FEMININE INSIGHT INTO THE PROVIDER MINDSET
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ส.ค. 2021
- What does it mean when a feminine woman is looking for a provider? In this video we define exactly what these mean.
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I really appreciate this. I was in a long-time relationship with a more feminine man and it totally killed my libido. You are right on with your insights.
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That's perfectly understandable. The thing is, masculine energy women think that they can work as hard as men. However, men have 10 times more testosterone than women, so they can work hard, all day, every day. Women produce less testosterone, so all that will happen is that they will deplete their adrenal glands and feel tired and burnt out. They will also get resentful having to live within a 50/50 dynamic or having to go out to work to pay the bills in a relationship. The resentment carries over into the bedroom and before you know as K D stated above, the libido drops and no more fun and games at bedtime!
Lol 😯 Wow, I love 💗 it!! Somebody has some common logic sense!!…
@@sagilady523 I've never heard a woman say that they have the same energy as men (aside from that "anything you can do" song). Women want equal pay and equal regard, and that shouldn't be as controversial as it is.
So true.. For example: a guy picked me up in a hoopty but opened the doors and brought me flowers. Another guy rolls up in a BMW but doesn't even bother to open the door for me. Guess which one won me over..?
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The Proverbs 31 Woman Worked....she was elegant, kind.....she was that favor and good thing to her husband....
The Proverbs 31 Woman first priority was to her husband & her household. Her focus was that he did not need anything else outside of his household (Proverbs 31:11b He had no need of spoiled). Then she used her remaining time to work outside of the home as well. Not all women have that extra time.
My case and point was not that she was not responsible to her husband and household first...my case and point was and is.... that she also worked and provided.... The Proverbs 31 Woman was also a business woman.....
Dear Tracy I think that the point you are making is assumed in this video given my last video was about women working and having their own money in dating and marriage so when you state the obvious in your comment it’s easy to assume you are missing the point of the video.
I will say this, the proverbs 31 woman was not a provider. She was resourceful and enterprising but her husband did not need her help to provide rather her resourcefulness made her honourable.
Solomon’s mother speaks of her virtue then begins to describe it. Her work was an indication of her virtue not her role as a provider.
Please also understand that the proverbs 31 woman is a type and shadow of the Church and her husband is a type and shadow of Christ.
In this case you will understand that Christ doesn’t need anything from us and that anything we do, any effort we make is more a show of our heart posture towards him than his need for us to provide.
He provides EVERYTHING and we live lives that are pleasing and acceptable to him.
It is not wise for a feminine woman to assume the role of provider even if she is very wealthy in her own right. If she wishes to work in the home or outside the home this is her prerogative as long as at the end of the day she can serve her family effectively.
The modern woman can work outside the home and hire help in the home but she can also make money FROM home which is a more accurate depiction of the proverbs 31 woman.
I appreciate you and your platform. And what you have just outlined has value and substance. The idea here is not for anyone to be right, as much as it is for us to process as women and ladies about what may be right. At the end of the day, I want to stand with you. I didn't just happen upon the video, I subscribed.
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy This is right on point! I would also add for the benefit of the original poster that the Proverbs 31 woman operated in seasons. No one can do all of those things in Proverbs 31 at the same time. Ecclesiastes states there is a time and place for everything. The virtue of the the Proverbs 31 woman lies in that she is aligned with God's purpose and timing for her life. She puts God first and submits to her husband out of service to him and her family.
I know Chengi (sorry if I misspelled it) is right. After a long term (almost 20 year) marraige where I worked in corporate America, went to night school and cared for kids. I am completely exhausted, hormonally imbalanced, had no libido, etc. I realize that I was married to a more feminine man because I recently met and am dating a young man who is totally opposite. He doesn't make a lot of money (and I really don't care), but he doesn't like me to pay for anything. I can tell he is truly, deeply bothered (like his spirit is vexxed) when I have offered to pay. I always had trouble with the whole submission thing in my marraige. With this new man, I can sense that I would take pleasure in submitting to him. It feels so natural. It's a totally different experience and in trying to understand why I came across this video. It now makes so much sense !!! If you are skeptical about the points outlined in this video, I would say that you have not yet met the right man. When you do, you will know and understand completely what is being said here.
I'm learning a lot from you. Thank you for being so willing to share this. I am re-learning things. Growing up,looking back,it must have not been easy for my single mom-the scarcity mindset was the order of the day. It is not easy not to carry the same kinda mindset into romantic relationships and the like. Having to reset my outlook on life to KNOW and come to expect and accept,and deserve abundance. Especially in romantic relationships. Used to hold onto and cling onto mere 'breadcrumbs' in said relationships. You are blessing people like me who didn't grow up seeing very good examples of healthy dynamics. Thank u🙏
The nursing analogy is exactly what happened in my first marriage
Powerful. I've been watching your videos for the past two days and I've learned so much about masculine and feminine energy and how to be a man then what I learned in the pickup community. It makes sense. Thank you for sharing. 😀
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Listen to Chengi!, she is speaking truth.
Im 50yo and have learned the hard and painful way. Im in bankrupt, no job and with 2 teeanagers that want to eat the entire world (want to study, to travel, to do sports, to play music, etc plus they eat a lot!)b and Im struggling with this just because I put 70 and their father put 30 in the beggining of the marriage. He was never able to reach the level I used to live and wanted to live. It was my fault not his. Im totally responsible for the mess Im in. He never had the provider mindset and that is not wrong or righth, that is just who he is.
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Lol Woosah!! Praise God!!...
Also, Some just have the provider mindset for their mother only!!…Somebody will understand that later.
Seriously girl, you got this!! Thanks for the work you do in the world 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Came across this video. From a man’s perspective this was awesome! Definitely some keys to a great relationship.
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Thank you Chengi foe this video. Im 39 and found out way to late. Single never married chose wrong men. Now I am trying to pick up the pieces. Continue to inform the lost ones and continue to do Gods work. Thank you!!!!!!!!!
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It's never too late, and you are still young and you're going to be just fine.
I would like to add, learn how to graciously accept compliments ( I really had to practice on this one), look into the person's eye and simply say something like " I certainly appreciate your compliments, thanks Steve". Also give compliments to men (but not right after he gives you one). I practice on random men when I'm shopping (only compliment when it's true).
@@gwenlee9562 thank you Gwen for the great advice and encouragement. I will try this!☺
Absolutely F-A-B-U-L-O-U-S information. Thanks 😊.
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I actually wish what she is saying is a lie but this is THE TRUTH. Let's just respect each others needs and differences. Men and women are not the same. If you like go and struggle love but this causes relationship problems for most.
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Hey Chengi, thanks so much for this video, very informative. This really is helpful.
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Omg you answered my question thank you for this video I understand now much more clearer o appreciate the video
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Thank you Chengi, for this beautiful insight!
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Thank you chengi, you said it all 👌🏾
Very helpful. Thank you so much Chengi
This is to set somebody free from turmoil/struggle Love😳 for réal of what Chengy is trying to explain, imagine being ‘married’ with kids to someone that’s the opposite of what she’s saying, lol yet, will give talk about ´adopting’ some kids as well, lol, please don’t adopt anybody’s child and/or kids to bring the child into turmoil/struggle Love and knowing you’re not ready for that nor the financial stability, just to impress others or saying because my momma talked about adopting somebody once!! But, some of us women has to work and make a living for ourselves and children because that’s all we have and that’s the noble attributes to do!!…
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@@blackswanrelationshipacademyI really don't know if this is a perfect time or platform to ask this question.. should I ever show pity to a man that slaps ND insults me when I try to show my hurt feelings ND emotions by crying..he always says I'm pretending each time I cry ND he's going through stuff yet I tend to add to it
Thank you..
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I loved it this! Very practical & concise
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You are beautiful!
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I have seen cases where the man starts out and maintains the good life, high earner lifestyle for years. He then gets downsized and the wife has to go to work or return to the workplace after years of being a stay at home mom/wife so they can maintain the lifestyle are accustomed to. That woman often becomes very resentful. Then that begs the question of do they downsize he can return to being the provider and she can again be the housewife?
If she is going to be resentful then downsizing seems the logical way forward
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy In most of these cases the wife would be resentful of having to downsize. This kind of situation is difficult because with most of us, if we met you in an upscale way and the husband afforded us not to have to work, having to/must work seems like a welch on what was promised to us. Hugh calue women like to be kept in the lifestyle we are/have become accustomed to🤗
@@patriciadavis3549 that's a ridiculous expectation.
@@Heyu7her3 oh do share why you think This is a ridiculous ecpectation?
Can you do a video on how to be feminine and elegant when you’re dating or married to a feminine man?
I don’t advice dating or marrying feminine men so I cannot do this video. Feminine women and men together create competitive energy which is toxic. If a woman finds herself married to a feminine man then she must assume the role of the masculine and if this doesn’t serve her and she wants to stay and make it work as she has every right/obligation to then she must indulge in much self care because it simply will not come from her feminine mate. A self Carr masterclass will be available in the academy in a few months ❤️❤️❤️
Just be femenine and the relationship will be dissolved. That happens to me and Im happily divorced now. But if you want to keep your femenine man you have to behave masculine as Chengi says.
@@yabe1496 , No lies told. The same holds true with emasculated men. After a man refuses to be masculine you can’t make him be a masculine man.
@@yabe1496 no boo I don’t want to be masculine it’s tiring and frustrating I want to be feminine but I hate how feminine my husband is I just try to be pleasant even when he acts like a cranky feminine mess I just want to be a lady so my daughters won’t be masculine and end up like me every life experience is a lesson learned
He’s so feminine that he won’t leave he would want me to pack up with three kids and leave he can’t even be man enough to say I will go and we can co parent so annoying and frustrating