Why Introverts Feel Misunderstood
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I think everyone feels misunderstood sometimes for different reasons. This is some of my thoughts on feeling misunderstood as an introvert and some of the things I've realized when trying to better understand myself and those around me.
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01:55: It's all about the environment
03:20: Dealing with casualty
05:00: Finding an outlet of expression
07:30: Let's talk about labels
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Introverts are not Socially awkward ...but socially selective...its not the quantity..but the quality that matters to us !!!!
EXACTLY! I'm not socially awkward at all and I have no trouble making friends or generally engaging with people.
But WHO I want to talk to and WHEN/WHERE? That's the rub :)
Sounds a bit pretentious
@@SwapBlogRUone better be who one is and do what one pleases than please others.
@@DiamondsRexpensive sure, I wholeheartedly support that sentiment.
@Jacquline Ard looks like you've hit the jackpot
“I have to decline because I want to go home and do completely nothing” perfectly describes me. Sometimes I just want to go home and relax
That's not nothing. That's just as important as exerting yourself with stimulating activities. But hey... not many people understand that distinction.
Yeahh I feel you..my favourite part is when I dive o my bed
That line stuck with me also! No one seems to understand that I'd just rather be at home!
Thats Ambivert. Not introvert. And it also has todo with personality and energy. Also known as Mayer 1-16 personality
Literally almost everything you talk about in this video is ambivert.
I feel you, but it's good... Sometimes it gets too much for me but we all need it i guess. It doesn't have to be always a matter of " doing".. All things exist to create balance.
does anyone here feels that being around too much people for long literally drains your energy i feel i love my own company because no one knows me better than myself
Same here, being around others drains my energy and being alone refills it
Relatable!
It is energy draining being around too many people for along time.
Sometimes it drains your energy, sometimes it fills you up. I can never foresee which one it's going to be.
Well,Not exactly! If the people who hang with are better and wiser than me.I would love to hang out with them and learn from them.If I'm hanging out with assholes,I prefer to just have my own company
Introverts are some of the kindest people you can find :)
♥️😊
there is bad and good everywhere :)
@@leociifer true!
Right bro...I see many of friends have nature like me and as introvert and have very kind nature
th-cam.com/video/jnEDzhdfXMg/w-d-xo.html just made this for another perspective on it 😊
Living as an introvert in an extroverted world can be very overwhelming and lonely sometimes... but videos like this help us to feel like we aren't so alone so thanks for this Lana.
I agree that the introvert vs. extrovert scale isn't so black and white. Most people have characteristics of both introverts and extroverts.
I myself enjoy going out to concerts and bars here and there but I definitely need my time to recharge alone afterwards...and yes I too sometimes prefer staying in and talking to my plants as well ;).
Yaah!😀
Yess relatable💯😁
I'm with u 😍
I think most people really underestimate the power of introverts. People don't realize that so many of the great people in the history of humanity were essentially introverts. History is full of introverted prophets, philosophers, writers, poets, scientists, artists, and revolutionaries since introversion often allows deep reflective thinking, creativity, the flow of ideas, and the ability to ponder and wonder.
Often introverts, in their silence, see what many fail to see.
We must learn to embrace introversion. Maybe some introvert sitting right among us would be the next revolutionary. Who knows!?
Edit: Not trying to take anything away from extroverts. It's Not introverted vs extroverted. The only intention of this comment is to highlight the hidden potentials so many introverts have, and that introverts must confidently embrace their introversion instead of feeling any kind of inferiority.
Don't think that extroverted people can't do these things though. A friend of mine who I respect a lot is quite extroverted, but i have deep conversations with him all the time.
Just a nice anecdotal example.
@@karstdeviz3858 you are right, but the thing is, many extroverts are beyond salvation...
I don't like this kind of self-praisings. There's a lot of extroverts in history too... Extraversion has its great advantages that amaze me :)
@@karstdeviz3858 I totally agree. I never said anything against extroverts. It's Not introverts vs extroverts. I was just emphasizing the important role introverts can also play in society and have been throughout history along with many extroverts.
In today's age, charisma and being a "people's person" or being "outgoing" is most rewarded and seen as a sign of an accomplished or confident person, while introversion is almost considered as a weakness or disadvantage, even though so many introverts also have great hidden potentials that never surface due to inferiority complex.
The point being, each of us must learn to embrace ourselves, whether intro or extroverted, instead of comparing ourselves unfairly and feeling left out or lesser than someone.
I like to consider myself as an ambivert. So I'm talking from neutral grounds :)
@@let_it_sin_kin You are absolutely right. I didn't intend to demean extroverts at all. I myself am an ambivert so I have mixed characteristics myself, and some of my greatest inspirations include extroverted people. Please read the other reply in this chain of comments in which I clarified my intentions behind the comment :) stay blessed!
We are seen as quiet, reserved and do not socialise with others. In reality, we are deep thinkers who make some of the most valuable contributions in the world. We are needed just as much as extroverts are needed.
Make a video on introversion. In our country it is seen negatively
Can I ask how introverts contribute? Maybe I havent heard of them, because you know.. we're introverts haha
Amen, let's just all accept each other for who we are.
@@voidclips9076 I'm pretty sure a bunch of music artists are introverted. Like the late Tim Bergling, aka Avicii.
@Mark Hall Without revealing the real identity.
Who else feels like this is perfectly about them...?😅
yep 😅
merely Em welcome to the club😁
Yes
Here! :D
Absolutely.
As an introvert it’s kinda hard to be accepted in today’s culture because it is created for extroverts. Love your content. You even inspired me to start my own channel. 🥺❤️
That’s so true
So many times i wished the end of phone calls and texts. We would go back to letters as our only way to communicate when we aren't face to face...
True.
on the internet introverts are widely accepted and no one talks about extrovert stereotypes because they’re “obnoxious and annoying” 🙄
Agree
Being an introvert has come with a lot of shame for me personally. I think that so much credit is given to extroverts (especially in American public school), while a lot of introverts are seen as boring and even weird. What I’ve discovered recently is that introverts hold so much power-in how we listen, understand, and follow our own moral compass. We can tap into our power once we realize the gifts of introversion and take action on them, instead of judging ourselves over what we “lack.” Thank you for this video Lana!
You are right
Well said
I agree with you
sometimes we just misunderstood ourselves. like when i was younger(i am 20 now) i used to think that " is there anything wrong with me "
We feel weird because the world tell us in different ways that our way of being it's wrong.
Yeah. So true.
The world is an extrovert world.
Yeah true. This is a sad reality we live in.
Yup
My mom says you aren't always right when nobody ever agreed to me
She tells me to live like this world
Can't I live the way I want?
She has already decided that I'll be a doctor
100. I recall being told that we introverts are weak because too much socialization can overwhelm us. Lol.
I always thought everyone else was bat-crazy on drugs. Good to know they're just extraverts.
🤣
I’m an introvert on drugs, that is potentially bat shit crazy 😜 lol
Great
The man himself
Lmao
My friends like to go places where they talk and joke and laugh about absolutely nothing.
Haha this made me giggle.
And now I'm laughing for absolutely no reason😂
And its a huge struggle for me as I don't find a joke or can't laugh like its too funny
Because introvert behaviour misunderstood by arrogance.
So true!!
Joe Jo you’re absolutely right!
That's weird. I would think people who were loud and extroverted would be perceived as arrogant. Introverts seem more down to earth.
If only people acted like that.
@@hisgraceissufficient5323 Only by us introverts. By the extrovert's way, they are popular and fun to be around.
I am struggling so much as an introvert because of Loneliness etc. This kind of videos make me feel so much better, thank you.❤️
Same 😌
We need to be all togehter
me too! you are not alone💞
Bro, if u were introvert u would not feel alone at all.
Miguel GT bro introvert doesn’t mean you want to be completely alone 24/7. Introverts just love spending most of their time alone and want a smaller circle compare to extroverts. That’s exactly what she’s talking about in the video lol.
It's mentally exhausting having to talk to a large group of people for 8 hours
i feel like i only need to socialize 10 minutes per week. i have never been this introverted in my life. at least it's a good time to be introverted at the moment.
10 minutes per week wow that is extreme
@@sonyavine yeah, i don't know how it happend. i don't really mind it though.
@@karstdeviz3858 maybe bc you were pushed into that situation by CV, and had never taken an introverted approach before? Lots of people agree to go out with friends, or feel that their busy social schedules are normal and what they *should* be doing, since it seems like that's what everyone else is doing. Maybe you just got a chance to learn more about yourself and realize you don't need all that. I wasn't introverted my entire life either. I had my daughter and started spending more time at home and realized over time I'd *much* rather be at home; reading, teaching myself to cook a new dish, or just listen to music and work on a puzzle. Now when I have to go to a social event I'm just thinking, ok... what can I say as good excuse to leave early 😁 I think I was so busy in my life before I just didn't have time to see I'd rather be home!
@@jdub164 I've always been introverted, but not to the extent that I only need 10 minutes of contact per week. CV definitely helped with that though.
Im the same. I can speak with my family a bit but i realized that i really dont need friends or at least dont need to socialize with them for a veeery long time
I literally cried while watching this. Growing up in an environment where introversion is super underrated, every word in this video is relatably me trying to justify the way I feel.
Thank you for making this video. Because I know that I'm not alone.
Nobody's a pure introvert or extrovert, cause we all wanna be alone sometimes and sometimes we just want to hang out.
yep, variety is the spice of life.
Extroverts get energy around people whereas introvert loose energy so...
That's true but you also have a side that's more dominant, those percentages differ for all of us. For example, I personally feel more introverted than extroverted most of the time, I would probably say like 80% of the time.
I feel like you would be such a great therapist
Yes, I like how you mentioned being versatile. I'm an introvert too who spends the majority of my time alone but I do like going out and being social on occasion. It doesn't change my nature. Too many introverts have superiority complexes like going out & being social is "beneath" them or only for vapid, shallow people. Staying holed up alone in your room 24/7 is not healthy either. It pays to be flexible and open to experiencing new things.
I relate!!
Agree! I'm an introvert too but it doesn't hurt to get out and socialize at times when you feel the need to do it. It's great to be balanced and flexible...a little bit of everything. :)
Now I can understand my self: I was in a party and accidentally I left because the company I was with hadn't to give me any interest. Over stimulating place. Then I felt stupid. Now I understand
I LOVE BEING INTROVERT CAUSE EXTROVERT CAN'T CONTROL ME. MOST OF THE TIME THEY JUST THOUGHT I'M LONELY CAUSE I'M QUIET BUT I'M JUST THINKING AND I LOVE IT WHEN PEOPLE CAN'T READ ME.LOL
Same
LOL jesus christ learn how to type. HAAAA
I have been an introvert my entire life, and am very comfortable with it. I don't feel the need to change or socialise in the slightest
people always want me be around me and then when i say i need my alone time they think something’s “wrong” or i’m “cold” when in reality i need time to recharge and not hear others problems or useless topics of discussion. i like to be alone to learn more about myself. when i’m around people to much i literally become stressed and mentally sick. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ #introvertsstandup
Isn't it weird that we always have to explain why we want to have our alone time? People should understand that some people just need that.
Mental health is important. It's kinda hard for me because it's looked like I'm so awkward and I just want to recharge. No I dont want to hear what you are doing daily.. Sometimes that's senseless talk. My mom talks a lot, she speaks her mind, I feel suffocated being around her. So I lock myself in the room.
I’m the same way I understand what you saying.
"Going home and doing nothing." Describes my perfect life. Brilliant video,thank you again Lana. 💛
Thank you x
I really appreciate videos like this. They help me accept myself more. I was extremely introverted growing up, and I feel like everyone was always questioning and judging me for it. It always made me judge myself.
Anna Baldwin you never have to answer to anyone. Keep being yourself and always know that you have in you to always know what's best for yourself. You're very beautiful as well.
Happy to hear this video helped xx
100% agree with the labels. Though it's easy to describe someone with one word it isn't representative of their whole being.
Oh too many times I had to force myself to participate in parties during university years because as soon as I did not, and the only reason being - I’m tired, I’ve got work tomorrow at 6am or I want to stay in and read - they labeled me a “f-ing antisocial weirdo”. Until I realised that I don’t even want to be understood or seen as anything whatsoever by these people.
I feel like my biggest fears as introvert is that I’m too afraid to talk to people, but I also want those deep connections. you mentioned this in your video, and I was wondering if you can give advice and pointers. I know there are so many other resources but hearing it from another introvert who understands the difficulties of socializing is far more helpful :)
My best friend is an introvert, I’m a serious extrovert, so I’m glad I can find ways to understand her better ☺️💛
Introverts are honestly the best people
How can you say? Really?
Rohit Chaudhary it’s a very subjective statement. I’m an introvert so I can agree but an extrovert for example would say that extroverts are the best people. Neither statement is right or wrong.
Rohit Chaudhary Because introverts find very unique ways to fix problems. We’re the type of people who, if we don’t like your energy, we don’t even talk to you. We like to stay gone ; read a book, and fix up our house instead of going outside and talking to meaningless , pointless people . We’re the type of people who like quiet environments
Yup. Everyone else talks too much 🤣
not really. there's good and bad w/ everyone. too many introverts have a superiority complex. i'm one and this whole online culture of introverts who think they're better is annoying.
I came here to feel better about myself as an introvert, and now I'm in love.
Good video subbed.
Lol I can relate xD
Introversion is the ultimate sophistication,Thanks for describing this point in this live chapter of Yours Lana,Thanks a lot!..
I can sit in my backyard alone on a nice day for hours, not doing anything but enjoying whatever nature has to show me in the moment, birds, dragonflies, ants, clouds, moon, ect.
I recently broke up with someone who I was with for 6 years who never appreciated this about me, and I felt very misunderstood and even devalued as a person for this.
I feel a lot of compassion for those who are introverts and suffer this feeling of loneliness while being around others who don't allow them to enjoy being who they are.
This made me tear up, especially the last part because i feel as if my own family doesn't respect or care to understand who i am 😥
I mean, introverts are observant, they use their senses to observe situations and people.
Sometimes a No doesnt need a reason! great video!
This is great! The audience on our channel I believe typed you as an INFP or ISTJ. I agree that the moment these archetypes become limiting boxes, it becomes very dangerous indeed! ~ Nathan
Thanks Nate!! Really? Haha. I'll have to check out the comments on that video again.
Your vibes are crazy whenever i am feeling lonely i watch your videos and i feel happy.
Finally i found this video. Im introvert and im happy to watch video like this. Its a realization.
I love how you always educate me with things I was never sure I have enough knowledge about. Pls continue making great content Lana. Ily! 💖
Thanks so much!! x
So well said. This is probably the best description of what it means to be introverted that I have ever come across
Lana Blakely I really love your videos. They help me a lot, and not just only me, my friends too. I think you should start a Podcast! Seriously!
I'm ambivert
I love volunteering
I can talk with strangers
I can have new friends( I don't want to)
I'm a member in actif club and love trying new things
But I love being alone to think to read or do absolutely nothing. And sometimes I just make excuses to leave a group of people and now I'm distancing myself even in social media lol.
Im not so comfortable with the fact that I can't be one of the two. But I'm glad that I can understand and feel both of introverts and extroverts that's why I don't juge them.
So please don't juge extroverts because they also get tired of others and some of them run away from themselves and from thoughts and can't handle being alone.
And don't juge introverts because they don't feel like they are what they are when they are with ppl.
Thank you.
I'm 34 and i am learning so much from you. This video is great as i have been shamed and 'uninvited' from social gatherings because "i never come anyway" which then makes me feel rejected. Your videos about being an introvert have helped me so much and stops me from feeling the shame of being an introvert. Now i actually like that about myself, i think introverts are mysterious and i like that
This makes me so happy to read!! x
Thanks for the video Lana. I am an introvert too and I was able relate to everything you said. It feels nice to know people like me exist after all.
So refreshing to see positivity around the "introverts" topic. I agree completly with the labels, even though we can feel related towards one end of the spectrum, we shouldn't let that define us. I also posted a video about introverts and I am so happy to see that we have a similar perspective.
As a random TH-cam comment said "Let us unite! Separetly in our homes".
Can relate to this especially in group projects where people think I’m not doing anything
Omg i HATE group projects so so much. I am so much better at working alone by myself
I hate it too! People often think you are unmotivated or don’t want to help them with the project even though it’s just really hard for us.
i like how whenever Lana does a sponsored video, it feels like part of her video not just an Ad
I am 18 years old and still struggling with the fact that sometimes i don't have the energy to be with my friends. Feeling shitty and guilty for avoiding my phone (their texts) in the weekend because i'm trying to recover from a week of interactions/stimulations. And then there's the exhaustion from worrying about how they will take being ignored for so long
Lana, you should talk about HSPs (highly sensitive people) in another one of your videos, there is some overlap between HSP traits and introverts, although 30% of HSPs are actually extroverts
Yes Lana, please do a video about this topic! 🙏🏼❤️
Yes. That's a very interesting issue.
I am a mixture of HSP and introvert because I can't handle anything and take it level too serious which often leads to me making conclusion and highly emotional. People around me everywhere, be it school or home start saying that I am acting, highly reactive etc.
This is so me...sadly, I'm misunderstood and sometimes even judged by others who simply arent emotionally intelligent.
you put it perfectly Lana 💓 we're all on the spectrum but I'm sure people who lean more towards the introversion can totally relate to everything you mentioned x thank you for sharing 🌸
Thanks for watching Em xx
Lana Blakely xx ❤️
I think I'm possibly catching up on rest after working in society with unknown ,undiagnosed social anxiety disorder( until few years ago)slash introvert for so many years.
I almost feel lucky it didn't give me a heart attack.
Resting and trying to walk every day feels so good.
Having space from society, a place that feels awkward to me is an incredible blessing for however much time I'm given.
I'm extremely greatfull and now to see and hear you talk about things I had no clue about is heart warming or something.
I used to fight my introverted side, but you helped me to accepted. Many thanks
This video was much needed today .
I have come across cold behaviour from my colleagues off late because I don't exhibit the common small talk time and again ... therefore I come accross as a snob and while others make the effort they climb the good ladder whilst I am being misunderstood . This results in me losing opportunities because it's believed that I will be the least dependable and reliable for any responsibilities . I struggle to show I care . With WFH it's easirer for me because I love the non rendezvous work culture .But even so people try their best st through casual emails off work hours gossips..
I was shopping with a friend.. she wanted to go so many places... I started to feel my typical symptoms... Stress, weird, headache, pressure... When i arrived at home, i was exhausted... And feeling so sad because i see myself so different to the Rest... Anyway... We understand each other, here :)
I can relate I’m and introvert don’t really like going out that much I just get anxiety being around allot of people.
@@BrolyKing801 thanks for your comment! Yes, we prefer our own company!, ❤️
I am also an introvert and i am proud of that. Keep on inspiring us with your positive thoughts.
Agree. I always feel a little behind and left out when I'm not constantly going out during my teen years. I like to chill at home. I do enjoy being with friends, but I do need a break in between. Also I don't like big crowds or gatherings. Prefer to keep it small. I also like to be informed a few days ahead if invited to a place because I'm not that spontaneous. Thanks for sharing. I feel more normal now.
Me too! I always felt like I missed out on those kind of things but now I’m starting to get to know myself better and I realize that I shouldn’t do anything that makes me uncomfortable.💫
Thank you for this video. I love the calm way you express your thoughts and feelings. I mostly consider myself to be an introvert but also know if I wouldn't have been working on what would typically be known as "extroverted features", I would be missing a lot on life. Being able to spend energy socializing and later on switching off enjoying art or time alone is in my view what enriches life.
Wow! Thanks for this. It clarifies so many things for me and also giving me tools on how to think differently and feeling less weird about needing to be alone.
Outlet of expression is sooo important and has helped me a lot. Very true!
Great insight! Even though being an introvert comes with its own set of challenges, I'll still chose introversion over any other way of operating. Proud to be one. 🤓
I've learned that my personality isn't static. I'm a constantly changing, growing person, and what I'm like now is different from what I was like five years ago. Of course, some traits have carried through most of my life, but I used to become anxious if I couldn't precisely define my personality. Now, however, I know that change is a part of being human. We're people, not a collection of personality traits.
You open my eyes and make me proud of myself to be an intovert
I'm introvert and I enjoy being outside on long walks. But I hedge my walks by making sure there is at least a peppering of people along the walk too, just not too many.
I can relate to each single word. You tackled it from a very unique unusual perspective, and you couldn't be more accurate 👍
You’ve inspired me to make a video from an extroverted perspective! I’m an ENFP!
I am definitely an introvert, and it does not bother me. What worries me is that this lockdown due to COVID has made things worse for me in a sense - I am thrilled to have a full time job where I work from home each day and on weekends, I compose, record and upload music to my TH-cam channel. I have not been out the house for 3 months now and this is not healthy...the worse part is that I am thriving and loving this! Scary stuff!!!
I use to find it difficult to interact with others in social gatherings, even though some were good friends, interacting was difficult, until a good friend noticed I was usually quiet and came over to start a conversation, when others saw this, they also stated coming over to me and I felt comfortable telling them what I go through. Now I still have difficulties interacting with new people, but with help from friends I am slowly finding myself.
Sometimes my reason behind not going out,/needing to go home is that I want to spend time alone. That's the only reason literally. I just wanna spend some self-time and enjoy solitude.
And honestly I struggled most of my life until I realized this. I couldn't understand why I wanna do spend time alone now or why I can't go out although I love this person/group. It's only when I realized the true reason behind that I've become more accepting the fact &, most importantly, accepting myself as it is, which helped me feel more at ease.
Exhaustion from socialising
I agree lol
I’m an introvert and after all these years I’ve accepted myself and own it.
Hi from Australia 🇦🇺👋
You mentioned labeling yourself and making it to work as a lifter and not a limiter. I am impressed by your way of thinking every time I see your video. Your ability to articulate your thoughts is exciting. I know you prepare for each video really seriously because you are very coherent and fluent.
I find myself to be an ambivert, in between both!!! There are aspects of both an introvert and extrovert that I am!!! Yes I agree that it isn't black and white
Oh yeah, that's the word that I forgot again 😅 I just always remember it starts with "a" xD
I think I'm quite ambiverted too, maybe more into introversion but not quite ;)
Cheers!
You know my classmates thought of me as a Snob because I had no clue how to interact with them. I drifted towards few of them I felt most comfortable having small talk with and never bothered with the majority. I'm usually very anxious (stuttering, rapid blinking) when socializing. And I wondered if I have social anxiety but I doubt it.
I recognize I simply need to practice more and I know I'll perform better after some time.
I am happy about the title even before watching, because I've been struggling more lately...
Agreed! Also, I dislike that people assume that you’re stuck up bc of the way you act and being around loud people drains you so much; crazy how some people don’t know that there exists different personality types! (:
You are a miracle, a savior.
Thank you for
saying it's ok, regardless of what others may think.
I feel like that is important, especially for certain people.
I never knew I was getting drained until fairly recently. I think I was sencing it but didn't know.
Now hearing you talk is confirming it.
That was super helpful... I know I'm more on the introvert side but I ended up limiting myself by thinking that "oh well, I'm an introvert, so if I go to that party I'll just make everyone uncomfortable by not doing all that stuff everybody expects me to do, plus there will be people who I don't know, so it's a no-no" when I should just stop and really try to understand how I feel about this situation. I also tell my friends I'm introverted too much, they end up having their assumptions about me and hesitate to ask me to come hang out with them, cause they're afraid to make me unconfortable when in reality I would really love to spend time with (most of) them.
I agree, introvert and extrovert are just labels that we choose to identify ourselves with... and it’s fine as long as they do not limit us. There are aspects of introversion we enjoy and there are those we’d rather like to change. I’ve always enjoyed my calmness, ability to listen and think deeply, but I was always afraid to speak up and felt very uncomfortable around new people. Moving to new cities and countries helped me overcome that fear and reveal new sides of myself and even though I’m still shy sometimes, it doesn’t bother me anymore.
I have pushed myself too much as if I was like extraverts. Because of this I often felt bad, this hurts so much now I realize. It’s time now to do what is important to me too. Who has the same?
I totally agree with You Lana about to not assign the label to people and to ourself. I see it by myself that I like to be stimulated by surroundings but also like to go alone to the park for a walk and be with my own thoughts. I must say that: Lana You are hyper,ultra inteligent woman. It's seem like You read people's thoughts and this is incredible. Take care and see You :) Bye
♥️ I’m an extrovert but I honestly find introverts so intriguing and captivating 😊
balance is good
Lil Home Invasion yes!
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iJeffa ♥️
So me :-) Especially got me at: In a room of 15 people, and not having a connection with anyone there = Lonely.
Thank you Lana for this video. I think for us all we need time by ourselves for our emotional health. And we also need time with other people. We need the interaction.
It's really so relieving to know that you are not alone of your kind (introvert ) in the whole world
With me it depends if I feel if the people around me have a good vibe, if I feel the have positive feelings about me. Then I do the dancing and the karaoke and tell jokes. Great video!
Being an introvert is not a bad thing that’s how I describe my older brother. A couple years ago I used to talk to him about why he doesn’t hang out with my brothers or make any new friends and hang out with them. I have always thought he was boring because he never wants to hang out with me (go to fun places) but then I thought there was nothing wrong with him being alone. At that time I was feeling lonely and sad. He always enjoys his own company and I’ve always liked that about him.
Just finished watching this video and honestly I couldn’t agree more . As someone who shares personality traits from both introverts and extroverts its hard to classify yourself as one or the other. Some days you feel more extroverted and others you feel like you need time for yourself away from distractions. Keep up the great work Lana !
Lana, I cant express how much you calm me down by talking about issues most people never think about. Not only is it what you say, the content is spot on and told in a way one can easily follow your thoughts, but the way you say it : calming, comforting, soothing and in some way seductive making me listen more and more being all ears. Women like you are so rare theese days and its painful to know this, yet knowing you exist kinda gives me hope there are more out there just like you.
"There is more to people than meets the eye" (Optimus Prime), but people's thought process and way of thinking will never give them the chance to see that.
it's about the life endeavour in becoming a better person in spite of all the disadvantages one may have, about finding balance and harmony(?), connection with the people that we chose to connect with i guess, thank you for sharing this information
People think introverts don’t know how to socialize when in reality we know how but chose not to which is different
I used to be an introvert. I identify as an ambivert socially, as I’m not shy about talking to strangers like I was when I was younger, and I like being out, but I’m also fine with being a hermit. If a friend or two came over once or twice a month for like 5 hours, it would be a nice refresh from the mundane work to home schedule, and cabin fever. Ideally, I’d like to socialize at least every other weekend. I guess I’m still more on the introverted side tho, since I like mentally preparing myself to go out, and can get overwhelmed if last minute plans are made, and I’m pressured to tag along.
Def relate to not knowing how to make sense of myself or social preferences until I learned the term “introvert.” It’s pretty interesting now to see how people respond to my use of it.
That's a perfect summary of the reality and misconceptions of introverts - thank you. To add one thing: introverts are generally highly mentally stimulated and that's why we are content to be in our own company for long periods of time. We don't need constant superficial socializing or large gatherings to supply extra stimulation. We are usually at our limit already!
I am always thinking that why I am always need to find my time so valuable, as I am a student and always feels like be alone is good for me.
I express myself through music best, songwriting... I need to journal
Journaling is a godsend
AquaWarrior Samah I will have to start then. 🙏🏻
I tend to find a mountain view relaxing. Nature dissolves all my anxieties and gives me impetus for the day and it makes personal business, like taking care of things at the bank bearable as I walk towards it. The feeling of solitude in a small town is exactly what I’m looking for as an introvert. I’ve no regrets.
Thank you from this video❤️made me understand others and myself more🌟
That last point was really interesting for me since I've been going through some sort identity crisis recently (sounds more dramatic than it actually is lol). I've moved out of my parents' house a few months back and I've been living with two of my good mates ever since. I always thought of myself as an introvert but now every time both of my roommates are out for whatever reason I just feel super bored and lonely even.