My lil sis constantly wants interaction. She doesn’t potty or bathe by herself. She often runs out naked waiting to be wiped, or from the bathroom ready to bathe or get dressed. She doesn’t dress on her own. However, I think she is very capable because she has independently put on articles of clothes, used the potty, washed hands, and brushed teeth. I think the reason she isn’t independent is because she wants the constant company; she gets really jealous when no one is interacting with her even for a minute. And often her running out is because she wasn’t answered for a moment or left briefly unattended. She is in third grade. Today, I actually tested her (I never help will hygiene really, but it was just me and her) she pulled her pants down and ran to the bathroom. So instead of standing at the open door supervising and instructing as I would (which usually leads to her running out) I closed the door and talked through the door, but I don’t think she could really hear me. She tried to open it, but I said “no you have to wipe and pull up your pants”. So after a moment I heard commotion suggesting she did what I said. She didn’t flush (she can forget sometimes). And her washing her hands. I asked her if she was done and she said “I done”. What does this say about her ability? Do you think this was lucky, or that she has the capacity, she is just so caught up in routine and comfort? What do you suggest my next steps are?
Great book. I got around to reading it today, after we became 75% dry (for about a week now, I feared some kind of freak luck) in a matter of two days, without me knowing exactly what I did that worked (it was like the 5th or 6th time we stared), only reinforcer is praise and that she is allowed to flush to her heart's desire, she only gets a limited amount of sweets because she is too agitated then. I say 75% because she knows when is time to pee, never gave her more liquids as I was always encouraging liquids anyway and I was trying to find her true schedule, she takes off her undie totally still but still does not pull it back, nor wipe. BM is an issue as she finds the posture new and is afraid from it, so hides and goes in her underwear. I am reluctant to stop her as she is easily constipated. Biggest issue is that she flat out refuses diapers any time other than night, she only goes in her potty.. And I am unable to schedule everything outside of the house around the potty time. She will be 4 in September and for the first time I am not that stressed and sure that we are on the right track as far as the potty goes . And thank Godness for summer as there is less clothing. I hope we learn more soon enough as kindergarten stars in September. I just wanted to say great book and encourage parents of non verbal autistic kids, it just happenes when they are ready and then we can build on that. It doesn't hurt trying and not stressing but most importantly trusting the kids.
@@marybarbera thank you for the suggestion, I will check it out. Although being dry is not a requirement for her special needs inclusion type kindergarten (We are in Europe), it is one of our most important goals for her short term future.
My granddaughter is 4. We have been working on potty training for awhile. I can't seem to get her to drink anything. She really doesn't like dinking. Her sippy will last all day. How do we improve that? Also would popsicles work just as well?
I have a 4 year old son and have been trying to potty train for two years now. He goes to kindergarten for neurotypical children but they have thankfully accommodated his special needs. Its been two weeks now that he has managed to come home without any accidents and the teacher assistant has said he goes by himself or gets her to take him to the toilet, however, he's not doing that at home. I suppose its easier for him to remain dry at school as they dont drink as much fluids. We still need to to take him to the toilet at home as he is still not self initiating. What can i do?
@@marybarbera thank you so much for your response Mary. So when its potty time we say 'wee-wee' and he knows what it means. Right now he gets a sweet for going to the toilet and he knows he should get one cause he looks at my hand to see if I have a sweet. After he undresses he opens his hand for his sweet. If he doesn't do anything he only gets for going, otherwise he will get another should he urinate or BM. I'm happy to say that since I posted my comment, he went to the toilet on his own to do BM in the toilet! Although he didnt say he was going as he has limited speech I suppose this is a good start..
I followed the “oh crap” potty training and so far so good. Minus the few accidents we have while out by not being able to reach the potty he is doing great. He has limited speech but his potty sign is easy to understand. My only issue is with his OT and speech therapist they say the office requires a child to be in a pull-up if they can’t verbally say or sign the potty sign. Any way I can get around this? I really feel like it’s holding him back, since he knows he’s wearing a pull-up so he doesn’t have to use his sign he made up for the potty.
If he is staying dry at home with the underwear i'd just ask that they give it a trial run. Maybe underwear under a diaper so he can still feel the underwear?
Thank you for the video and the eBook which is packed with lots of good info! I'm a grandfather to 9 years old boy with server autism and non-verbal. BCBA of the boy at the school is saying he is not ready for potty training. She is saying he does not recognize when he needs to go yet. Some of the book I read even suggested ignore such comments as 'not ready' and just go for it. Is there a such thing as 'not ready'? Thank you!
My 4 year old son go to toilet when some one takes him. We are following schedule but some one has to take him . If we forgot he will do in pants. He is non verbal. We use pecs for communication. Please reply.
To teach initiation you want to prompt him to grab the pecs at the scheduled time before you take him. I discuss this a lot more in my new book that can also help you build other important skills. Turnautismaround.com to check it out. Also www.marybarbera.com/potty for the full potty guide.
Download the potty e book by going to marybarbera.com/potty . I also have a full chapter on this in my book turnautismaround.com It says for young children but if your child is developmentally under 5...it would be appropriate.
My son is 21 years old and won’t sit on the toilet long enough to to. Do you think it would help him? In 7th grade he was doing pretty good about going in the toilet but then he regressed and just wouldn’t.
My son is turning 5 in few months and is partially potty trained. He uses bathroom at home but he refuses to go into public restroom and at school as well. He is in preschool only 2hrs a day but he will be in kindergarten soon for 6 hrs and he won’t be able to hold it that long. We’re working on this with his therapist but not much success so far. Any suggestions on how to overcome that type of fear or discomfort of using restroom out of home ?
You're not alone! Lots of kiddos struggle with using public restrooms at first, but you can practice at places like the grocery store, Target, Walmart, etc. Try your best to make it fun and always have big rewards for even entering the public bathroom happily. You can have them see that you use the bathroom in public, too, and it's no big deal, etc. I have resources on desensitization, too! You might find this helpful as the material can be applied to your situation: marybarbera.com/systematic-desensitization-rebroadcast-doctors-dentist-haircuts/ Perhaps, during an after school event, you could practice in the bathroom at school, too.
I don't work with families personally anymore, but you have access to me and my team when you join one of my online courses. If you're interested, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
Our journey is been interesting... my son just got diagnosed not to long ago and he is 5 he is non verdad and he missed almost 2 years of school because the old school district toke a really long time to do the test on him and then was covid he is finally in school now and I explained to them he is not potty trained and they say that was ok and they were going to help him but they never tell if he had a schedule or what were they doing so I can do the same thing at home 😔 the teacher is mad he still using diapers and I just got a phone call from the principal but I don't feel like I have the support I need. We try to take him to the bathroom at home but he get scared and most of the time he doesn't want to used it.
I hope the guide will help you to get started. I also have online courses that do cover toileting! you can learn more in a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
the guide should help. I also cover this more in my courses . www.marybarbera.com/workshops . You essentially want to make sitting fun by giving him something he enjoys to sit with .
Hi. My daughter is 4 years and 3 months old. Mild to moderate autistic. She does not like brushing her teeth. Whenever i try to brush her teeth, she cries a lot. Fights and kicks me. Her teeth are getting dirty and decaying. Can you please guide ne how to do this.
My 5 year old will urinate in on a schedule and stay dry, however she does not request to potty. She has expressive language problems. She does not like poo and avoids it resulting in micro poops. We are not sure how to approach this issue.
That is a complicated question as age and developmental age are very different and it can depend on other skills and priorities. Most children can be potty trained by age 5 , including those with developmental disabilities. Check out the ebook here www.marybarbera.com/potty for more on the topic.
my friend's son is 3.9 yrs old, he understands everything but hardly respond to questions also he's echoing. what's his problem how to overcome plz let me know thank you
google mary barbera echolalia for a video on the topic. It sounds like he may need to work on what we call intraverbals. Send your friend a free workshop to learn more www.marybarbera.com/workshops
My son is 6 yrs old he will go number 1 fine on his own, but when it comes to BM he refuses to go nor say anything he just choses to go in his pants.I dont know if maybe he's scared or confused. What advice do you have?
Oh never mind, it somehow got sent to my email..maybe this is because I registered on your website earlier. Thank you! BTW, I loved your VBA book so much!
It's hard for me to advise without knowing your son and what his skills look like. Have you consulted with a BCBA in your area? I think that will be helpful for you and your son going forward.
My potty guide can help: MaryBarbera.com/potty. However, I highly recommend you join my online course and community, as there is so much to work on with our children with delays before toilet training can really be successful! Learn more about my toddler course by attending a free 1-hour webinar: MaryBarbera.com/workshop. Or, jump right into our toddler course: MaryBarbera.com/courses.
it can take some work. I have more information at marybarbera.com/potty and also a full more in depth chapter in my new book that you can find here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
My lil sis constantly wants interaction. She doesn’t potty or bathe by herself. She often runs out naked waiting to be wiped, or from the bathroom ready to bathe or get dressed. She doesn’t dress on her own. However, I think she is very capable because she has independently put on articles of clothes, used the potty, washed hands, and brushed teeth. I think the reason she isn’t independent is because she wants the constant company; she gets really jealous when no one is interacting with her even for a minute. And often her running out is because she wasn’t answered for a moment or left briefly unattended. She is in third grade. Today, I actually tested her (I never help will hygiene really, but it was just me and her) she pulled her pants down and ran to the bathroom. So instead of standing at the open door supervising and instructing as I would (which usually leads to her running out) I closed the door and talked through the door, but I don’t think she could really hear me. She tried to open it, but I said “no you have to wipe and pull up your pants”. So after a moment I heard commotion suggesting she did what I said. She didn’t flush (she can forget sometimes). And her washing her hands. I asked her if she was done and she said “I done”. What does this say about her ability? Do you think this was lucky, or that she has the capacity, she is just so caught up in routine and comfort? What do you suggest my next steps are?
Download the potty ebook and get started. It sounds like she is ready if she can go on the toilet www.marybarbera.com/potty
Great book. I got around to reading it today, after we became 75% dry (for about a week now, I feared some kind of freak luck) in a matter of two days, without me knowing exactly what I did that worked (it was like the 5th or 6th time we stared), only reinforcer is praise and that she is allowed to flush to her heart's desire, she only gets a limited amount of sweets because she is too agitated then. I say 75% because she knows when is time to pee, never gave her more liquids as I was always encouraging liquids anyway and I was trying to find her true schedule, she takes off her undie totally still but still does not pull it back, nor wipe. BM is an issue as she finds the posture new and is afraid from it, so hides and goes in her underwear. I am reluctant to stop her as she is easily constipated. Biggest issue is that she flat out refuses diapers any time other than night, she only goes in her potty.. And I am unable to schedule everything outside of the house around the potty time. She will be 4 in September and for the first time I am not that stressed and sure that we are on the right track as far as the potty goes . And thank Godness for summer as there is less clothing. I hope we learn more soon enough as kindergarten stars in September. I just wanted to say great book and encourage parents of non verbal autistic kids, it just happenes when they are ready and then we can build on that. It doesn't hurt trying and not stressing but most importantly trusting the kids.
Great work getting started! The book "it's no accident" may help for bm training.
@@marybarbera thank you for the suggestion, I will check it out. Although being dry is not a requirement for her special needs inclusion type kindergarten (We are in Europe), it is one of our most important goals for her short term future.
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My granddaughter is 4. We have been working on potty training for awhile. I can't seem to get her to drink anything. She really doesn't like dinking. Her sippy will last all day. How do we improve that? Also would popsicles work just as well?
Attend a free workshop: marybarbera.com/workshop
I have a 4 year old son and have been trying to potty train for two years now. He goes to kindergarten for neurotypical children but they have thankfully accommodated his special needs. Its been two weeks now that he has managed to come home without any accidents and the teacher assistant has said he goes by himself or gets her to take him to the toilet, however, he's not doing that at home. I suppose its easier for him to remain dry at school as they dont drink as much fluids. We still need to to take him to the toilet at home as he is still not self initiating. What can i do?
Take him, and stand outside the bathroom door with it open at first. Then, when you feel that has improved, start standing behind the closed door.
Make sure when you take him at home that you say potty or toilet and provide a lot of reinforcement when he goes.
@@marybarbera thank you so much for your response Mary. So when its potty time we say 'wee-wee' and he knows what it means. Right now he gets a sweet for going to the toilet and he knows he should get one cause he looks at my hand to see if I have a sweet. After he undresses he opens his hand for his sweet. If he doesn't do anything he only gets for going, otherwise he will get another should he urinate or BM. I'm happy to say that since I posted my comment, he went to the toilet on his own to do BM in the toilet! Although he didnt say he was going as he has limited speech I suppose this is a good start..
I followed the “oh crap” potty training and so far so good. Minus the few accidents we have while out by not being able to reach the potty he is doing great. He has limited speech but his potty sign is easy to understand. My only issue is with his OT and speech therapist they say the office requires a child to be in a pull-up if they can’t verbally say or sign the potty sign. Any way I can get around this? I really feel like it’s holding him back, since he knows he’s wearing a pull-up so he doesn’t have to use his sign he made up for the potty.
If he is staying dry at home with the underwear i'd just ask that they give it a trial run. Maybe underwear under a diaper so he can still feel the underwear?
What herbs?
Thank you for the video and the eBook which is packed with lots of good info! I'm a grandfather to 9 years old boy with server autism and non-verbal. BCBA of the boy at the school is saying he is not ready for potty training. She is saying he does not recognize when he needs to go yet. Some of the book I read even suggested ignore such comments as 'not ready' and just go for it. Is there a such thing as 'not ready'? Thank you!
at 9 years old, i'd say no unless there is severe problem behaviors that must be dealt with for safety.
@@marybarbera Thank you for your reply!
My 4 year old son go to toilet when some one takes him. We are following schedule but some one has to take him . If we forgot he will do in pants. He is non verbal. We use pecs for communication. Please reply.
To teach initiation you want to prompt him to grab the pecs at the scheduled time before you take him. I discuss this a lot more in my new book that can also help you build other important skills. Turnautismaround.com to check it out. Also www.marybarbera.com/potty for the full potty guide.
My son is 11 I've tried everything for potty training and he just wanna do it please advise me what can I do
Download the potty e book by going to marybarbera.com/potty . I also have a full chapter on this in my book turnautismaround.com It says for young children but if your child is developmentally under 5...it would be appropriate.
My son is 21 years old and won’t sit on the toilet long enough to to. Do you think it would help him? In 7th grade he was doing pretty good about going in the toilet but then he regressed and just wouldn’t.
yes. it may help !
Definitely going to try this....
I hope it works for you! Thank you for watching!
My son is turning 5 in few months and is partially potty trained. He uses bathroom at home but he refuses to go into public restroom and at school as well. He is in preschool only 2hrs a day but he will be in kindergarten soon for 6 hrs and he won’t be able to hold it that long.
We’re working on this with his therapist but not much success so far. Any suggestions on how to overcome that type of fear or discomfort of using restroom out of home ?
You're not alone! Lots of kiddos struggle with using public restrooms at first, but you can practice at places like the grocery store, Target, Walmart, etc. Try your best to make it fun and always have big rewards for even entering the public bathroom happily. You can have them see that you use the bathroom in public, too, and it's no big deal, etc. I have resources on desensitization, too! You might find this helpful as the material can be applied to your situation: marybarbera.com/systematic-desensitization-rebroadcast-doctors-dentist-haircuts/
Perhaps, during an after school event, you could practice in the bathroom at school, too.
Could I have some information about having a private consultation x
I don't work with families personally anymore, but you have access to me and my team when you join one of my online courses. If you're interested, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.
Our journey is been interesting... my son just got diagnosed not to long ago and he is 5 he is non verdad and he missed almost 2 years of school because the old school district toke a really long time to do the test on him and then was covid he is finally in school now and I explained to them he is not potty trained and they say that was ok and they were going to help him but they never tell if he had a schedule or what were they doing so I can do the same thing at home 😔 the teacher is mad he still using diapers and I just got a phone call from the principal but I don't feel like I have the support I need. We try to take him to the bathroom at home but he get scared and most of the time he doesn't want to used it.
I hope the guide will help you to get started. I also have online courses that do cover toileting! you can learn more in a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
My son starts crying and get agitated when i make him to sit on the potty chair.. how can i resolve this problem? He is 3.1 yrs old now
the guide should help. I also cover this more in my courses . www.marybarbera.com/workshops . You essentially want to make sitting fun by giving him something he enjoys to sit with .
Maybe toilet cover? And provide a toy?
Hi.
My daughter is 4 years and 3 months old. Mild to moderate autistic. She does not like brushing her teeth. Whenever i try to brush her teeth, she cries a lot. Fights and kicks me. Her teeth are getting dirty and decaying. Can you please guide ne how to do this.
google mary barbera desensitization for a full video on the topic.
My 5 year old will urinate in on a schedule and stay dry, however she does not request to potty. She has expressive language problems. She does not like poo and avoids it resulting in micro poops. We are not sure how to approach this issue.
try looking into the book "it's no accident" and go to marybarbera.com/potty for a free download.
Is this book still available?
You can check here to see www.marybarbera.com/potty
thanx a lot for ur kind help....
Thanks for being here and watching the videos.
Wasted my time with this one. Just get to the description. 6 minutes advertisinv her website
Thank you!
You bet!
What age is right to start potty training?
That is a complicated question as age and developmental age are very different and it can depend on other skills and priorities. Most children can be potty trained by age 5 , including those with developmental disabilities. Check out the ebook here www.marybarbera.com/potty for more on the topic.
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my friend's son is 3.9 yrs old, he understands everything but hardly respond to questions also he's echoing. what's his problem how to overcome plz let me know thank you
google mary barbera echolalia for a video on the topic. It sounds like he may need to work on what we call intraverbals. Send your friend a free workshop to learn more www.marybarbera.com/workshops
Hi I love your videos!
I’m trying to click on the link but it doesn’t take me anymore pls help
go to www.marybarbera.com/potty if you need the guide.
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Thanks for watching.
My son is 6 yrs old he will go number 1 fine on his own, but when it comes to BM he refuses to go nor say anything he just choses to go in his pants.I dont know if maybe he's scared or confused. What advice do you have?
Try getting the potty download www.marybarbera.com/potty and also reading the book it's no accident as it is great for bm issues.
Mine used to be afraid of bowel movements. And that is what was holding him back.
No tips at all just trying to sell your book 😔
The ebook is free at www.marybarbera.com/potty
Oh never mind, it somehow got sent to my email..maybe this is because I registered on your website earlier. Thank you! BTW, I loved your VBA book so much!
My son freaks out everytime he sees a toilet
It will be best to start with pairing the toilet and bathroom up with fun then before starting any toileting!
My son is 12, he can go pee but won't go number 2 on the toilet. He will go in his briefs, wipe with tissue but won't sit and go, help..
It's hard for me to advise without knowing your son and what his skills look like. Have you consulted with a BCBA in your area? I think that will be helpful for you and your son going forward.
need help. my gradson is 2 1/2 years old
My potty guide can help: MaryBarbera.com/potty. However, I highly recommend you join my online course and community, as there is so much to work on with our children with delays before toilet training can really be successful! Learn more about my toddler course by attending a free 1-hour webinar: MaryBarbera.com/workshop. Or, jump right into our toddler course: MaryBarbera.com/courses.
Train my 4 year old son for 3 days now and he still has no clue what he is doing. So frustrated.
it can take some work. I have more information at marybarbera.com/potty and also a full more in depth chapter in my new book that you can find here www.marybarbera.com/workshops
3 days? You have to have patience.
@@mochas9249 Yes I know. Now I give up. Its too hard with 2 kids. I have to check on him all the time and there is no time left for my younger son.
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