always in the world of fantasy. Now, at the age of 28, she pursued a career in journalism, and I've been writing a fantasy book and I want to create video games. But we still talk! We always find something to talk about. I think in my heart I still call her one of my best friends even if we have little in common and don't get to talk much. When it comes to what I value in friendship, I'd say the biggest thing for me is honesty. And being genuine, like Jenn said. Have you ever had a friend that you're pretty sure doesn't actually like you but they hang around you because they pity you or feel obligated to be your friend for some reason? I have experienced that and it is the worst. They will like subtly put your down and diss your interests and then play it off as a joke, but they do it so often its like... you totally aren't joking. Or maybe your friend(s) have some kind of unpleasant news, but they're too afraid to tell you, so they wait until the last second and then they're like "yeah we're going to this concert but we didn't invite you because we didn't think you could afford it... but we were afraid to tell you because we didn't want you to get upset." Well guess what, I'm gonna get upset either way. I'd rather find out sooner than later. I value honesty. A lot. xD WHEW sorry. TL;DR. Honesty. ^^
I used to also contemplate who was my best friend and what that meant to the point where at one point I thought I didn't have any friends, but I just over thought way to much. I also have been in a situation where I thought someone was my best friend but I found out I wasn't :( Now I know I have a best friend although the only thing we have in common is that we stay together, but we do talk about deep stuff. I also have other best friends from high school who we still talk to but they are in college out of state so it's hard to stay in touch. But I do think that each of my best friends play a different role and we connect on a closer level on different things.
I think I value trust...A LOT. I remember going to a certain person that I thought was my friend and all of a sudden that just backfired on me. It really messed up on who I could be f "friends" with and just ended up being alone really for the longest time after.
I personally believe that a good friend is one that can be loving, but firm. One that can call you out, but in a gentle manner. Who knows your struggles, insecurities, and weaknesses yet can encourage and challenge you. Friends who see a friend struggling or repeating the same mistakes yet don't say anything... I wouldn't want to be around friends like that. A true friend should know you and should be able to have difficult, awkward, and/or be confrontational when the situation calls for it.
I read somewhere that all friendships fall into one category - friends for a reason, friends for a season, or friends for life. I think all groups are necessary as you go through life, but personally I'm interested in group three. I want friends who are going to be around for the long haul ^^
I think if you are friends with someone long enough like you mesh well and are literally just like best friends its ok to mention the best friend thing. What I feel falls out is if you do it pre-maturely.
just today i was thinking about how im drifting apart from who i used to call my best friend in 4th grade (im a senior now) and i felt very guilty and worried. But watching this made me understand my feelings better and understand that this is natural! and that it doesnt change the fact that my friend played a huge role in my life when growing up like wes said. so thank you for your videos as always ^_^
what I value in a friend is patience, honesty, and earnestness. :) since ive been through too much heartache in socialising with people because of mental illness, I really value all these things. :D
I consider myself lucky to be in university and still have two "best" friends who I met in kindergarten and 1st grade. It helps that our parents are all super close and call us their "adopted" sons.
This made me contemplate how much I love my best friend. I just sent her a link to this video and a 23 line long text telling her how much I appreciate her and how I hope to grow old with her 😊
I have a friend who's my friend since I'm alive, I know her for 16 Years and she lives far away from me so that I just See her 2 or 3 times a year, but we know each other so good that she is more like a sister then like a friend. Thats one of the persons I know who will always be a part of my life. Cause even if we had no contact in months, it's always like I just saw her yesterday
i have a friend that ive known since 5/6 years old sometimes we didnt talk for years once we didnt see eachother for ~4 years and it turned out we got into the same college and we knew we were each other's best friend the entire time so it felt like no time had passed when i met him again
I'm still best friends with my best friend from fourth grade (we are both high school seniors now) even though we go to different high schools. We probably only see each other every few months but when we do meet up its like no time has passed at all and we're totally at home with each other. I feel very lucky that we were able to stay good friends in spite of the distance and our busy schedules. I really really hope that we can continue our friendship into college and even beyond.
I think a best friend is a close friend who likes you for who you are, no matter what (ik this sounds cheesy), you don't have to relate with everything you just like them for their good and bad side, but it's also important not to be too close to them because you also need to respect each other's presence (like personal wants and needs)
I've gone through just about everything the folks talked about. When I was young, I was shy and didn't have a lot of friends. Toward the end of high school, I befriended this girl who had a crush on me. She became "my best friend" though it was obvious she had other "guy best friend". Because this friend of mine moved to the East Coast, we ultimately had issues and eventually the friendship went away. The good news is that I've picked up other friends along the way. I don't really have a "best friend" now though one person is the main person I talk to when I need something. Up until recently, this friend was always available and was there for a lot of my stuff. Alas, her work schedule (and some other things) conflict and we don't talk as much (we do text though). The main takeaway is that you'll always have friends in different aspects. You may have ones you hang out with and do stuff and ones that you just talk to. Be open to all!
What a simple yet thought-provoking topic. I had 3 best friends in high school, 2 girls and a guy. One girl I went to college with and I was a bridesmaid for her wedding, the other is the one my parents see me often with and they consider as my best friend. Sometime in college, the guy confessed that he liked me but we never dated. We remained close friends until he died suddenly overseas. To this day, I still talk to and hang out with the two girls occasionally.
Loyalty, honesty, and cooking ability. tbh, I have a really hard time making friends, so most of my friends have found me and basically just stuck to me. I'm a good communicator... in the long haul. Short term I'm bad at it.
I FEEL YOU JENN when it comes to scheduling hangouts. I see other groups of friends hanging out ALL THE TIME and I'm just thinking, HOW??? My friends and I are always either working or broke. We're always so busy, and I don't know how other friends accomplish it. It'll be months before I see mine for one hangout day.
eh, i personally don't see anything wrong with using the label "best friend". as long as both people are aware that they are each other's best friend, then it's fine. i don't see why your other friends should feel bad; you're not ranking them as being less worthy, you're just not as intimate or don't know each other in that way. i generally hang out with a core group of 4 other people, whom i consider to be my closest friends, but my best friend is also one of those 4 people. and another 2 of those 4 are each other's best friends as well. everyone in the group is aware who is whom's best friend, no one minds. i agree with taylor, i value loyalty in friendship above all else. i would rate honesty as a close second, but the reason i value loyalty more is because i can let it go if a friend lies to me, as long as they had a good reason for doing it (i.e. White lies, or lies to protect me, etc.) if they are already loyal to me, then that in itself implies a certain level of honesty with it.
i agree but some people are very sensitive about it. My best friend and I in highschool (who i'm still close to today) we were always together and we hung out with all the same people. But it became apparent that some of our friends were really hurt and felt left out whenever we were together or would refer to eachother as best friends. It got to the point where they would invite themselves to hangout with us which was fine with us, but they just couldn't understand that we both think on a different level as everyone else.
I'm a high school senior and I consider myself a pretty average person in terms of socializing. There is this circle of people that I consider my 'close friends', but I can't really bring myself to label anyone as my BEST FRIEND. It's just that all these people around me, when I see them, they always have that one go-to person that they can pretty much tell everything to. I don't really have anyone like that? I know that my friends are willing to hear me out if I ever want to talk but I just haven't been able to take that leap in terms of friendship. Like it's honestly because I'm always thinking "am I bothering them? do they even care? what if they don't like me anymore after we have an actual deep conversation?" Is that normal?
One thing that I've learned is that being around negative people that constantly complain is so tiring and exhausting. All the negative energy drags you down and makes you less positive as well.
totally feel you ash. i have best friends i havent talked to for like over a year but when we saw each other we were like talking as if we just saw each other yesterday. but with sooooo many stories to tell
I've recently let go of some toxic friendships and I've noticed that for me, I think I stopped calling my friends "best friends" outright, but rather give them special roles or names. For example, I have 2 friends from when we were 4-5 (we're 19-20 now) and we call each other the Three Musketeers. But I also have a friend from high school who is more of a 'soulmate' who I call my avocado (Daredevil reference). Then, I have a long-distance-over-the-internet-friend who I call the Tony Stark to my Steve Rogers. I think people just fit with you in different ways like some weird puzzle, but I digress. Cheers to you all! P.S. Lunch Break just makes my day. c:
I just find it more odd 'cause Taylor, Jenn, and Ashley are several years younger than Wes and yet they've watched Friends when Friends is much closer to Wes' generation. lol.
Even though the close friends I have now can be label as best friends; I rather not due to the fact my first and second best friend in middle school to high school betrayed my trust, stole stationery stuff from me and used me for money (not even rich just that I learned to save money) I developed social anxiety from that experience and has been struggling since. My current close friends has been helping me a lot to overcome this; which I am very thankful for. So for me, a best friend is someone thats loyal and genuine.
i got really excited seeing friends in the thumbnail bc i love the series so much, so i was really disappointed there wasnt more friends references in this video :( lowkey want to be friends with taylor and ashley so i have some one who will get my friends references.
JENN likes friends that are JENNuine
yeah jennerally 🤗
@Jennifer Le
more like Jenneral Le
1:41 Wes trying to show off his pizza but the camera wasn't zooming in for him but instead zoomed into Ashley.
hahahahahaha i know!! Initially I thought he was examining which side to eat it from
No love for the pizza showcase :(
i got distracted by this haha but that's cute :D
Wesley Chan OMGGGG WES HIIII !!!!! You read all of our comments AND ALSO REPLY TO THEM ?!!?!??!?! That so sweet btw love you
ashley and phil are so similar on so many different levels
True!
+Peter Yang lol op didnt even say they should date... They actually really are very similar which probably means they shouldnt date
They're both pretty down to earth. They also like to involve everyone in the conversation instead of being one of those guys that pretends one person in the conversation doesn't exist which I view to be a form of passive aggressiveness, even if that wasn't their intention.
I really wanna see this video discussed by Wes, Phil and Ted. They've been together for SO LONG so it'd be nice to see how they juggle friendship and film~
YES. Neeeeed to hear more about the trio!
I need a friend that'd binge-watch Lunch Break with me, or just any Wong Fu videos......
hit me up yo~~
Yeah my close friends make fun of me watching so much wong fu! #guiltypleasure #ishouldntfeelguilty
You could sign me up but I already watched them all :/
Heidi Ma sameeeeeeeeeee
hello
its me
Jenn likes friends who are genuine - Jenn you win
We literally lol'd in the office 😂 #heyajyouwin
Hey AJ too bad her last name isn't another Vietnamese last name. Then we could've said, "Jenn Nguyen likes friends who are genuine." 😬
Wow.
Wes' awkward life decision at 1:40 of choosing which side to eat his rolled pizza made me laugh
I'm still deciding. Still sitting here. rotating my pizza crust. Ohgawdwhatdoido
Phil and Ted should've been there to back Wes up 😂
lol. It reminds me of the times when Wes and Ted would say that they're better friends with each other than they are with Phil because they met each other first.
kawaiiafangirl 😭😭 I remember that
Wes Chan Wes Chan Wes Chan Best Man Best Friend?
Everyone's got these nice and fancy water bottles and there's Ashley with that styrofoam cup...
😢
we need a More Wong Fu podcast. I'd listen to it all day long at work/commute
I think a best friend is someone who you go to to make each other happy, to share your secrets, to share moments, and to make each other laugh. Best friends should always be by your side, even during the toughest time of your life. You should be able to understand each other, and be able to be there when you need each other the most. 👯
And also, you should always be excited and super happy to see them everyday, let them know you love them and let them know you're their best friend by running in to their arms when you first see each other in the day. Me and one of my best friends run into each other's arms every time we see each other! Even if we see each other like, an hour ago, we always hug each other because we show each other that we care about each other. 💖
I've never seen Ashley eat so much of her lunch during a lunch break. She was either super starving or LOVES pizza or both. (:
BOTH 🍕💕 #pizzaalwayspizza
Lunch break is fun and humorous but you guys went deep. And insightful. Giving me them feels. Them WongFu feels
Haha idk why but Wes showing his weirdly rolled pizza in the beginning made me laugh
I love how Jenn is so happy, she's always smiliing
I'm on board with virtually every stance Ashley had lol, especially the "not good about texting" and "I don't like talking on the phone". Since I moved around a few times as a kid, I don't have many "childhood friends". My longest running best friends are mostly from college. I have a handful of good friends from high school, two or three deserve best friend status.
It takes me a while to open up, so people who put in the effort to wait me out are usually genuine (in my opinion). I value understanding, honesty, and patience. There are things I'm into doing and things I'm not into doing. I don't need to be ridiculed for it, just note it and keep it moving. If we can be on the same page with some of those quirks? Even better.
Dwindling friendships are painful to me, but it's a reality.
I think I value the intentionality the most. Like, how much effort people put into your relationships, usually keeping in touch or making the effort to get together.
What I cherish most in a friend in honesty and loyalty. It's hard to be close with someone who is dishonest
I feel like everyone should have many best friends and so you have a group of people to trust and sure sometimes there is a slight bias towards a certain amount of people, but it doesn't change that fact that you still all care for one another.
🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻 that's me and my bestie. Been friends since birth. Family have been friends for over 20 years. We usually don't catch up and talk on the daily. It's usually a few months later do we make plans to catch up and include each other on what we've been up to. I honestly prefer it this way. Although some times it can get lonely, when we do meet up we have a lot to say and on our times off we get to learn to be independent and have time to do our own hobbies, meet new people, etc. 😊 it also causes for less chances to get into an argument for some thing stupid and small.
I would say I agree with Jenn's concept of making friends. People come and go and I don't put effort into making new friends and telling you more personal details about my life unless I know you're here to stay. 😛 it's never bad to be a bit cautious since I will never know if these people will end up stabbing me in the back using info they know about me.
I am honestly just curious.... Did you always think this way in terms of being more cautious and careful about who you let in? Or did that occur over time and having had more friendships that had burned you/that ended up backfiring?
Me personally, I am more of an open, vulnerable person. It has backfired on me at times but I still try and stay true to my values and I try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. As I get older though, I do find it harder and harder to do that. And you do find yourself becoming increasingly jaded and disappointed.
Anthony Choi Definitely not. Being cautious started young. I learnt it from a situation in kindergarten. It's also good to mention that I was a shy kid and mostly liked to observe on the outside so that likely heightened my senses of being cautious. But it really kicked in when I was in grade 2 when I realized people can be mean and tell lies on purpose to hurt you. 😛 but I mean, it wasn't all bad. I learned what type of people I like to surround myself with and to not even waste time on people who I don't click with. Of course I do give the benefit of the doubt here and there. I just get a feel of the situation and adjust accordingly. * Just to add on..yes, through getting hurt I've realized this was my defence mechanism. My cautiousness helped reduce a significant amount of disappointment and pain. So I continue to go down this route. But honestly, life really is about trial and error so I try to not be too critical..
I can see where you're coming from. For me i can usually adjust to different people so I can be extroverted if i need to be. I'm a pretty cautious person though when it comes to who i keep close to me and who i open up to.
It's possible to be friendly with everyone and give them the benefit of the doubt, but you have to keep in mind not everyone you meet is going to be your friend. So i think you can be cautious and open minded at the same time. I know for me I can usually just pick up on people's vibes and i can usually read people well. As you get older you have a better understanding of the kind of people you want to surround yourself with and that helps a lot.
amerrzz47 definitely and I agree with your method as well as growing older and wiser, you get better with handling situations.
Hopefully I survive hurricane Matthew so I can watch next weeks lunch break.
Pheezy i feel u man
My priorities in life 😂
I'm 28 and I've known my best friend since kindergarten. It was interesting to follow the lunch break discussion about the evolution of friendships as we grow up, because when we were in kindergarten, is was definitely "proximity" that lead to us being friends. When we were in different classes, we stopped playing with each other haha. But we'd always end up reconnecting the next time we were in the same class together :P Our personalities are quite different, but somehow we made it through middle school, high school, going off to different colleges, and basically leading very different lives now. We've even lived in different cities/countries for the past 10 years! But every time we see or talk to each other, it is like no time has passed at all. I definitely treasure this friendship a lot. I'm so lucky to have a friend like her!
A good friend is someone who's kind, easy to talk to and encourages me to be my best self!
let's talk about how wes rolls his pizza lolllll
i'm watching this at a really good timing. I'm about to leave a place I've just settled down not long ago and it's hard to say goodbye to the people I've gotten to know here, knowing that the chances of seeing each other again is slim to none. But you guys put it really well when you said that they'll always be a really good friend even if we eventually grow apart from each other, I like that. thanks, guys.
I value willingness to communicate very highly in my closer friends. If you don't feel safe enough to open up or if our friendship crashes just because we disagree, then I can't be close with you. I tend to over share and I don't expect my friends to do that or to call me all the time, but when we DO have time together, my close friends are really good about revealing what they think and feel under the surface of things. I really, really appreciate that.
I value friends who make you feel like your feelings are important, but at the same time, they are honest and objective when giving you advice or their input into a situation.
genuine, open-minded, and positive. All that I ask for in a friend 😊
friends that make you birthday party's like RHPC once!!!!
Yes same I refuse to call someone my best friend and I refuse to be best friends with anyone, I'd rather have a few close friends. Wes and I are practically similar with this
Ashley's face when Wes is talking about not watching FRIENDS is me when i think about how much i miss watching FRIENDS
Wes! I totally can relate to you in terms of the show Friends. I watched it here and there when I was younger. I never personally got obsessed with the show. And not until I got to college did I realize it had such a cult following. It was just one of the shows that was on but never paid full attention to. Of course that is when I was in middle school... I'm sure I can relate much more to the characters and story now that I'm in my mid 20s.
"Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate" -David Patterson
i definitely agree with all of those points, especially loyalty, being positive and genuine, with also being an open person, but a 5th thing that is good to find is someone who's relatable
This was one of my fav LBs. So real, yet so chill.
I wish I had these four as one of my best friends, they are so nice and they value some great qualities in a friendship. I so agree with most of it :)
Good insight. I think good friends make effort for each other. I've definitely had my fair share of friends that turn into acquaintances.
I think you should binge watch "F.R.I.E.N.D.S." Wes!
And "Best Friends" are those friends who talk to you like you were together yesterday even when it has been so long (like 3 yrs) since you guys actually met face-to-face.
I have a friend who I actually met way back in Pre-School. We we're in the 4 year old class together, and then we ended up going to different grade schools. But THEN, for one year, she went to my grade school and we were in the same class and we were both at the same water fountain and we reunited like "hey we went to preschool together." She was my best friend for many years, but we did kind of go our different ways. I got into a lot of nerdy stuff like video games and anime, and though she did play some Pokemon with me back in the day, she kind of stayed more in the real world, while I'm always in the world of fantasy. Now, at the age of 28, she pursued a career in journalism, and I've been writing a fantasy book and I want to create video games. But we still talk! We always find something to talk about. I think in my heart I still call her one of my best friends even if we have little in common and don't get to talk much.
When it comes to what I value in friendship, I'd say the biggest thing for me is honesty. And being genuine, like Jenn said. Have you ever had a friend that you're pretty sure doesn't actually like you but they hang around you because they pity you or feel obligated to be your friend for some reason? I have experienced that and it is the worst. They will like subtly put your down and diss your interests and then play it off as a joke, but they do it so often its like... you totally aren't joking. Or maybe your friend(s) have some kind of unpleasant news, but they're too afraid to tell you, so they wait until the last second and then they're like "yeah we're going to this concert but we didn't invite you because we didn't think you could afford it... but we were afraid to tell you because we didn't want you to get upset." Well guess what, I'm gonna get upset either way. I'd rather find out sooner than later. I value honesty. A lot. xD
WHEW sorry. TL;DR. Honesty. ^^
My sister has best friends from kindergarten and she's 28 now... Ngl I'm kinda jealous of that!
I used to also contemplate who was my best friend and what that meant to the point where at one point I thought I didn't have any friends, but I just over thought way to much. I also have been in a situation where I thought someone was my best friend but I found out I wasn't :( Now I know I have a best friend although the only thing we have in common is that we stay together, but we do talk about deep stuff. I also have other best friends from high school who we still talk to but they are in college out of state so it's hard to stay in touch. But I do think that each of my best friends play a different role and we connect on a closer level on different things.
a friend who puts up with my random phases and sits through movies or youtube videos i love
TAYLOR YOU'RE WEARING A KORE T-SHIRT!! 👏👏🙌🙌🙌 did you get it at K-Con?
Got it from Mr. JunCurryAhn!
I think I value trust...A LOT. I remember going to a certain person that I thought was my friend and all of a sudden that just backfired on me. It really messed up on who I could be f "friends" with and just ended up being alone really for the longest time after.
THE THUMBNAIL EDIT 😂👌
I personally believe that a good friend is one that can be loving, but firm. One that can call you out, but in a gentle manner. Who knows your struggles, insecurities, and weaknesses yet can encourage and challenge you. Friends who see a friend struggling or repeating the same mistakes yet don't say anything... I wouldn't want to be around friends like that. A true friend should know you and should be able to have difficult, awkward, and/or be confrontational when the situation calls for it.
i like when you can laugh with them, but also pour out your heart to them if you're having a bad day or something.
Jenn really values people who are... JENNuine XD
I read somewhere that all friendships fall into one category - friends for a reason, friends for a season, or friends for life. I think all groups are necessary as you go through life, but personally I'm interested in group three. I want friends who are going to be around for the long haul ^^
I think if you are friends with someone long enough like you mesh well and are literally just like best friends its ok to mention the best friend thing. What I feel falls out is if you do it pre-maturely.
Can definitely tell Chris edited this hahaha. Many Tay moments
Wow, from this I learned how to be a better friend. I realise I'm actually pretty shoddy at being a friend and maintaining friendships...
just today i was thinking about how im drifting apart from who i used to call my best friend in 4th grade (im a senior now) and i felt very guilty and worried. But watching this made me understand my feelings better and understand that this is natural! and that it doesnt change the fact that my friend played a huge role in my life when growing up like wes said. so thank you for your videos as always ^_^
Wow I really like this topic. But I was once a friend who took the other for granted and now I see them and realize I could've been so much better
what I value in a friend is patience, honesty, and earnestness. :) since ive been through too much heartache in socialising with people because of mental illness, I really value all these things. :D
Having a friend that's straight forward, but knows how to hold themselves back
I consider myself lucky to be in university and still have two "best" friends who I met in kindergarten and 1st grade. It helps that our parents are all super close and call us their "adopted" sons.
I mainly value someone who is open minded and who is very optimistic to things especially if something happens to go wrong.
This made me contemplate how much I love my best friend. I just sent her a link to this video and a 23 line long text telling her how much I appreciate her and how I hope to grow old with her 😊
I have a friend who's my friend since I'm alive, I know her for 16 Years and she lives far away from me so that I just See her 2 or 3 times a year, but we know each other so good that she is more like a sister then like a friend. Thats one of the persons I know who will always be a part of my life. Cause even if we had no contact in months, it's always like I just saw her yesterday
i have a friend that ive known since 5/6 years old sometimes we didnt talk for years once we didnt see eachother for ~4 years and it turned out we got into the same college and we knew we were each other's best friend the entire time so it felt like no time had passed when i met him again
I'm still best friends with my best friend from fourth grade (we are both high school seniors now) even though we go to different high schools. We probably only see each other every few months but when we do meet up its like no time has passed at all and we're totally at home with each other. I feel very lucky that we were able to stay good friends in spite of the distance and our busy schedules. I really really hope that we can continue our friendship into college and even beyond.
CAN WE PLEASE HAVE A MAKEUP TUTORIAL SERIES WITH ASHLEY?? THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT
I think a best friend is a close friend who likes you for who you are, no matter what (ik this sounds cheesy), you don't have to relate with everything you just like them for their good and bad side, but it's also important not to be too close to them because you also need to respect each other's presence (like personal wants and needs)
I've gone through just about everything the folks talked about. When I was young, I was shy and didn't have a lot of friends. Toward the end of high school, I befriended this girl who had a crush on me. She became "my best friend" though it was obvious she had other "guy best friend". Because this friend of mine moved to the East Coast, we ultimately had issues and eventually the friendship went away. The good news is that I've picked up other friends along the way. I don't really have a "best friend" now though one person is the main person I talk to when I need something. Up until recently, this friend was always available and was there for a lot of my stuff. Alas, her work schedule (and some other things) conflict and we don't talk as much (we do text though). The main takeaway is that you'll always have friends in different aspects. You may have ones you hang out with and do stuff and ones that you just talk to. Be open to all!
What a simple yet thought-provoking topic. I had 3 best friends in high school, 2 girls and a guy. One girl I went to college with and I was a bridesmaid for her wedding, the other is the one my parents see me often with and they consider as my best friend. Sometime in college, the guy confessed that he liked me but we never dated. We remained close friends until he died suddenly overseas. To this day, I still talk to and hang out with the two girls occasionally.
Loyalty, honesty, and cooking ability.
tbh, I have a really hard time making friends, so most of my friends have found me and basically just stuck to me. I'm a good communicator... in the long haul. Short term I'm bad at it.
humor and the ability to talk about anything. If I can't laugh with someone I can't relax with them.
the thumbnail is fantastic...👏👏
Jenn's and Ashley's hair are goals
loyalty & honesty for sure
Wes showing off his pizza~~~so adorable ^^
I had just finished binge watching the 20 facts vids, then Taylor does the share food reference and Ashley gets it while Wes doesn't XDXDXD
LOL acutely aware of when Chris edits the Lunch Breaks now after his 20 fun facts XD
I value loyalty, friendlyness, and genuineness
HEY YOU FINISHED THAT MUCH PIZZA?!?!??!?!?!!??!
I FEEL YOU JENN when it comes to scheduling hangouts. I see other groups of friends hanging out ALL THE TIME and I'm just thinking, HOW??? My friends and I are always either working or broke. We're always so busy, and I don't know how other friends accomplish it. It'll be months before I see mine for one hangout day.
Ashley!~ I love you!! I could watch you talk all day!! If you don't have your own show yet - do it.
Oh man... this whole video hits home
YAY ASHLEY AND JENN!!!
I consider my good friends those who make the effort to understand me.
eh, i personally don't see anything wrong with using the label "best friend". as long as both people are aware that they are each other's best friend, then it's fine. i don't see why your other friends should feel bad; you're not ranking them as being less worthy, you're just not as intimate or don't know each other in that way. i generally hang out with a core group of 4 other people, whom i consider to be my closest friends, but my best friend is also one of those 4 people. and another 2 of those 4 are each other's best friends as well. everyone in the group is aware who is whom's best friend, no one minds.
i agree with taylor, i value loyalty in friendship above all else. i would rate honesty as a close second, but the reason i value loyalty more is because i can let it go if a friend lies to me, as long as they had a good reason for doing it (i.e. White lies, or lies to protect me, etc.) if they are already loyal to me, then that in itself implies a certain level of honesty with it.
i agree but some people are very sensitive about it. My best friend and I in highschool (who i'm still close to today) we were always together and we hung out with all the same people. But it became apparent that some of our friends were really hurt and felt left out whenever we were together or would refer to eachother as best friends. It got to the point where they would invite themselves to hangout with us which was fine with us, but they just couldn't understand that we both think on a different level as everyone else.
Ashely hair and expression are so on point in this lunch break...i want 🍕 now...
I'm a high school senior and I consider myself a pretty average person in terms of socializing. There is this circle of people that I consider my 'close friends', but I can't really bring myself to label anyone as my BEST FRIEND. It's just that all these people around me, when I see them, they always have that one go-to person that they can pretty much tell everything to. I don't really have anyone like that? I know that my friends are willing to hear me out if I ever want to talk but I just haven't been able to take that leap in terms of friendship. Like it's honestly because I'm always thinking "am I bothering them? do they even care? what if they don't like me anymore after we have an actual deep conversation?" Is that normal?
I value what you all value in a friend and I like to include another value, tolerance.
You guys should make a short about you “dating” your friends, seeing if they’re genuine abt the friendship, if they want it to be long term 😂
A best friend is someone who you can always count on to count on you.
3,000 views and no dislikes.... tell me your ways
i freaking love your user name ♡♡♡ beebo
awww thanks
Friends that will go all the way to help you when you're in need.
One thing that I've learned is that being around negative people that constantly complain is so tiring and exhausting. All the negative energy drags you down and makes you less positive as well.
totally feel you ash. i have best friends i havent talked to for like over a year but when we saw each other we were like talking as if we just saw each other yesterday. but with sooooo many stories to tell
"not too smart but also like just equally as dumb as you are as well" - glad to know I'm not the only one, hahaha
Wong Fu is my favorite TH-cam group & friends is my favorite TV show
the first 2 minutes I was staring at Ashley's hair
Taylor's getting so natural in front of the cam now that we finally get to see his humorous side! Haha! "Better friends" 😂
Great values to look in best friends guys! I volunteer as tribute!
I've recently let go of some toxic friendships and I've noticed that for me, I think I stopped calling my friends "best friends" outright, but rather give them special roles or names. For example, I have 2 friends from when we were 4-5 (we're 19-20 now) and we call each other the Three Musketeers. But I also have a friend from high school who is more of a 'soulmate' who I call my avocado (Daredevil reference). Then, I have a long-distance-over-the-internet-friend who I call the Tony Stark to my Steve Rogers. I think people just fit with you in different ways like some weird puzzle, but I digress.
Cheers to you all!
P.S. Lunch Break just makes my day. c:
Damn. That crunch. That pizza looks AWESOME.
I was just watching Friends earlier while eating lunch!! Love the thumbnail! O(∩_∩)O
But Wes should watch the show!!
I just find it more odd 'cause Taylor, Jenn, and Ashley are several years younger than Wes and yet they've watched Friends when Friends is much closer to Wes' generation. lol.
Even though the close friends I have now can be label as best friends; I rather not due to the fact my first and second best friend in middle school to high school betrayed my trust, stole stationery stuff from me and used me for money (not even rich just that I learned to save money) I developed social anxiety from that experience and has been struggling since. My current close friends has been helping me a lot to overcome this; which I am very thankful for.
So for me, a best friend is someone thats loyal and genuine.
i got really excited seeing friends in the thumbnail bc i love the series so much, so i was really disappointed there wasnt more friends references in this video :( lowkey want to be friends with taylor and ashley so i have some one who will get my friends references.