It’s a huge topic ,you need to think that a family member is coming to a unknown house by leaving her existing family.it’s a responsibility of the in laws family to make the bride feel like her own home. It’s not right to make her feel burden with unrealistic expectations. Once both party are comfortable,the girl’s duty is to treat in-laws like her own parents .it’s that simple . Why to make it complicated with putting a lot of expectations inbetween
Mam some in laws are very rigid and orthodox and they dont wabt to understand your opinion at all.and some time husband are also like them so its very difficult to Live with them
Hello Pallavi Madam. In arrange marriage without knowing about sexual compatibility ,how can both people marry?if it's not there it may lead to divorce ! So is there any solution for this problem?
Dont focus more on single stuff like sex or negative thoughts like divorce etc.... both go for a premarriage councilling nd a post marriage councilling sessions with qualified doctors/psychologists .Ppl are growing day by day.. nobody is 100% perfect.
@@RAJUBHAI-ww7em I am from Kerala.In our religion we have compulsory 3days session of councilling from doctors,psychologists,relationship advisors.Then we get a completion certificate.Then only we can do traditional marriage in our religion.Apart from religion from my opinion we have to go through premarriage nd post marriage counseling from qualified ppl.Whether it working out may depends on couple and counselor.
Expecting a new Bride to live her In-laws is insane, unnatural, and so unfair, in my humble opinion. Why not wait till the Parents are older, so the couple can grow together and be a united front. The man must understand how difficult this can be, and really be aware and kind to her, and be willing to change things, a little, at least, like help her with cooking, a little, or give her a kiss and some affection in front of his Parents, and talk to his Mother, if she is hurting his wife's feelings. If a guy can't do that, in this day and age, he is not ready to marry ! ...... I had a 27 year old Indian Lover. He needed money and was making not much, so I suggested he get an isolated job, to earn big bucks, for a while. He actually answered "My Parents wouldn't let me do that". I was shocked and stunned, and weirdly embarrassed for him. His Parents are choosing a wife for him now. I wouldn't want to be her, as sweet as he is. He's educated, his degree is only valid in India, so his Mom has chosen a girl that's religious and uneducated (it is not set yet). She'll be dutiful and trapped with Mama's boy...... I hope I don't offend anyone. May a Canadian gal share her experience and opinion ? I'm a lot older, so I can see tons of future problems, because of inexperience and certain hang ups, if you know what I mean.
@@ultimate6243 similarly husband's parents should not interfere in the life of their married son. They should understand that he is a grown adult independent man who should take responsibility for his own life.
@@ultimate6243 accept it and stop giving your bullshit chauvinistic excuse to put up male superiority. Get that damn shit inside your head. Men are not more than women and women are not less than men. THEY ARE EQUAL AND THEY SHOULD BE.
@@btskingsmamamooqueens3454 Wife is a part of husband's family and not vice-versa. Wife should not disturb the family system. Wife should not try to separate husband from his family. Women should keep in mind that there is also her Sister-in-law who can separate her brother from her family. Drama between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law going on from lakhs and lakhs of years but when Mother of Wife put gasoline on it becomes toxic. If Mother of wife don't interfere then things will not becomes toxic.
MARRIAGE CAN BREAK OR MAKE when LADY ( her parents) are involved. ESPECIALLY IF THEY THINK THEY GONNA ACCOMMODATE THEIR CHILDREN WITH THIS COUPLES. EXTRAMARITAL RESPONSIBILITIES CAN PUT LOTS OF STRESS ON COUPLE. COUPLE CAN SUFFER MENTALLY, PHY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY & the toll could be DANGEROUS. Md RAFI MAINE USA-PHD
Mam I have a question ..... Why don't women who are Earning and independent.... Marry a guy who will be her *househusband* .... Instead they will choose a guy , who makes way more money than her ... They will leave their job to be his housewife , pay dowry , live with his toxic inlaws .... And then come on social media complaining how unfair her life has been and blame misogyny or patriarchal society.
because society doesn't accept such system.... even if we find a house husband our society starts comments on him... which will hurt his ego .... and then obviously problm occurs...
@@Ayisha4889 really? I don't understand which feminists you are talking about coz I have only seen and heard feminists as well as some women in real life who accept house husband, though I do have come across some women saying they prefer the husbands to be employed and not just sit.
@@Ayisha4889 this explains why househusband doesn't work out..... because women doesn't hold back being a housewife if anyone laughs at her for it..... she will choose her priorities men feel insecure of being a laughing stock if he choose to become a househusband Nd no matter what... understanding and giving importance to each other and respecting both is important
Omgoodness, you are funny, as if all women with a career does the same thing. I imagine they have a right to complain, though, if that happens. Don't you think most women are very pressured by family and society to marry, and criticized if they don't ? So many people get married into unfair marriages. It's difficult.
If in laws expecting some thing from daughter in law to do which they think is the Job of her is that wrong, a girl need to understand that what life she is living at her home now it is change so she need to change the lifestyle little bit which eventually makes some good changes for all I am speaking with my own experience.
@@Hari-bz1mh why shouldn't they. A new member is coming into the family. A company also have expectations from new employees that they will take the company to new level. Now as working culture we can compare family with company right.
It’s a huge topic ,you need to think that a family member is coming to a unknown house by leaving her existing family.it’s a responsibility of the in laws family to make the bride feel like her own home. It’s not right to make her feel burden with unrealistic expectations. Once both party are comfortable,the girl’s duty is to treat in-laws like her own parents .it’s that simple . Why to make it complicated with putting a lot of expectations inbetween
It’s a huge topic ,you need to think that a family member is coming to a unknown house by leaving her existing family.it’s a responsibility of the in laws family to make the bride feel like her own home. It’s not right to make her feel burden with unrealistic expectations. Once both party are comfortable,the girl’s duty is to treat in-laws like her own parents .it’s that simple . Why to make it complicated with putting a lot of expectations inbetween
Mam some in laws are very rigid and orthodox and they dont wabt to understand your opinion at all.and some time husband are also like them so its very difficult to Live with them
I love my parents whether I have many disputes but for a girl I can't even think to leave my parents NEVER NEVER😊😊😊😊
Hello Pallavi Madam. In arrange marriage without knowing about sexual compatibility ,how can both people marry?if it's not there it may lead to divorce ! So is there any solution for this problem?
Go for living relation
Dont focus more on single stuff like sex or negative thoughts like divorce etc.... both go for a premarriage councilling nd a post marriage councilling sessions with qualified doctors/psychologists .Ppl are growing day by day.. nobody is 100% perfect.
@@RAJUBHAI-ww7em I am from Kerala.In our religion we have compulsory 3days session of councilling from doctors,psychologists,relationship advisors.Then we get a completion certificate.Then only we can do traditional marriage in our religion.Apart from religion from my opinion we have to go through premarriage nd post marriage counseling from qualified ppl.Whether it working out may depends on couple and counselor.
@@et8853 konsa religion h bhai?
@@iamvikku Catholic. RCSC
Expecting a new Bride to live her In-laws is insane, unnatural, and so unfair, in my humble opinion. Why not wait till the Parents are older, so the couple can grow together and be a united front. The man must understand how difficult this can be, and really be aware and kind to her, and be willing to change things, a little, at least, like help her with cooking, a little, or give her a kiss and some affection in front of his Parents, and talk to his Mother, if she is hurting his wife's feelings. If a guy can't do that, in this day and age, he is not ready to marry ! ...... I had a 27 year old Indian Lover. He needed money and was making not much, so I suggested he get an isolated job, to earn big bucks, for a while. He actually answered "My Parents wouldn't let me do that". I was shocked and stunned, and weirdly embarrassed for him. His Parents are choosing a wife for him now. I wouldn't want to be her, as sweet as he is. He's educated, his degree is only valid in India, so his Mom has chosen a girl that's religious and uneducated (it is not set yet). She'll be dutiful and trapped with Mama's boy...... I hope I don't offend anyone. May a Canadian gal share her experience and opinion ? I'm a lot older, so I can see tons of future problems, because of inexperience and certain hang ups, if you know what I mean.
Focus on your mind, kind if thoughts nd health, stay connected with people who are Mike to talk to you. Focus yourself first . They is lit to tell
@@MsKaur-wu5tf Thank you for your reply. What does "Mike to talk to you" mean ?
A woman who won't respect your parents ain't worth nothing. Stay away from them
Same goes for men.
@@btskingsmamamooqueens3454 Wife's parents should not interfere in the life if of Married Daughter.
@@ultimate6243 similarly husband's parents should not interfere in the life of their married son. They should understand that he is a grown adult independent man who should take responsibility for his own life.
@@ultimate6243 accept it and stop giving your bullshit chauvinistic excuse to put up male superiority. Get that damn shit inside your head. Men are not more than women and women are not less than men. THEY ARE EQUAL AND THEY SHOULD BE.
@@btskingsmamamooqueens3454 Wife is a part of husband's family and not vice-versa.
Wife should not disturb the family system.
Wife should not try to separate husband from his family.
Women should keep in mind that there is also her Sister-in-law who can separate her brother from her family.
Drama between Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law going on from lakhs and lakhs of years but when Mother of Wife put gasoline on it becomes toxic.
If Mother of wife don't interfere then things will not becomes toxic.
Where is playlist of your (Pallavi Barnwal) videos
Please give us suggestions for how to deal with toxic inlaws, coupled with toxic parents.
What do you think only Daughter-in-laws are saints and Other people are evil?
@@ultimate6243 go watch your ekta kapoor's serial
My sis was back home,, leaving er in laws, now fine, happy n relaxed.
This man speaks bullshit in every video. Pls ignore him 😒
@@sriparnapaul7208 ignored. Long ago
MARRIAGE CAN BREAK OR MAKE when LADY ( her parents) are involved. ESPECIALLY IF THEY THINK THEY GONNA ACCOMMODATE THEIR CHILDREN WITH THIS COUPLES. EXTRAMARITAL RESPONSIBILITIES CAN PUT LOTS OF STRESS ON COUPLE. COUPLE CAN SUFFER MENTALLY, PHY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY & the toll could be DANGEROUS.
Md RAFI MAINE USA-PHD
Mam I have a question ..... Why don't women who are Earning and independent.... Marry a guy who will be her *househusband* .... Instead they will choose a guy , who makes way more money than her ... They will leave their job to be his housewife , pay dowry , live with his toxic inlaws .... And then come on social media complaining how unfair her life has been and blame misogyny or patriarchal society.
because society doesn't accept such system.... even if we find a house husband our society starts comments on him... which will hurt his ego .... and then obviously problm occurs...
@@kutty35 I want to be a Househusband ....but women especially feminist laugh at me
@@Ayisha4889 really? I don't understand which feminists you are talking about coz I have only seen and heard feminists as well as some women in real life who accept house husband, though I do have come across some women saying they prefer the husbands to be employed and not just sit.
@@Ayisha4889 this explains why househusband doesn't work out..... because women doesn't hold back being a housewife if anyone laughs at her for it..... she will choose her priorities
men feel insecure of being a laughing stock if he choose to become a househusband
Nd no matter what... understanding and giving importance to each other and respecting both is important
Omgoodness, you are funny, as if all women with a career does the same thing. I imagine they have a right to complain, though, if that happens. Don't you think most women are very pressured by family and society to marry, and criticized if they don't ? So many people get married into unfair marriages. It's difficult.
what if they are talking about daughter in lauyhi ,jṁ w's parents and keeps pointing finger on her upbringing
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Mam you are amazing ❤️🔥
Mam can i talk with you for my problem
Really Amazing♥️❣️
I am also agree with you because you are absolutely right. 👌👍
Awesome👏👏
Great video! I really enjoy hearing you speak!
If in laws expecting some thing from daughter in law to do which they think is the Job of her is that wrong, a girl need to understand that what life she is living at her home now it is change so she need to change the lifestyle little bit which eventually makes some good changes for all
I am speaking with my own experience.
Why should in laws have expectations from a new bride? How many expectations does a groom fulfill of his in laws?
@@Hari-bz1mh why shouldn't they. A new member is coming into the family. A company also have expectations from new employees that they will take the company to new level. Now as working culture we can compare family with company right.
It’s a huge topic ,you need to think that a family member is coming to a unknown house by leaving her existing family.it’s a responsibility of the in laws family to make the bride feel like her own home. It’s not right to make her feel burden with unrealistic expectations. Once both party are comfortable,the girl’s duty is to treat in-laws like her own parents .it’s that simple . Why to make it complicated with putting a lot of expectations inbetween
@@swagatika100 good one I like your way of looking to the matter.
Thanks to give a solution to the issue👍
Really osam♥❣
The one who is herself divorced is giving advice 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What about dealing with those pesky outlaws and scofflaws?
Title??
You are so beautiful.
That's impossible 😂
I really miss Raina and her sarcastic vidoes