Nonprofits & Philanthropy Are Toxic Jobs for Black Women? w/ Yanique Redwood
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- **Sorry about my sound problem. This conversation is worth sticking around for though. ** White Women Cry and Call Me Angry w/ Yanique Redwood | Black women leaving toxic jobs | Dr. Yanique Redwood wrote the book on racism in philanthropy and the nonprofit sector. Why is there so much racism in jobs that are supposed to be "helping" professions? And how to we recognize and heal from racial trauma in the workplace? Did Yanique let their white tears "run her out of there?"
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We are USED for our dedication, creativity, ingenuity, and loyalty. The MAMMY concept of us taking care of everyone but ourselves is so real!!!
Why are we allowing this? Because somewhere inside us, we believe these people will look up and accept us, and acknowledge we do have value. Girl !!! Black women are in abusive relationships and are calling it a job, a family, a marriage, a career, a commitment. Chile ✌️
Working with white women has by far been one of the most traumatic experiences of my entire life. I feel like I’m constantly getting gaslit when everyone acts like white men are the problem in the workplace. It is always been white white women for me. I am an attractive, black woman who is super confident and actually was raised and white spaces. So I just don’t come with what they expect and want to project a black woman to be. Thank you for healing and for holding the space. A lot of us suffering silence at the hands of unbelievable trauma and abuse of white women.
Thank you for sharing.💛
Me too
Yes....THEM more.than anyone else....Thank you.
Absolutely my experience as well.
The same here. The jealousy, hate and deception was paramount in my entire career. It's just ridiculous what black women go through on their job at the hands of white people, mainly white women. Its a fact.
United we bargain and individually we beg.......that is so POWERFUL!!!!!!
In my opinion, the priceless statement was when your guest said "who said that this was a good life". LOL..
That's it right there.
I saw a video recently where a man said "the biggest scam ever was to convince people to work 30 or 40 years in order to enjoy a 10 year retirement".
Wow. Compelling statement.
Yep 😔
I don't get familiar with work colleagues. They are not family. They are not friends. If people approach me once with the foolishness, they don't approach me twice. And I maintain my grace and peace.
I do this too. People front like they're your friend but just want your personal info to drag for fifth, shits and giggles. Always proceed with caution.
I’m going through this now at my job. It’s been one scenario after another my whole career and it’s so draining because constantly having to basically suck it up to remain “professional” wears on you.
I'm not one to "suck up." 😊Even when I was fired for defending myself. I found ways to maneuver through my employment while having some tough experiences with Whites, Hispanics, Asians AND Blacks. I found that I had the best experiences while in charge. (I'm highly educated with property, and a stable income.) My advice to you is to do what is best for you, even if it means to suck it up, if that is the cost to accomplish your personal goals. Good luck and know that I hope that you achieve your goals. Maybe my post made earlier today will help you. You can read it on this comment thread. Best wishes ✌🏾
Thats why we need "healing" moments on the daily❤
@@AmericanObserver-kq7ye I don’t suck up. I’m referring to sucking it up as in not expressing everything that comes to mind.
Our EXIT strategies is changing the world 🎉❤
Yes! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Suffering in silence because the moment we mention our black pain, it’s too much to hear by our fragile listener. Their emotional state is valued higher than our racial trauma.
Yup 👍👍
Facts🎯🎯
It's OUR time now!! Their time is OVER👏
This is what I’ve been feeling and just couldn’t vocalize it
White fragility.
went from working remotely the last 8 years to a new position surrounded by mostly Caucasian women...and i know full well how cruel they can be and how onlookers just "watch". Last job was a nightmare of white-privilege and discrimination/oppression. not sure what this "new assignment" is about & all the Ruby Bridges stares get at me sometimes BUT my plan is to ignore and WIN this battle, too!!!
I wish I had caught this live. I suffered in nonprofits for over 5 years. NONPROFIT WORK IS AN ABSOLUTE HELLSCAPE FOR BLACK WOMEN!!!!!
Good lord this happened to me multiple times. Including one Asian girl who would just look at me standing there and break into tears like I had done something 😂 Eventually people realized who she was and nobody liked her but she thought she could get away with it at first. They all do, and it works for a while. Very sad.
The “little things” are called micro aggressions
And they are not micro because it a White woman pandemic! That's MACRO. We should begin to call it what I call it, "macro-aggressions."-hyku 2024
Yes must always have own individual strategies to combat micro aggression.
Wow! I worked for the state and encountered the most unprofessional, discrimination, ignorant behavior than I did when I was in the private sector! I prefer to work remote and the ones that are the worst are Caucasian women! I just didn't understand why they seem to live a life of ease yet were envious of me!
Good question. I have always primarily worked with them as well and wonder the same thing. I believe it's because they have been coddled and enabled all their life and cannot fathom how we can be so confident and dynamic when all of the chips are stacked against us. Our power and confidence comes from within and theirs is external (looks,material,validation,etc).
Watch all of Stephanie's videos or just wait until you're 70 like me to understand. Hopefully, you'll have lived a life of being able to tell those white women and others where to go and became an entrepreneur. I say that because people who escape these White women early enough still look young and vibrant. Most people guess my age at 45-50. And I became a civil rights activist at age 4.
However; my issue has ALWAYS been Black and White women. That's not typical. You have an opportunity to have a real life of ease. I don't. But I have 28 disciplines so GOoD gave me something else to give me grace.
I agree. I am new to the public sector and the ONLY people questioning my work, acting as unofficial supervisors and are speaking to me as if I am not qualified are white women. This is AFTER I have accomplished in 2 months what they could not in over 4 years.
👩🏽🦱 @ charjay:
You’ve got it in a nutshell. ✅
Remote work is the best way to work for African-American women who are leader types, and I agree with you 💯% about Caucasian women. They are the worst behaved and full of lies!
The next are the first generation Hispanic women. They are also badly behaved on the job. Next are Black women who envy your higher education, standards, rank and abilities! They are also jealous of African-American women leader types. ✅
@@hykuvava2269 I live at ease now thanks to making up my mine that I deserved it! Thanks for sharing!
I wonder what the woman was thinking when she asked if her grandbaby was that black, 🤔 was she hoping that you'll tell her that her baby appeared more white than black to make her feel better?
That's my guess, but who knows.
@@StephaniePerry She had said that her parents didn't like that the baby was mixed, so she was hoping I would say that the baby didn't look that Black.
@yaniqueredwood941 Black people are hands down one of the most beautiful people on earth, we don't age quickly, and we are a whole snack any day any time so I really don't understand all this misconceptions about blacks.
👩🏽🦱 I’m African American, and I had both the pleasure and displeasure of working with Whites, Latinos, Asians AND Blacks.
Some experiences were good while others were not. My jobs were mostly in leadership. (I am highly educated.) I now work for myself, and if I worked again for a different entity, I’d have to be in charge, because if you’re not, you won’t be respected. ✌🏽
What's your industry for self-employment? Asking for myself.
Same. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
United we bargain, individually we beg". WORD!! ✊🏽
The most impactful thing for me in the interview was when Yanique mentioned where she and another woman started talking about their mutual white acquaintance and the separate experiences that they had with that person but had never spoken of. We need to speak to each other, but more importantly, we need to speak to our youth.
There are so many things that we get used to in the workplace or other environments, things we find uncomfortable (or something seems 'off' with interactions) with white people that we just don't have the vocabulary for. So many times when we are being gaslit, but don't recognize it as such or microaggressions that go unchecked because we don't know how to speak about them.
We need to normalize speaking about these things to each other and our youth - and not just in a complaining way where we vent about work. We need to learn how to call out poor behavior in a productive way and how to guard against it.
Omg this is the topic! Why are the healing and helping professions so toxic? Especially the non profit sector!
Yall are beautiful ❤
OMG!! Aren't they!!?? Their skin, smiles, and typically hair for both. Stephanie has the best hair in the Diaspora! And I did hair internationally for 37 years!! I tune in to "FEEL like a part of Black people."
My skin, mind and soul are "Blackity Black" a term I coined when working with BLM.
I used to host "girls night" for my friends at least once or twice a year. It was an overnight situation and one of my friends forced us to play games so technically a slumber party. That friend group disintegrated so we haven't had one in years. I'm gonna bring that joint back. Great news is I'm still close friends with the game-forcing-friend. 🤭🤭 Soon come.
WOW! Can't say I'm surprised that the gaslighting started when the women were confronted.
Hello from the future🖐🏽!
"United we bargain, individually we beg". Awesome. Amazing convo. Thank you.
Black Fatigue 😮💨😤
Because I don't want to spend life in prison, I clean houses. Four hours, in and out, get paid, adios. If they give me any crap I drop them. The universe provides.
I really needed this video as well. In a government setting and I’m 25 now but I definitely will be exiting soon my goal is to be done by 27 (pay off all debts and leave us ). I do not intend coming back to work in this sector I’m looking to get into it now as there are many remote positions
Love this!
@ccleavemebe,
I'm an African-American woman, and I know that the U.S. isn't right for all African Americans. You have to know the systems, and how to use them for your good. Read my post from today. It might help you. If not, good luck with your endeavors abroad.
@@AmericanObserver-kq7ye thanks for your comment but I’m not interested in navigating any systems in a country my ancestors built against there will and 400+ years later we’re still treated like 1/4 human. I’m exiting soon and I’ll be happy and healthy
Toxicity toward black women is rampant in the field of education (K-12) in the state of California. Overall there are so few black Teachers, Administrators, OT, Speech Pathologist, Counselors or Behaviorists that the environments we find ourselves in are primarily ethnically white women and other. Our co-workers are vocal (verbally or non-verbally) regarding their disdain for our presence in what they deem to be "their spaces". In addition they can be very elitist, racist or dismissive. Micro-aggressions, back/off handed crass comments, calculated /crafty/subversive and disruptive mico-managing styles, and palpable dislike are far too common in an environment that someone looking in from the outside would deem to be an altruistic field. Black Brilliance is something that other races intrinsically fight tooth and nail against, when they see us as the competition, especially if we are in our integrity and they can not directly steal , copy or try to co-op our ideas.
Sending love. I am in California, too.
They are horrible in the education system.
Very well said!!
Yes white women so privileged in their racism and many so incompetent in what they do, race privilege protects them .
@4:58 wow and it's just the start of the video. Folks are just damaged and spreading it around and toxifiying us- who are expected to carry their burden of stress on top of our own HUGE load we've been dealing with.
Yes. The nonprofit world takes a toll. I hope to get out soon.
I hope you do too. 💗
I have a few friends in non-profits and the stories they told got me hot under the collar and I'm not working there. It's a very shady sector owned and ruled by white women.
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All dressed in black, black, black
With silver buttons, buttons, buttons
All down her back, back, back....
I remember those days but don't remember all of this song. We had so much fun back then❤
She asked her mother mother mother for 50 cents cents cents to see the elephants elephants elephants jump over the fence fence fence. She jumped so high high high she reached the sky sky sky and didn't come back back back until the Fourth of July July July or something like that! Thanks for watching!
Oh this brings back such found memories of my childhood. 😊❤ I need to start writing the lyrics down because I have forgotten some of them. My favorite one to sing was Miss Sue from Alabama, they call her Suzieanna. It’s also cool to see how the words have slightly changed over time.
Speaking if community, I thank God for this one! It’s truly changed my life. This was a beautiful conversation. 💗🙏🏽
Non profit means no protection for discrimination and so much pain for women of color in those spaces in My experience.
Replay gang, this was sooo good! Buying Dr. Younique’s book. I have worked in the nonprofit sector for decades and everything she touched on is correct! Really great interview and looking forward to hearing more from her.
I’m really enjoying this replay. I would like this guest to connect with my daughter Dr Laschanda Johnson who wrote her dissertation about the same thing her book is about. Maybe they could talk about some things. Just planting a seed.
So lucky, a daughter that’s a daughter.
Congratulations 🎉
Yess! Southern Africa is where it's at. There's so much abundance and fruitfulness in this region. But, Jamacia sounds pretty dreamy too. We moved from Ohio to Tanzania and now we're enjoying a bit more ease and luxury in Southern Africa. I loved this interview! So rewarding to listen to as busy entrepreneur/consultant.
It matters more who is in the house, senate, local goverment and judicial system. Presidents take direction from congress and their executive detail.
This is where creating your own is important. 👩🏽
I love ❤ this talk!!!!
Alot of TH-cam are introverts
I'll say it again: Look at how black women look when living outside of the U.S.: flawless skin and hair as they embrace the ease of the luxury of time and freedom to do as they please🤗. I'm currently in the phase of saving money and working on a job I can do online to leave the U.S. 🤭
Yes I’m down to form our own everything because we can do it all. They are definitely squeezing us out for sure and we have an opportunity to come together and set an example to do great things.
Fabulous interview. I could relate to many of the points developed in this video. I lived in the DMV for 23 years and it just has its own culture.
Wow that quote was powerful
Great convo - thank you. I am a survivor of working in the nonprofit sector and philanthropy. Deeply appreciate the candor and the healing light.
Hi ladies from the future, abundantly happy to have received this replay. Many many many points resonates. Thanks for sharing
Ladies,
THANK YOU so much for this conversation! Your stories and testimonies resonated with me!
Thank You!!🙏💞
This interview was amazing, healing and so relatable!
Thank you for this powerful conversation!
This was so healing for me to see this. Thank you so much!
It doesn’t matter where you work as a BW, if you work around PC.. it’s misery. Period.
Edit: I have a masters degree in HR and it’s all PC females and trust me..it’s horrible.
33:02 I agree with divesting from the two party system. It puts us into binary thinking while the next evolutionary step is quantum.
Hello Stephanie, Dr. Redwood and the community 👋🏾! Watching the replay and OMG, what a brilliant conversation you are having with the Dr. She's is so calming and that voice...wow! I can't wait to get her books . Very excited. Thank you, Stephanie and Dr Redwood❤️🙏🏾❤️
Racism in the workplace will never be fixed. It says in The Creator says in the Bible that..”They have a perpetual hatred for you.” I hope this answers your question.
Listening from TX. Years ago, someone told me that non-profit work wore them out. I took her word for it.
This was very insightful & helpful....Appreciation!
Great conversation..more confirmations to strive for liberation, and doing my own thing,, with support from those that really "get it". ❤
Thank you Yanique! I too will be voting in this election. Reality is important to me for sure, but I don't mostly operate as a "nay sayer". I mostly believe that where there's a will there's a way. I do know that a tribe that demands the same outcome, and is activated, is strongest.
Micro aggressions in the workplace coming from the PC are the worse. 👩🏽
For me being vulnerable is difficult because of the cliches I repeat to myself “No need to complain because no one wants to hear it” or “ Stop complaining and do something about it” or “Complaining is ineffective and wasteful” or I don’t want to perceived as a complainer.
Nonprofits are worse because you don't have corporate controls. beyond that any workplace can be toxic and we have to do our best to shield ourselves and find options
This is very encouraging. It would be great to have that kind of freedom and life.
Indoor double-Dutch would be great. 👩🏽 🥰
Hello from the future! Yanique's voice = peace! ❤
Greetings all. Sadly, universal themes of toxic behaviour. . Looking forward to the Exodus Summit next month, would be great to connect with other Londoners, not sure there's that many of us, but spreading the word. I'll be a first time attendee.
Hi ,I'm from London and looking to leave. Let me know what's up x
I'm a recent follower and trying to figure out my exit strategy and this interview made me want to move even more! The title caught me but the content and hope of healing and peace kept me listening. Thank you!
Ok i want to live in Jamaica now❤
Integration was the worse thing to happen to the BC. 👩🏽
Thanks for the honesty.
Yes! i been out of the two party system for quite some time.
Neither party has our interest in mind.
That's not true. Kamala Harris knows the what it is like to be a Black women, and yes she is Black. Don't be fooled.
Good morning Ladies !
Yes, he is!!!!
I couldn't agree more. I left the Democratic Party several years ago and became an Independent about your book. I can't wait to purchase it. A family friend is currently works in a Non-Profit. We've had some interesting conversations. Community is helpful, puts us in a recovery mindset, and encourages positive action for future personal success. So glad I saw this. Enriching.
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The connection to the beating and her internalization..
thank you for dealing with this issue
Hello from Florida 🫶🏾
Thank you guys for this.
Good Morning
WOW! So happy you read the excerpt. I too am not in a relationship with pleasure on a daily basis.
Ms. Redwood’s book sounds similar to Sairo Rao book Chambermaid which she speaks of her work experience as an East Indian and American in the legal profession 😐
Ms. Redwood’s book is not on Amazon or through my library system so I will have to buy the book directly 😊
There’s more than one party. Of course there’s the Democratic Party..Republican Party, Independent Party, Green Party, Libertarian Party, and the Peace & Freedom Party. BP do not need to create their own political party. They just need to educate themselves on the ones they already exist, then align themselves with the party that comes closest to what they believe in. There’s no need to recreate the wheel. 🛞
Thank You!.