Great review. My wife and I give this book as a wedding gift to everyone we know getting married. Keller was really on top of his game with this one. The book is excellent for high school and college kids as well - maybe even more beneficial for that younger group.
Regarding the younger group I see the risk that the book might scare off some people because it doesn't paint marriage in a way that makes it particularly exciting to enter... Do you have any thoughts on this?
A few ideas: 1) The book sets the proper expectations about marriage - the way they describe marriage is pretty accurate, 2) It gives a clear Biblical view of marriage (which is different from what culture teaches), and 3) It explains how young people should conduct themselves and what to look for in a spouse. 4) Lastly, the advice is pretty practical. Each time I read it, I'm reminded of ways I can be a better husband. @@BiblicalBookworm
Thank you for this Elisabeth. It's good to see you giving a book review again. I wonder if an 'ingredient' in a good Christian marriage is always to invite our Lord Jesus to be the third partner in the marriage? All blessings, grace, encouragement etc. all stem from Him. Marriage is also a way that many people exercise their vocations in service and commitment to one another , another thing that is blessed by our Lord. Many blessings to you Elisabeth!😃🙏
You make a good point here @Biblical Bookworm. The thought of the idea of someone else being in love with us might be the cause of the desire to be with the person. Please correct me if I am wrong here, how I understood the explanation is as follow: I see an attractive woman and we start dating. Her acceptance of me, would be what I am in love with and not the person themselves. As though, one is seeking validation from this person who could be: attractive, influential, and whatever other metrics the person seems important (conscious or unconscious). Is my understanding of it correct? If this is the case, how does one move to love the person and not the idea of the person loving us? I understand you are just reviewing the book, thought this would be a good topic for discussion for you (Elizabeth) or anyone else interested. Thanks!😊
Yes, you understood that correctly. Being in love (whether with the idea of a person liking you or with the person herself) is never the goal anyways. Being in love fades away (it's not wrong to be in love though, don't get me wrong here). I was discussing this with a priest recently: ideally, a relationship begins with true (not pretended) friendship (filia). After that a romantic attraction (eros) develops. After that has faded away there is still the friendship which stabilizes the relationship/marriage. Over time the friendship transforms into a self-sacrificing love (agape) which is the end goal.
Well said@@BiblicalBookworm, the formula seems simple and straightforward. If I may cast in a different scenario, what if one individual really likes the other before they are friends? What comes to mind is that movie scene where the guy likes the girl or vice versa (think of Clark Kent and Lois Lane, I know they are fictional characters). The problem I see with the formula is, emotions are planted before a true friendship has developed. And isn’t that case in most scenarios? People will like another individual before they are friend. Going back to Clark Kent, he likes her, but does that mean he should uproot the feelings and wait? If so, wouldn’t the person be entering into that friendship falsely?
@@abeatingheart In that case, from my understanding, it's important to be aware of the fact that being in live will fade away. And to try to develop a friendship on top of romantic feelings. But we're leaving my "circle of competence" now. 😅
You and me @BiblicalBookworm , I'm trying to figure this out as well 🤓. In practice is sounds easy, like when you're in Ikea and see that fancy desk and say, "Hey, I can build that!" Next thing you know, you head over to the lumber yard and learn there are special tools and skills required to build that desk. Which may lead too, "they made it look so easy." On a side note: this remind me of The Passion of the Christ scene, where Jesus is building a table and Mother Mary comes over to talk to him. He truly is a skillful carpenter. I digress, thank you for this conversation and may you have a blessed day Elizabeth!
Another cool video. It would be nice to hear more of your opinion section, like a 50/50 ratio between summary and review. Your opinion is just as interesting as the summary!
Thank you! I am afraid 50/50 is too much... First, I usually don't have strong opinions on books (mainly because I only read and present books which I know will be good before I start reading them). And second, I am no one whose opinion particularly matters. My channel aims at informing people about the content of the book, my opinion is hardly helpful in this regard. Thank you for your understanding!
This channel is amazing . I am from Brasil and am really enjoing all this videos . Thank you ! PS.: You can read a Dostoievski book ? This books have a lot of deeper insigths in spiritual life . He is one of my favorite writrers .
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Great review. My wife and I give this book as a wedding gift to everyone we know getting married. Keller was really on top of his game with this one. The book is excellent for high school and college kids as well - maybe even more beneficial for that younger group.
Regarding the younger group I see the risk that the book might scare off some people because it doesn't paint marriage in a way that makes it particularly exciting to enter... Do you have any thoughts on this?
A few ideas: 1) The book sets the proper expectations about marriage - the way they describe marriage is pretty accurate, 2) It gives a clear Biblical view of marriage (which is different from what culture teaches), and 3) It explains how young people should conduct themselves and what to look for in a spouse. 4) Lastly, the advice is pretty practical. Each time I read it, I'm reminded of ways I can be a better husband. @@BiblicalBookworm
Very beautiful message on marriage. Thank you
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Thank you for this Elisabeth. It's good to see you giving a book review again.
I wonder if an 'ingredient' in a good Christian marriage is always to invite our Lord Jesus to be the third partner in the marriage? All blessings, grace, encouragement etc. all stem from Him.
Marriage is also a way that many people exercise their vocations in service and commitment to one another , another thing that is blessed by our Lord.
Many blessings to you Elisabeth!😃🙏
Sure, inviting Jesus into marriage is certainly vital for a good Christian marriage!
God bless you too!
Interesting. Perhaps one day.
Thanks for the video 😊
You're welcome! 😊
You make a good point here @Biblical Bookworm. The thought of the idea of someone else being in love with us might be the cause of the desire to be with the person. Please correct me if I am wrong here, how I understood the explanation is as follow: I see an attractive woman and we start dating. Her acceptance of me, would be what I am in love with and not the person themselves. As though, one is seeking validation from this person who could be: attractive, influential, and whatever other metrics the person seems important (conscious or unconscious). Is my understanding of it correct? If this is the case, how does one move to love the person and not the idea of the person loving us? I understand you are just reviewing the book, thought this would be a good topic for discussion for you (Elizabeth) or anyone else interested. Thanks!😊
Yes, you understood that correctly. Being in love (whether with the idea of a person liking you or with the person herself) is never the goal anyways. Being in love fades away (it's not wrong to be in love though, don't get me wrong here).
I was discussing this with a priest recently: ideally, a relationship begins with true (not pretended) friendship (filia). After that a romantic attraction (eros) develops. After that has faded away there is still the friendship which stabilizes the relationship/marriage. Over time the friendship transforms into a self-sacrificing love (agape) which is the end goal.
Well said@@BiblicalBookworm, the formula seems simple and straightforward. If I may cast in a different scenario, what if one individual really likes the other before they are friends? What comes to mind is that movie scene where the guy likes the girl or vice versa (think of Clark Kent and Lois Lane, I know they are fictional characters). The problem I see with the formula is, emotions are planted before a true friendship has developed. And isn’t that case in most scenarios? People will like another individual before they are friend. Going back to Clark Kent, he likes her, but does that mean he should uproot the feelings and wait? If so, wouldn’t the person be entering into that friendship falsely?
@@abeatingheart In that case, from my understanding, it's important to be aware of the fact that being in live will fade away. And to try to develop a friendship on top of romantic feelings. But we're leaving my "circle of competence" now. 😅
You and me @BiblicalBookworm , I'm trying to figure this out as well 🤓. In practice is sounds easy, like when you're in Ikea and see that fancy desk and say, "Hey, I can build that!" Next thing you know, you head over to the lumber yard and learn there are special tools and skills required to build that desk. Which may lead too, "they made it look so easy." On a side note: this remind me of The Passion of the Christ scene, where Jesus is building a table and Mother Mary comes over to talk to him. He truly is a skillful carpenter. I digress, thank you for this conversation and may you have a blessed day Elizabeth!
Please make a library tour video.
That wouldn't be as interesting as you imagine it to be since I have not read most of those books. They are my parents'
Another cool video. It would be nice to hear more of your opinion section, like a 50/50 ratio between summary and review. Your opinion is just as interesting as the summary!
Thank you!
I am afraid 50/50 is too much... First, I usually don't have strong opinions on books (mainly because I only read and present books which I know will be good before I start reading them). And second, I am no one whose opinion particularly matters.
My channel aims at informing people about the content of the book, my opinion is hardly helpful in this regard.
Thank you for your understanding!
This is a different persprctive on marrige i never thought to deeply about , 😊
The book really helps with thinking deepl about marriage!
Good review thanks for making it
You're welcome! 😊
This channel is amazing . I am from Brasil and am really enjoing all this videos . Thank you !
PS.: You can read a Dostoievski book ? This books have a lot of deeper insigths in spiritual life . He is one of my favorite writrers .
Sorry if the grammar is wrong i'm learning yet
Fico feliz que você goste do meu canal! Obrigada pela recomendação, mas eu só leio livros de não ficção.
Good job Elisabeth another great video, though I dont know I would read a book written by a calvinist. Great video nonetheless
Thank you! I think that if I only read books by Catholics I would deprive myself of a lot of wisdom. Eg. C.S. Lewis wasn't Catholic... 🙃