I did no contact for 2 months. Not to get her back but to get over her. The problem was that we work together. She dumped me for another dude. I asked if thats what she really wants and theres no going back. She said yes so I let her go and wished her the best. For the next 2 months she would stare at me, bump into me on purpose and do anything to get my attention. I did not call or text her at all and would just smile and say hi at work. After awhile we started talking again in a friendly manner. Thats when the breadcrumbing started. She lead me on multiple times and when I finally called her out on it and she said she was confused and still has feelings for me but didn’t want to get back together. I knew exactly what that meant. From then on I was finally able to let go. For the Fellas and ladies, do not fall for their mind games. They just want you to want them. But fuck that! Learn to love yourself and move on! Level up and find that special someone whose been looking for you!
You're right, they love to be desired even from the uninteresting guys only for self assurance. I always gave myself 2 weeks for 😭and thinking... then i'm done... A coming back after the 2 weeks isn't possible for me. My feelings are gone and i start over😊
Bro same happened with me before the other guy comes in her life her behaviour was very good towards me , I proposed her and after that everything is changed...
Leaving this here for myself. When this gets a Like..I'll get reminded. Sometimes its just not meant be. No matter how hard you try. No matter how much energy you give. Sometimes it's best to move on. I know it's hard. But imagine the feeling whenever you find someone who gives you that same energy back. Trust in the Lord. Seek God. His plan is divine. I know looking back it will all make perfect sense. Focus on you. Focus on your dreams. God will send someone who truly deserves you.
@@curioustrades Thanks man. yeah, I had a crush on her for very long. Finally gathered the courage to talk to her. It looked like she had all the qualities she had in a woman. We flirted back and forth. I eventually gave her my number, she initiated the text. Things went well - I wasn't too needy, didn't reply too fast etc. Then all of a sudden she asked me to send her some films, I send list her some, then out of nowhere she leaves me on read. I was thinking maybe she just wanted to take time. The pain was terrible, then she finally gave me a reply after two days. I texted "ok.", she left me on read again but this time I did not care. Then at my workplace I stopped giving her any attention. I simply just passed. No hi, no nothing. She said hi but I just ignored her. Also, when I started flirting with other girls to make her feel jealous. She constantly kept looking at me. I pretended like she didn't exist. When I got home, she sent me a text late at night writing hello. I just left her on read. As much as I don't like acting like this, this is the game, and if a woman wants to play games, I won't hesitate. The whole "good men don't play games is crap". If you are disinterested in a conversation with a guy that likes you, then you say so. Don't act like a coward and cut all communication for no reason. It is rude and painful. Thought she was a mature girl, but she is just a low eq girl.
@@TheNotSoRandomDude I know the feeling man. Just walked away from a 10/10 woman who was playing games. She ghosted me for a month then of course came back and I took her back. But then all the same. Games. Told her to “take care” simple and walked away. Focus on you man. Hit the gym..etc. the right one who deserves you will come along. Peace brother ✝️
It's a matter of being mysterious and not revealing too much of yourself and making yourself unavailable(being authentically busy) which will make them wonder and seek more of your attention and validation
It's essential to recognize the delicate balance of validation in dating. Your points on creating tension, strategic disqualification, and shifting the power dynamics are spot-on. As a fellow dating coach, I emphasize the importance of authenticity, maintaining self-value, and allowing space for mutual interest to grow naturally.
I sense even in a longer term relationship there is a power struggle, push and pull. Like who is to contact first, who is more invested. I have sensed this having been with a woman this past 18m. Its like sometimes you have to pull back a bit. Some can see it as "games" but it exists whether you like it or not.
Bobby Rio is a genius. His advice goes way beyond interacting with women successfully and with dignity but also about brilliantly navigating life in general! Bobby belongs on Mount Rushmore!
This is actually pretty powerful especially if you're trying to figure out if she likes you. It may be ok to chase initially to get her attention but then stop chasing to do these techniques to see if she starts seeking your attention. I noticed this one woman from work I like now seeks me out because I stopped trying to impress her. I don't even look at her and that drives her crazy. If she doesn't like you after you stop chasing she'll just go on with her life and I've had that happen too.
@@BobbyRio I’ve been an independent contractor for 30 years and in the the business world it’s referred to as having FU money. In other words, when you go to negotiate your contract and the client tries to force you into a bad deal the contractor who has FU money can walk away. But it’s more than money it’s having other clients and having money in the abilities to choose a good deal over a bad deal my favorite book around this subject is a book called ‘never split the difference’ it was written by an FBI hostage negotiator. LOL. thanks for all of your advice. It helped reframe my business negotiation skills into my personal life, and you are appreciated. .
Pretending and learning are different. If you don’t play piano you can keep playing and practicing till you do, or you can “stop pretending you play piano” and never play piano as a result. Food for thought
@@hysem77we aren't just "who we are". Who we are is a far less rigid concept. Most of who we are is driven by our experiences throughout life, most of it is subconscious. But we have power to influence what we will experience going forward, we have power to shape what drives us unconsciously and improve ourselves.
Thanks this is perfect timing. I was interested in someone at work and she was interested in me I think but she didn't want to go out with me. So I cut her off. I was going to explain to her why I took her out of the friend zone but now I'm not. I'm going to continue to stay silent and stop giving her so much attention and just deal with her professionally. Hopefully she likes me enough she'll start chasing me.
Thanks bobby, this information can be applied in general to outside of dating as well, wherein at places you know that you aren't being appreciated, just walk out. The power that walking out holds is unbelievable. For the kings who say that they do not want to play these games, brothers in this cutthroat environment you have to play the game to win the prize. Just remember always be Harvey Specter and not Louis Litt.
For it to work they have to already be attracted for sure. If they aren't then of course you'll still be ignored or them being indifferent to you. Also women with a good head on there shoulders and is structured won't deal with you if your being indifferent. Alot of women crave drama and chaos and mystery, and these types are drawn to the indifference and toxic traits of certain men.
My Actions speak louder than words, but her respect is all I want. Her love is nothing to me. I live, breathe, poop RESPECT!! A chick that sayes something nice wants something from you. Reject it. If she sayes your a great guy, say no I’m not. And drop it.
People who play games are never gonna find true love lol. And people cho chase gets tired and stop then they start hating you. So if you want someone don't be an ahole.
@@marguskiis7711yes, but the true truth is that you need to insinuate things on dating to start a relationship, in a relationship you need to slowly start becoming indifferent and make the girl do all the chasing
@@marguskiis7711brother if someone shows interest in you, idgaf if you’re mysterious or not PRETEND. Talk to HER but LET HER DO THE TALKING. If she’s asks you about your lifestyle or whatever, tell her in the SHORTEST SENTENCE and bring the spot light back to her lol. Say she’s now chasing you. In the beginning of your relationship, the first week. Go out one time and be MYSTERIOUS. Do not show your whole hand like spades. Go on one date n don’t reply for like 3 days lol. The rest is history
Not given these advices. Difference was that marriages lasted longer 'cos those times were given different advices. Nowdays males has come delicant little flowers that just wait for bees / woman to do all the work and no woman is her boyfriens mother, so no wonder marriages nowdays end up short.
Let me save you all a lot of time. The only way you can get a woman to chase is to not care about her. Once you give in or show you like her she will lose interest. So you can have a woman be interested in or like you but you can never HAVE a woman who is interested in you or likes you.
If you stop chasing her validation she's going to start chasing your validation....if she likes you. But I guess it's not all bad if the guy initially gets her attention and then cuts it off to see if she'll pick up the ball and try to get his attention. That might mean she's interested in him.
All these head games mean that the partner is not the right one. The real one will be effortless and both will be chasing each other. Just saying. It's not this complicated.
Bullshit. I just did it. After a month of no contact the woman asked something polite and and I answered cold and polite. Then total silence continued. So, it does not work. Btw, we had both invested quite a lot to the relationship. And the fallout wasn`t something serious, just a minor emotional outburst.
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
I both agree and disagree with this video. If you show interest in the right way, it's not that you're looking for confirmation, but honestly shows that you love the girl. You show self-confidence, which girls also love.
I pushed this one girl away (when I initially was attracted to her). I told her "You went from the "tranny zone", to the danger zone, to the no go zone, within a minute because of what she said about a past relationship she had". She's been seeking my validation ever since.
What if both guys starts applying ts ideas the results will be a big zero ...thats why if anyone wants to leave the relationship let them go ask no questions and never accept after leaving
Me and my ex been separated for 2 weeks we're very hot and cold with each other. When I see her she submissive to me at work but she refused to spend time with me outside of work.. should I do no contact or keep pushing to get her back
This only applies if the woman ever felt an attraction to you. If you WEREN'T in the top 20% to begin with, she isn't interested in the first place, so when you stop caring, she's actually relieved that you self-rejected because now she no longer has to be the 'bad guy'
@@BobbyRio Bullshit. I just did it. After a month of no contact the woman asked something polite and and I answered cold and polite. Then total silence continued. So, it does not work. Btw, we had both invested quite a lot to the relationship. And the fallout wasn`t something serious, just a minor emotional outburst.
My god a month of not talking for something not serious? She sought your validation after a month and felt rejected. So gave up. You still have to be a normal person in some situations, Jesus. @@marguskiis7711
Always have the girls who I could live without chasing, but if I run this on the super beautiful girl I want, it really hasn't worked. And I am not sure all women are wired to need to chase. Some WANT and NEED to be chased. When I was like 12, I literally chased a girl all over the baseball stadium. She ignored me, her friend pulled her away from me multiple times. My friend was running Bobbi's advice, he pulled up a chair and tried to act cool waiting for her to come to him. aHe told me "dude, that isn't how you get girls lol". She wrote in HIS yearbook that she likes ME haha No girl is the same Though this probably works on the average woman.
Alright I have a question please.. When to take action and approach and when to ignore.. Also I feel ignoring her makes her feel rejected so she leaves believing I don't want her anymore. What's your advise please?
Say you have a criminal record and the girl happened to look you up... She obviously didn't like what she discovered and pulls away. Do you think that it's pretty much over in that situation despite how you carry yourself?
Situations like that depend on how invested she was. Once a woman is invested, she can look past these things. But if she's not invested, its harder. Also, hard to say without knowing what the criminal record was.
Thank you for your input. Arson was the crime and this was many years back. Almost 8 now. However, when you do a google search for my name it pops up as the first result.
What are your thoughts on meeting a girl in a store and you both seem to hit it. I seem to be left hanging in that we are both strangers and it just seems to end there. Is there a way to continue the conversation/date and how does that work?
Its funny because lets say the girl is an extremely shy introvert, dont i try to make her comfortable and a stronger woman, by talking and entertaining for the first few minutes and once shes confident lett her do that other 50% of the work
So I'm NC for 2 weeks now, girlfriend is for 3. She was super depressed so I went a bit overboard trying to cheer her up and be positive; turned into the attentive, gift-giving, sensitive guy and she pulled back. Thing is, it wasn't coming from a Need for myself or my own validation, I just genuinely worried about her mental state. Idk if I can illistrate the difference to her. But also idk if she is coming back. Should I reach out again myself after another 1-2 weeks?
@@945liter oh lol so I ended up sending her a somewhat playful voice note about 4 weeks ago now with a couple inside jokes but ending it with something like "i'm taking this as a sign to really move on, feel free to reach out if you wanna goof off with me again". No response. A couple weeks AFTER that I happened to post on IG (which I do often) with another girl in a reflection out at a park. The now ex gf unfollowed me within a few hours of that lmao. Guess she didn't wanna see me moving on? Feels so stupid. Oh well.
Great topic Bobby I’ve definitely noticed a difference using this technique in particular! How about some future videos on getting and maintaining relationships with younger women?
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I did no contact for 2 months. Not to get her back but to get over her. The problem was that we work together. She dumped me for another dude. I asked if thats what she really wants and theres no going back. She said yes so I let her go and wished her the best. For the next 2 months she would stare at me, bump into me on purpose and do anything to get my attention. I did not call or text her at all and would just smile and say hi at work. After awhile we started talking again in a friendly manner. Thats when the breadcrumbing started. She lead me on multiple times and when I finally called her out on it and she said she was confused and still has feelings for me but didn’t want to get back together. I knew exactly what that meant. From then on I was finally able to let go. For the Fellas and ladies, do not fall for their mind games. They just want you to want them. But fuck that! Learn to love yourself and move on! Level up and find that special someone whose been looking for you!
You're right, they love to be desired even from the uninteresting guys only for self assurance.
I always gave myself 2 weeks for 😭and thinking... then i'm done... A coming back after the 2 weeks isn't possible for me. My feelings are gone and i start over😊
LOL same situation here 😂
I like that expression “just breadcrumbing me”.
Bro same happened with me before the other guy comes in her life her behaviour was very good towards me , I proposed her and after that everything is changed...
I am having a similar situation. Lol
NEVER CHASE ANYTHING THAT WILL DESTROY YOU MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND FINANCIALLY!!!
Word!!!!
@@Switch_X_Back3884The “word” is “good luck with that”.
Learned that lesson the hard way 🤪
Where are these women?
Amen ! Spiritually, mentally, physically and financially
I don't want to chase her...and I don't want her to chase me either! Peace is priceless
For real. I'm too old for all these games 😂 imma go get some cats, dogs, chickens and move to the country 😂
Wisdom!!!
Leaving this here for myself. When this gets a Like..I'll get reminded. Sometimes its just not meant be. No matter how hard you try. No matter how much energy you give. Sometimes it's best to move on. I know it's hard. But imagine the feeling whenever you find someone who gives you that same energy back. Trust in the Lord. Seek God. His plan is divine. I know looking back it will all make perfect sense. Focus on you. Focus on your dreams. God will send someone who truly deserves you.
I moved on in 4 days. Made her jealous. She texted me back, I ghosted her. Same pain she put me through, drove her nuts😂
@@TheNotSoRandomDude king
@@curioustrades Thanks man. yeah, I had a crush on her for very long. Finally gathered the courage to talk to her. It looked like she had all the qualities she had in a woman. We flirted back and forth. I eventually gave her my number, she initiated the text. Things went well - I wasn't too needy, didn't reply too fast etc. Then all of a sudden she asked me to send her some films, I send list her some, then out of nowhere she leaves me on read. I was thinking maybe she just wanted to take time. The pain was terrible, then she finally gave me a reply after two days. I texted "ok.", she left me on read again but this time I did not care.
Then at my workplace I stopped giving her any attention. I simply just passed. No hi, no nothing. She said hi but I just ignored her. Also, when I started flirting with other girls to make her feel jealous. She constantly kept looking at me. I pretended like she didn't exist. When I got home, she sent me a text late at night writing hello. I just left her on read.
As much as I don't like acting like this, this is the game, and if a woman wants to play games, I won't hesitate. The whole "good men don't play games is crap". If you are disinterested in a conversation with a guy that likes you, then you say so. Don't act like a coward and cut all communication for no reason. It is rude and painful. Thought she was a mature girl, but she is just a low eq girl.
@@TheNotSoRandomDude I know the feeling man. Just walked away from a 10/10 woman who was playing games. She ghosted me for a month then of course came back and I took her back. But then all the same. Games. Told her to “take care” simple and walked away. Focus on you man. Hit the gym..etc. the right one who deserves you will come along. Peace brother ✝️
Why do you think God will do that?
It's a matter of being mysterious and not revealing too much of yourself and making yourself unavailable(being authentically busy) which will make them wonder and seek more of your attention and validation
yea, way better to be authentically busy than to try to pretend.
@@BobbyRio Yes, they have a very good BS detector.
It's essential to recognize the delicate balance of validation in dating. Your points on creating tension, strategic disqualification, and shifting the power dynamics are spot-on. As a fellow dating coach, I emphasize the importance of authenticity, maintaining self-value, and allowing space for mutual interest to grow naturally.
I sense even in a longer term relationship there is a power struggle, push and pull. Like who is to contact first, who is more invested. I have sensed this having been with a woman this past 18m. Its like sometimes you have to pull back a bit. Some can see it as "games" but it exists whether you like it or not.
She is always testing & trying to get external validation.
Bobby Rio is a genius. His advice goes way beyond interacting with women successfully and with dignity but also about brilliantly navigating life in general! Bobby belongs on Mount Rushmore!
thanks. Yes, you're right, this material is very, very important in the business world as well.
Botmance 😂😂😂
“The best relationship is when a woman loves a man and the man likes her” - Patrice O’Neal
This is actually pretty powerful especially if you're trying to figure out if she likes you. It may be ok to chase initially to get her attention but then stop chasing to do these techniques to see if she starts seeking your attention. I noticed this one woman from work I like now seeks me out because I stopped trying to impress her. I don't even look at her and that drives her crazy. If she doesn't like you after you stop chasing she'll just go on with her life and I've had that happen too.
I'm doing this...this one girl I've found myself in emotional qucksand over lately has been pulling away slightly. Gotta restore balance
yea this is great because its subtle.
you just lost her
Personally I’m over the little boy games and ready for someone to just say how they feel confidently. Thats sexy.
No more chasing validation !
He who is indifferent holds the power
Yesir!
yes, indifference is the attitude to master. Really be unattached to the outcome. Enjoy her, don't need her.
@@BobbyRio I’ve been an independent contractor for 30 years and in the the business world it’s referred to as having FU money. In other words, when you go to negotiate your contract and the client tries to force you into a bad deal the contractor who has FU money can walk away. But it’s more than money it’s having other clients and having money in the abilities to choose a good deal over a bad deal my favorite book around this subject is a book called ‘never split the difference’ it was written by an FBI hostage negotiator. LOL. thanks for all of your advice. It helped reframe my business negotiation skills into my personal life, and you are appreciated. .
@@BobbyRio.. were is the link below?
@@BobbyRio Ignore woman and she will ignore you.
Pretending won't last . Someone's true self would show up eventually.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯
Even years later..i had the long game played on me.15years then she showed her true self. She was ugly inside😮
Pretending and learning are different. If you don’t play piano you can keep playing and practicing till you do, or you can “stop pretending you play piano” and never play piano as a result. Food for thought
@@elicurry8863 when you learn a skill (like playing piano ) it is different from learning to be someone else .
@@hysem77we aren't just "who we are". Who we are is a far less rigid concept. Most of who we are is driven by our experiences throughout life, most of it is subconscious. But we have power to influence what we will experience going forward, we have power to shape what drives us unconsciously and improve ourselves.
You are absolutely right! I had to learn it the hard way, having done everything wrong in the past. I wish I had had your advice earlier.
Glad it was helpful! I learned the hard way too :)
Thanks this is perfect timing. I was interested in someone at work and she was interested in me I think but she didn't want to go out with me. So I cut her off. I was going to explain to her why I took her out of the friend zone but now I'm not. I'm going to continue to stay silent and stop giving her so much attention and just deal with her professionally. Hopefully she likes me enough she'll start chasing me.
how did it turn out man?
This video is literally talking directly to me!! 😂😂 I love it!!
We forget they also watch similar material about guys ignoring them and not caring and know how to deal with it 😂
They know it long before.
No they don't
If u want someone then don't make them chase you and stop playing stupid games. A woman or people in general always realizes their worth.
Tired of all this mind games. Why women are so complicated man. Iam so done i just want to live freely
Hire escort no games
Foreal 😂@@goptions4678
Because they crave entertainment.
Thanks bobby, this information can be applied in general to outside of dating as well, wherein at places you know that you aren't being appreciated, just walk out. The power that walking out holds is unbelievable. For the kings who say that they do not want to play these games, brothers in this cutthroat environment you have to play the game to win the prize. Just remember always be Harvey Specter and not Louis Litt.
These videos are exactly what I need. Thank you Bobby
Glad you find them helpful.
I have played indifferent. It is met with indifference
For it to work they have to already be attracted for sure. If they aren't then of course you'll still be ignored or them being indifferent to you. Also women with a good head on there shoulders and is structured won't deal with you if your being indifferent. Alot of women crave drama and chaos and mystery, and these types are drawn to the indifference and toxic traits of certain men.
Sounds like you gotta keep doing it until she chases and if not then she wasn't that into you and you saved yourself. Win win for you bro
at 56 yrs old, this man is 100% ACCURATE. LEARN HIS METHODS!!!
My Actions speak louder than words, but her respect is all I want. Her love is nothing to me. I live, breathe, poop RESPECT!! A chick that sayes something nice wants something from you. Reject it. If she sayes your a great guy, say no I’m not. And drop it.
Also when she comes seeking your validation make the moment memorable so she keeps coming back for more.
yea true.
People who play games are never gonna find true love lol. And people cho chase gets tired and stop then they start hating you. So if you want someone don't be an ahole.
The problem is - What if you are both using the same “tactics” at the same time ? lol. ❤😂❤
Only guys who don't have nothing going on for themselves. Would care what anyone thinks about them. Just be yourself
I have noticed that several women are interested in me BUT if I ignore them over a week they lose interest.
That's because taking too long to take action shows weakness. The same as taking action too fast if she is in your same social circle....
@@badasslifestylee The video suggests not to take action at all.
When a girl shows her signs of interested to u, u must act and say u like her back. They dont offer their feeling like us@marguskiis7711
@@marguskiis7711yes, but the true truth is that you need to insinuate things on dating to start a relationship, in a relationship you need to slowly start becoming indifferent and make the girl do all the chasing
@@marguskiis7711brother if someone shows interest in you, idgaf if you’re mysterious or not PRETEND. Talk to HER but LET HER DO THE TALKING. If she’s asks you about your lifestyle or whatever, tell her in the SHORTEST SENTENCE and bring the spot light back to her lol.
Say she’s now chasing you. In the beginning of your relationship, the first week. Go out one time and be MYSTERIOUS. Do not show your whole hand like spades. Go on one date n don’t reply for like 3 days lol. The rest is history
Good job. Great thing to be aware of.
thanks, glad you found it helpful.
There was no such mind games before online dating and social media. I wonder in the 1960's if men were given such advise or not.
Not given these advices. Difference was that marriages lasted longer 'cos those times were given different advices.
Nowdays males has come delicant little flowers that just wait for bees / woman to do all the work and no woman is her boyfriens mother, so no wonder marriages nowdays end up short.
Lol..WTF? Arguably the DUMBEST thing I've heard in years
Put it back into her court: "Tell you what. I'm interested to knowing what you think is the most interesting thing about me?"
Let me save you all a lot of time. The only way you can get a woman to chase is to not care about her. Once you give in or show you like her she will lose interest. So you can have a woman be interested in or like you but you can never HAVE a woman who is interested in you or likes you.
What if she questioned why you always give a "not seeking approval reaction" whenever she praises you or sees something interesting about you?
I also realize when your'e not scared to loose her you get al this trades. From being scared to loose someone that you become ' needy'
If you stop chasing her validation she's going to start chasing your validation....if she likes you. But I guess it's not all bad if the guy initially gets her attention and then cuts it off to see if she'll pick up the ball and try to get his attention. That might mean she's interested in him.
All these head games mean that the partner is not the right one. The real one will be effortless and both will be chasing each other. Just saying. It's not this complicated.
Bobby has so much wisdom
You're the best at this👍
Very well said! Treat em like a star, they treat you like a fan! you are the star not them😂
My weekend proves this 100%, Bobby never misses
You remained alone btw.
@@marguskiis7711 🥲 update number #2, another one on the way now.
I needed this!! Great video Bobby!!
Glad it was helpful!
You are still alone
one of his best videos.
I just ask a girl directly if she wants to have a casual fling.
If they say no, or play games, I just delete their number out of my phone.
Bullshit. I just did it. After a month of no contact the woman asked something polite and and I answered cold and polite. Then total silence continued. So, it does not work. Btw, we had both invested quite a lot to the relationship. And the fallout wasn`t something serious, just a minor emotional outburst.
If I stop caring tho I won't want her back. She will get on my nerves so it's a loose situation anyway
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
Learn this lesson: You are too needy and that is why she left.
Go no contact shell be back
And when she starts seeking your validation, relax totally and tell her tell me more and more 😂😂
yep, non judgemental qualifcation.
it never happens
@@marguskiis7711 rest, I'm just seeing your comment every where
I both agree and disagree with this video. If you show interest in the right way, it's not that you're looking for confirmation, but honestly shows that you love the girl. You show self-confidence, which girls also love.
I pushed this one girl away (when I initially was attracted to her). I told her "You went from the "tranny zone", to the danger zone, to the no go zone, within a minute because of what she said about a past relationship she had".
She's been seeking my validation ever since.
What an interesting concept to be aware of.
Also it terrifies me to get back into the dating game again after my Wife’s untimely death.
Sorry for your loss 🙏🏾♥️
@@marcelinolopez4015
Thank you.
Just walk away, as simple as that.
What he said about networking and business is so true…fake conference so you don’t end up as the weaker person
What if both guys starts applying ts ideas the results will be a big zero ...thats why if anyone wants to leave the relationship let them go ask no questions and never accept after leaving
Bobby!!🎉
Me and my ex been separated for 2 weeks we're very hot and cold with each other. When I see her she submissive to me at work but she refused to spend time with me outside of work.. should I do no contact or keep pushing to get her back
This only applies if the woman ever felt an attraction to you. If you WEREN'T in the top 20% to begin with, she isn't interested in the first place, so when you stop caring, she's actually relieved that you self-rejected because now she no longer has to be the 'bad guy'
Thank you❤❤❤
What if both parties act equally disinterested?
that's what the valdiation vaccum takes care. Very rarely both of you will be able withstand the tension of nobody putting work in.
@@BobbyRio Bullshit. I just did it. After a month of no contact the woman asked something polite and and I answered cold and polite. Then total silence continued. So, it does not work. Btw, we had both invested quite a lot to the relationship. And the fallout wasn`t something serious, just a minor emotional outburst.
My god a month of not talking for something not serious? She sought your validation after a month and felt rejected. So gave up. You still have to be a normal person in some situations, Jesus. @@marguskiis7711
Nah Mine has many options other than me. She's now dating a guy in our office. they seem very happy.
📸 Attraction 👁 leads to Reaction 😘
You are helping alot❤
glad its helpful!
Disqualifying yourself only works if you are actually qualified.
If she stops caring, I stop caring. There, now we're even. Time to move on.
Always have the girls who I could live without chasing, but if I run this on the super beautiful girl I want, it really hasn't worked.
And I am not sure all women are wired to need to chase. Some WANT and NEED to be chased.
When I was like 12, I literally chased a girl all over the baseball stadium. She ignored me, her friend pulled her away from me multiple times. My friend was running Bobbi's advice, he pulled up a chair and tried to act cool waiting for her to come to him. aHe told me "dude, that isn't how you get girls lol".
She wrote in HIS yearbook that she likes ME haha
No girl is the same
Though this probably works on the average woman.
Alright I have a question please.. When to take action and approach and when to ignore.. Also I feel ignoring her makes her feel rejected so she leaves believing I don't want her anymore. What's your advise please?
Don`t believe the ignoring bullshit. It does not work.
Say you have a criminal record and the girl happened to look you up... She obviously didn't like what she discovered and pulls away. Do you think that it's pretty much over in that situation despite how you carry yourself?
Situations like that depend on how invested she was. Once a woman is invested, she can look past these things. But if she's not invested, its harder. Also, hard to say without knowing what the criminal record was.
Thank you for your input. Arson was the crime and this was many years back. Almost 8 now. However, when you do a google search for my name it pops up as the first result.
All my x,s came back even after a couple of them got married lol
If one of you is chasing and playing games then it's a fucked up relationship
Its for the starting stage
What are your thoughts on meeting a girl in a store and you both seem to hit it. I seem to be left hanging in that we are both strangers and it just seems to end there. Is there a way to continue the conversation/date and how does that work?
excellent video
This is ok for short term but if you want long term happiness you need to reciprocate and they'll have to too.
Scarcity creates value. Go off radar!
Yo does this apply to a girl who lost interest?
When you stop CARING, A Girl leaves you... Zilong: Invincible 😂 🔥🔥️🔥️🔥
Foolish
u are good, man!!!!👍
I practice stoicism
Its funny because lets say the girl is an extremely shy introvert, dont i try to make her comfortable and a stronger woman, by talking and entertaining for the first few minutes and once shes confident lett her do that other 50% of the work
Can this work on trying to get a girl back after rock bottom 😂
Prentending wont last...
It’s a losing game.
So I'm NC for 2 weeks now, girlfriend is for 3. She was super depressed so I went a bit overboard trying to cheer her up and be positive; turned into the attentive, gift-giving, sensitive guy and she pulled back.
Thing is, it wasn't coming from a Need for myself or my own validation, I just genuinely worried about her mental state. Idk if I can illistrate the difference to her. But also idk if she is coming back.
Should I reach out again myself after another 1-2 weeks?
did you reach back after a few weeks? how did it go im in the same boat
@@945liter oh lol so I ended up sending her a somewhat playful voice note about 4 weeks ago now with a couple inside jokes but ending it with something like "i'm taking this as a sign to really move on, feel free to reach out if you wanna goof off with me again". No response. A couple weeks AFTER that I happened to post on IG (which I do often) with another girl in a reflection out at a park.
The now ex gf unfollowed me within a few hours of that lmao.
Guess she didn't wanna see me moving on?
Feels so stupid. Oh well.
This video is probably the most scientific explanation on how female male interactions work and I have been picking up women for 8+ years
Don’t chase replace
Don’t chase, replace
Enlightening!
Very helpful
Great topic Bobby I’ve definitely noticed a difference using this technique in particular! How about some future videos on getting and maintaining relationships with younger women?
When that game is played. It usually backfires.
These norms aren’t always the same with women from paternal cultures. The women in question are typical of secular cultures.
Do we reply to them tho
Does this work if your ex got married? Does she come back?
You underestimate my POWER! 😐
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Got a feeling mine is a squishy avoidant
Puts walls up then misses me
"Stop caring، she stop chasing" is that's mean you have to care first and pull this care?
wtf its a trip shit actually works how you said it does
Thank you