You get better, and better. Your self-knowledge and calm acceptance of who you are is very impressive for your age. Great video, I am sure it will help other introverts feel more at peace with themselves. Keep up the great work Lana.
Wow! That was most likely one of the most intimate experiences this year. Listening to your words was like having somebody I've known all my life reach into and read out aloud my soul. Thank you most kindly, Lana.
Last Friday I agreed to go out drinking with a good friend of mine. We spoke a lot and had some great conversations about life and psychology. After a while a female friend of him (that I didn't know) joined us. My good friend kindly introduced me to this complete strange person as "He is such a chill guy and you can talk with him about literally anything." Of course he was trying to give me a confidence boost, but I felt so embarrassed when he said that because it seemed like he forgot, that I can't just immediately open up with strangers and speak exactly how I speak with him. I struggled hours this evening, just to have a normal conversation and the worst thing was, that this "strange" person seemed like she has never met an introverted person. She asked several times if everything is okay with me and why I don't enjoy myself and stuff, why I am so shy and so on.. After a bunch of hours she gave up trying to build up a conversation with me.. I probably never felt so uncomfortable about anything and I blamed myself half of the night that this girl wasted her energy on me..
@@earonie u sound more socially awkward than introverted thats what confuses me about introverts. Its made out to sound like they're normally confident but really appreciate their alone time and enjoy smaller groups but when i see personal accounts its always them being nervous uncomfortable or scared to open up, which is definitely more social awkwardness, maybe it just crept up on u being introverted and therefore not having much exposure to ppl?
“I used to think that the worst thing in life is to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” Robin Williams
Matthew Shaw it’s because people just rank people on their social status so when you hang out around “cooler” people you fee nervous and aren’t as extroverted. But you feel more comfortable around introverts because you feel that you own the room “cooler”
My "friend" tried to make me talk more. "Why are you so quiet?" Or "you need to talk more" Then she would roll her eyes. She did this in front of everyone in class and it was horrible. I'm not friends with her anymore thankfully.
*sips tea* Why are you so quiet? is honestly the most stupidest question to ask. Its quite offending honestly cause it makes you think that the person asking the question makes you feel that your less than them. Before when I was really quiet I was talking to someone I didn’t really know that well and he said “How? Your such a quite little thing, then after said “I mean person” That person literally said “Ima thing!” Just because I’m quite. which was so offending and made me feel so shit and inferior.It’s like asking a talkative person. Why are you so talkative? The person already knows the answer, which is they like talking, yet they still ask it. That question just makes us doubt ourselves whether it’s a really bad thing that I’m talking so much or very little. the people who ask those questions is the people who barely know us. Which is even more annoying. I was once a extrovert and out of nowhere I suddenly within a matter of months became an introvert and I have no explanation as to why that happened.
“Why are you so shy?” I’m NOT SHY I just don’t have to open my mouth 24/7 and I am completely comfortable with silence. Why is silence so scary to some people?!
I literally had two boys who were working with me in French class who were joking around and not taking it seriously. I always, like the leader I am, so the work because I can not trust people for fucking my grade up. They literally say, “Why are you so quite and boring? You’re so antisocial.” And said it in a rude tone. I literally was confused and just sat there with my eyes squinted like “You dumb bitches!” WHY IS ME BEING QUITE AND NOT WANTING ATTENTION AND NOT BEING TALKATIVE AND NOT BEING OKAY WITH QUIETNESS IS WRONG? Introverts can’t breathe for one day second damn.
It's all about being the center of attention, that's why lol I'm neither. I'll talk when appropriate and I like to spread my knowledge or laughter, but I don't do it for the purpose of having everyone look at me lol It's actually one of things I don't like, a bunch of people looking at me.
@@npc29182 personally, I'm not afraid of socializing. I just don't like socializing with people who I consider a direct enemy and are selfish to themselves. The reason I dislike modern socialization is because it has become a thing of selfishness and maintaining power and influence. It used to be about spreading ideas and being creative. I'll wear this tin foil hat proudly because I'll spill the beans as to why society has became this way. It's called sociopaths and narcissists rule society and people still can't distinguish them and those types people have been indoctrinated throughout time to be selfish and greedy. Hence why throughout centuries of societies, things like anarchy have not been able to exist or why Kings once ruled and sentenced people to death for simply looking at something the wrong way. The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree they say.
Exactly. Even if I don't want to talk to them or listen to what they say everytime , they keep talking . They say "why you're so quite" and if I talk , they say "Shut up" .
I hate hate that question because then it puts you on a spot to give them an answer but tf you supoosed to reply to someone saying you are quiet? Qnd then you end up looking even more awkward
I was literally thinking about that a few hours ago. If I am in pain feeling lethargic (I get super anemic during mine) Then I simply go lay down I am able to do whatever I need to do so that I am as comfortable as possible. These last two cycles have been so mellowed and nonstressful.
Being an introvert, and being married to someone who likes to talk every minute of the day is a little difficult, but I try my best to manage, because I do love him very much.
If you don't mind me asking..um, how did you meet your husband? I don't know why I've just been really curious about that sort of stuff lately. It's just...for me at least, the fact that I'll find someone in the future who'll love me is a little hard to believe. Hearing about how others met their partners makes me happy and gives me hope hehe.
@@kaylee_9847 Lol. I met him at one of my jobs. We started off as friends, and discovered we had stronger feelings for each other, so we started dating. I actually never imagined finding someone I would be compatible or comfortable with, but I guess I was wrong. It'll happen when you least expect it.
@@rosiegomez77 Live a happy life sister, I'm a 17 year old idiot boy struggling through everyday life. My school sucks, nobody loves me. My parents love me but idk how true that love is. I don't have enough money to move out of the house 😔 so I just wanted to tell someone to live their best life possible. Please don't take it as humblebrag
That was my last relationship. I just let them talk and then when they are out of breath or they just want to take a break from letting me know every second of their life in that particular day then I give my opinion. I agree it’s very hard. Especially when the person is a bit racist.
Every introvert : Feels lonely at noisy places and when surrounded by unknown extroverts. Feels happy and peaceful at silent places and when their loved ones are around.
When I was in school I forced myself to have friends do conversations but when I did I think they'll thought I'm werid and in the end I didn't make any Friends ...I always felt myself distanced . So many girls were having fake friends and it was ok to them them. That was meaningless to me so I never tried ...now I'm in college . I have a best friend also she's a relative of mine we are same aged ... now I thik it's ok to have one friend I'm blessed ❤️
@@ahmaddude1423 to an extent, I think you're right, but from another point of view, if all introverts sit together and participate in conversations then I think everybody will feel comfortable cuz we will be able to understand each other and be considerate.
BTS & ARMY forever!!! Yes i get the point ...in-fact i have a few introvert friends and we get along pretty well..... The fact is everything will go smoothly until you actually are just an introvert and not a nerd with anti social personality disorder 😅
Person: "She always looks so pissed off or sad! She never smiles either!" Me: *was actually having a great day and was honestly happy and content . Hears this comment and gets kind of upset*
I always avoiding talking meaningless conversation. I just don't understand why they have so much energy, I'd rather use my energy for more important things. How about u ?
@@anhhuynguyen4969 Yes, totally agree with you, I think most of the people nowadays are worried about being "cool" whereas others are working for their own evolution and find their place in this world, so in my case, it's really difficult to get a real connection with someone, I try to use my energy In things that have a certain level of value, but on the other hand I love to spend time with my family and few people that contribute on my development.
YAS! I am so happy seeing people like me. My friends tell me all the time "Stop being shy and say something" and they can't understand how frustrating it is
@@peinasmenhsasha4625 This is me literally everyday. Except my brother is the one that says that. But, he also understands my introverted side. I appreciate that.
I'm introverted at times and extroverted at times, but I always let an introvert live their life and it pisses me off when people tell them to speak up as if they have to.
vab Having social anxiety and being an extrovert made my life miserable, I went from being super confident to being terrified to talk to anyone- even though I wanted to very, very badly. I was lonely all the time. Took me months to finally ease back into talking to everyone confidently again.
@Snotty Boi20 i was extremely talkative in elementary..but after that...nope. My childhood had a lot to do with it tho and me waking up and realizing alot. One day we will be ourselves 100% and no one will dim oir light or our energy ❤❤❤❤
Exactly!!! Not to bring race into it but i literally had someone (a black girl) tell me that "how are you black AND quiet?!?) That made me feel really bad bc ppl think im stuck up or have an attitude just bc im a "quiet" black girl. The truth is I have hella complex ptsd but ive always been more introverted and dont feel like being extroverted unless im around AMAZING company but that hasn't happened in....a long time
That's not completely true..some people face introversion due to their surroundings and environment...this can lead to anti social behaviors under certain circumstances and lead to sociopathic tendencies or the individual becoming a sociopath themselves
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Alex Kess one of the things I love about myself. It’s like a superpower so many people value themselves on the company they keep meanwhile I don’t want any. How people feel about me doesn’t matter because I prefer to be alone anyway.
@entertainment78463 maybe some of the extroverts that don't have much going on up there but overall, I wouldn't necessarily say so. Though, I've never actually visited the US so take what I say with a grain of salt
@SoliDeoGloria 07 You can't just " flip " from being an extrovert. If ur an extrovert u prefer those traits whether it's due to experiences or genetics. Same with being an introvert ... you can't just " choose " . If it were that easy id probably have some friends to go hang out with. but I don't because I'm by nature an introvert. Nobody should be forced to change who they are to fit society's specifications.
Michael Street some people are actually pretty close to the middle where they kinda have the best of both worlds. So maybe he or she just thinks it’s like that for everyone else. I don’t know, I prefer to work by myself but if I have to I don’t have much of a problem working in a team as well.
INFJ introvert would love to be in a relationship with another introvert. We could just keep looking at each other and smile, don’t need to talk because we can read minds 😂
I’m such an introvert. I’d rather stay home and read books all day then go out and talk about random crap. I could also spend hours with myself and I love it. I love sitting outside alone or going on a hike just with nature. But there’s a whole other part of me. I lovee my best friends and I can talk to them for hours and I enjoy it so much. And when I’m around my cousins I’m so crazy and happy and loud. But the difference is when I go home I’m so happy to be home because I’m socially drained.
I was playing football in sports class PE and i got so nervous. every1 is so competitive passionate and they dont see that im just not comfortable playing with some1 im not close to.
Introvert Likes: walking alone, eating alone, listening to music, reading, deep conversations, nature, fantasy, close friends, romance, sleep. We're not necessarily lonely when we're alone. We also love doing things with good company. We don't feel the need to fill silence with small talk - we're often very comfortable not talking.
I got my report back from all of my teachers and they 9/10 said “you are quite reserved and should speak up more in class”. This has been what teachers have been saying to me for the past 12 years of schooling.
So relatalable😔😔. Worst is when you are famous in whole school for being introvert because you are good in academic. So almost all teacher and student know your personality.
Atleast they are not like my elementary and highschool teachers who makes fun of my personality and make the whole class laugh for me. Make me embarrassed just because different
People always mention how I seem “not active” or “not part of the conversation”, while in reality I do listen to every word and I am aware of everything happening around me but I just don’t feel like talking about stuff that doesn’t feel relevant for me. As she said I would rather have a walk in the park by myself admiring nature, than having to talk with people about meaningless things and pretend I find them interesting.
This video have made me realise and accept the fact that i am introvert. I've always tried to deny it, because i felt like it was a negative thing and being ekstroverted was a positive thing. But now im just a little proud of it, in my opinion none of them is good or bad. its just who you are, and we should never try to be something that we are not. acceptance will make you feel so much better about yourself than denying. thank you so much for sharing your day with all of us! :)
True, for example sometimes I just wanna eat alone but i dont want people to think I have no one to eat with or seem 'lonely' or people would maybe call me over because they think im alone... but I just wanna sit by myself and EAT:/
I think you should not pressure yourself to act like someone you're not. Just do you, if people don't get you it's their loss. I'm an introvert and I wouldn't change it for the world.
This video is pretty much me lol. Sometimes I feel bad for not hanging out with my best friend because I want to stay friends with her and I like her. I just would rather spend time alone because it's more fun and relaxing for me. Introvert life :P
I would rather be in the same room with stranger I've never met before than being with someone I know whom I'm not close to, yup that's on being an introvert
that's just human stupid logic they feel so proud cause they're opened but they're missing their own mindsets like you that's why they ignore you cause you're loving yourself more than they do I can relate to this. Introverts are pretty smart and they know their ideals in life what they want to achieve.
I'm an introvert, but the other day I started pushing my boundary and greeting my classmates (which I normally wouldn't do) and let me tell you, it was a breath of fresh air for sure
I tried being an introverted person for a day and honestly it was also quite draining for me, lol. I feel like my energy is going down from just isolating myself. The main point is just be yourself and be happy :) I know we were just pretending to be another personality cause curiosity gets the better of us haha
@PizzaCatz;3 i also need to give an oral presentation on any social topic in a class of 87 students 😰😫.The worst part is that it is for 20 marks and as you can already guessed it i m an introvert with social anxiety.):
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is there any way to fix that :/ i need some time to get comfortable with new people but what do i do when i go for interviews :/ ,,, i am being perceived as nervous and lacking confidence
Is anyone else a huge introvert but has a job that requires them to social and it all of a sudden doesn’t seem so hard because it’s “work” and you have to?
I used to work in retail/customer service, and while I could pull off all the basic small talk scripts and act smiley and sociable pretty well, it drained me easily, and I started to feel a deepening hatred of all people because I was forced to fake interactions with random strangers.
Working as IT support for about 750 customers sitting on the phone and i think it´s quite being an introvert but also having to act as an extrovert all day. I pretty much get so exhausted i fall asleep on the way home and when i´ve sat in my chair for like 10 minutes. I have started to force myself to get more social but it also makes me not want to do anything when it´s finally weekend.
Fuck that's right. I'm introverted af at school but at work I'm not or with my couple friends I can meet and make new friends easy. But when I'm at school I'm introverted af and it's weird
People do not get that being alone is fine to some people and not necessarily feel being lonely, you can be lonely surrounded by friends and family, it's how you interpret it! I love being on my own and keeping myself occupied, yes I'm alone... but I'm not lonely! I have many extrovert friends and they really struggle with this idea and really find it hard to make sense of it all... so glad we are all different :)
My parentes are worrying about me as well and when I tell them I don’t really like to hangout all the time I want to be alone often, they just say no go get some friends, no one wants to be alone. I hate that so fkn much because I’m telling the truth.
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Let's unite and stay at Home Covid19 please go away Extrovert wants to go out ☺. I wanna go out and visit nice view, a silent place where I can breathe and think about my damn life
my family doesn’t really understand this, they think I’m depressed or something when i set alone and listen to music, but they doesn’t know that I’m having a really good time with my self.
k ku I literally almost failed my public speaking class last semester, I would do all the work but when the speech days came, I could never show up to class. But my professor ended up letting me give my speeches to him 1 on 1
@@cashkp9314 wow that's kind of you're professor, if you happen to have a poor eyesight tho jst remove your glasses or contacts, it feels like nobody is even looking
1 or 2 friends is enough but when that's two are fake my partner is more than enough to that two fake friends so I enjoy my company with my partner nobody else...
Hari Rajeev Absolutely YES!!! I Have fake friends that lie and backstab, A BOYFRIEND who doesn't call me back and is a idiot... I just rather read a book of animals and herbs than to be with people
Extrovert: Weather's nice no? Me an introvert: Yeah, the monsoon is playing really nice. I went to check and there's gonna be a storm tomorrow. the chance of getting struck by lightning is more common than winning the lottery. I would like to go on but I think you wouldn't like the conversation. extrovert: uhhh, OK. Me (Silently): Yessss! works everytime.
You know what introvert means: You can't start speaking with someone that you're not close to.. You can't stop talking with someone that you are close with.. Am I right ?
For me, it’s not that I don’t like small talk, it’s just that I don’t feel like there’s anything to add to the conversation or I don’t really get the chance to
@@leonardkiefner6460 No, She feels you. Your a guitar.. And he feels me by feeling what her feels like to me and me being felt by those at the feeling of them you, and her. Because I'm a phone.
Lina Buljugija you get plenty of alone time in bed when you’re sleeping.. or on the shitter.. you grown adult that makes excuses for being an introvert HAHA
@@karanveerkahlon3987 you don't know if she's a grown adult and even if she is anybody can be an introvert it's not called making exuses it's called a lifestyle, people have there own reasons why they don't like mixing with people so if you've just whatched the video and still don't understand jokes on you
Karanveer Kahlon I don’t have to make excuses for being an introvert. I don’t have to be sorry for who I am. Indeed, introverts are very good and caring people. And yes, you get alone time in bed when you’re sleeping, but sometimes you just need some days off. You don’t know what people are going through, so it would be appreciated if you think a little bit before writing a mean comment.
i don’t get how people can be so into meeting new people and being around people 24/7. if i spend just a day with my bestfriend i’m tired and it feels like i want to be alone. i hate people. i just wanna sit i my room, draw, listen to music, read, watch yt and play on my ukulele.
yeaah, i relate sm. if it was possible, I'd rather spend my whole day inside my room doing the things that I like and thinking about everything than just go out and meet new people and talk to my friends in person the whole day. I feel like I'm better alone or through my phone than in person.
Me too, people always think that I'm weird and quiet and shouldn't be shy, and that's just my mom talking! I can have fun and talk endlessly with the right person but mainly I just like doing things and being along, although I like being outside AND inside equally
I remember my first day as an introvert in college. I started crying after seeing so many students having fun talking loudly though i was sitting alone. That day was hell for me.
o h h o n e y - That’s hard. I don’t know why we feel uncomfortable being alone when we’re the only ones that are in a social setting. I’ve become much better at it. For example, I can go to the beach and be completely alone and I feel just fine. There’s often another or two like me around so I’m not that odd. When I watch other people in groups having fun, it’s not my kind of fun. It seems people try to get close to others in all the wrong ways. It’s wrong for me at least.
This hit hard. I cried in my bed because of loneliness and fear with strangers in my college. I skipped ice breaking programmes because I missed my family and I wasn't prepared for a different life with different environment. That was 10 years ago. I am better at handling this feeling but I still feel out of place and I feel that I am not interesting enough to some people. I hope some people won't take this term and personality nonchalantly. Some people have different ways of expressing themselves out there.
😂😂😂😂 does this mean most girls are introvert because they literally never have anything to talk about and force the guy to say everything. Smart guys only tolerate it for a while though
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@Raymond Flores Well no. What do you know about me? Almost having a panik attack while walking through the school corridor because you feeling everyone is starring at you and judging you is clearly something else than introversion. I am an introvert, but I also have social anxiety
I just hate when I push myself to talk to people because the atmosphere gets awkward and I feel like I need to fill up the space. I don’t want to and I shouldn’t have to. I need to accept myself for me. I find most conversations so tedious. Probably because it’s the other person trying to either outsmart me, interrupt me, or talk about themselves to me. No one ever asks my opinion for if they did, I’d have a lot to say. Introverts and empaths unite! *Edited for grammar mistakes
Elacey C Yeah, people do usually like to talk about themself. It’s actually just a human thing although it can be annoying. Id recommend for you to read the book “how to win friends and influence people” by dale carnegie. It gives you a new perspective on people and the way our minds work. Anyways hoping you the best in your journey of dealing with people
I know it's hard, I used to suffer like that before. The only solution that I've encountered is to get out and befriend extroverted people and ignore rejection and learn.
Maybe instead of waiting for permission to speak your opinion, just say it. You don’t need people to ask you for your opinion to state it. You’re your own person, do what you want.
aaronmajor I completely agree! But I’ve found that when I do, most don’t listen and discredit what I’m saying. Yes, it’ll make me feel better to say it out loud, but if my advice/opinion was taken to heart... that would make me feel even better.
Elacey C then make them listen and tell them that you don’t feel like they’re actively listening. Reinforce what you’re saying and eventually they’ll have to listen. And be confident in what you’re saying. If you have a softer speak voice, try to stabilise your voice and speak a little louder as it can get lost in the crowd. You are only heard if you make yourself heard. As a debater, I’ve realised that people will try to discredit or avoid some of my arguments so what I’ll do is I’ll just simply repeat what I’m saying and not let them run away from it. Even if you have to be a little more assertive when saying it, though never be agressive. I’m sure that what you have to say is meaningful and worthwhile, it’s unfortunate that you’re being ignored like this.
@Tbh Nobody I also, through my observation of others around me, make social connections. If I see someone in need of something I give. And you would be surprise how the best human interactions in life would come from giving :)
Me as an introvert take my decision, I'm never gonna date anyone or married anyone cause I'm strong enough to take care my self not like others who's life is not gonna complete without someone special
I honestly don’t understand why in the report card the teacher says: ‘’She is not very social, very quiet and doesn’t participate in class often’’ As if I’m going to change
Same, also those teachers who put you in a group where you're not even close with thinking it will make you more social Dude as if i'm ever gonna changed this is how I was born putting me in a group full of ppl im not close with makes me more distance to them
I’m in a group project and thinking about the subject and also talking and listening to the group members drains my energy it makes me want to punch a wall
As an introvert I can admit that 2020 has actually been a good year for me and the main reason for that is coz of lockdown. If only we could have another full lockdown it would be great and peaceful and having nothing to worry about
im also an introvert and i feel soooo related to this. i could talk for hours and hours with the very few close friends i have, but beyond that, i always need to "recharge" myself or wanting to leave early...
This is actually true with me. I'm an introvert... however, there was a time when I doubted this. I love going to new places, to go walk to the park at the middle of the night... alone... not knowing where that path will take me, but I was happy as long as I was left alone, exploring the wonderful world as I reflect and think of many amazing thoughts. Those were some good times. I always feel drained when I go to a party. I turn to everyone and see everyone talking to each other except me. I love the atmosphere that was created, bright lights and cool music playing in the background...however, I don't like parties (generally). I basically only admire the atmosphere...and thats it. I talk to no one. I have to actually force myself to talk to someone to fulfill my daily "social obligations" (basically to maintain a friendship which I can use to network) . Its very draining. However, when I am with my introvert friends, or someone who is nervous (could be an extrovert, or non-friend, it works as long as they are not "confident") I suddenly become extremely extroverted. When a person appears nervous or clueless as to how to act next, I take charge. I generally don't care about human interactions, however, that fact does not automatically make one shy. I have a personal philosophy that if you want something to be done, you have to do it yourself. If all you do is wait, nothing will change. I presume this is the reason for my extroversion in scenarios where the other person is "shy", "scared", or not confident enough. Because I know that if I do not intervene, they will probably do nothing, and I see "nothingness" as a waste of time. So I take charge of the situation just to "get it over with". (I want to go home early hehe) I am definitively not shy, and I presume this is the reason why I doubted my introversion during my early years (there was a bad stigma where being introverted meant that the person was shy...and I definitively knew I was not shy).
@@richtofen4888 well yes, you just talk to people with confidence like you've known them or something! Read people facial expressions and body language, if it seems like you're annoying them, you're out. But 90% of people I've met for the first time wanna talk so yeah! That's basically what i do.
No. Own it. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. Took me years to realize it, but there are plenty of benefits. Once you accept who you are, it helps build your confidence.
Christie Blossom yeah i know. Most people like meeting new people, som don’t but you’ll realise pretty quickly if they think you’re boring. People appreciate someone trying to make friends with them, it’s literally just about speaking to someone that you don’t really know. And if they don’t want to talk with you, then you can just walk away. :) my first comment was a jab at these «introverts» that think it’s Impossible for them to speak to others.
Me being forced to sit in a family reunion, Aunt: Why don't you talk? Me: I talk a lot.....but only with those whom I like. Mom: *sending me death glares*
The fact that everybody here talks about the content and introverts is so much pleasing rather than seeing people talk about the girl and her looks. Introverts are inward looking people and that's what I love the most about myself and all other introverts.
Same with me, I'm not ready for people to question me and it gets really annoying most of the students at my school are extroverts and it bothers me because I get so jealous of them and how they talk so easily.
you would talk when you want to , wouldnt you? No one can force us to talk. So dont get yourself stressed too much by that kind of question. Rememeber, people who talk alot unnecessarily tend to make mistake verbally.
You get used to it. Its annoying yes... But at some point you don't care anymore... Or most likely the people who talk with you, will realise you don't like small talk so they will accept you for who you are.
When she said 'i lose energy from being around people and need to recharge' i was like 'yes. That is why even though i enjoy being with friends, in order to continue to enjoy my time with them i need to be alone and recharge. Extroverts gain their social energy around people. Introverts get it when alone. '
What I hate to be introverted is my circle of friends. I'm always the nice person who constantly listens to the grief of other people, but even they do not ask how I feel. And they only talk to me when they have no other friends to talk to.
oh yes i know how you feel. The people spend time with you as long as there is no other cooler person. I think they are not even realizing it. Im there, they like me but thats it, im not this "cool funny friend". Sometimes im totaly fine with this, sometimes not... think as a introvert i have to learn to deal with it.
yes that's the sad truth. I think some of us are like robots. The main thing is to fulfill their needs, without any consideration. and to make us feel important: we keep the most secrets and are the best secret keepers.
Same, they love parties, gossiping and being loud and all rainbows and shit. And they only come to me when they have to rant something because other friends like them won't listen (they always try to be the one speaking, not listening) or when they donot have anyone (and ofc leave me when they find another one) . That shit hurts and yes fuck friends
You have to use the Law of Attraction. Watch the movie "the secret" it will be life changing. You attract what you are. And you attract lessons in your life you have to learn. Know your value and use affirmations it will be life changing I promise you. Protect your energy and manifest better, don’t allow cheap into your life. Blessings your way.
pæch that’s not true, wtf? People with social anxiety don’t necessarily stay at home all day and avoid social interaction. I have social anxiety disorder and have a job that requires me to deal with people, network, etc...but it’s fucking HARD. I also have a social life and have friends, but I have to deal with social anxiety symptoms and it’s unbearable at times.
Introvert like to spend time with themselves... they can hold themselves well in loneliness and silent... Their mental strength is definitely stronger than you can imagine.
I hope you enjoy something a bit different. Feel free to share this video if you think it would be helpful to someone.
Very well done, loved the angles, the way you captured certain emotion per scene.
You get better, and better. Your self-knowledge and calm acceptance of who you are is very impressive for your age. Great video, I am sure it will help other introverts feel more at peace with themselves. Keep up the great work Lana.
...I think I know why I gravitated to your channel now. I am just like this. WOW 😁
Wow! That was most likely one of the most intimate experiences this year. Listening to your words was like having somebody I've known all my life reach into and read out aloud my soul. Thank you most kindly, Lana.
💢 I like that look on your face in the thumbnail, it looks like someone just handed you a little baby bunny or something
I'm an introvert. I can talk endlessly for hours, but it has to be with the right person.
Yeah same. I just cant start conversations though.
Same here but when I'm talking, its to myself about myself.
Last Friday I agreed to go out drinking with a good friend of mine. We spoke a lot and had some great conversations about life and psychology. After a while a female friend of him (that I didn't know) joined us. My good friend kindly introduced me to this complete strange person as "He is such a chill guy and you can talk with him about literally anything."
Of course he was trying to give me a confidence boost, but I felt so embarrassed when he said that because it seemed like he forgot, that I can't just immediately open up with strangers and speak exactly how I speak with him. I struggled hours this evening, just to have a normal conversation and the worst thing was, that this "strange" person seemed like she has never met an introverted person. She asked several times if everything is okay with me and why I don't enjoy myself and stuff, why I am so shy and so on.. After a bunch of hours she gave up trying to build up a conversation with me..
I probably never felt so uncomfortable about anything and I blamed myself half of the night that this girl wasted her energy on me..
I relate to this so much
@@earonie u sound more socially awkward than introverted thats what confuses me about introverts. Its made out to sound like they're normally confident but really appreciate their alone time and enjoy smaller groups but when i see personal accounts its always them being nervous uncomfortable or scared to open up, which is definitely more social awkwardness, maybe it just crept up on u being introverted and therefore not having much exposure to ppl?
“I used to think that the worst thing in life is to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.”
Robin Williams
That’s sad. Even sadder because Robin Williams took his own life.
Hits different...
I can relate
Yooooooooo I needed to read this. This I why I cut off my so called friends of 2 years. I feel so much better
Matthew Shaw it’s because people just rank people on their social status so when you hang out around “cooler” people you fee nervous and aren’t as extroverted. But you feel more comfortable around introverts because you feel that you own the room “cooler”
"Why are you so quiet?" How to get an introvert to hate you for the rest of time.
My "friend" tried to make me talk more. "Why are you so quiet?" Or "you need to talk more" Then she would roll her eyes. She did this in front of everyone in class and it was horrible. I'm not friends with her anymore thankfully.
@@Sophia-mh8iy "You need to talk more"
Should've been like "You should shut up more."
*sips tea* Why are you so quiet? is honestly the most stupidest question to ask. Its quite offending honestly cause it makes you think that the person asking the question makes you feel that your less than them. Before when I was really quiet I was talking to someone I didn’t really know that well and he said “How? Your such a quite little thing, then after said “I mean person” That person literally said “Ima thing!” Just because I’m quite. which was so offending and made me feel so shit and inferior.It’s like asking a talkative person. Why are you so talkative? The person already knows the answer, which is they like talking, yet they still ask it. That question just makes us doubt ourselves whether it’s a really bad thing that I’m talking so much or very little. the people who ask those questions is the people who barely know us. Which is even more annoying. I was once a extrovert and out of nowhere I suddenly within a matter of months became an introvert and I have no explanation as to why that happened.
Stop crying, who tf cares if u hate me for that one question lol. Fuckin snowflakes. Despite u being introvert u still posess a god damn brain
I totally agree.
Did I ask you why you talk too much?
See. Its that simple. Just let people be themselves...
Being alone is the best feeling ever.
Totally agree
For some people
Definitely true for me 😍😍
I like being alone but I don’t like it when I’m hanging out with my friends and feel left out. That kind of alone is the worst
agreement 400%
... but introverts can be the most talkative in the group of people to whom they feel comfortable 🙈
yeaaaah
I know I could just talk all day
true :)
That's true
That’s me
Introvert can spend hours and hours alone without getting bored
That's me😅
@@devps10 same bruh 😂
@@bribri4380 Gaming and Football never get me bored. I don't need anything else😅
@@devps10 watching shows, listening to music and creating stories. I'm good😂
@@bribri4380 Me too bro🙂
“Why are you so shy?” I’m NOT SHY I just don’t have to open my mouth 24/7 and I am completely comfortable with silence. Why is silence so scary to some people?!
dude id like to like this comment but i dont wanna be DAT monster
I literally had two boys who were working with me in French class who were joking around and not taking it seriously. I always, like the leader I am, so the work because I can not trust people for fucking my grade up. They literally say, “Why are you so quite and boring? You’re so antisocial.” And said it in a rude tone. I literally was confused and just sat there with my eyes squinted like “You dumb bitches!” WHY IS ME BEING QUITE AND NOT WANTING ATTENTION AND NOT BEING TALKATIVE AND NOT BEING OKAY WITH QUIETNESS IS WRONG? Introverts can’t breathe for one day second damn.
It's all about being the center of attention, that's why lol
I'm neither. I'll talk when appropriate and I like to spread my knowledge or laughter, but I don't do it for the purpose of having everyone look at me lol
It's actually one of things I don't like, a bunch of people looking at me.
@@npc29182 personally, I'm not afraid of socializing. I just don't like socializing with people who I consider a direct enemy and are selfish to themselves. The reason I dislike modern socialization is because it has become a thing of selfishness and maintaining power and influence. It used to be about spreading ideas and being creative.
I'll wear this tin foil hat proudly because I'll spill the beans as to why society has became this way. It's called sociopaths and narcissists rule society and people still can't distinguish them and those types people have been indoctrinated throughout time to be selfish and greedy. Hence why throughout centuries of societies, things like anarchy have not been able to exist or why Kings once ruled and sentenced people to death for simply looking at something the wrong way. The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree they say.
Not having to open my mouth 24/7, makes me want to wash my mouth 3 times a day
I´m introvert and hate when people say :"oh you´re so quiet", like they always have something interesting to say
Happens...all the time....and it makes me hate that person for the rest of my life.
For real, should I be loud? lol
Exactly. Even if I don't want to talk to them or listen to what they say everytime , they keep talking . They say "why you're so quite" and if I talk , they say "Shut up" .
@Anthony Davis those kind of people makes me mad
I hate hate that question because then it puts you on a spot to give them an answer but tf you supoosed to reply to someone saying you are quiet? Qnd then you end up looking even more awkward
Extrovert: Why are you so quiet ?
Introvert : Because you talk to much.
Kkkk so true!
TRUE STORY
Extrovert : speak
Introvert : listen
Lol
I’m an ambivert and i can get along with everybody no matter if they’re introvert or extrovert 😁😋
As an extroverted introvert the reason why most extroverts talk so much is because of the awkward silence why would we stand there and say nothing ?
What I hate the most about being an introvert is that a lot of people think I'm rude just because I am not very open to others.
Right! The ladies I work with can't stand me because I stay to myself. 🤷🏽
Same
@Rob Aguilar if they don't understand everyone is not meant to be loud and a apart of the crowd that's too damn bad. Let them believe what they will.
Yeah or you can’t make friends or you don’t know how to socialize 😑😑
omg i fucking feel this so much.
Feeling lucky to be a introvert, on Quarantine period.
:) *yes*
Omg yes, i just wish our school was closed
I was literally thinking about that a few hours ago. If I am in pain feeling lethargic (I get super anemic during mine) Then I simply go lay down I am able to do whatever I need to do so that I am as comfortable as possible. These last two cycles have been so mellowed and nonstressful.
Fr
Yes
Being an introvert, and being married to someone who likes to talk every minute of the day is a little difficult, but I try my best to manage, because I do love him very much.
If you don't mind me asking..um, how did you meet your husband? I don't know why I've just been really curious about that sort of stuff lately. It's just...for me at least, the fact that I'll find someone in the future who'll love me is a little hard to believe. Hearing about how others met their partners makes me happy and gives me hope hehe.
@@kaylee_9847 Lol. I met him at one of my jobs. We started off as friends, and discovered we had stronger feelings for each other, so we started dating. I actually never imagined finding someone I would be compatible or comfortable with, but I guess I was wrong. It'll happen when you least expect it.
@@rosiegomez77 Live a happy life sister, I'm a 17 year old idiot boy struggling through everyday life. My school sucks, nobody loves me. My parents love me but idk how true that love is. I don't have enough money to move out of the house 😔 so I just wanted to tell someone to live their best life possible. Please don't take it as humblebrag
@@mohanbabu908 Are you from India???
That was my last relationship. I just let them talk and then when they are out of breath or they just want to take a break from letting me know every second of their life in that particular day then I give my opinion. I agree it’s very hard. Especially when the person is a bit racist.
Every introvert :
Feels lonely at noisy places and when surrounded by unknown extroverts.
Feels happy and peaceful at silent places and when their loved ones are around.
Yeah u r right I also likes to stay alone
Me to
Extremely right, we feel lonely when surrounded by peaple we don't know
Yep that's me
This is exactly why I feel so sad and depressed at school but so happy at home
Social anxiety depression and introversion all in one is hell
yeah 2 years in collage and i didnt make a single friend.I liked a girl but couldnt talk to her
When I was in school I forced myself to have friends do conversations but when I did I think they'll thought I'm werid and in the end I didn't make any Friends ...I always felt myself distanced . So many girls were having fake friends and it was ok to them them. That was meaningless to me so I never tried ...now I'm in college . I have a best friend also she's a relative of mine we are same aged ... now I thik it's ok to have one friend I'm blessed ❤️
i bet your an extrovert, look at how you talk. Such an extroverted way.
Worst thing ever.
Wait till you start a job, it doesn't get any better.
Wish we all introverts could've meet, we'd have made such real connections and not having to worry about our insecurities.
Bad idea.....introverts surrounding the introvert, if they don’t reach out to each other properly, they will feel ignored, which i think is the worst
@@ahmaddude1423 to an extent, I think you're right, but from another point of view, if all introverts sit together and participate in conversations then I think everybody will feel comfortable cuz we will be able to understand each other and be considerate.
BTS & ARMY forever!!! Yes i get the point ...in-fact i have a few introvert friends and we get along pretty well.....
The fact is everything will go smoothly until you actually are just an introvert and not a nerd with anti social personality disorder 😅
Yeah..we would definitely make a good company😁
@@ahmaddude1423 😂😂yeah right. Lucky you that you have introvert friends.😕😕😕
Person: "She always looks so pissed off or sad! She never smiles either!"
Me: *was actually having a great day and was honestly happy and content . Hears this comment and gets kind of upset*
🤝🤝
ifeelyou......😔🤧😞
Yeahhh know that...
Me (responding to the person): ever heard of someone hiding their emotions?
Whyyy :(((
I finally found someone who understands me, I'm not shy, I just don't like being part of worthless conversations...
I always avoiding talking meaningless conversation. I just don't understand why they have so much energy, I'd rather use my energy for more important things. How about u ?
@@anhhuynguyen4969 Yes, totally agree with you, I think most of the people nowadays are worried about being "cool" whereas others are working for their own evolution and find their place in this world, so in my case, it's really difficult to get a real connection with someone, I try to use my energy In things that have a certain level of value, but on the other hand I love to spend time with my family and few people that contribute on my development.
I just don't feel as a part of society, where everyone is the same and you feel like a stranger just because you're not " average "
YAS! I am so happy seeing people like me. My friends tell me all the time "Stop being shy and say something" and they can't understand how frustrating it is
@@peinasmenhsasha4625 This is me literally everyday. Except my brother is the one that says that. But, he also understands my introverted side. I appreciate that.
"Why are you always so quiet?" Been asked this millions of times and it just pisses me off now.
This type of question just pisses me off and makes me even more quiet.
I hate when they ask me that. I ask them: well, why are you always so loud?
andy moore same
I'm introverted at times and extroverted at times, but I always let an introvert live their life and it pisses me off when people tell them to speak up as if they have to.
@@redfaction-hc6iq fr I'm the same way. If people are quiet let them be quiet.
having social anxiety & being a huge introvert has literally ruined the best moments of my life
vab you are not alone
Same I relate -_- damn my luck
vab Having social anxiety and being an extrovert made my life miserable, I went from being super confident to being terrified to talk to anyone- even though I wanted to very, very badly. I was lonely all the time. Took me months to finally ease back into talking to everyone confidently again.
Same omg
@Snotty Boi20 i was extremely talkative in elementary..but after that...nope. My childhood had a lot to do with it tho and me waking up and realizing alot. One day we will be ourselves 100% and no one will dim oir light or our energy ❤❤❤❤
“They laugh at me because I’m different. I laugh at them because they’re all the same.” - Kurt Cobain
😍😍😍
Omg karma xD
damn im gonna use that quote
That's the best thing i heard all days..thanks
Period
We’re not weird.
We’re introverts.
And it’s because we don’t want to struggle to live up to society’s “coolness”.
Chirag Narayan coincidently it makes people think you’re cool
Me!!! Small TH-camr here 🙃
you don't seek validation from others .
No ADS like those stupid noisy bitches who are dumb as hell.
I just love you ❤
REALVIOLETSAREVIOLET True :)
Exactly!!! Not to bring race into it but i literally had someone (a black girl) tell me that "how are you black AND quiet?!?) That made me feel really bad bc ppl think im stuck up or have an attitude just bc im a "quiet" black girl. The truth is I have hella complex ptsd but ive always been more introverted and dont feel like being extroverted unless im around AMAZING company but that hasn't happened in....a long time
Introverts: I'm not shy I just don't wanna interact with y'all.
Exactly
I mean its both for me
Jonas Lopes me too
Kristine Camille yes
Me 100% of the time
Introverts are not antisocial they're just choosing the right and real friends
heise sasaki True!
so true!!
This is so true, and just when i heard one of classmates saying that introverts are people who doesn't socialize 😔
My all family thinks that I'm antisocial... They will never understand me...
That's not completely true..some people face introversion due to their surroundings and environment...this can lead to anti social behaviors under certain circumstances and lead to sociopathic tendencies or the individual becoming a sociopath themselves
me: *really is quiet, depressed, and hates people*
By the way i am also introvert. But hating people is not a good thing
I am also introvert but donot hate people... Ya do it talk to them but at the same time even donot hate them
just saying that the youtube comment section is not the place to flex your depression
From your comment i'm sensing you are one of those "edgy teen, not like the other guys/girls" type of person ngl
you want hug
Being confident with being alone is one of the best qualities a human being can have.
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well said sir
Alex Kess one of the things I love about myself. It’s like a superpower so many people value themselves on the company they keep meanwhile I don’t want any. How people feel about me doesn’t matter because I prefer to be alone anyway.
@@kurtzcol mam :) thanks
I'm an introvert but I enjoy having those one best extrovert friend. It's like yinyang lol
Perfectly in balance, as everything should be : )
@@xsamsungg5735 this.. puts a smile on my face : )
Like Karen and her best friend from the GGO anime
It’s good to have an extrovert friend so they can do all the talking XD
Yeppp .. I have that kind of friend but she admits that she's an introvert too like me but she can act more easygoing with other people that I can ..
An Introverts is more talkative. Because, every single day he talks to himself much more than people talk to others in a week.
W h a t
@@avatofacid774 hmm
Bhai ne dil ki baat bol di 🙏
@@thegreenmantis3157 thanks Bhai. 😎
Kya baat bolo Hai boss. Respect.
Us introverts don’t dislike people, a lot of us love people, just in small doses lol.
Amen
Amen
Ameen
Amen
@entertainment78463 maybe some of the extroverts that don't have much going on up there but overall, I wouldn't necessarily say so. Though, I've never actually visited the US so take what I say with a grain of salt
Why does school force you to "act" extroverted? It's stressful and near impossible.
@SoliDeoGloria 07 Apperently you have no clue what being an introvert means.
@SoliDeoGloria 07 You can't just " flip " from being an extrovert. If ur an extrovert u prefer those traits whether it's due to experiences or genetics. Same with being an introvert ... you can't just " choose " . If it were that easy id probably have some friends to go hang out with. but I don't because I'm by nature an introvert. Nobody should be forced to change who they are to fit society's specifications.
Michael Street some people are actually pretty close to the middle where they kinda have the best of both worlds. So maybe he or she just thinks it’s like that for everyone else. I don’t know, I prefer to work by myself but if I have to I don’t have much of a problem working in a team as well.
@@JOhnnnnny611 And incase you didn't know that's called being an ambivert.
Lol... Hahahhahhhahahha
INFJ introvert would love to be in a relationship with another introvert. We could just keep looking at each other and smile, don’t need to talk because we can read minds 😂
Funny i was just thinking the same 😆
After a few videos from Frank James its quite highly that im an INFJ
oh hey me too
@@safa6267 thats intresting. Did you find out for yourself that you are an INFJ?
Hello fellw infj :)
@@JonasAnandaKristiansson It seems we are more than i thought 🙂
When I am alone, I find it Peaceful in my heart.
Same!!
Omg same its peaceful but sad at the same time for me
Sarath Bhadran i wish i wasnt born hate my life idc 😫😫😩
9-7-19
That's why I'm 40 yrs.old but looks like 20 because being alone I avoid to those stress from negative people this is my secret to still looks young...
me too!
I’m such an introvert. I’d rather stay home and read books all day then go out and talk about random crap. I could also spend hours with myself and I love it. I love sitting outside alone or going on a hike just with nature. But there’s a whole other part of me. I lovee my best friends and I can talk to them for hours and I enjoy it so much. And when I’m around my cousins I’m so crazy and happy and loud. But the difference is when I go home I’m so happy to be home because I’m socially drained.
I'm pretty introverted around extroverts and I feel like an extrovert around introverts.
Totally me😂
So me,it's crazy!
You and me both
Me too😂
iam dedddddddddddddd tjid is me
The worst thing about being an introvert is that people don’t understand how hard it is to put yourself out there
That's social anxiety though, not introversion
@@tiwaz4598 THANK YOU! She should rephrase that to: the worst thing to being shy is... Ppl confuse them all the time.
Being a introvert has nothing to do with how difficult u find it to put ur self out there.... that’s social anxiety
Damn ok so all this time I thought I was just an introvert but turns out I have social anxiety too 😂make sense tho!
I was playing football in sports class PE and i got so nervous. every1 is so competitive passionate and they dont see that im just not comfortable playing with some1 im not close to.
Extroverts do be like telling introverts to talk more but then they aren't listening when we introverts talk
Exactly .....🥺🥺🥺
Yes! I hate that so much.
Exactly and it hurts so much after getting ignored.
It’s very true. It happened a lot and it’s still happening.
EGGZACKLY
I wish people understood this, hate when others make me feel bad for being introverted...
Introvert Likes: walking alone, eating alone, listening to music, reading, deep conversations, nature, fantasy, close friends, romance, sleep.
We're not necessarily lonely when we're alone. We also love doing things with good company. We don't feel the need to fill silence with small talk - we're often very comfortable not talking.
Ur spot on my friend
I love you for this 😭😭
Im comfy not talking, but if you pick up on the other person wanting to talk that gets very frustrating, annoying and draining very fast
@从я. れΞ 从Ξ گI گ imagine a room full of us. Quietly contemplating the meaning of life. No one saying a word
I personally don't like reading. I like playing games and watching movies
I got my report back from all of my teachers and they 9/10 said “you are quite reserved and should speak up more in class”. This has been what teachers have been saying to me for the past 12 years of schooling.
Sonya Jordan got the same problem and my teacher is strict too and I literally sit in front of her FACE
So relatalable😔😔.
Worst is when you are famous in whole school for being introvert because you are good in academic. So almost all teacher and student know your personality.
Atleast they are not like my elementary and highschool teachers who makes fun of my personality and make the whole class laugh for me. Make me embarrassed just because different
@@aabc4941 so true 😭
I can't stand teachers
People always mention how I seem “not active” or “not part of the conversation”, while in reality I do listen to every word and I am aware of everything happening around me but I just don’t feel like talking about stuff that doesn’t feel relevant for me. As she said I would rather have a walk in the park by myself admiring nature, than having to talk with people about meaningless things and pretend I find them interesting.
Ayda Xo so true 👏🏻👏🏻😊
Ayda Xo 💙💚💜💗💖❤💚💛 I love your comment and I so agree. People often think that we introverts are distant and aloof.
I can relate to you.
I agree with you!!!
Exactly!!
This video have made me realise and accept the fact that i am introvert. I've always tried to deny it, because i felt like it was a negative thing and being ekstroverted was a positive thing. But now im just a little proud of it, in my opinion none of them is good or bad. its just who you are, and we should never try to be something that we are not. acceptance will make you feel so much better about yourself than denying. thank you so much for sharing your day with all of us! :)
Being an introvert sucks bc I constantly feel like I have to act like an extrovert :(
True, for example sometimes I just wanna eat alone but i dont want people to think I have no one to eat with or seem 'lonely' or people would maybe call me over because they think im alone... but I just wanna sit by myself and EAT:/
I think you should not pressure yourself to act like someone you're not. Just do you, if people don't get you it's their loss. I'm an introvert and I wouldn't change it for the world.
DuckNit good for you lol
Mina Amen sister
Rabih G you talking to me?
When my classmates ask me "Why don't you ever talk" i feel like i wanna say "i don't like any of you" but i can't lmao
Why not? I say it all the time and they actually leave you alone
I cud have told em that LMFAOAOAOAOA😭
I just say "i dont have anything interesting to say" lmao
I had no problem telling people to fuck off in HS 11 years ago.
I tell them i like them but i dont like being around them for too long
I'm an introvert too. I love my alone time a lot of people don't understand us. I've been called boring, weird, conceited, etc. We are who we are!
Never mind, people thing I have ego problem and am self centred. I actually I don't like talking and want to be alone. They will never understand.
It’s because you are weird
do you have social media?
This video is pretty much me lol. Sometimes I feel bad for not hanging out with my best friend because I want to stay friends with her and I like her. I just would rather spend time alone because it's more fun and relaxing for me. Introvert life :P
Yes girl!! I love your positive view on being an introvert! We need more of that 💜
I would rather be in the same room with stranger I've never met before than being with someone I know whom I'm not close to, yup that's on being an introvert
This is me
yes being with a stranger makes me comfortable instead of an acquaintance
😭😭😭😭
Yeah. Definitely.
Me: *tries to talk*
*gets ignored/talked over/nobody listens or cares*
Them: WhY aRe YoU sO qUiEt?
Fr OMG I JUST RELATED TO THIS SOOOOOOO MUCH- like let me talk to *my* friends and you talk to yours cause it's not like you care about me
Omg THIISSSSS
that's just human stupid logic they feel so proud cause they're opened but they're missing their own mindsets like you that's why they ignore you cause you're loving yourself more than they do I can relate to this. Introverts are pretty smart and they know their ideals in life what they want to achieve.
This always happens with me
Fuck, you know the score.
Introverts are not boring. In fact, we are more creative, real, a dreamer, have sense of humour, and good listeners. ❤️
That's a stereotype
That's is 👍👍🇬🇭🇬🇭
@@what5475 yes.
I am so surprised how many people in comment section don’t even have a clue what introversion is and mess it up something like “emo”.
Have or has?
where are my fellow introverts?
An INFJ has joined🙂
@@uwekirschner187 hey there 🙂
Here
Suraj ss hii
Here
i tried being an extroverted person but it was really draining, respect to the people that are extroverted
its just as hard for an extrovert to be introverted, neither of them try, it just happens
Fr how do they do that all day
I'm an introvert, but the other day I started pushing my boundary and greeting my classmates (which I normally wouldn't do) and let me tell you, it was a breath of fresh air for sure
Definitely draining
I tried being an introverted person for a day and honestly it was also quite draining for me, lol. I feel like my energy is going down from just isolating myself. The main point is just be yourself and be happy :) I know we were just pretending to be another personality cause curiosity gets the better of us haha
Teacher:Let's make a group project
Me:oh no here we go again
@PizzaCatz;3 i also need to give an oral presentation on any social topic in a class of 87 students 😰😫.The worst part is that it is for 20 marks and as you can already guessed it i m an introvert with social anxiety.):
Don't Worry Girls , We Are Unity . Just Imagine That You Are Going To Be Better Than Them In Future . While Giving The Presentation , Just Think That They Are Nothing But A Pumpkin Or Pineapple . Close Your Eyes A Little Bit , Blink Fast , Quickly Speak Your Presentation And After That Win The #1 Title Or Any Reward . If You Want To Enjoy Your Life Alone As An Introvert , Be A Gamer Girl ( or boy ) .
Afifah Raenisha Ahhh same it sucks :/
Every time I heard that sentence I wanted to punch the teacher
YES.
I’m fine with being introverted. What kills me is my social anxiety.
steelo!❤️ Me too hun:( But you’re not alone so many people struggle with social anxiety
1999 i feel you 😞
is there any way to fix that :/ i need some time to get comfortable with new people but what do i do when i go for interviews :/ ,,, i am being perceived as nervous and lacking confidence
Is anyone else a huge introvert but has a job that requires them to social and it all of a sudden doesn’t seem so hard because it’s “work” and you have to?
Grl Pwr yes me im a medical assistent and i work in a hospital
I used to work in retail/customer service, and while I could pull off all the basic small talk scripts and act smiley and sociable pretty well, it drained me easily, and I started to feel a deepening hatred of all people because I was forced to fake interactions with random strangers.
Working as IT support for about 750 customers sitting on the phone and i think it´s quite being an introvert but also having to act as an extrovert all day. I pretty much get so exhausted i fall asleep on the way home and when i´ve sat in my chair for like 10 minutes. I have started to force myself to get more social but it also makes me not want to do anything when it´s finally weekend.
Fuck that's right. I'm introverted af at school but at work I'm not or with my couple friends I can meet and make new friends easy. But when I'm at school I'm introverted af and it's weird
Grl Pwr not really
Being an introvert all the comments look exactly related to me and all guys here.
We are talkative but need the right person to talk
"I simply lose energy for being around people for a long periods of time"
See thats the definition of introvert. You are one of the rare ppl who gets it.
PERIODT
yeahh same
Trueeeeee but i always get yelled at by my parents for retreating into my room whenever guests are coming 😭
Eau de Jenny same bro when people visite my house who i dont know good i always go to my room
I hate when people are worrying about me because im alone
People do not get that being alone is fine to some people and not necessarily feel being lonely, you can be lonely surrounded by friends and family, it's how you interpret it!
I love being on my own and keeping myself occupied, yes I'm alone... but I'm not lonely! I have many extrovert friends and they really struggle with this idea and really find it hard to make sense of it all... so glad we are all different :)
This right here!!
I hated when ppl fucked with me 'cos they noticed I was all alone, wish I could of been ignored in those situations back in the day.
Being alone is looked down upon in today’s society
My parentes are worrying about me as well and when I tell them I don’t really like to hangout all the time I want to be alone often, they just say no go get some friends, no one wants to be alone. I hate that so fkn much because I’m telling the truth.
This is 100% accurate!! Social events are so draining...
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Fun Fact: Introverts are not depressed,they just like to stay alone.
Extroverts would be so taken aback with this fun fact of yours.....
It's true though.
They don’t understand.
Most are depressed
Amen
@@nancyokosi1 some are*
I hate it when people ask me 'why r u so silent? '
Dude that's how I'm thats how i function
I never ask people 'why r u so noisy? '
Lol
damn
This came out in one of my think while with a grub that feels like intimidating me :'
Soo soo damn right !!
@WaitingToFade
Yup ! me too dude
Introverts unite!
Separately.
In our own homes.
😂😂😂😂 Yes!! Let's unite..separately.🤣🤣
That's the most perfect way to put it.
But not on a phone call. Texting is preferred.
Let's unite and stay at Home
Covid19 please go away
Extrovert wants to go out ☺.
I wanna go out and visit nice view, a silent place where I can breathe and think about my damn life
Words
Introverts are the most genuine and nicest people. They have a depth.
Bamse Bamse : yeah but the sad truth is most people don’t want to be friends with introverts
@@wenxiu1276 sadly
Yeah those people are having big ideals in life and goals but extroverts are busy looking outside and not inside themselves
Thannk you for saying that I appreciate it . But I truely believe I am and we are. But I onlying have few people who care about me that's all
Bamse Bamse being an introvert doesn’t make you any nicer than anyone else, also saying extroverted people don’t have as much depth is bs
my family doesn’t really understand this, they think I’m depressed or something when i set alone and listen to music, but they doesn’t know that I’m having a really good time with my self.
I'm an introvert but I'm great at one-on-one conversations
yess, even public speaking is not so hard
You not an introvert then, just a loner
@ Nah thats cus u play fortnite
k ku I literally almost failed my public speaking class last semester, I would do all the work but when the speech days came, I could never show up to class. But my professor ended up letting me give my speeches to him 1 on 1
@@cashkp9314 wow that's kind of you're professor, if you happen to have a poor eyesight tho jst remove your glasses or contacts, it feels like nobody is even looking
The part she says everyone is a character and there’s a story, like she’s just watching everything, is so relatable to me
Same hereee!
yes this is so deep, because nobody does that but us and it's totally not just being socially aware because you're very insecure
Its better to be alone than being around with backstabbing friends and people.
Hari Rajeev If your friends backstab you you should definitely find new friends!
1 or 2 friends is enough but when that's two are fake my partner is more than enough to that two fake friends so I enjoy my company with my partner nobody else...
Hari Rajeev Absolutely YES!!!
I Have fake friends that lie and backstab, A BOYFRIEND who doesn't call me back and is a idiot... I just rather read a book of animals and herbs than to be with people
HARI RAJEEV truer words have never been spoken...
yup, those people are the worst
Extrovert: Weather's nice no?
Me an introvert: Yeah, the monsoon is playing really nice. I went to check and there's gonna be a storm tomorrow. the chance of getting struck by lightning is more common than winning the lottery. I would like to go on but I think you wouldn't like the conversation.
extrovert: uhhh, OK.
Me (Silently): Yessss! works everytime.
Reminds me of groundhog day
You know what introvert means:
You can't start speaking with someone that you're not close to..
You can't stop talking with someone that you are close with..
Am I right ?
You definitely right
100% right
I'd like to answer your question but I am too shy.
Totally agree
yess...totaly 👍👍👍
For me, it’s not that I don’t like small talk, it’s just that I don’t feel like there’s anything to add to the conversation or I don’t really get the chance to
Feel you
Me 24/7
You are an amazing person. I watched your channel! Please keep going. I play guitar too, but I had to less and less
@@leonardkiefner6460 No, She feels you. Your a guitar..
And he feels me by feeling what her feels like to me and me being felt by those at the feeling of them you, and her. Because I'm a phone.
@@Zikeal-d4l what ?
One of the worst thing about being an introvert is when someone doesn’t understand when you need some alone time.
Lina Buljugija you get plenty of alone time in bed when you’re sleeping.. or on the shitter.. you grown adult that makes excuses for being an introvert HAHA
@@karanveerkahlon3987 you don't know if she's a grown adult and even if she is anybody can be an introvert it's not called making exuses it's called a lifestyle, people have there own reasons why they don't like mixing with people so if you've just whatched the video and still don't understand jokes on you
Karanveer Kahlon
I don’t have to make excuses for being an introvert. I don’t have to be sorry for who I am. Indeed, introverts are very good and caring people. And yes, you get alone time in bed when you’re sleeping, but sometimes you just need some days off. You don’t know what people are going through, so it would be appreciated if you think a little bit before writing a mean comment.
@@karanveerkahlon3987 what? Nonsense
@@karanveerkahlon3987 What we are looking at here, fellas, is something called poor emotional intelligence. Ignore this user's comment and move on.
Being an observer. I think a lot of us introverts are highly intelligent.
i don’t get how people can be so into meeting new people and being around people 24/7. if i spend just a day with my bestfriend i’m tired and it feels like i want to be alone. i hate people. i just wanna sit i my room, draw, listen to music, read, watch yt and play on my ukulele.
yeaah, i relate sm. if it was possible, I'd rather spend my whole day inside my room doing the things that I like and thinking about everything than just go out and meet new people and talk to my friends in person the whole day. I feel like I'm better alone or through my phone than in person.
If this doesn’t just sum up my life- 😂😂
And the best part about that is, its a vibe
Me too, people always think that I'm weird and quiet and shouldn't be shy, and that's just my mom talking! I can have fun and talk endlessly with the right person but mainly I just like doing things and being along, although I like being outside AND inside equally
I play the uku too...totally get it
I remember my first day as an introvert in college. I started crying after seeing so many students having fun talking loudly though i was sitting alone. That day was hell for me.
o h h o n e y - That’s hard. I don’t know why we feel uncomfortable being alone when we’re the only ones that are in a social setting. I’ve become much better at it. For example, I can go to the beach and be completely alone and I feel just fine. There’s often another or two like me around so I’m not that odd. When I watch other people in groups having fun, it’s not my kind of fun. It seems people try to get close to others in all the wrong ways. It’s wrong for me at least.
Same. I feel so lonely everytime I go to college. I am just jealous that everyone has someone to talk to. I feel sad that nobody talks to me.
I seel same
Are u settled now? 🙂
This hit hard. I cried in my bed because of loneliness and fear with strangers in my college. I skipped ice breaking programmes because I missed my family and I wasn't prepared for a different life with different environment.
That was 10 years ago. I am better at handling this feeling but I still feel out of place and I feel that I am not interesting enough to some people.
I hope some people won't take this term and personality nonchalantly. Some people have different ways of expressing themselves out there.
Introvert: a person whose happy life looks sad.
You won't understand. Our life is not sad, it's just we want our space and time
Atul Tiwari you may want to read his comment again
true
no
Not necessarily...
The balance between socialising and recharging by ourselves is probably most difficult challenge as an introvert
Extroverts: Let's talk.
Introverts: About what?
Extrovetrs: Idk, anything
Introverts: y tho...
Pretty accurate
😂😂😂😂 does this mean most girls are introvert because they literally never have anything to talk about and force the guy to say everything. Smart guys only tolerate it for a while though
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introverts: im busy. doing nothing.
😂
Is someone else here an introvert and has social anxiety?
fuck yeah dude
@Raymond Flores Well no. What do you know about me? Almost having a panik attack while walking through the school corridor because you feeling everyone is starring at you and judging you is clearly something else than introversion. I am an introvert, but I also have social anxiety
@Raymond Flores ok there is absolutely no sense in talking with you
@@raymondflores5176 LMAOOO bitch!!! Wtf?!?
Emily yes there is. And I've made a video talking about my social anxiety. Plz go watch it.
I'm 21 and in college.. I'm an introvert..and I'm surrounded by extroverts...it's really difficult
Hang in there. It's the same on my side of the world too.
Me too 😭
Ikr college is such a social place. But you'll get through it
me got finaly one that ok Lol
me got finaly one that ok Lol
Ain’t nothing wrong with being an introvert,
I love em!
Appreciated the way to convert yourself
I just hate when I push myself to talk to people because the atmosphere gets awkward and I feel like I need to fill up the space. I don’t want to and I shouldn’t have to. I need to accept myself for me. I find most conversations so tedious. Probably because it’s the other person trying to either outsmart me, interrupt me, or talk about themselves to me. No one ever asks my opinion for if they did, I’d have a lot to say. Introverts and empaths unite!
*Edited for grammar mistakes
Elacey C Yeah, people do usually like to talk about themself. It’s actually just a human thing although it can be annoying. Id recommend for you to read the book “how to win friends and influence people” by dale carnegie. It gives you a new perspective on people and the way our minds work. Anyways hoping you the best in your journey of dealing with people
I know it's hard, I used to suffer like that before. The only solution that I've encountered is to get out and befriend extroverted people and ignore rejection and learn.
Maybe instead of waiting for permission to speak your opinion, just say it. You don’t need people to ask you for your opinion to state it. You’re your own person, do what you want.
aaronmajor I completely agree! But I’ve found that when I do, most don’t listen and discredit what I’m saying. Yes, it’ll make me feel better to say it out loud, but if my advice/opinion was taken to heart... that would make me feel even better.
Elacey C then make them listen and tell them that you don’t feel like they’re actively listening. Reinforce what you’re saying and eventually they’ll have to listen. And be confident in what you’re saying. If you have a softer speak voice, try to stabilise your voice and speak a little louder as it can get lost in the crowd. You are only heard if you make yourself heard. As a debater, I’ve realised that people will try to discredit or avoid some of my arguments so what I’ll do is I’ll just simply repeat what I’m saying and not let them run away from it. Even if you have to be a little more assertive when saying it, though never be agressive. I’m sure that what you have to say is meaningful and worthwhile, it’s unfortunate that you’re being ignored like this.
Shallow conversation and superficial friends are a waste of time.
Amen
@@raymondflores5176 the heck are you on about
Research Flat Earth
@@raymondflores5176 what do liberals have to do with this. I swear there's always that one guy who brings politics into this.
Well said....
This video also sums up why most artist are silent.
We aren't quiet and shy, our mind is working.
Yup extrovert barely think
abt anything...
@@w花b i was not judging ..its my observation.... i wasnt saying in negative way...my cousins are extrovert..
@Tbh Nobody I also, through my observation of others around me, make social connections. If I see someone in need of something I give. And you would be surprise how the best human interactions in life would come from giving :)
That's not being an introvert.
@@gr8esthandleever It is. Because i want the best interactions with other if I am going to have them.
Me as an introvert take my decision, I'm never gonna date anyone or married anyone cause I'm strong enough to take care my self not like others who's life is not gonna complete without someone special
I honestly don’t understand why in the report card the teacher says:
‘’She is not very social, very quiet and doesn’t participate in class often’’
As if I’m going to change
enas alhawsawi lmaooo
Lol
Same!
Just ignorance. Some extroverts never learnt that there are people with different personalities.
Same, also those teachers who put you in a group where you're not even close with thinking it will make you more social
Dude as if i'm ever gonna changed this is how I was born putting me in a group full of ppl im not close with makes me more distance to them
Teacher: you are making a group project
Me: I’m going solo-lo lo lo lo lo lo
Same
Jennieee
I love jennie and blackpink
I’m in a group project and thinking about the subject and also talking and listening to the group members drains my energy it makes me want to punch a wall
@@musiclover6842 it also depends who it is. Luckily I was able to have people that were cool, but yeah it sucks sometimes.
Introverts in public: ....
Introverts in internet/in their house: *WOAWWW OH MY GODDDDD!!!*
That's actually real one 😂👌
@@beautifulsongs_5988 tf
@@emptyboy8627 Tf
Jay Tokoru17 omg so true
Dont forget: lmfao 🤣🤣
As an introvert I can admit that 2020 has actually been a good year for me and the main reason for that is coz of lockdown. If only we could have another full lockdown it would be great and peaceful and having nothing to worry about
Me too
im also an introvert and i feel soooo related to this. i could talk for hours and hours with the very few close friends i have, but beyond that, i always need to "recharge" myself or wanting to leave early...
So cute..Me too
Me too
Your cute, Me too i'm introvert but not shy person.
When two introverts meet each other they tend to appear more like extroverts.
Mr. D nah. Depends on the people.
In some cases when two introverts meet they stare each other. Neither of them knows how to start the conversation
I always wonder
This is actually true with me.
I'm an introvert... however, there was a time when I doubted this. I love going to new places, to go walk to the park at the middle of the night... alone... not knowing where that path will take me, but I was happy as long as I was left alone, exploring the wonderful world as I reflect and think of many amazing thoughts.
Those were some good times.
I always feel drained when I go to a party. I turn to everyone and see everyone talking to each other except me. I love the atmosphere that was created, bright lights and cool music playing in the background...however, I don't like parties (generally). I basically only admire the atmosphere...and thats it. I talk to no one. I have to actually force myself to talk to someone to fulfill my daily "social obligations" (basically to maintain a friendship which I can use to network) . Its very draining.
However, when I am with my introvert friends, or someone who is nervous (could be an extrovert, or non-friend, it works as long as they are not "confident") I suddenly become extremely extroverted. When a person appears nervous or clueless as to how to act next, I take charge.
I generally don't care about human interactions, however, that fact does not automatically make one shy.
I have a personal philosophy that if you want something to be done, you have to do it yourself. If all you do is wait, nothing will change.
I presume this is the reason for my extroversion in scenarios where the other person is "shy", "scared", or not confident enough. Because I know that if I do not intervene, they will probably do nothing, and I see "nothingness" as a waste of time. So I take charge of the situation just to "get it over with".
(I want to go home early hehe)
I am definitively not shy, and I presume this is the reason why I doubted my introversion during my early years (there was a bad stigma where being introverted meant that the person was shy...and I definitively knew I was not shy).
@@JoseVasquez-vj3lo
Are you a girl ?
people find eating or commuting alone very weird. to me,its the best form of therapy
exactly
yup .. true😇✌🏻 ..planing for my next solo trip
Keanu Reeves would agree
I'm an extrovert and my gf is an introvert. We complement each other very well. Best relationship I've ever had.
How youtube knows us so well. Who else was recommended???
me omg :)
Me lol
Yessss.... Me too .
Me ✌
Algoristms from google! ...is that how you spell that? Lol
I can’t even begin to think how much easier my life would be if I was an extrovert.
Gar96 Yes omg, as if you were born with the ability to speak to other people. It’s not like you can just talk to anyone, right?
@@richtofen4888 well yes, you just talk to people with confidence like you've known them or something! Read people facial expressions and body language, if it seems like you're annoying them, you're out. But 90% of people I've met for the first time wanna talk so yeah! That's basically what i do.
No. Own it. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. Took me years to realize it, but there are plenty of benefits. Once you accept who you are, it helps build your confidence.
Christie Blossom yeah i know. Most people like meeting new people, som don’t but you’ll realise pretty quickly if they think you’re boring. People appreciate someone trying to make friends with them, it’s literally just about speaking to someone that you don’t really know. And if they don’t want to talk with you, then you can just walk away. :) my first comment was a jab at these «introverts» that think it’s Impossible for them to speak to others.
I feel the same way
Me being forced to sit in a family reunion,
Aunt: Why don't you talk?
Me: I talk a lot.....but only with those whom I like.
Mom: *sending me death glares*
Lol 😆 🤣 same here
so why you hate your family 😆
😂😂😂
i literally have a family reunion in a few weeks😢
@@tiejheanneegibson7761 Escape 😂
The fact that everybody here talks about the content and introverts is so much pleasing rather than seeing people talk about the girl and her looks.
Introverts are inward looking people and that's what I love the most about myself and all other introverts.
*I think twice even before posting a comment on youtube*. ...
Ayush P if we could retweet comments i would retweet this
Adoring NCT well you can tweet a screenshot of it
Same
@m v ikr
how bout thrice? lol!
“why you never talk?” is the typical question that everyone asks.. I’m not ready for that question again this new school year. help..
Russian Girl Ksenia facts
Same with me, I'm not ready for people to question me and it gets really annoying most of the students at my school are extroverts and it bothers me because I get so jealous of them and how they talk so easily.
you would talk when you want to , wouldnt you? No one can force us to talk. So dont get yourself stressed too much by that kind of question. Rememeber, people who talk alot unnecessarily tend to make mistake verbally.
You get used to it. Its annoying yes... But at some point you don't care anymore... Or most likely the people who talk with you, will realise you don't like small talk so they will accept you for who you are.
Sipe True we still get used to it but its still annoying:(
When she said 'i lose energy from being around people and need to recharge' i was like 'yes. That is why even though i enjoy being with friends, in order to continue to enjoy my time with them i need to be alone and recharge. Extroverts gain their social energy around people. Introverts get it when alone. '
Yesss.....so true
Yess I’m so drained when I get home with friends but I still enjoyed my time
Lana: commuting together? ugh just don't ask, please.
also the person helping her film:
What I hate to be introverted is my circle of friends. I'm always the nice person who constantly listens to the grief of other people, but even they do not ask how I feel. And they only talk to me when they have no other friends to talk to.
oh yes i know how you feel. The people spend time with you as long as there is no other cooler person. I think they are not even realizing it. Im there, they like me but thats it, im not this "cool funny friend". Sometimes im totaly fine with this, sometimes not... think as a introvert i have to learn to deal with it.
yes that's the sad truth.
I think some of us are like robots. The main thing is to fulfill their needs, without any consideration.
and to make us feel important: we keep the most secrets and are the best secret keepers.
Same, they love parties, gossiping and being loud and all rainbows and shit. And they only come to me when they have to rant something because other friends like them won't listen (they always try to be the one speaking, not listening) or when they donot have anyone (and ofc leave me when they find another one) . That shit hurts and yes fuck friends
You have to use the Law of Attraction. Watch the movie "the secret" it will be life changing. You attract what you are. And you attract lessons in your life you have to learn.
Know your value and use affirmations it will be life changing I promise you. Protect your energy and manifest better, don’t allow cheap into your life. Blessings your way.
Sad but true. Im not really an open person, i dont like sharing stuffs unless they're interested and asks me
I'm both introvert and having social anxiety :'(
oh yeah? Social anxiety is actually serious. Let me ask you a question, how do you socialize? i don’t think you have social anxiety.
pæch social anxuety ppeople socialize through internet
@@raymondflores5176 bc the older generations fucked us up and now we gotta fix it 😭😭😭
pæch that’s not true, wtf? People with social anxiety don’t necessarily stay at home all day and avoid social interaction. I have social anxiety disorder and have a job that requires me to deal with people, network, etc...but it’s fucking HARD. I also have a social life and have friends, but I have to deal with social anxiety symptoms and it’s unbearable at times.
pæch that was unnecessary
Introvert like to spend time with themselves... they can hold themselves well in loneliness and silent...
Their mental strength is definitely stronger than you can imagine.
TET2005 just right ☺️
True
I feel ambriverts and introverts are strong mentally