I have run into the same thing with a verbal agreement with a manager which they later forget the agreement. A way around it is to send a follow up email, saying “just to confirm our discussion today that I will be scheduling the building inspections in the best geographic order to save time, petrol and money. Our agreement is that as long as I cover them all in six months, I can inspect them in the order I find best.” Catch is, this follow up needs to be soon after the meeting while fresh in mind. Even though it’s a bother to write another email, this will help register the changed process in his mind and you have a paper trail too. I’m glad you are planning to make a fun video with your friend. Sounds like it could be very funny OR very scary, ir a mix of both! Good luck with that!
Hi Nancy, I will be following up any further decisions with emails as this feeling just isn't worth it. I've been in this situation before with another manager and remember feeling just as rubbish. But from now on, I'll just bombard every decision with emails, as I don't see why others lack of remembering or clarity over decision making needs to be my burden.
Hi Paul,unfortunately I also feel like I’m on the back foot most of the time, I know for a fact that it’s because I will speak my mind especially at work, when other work colleagues will have the same issues with certain problems and will say nothing, and reap the benefits from the problems that I have discussed, I’ve had this problem all my life, maybe it’s just my black and white/right or wrong way of thinking which I don’t think is uncommon with most of us on the spectrum.
Hi Jason, I know the feeling! I just remove all the fluff and say whats needed. Although the problem then tends to be other people's reluctance to just do the right thing because they're so embroiled in workplace politics...which is something I don't do. So there is still always a disconnect waiting for me around every corner 😂
Howdy Paul, great waffle. I would pay to see that movie! Great concept! I like assassin type movies. My company has a Facebook page as well and I am not interested. It’s work and not a social club, at least for me. Was actually quite clever to show how work can knock down motivation and then move it to other places in your life. My motivation gets knocked down for many reasons and it’s hard to get back up. Funny you mentioned the 80’s and 90’s, it’s true, at least they pretended to care about employees. My company throws out buzz words and really does nothing. You are like me in that you try to do the right thing. Most people don’t do that. Good on you for trying. Great video and thanks for making and posting something. Talk about motivation. I, we appreciate it!
Hey Bryan, That's it. I'm at work! Not a social club, not to make friends. I'm there to exchange my time and skill for a salary. I'm amicable with everyone, and help others above and beyond my role...but that part is my choice. The fake friendly is pointless to me...and annoying. The workplace is all inclusive of all things and every difference...which is very fake as there is no evidence of real interest. For example, for Nuerodiversity Week, we have guest speakers talking about their experience in the workplace. I'd rather hear from people who actually work at my place, why haven't they asked us? They don't care, it's all fluff. And THAT, makes it worse than saying nothing at all to me.
Never a waste for us here Paul 🙂 So cute about piggie George 🐷 Glad to hear he’s loving life! Feeling proud of ya for ordering the weights. Hubby is into working out but I can’t bear the thought of attending the classes with him. But your efforts to get in shape encourage me to find a way to do it myself 👍. So sorry about the work situation. I can understand how those blows can bring your joy and motivation down. Here’s hoping you have a great weekend! 👋
Ive been dealing with this for a long time. From school days to now being 40. Id try and work hard or put in so much effort and nothing ever worked out. Studying and just being average. No achievements, no real friends..everyone just hung out if they were bored and i was the last option. But i ddidnt really wanna do anything except play counterstrike lol. Never got jobs..even when i was more qualified. Rejection from work and people..would lower any care. Failures would compound it. Never being listened to. Or ignored. Not valued. Im worried ill be let go..cause of some recent team changes. Im gonna be firm with a few "no i wont do that" and ill be in the right..but im just a number. Im preparing for a worse case..cause anything else will be easier to handle. Weight loss(im an obese indian ..the irony) made the attempts, made dietary changes and changes to exercjses and still couldnt get things to progress. Why am i not getting the results. Ive done everything people tell me to. But nothing changed. All these failures and disregard for me and my wants..is always removing motivation. I even stopped gaming. The littlest inconvenience..an update ..charge my equipment..not being in a mood..not feeling like i have enough time..can't get comfortable. All motivation gone. It may not be, but feels like i do things and besides very mandatory things. I just don't. I feel like im just lazy and i know im not. A support system and genuine people with genuine care would go so long..but no one like that exist to be around me and deal with me. This video hit home for me..but so do most of the videos ive seen of yours. Not to be mean..but they dont change anything. But in a way are nice to know how much i csn relate. Csuse so many people deal with issues.
It's so nice you care so much about your YT community and that you notice that someone disappears. It's really unique. I would take Ukrainian family in if we were already in Poland. But not for the financial benefit but good heart, as they are mainly mothers with children (another no for you), as men are not allowed to leave the country. Are you back to intermittent fasting? Question out of the blue, as your guitar was in the background, do you often sing/play your own songs just to relax?
Men aren't allowed to leave? Wow! So much for equal rights over there then! Still, my heart goes out to them. Yes, back to intermittent fasting now I'm feeling a bit better. The difference in focus is very noticeable when it comes to things I'm not interested in doing...like work 😂 I only play my own music, and always work on small parts of the 20 I don't ever finish. The only cover I play is Noel Gallagher Dying of the Light. Just feels good to play and sing. And I do care about the people who find me and stick in. Only reason I've carried on making videos 👍🏻
@@AdultwithAutism I guess it's perceived as obvious and honourable to stay and protect their country anyway, but their martial law allows exceptions, for example if a partner is heavily pregnant, is a carrier/single parent or has many children, so it's not too bad anyway, but I get your point. It's a bit like the bricklayer argument about equality. I have never heard the song before. 20 unfinished songs you say.. Do you always record a song once finished? And do you improve your songs after you consider them finished?
Equality should be equal, or not at all. Maybe I'll do a video on it 😂 I don't always record finished songs. I have one called Dare I wait...but cannot sing it! But I always think about finished songs. What the drums will be, how a baseline would go, what effects I'd use etc. And I'd add those in if I ever had that time, but I work with what I've got and just do the guitar and vocals.
@@AdultwithAutism Agreed, but how can equality be equal? There's no chance to fit different shapes into a square box without any empty space, that has to be filled with reasonable adjustments and exceptions, so in black and white terms there would never be equality in any aspect of life🤷
Movies are great! And making them is also, did few with my friends when we were teens. Obviously didn't bring fame and glory, but we had fun There are always so many things in your videos to comment that can't remember half of them when I reach the end 😃 Anyway few thoughts... 1) Your workplace/employer sounds quite bad. I also hate all those workplace community things, I i'm quite strict about not participating. May even be bit rude sometimes, but I've been so long with same company, that coworkers have gotten used to me already. You probably seriously need to start handling work related task via email, so that there is trace of evidence, if people can't be trusted to stand behind what they said on phone. 2) I've trained in a form or an other for 30+ years and read quite lot about the subject. (Might be special interest of mine). One advice about weight training. Back training, upper and lower as well as glute and hamstring training is way more important than anything else when thinking about general well being and ability to move. Of course full body should be trained but emphasis should be on the posterior muscle chain. I'd say the priority list is backside-legs-core-chest/shoulders-arms 3) That was interesting piece about the motivation. Money is huge part of the motivation, but for some reason managers and executives generally have hard time admitting it. And other people sure can ruin motivation easily. Sometimes I just hate NT society and culture. Makes everything unnecessarily complicated.
So long as fun was had, that's all it's about! 1. I agree, so I have handed my notice in. Last day is the 29th April. 2. I'll bare that in mind when my body accepts that it now has to lift things! 3. All I want is to finish on a Friday, and be okay with it, and not stressing the weekend will fly by before I have to go back to somewhere that I really don't want to be. I'd drop my salary if it meant a happier workplace.
I am the person who disappears. From my side, my opinion, its not personal. I usually suddenly find myself overwhelmed and i have to disappear. 1. I'm scared people are tired of me, but too nice to tell me. 2. I loose time and suddenly its been a few, days, weeks, months... So, I unintentionally "disappear". I don't know if these are any of the the things these people are dealing with, but it's whats up with me. I'd watch that. You are definitely one of my motivators.
I'm hoping I can actually produce a smaller comment for once 😂 ... So, firstly, I actually hope your boss(es) naturally stumble up in this video and get.their.shit.together!!!! Secondly, another awesome video that I've once again related to so strongly it's scary lmao, I did just wanna say Paul - as much as I know you deal with allll the same anxietys as me, I do hope you're seriously proud of yourself for sticking out your job and showing up each work day regardless of the blatant unfair treatment. I also hope you know that if you can't, that's okay too, because it's burning me out FOR you!!! I know you're also working class and so you've 'gotta work to live ' 🙈 but your bosses obviously have no idea what they'd lose if/when you move on. Lastly, good on you for making arrangements to shoot a film with Baz! I can definitely relate to the punches to my motivation and even so, you're working AND planning this creative venture! You're a very respectable dude and I hope this comment makes your day little bit better as it's true 🙂 Wishing you and your furbabies the best of health and happiness as always! 😁
Haha, thanks. Good to know others relate...albeit with anxiety 😂 And never worry about large messages, I do videos for half an hour that never make a point!
Have you ever considered narrating books? You have such a high quality sound quality and pleasant voice, I think you would be great at it! Thanks for the amazing video content. I watch them daily. I enjoy the waffles and the updates. And of course, the content! Oh, and the film you're producing, will you post it on youtube? That sounds cool!
Haha, people tell me I have a very boring monotone voice, and I could talk a glass eye to sleep! So thank you for the endorsement. I will narrate my book...when I finally finish writing it in the year 3000.
I have run into the same thing with a verbal agreement with a manager which they later forget the agreement. A way around it is to send a follow up email, saying “just to confirm our discussion today that I will be scheduling the building inspections in the best geographic order to save time, petrol and money. Our agreement is that as long as I cover them all in six months, I can inspect them in the order I find best.” Catch is, this follow up needs to be soon after the meeting while fresh in mind.
Even though it’s a bother to write another email, this will help register the changed process in his mind and you have a paper trail too.
I’m glad you are planning to make a fun video with your friend. Sounds like it could be very funny OR very scary, ir a mix of both! Good luck with that!
Hi Nancy,
I will be following up any further decisions with emails as this feeling just isn't worth it. I've been in this situation before with another manager and remember feeling just as rubbish.
But from now on, I'll just bombard every decision with emails, as I don't see why others lack of remembering or clarity over decision making needs to be my burden.
Hi Paul,unfortunately I also feel like I’m on the back foot most of the time, I know for a fact that it’s because I will speak my mind especially at work, when other work colleagues will have the same issues with certain problems and will say nothing, and reap the benefits from the problems that I have discussed, I’ve had this problem all my life, maybe it’s just my black and white/right or wrong way of thinking which I don’t think is uncommon with most of us on the spectrum.
Hi Jason, I know the feeling! I just remove all the fluff and say whats needed. Although the problem then tends to be other people's reluctance to just do the right thing because they're so embroiled in workplace politics...which is something I don't do. So there is still always a disconnect waiting for me around every corner 😂
Howdy Paul, great waffle. I would pay to see that movie! Great concept! I like assassin type movies.
My company has a Facebook page as well and I am not interested. It’s work and not a social club, at least for me. Was actually quite clever to show how work can knock down motivation and then move it to other places in your life. My motivation gets knocked down for many reasons and it’s hard to get back up. Funny you mentioned the 80’s and 90’s, it’s true, at least they pretended to care about employees. My company throws out buzz words and really does nothing. You are like me in that you try to do the right thing. Most people don’t do that. Good on you for trying. Great video and thanks for making and posting something. Talk about motivation. I, we appreciate it!
Hey Bryan,
That's it. I'm at work! Not a social club, not to make friends. I'm there to exchange my time and skill for a salary. I'm amicable with everyone, and help others above and beyond my role...but that part is my choice. The fake friendly is pointless to me...and annoying.
The workplace is all inclusive of all things and every difference...which is very fake as there is no evidence of real interest. For example, for Nuerodiversity Week, we have guest speakers talking about their experience in the workplace. I'd rather hear from people who actually work at my place, why haven't they asked us? They don't care, it's all fluff. And THAT, makes it worse than saying nothing at all to me.
Never a waste for us here Paul 🙂 So cute about piggie George 🐷 Glad to hear he’s loving life! Feeling proud of ya for ordering the weights. Hubby is into working out but I can’t bear the thought of attending the classes with him. But your efforts to get in shape encourage me to find a way to do it myself 👍. So sorry about the work situation. I can understand how those blows can bring your joy and motivation down. Here’s hoping you have a great weekend! 👋
Thanks Marie, and glad it's given you a boost for working out too. I can't go to a gym...maybe that could be a topic for a video? 😂
@@AdultwithAutism went for a 2 hour walk/hike yesterday! 👍
Can't beat getting in touch with nature!
Wow i cant stand people who say they didn't say something when they did, drives me nutty 🥴
Absolutely. I do as asked! I don't guess and hope for the best.
Funny coincidence … I injured my knee 15 days ago. Lots of pain. Better today. Never had a knee owie before.
Thanks for the video.
Knee pain twins! 😂
Glad it's getting better 👍🏻
Ive been dealing with this for a long time. From school days to now being 40. Id try and work hard or put in so much effort and nothing ever worked out. Studying and just being average. No achievements, no real friends..everyone just hung out if they were bored and i was the last option. But i ddidnt really wanna do anything except play counterstrike lol. Never got jobs..even when i was more qualified. Rejection from work and people..would lower any care. Failures would compound it. Never being listened to. Or ignored. Not valued. Im worried ill be let go..cause of some recent team changes. Im gonna be firm with a few "no i wont do that" and ill be in the right..but im just a number. Im preparing for a worse case..cause anything else will be easier to handle. Weight loss(im an obese indian ..the irony) made the attempts, made dietary changes and changes to exercjses and still couldnt get things to progress. Why am i not getting the results. Ive done everything people tell me to. But nothing changed. All these failures and disregard for me and my wants..is always removing motivation. I even stopped gaming. The littlest inconvenience..an update ..charge my equipment..not being in a mood..not feeling like i have enough time..can't get comfortable. All motivation gone. It may not be, but feels like i do things and besides very mandatory things. I just don't. I feel like im just lazy and i know im not. A support system and genuine people with genuine care would go so long..but no one like that exist to be around me and deal with me. This video hit home for me..but so do most of the videos ive seen of yours. Not to be mean..but they dont change anything. But in a way are nice to know how much i csn relate. Csuse so many people deal with issues.
It's so nice you care so much about your YT community and that you notice that someone disappears. It's really unique.
I would take Ukrainian family in if we were already in Poland. But not for the financial benefit but good heart, as they are mainly mothers with children (another no for you), as men are not allowed to leave the country.
Are you back to intermittent fasting?
Question out of the blue, as your guitar was in the background, do you often sing/play your own songs just to relax?
Men aren't allowed to leave? Wow! So much for equal rights over there then! Still, my heart goes out to them.
Yes, back to intermittent fasting now I'm feeling a bit better. The difference in focus is very noticeable when it comes to things I'm not interested in doing...like work 😂
I only play my own music, and always work on small parts of the 20 I don't ever finish. The only cover I play is Noel Gallagher Dying of the Light. Just feels good to play and sing.
And I do care about the people who find me and stick in. Only reason I've carried on making videos 👍🏻
@@AdultwithAutism I guess it's perceived as obvious and honourable to stay and protect their country anyway, but their martial law allows exceptions, for example if a partner is heavily pregnant, is a carrier/single parent or has many children, so it's not too bad anyway, but I get your point. It's a bit like the bricklayer argument about equality.
I have never heard the song before. 20 unfinished songs you say.. Do you always record a song once finished? And do you improve your songs after you consider them finished?
Equality should be equal, or not at all. Maybe I'll do a video on it 😂
I don't always record finished songs. I have one called Dare I wait...but cannot sing it! But I always think about finished songs. What the drums will be, how a baseline would go, what effects I'd use etc. And I'd add those in if I ever had that time, but I work with what I've got and just do the guitar and vocals.
@@AdultwithAutism Agreed, but how can equality be equal? There's no chance to fit different shapes into a square box without any empty space, that has to be filled with reasonable adjustments and exceptions, so in black and white terms there would never be equality in any aspect of life🤷
Equality cannot be equal, because we are not the same. We can strive for equality of opportunity, that's more logical.
Movies are great! And making them is also, did few with my friends when we were teens. Obviously didn't bring fame and glory, but we had fun
There are always so many things in your videos to comment that can't remember half of them when I reach the end 😃 Anyway few thoughts...
1) Your workplace/employer sounds quite bad. I also hate all those workplace community things, I i'm quite strict about not participating. May even be bit rude sometimes, but I've been so long with same company, that coworkers have gotten used to me already. You probably seriously need to start handling work related task via email, so that there is trace of evidence, if people can't be trusted to stand behind what they said on phone.
2) I've trained in a form or an other for 30+ years and read quite lot about the subject. (Might be special interest of mine). One advice about weight training. Back training, upper and lower as well as glute and hamstring training is way more important than anything else when thinking about general well being and ability to move. Of course full body should be trained but emphasis should be on the posterior muscle chain. I'd say the priority list is backside-legs-core-chest/shoulders-arms
3) That was interesting piece about the motivation. Money is huge part of the motivation, but for some reason managers and executives generally have hard time admitting it. And other people sure can ruin motivation easily. Sometimes I just hate NT society and culture. Makes everything unnecessarily complicated.
So long as fun was had, that's all it's about!
1. I agree, so I have handed my notice in. Last day is the 29th April.
2. I'll bare that in mind when my body accepts that it now has to lift things!
3. All I want is to finish on a Friday, and be okay with it, and not stressing the weekend will fly by before I have to go back to somewhere that I really don't want to be. I'd drop my salary if it meant a happier workplace.
I am the person who disappears. From my side, my opinion, its not personal. I usually suddenly find myself overwhelmed and i have to disappear. 1. I'm scared people are tired of me, but too nice to tell me. 2. I loose time and suddenly its been a few, days, weeks, months... So, I unintentionally "disappear". I don't know if these are any of the the things these people are dealing with, but it's whats up with me.
I'd watch that.
You are definitely one of my motivators.
I am glad I have a use 👍🏼
I know I keep leaving comments all over your videos and I never go back and look at the replies 😅 but just know that you have really helped me a lot!
It's good to know. Thank you 👍🏻
Thanks!
Thank you, much appreciated.
I'm hoping I can actually produce a smaller comment for once 😂 ...
So, firstly, I actually hope your boss(es) naturally stumble up in this video and get.their.shit.together!!!!
Secondly, another awesome video that I've once again related to so strongly it's scary lmao, I did just wanna say Paul - as much as I know you deal with allll the same anxietys as me, I do hope you're seriously proud of yourself for sticking out your job and showing up each work day regardless of the blatant unfair treatment. I also hope you know that if you can't, that's okay too, because it's burning me out FOR you!!! I know you're also working class and so you've 'gotta work to live ' 🙈 but your bosses obviously have no idea what they'd lose if/when you move on.
Lastly, good on you for making arrangements to shoot a film with Baz! I can definitely relate to the punches to my motivation and even so, you're working AND planning this creative venture! You're a very respectable dude and I hope this comment makes your day little bit better as it's true 🙂
Wishing you and your furbabies the best of health and happiness as always! 😁
Haha, thanks. Good to know others relate...albeit with anxiety 😂
And never worry about large messages, I do videos for half an hour that never make a point!
Have you ever considered narrating books? You have such a high quality sound quality and pleasant voice, I think you would be great at it! Thanks for the amazing video content. I watch them daily. I enjoy the waffles and the updates. And of course, the content! Oh, and the film you're producing, will you post it on youtube? That sounds cool!
Haha, people tell me I have a very boring monotone voice, and I could talk a glass eye to sleep! So thank you for the endorsement. I will narrate my book...when I finally finish writing it in the year 3000.
Would love to see the movie on TH-cam.
Thankyou for this video it helped me so much to not feel alone thankyou 💖
I'm really glad if any of my waffle helps anyone, so thank you.
In some interviews they have asked me what I would want to be paid. Very unprofessional and extremely awkward.
I can imagine. My response would be 'what I'm worth', that would make them uncomfortable
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