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I was never in the friendzone for the reason I make my intentions clear early on. Never accept to be their friend, you gain nothing. If you enter the friendzone she will ask you for favors and use you for her own benefit while you gain nothing. And once you are no use for her I assure you she will cut you off, this is the female solipsism for you. If she doesnt give sex to you there is absolutely no reason to invest your valuable time. Dont involve yourself with women that are not willing to do sex with you. By being their friend you are actually one of their girlfriends. Huge time and energy wasting. Women as friends are a big joke compare to men friends. Male friendship is priceless. Those are the male truth bombs. We want youth, beauty and sex from a variety of women. A woman friend will never be loyal on your friendship. Never. Their hypergamy and solipsism skip men faster than you will ever imagine. You can protect yourself by never pick a woman by a place of scarcity, but from a place of abudance, meaning that you should always pursue more women, having more options to choose, options, options, NEVER focus on 1 girl. Even if you get the girl you like NEVER let your guard down and always talk to other women as well. It doesnt have to be sexual, just keep them around (spin plates) and meet more and more while you keep the girl you deemed worthy of your time. She will feel that competition anxiety deep in her and she will try to push your comfort zone every day to turn you into a beta. Keep your frame intact at all cost, the shit testing will be relentless, its a tough game out there brothers and I promise you anyone can change their circumstances if they are truthfuly willing to change. Dont let past failures limit your potential, continue to fight and be the man you are proud of. You are the prize.
I got friendzoned after a few 10-15 sec conversations and being added on social media (she added me) and she said she didn't want to lead me on and I never even asked her out. I didn't beg her. I didn't chase her but we are in the same social circle. Maybe I didn't show intent or who knows.
*This brother needs to get his own sh|t together before worrying about women.* His mental strength is in the gutter and I would start by working on self-esteem and physical health. This won't change over som week. Give yourself time.
Yeah, trying to attract any women (let alone the girl of your dreams) while you're not anywhere near being your best self is a recipe for disaster. Trust me, I know from personal experience, lmao. The better of a man I've become, the less desperate I've been for women -- and the more women have been attracted to me. It's really not rocket science. Just focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, and women will come naturally especially the more comfortable you feel about yourself.
@@brandondaniels9471 This is very true. I get more attention from women, since I started concentrating on myself. If you look desperate, you will find it hard to attract anyone.
Advice to the fellow: forget about women for now and focus on improving your health. Lose weight, eat healthy, get better sleep, exercise and be the best you can be. As a student doctor, get on track with your studies and job opportunities.
Very good advice. That is what I did long ago when I was overweight and tired of living. That alone gave me a crazy alpha attitude and I got laid a lot, with women pursuing me, because I didn't give a shit about them. I was focused on my goals.
I always ask if she has single friends lmao and they usually ask why i would even ask that. Well obviously since you're off the market then i figure your friends would be a better use of my time. I've actually had chicks take this and go out with me again. otherwise i just ditch them entirely
@dave4248 You're half correct...…….being seen in the company of another (attractive) woman or women is pre-selection (in her mind). The 2 problems are: 1) A HUGE percentage of women spend the bulk of their time with the guy(s) they're fucking. She miiiiiiiiiight gab on the phone with him, but not very likely to hang out with him. 2) I have never met a guy who was introduced to an ATTRACTIVE woman, by his female 'friend'. Women aren't that stupid. She ain't gonna help you to take away her free attention AND she ain't gonna' get rid of her 4th string QB. If ALL else fails, and nothing works out with the 5 or 10 guys she wants, then, she miiiiiiiiiiiiight let him sniff it.
@Shaun A this is how we do it. And that first chick will eventually chase after you because you will become more sexually attractive to her. Both chicks banged. What's better than that. Maybe a friend of that friend? 🤔😀
I took out a girl from school to the sushi bar and we had a great time. I took her back home and she hugged me and kissed me after I walked her to her door. She said " think we'll be great friends." I told her that I wasn't interested in being her friend. I told her I was much more interested than that. She said she wasn't looking for that with me. I never gave her the time of day again and she texts me from time to time to this day. I have not answered her and her texts get meaner and meaner.
" She wasn't emotionally available for another relationship yet" ...short time after banging his friend....women will break the rules for the Alpha that they make for the Beta....
That’s not really how this works. She is just lying to him. That’s her way of saying, “I don’t find you attractive,” and she wants to keep you in the friend zone. Women are always available for a relationship with a man of value.
Agreed, she has already put you in the "friend zone box", it's very difficult to get out of this from this woman specifically. Almost always not worth a man's time, on to the next one.
1. Health / Muscles 2. Purpose (leads to money & status) 3. Quality woman If 1 and 2 aren't on track, forget about 3. If you put women first, you'll always lose in life.
It is easy. View your friendzoning for what it really is, namely a rejection of you by her. She has rejected you. Accept that immediately. Then break off contact. And move on to better and more satisfying prospects. Do not let her back in. She had her chance and made her choice. Now make yours. There is no oneZ
Hes needs a different field. Those female nurses will drive you crazy and turn you into a woman. My health has been a lot better since if left the medical field.
Any time a woman has placed me in the friend zone, I placed myself in the former acquaintance zone. If you ever manage to get yourself out of the friendzone, she is settling and it is only a matter of time till she hates you for it. If she puts you on the back burner, you will never be the main dish.
@@Kaz.2719 Kaz I was as deep into the abyss as the guy in this video and pulled. Myself out. You know what? The guy is right, gym and putting yourself out there was the best thing I ever did. Oh and discovering red pill
I was once dumped after 3 years and put in the friend zone. She said “I hope we can be like best friends”....My reply was “In the exact same way that I wasn’t good enough to be your man, you aren’t even close to being good enough to be my friend”..then I went no contact forever. She couldn’t believe it and begged for me back. But when I make a choice I stick by it, no I never looked back. 💪🏻
I got friend zoned by a woman at work. I still remember how painful it was when I realised she was banging some other jerk when I thought there was something developing between us. It's really difficult when you still have see her everyday at work. I distanced my self from her, but still I wasn't over her. Eventually after months, I internalized all her lies, and I got angry with her. Really angry! I told her what a lying cow she was, and told her she could fuck off. And boom, like that, I was over her. This was the start of my red pill journey. 2.5 years later, I've now been trough my first ltr, survived to tell the tail, and I currently have 2 plates spinning.
"You need support after a death in the family".. Women dont care about your feels .. They talk about wanting a guy with feelings.. They want Chad to have feelings.. My biggest mistake with a women was to show her my pain after my brother passed .. Sad but true..
My husband was a master on this, We were friends but he say to me "I don't want to be your friend, I want everything or nothing so this is our last conversation" and that was it
@@netfischer it wasn't our last conversation, We are married. We have being together for almost 16 years now. When that happened I was calling him all day and night bc I really like him.
I would in this order: -Own the fact that your values and actual belief system put you in this holes -Change your diet cut the junk food and everything soy related. Also the meds. If you don't have any medical conditions look into IF. - Then pick up heavy stuff like Rich said. Time to focus on yourself and turn it around
I had a fwb who during pillow talk would tell me about her male friend that her and her friends loved to go out with, because he would buy them drinks and when they needed to move they would call him as well. They would laugh behind his back because he never got any sex from any of them. Don't get friend zone.
I like your vids man but why would you ever encourage someone to just get off psych meds without knowing their situation? Are you a doctor? No. Some people need them. Encouraging someone to just get off their anti depressant out of no where it is common for them to become suicidal and all sorts of bad shit. dont judge them man....and you shouldnt give advice without being a doctor, knowing his medical history, knowing everything about his situation, etc. Not a good move man . Such a stigma around psych meds because people like you, if it helps them and improves their life let them be. Just because you personally do not need it does not mean NOBODY in the world needs them. Without anti depressants a lot of people who were suicidal would be dead today. Luckily they went to a doctor, got a medication and it helped save their life. Only saying it because ive been through it. Tapered off after a year. But i dont like people like you who have no clue what is going on with them, arent a doctor, dont know about their medical past, dont know about possible past suicide attempts? Sometimes its better to get on a medication to help you rather than attempt to commit suicide. If you think its better the other way around then your nuts. Peoples situations are different, You have no business giving out medical recommendations with no medical background and if you think people on a anti depressant just need to "Work out" youre delusional. I work out often and love it it makes me feel good but when i was suicidal for a few years no damn workout would have made me feel better and made me not suicidal. The goal is for the person not to harm/kill themselves. Which eventually many get to that level without help like therapy, medical help, etc. Which in some cases include anti depressants. Telling someone who is depressed to "lift heavy shit and put it down" is beyond ignorant. You know many people are born with chemical imbalances in their brain? low dopamine, low seratonin, low norepanephrine. Should they get no medical help? Youre nuts if you think someone born with a genetic brain imbalance should not get medical help to help that. Also to the guy who wrote you, listen to a DOCTOR for your medical recommendations , not some guy on youtube with no medical background and this is coming from someone who watches all your videos, and is subscribed to your private group here on youtube.
So you think it's better to listen to a company which sells meds to earn money, rather than a guy who has gone through the same and is just trying to help him.
Friends zone? Fugget about it. The "Let's just be friends" cliche is basically a middle finger and it's best to move on and not waste your time pursuing a dead end. Personally, I'd prefer a more honest response like "I'm not into to you." Move on if you get the LJBF line.
My friend was on antidepressents (lamictal)(zeldox)for 2 years but it never helped him it had side effects like him gaining weight etc about 2 years ago he decided to taper off of these medications and start weightlifting he now has a sixpack with a v line and is the happiest ive ever seen him
Without redpilling TH-cam videos, my generation had to guess and experience how women behave, how they think, love and play games. Now, with all information out there, it doesn't take a lot of IQ to just make a simple search. But knowing about hypergamy and the female nature is just a part of the whole picture. Richard Cooper is the guy who could have spared me years of grief and shitty experiences beyond imagination if he had been around in the 90's. But I have to blame myself too: it took me a long time to make the steps which are needed for a great life as a man in his fourties. Everything will come around and one day you will be proud of what you have become and how so many of your dreams came true.
The last girl I dated, she tried to put me in her friend zone. I told her I wasn't interested in having a platonic relationship with her and she went no contact with me. This was very heartbreaking for me because I truly feelings for her, I even was ignorantly blissful at the time, thinking that she could be "The One". Me like a lot of us, I never grew up in a loving family, so I never had a level playing field in regards to learing about emotional maturity. My emotional immaturity has lead me down the path of having a pathetic love life, and life long bachelorism.
Man, the cure for that is clubbing, banging and dumping. Once you you got laid a lot and learned more about women, you will stop worshipping them or seeing them as special. If you have no game, just go for it without minding the rejections. It's better to go clubbing with really good buddies, the kind you have fun with and can be natural with them. Then you will oberflow confidence, and when women in a club see you are having fun with your people, they will flock to you. Like dogs, they go to where the fun is.
I don't understand this friendzone stuff. Women can't put men anywhere. Guys put themselves on the friendzone when they keep hope after being rejected. It is a self-imposed situation. If a woman rejected you, be friends with her if you may, but give up on her romanticaly and don't go out of your way to please her because she "might change her mind" or "finaly see the great guy you are". Women are oblivous to how good you are or what you feel for her, they only care about what they want and will only be pleased with men that have the qualities or resources she wants to get. The amount of women I've seen go for guys that match their superficial type just to bitch about them endlessly is no joke. They don't know what they want and I'm not interested in discovering. They are dumb as fuck and are in no position to validade you as a person.
It's taken me a while to realize that, but you're spot on. A woman doesn't friendzone a man, a man friendzone's himself. He gives the woman the initiative to "come around", but does that by his own free will.
Great points Rich but I would also tell him in 3-5 years, he'll be a practicing physician, easily making six figures and in his peak SMV. Which means he'll get the last laugh to all the women who friend-zoned him.
How to get out of the Friend Zone? Don't put yourself there to begin with. Only spend time as friends with people (both men and women) who you are happy being friends with. If an individual is someone you can't appreciate friendship with without wanting something else, do both of you a favour and move on. Also, if you're finding yourself swooning for someone who doesn't reciprocate, start working on yourself; you obviously don't see yourself as deserving or worth enough if you don't find those feelings naturally fading quickly when you discover they aren't reciprocated.
I feel sorry for the guy, we have all been there a time or two. Also men need to realize time easily spent is time easily lost, and they'll never get that back. Time is VALUABLE; and the time he has spent working on attempting to be with this person, he could've been spending it on fixing himself. The advice from the video is priceless, great advice. I wish I could've had advice like this in my twenties.
haven't watched this yet, but I'll share my comment anyway. sorry if it's a repeat of what you said, Rich. If you want to get out of the friend zone, you have to be willing to let her go. Permanently. You're in the friend zone because she thinks she can keep you as an orbiter and that she can push you around. Put your foot down. You don't need to turn it into a passive-aggressive "you won't have sex with me so I'm taking my toys and going home" thing. don't make a scene. JUST GO. And be glad you saved yourself the trouble of dealing with her in a relationship.
Correct. She’ll get pissy, but if you stand your ground, state you’re not interested in being friends, she’ll feel your strength which will actually make her feel some respect and attraction for you. The quickest way to get someone’s attention is to remove yours. You’ll stand the best chance of getting her back... if, that’s what you want.
I was in the friendzone for 3 years. She finally wanted to date, but I had already mentally moved past looking at her romantically. After a little pushing from her, I decided to give it a chance. It never felt right. I backed off. She questioned, and when I told her it wasn't working after she asked what was going on, I was called an a-hole and blocked on all social media accounts. Getting out of the friend zone isn't worth it. It's not what you expect, and it won't end well.
Never trust a girl's excuse ...because it's an excuse 🙄 for god sake.. Each and every man should note this " I am getting out of a bad relationship...drug addict etc...etc."..like she told him in his face that she doesn't like him.. Just get out of this societal conditioning of true love bs
A girl I've been lightly chasing at my company for a year blew me in the front seat of her car after a company social. What did I do different in the last 30 days?...........treated her and every other woman in the office like crap. No validation, no conversation, no attention, no anything.......BINGO, IMMEDIATE attraction!........women are weird, it's actually pathetic. The whole time in the front seat I'm thinking I Won, you lost!
You will have more confidence and become more attractive to woman by getting yourself in shape physically and mentally. A starting point is getting the weight off---I did it and you can do it----it makes a big difference in how people view you and how you view yourself. Work on yourself before chasing women.
One of the things I love about your videos and statements is you focus on the guys themselves and try to fix things from within (which is the fundamental requirement to become a better version of yourself) rather, focusing on women and try to analyze or judge their thoughts and actions, as a matter of the fact, you always respect women for what they do and what they are (i.e. "she is a single mom and her children are her priority which they should be, she is their mom") The fact that a guy (in my opinion anyone) needs to be held accountable for what he is going through in his life should be a lesson that everyone should learn regardless of their gender Best of luck to you
If you're cucked enough to get into, and stay in the friendzone, there is no hope and you should just move on to the next. Maybe say some less than nice things and bruise her egotistical delusions and you will get laid, but cater to and entice her egotistical delusions, and she will view you as the man to fund said delusions. Treat her like a celebrity and she will treat you like a fan.
Why even read this letter? This guy obviously just wants to whine but not improve his life. Smart enough to be a doctor but not smart enough to figure out simple problems? I question whether this is a real letter.
Workout in the morning, 2 hours after waking up, chug some coffee too, then go kill it. Working out at the end of the day NEVER works for me, I'm too tired (I'm 50) ..also, do a 2 week fresh press juice FAST, this will reset many things in your body (see John Rose videos).
Grandpa's Swapmeet, how long have you been doing the juice fast? I turn 40 this November and I seriously need to retool my lifestyle regarding diet and exercise. Juice fasting is an option I’ve had on my mind, I just want to do it correctly. I’m not overweight; I’ve actually lost ten pounds in the past couple of months but it’s due mainly to calorie deficit and work related stress. That and I’ve made drastic cuts in my beer drinking. This was very painful but I bit the bullet. Still, I’m feeling the decline in energy but what really scares me is a decline in cognitive ability at work. I know I need to sort myself out. I see you work out two hours after waking up, am I reading that correctly?
Don't waste time trying to get out of the friend zone. Just walk away and don't be a friend to any of them. When you are not a friend, and when you do not care for their attention one tiny bit, suddenly they will not allow you to be alone.
Holy shit...reading these letters from these poor forlorn men is painful to hear. I was put in the friend zone a few times when I was very young and had very little experience with women. Once I became "tuned in" or was red pilled (before that was even a thing) I made it a point to make my desire of her known. If the vibe was not reciprocated I moved on. This is one of the first steps a young man takes going from a beta to an alpha. I haven't been put in the friend zone since my teens simply because I don't allow it. There is nothing more awful and pathetic to watch than a beta who is clearly a "girlfriend" of a woman he is attracted to and continuing down this path with the thought that he will eventually "triumph in the end".
When she tries to put you in the friend zone you just reject the offer. Just say "No I'm not interested in that." Then she will know you are the one controlling the situation and not her. Also cut all contact with her if you can. Then ask someone else out.
I find if you are "friends" with a woman that doesn't want anymore than that let her see you with another attractive woman and watch her interest in you change. Women are very competitive and it clicks in another woman see something in you. Works quite often.
There’s 3 ways you’re in the FZ! A) She saw you and simply put you in the friend zone category. B) You started a sexual chemistry with her but you lost frame n started turning beta and she put you in the FZ C) You went the FZ route in the first place
How to avoid the friend zone? Don’t be ugly. It also helps if you are not poor, and/or you are high on the social totem pole (I.E.: not a mere middle manager, but upper level).
The best way to get out of the friend zone is by ignoring that woman/ not give her any attention. However, don’t show her that you’re booty hurt because this will lower attraction for you if she has any. Like what he says, work on your physique and try to stay busy/ healthy in general. My advice for you is to date a hotter chick, and she’ll start boiling.
Women Gatekeep Sex-But Men Gatekeep Relationships, it fits for all kinds of relationships with women, including that FRIENDZONE bullshit that men keep get trapped in. When you have a "friendship" with a woman, and want a sex relatioship with her, and she said that only sees you as just a FRIEND, and wants to be your "FRIEND" and not lose the friendship, cut off that relationship, because YOU ARE the gatekeep of relationship. Don't give her the power over the relationship, it's not her who decides to be friends with you, it's YOU who decides to be friends with her. I see many men whinning about girls who put them in the FRIENDZONE and keep having a friendship with them and give all they want. NO, STOP this, tell her the friendship is over and you don't have interest anymore, she will drive crazy, because she wants that friendship with you, keeping the friendship, you are providing, giving her the power to something that only you has control. If you keep that friendship, you will end up with nothing and she will win. Don't let her have that friendship with you, MEN ARE THE GATEKEEP of relationship, remember that. The best way to get out of the FRIENDZONE is walk away, end up any kind of relationship with the woman who put you there, it's sex or nothing.
I constantly got put in the friend zone by women because I lacked an abundance mindset was 100% blue pill. I was given a copy of the rational male (no plug) and began to live by red pill principles. I lost weight, put on muscle, got my finances in order and developed an abundance mindset. biggest key for me was being my own mental point of origin, operating in my frame and deciphering the medium in the message when listening to what women were saying. These things have helped me avoid the friend zone with women
The majority of men simply cannot get out of the friend zone once a woman puts them there. If you try, she will just stop interacting with you. The exception to this is for the top guys who are really good-looking, as in the top 10% of attractiveness. Women will give them a 2nd chance if they start acting like they have value.
Exceptional video. I've been struggling with a version of this problem. I've been broken up with my ex-fiance for three years now. I've dated more than a dozen women in that time but I keep comparing them to her and oddly kinda end up resenting them for not being more like her. I feel like it's not fair to date more women until I can get this one out of my head. She only had sex with one guy in those three years and, of course, he just used her. In fact, she hadn't had sex for four years before we met (single mom focusing on her son). She also had sex with me once about a year ago when we both got really drunk together. Bottom line is that she's not a good partner for me because I'm very active and success-oriented and she's not. but I love her feminine personality, her tight little body, her natural beauty, and we have a great time together. When we were together the sex was the best of my life and I've been with a lot of women. It's bizarre to me that a woman that is so amazing in the sack goes years without having sex. She even agrees that the sex was amazing with me but thinks that would complicate her life. She's pretty much decided that she's going to be single for the rest of her life. I've been there for her emotionally and helped her with different things in her life... but I'm deep in the friend zone at this point. Sooo.... I'm off to the gym now... and I've been thinking about starting up Judo again... with your advice to that guy I'm going to join up today. Also going to work that much harder to build my digital agency. Thanks for the great advice you gave that guy... because you gave it to me too.
Untill you red pill you will get friend zoned.. Being red pilled is like the movie "They Live". . It's like your now you have these glasses on and can see the world as it is ..
If shes not banging you then you need to move on. Dont be friends with women. If she wants to be friends you need to cut her off and move on. Also b4 u cut ties ask her if she has any single friends lol
The time and effort this guy poured into this one could have been directed towards banging ten other women. Once she discovers that his SMV has grown from zero to ten, watch the girl of his dreams come runnig back to stake her claim. When women smell success and confidence you' ll be the one that's calling the shots. When I was in my 20s I was juggling 5 women a week and I am no Adonis but I bristled with confidence and had miles of game. If the circumstance was right I could be in bed with a woman within 5 to 10 minutes after having just met them. There is no greater high than confidence. It will change your life. When I moved onto my 30s and began to carve out a successful career for myself the women kept coming and they were even classier and more beautiful. The moment they would give me shit I would drop them and they would be gone. Women are like busses. There is always another one coming along every 15 minutes.
Man, I love your way of thinking. But you NEVER suggest to somebody that uses anti-depressants to stop taking them suddenly. Some people have chemical unbalance, so must be on antidepressants all their life (my best friend has this kind of problem). And if somebody is on it and want to stop, under the surveillance of a psychiatrist, must stop gradually. Be carefull about what you suggest to people, about the other stuff that you said I think you're perfectly right. Keep up with the good content. Umberto
@Natural Man Can happen, and by any means also the contrary. I know what he meant before, but at the same time some people can superficially listen to this advice and incourr in what I've said. Imagine a young man or a teenager saying:" oh well, yeah stop this shit" and then finding himself not in control of his mind and committing suicide or harming people. This is my opinion, doesn't have to be yours... But mentioning side effect of antidepressants won't change that for some people medications are necessary and prevent them from getting in harmful situations. BTW I am not a psychiatrist, nor connected to farmaceutical companies.
Ouch this was cringy as hell. But agree with everyone else work on your health, maintain frame and as Rich says look for high value low drama." A book I'd recommend too, "The subtle art of not giving a F*ck" by Mark Morrison "You've now entered a world of low fat latte's, shoe shopping, romantic movies, cuddling and being quite essentially a neutered teddy bear. You've entered...The Friendzone!!!!" Dun dun dun
WAIT until you finish med school and residency/fellowship. Once you start making money as a doctor and improve yourself women will come along. You can never lose women chasing money.
I went swimming with a girl a few months ago. After sex she told me she didn’t want to “friend zone” me after she saw me with out a shirt. Working out will help you in a way you can not imagine until you get it. Do the work! You’ll have fun!
1. The suicidal ideation worries me. You need to talk to a psychiatrist who can adjust your medications and get you into counselling to deal with the suicidal thoughts. A lot of this comes from being in a high stress field where you are working long hours. 2. You are a doctor. You are sitting in the cat bird's seat. You are/will be working in hospitals where every nurse wants to marry a doctor. You do not get a higher sexual market value in anything other than being a doctor. Any woman who would not be interested in marrying a doctor is brain damaged and you don't want her. 3. Forget this girl. She is using you. She will continue to use you for as long as you let her. (Been there, done that.) You need to put distance between you and her. This is hard when you are working together or are in the same program. But you will not have any peace until she is out of your life for good. This may mean transferring to another hospital and eventually moving to another city -- the geographical cure for oneitis works wonders. At the very least ghost her. If she wants to talk to you, you are too busy and will get back to her later. 4. As a doctor, you are in a better position to evaluate your weight problem than anyone here. Lifting weights builds muscle, but aerobics burns fat. You should be making enough money to hire a personal trainer; having a personal trainer with a scheduled time forces you to work out regularly, whether you feel like doing it or not. A personal trainer will help you lose lots of weight (been there, done that). Riding a bike or walking on a treadmill an hour a day or so can work wonders.
@@headlesnorseman701 I'm also a college grad and an amateur writer... maybe the difference is in the amount of reading we've done? Not sure, but these words have been vernacular for me since first year of college.
Didn't watch one second but: just be tall and good looking and you won't be in the friendzone. Everybody who came to this video because he searched for advice should realize this. You're just asexual in the eyes of women because of your GENES.
Wish I could see a picture of this supposedly amazing unicorn. In my experiences (my own and others) we sometimes fall head over heels for someone that’s probably not even worth it on many levels. I went through a similar situation but it was more a barrage of smaller friend zones and rejections that made me suicidal, at a later age. Somehow I got lucky you get being unskilled with women and all. My suggestion to the guy, if he needs no one in general, to press the nuke button, disconnect, isolate, keep contact only with family and maybe best friend. Some might say that it’s unhealthy but it did a hard reset on me, the afterwards gaining back slowly the right amount of commitment with people in general that doesn’t become a burden and by extension falling in those oneitis conundrums. When an equilibrium is formed at least I think twice before adding someone more to my world.
Bro, this is eye-opening. This guy is me in high school. Thank God for the hard lessons in the past and for this guy to make me understand what I did wrong.
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stopped at 44 seconds... if she doesn't actually play any musical instrument that dude shouldn't even be talking to her
I was never in the friendzone for the reason I make my intentions clear early on.
Never accept to be their friend, you gain nothing. If you enter the friendzone she will ask you for favors and use you for her own benefit while you gain nothing. And once you are no use for her I assure you she will cut you off, this is the female solipsism for you.
If she doesnt give sex to you there is absolutely no reason to invest your valuable time. Dont involve yourself with women that are not willing to do sex with you.
By being their friend you are actually one of their girlfriends. Huge time and energy wasting. Women as friends are a big joke compare to men friends. Male friendship is priceless.
Those are the male truth bombs. We want youth, beauty and sex from a variety of women. A woman friend will never be loyal on your friendship. Never. Their hypergamy and solipsism skip men faster than you will ever imagine.
You can protect yourself by never pick a woman by a place of scarcity, but from a place of abudance, meaning that you should always pursue more women, having more options to choose, options, options, NEVER focus on 1 girl.
Even if you get the girl you like NEVER let your guard down and always talk to other women as well. It doesnt have to be sexual, just keep them around (spin plates) and meet more and more while you keep the girl you deemed worthy of your time. She will feel that competition anxiety deep in her and she will try to push your comfort zone every day to turn you into a beta.
Keep your frame intact at all cost, the shit testing will be relentless, its a tough game out there brothers and I promise you anyone can change their circumstances if they are truthfuly willing to change. Dont let past failures limit your potential, continue to fight and be the man you are proud of. You are the prize.
I was actually shocked when you got to the part where he said "I still didn't have sex with her".. my jaw actually dropped.
You need money to get out of the friend zone.
I got friendzoned after a few 10-15 sec conversations and being added on social media (she added me) and she said she didn't want to lead me on and I never even asked her out. I didn't beg her. I didn't chase her but we are in the same social circle. Maybe I didn't show intent or who knows.
*This brother needs to get his own sh|t together before worrying about women.*
His mental strength is in the gutter and I would start by working on self-esteem and physical health.
This won't change over som week. Give yourself time.
@Natural Man Yes, I'd say it's even more important.
Well said!
Yeah, trying to attract any women (let alone the girl of your dreams) while you're not anywhere near being your best self is a recipe for disaster. Trust me, I know from personal experience, lmao. The better of a man I've become, the less desperate I've been for women -- and the more women have been attracted to me. It's really not rocket science. Just focus on being the best version of yourself you can be, and women will come naturally especially the more comfortable you feel about yourself.
@@brandondaniels9471 This is very true. I get more attention from women, since I started concentrating on myself. If you look desperate, you will find it hard to attract anyone.
Yes, working on yourself is the best you can do.
Advice to the fellow: forget about women for now and focus on improving your health. Lose weight, eat healthy, get better sleep, exercise and be the best you can be. As a student doctor, get on track with your studies and job opportunities.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
Agreed. Only 30 years old. Plenty of time to turn this franchise around.
Focus on becoming the best version of yourself...
Very good advice. That is what I did long ago when I was overweight and tired of living.
That alone gave me a crazy alpha attitude and I got laid a lot, with women pursuing me, because I didn't give a shit about them. I was focused on my goals.
I’m a lady and I couldn’t agree more.
Learned the hard way. If any woman says “you’re a great friend”; eject and deny them your attention.
Yep, Ditch the relationship altogether and move on, leave her alone, forever.
Friend zoned guys are there to provide attention while they are riding the cock carousel.
dave4248 noted
I always ask if she has single friends lmao and they usually ask why i would even ask that. Well obviously since you're off the market then i figure your friends would be a better use of my time. I've actually had chicks take this and go out with me again. otherwise i just ditch them entirely
@dave4248 You're half correct...…….being seen in the company of another (attractive) woman or women is pre-selection (in her mind). The 2 problems are: 1) A HUGE percentage of women spend the bulk of their time with the guy(s) they're fucking. She miiiiiiiiiight gab on the phone with him, but not very likely to hang out with him. 2) I have never met a guy who was introduced to an ATTRACTIVE woman, by his female 'friend'. Women aren't that stupid. She ain't gonna help you to take away her free attention AND she ain't gonna' get rid of her 4th string QB. If ALL else fails, and nothing works out with the 5 or 10 guys she wants, then, she miiiiiiiiiiiiight let him sniff it.
If a girl ever friendzones you just let her go ( go full no contact ) and look for other women. Why torture yourself by being friends?
Well, a female friend can be a great source of red pills.
Just observe her and learn..
openly date other women in front of her
she will chase you ASAP
@Shaun A this is how we do it. And that first chick will eventually chase after you because you will become more sexually attractive to her. Both chicks banged. What's better than that. Maybe a friend of that friend? 🤔😀
Exactly
I’m not looking for new friends. Not taking any applications. Ha
How to get out of the Friend Zone? Don´t get in one, simple
yes xD
That's how to prevent it...stop being friendly is how to get out of it
Real Advice, no need not to be friendly. Either fuck them, or don't hang around. In both situations you can be friendly.
I took out a girl from school to the sushi bar and we had a great time. I took her back home and she hugged me and kissed me after I walked her to her door. She said " think we'll be great friends." I told her that I wasn't interested in being her friend. I told her I was much more interested than that. She said she wasn't looking for that with me. I never gave her the time of day again and she texts me from time to time to this day. I have not answered her and her texts get meaner and meaner.
@@thedevilsadvocate3710 Good job man 👍
Friend zone is her saying “You are good enough to be my emotional tampon but not good enough to sleep with me”
On an even deeper level she's saying "Your genes aren't worthy of reproduction and they deserve to join you in your grave when you die."
I slept with a girl about 25 times and she still friendzoned me, or atleast tried to but i declined
" She wasn't emotionally available for another relationship yet" ...short time after banging his friend....women will break the rules for the Alpha that they make for the Beta....
Bien dicho.
Hell yeah lol
That’s not really how this works. She is just lying to him. That’s her way of saying, “I don’t find you attractive,” and she wants to keep you in the friend zone. Women are always available for a relationship with a man of value.
Woman who keeps u in the frienzone are the same woman who sees u as a back up plan or second choice.move on and find someone who prioritize u
At that point you are just a utility kept waiting.
Agreed, she has already put you in the "friend zone box", it's very difficult to get out of this from this woman specifically. Almost always not worth a man's time, on to the next one.
No flakes, and only give your time to those who give you theirs.
Or even plan Z. In other words, if all else fails at least I have THIS guy.
Not even. She just wants the attention and validation from knowing that someone wants her.
ghost and move on, I've enough friends
He is way too invested in this girl. With no return on investment.
The only chance you have of getting out of the friendzone is by removing your nonsexual attention and focusing on raising your SMV.
HEYYYYYYY Got Any Grapes
Guy needs to forget the ladies for now and focus on improving his health and his career position. Women should be the least of his concerns
1. Health / Muscles
2. Purpose (leads to money & status)
3. Quality woman
If 1 and 2 aren't on track, forget about 3. If you put women first, you'll always lose in life.
Plus money
Don't be afraid to let a woman know you intentions from the jump
I think this is the key point.
Webster Kollie MOOOODE 1
Even if she rejects you she'll respect you for that.
Webster Kollie but the sexual tension won’t be there anymore
she either reciprocates or she doesn't hear from me again. simple as that.
Friendzone = Bye Felicia !
When she says let’s just be friends, I whisper in her ears “with benefits”. They always laugh at that but trust me, it works.
The friendzone doesn't exist thats just men pining after women who dont want them
It is easy.
View your friendzoning for what it really is, namely a rejection of you by her.
She has rejected you.
Accept that immediately.
Then break off contact.
And move on to better and more satisfying prospects.
Do not let her back in.
She had her chance and made her choice.
Now make yours.
There is no oneZ
This guy should NOT be in med school. He should not be a doctor for everyone's sake.
Not everyone has sake you know... Some prefer gin, vodka, etc.
He might do suicide, doctors have the highest rate with females doing the most.
Hes needs a different field. Those female nurses will drive you crazy and turn you into a woman. My health has been a lot better since if left the medical field.
I dunno, if he gets his shit together and starts lifting and having success it could change his whole mindset and he'll be fine.
@@ericharwood1047 it doesnt matter how bufff you are those female nurses will break you down
Step 1: Don't.
Step 2: Stop wasting energy on a woman that rejected you and doesn't see you romantically.
Any time a woman has placed me in the friend zone, I placed myself in the former acquaintance zone. If you ever manage to get yourself out of the friendzone, she is settling and it is only a matter of time till she hates you for it. If she puts you on the back burner, you will never be the main dish.
When I find out someone is taking any kind of anti-depressant or other psychiatric drug, major red flag.
@Shake half? more like 90% of the western population. lol
@@Kaz.2719 Kaz I was as deep into the abyss as the guy in this video and pulled. Myself out. You know what? The guy is right, gym and putting yourself out there was the best thing I ever did. Oh and discovering red pill
I was once dumped after 3 years and put in the friend zone. She said “I hope we can be like best friends”....My reply was “In the exact same way that I wasn’t good enough to be your man, you aren’t even close to being good enough to be my friend”..then I went no contact forever.
She couldn’t believe it and begged for me back. But when I make a choice I stick by it, no I never looked back. 💪🏻
Women can be such treacherous creatures, playing with men's feelings and lives with no regard to the consequences.
@@danielhartin7680 Women are the Queen of Betrayal tho
You're a Sigma Gigachad and Top G
At that point she was only worthy of your silence.
Alpha response mate
I got friend zoned by a woman at work. I still remember how painful it was when I realised she was banging some other jerk when I thought there was something developing between us.
It's really difficult when you still have see her everyday at work. I distanced my self from her, but still I wasn't over her. Eventually after months, I internalized all her lies, and I got angry with her. Really angry! I told her what a lying cow she was, and told her she could fuck off. And boom, like that, I was over her.
This was the start of my red pill journey. 2.5 years later, I've now been trough my first ltr, survived to tell the tail, and I currently have 2 plates spinning.
LOL, Rule 1: Don't shit where you eat, aka don't date coworkers! I wouldn't hang out with them.
I concur. Dating at work is a no win situation. Never a good idea. It always ends badly.
Gary van der Merwe
Out of interest, did she ever reach out to you again?
@@VoiceOfThe Not since I told her to fuck off. (I still see her almost every day at work.)
Don't dip your pen in the company ink lol
Says he dont do drugs, hes on 3 different pills lol
"You need support after a death in the family".. Women dont care about your feels .. They talk about wanting a guy with feelings.. They want Chad to have feelings.. My biggest mistake with a women was to show her my pain after my brother passed .. Sad but true..
Boy: We have soo much in common wow Girl: So your in the medical Field how much money do your make?
How much do I make ?, Why, how much do you cost....
@John The perfect response. 100%
My husband was a master on this, We were friends but he say to me "I don't want to be your friend, I want everything or nothing so this is our last conversation" and that was it
So it wasn't your last conversation? Or did you divorce your friend after he wanted sex for the first time? I'm confused
@@netfischer it wasn't our last conversation, We are married. We have being together for almost 16 years now.
When that happened I was calling him all day and night bc I really like him.
@@gpg8204 Gotcha. thanks for Clearing up. And good for you.
@@netfischer thank you. He is amazing I am really lucky 🤗
@@netfischer dont validate her. She was leading her husband on. And fucking him up in the head.
How to get out of the friendzone, avoid her completely go your own way .
If you don’t eject from the friend zone quickly, you can end up ejecting like Goose from Top Gun.
That hit me in the feels so hard. Poor goose
A lot of women will take advantage of your future socioeconomic status as a doctor.
"Worst case of oneitis in human history"
Damn, this is gonna be fun.
*Grabs popcorn*
*sneaks hand in to take popcorn
Nahh, I used to friend zone myself, I literally had a girl come over and take her pants off in my bedroom.
😃
It was bad but not worst
@@killcat1971 nigga, you're gay.
I would in this order:
-Own the fact that your values and actual belief system put you in this holes
-Change your diet cut the junk food and everything soy related. Also the meds. If you don't have any medical conditions look into IF.
- Then pick up heavy stuff like Rich said.
Time to focus on yourself and turn it around
All sound advice, however if you want to cut out excess estrogen you need to ditch all milk and cheese, not soy.
The friendzone is like a weird religious sect, easy to get into but massively difficult to get out off
Student Doctor should research his attachment style and address these childhood traumas.
They affect your entire life if not taken care of.
I had a fwb who during pillow talk would tell me about her male friend that her and her friends loved to go out with, because he would buy them drinks and when they needed to move they would call him as well. They would laugh behind his back because he never got any sex from any of them. Don't get friend zone.
I like your vids man but why would you ever encourage someone to just get off psych meds without knowing their situation? Are you a doctor? No. Some people need them. Encouraging someone to just get off their anti depressant out of no where it is common for them to become suicidal and all sorts of bad shit. dont judge them man....and you shouldnt give advice without being a doctor, knowing his medical history, knowing everything about his situation, etc. Not a good move man . Such a stigma around psych meds because people like you, if it helps them and improves their life let them be. Just because you personally do not need it does not mean NOBODY in the world needs them. Without anti depressants a lot of people who were suicidal would be dead today. Luckily they went to a doctor, got a medication and it helped save their life. Only saying it because ive been through it. Tapered off after a year. But i dont like people like you who have no clue what is going on with them, arent a doctor, dont know about their medical past, dont know about possible past suicide attempts? Sometimes its better to get on a medication to help you rather than attempt to commit suicide. If you think its better the other way around then your nuts. Peoples situations are different, You have no business giving out medical recommendations with no medical background and if you think people on a anti depressant just need to "Work out" youre delusional. I work out often and love it it makes me feel good but when i was suicidal for a few years no damn workout would have made me feel better and made me not suicidal. The goal is for the person not to harm/kill themselves. Which eventually many get to that level without help like therapy, medical help, etc. Which in some cases include anti depressants. Telling someone who is depressed to "lift heavy shit and put it down" is beyond ignorant. You know many people are born with chemical imbalances in their brain? low dopamine, low seratonin, low norepanephrine. Should they get no medical help? Youre nuts if you think someone born with a genetic brain imbalance should not get medical help to help that. Also to the guy who wrote you, listen to a DOCTOR for your medical recommendations , not some guy on youtube with no medical background and this is coming from someone who watches all your videos, and is subscribed to your private group here on youtube.
So you think it's better to listen to a company which sells meds to earn money, rather than a guy who has gone through the same and is just trying to help him.
Friends zone? Fugget about it. The "Let's just be friends" cliche is basically a middle finger and it's best to move on and not waste your time pursuing a dead end.
Personally, I'd prefer a more honest response like "I'm not into to you."
Move on if you get the LJBF line.
Or when she says, "Let's just be friends," amend it by responding "With benefits."
I actually cracked opened a beer for this and made some popcorn.
My friend was on antidepressents (lamictal)(zeldox)for 2 years but it never helped him it had side effects like him gaining weight etc about 2 years ago he decided to taper off of these medications and start weightlifting he now has a sixpack with a v line and is the happiest ive ever seen him
Without redpilling TH-cam videos, my generation had to guess and experience how women behave, how they think, love and play games. Now, with all information out there, it doesn't take a lot of IQ to just make a simple search. But knowing about hypergamy and the female nature is just a part of the whole picture. Richard Cooper is the guy who could have spared me years of grief and shitty experiences beyond imagination if he had been around in the 90's. But I have to blame myself too: it took me a long time to make the steps which are needed for a great life as a man in his fourties. Everything will come around and one day you will be proud of what you have become and how so many of your dreams came true.
The last girl I dated, she tried to put me in her friend zone. I told her I wasn't interested in having a platonic relationship with her and she went no contact with me. This was very heartbreaking for me because I truly feelings for her, I even was ignorantly blissful at the time, thinking that she could be "The One". Me like a lot of us, I never grew up in a loving family, so I never had a level playing field in regards to learing about emotional maturity. My emotional immaturity has lead me down the path of having a pathetic love life, and life long bachelorism.
Man, the cure for that is clubbing, banging and dumping. Once you you got laid a lot and learned more about women, you will stop worshipping them or seeing them as special.
If you have no game, just go for it without minding the rejections.
It's better to go clubbing with really good buddies, the kind you have fun with and can be natural with them. Then you will oberflow confidence, and when women in a club see you are having fun with your people, they will flock to you. Like dogs, they go to where the fun is.
What most women teach us is there is never going to be “the one.” There is miss temporary or miss right now but long term….?
He's suffering from "simp-poisoning."
I don't understand this friendzone stuff. Women can't put men anywhere. Guys put themselves on the friendzone when they keep hope after being rejected. It is a self-imposed situation.
If a woman rejected you, be friends with her if you may, but give up on her romanticaly and don't go out of your way to please her because she "might change her mind" or "finaly see the great guy you are".
Women are oblivous to how good you are or what you feel for her, they only care about what they want and will only be pleased with men that have the qualities or resources she wants to get.
The amount of women I've seen go for guys that match their superficial type just to bitch about them endlessly is no joke. They don't know what they want and I'm not interested in discovering. They are dumb as fuck and are in no position to validade you as a person.
It's taken me a while to realize that, but you're spot on. A woman doesn't friendzone a man, a man friendzone's himself. He gives the woman the initiative to "come around", but does that by his own free will.
Raw fucking truth soo tyy
The more you want them the less they want you.
Great points Rich but I would also tell him in 3-5 years, he'll be a practicing physician, easily making six figures and in his peak SMV. Which means he'll get the last laugh to all the women who friend-zoned him.
How to get out of the Friend Zone? Don't put yourself there to begin with. Only spend time as friends with people (both men and women) who you are happy being friends with. If an individual is someone you can't appreciate friendship with without wanting something else, do both of you a favour and move on. Also, if you're finding yourself swooning for someone who doesn't reciprocate, start working on yourself; you obviously don't see yourself as deserving or worth enough if you don't find those feelings naturally fading quickly when you discover they aren't reciprocated.
I feel sorry for the guy, we have all been there a time or two. Also men need to realize time easily spent is time easily lost, and they'll never get that back. Time is VALUABLE; and the time he has spent working on attempting to be with this person, he could've been spending it on fixing himself. The advice from the video is priceless, great advice. I wish I could've had advice like this in my twenties.
haven't watched this yet, but I'll share my comment anyway. sorry if it's a repeat of what you said, Rich. If you want to get out of the friend zone, you have to be willing to let her go. Permanently. You're in the friend zone because she thinks she can keep you as an orbiter and that she can push you around.
Put your foot down. You don't need to turn it into a passive-aggressive "you won't have sex with me so I'm taking my toys and going home" thing. don't make a scene. JUST GO. And be glad you saved yourself the trouble of dealing with her in a relationship.
Correct. She’ll get pissy, but if you stand your ground, state you’re not interested in being friends, she’ll feel your strength which will actually make her feel some respect and attraction for you.
The quickest way to get someone’s attention is to remove yours.
You’ll stand the best chance of getting her back... if, that’s what you want.
Back to square 1
I was in the friendzone for 3 years. She finally wanted to date, but I had already mentally moved past looking at her romantically. After a little pushing from her, I decided to give it a chance. It never felt right. I backed off. She questioned, and when I told her it wasn't working after she asked what was going on, I was called an a-hole and blocked on all social media accounts. Getting out of the friend zone isn't worth it. It's not what you expect, and it won't end well.
Never trust a girl's excuse ...because it's an excuse 🙄 for god sake..
Each and every man should note this " I am getting out of a bad relationship...drug addict etc...etc."..like she told him in his face that she doesn't like him..
Just get out of this societal conditioning of true love bs
Go on a low carb ketogenic diet immediately
"Secretly seeing someone behind his back." How??? No one owns another human being, she can do whatever she wants 🤣
A girl I've been lightly chasing at my company for a year blew me in the front seat of her car after a company social. What did I do different in the last 30 days?...........treated her and every other woman in the office like crap. No validation, no conversation, no attention, no anything.......BINGO, IMMEDIATE attraction!........women are weird, it's actually pathetic. The whole time in the front seat I'm thinking I Won, you lost!
Haha! Well done, man
You will have more confidence and become more attractive to woman by
getting yourself in shape physically and mentally. A starting point is getting
the weight off---I did it and you can do it----it makes a big difference in how
people view you and how you view yourself. Work on yourself before chasing
women.
Eric congrats but thats generalizing don't you think what if the man has a medical condition that wont allow him to get the weight off..
Keep going at being a Doctor... Once you get your MD women will fall all over you ... Not women you want but lot of women ..
Just ghost and block her on
Your phone. SIMPLE!
Block her too? Or keep her to make her jealous when somebody really likes him?
One of the things I love about your videos and statements is you focus on the guys themselves and try to fix things from within (which is the fundamental requirement to become a better version of yourself) rather, focusing on women and try to analyze or judge their thoughts and actions, as a matter of the fact, you always respect women for what they do and what they are (i.e. "she is a single mom and her children are her priority which they should be, she is their mom")
The fact that a guy (in my opinion anyone) needs to be held accountable for what he is going through in his life should be a lesson that everyone should learn regardless of their gender
Best of luck to you
I agree. But the problem is he is not fully aware of how helplessl blue-pilled he is
If you're cucked enough to get into, and stay in the friendzone, there is no hope and you should just move on to the next. Maybe say some less than nice things and bruise her egotistical delusions and you will get laid, but cater to and entice her egotistical delusions, and she will view you as the man to fund said delusions. Treat her like a celebrity and she will treat you like a fan.
Why even read this letter? This guy obviously just wants to whine but not improve his life. Smart enough to be a doctor but not smart enough to figure out simple problems? I question whether this is a real letter.
They will be together some day Rich
After she's had her fill of all those bad boys ;-)
Oh and she is for sure having quite the fill
Workout in the morning, 2 hours after waking up, chug some coffee too, then go kill it. Working out at the end of the day NEVER works for me, I'm too tired (I'm 50) ..also, do a 2 week fresh press juice FAST, this will reset many things in your body (see John Rose videos).
Grandpa's Swapmeet, how long have you been doing the juice fast? I turn 40 this November and I seriously need to retool my lifestyle regarding diet and exercise. Juice fasting is an option I’ve had on my mind, I just want to do it correctly. I’m not overweight; I’ve actually lost ten pounds in the past couple of months but it’s due mainly to calorie deficit and work related stress. That and I’ve made drastic cuts in my beer drinking. This was very painful but I bit the bullet. Still, I’m feeling the decline in energy but what really scares me is a decline in cognitive ability at work. I know I need to sort myself out.
I see you work out two hours after waking up, am I reading that correctly?
Detox smoothies?
You don’t need Wellbutrin or Abilify, what you need is a prescription for some Beta Blockers.
😂 bruh
Don't waste time trying to get out of the friend zone. Just walk away and don't be a friend to any of them. When you are not a friend, and when you do not care for their attention one tiny bit, suddenly they will not allow you to be alone.
Holy shit...reading these letters from these poor forlorn men is painful to hear. I was put in the friend zone a few times when I was very young and had very little experience with women. Once I became "tuned in" or was red pilled (before that was even a thing) I made it a point to make my desire of her known. If the vibe was not reciprocated I moved on. This is one of the first steps a young man takes going from a beta to an alpha. I haven't been put in the friend zone since my teens simply because I don't allow it. There is nothing more awful and pathetic to watch than a beta who is clearly a "girlfriend" of a woman he is attracted to and continuing down this path with the thought that he will eventually "triumph in the end".
When she tries to put you in the friend zone you just reject the offer. Just say "No I'm not interested in that." Then she will know you are the one controlling the situation and not her. Also cut all contact with her if you can. Then ask someone else out.
I find if you are "friends" with a woman that doesn't want anymore than that let her see you with another attractive woman and watch her interest in you change. Women are very competitive and it clicks in another woman see something in you. Works quite often.
There’s 3 ways you’re in the FZ!
A) She saw you and simply put you in the friend zone category.
B) You started a sexual chemistry with her but you lost frame n started turning beta and she put you in the FZ
C) You went the FZ route in the first place
How to avoid the friend zone? Don’t be ugly.
It also helps if you are not poor, and/or you are high on the social totem pole (I.E.: not a mere middle manager, but upper level).
Best revenge is treat her back like a friend. It pissed her off big time 🤣
The best way to get out of the friend zone is by ignoring that woman/ not give her any attention. However, don’t show her that you’re booty hurt because this will lower attraction for you if she has any. Like what he says, work on your physique and try to stay busy/ healthy in general. My advice for you is to date a hotter chick, and she’ll start boiling.
Women Gatekeep Sex-But Men Gatekeep Relationships, it fits for all kinds of relationships with women, including that FRIENDZONE bullshit that men keep get trapped in. When you have a "friendship" with a woman, and want a sex relatioship with her, and she said that only sees you as just a FRIEND, and wants to be your "FRIEND" and not lose the friendship, cut off that relationship, because YOU ARE the gatekeep of relationship. Don't give her the power over the relationship, it's not her who decides to be friends with you, it's YOU who decides to be friends with her. I see many men whinning about girls who put them in the FRIENDZONE and keep having a friendship with them and give all they want. NO, STOP this, tell her the friendship is over and you don't have interest anymore, she will drive crazy, because she wants that friendship with you, keeping the friendship, you are providing, giving her the power to something that only you has control. If you keep that friendship, you will end up with nothing and she will win. Don't let her have that friendship with you, MEN ARE THE GATEKEEP of relationship, remember that. The best way to get out of the FRIENDZONE is walk away, end up any kind of relationship with the woman who put you there, it's sex or nothing.
And this dude is going to be a doctor!!!
... lmmfao ... Deadass ... ikr ...
I constantly got put in the friend zone by women because I lacked an abundance mindset was 100% blue pill. I was given a copy of the rational male (no plug) and began to live by red pill principles. I lost weight, put on muscle, got my finances in order and developed an abundance mindset. biggest key for me was being my own mental point of origin, operating in my frame and deciphering the medium in the message when listening to what women were saying. These things have helped me avoid the friend zone with women
I've been the fat nice guy for too long, major changes are already underway.
(Racks shotgun) lol
The majority of men simply cannot get out of the friend zone once a woman puts them there. If you try, she will just stop interacting with you. The exception to this is for the top guys who are really good-looking, as in the top 10% of attractiveness. Women will give them a 2nd chance if they start acting like they have value.
Had this happen to me with a 29 year old single mother at my gym. Only way for me to get over it: have sex with other women
My nigga, single mothers are low hanging fruit, have some set respect and standards FFS. 😒
Exceptional video. I've been struggling with a version of this problem. I've been broken up with my ex-fiance for three years now. I've dated more than a dozen women in that time but I keep comparing them to her and oddly kinda end up resenting them for not being more like her. I feel like it's not fair to date more women until I can get this one out of my head. She only had sex with one guy in those three years and, of course, he just used her. In fact, she hadn't had sex for four years before we met (single mom focusing on her son). She also had sex with me once about a year ago when we both got really drunk together. Bottom line is that she's not a good partner for me because I'm very active and success-oriented and she's not. but I love her feminine personality, her tight little body, her natural beauty, and we have a great time together. When we were together the sex was the best of my life and I've been with a lot of women. It's bizarre to me that a woman that is so amazing in the sack goes years without having sex. She even agrees that the sex was amazing with me but thinks that would complicate her life. She's pretty much decided that she's going to be single for the rest of her life. I've been there for her emotionally and helped her with different things in her life... but I'm deep in the friend zone at this point. Sooo.... I'm off to the gym now... and I've been thinking about starting up Judo again... with your advice to that guy I'm going to join up today. Also going to work that much harder to build my digital agency. Thanks for the great advice you gave that guy... because you gave it to me too.
Untill you red pill you will get friend zoned.. Being red pilled is like the movie "They Live". . It's like your now you have these glasses on and can see the world as it is ..
If shes not banging you then you need to move on. Dont be friends with women. If she wants to be friends you need to cut her off and move on. Also b4 u cut ties ask her if she has any single friends lol
The time and effort this guy poured into this one could have been directed towards banging ten other women. Once she discovers that his SMV has grown from zero to ten, watch the girl of his dreams come runnig back to stake her claim. When women smell success and confidence you' ll be the one that's calling the shots. When I was in my 20s I was juggling 5 women a week and I am no Adonis but I bristled with confidence and had miles of game. If the circumstance was right I could be in bed with a woman within 5 to 10 minutes after having just met them. There is no greater high than confidence. It will change your life. When I moved onto my 30s and began to carve out a successful career for myself the women kept coming and they were even classier and more beautiful. The moment they would give me shit I would drop them and they would be gone. Women are like busses. There is always another one coming along every 15 minutes.
What if he becomes a Tekken world champion?
30 yo guy still falling for the friend zone? Dudes need to step their game up!
Most likely still a virgin.
Have been in that sad state of existence.
Am NOT getting back into that BS.
It. Ain't. Worth. It.
At least to me its not.
Man, I love your way of thinking. But you NEVER suggest to somebody that uses anti-depressants to stop taking them suddenly. Some people have chemical unbalance, so must be on antidepressants all their life (my best friend has this kind of problem). And if somebody is on it and want to stop, under the surveillance of a psychiatrist, must stop gradually. Be carefull about what you suggest to people, about the other stuff that you said I think you're perfectly right. Keep up with the good content.
Umberto
Nahh bro who cares if it keeps you from killing yourself? It messes with you sex life just lift brooo. Fucking terrible advise.
@Natural Man Can happen, and by any means also the contrary. I know what he meant before, but at the same time some people can superficially listen to this advice and incourr in what I've said. Imagine a young man or a teenager saying:" oh well, yeah stop this shit" and then finding himself not in control of his mind and committing suicide or harming people. This is my opinion, doesn't have to be yours... But mentioning side effect of antidepressants won't change that for some people medications are necessary and prevent them from getting in harmful situations. BTW I am not a psychiatrist, nor connected to farmaceutical companies.
This isn’t a truth bomb. It’s a truth nuke.
Ouch this was cringy as hell. But agree with everyone else work on your health, maintain frame and as Rich says look for high value low drama."
A book I'd recommend too, "The subtle art of not giving a F*ck" by Mark Morrison
"You've now entered a world of low fat latte's, shoe shopping, romantic movies, cuddling and being quite essentially a neutered teddy bear. You've entered...The Friendzone!!!!" Dun dun dun
I have admit I been friendzoned twice in my life. I learned to just walk away and ignore. Granted I the harder way, but thank God for my uncle.
WAIT until you finish med school and residency/fellowship. Once you start making money as a doctor and improve yourself women will come along. You can never lose women chasing money.
I went swimming with a girl a few months ago. After sex she told me she didn’t want to “friend zone” me after she saw me with out a shirt. Working out will help you in a way you can not imagine until you get it. Do the work! You’ll have fun!
1. The suicidal ideation worries me. You need to talk to a psychiatrist who can adjust your medications and get you into counselling to deal with the suicidal thoughts. A lot of this comes from being in a high stress field where you are working long hours.
2. You are a doctor. You are sitting in the cat bird's seat. You are/will be working in hospitals where every nurse wants to marry a doctor. You do not get a higher sexual market value in anything other than being a doctor. Any woman who would not be interested in marrying a doctor is brain damaged and you don't want her.
3. Forget this girl. She is using you. She will continue to use you for as long as you let her. (Been there, done that.) You need to put distance between you and her. This is hard when you are working together or are in the same program. But you will not have any peace until she is out of your life for good. This may mean transferring to another hospital and eventually moving to another city -- the geographical cure for oneitis works wonders. At the very least ghost her. If she wants to talk to you, you are too busy and will get back to her later.
4. As a doctor, you are in a better position to evaluate your weight problem than anyone here. Lifting weights builds muscle, but aerobics burns fat. You should be making enough money to hire a personal trainer; having a personal trainer with a scheduled time forces you to work out regularly, whether you feel like doing it or not. A personal trainer will help you lose lots of weight (been there, done that). Riding a bike or walking on a treadmill an hour a day or so can work wonders.
I'm sort of embarrassed by the fact that you don't know the words "draconian" or "ideation"
Dan M I’m a college educated (engineer) and have been an amateur writer for years and I don’t know those words well enough to use them confidently
@@headlesnorseman701 Today's the first time I came across the word ideation, and I was an editor for 12 years.
@@headlesnorseman701 I'm also a college grad and an amateur writer... maybe the difference is in the amount of reading we've done? Not sure, but these words have been vernacular for me since first year of college.
I find that extremely surprising coming from an editor. What level material did you edit out of curiosity?
*"Ask me how I know."*
Mic drop right there.
Didn't watch one second but: just be tall and good looking and you won't be in the friendzone. Everybody who came to this video because he searched for advice should realize this. You're just asexual in the eyes of women because of your GENES.
And change your name to either Chad, Tyrone or Kevin from sales.
Wish I could see a picture of this supposedly amazing unicorn. In my experiences (my own and others) we sometimes fall head over heels for someone that’s probably not even worth it on many levels.
I went through a similar situation but it was more a barrage of smaller friend zones and rejections that made me suicidal, at a later age. Somehow I got lucky you get being unskilled with women and all.
My suggestion to the guy, if he needs no one in general, to press the nuke button, disconnect, isolate, keep contact only with family and maybe best friend. Some might say that it’s unhealthy but it did a hard reset on me, the afterwards gaining back slowly the right amount of commitment with people in general that doesn’t become a burden and by extension falling in those oneitis conundrums. When an equilibrium is formed at least I think twice before adding someone more to my world.
Bro, this is eye-opening. This guy is me in high school. Thank God for the hard lessons in the past and for this guy to make me understand what I did wrong.
You can avoid the friend zone ridiculously easily. Don't give her any attention.
Here is another tip. Call and date her best friend. It will drive her batshit
Chase excellence not women. That's how you get out of the FZ