This honestly sounds a lot like selective/situational mutism. I struggle with it and this feels like you just entered my mind. (Not diagnosing just a possible explanation)
I'm glad you said this, because it's one of the few things most kids suffer from but people just can't seem to understand, S.M. Is not something that people can't just overcome but something that can be adapted to, in wolf's case I'd say minor signs of it but I aint no expert nor a Doc of it, and I'm happy you had good people to help you back then, but I'm getting off topic, love the video's and the fan base that is chill and loving. Hope both you and then keep enjoying the content
It's not mute, as mute is actually unable to speak. This is selective mutism and I think it deserves more recognition as I had it and no one knew about it. They all either assumed I was full on mute or really shy. My mom tried putting me in speech therapy in middle school, but I hated that. I think I was in some sort of speech therapy in kindergarten too
hey, i have a different story. it's good that you at least talk to the people you know. How would you react if a person that you know, while you were having fun and playing minecraft or something, suddenly just stopped talking? For about 8 hours? I'd assume they have someone who doesn't like their presence online behind them, like an annoying sister, but then they'd break out with a "FINE IM DONE BEING SHUT. when replied to "why'd you do that?" he'd go "JUST CAUSE, HAHAHAHA. I'LL CONTINUE JUST BECAUSE I WANNA BE OBNOXIOUS, CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH" type of things? I am seeing a lot of comments relate to the video, but due to my experience with a friend i've known for 4 years online im kind of hating on all of this. It's recent, and they've been "normal" all this other 3 years and 9 months prior.
I know the feeling Wolfy, when I was in highschool I was an extremely shy, quiet boy and I didn't get confident speaking to others until after graduation.
Trust me i didn’t judge you because there’s a lot of people out there who can relate to you it’s definitely okay to feel that way especially when you’re an introvert , new school and new environment and new language all of these things are overwhelming for anyone whoever it is so that’s completely understandable and i would say im proud of you because you were healing , maybe at first you thought that you weren’t making any progress at all but the results showed that you did make progress but on your on way so you should be proud of yourself, confessing about something you were insecure about shows how your confidence has increased
Yeah, I'm an introvert and I sometimes try to talk but the teachers would always pressure me to speak louder when I still have anxiety talking with others my voice is quiet and low but I still try my best to communicate but it's annoying how they pressure me, that's why I would rather not talk at all
@@classical232 that’s completely understandable just make sure that you don’t take it personally because at the end of the day you know your reasons no one needs to know about them whoever it is because they simply won’t understand , its not your fault that you have anxiety so just avoid what they’re saying to you because you don’t have to prove anything to anyone they’re not worth your energy and time so just let them be
Glad that you are getting over your anxiety. Anyone can be affected by it, weather it's big or small dose. It's always good for people to get out of their shell.😊
I go nonverbal involuntarily when I get really overwhelmed and it sucks a lot. My family doesn’t understand when I can’t talk and they end up freaked out. Like I wish I could tell them it’s okay but I can’t when I’m in that space. I’m glad that you were able to find good people that helped your confidence
i had the opposite problem. i never shut up bc it made people uncomfortable when i didnt talk but now im learning to let myself go nonverbal when i need to. im glad that its possible to find healing now
That's really relatable for me. For many years I also didn't talked to anyone back then besides my parents since I didn't see any reason to make friends or communicate with anyone besides the people I know. It took only 2 years to get better when I got into a better school. Now I'm in college and I think I can talk to anyone now without any problems. I think everyone just get better with communication as they grow up. It could depend from person to person so yeah. I'm still pretty much an introvert and don't talk to people unless I want to but that doesn't stop me from interacting with new people and making new friends now :D
hey, i have a different story. it's good that you at least talk to the people you know. How would you react if a person that you know, while you were having fun and playing minecraft or something, suddenly just stopped talking? For about 8 hours? I'd assume they have someone who doesn't like their presence online behind them, like an annoying sister, but then they'd break out with a "FINE IM DONE BEING SHUT. when replied to "why'd you do that?" he'd go "JUST CAUSE, HAHAHAHA. I'LL CONTINUE JUST BECAUSE I WANNA BE OBNOXIOUS, CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH" type of things? I am seeing a lot of comments relate to the video, but due to my experience with a friend i've known for 4 years online im kind of hating on all of this. It's recent, and they've been "normal" all this other 3 years and 9 months prior.
This was really relatable for me because I barely spoke a word. Every word Wolfy said just reminded me of how I was when I was younger, and I still kind of feel that way! I can completely understand what Wolfy had went through and I’m glad she’s speaking out. 💖
i know a friend who was in my pe class in middle school who never spoke a single word, all the teachers knew about it and she only spoke when she was really forced to. even when communicating with me, who has known her for two years, she didn't bother speaking and we would talk to her in yes or no questions or she would use her fingers using 1 or 2 to communicate with us. she told us that she just chose not to speak and we were okay with it great job bringing this to the world for people to understand that things like this exist
I actually feel bad for you now Wolfy. You know what, Komi Can't Communicate actually is perfect example for your issue because Komi also was very quiet and she had communication problems but she tries to make friends and Tadano has to help her do that. Just like how your friend helped you as well.
I'm autistic and I absolutely get what you mean. I'm semi-verbal, but I prefer not talking. I had had a time where I definitely forced myself to talk which results in me not speaking at all due to overwhelm and tiredness of forcing myself to talk. I absolutely relate to everything in this video. If it still happens to you, there's ways to overcome it if you want! Sign language is comfortable for a lot of people I know, or writing if it's less attention grabbing to you. Either way, what you felt is completely valid.
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everyone: *just being everyone* teacher: *calls on wolfychu* wolfy: and at that moment i knew...it was all over
Wolfy’s and Tabbes’ stories are great, they speak about how two completely different people in completely different situations can end up with the same problem.
The part where people would try to talk to you but you would only respond with a nod is actually how I’ve been in school from 6th grade to 12th grade. I think it might’ve been because all my friends went to a different middle school This is sooo relatable.
For 2 whole years? 😧wow. As an extrovert, I can’t even handle shutting up for more than 5 minutes. Anyway STAY WELL WOLFY☺️hope you and Jordan are doing alright! Thank you for another video
This was so inspiring to me, thank you so much for this video! I'll explain why I find it inspiring I relate with the video, but from a different beginning. When I was 5 I talked, but then I got beaten up a lot because I was in a bad school. After all the physical bullying I went mute so people would leave me alone but it didnt help, it made it worse. Then people started bullying me for being quiet and made it worse. Also I am so glad you mentioned the part about the "cute shy," it doesnt work that way in real life. Real people find mutes to be annoying and weird and they always assume its for attention. I watched your improvement (I've been here since before your first voice reveal), and after watching you go through everything you have its been inspiring me to talk more. Its scary, and I cant shake off that fear that I'll make people upset by talking (because I used to get beaten up for it), but I am setting a goal now to start talking more and being more open like you are. I've been getting better but I have a long way to go. Thank you for your videos!
I can somewhat relate. I didn’t start talking until I was 5. Also, I’ve been taking behavioral medicine since I was around 8 years old so I can talk more. Mainly because I’m autistic.
wolfy I love your art! I just want to say I went through this too. I was mute most of my childhood. Now after watching your cat video I want to tell you something a bit interesting. What got me to be more vocal was getting a cat except I would only meow and even thought that I was a cat in a past life. They had me see a school psych/therapist and speech therapist for a few years. I did start talking to people that I felt comfortable with over time but I had a really bad stutter at first. I have Tourette's and severe social anxiety along with generalized and separation anxiety. It's gotten better over the years but has left me with a lot of stories and awkward moments. So I wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories and your art. I am an artist and your art has inspired me to want to draw more often on more than one occasion. Especially when I was in art school. I can relate to many stories because even when I started to talk I was always soft-spoken and had a lot of awkward moments in life. You are amazing!
I've been watching your videos for 4 years. You really inspired me to start animating and if I hadn't watched your videos my channel probably would not exist. You also inspired me to start drawing realistic art! Your an amazing and talented artist and you will forever be my favorite TH-camr!
I can relate. Whenever I move to a new school, I couldn't bring myself to talk to others on my own because I was very shy. I did make quite a number of friends though, but that was because they either approached me first or because they simply hung out at the places I would normally go during recess.
I had the three same things, going to France as a kid, didn’t know anyone or the language and! They ended up putting me in a big school (yr 7) thinking I was older when I was only in like year 4. 👍 I ended up being quiet and having learning difficulties. Lucky me.
As a person with adhd, it's always good to see people that are more energetic then even me, I love the content and you should keep it up, you always are able to make my day and make me laugh, Thank you :o
Oh poor @Wolfychu, I am so sorry sweetie... being a shy person it's okay and i don't think your a weird, everyone evolve in here or his way in time...you will get it when you had confidents in yourself, i don't know what to say to you more but glad that you get over it in a way, i know it is hard and you are still a bit shy, but now you had Jorden by your side and you also become more, shore of yourself...i am so happy for you, you get out of the shell more or less and try to make new friends (virtual or real), glad you are healthy, take care of yourself, (you and Jordan)
That is good that you are getting over your anxiety Wolfychu, everyone can relate to this and I’m glad that you shared this so that others can be heard. 😊👍☺️
Fair enough, I was the quiet kid at my school the only time I do talk when I'm comfortable with some of my classmates. And nice change on your character. I have a classmate that's quiet and does sign language and very soft spoken, when she does she has a very beautiful voice when she speaks.
I've always been the quiet and kind of smart kid in school and I got used to the title so I actually thought it was kind of funny when people who don't know me finally heard me talk. I can talk when I want to or have to but I don't wanna talk to you :) i was fine raising my hand and answering questions but presenting in front of the class always made me nervous
I can relate. I also went through something very similar which spanned from 2nd grade until my last year of high school (so about 10 years). I was diagnosed with selective mutism, which is a severe anxiety disorder in which a person isn't capable of speaking in certain social situations but still capable of speaking properly. In my case it was at school. I was sort of able to get by at first by whispering to staff or a few people but as I entered high school, I was extremely lonely since being social around others was an essential part of being in high school. At one point I wanted to drop out because I couldn't stand the loneliness while everyone else was socializing, but with the help of some staff, I decided that I wanted to overcome my selective mutism. It wasn't an easy process as it was slow and steady. I've had many failed attempts throughout my school years in trying to speak but this time it was different as I now had a reason for wanting to speak. As the years went by I was able to slowly get comfortable in speaking to certain people and without having to point or whisper (in a small setting). I was even able to do my senior presentation in front of a classroom which was a big accomplishment for me. Even after that I was still mute in my last days of high school but all of that changed once I entered college. Fast forward to my college years and today, I can still get a bit shy and still be soft spoken, but now I am capable of speaking in front of other people and I'm glad to have overcome my selective mutism, for the better. And I'm also glad that you were able to overcome your social anxiety Wolfy as you're not the only one who's had to go through this. You've come such a long way and I'm glad you shared this story! ❤
I think I’ve spoken more through comments than I ever have to another person. Also, it’s good to see Wolfy has also joined the Church of Anya, judging by her artwork.
I can relate to Wolfychus quietness and shyness… heck even now I’m not a confident I’ve been very lonely for a long time, I don’t feel as lonely anymore thanks to friends I’ve made online and I made two friends I hang out with at college. Glad you were able to get confidence Wolfy 💙🤍
Ohhh! I have a similar story to this.. It wasn’t me, but it was one of my friends! Basically, I was friends with two other girls and one of them didn’t talk to ANYONE at all except her friend. Whenever I’d talk to her, she’d whisper her answer into her friend’s ear and she’d tell me instead. I suspected at one point that she could’ve had selective mutism.
People are not obligated to your time, attention or to your voice If you are not feeling comfortable talking then that IS a valid reason! Never feel ashamed of doing things in your way as long as it helps you to cope/not harming you or anybody else!
You've grown so much Wolfychu, I'm so proud of you! To say that I can relate, is definitely an understatement. I'm very much the same way. I never speak to people unless I need to. I'm extremely shy and self-conscious like you are, and I'm still working on getting out of my shell to this day. Just sharing my voice on the internet alone fills me with so much pressure and anxiety. I wasn't really into making friends back into my school days because I was always afraid of getting hurt, and I never felt like I really fit in with anyone. I always pushed others away from me when I was a kid whenever other students tried to talk to me. It makes me happy to see how much you've grown and come out of your shell. I'm not the type to open up to others easily as well, and me being the way I am is one of those reasons. Keep being confident in who you are Wolfy and never change! You fill all our lives with happiness and wholesomeness. Send my regards to Jordan and Mochi! 💖
As a person that barely talks at school My nickname was “Mute Boy” because I barely talked at all because I have ADD and I take capsules to help me focus, but obviously they don’t, I use mostly expressions,actions, and sign language to speak because I’m an awkward person, for the people that can’t speak up a lot, you don’t have to talk unless you want to, I’ve been in the situation before.
I'm studying in a foreign country , and though I can somewhat speak the common language of those around me , it's still a struggle and I much rather stay quiet . My parents always joke about how I may gradually end up being mute because of my reclusive attitude . Well this video made me realize that can happen ... I'll be more careful ...
4:21 Anya reference 4:06 Smol intensifies also I'm glad you shared this wolfychu, it's always great to hear from you and your stories! always, always make an effort to improve but do it at your own pace, take your time and it'll be alright.
Your skin used to be white Now it's skin color All the years I've been following you You have changed drastically You got even better and your voice of course is still so beautiful
Well your vids can teach a lot wolfy just be honest with yourself when meeting new people I gonna be honest that I didn't executed the best when making freinds but yeah over time you just need go ahead your vid can help a lot of people who have problem with communicate with others and this bring a great message to them
Opening up happened in reverse for me. I was bullied due to my autism. I try to keep quiet now and not really do much because I’ve been bullied. I should stand up for myself.
3:26 "It's probably for attention." That... doesn't make sense. Why would someone who is desperate for attention refuse to speak? At the very least, wouldn't they get bored of that eventually and try something else? I'm not saying that "tHeY'Re dOiNg iT fOr aTteNtIoN" is a smart, good, or helpful thing to say in general. It's just that it's particularly nonsensical in this case.
I can relate. I have autism and back when I was really young I wouldn't talk to anyone except my immediate family or friends I felt comfortable with. I would also eventually talk to my teachers once I became comfortable with them. Even today I am slightly uncommunicative with people I don't know, but I'm getting better.
I appreciate this video a ton! I've done this many times in my life. The description of not being able to speak with the nodding and shaking the head is something I've dealt with. It was weird because I'm autistic, and my family knew about it, but because I typically wasn't non-verbal, so they didn't get it. People just being kind, and talking to you without making a big deal about it helps a ton. Thank you!
After some realization and thought, being an animator is a huge risk. You could be animating a masterpiece of a video and not be guaranteed that you will get the appraisal or views/likes/subscribes from viewers. Animators deserve respect upon this level. Wow. I never thought about it like this myself.
You're doing amazing right now. People change...or life changes us...idk, but this is a very relatable story. While I didn't have a 2 year period of not entirely speaking, I definitely had a few years of fear and anxiety while speaking in class or with different people. So thanks for sharing and you're a big inspiration!
I just got interrupted or basically wasn't allowed to talk because other people mostly adults were ALWAYS talking, like non-stop So I would just either be silent for most of the day or just go up to my room and get away from people. I never really stopped talking altogether, but I sort of get that you wouldn't find much of a point in talking. You don't usually get something across that people don't already know or is somehow important. Not to mention sensory overload and just general shyness, I guess? I also believed I was a cat for a long time, I just really liked cats. I could both miauw like a cat and hiss, breathing through my nose and mouth at the same time and other things. People always thought I was weird, but cats are just my spirit animals.
This is very relatable wolfy happend to me before where i cannot make friends in new schools and im super silent in new schools so dont worry wolfy i gotchu 👌
that is so true i also haven't talked, except i i only spoke for the first time when i was 4 almost 5 and the first thing i have ever said in my life it was just a word it was a sentence, which was "the fish was in the water"
Man I know that feeling you try to explain. I had the exact same feeling when I was a kid. People thought I was weird. But now I am older I have that feeling way less. It comes up sometimes but not as much as it was before. I’m glad you have grown as well Wolfy. You are a great person❤️
I can relate to this I can talk to people I know well but whenever I have to speak to someone I'm not familiar with I get really nervous and it's like the part of my brain that is responsible for communication just shuts down. I can only answer them when they ask me a question, but it's really hard for me to hold a conversation with someone I don't know. At this point, my classmates have kind of stopped trying to talk to me (I don't blame them) and I kind of feel like a big dissapointment
You're not a disappointment, you're just a normal person who is struggling with social anxiety. Don't feel like people have any right of ignoring you, they should still treat you normally an respect you because you're a human being who deserves all the love in the world. I had the same experiences years ago so trust me when I said you'll get pass this. I'm sure you're already doing your best so don't beat yourself up about it, please!
When I was little I stayed inside and I was never really able to see other kids other then at school. This caused me to be very shy when I moved from my big citie to a small town, especially since I barely saw my dad and I lived with my grandma for a while. When school started up I was so shy I basically would do nothing. I sat there like an ice block frozen to my desk. It doesn't help that it was my first time in an area were I was allowed outsise. I was used to being inside at home so my grandma would force me outside to make friends. No kids lived in her neighborhood though... A little after school started we had an apartment and moved out of my grandmas. So at recess I would be that one kid sitting in the grass playing with it and humming a simple toon to herself...😅 which isn't my personality at all. I'm very bright and bubbly and when I hum I'm bouncing up and down until a word slips out and then I'm bealting my heart out.😂 Back to the story, so when I was inside I was even more scared then outside cuz of all the people. Fast forward to like two and a half months in and I still have no friends. One day my teacher tells us we have to do a project with a group. So we put oyr tables together in groups of five, or four I can't remember, and start brain storming. Now even though I'm a terrified ice berg I'm still a smart cookie so I emidetly want my opinion hot on the table. I tell them my idea and then one of the other boys does to, let's call him Killer cuz he's the killer of my dreams. Killer and me didn't have the same opinion and that led to full on war! He emidetly got upset and it went on, us being upset for around five minutes before he said something I think he regretted a LOT. That day I'd been wearing my favorite charm bracelet I'd asked for since the beginning of time basically. It was the last thing I got as a present when my parent's were still together. Killer said he would break my charm bracelet in half if I didn't side with him... I snapped like a twig.😭 The tears came full force down my tiny little cheeks. I looked like someone had slapped me hard in the face. Regret came over him like a tsunami and he was deeply sorry. But my insides kept crying cuz I couldn't keep it in anymore. In the end I got an apology, ge got a stern talking to, and I was sad at my desk. The only good from this was one thing, a friendly voice telling me it was ok and that Killer was a jerk. My bff to this day, let's call her Olive. So in a way that bad moment made the best friendship bloom.😇 I'm 14 and this happened when I was 9 and it still warms my heart to think about, but also sadness it a little.😢😇 Hope you enjoyed the extra story!
3:14 aww, that was so nice of her to do! ♥ I'm a shy person too! I really wish i had a friend like her Next month I'm going to highschool, and i don't really like speaking to people, because genuinely they speak filipino, im a filipino too and i know some filipino words i just hate pronouncing and reading in that language. Have a nice day! 💙
I went through a stage of going silent whenever I was upset, also for about two years, but then I got a different teacher and she didn’t know how to deal with it, so I gradually stopped, but I still sometimes feel like going silent when I’m upset. Oh, I think what I did is called “selective mutism” but I could be wrong
I also had a friend who didn't speak much at all. We were both second graders and everyone tried their best to make him talk to them. Because of this, I felt that I didn't have any friends at all myself because I was ignored while he was always paid attention to. However, I was one of the first people he talked to. He started whispering things in my ear, and I think that he felt a kinship with me because we were both Korean and we were both blind individuals. It really warmed my heart. Looking back now, I feel so sorry for feeling like he had more friends than me and getting jealous about it, I'm just glad that he trusted me. I'm sure the girl you talked to feels the same way, and know that there are always people like me who are there for you in tough times like these. :)
I can relate a lot to this video! Wolfychu had improved so much, I'm also a silent person as well, I don't talk much in school because I get anxious a lot or having anxiety, I'm also usually at the back of the classroom to. I also love Komi can't communicate because it also relates to me so much and I'm currently getting all of the Komi can't communicate manga. Since I watched this AMAZING video, I think this will help me a lot step by step and taking time till I get there. Thank you Wolfychu, your the best!
I like the new ears and hair I just like everything new about it, your a talented artist and if anyone tells you to stop don't because you believe in yourself and shouldn't care what anyone says your you because your unique for what you do so don't stop. (p.s never give up, and always do what makes you happy.) edit: I also like how knows komi can't communicate, that's the best anime in my opinion.
I understand this so much. For a lot of my life I was in the same position. Sometimes I break down again and it is difficult to get myself back to that point without people who I one hundred percent trust helping me. Komi is above all a good show for those like myself. Unable to communicate without pushing ourselves and extremely inept socially unless in very specific circumstances
Tend to distance myself from others. Some people do walk up to me and compliment me and stuff and I give a quiet low response. I want to make friends but I'm scared, and anxious, I have online friends and I always express my fun side, loud side, and all the hyper things I would talk about etc. Thanks Wolfy for this relatable video! 😊❤️
I am like that too! There’s no need to be ashamed of it! Your story is so similar to mine it’s crazy… I was very quiet and no one talked to me until this one girl randomly started to talk to me and we eventually became friends. I’m glad I’m not the only one, but still it’s crazy how similar we are!
You’ve come so far since then. You’re doing amazing ♥️
Yep
No doubt sweeto
@@cody.chambers.9421 third, well I expected her to tell you anyway jordan
@@y0ur0fficalp00ki3 I mean yeah he must know almost anything about wolfy
hiii
This honestly sounds a lot like selective/situational mutism. I struggle with it and this feels like you just entered my mind.
(Not diagnosing just a possible explanation)
I'm glad you said this, because it's one of the few things most kids suffer from but people just can't seem to understand, S.M. Is not something that people can't just overcome but something that can be adapted to, in wolf's case I'd say minor signs of it but I aint no expert nor a Doc of it, and I'm happy you had good people to help you back then, but I'm getting off topic, love the video's and the fan base that is chill and loving. Hope both you and then keep enjoying the content
Had a cousin who had this and it sounds exactly like it
Yeah that's what I thought
That’s a huge confession to make Wolfy, not many people like silent people. I am a silent person so I relate A LOT ❤️
Damn so true
No doubt
@@julianrodriguez2721 should I report don't read my profile photo?
@@theenderkirby nah it's fine, not hurting anybody
Same.
It's not mute, as mute is actually unable to speak. This is selective mutism and I think it deserves more recognition as I had it and no one knew about it. They all either assumed I was full on mute or really shy.
My mom tried putting me in speech therapy in middle school, but I hated that.
I think I was in some sort of speech therapy in kindergarten too
it's always great to hear what helped people get through their social anxiety 💖
With simple approach and determination you can achive a lot
@@theenderkirby yup
I can honestly relate to being really shy offline, but a chatterbug when online. It's really cool to see how far you've come and congrats! 💙
I think we call that shitposting
hey, i have a different story. it's good that you at least talk to the people you know. How would you react if a person that you know, while you were having fun and playing minecraft or something, suddenly just stopped talking? For about 8 hours? I'd assume they have someone who doesn't like their presence online behind them, like an annoying sister, but then they'd break out with a "FINE IM DONE BEING SHUT. when replied to "why'd you do that?" he'd go "JUST CAUSE, HAHAHAHA. I'LL CONTINUE JUST BECAUSE I WANNA BE OBNOXIOUS, CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH" type of things? I am seeing a lot of comments relate to the video, but due to my experience with a friend i've known for 4 years online im kind of hating on all of this. It's recent, and they've been "normal" all this other 3 years and 9 months prior.
I know the feeling Wolfy, when I was in highschool I was an extremely shy, quiet boy and I didn't get confident speaking to others until after graduation.
Well hope you have better times with speaking with others
Yeah Same.
Trust me i didn’t judge you because there’s a lot of people out there who can relate to you it’s definitely okay to feel that way especially when you’re an introvert , new school and new environment and new language all of these things are overwhelming for anyone whoever it is so that’s completely understandable and i would say im proud of you because you were healing , maybe at first you thought that you weren’t making any progress at all but the results showed that you did make progress but on your on way so you should be proud of yourself, confessing about something you were insecure about shows how your confidence has increased
True
Yeah, I'm an introvert and I sometimes try to talk but the teachers would always pressure me to speak louder when I still have anxiety talking with others my voice is quiet and low but I still try my best to communicate but it's annoying how they pressure me, that's why I would rather not talk at all
@@classical232 that’s completely understandable just make sure that you don’t take it personally because at the end of the day you know your reasons no one needs to know about them whoever it is because they simply won’t understand , its not your fault that you have anxiety so just avoid what they’re saying to you because you don’t have to prove anything to anyone they’re not worth your energy and time so just let them be
This was so relatable. So glad you shared this story. I’m sure it’s gonna help a lot of people
@Don't Read My Profile Photo can you please stop this?
@@theenderkirby agreed it’s so annoying
@@thedraftingax5963 should I report him
I literally report anyone who says that in a cringy way cuz its annoying like fr
@@Aiaiueueuej well I don't judge you for that if this just an attempt to get attention so don't read isn't okay
Glad that you are getting over your anxiety. Anyone can be affected by it, weather it's big or small dose. It's always good for people to get out of their shell.😊
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I go nonverbal involuntarily when I get really overwhelmed and it sucks a lot. My family doesn’t understand when I can’t talk and they end up freaked out. Like I wish I could tell them it’s okay but I can’t when I’m in that space. I’m glad that you were able to find good people that helped your confidence
Wolfy is one of the first animators I’ve ever seen, and I’m so happy to be able to witness how far she’s grown! 💖
Same, it made me got into Animation memes
Well she learnt me to accept the past
@Don't Read My Profile Photo *Screw u* 😅
@Don't Read My Profile Photo WHY
i had the opposite problem. i never shut up bc it made people uncomfortable when i didnt talk but now im learning to let myself go nonverbal when i need to. im glad that its possible to find healing now
That's really relatable for me. For many years I also didn't talked to anyone back then besides my parents since I didn't see any reason to make friends or communicate with anyone besides the people I know. It took only 2 years to get better when I got into a better school. Now I'm in college and I think I can talk to anyone now without any problems. I think everyone just get better with communication as they grow up. It could depend from person to person so yeah. I'm still pretty much an introvert and don't talk to people unless I want to but that doesn't stop me from interacting with new people and making new friends now :D
Well I happy you can make freinds with easier time
hey, i have a different story. it's good that you at least talk to the people you know. How would you react if a person that you know, while you were having fun and playing minecraft or something, suddenly just stopped talking? For about 8 hours? I'd assume they have someone who doesn't like their presence online behind them, like an annoying sister, but then they'd break out with a "FINE IM DONE BEING SHUT. when replied to "why'd you do that?" he'd go "JUST CAUSE, HAHAHAHA. I'LL CONTINUE JUST BECAUSE I WANNA BE OBNOXIOUS, CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH CAN'T HOLD MY LAUGH" type of things? I am seeing a lot of comments relate to the video, but due to my experience with a friend i've known for 4 years online im kind of hating on all of this. It's recent, and they've been "normal" all this other 3 years and 9 months prior.
This was really relatable for me because I barely spoke a word. Every word Wolfy said just reminded me of how I was when I was younger, and I still kind of feel that way! I can completely understand what Wolfy had went through and I’m glad she’s speaking out. 💖
Thank you for sharing your story Wolfy.
I was also very very silent front of people as a child and I still am at 23 😅 but I'm working on improving 😊
Having been in your exact same situation (new school, new country, new language), I really empathise with you and I’m glad that you’re better now.
I love how your art style has improved over the years, it’s inspiring :]
Is a pure results of hard work and high quality put into the vid
😄😄 i
i know a friend who was in my pe class in middle school who never spoke a single word, all the teachers knew about it and she only spoke when she was really forced to. even when communicating with me, who has known her for two years, she didn't bother speaking and we would talk to her in yes or no questions or she would use her fingers using 1 or 2 to communicate with us. she told us that she just chose not to speak and we were okay with it
great job bringing this to the world for people to understand that things like this exist
I actually feel bad for you now Wolfy. You know what, Komi Can't Communicate actually is perfect example for your issue because Komi also was very quiet and she had communication problems but she tries to make friends and Tadano has to help her do that. Just like how your friend helped you as well.
Well with good will and a simple approach is help a lot with communication
Damn, you actually took my idea XD
Be like chadano people
"chadano" im gonna have to thank you for that name, previous commenter
I'm autistic and I absolutely get what you mean. I'm semi-verbal, but I prefer not talking. I had had a time where I definitely forced myself to talk which results in me not speaking at all due to overwhelm and tiredness of forcing myself to talk. I absolutely relate to everything in this video. If it still happens to you, there's ways to overcome it if you want! Sign language is comfortable for a lot of people I know, or writing if it's less attention grabbing to you. Either way, what you felt is completely valid.
everyone: *just being everyone*
teacher: *calls on wolfychu*
wolfy: and at that moment i knew...it was all over
Wolfy’s and Tabbes’ stories are great, they speak about how two completely different people in completely different situations can end up with the same problem.
The part where people would try to talk to you but you would only respond with a nod is actually how I’ve been in school from 6th grade to 12th grade. I think it might’ve been because all my friends went to a different middle school
This is sooo relatable.
Atleast you asked about where's the toilet right ?
Right ?
@@circlejerk8828 lol yes I did, but quietly
Can we appreciate her sweet Spanish pronunciation at 4:45 🌸🌸🌸
For 2 whole years? 😧wow. As an extrovert, I can’t even handle shutting up for more than 5 minutes.
Anyway STAY WELL WOLFY☺️hope you and Jordan are doing alright! Thank you for another video
This was so inspiring to me, thank you so much for this video! I'll explain why I find it inspiring
I relate with the video, but from a different beginning. When I was 5 I talked, but then I got beaten up a lot because I was in a bad school. After all the physical bullying I went mute so people would leave me alone but it didnt help, it made it worse. Then people started bullying me for being quiet and made it worse.
Also I am so glad you mentioned the part about the "cute shy," it doesnt work that way in real life. Real people find mutes to be annoying and weird and they always assume its for attention.
I watched your improvement (I've been here since before your first voice reveal), and after watching you go through everything you have its been inspiring me to talk more. Its scary, and I cant shake off that fear that I'll make people upset by talking (because I used to get beaten up for it), but I am setting a goal now to start talking more and being more open like you are. I've been getting better but I have a long way to go. Thank you for your videos!
I can somewhat relate. I didn’t start talking until I was 5. Also, I’ve been taking behavioral medicine since I was around 8 years old so I can talk more. Mainly because I’m autistic.
This is really relatable. I’m very quiet and shy person and I can relate💜 I get really nervous when I need to talk😅😥
I love ur content it's kinda matches my childhood lol but keep up the good work and make sure you have lots of rest, eat well, and drink lots of water
wolfy I love your art! I just want to say I went through this too. I was mute most of my childhood. Now after watching your cat video I want to tell you something a bit interesting. What got me to be more vocal was getting a cat except I would only meow and even thought that I was a cat in a past life. They had me see a school psych/therapist and speech therapist for a few years. I did start talking to people that I felt comfortable with over time but I had a really bad stutter at first. I have Tourette's and severe social anxiety along with generalized and separation anxiety. It's gotten better over the years but has left me with a lot of stories and awkward moments. So I wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories and your art. I am an artist and your art has inspired me to want to draw more often on more than one occasion. Especially when I was in art school. I can relate to many stories because even when I started to talk I was always soft-spoken and had a lot of awkward moments in life. You are amazing!
this comment is kinda underrated
I've been watching your videos for 4 years. You really inspired me to start animating and if I hadn't watched your videos my channel probably would not exist.
You also inspired me to start drawing realistic art! Your an amazing and talented artist and you will forever be my favorite TH-camr!
@Don't Read My Profile Photo oh poyo off bot
Well nice to know your insparation if this make you happy I am happy for you ^^
I can relate. Whenever I move to a new school, I couldn't bring myself to talk to others on my own because I was very shy. I did make quite a number of friends though, but that was because they either approached me first or because they simply hung out at the places I would normally go during recess.
04:21 POV: Wolfychu is Anya in disguise.
I'm so proud of you wolfychu!! Your art is just wow! You inspired me to draw now I'm the artist in my class, Thank you.
It’s good to see you came out of your shell
Nicely done Wolfy ✨✨
You mean stop to shy from the case?
@@theenderkirby that too
Okay your drawing style is so cute 🥺
I had the three same things, going to France as a kid, didn’t know anyone or the language and! They ended up putting me in a big school (yr 7) thinking I was older when I was only in like year 4. 👍 I ended up being quiet and having learning difficulties. Lucky me.
I really love these story times because they are all so interesting and cute with wolfy’s voice telling all of it
As a person with adhd, it's always good to see people that are more energetic then even me, I love the content and you should keep it up, you always are able to make my day and make me laugh, Thank you :o
Oh poor @Wolfychu, I am so sorry sweetie... being a shy person it's okay and i don't think your a weird, everyone evolve in here or his way in time...you will get it when you had confidents in yourself, i don't know what to say to you more but glad that you get over it in a way, i know it is hard and you are still a bit shy, but now you had Jorden by your side and you also become more, shore of yourself...i am so happy for you, you get out of the shell more or less and try to make new friends (virtual or real), glad you are healthy, take care of yourself, (you and Jordan)
Glad you got through it, I also was a pretty quiet person for some time. So it’s pretty relatable.
I really like how your art tells your story along with your voice. It really helps me to understand. Thank you for sharing your story.
Wolfychu has been through so much to get to where she is today. Thank you for being you and sharing your stories with us!
I relate to this so much. I have social anxiety as well and it still plagues me to this day.
Your voice is ADORABLE!
That is good that you are getting over your anxiety Wolfychu, everyone can relate to this and I’m glad that you shared this so that others can be heard. 😊👍☺️
Woah I havent seen this channel in a while and the oc is cuter then before
I think I missed some video she upload but that's okay :)
@@Thewolfguys.cartoons2000 shr confirmed on her V tube channel that she gonna use both her old and new designs
Fair enough, I was the quiet kid at my school the only time I do talk when I'm comfortable with some of my classmates. And nice change on your character. I have a classmate that's quiet and does sign language and very soft spoken, when she does she has a very beautiful voice when she speaks.
I've always been the quiet and kind of smart kid in school and I got used to the title so I actually thought it was kind of funny when people who don't know me finally heard me talk. I can talk when I want to or have to but I don't wanna talk to you :)
i was fine raising my hand and answering questions but presenting in front of the class always made me nervous
I can relate. I also went through something very similar which spanned from 2nd grade until my last year of high school (so about 10 years). I was diagnosed with selective mutism, which is a severe anxiety disorder in which a person isn't capable of speaking in certain social situations but still capable of speaking properly. In my case it was at school. I was sort of able to get by at first by whispering to staff or a few people but as I entered high school, I was extremely lonely since being social around others was an essential part of being in high school. At one point I wanted to drop out because I couldn't stand the loneliness while everyone else was socializing, but with the help of some staff, I decided that I wanted to overcome my selective mutism.
It wasn't an easy process as it was slow and steady. I've had many failed attempts throughout my school years in trying to speak but this time it was different as I now had a reason for wanting to speak. As the years went by I was able to slowly get comfortable in speaking to certain people and without having to point or whisper (in a small setting). I was even able to do my senior presentation in front of a classroom which was a big accomplishment for me. Even after that I was still mute in my last days of high school but all of that changed once I entered college.
Fast forward to my college years and today, I can still get a bit shy and still be soft spoken, but now I am capable of speaking in front of other people and I'm glad to have overcome my selective mutism, for the better. And I'm also glad that you were able to overcome your social anxiety Wolfy as you're not the only one who's had to go through this. You've come such a long way and I'm glad you shared this story! ❤
I think I’ve spoken more through comments than I ever have to another person. Also, it’s good to see Wolfy has also joined the Church of Anya, judging by her artwork.
I can relate to Wolfychus quietness and shyness… heck even now I’m not a confident I’ve been very lonely for a long time, I don’t feel as lonely anymore thanks to friends I’ve made online and I made two friends I hang out with at college. Glad you were able to get confidence Wolfy 💙🤍
Keep the grind king
Yeah, online ppl can help a bit v:
But I do not go to uni v:
@@circlejerk8828 yes keep on going
Ohhh! I have a similar story to this..
It wasn’t me, but it was one of my friends! Basically, I was friends with two other girls and one of them didn’t talk to ANYONE at all except her friend. Whenever I’d talk to her, she’d whisper her answer into her friend’s ear and she’d tell me instead. I suspected at one point that she could’ve had selective mutism.
Looks like Wolfy and Tabbes have something in common
People are not obligated to your time, attention or to your voice
If you are not feeling comfortable talking then that IS a valid reason!
Never feel ashamed of doing things in your way as long as it helps you to cope/not harming you or anybody else!
You've grown so much Wolfychu, I'm so proud of you!
To say that I can relate, is definitely an understatement. I'm very much the same way. I never speak to people unless I need to. I'm extremely shy and self-conscious like you are, and I'm still working on getting out of my shell to this day. Just sharing my voice on the internet alone fills me with so much pressure and anxiety. I wasn't really into making friends back into my school days because I was always afraid of getting hurt, and I never felt like I really fit in with anyone. I always pushed others away from me when I was a kid whenever other students tried to talk to me. It makes me happy to see how much you've grown and come out of your shell. I'm not the type to open up to others easily as well, and me being the way I am is one of those reasons.
Keep being confident in who you are Wolfy and never change! You fill all our lives with happiness and wholesomeness. Send my regards to Jordan and Mochi! 💖
I am the loudest person I've ever met, so I definitely wouldn't be able to go through that, I love how strong you are!
I can relate to this so much I was always the shy type when I was a kid but know I am very social now I'm happy you made this video Wolfy ❤️
As a person that barely talks at school
My nickname was “Mute Boy” because I barely talked at all because I have ADD and I take capsules to help me focus, but obviously they don’t, I use mostly expressions,actions, and sign language to speak because I’m an awkward person, for the people that can’t speak up a lot, you don’t have to talk unless you want to, I’ve been in the situation before.
1:52 can we talk how Wolfy draw Komi-san so well? 😭😍
This is nice to hear, since I grew up with selective mutism I could never talk at school-practically the same experience each year
I'm studying in a foreign country , and though I can somewhat speak the common language of those around me , it's still a struggle and I much rather stay quiet . My parents always joke about how I may gradually end up being mute because of my reclusive attitude .
Well this video made me realize that can happen ... I'll be more careful ...
4:21
Anya reference
4:06 Smol intensifies
also I'm glad you shared this wolfychu, it's always great to hear from you and your stories! always, always make an effort to improve but do it at your own pace, take your time and it'll be alright.
Your skin used to be white
Now it's skin color
All the years I've been following you
You have changed drastically
You got even better
and your voice of course is still so beautiful
Well she kept quality with her work
@@theenderkirby and this quality keeps getting better from video to video
Absolutely love the Anya face! Incredible art as always
Well your vids can teach a lot wolfy just be honest with yourself when meeting new people I gonna be honest that I didn't executed the best when making freinds but yeah over time you just need go ahead your vid can help a lot of people who have problem with communicate with others and this bring a great message to them
Opening up happened in reverse for me. I was bullied due to my autism. I try to keep quiet now and not really do much because I’ve been bullied. I should stand up for myself.
I love your art and glad there's another video!😀
Your story really is relatable Wolfy. It really is difficult to make friends when being a quiet person, but it’ll be better in the future. ^^
With simple approach and optimism will help you a lot with making freinds
3:26
"It's probably for attention." That... doesn't make sense. Why would someone who is desperate for attention refuse to speak? At the very least, wouldn't they get bored of that eventually and try something else?
I'm not saying that "tHeY'Re dOiNg iT fOr aTteNtIoN" is a smart, good, or helpful thing to say in general. It's just that it's particularly nonsensical in this case.
I just got a girl friend and I found your vids so I subbed you, it helped my life alot tysm Wolfychu!
I can relate. I have autism and back when I was really young I wouldn't talk to anyone except my immediate family or friends I felt comfortable with. I would also eventually talk to my teachers once I became comfortable with them. Even today I am slightly uncommunicative with people I don't know, but I'm getting better.
I think it was something called “selective muteness”
I appreciate this video a ton! I've done this many times in my life. The description of not being able to speak with the nodding and shaking the head is something I've dealt with. It was weird because I'm autistic, and my family knew about it, but because I typically wasn't non-verbal, so they didn't get it. People just being kind, and talking to you without making a big deal about it helps a ton. Thank you!
Oh my gosh your art is so cute and pretty!
After some realization and thought, being an animator is a huge risk. You could be animating a masterpiece of a video and not be guaranteed that you will get the appraisal or views/likes/subscribes from viewers. Animators deserve respect upon this level. Wow. I never thought about it like this myself.
Yes, but based animator do it anyway. Not for fame but for spite
You're doing amazing right now. People change...or life changes us...idk, but this is a very relatable story. While I didn't have a 2 year period of not entirely speaking, I definitely had a few years of fear and anxiety while speaking in class or with different people. So thanks for sharing and you're a big inspiration!
I just got interrupted or basically wasn't allowed to talk because other people mostly adults were ALWAYS talking, like non-stop
So I would just either be silent for most of the day or just go up to my room and get away from people.
I never really stopped talking altogether, but I sort of get that you wouldn't find much of a point in talking. You don't usually get something across that people don't already know or is somehow important. Not to mention sensory overload and just general shyness, I guess?
I also believed I was a cat for a long time, I just really liked cats. I could both miauw like a cat and hiss, breathing through my nose and mouth at the same time and other things.
People always thought I was weird, but cats are just my spirit animals.
This is HUGELY relatable. 💙 it makes me happy to know I wasn’t alone and that others went through similar experiences
Watching this makes me feel better about me not taking alot in school anymore but i have friends and i like listing not talking:)
This is very relatable wolfy happend to me before where i cannot make friends in new schools and im super silent in new schools so dont worry wolfy i gotchu 👌
0:46 love the fit xx
that is so true i also haven't talked, except i i only spoke for the first time when i was 4 almost 5 and the first thing i have ever said in my life it was just a word it was a sentence, which was "the fish was in the water"
Man I know that feeling you try to explain. I had the exact same feeling when I was a kid. People thought I was weird. But now I am older I have that feeling way less. It comes up sometimes but not as much as it was before. I’m glad you have grown as well Wolfy. You are a great person❤️
I can relate to this
I can talk to people I know well but whenever I have to speak to someone I'm not familiar with I get really nervous and it's like the part of my brain that is responsible for communication just shuts down. I can only answer them when they ask me a question, but it's really hard for me to hold a conversation with someone I don't know.
At this point, my classmates have kind of stopped trying to talk to me (I don't blame them) and I kind of feel like a big dissapointment
You're not a disappointment, you're just a normal person who is struggling with social anxiety. Don't feel like people have any right of ignoring you, they should still treat you normally an respect you because you're a human being who deserves all the love in the world. I had the same experiences years ago so trust me when I said you'll get pass this. I'm sure you're already doing your best so don't beat yourself up about it, please!
When I was little I stayed inside and I was never really able to see other kids other then at school. This caused me to be very shy when I moved from my big citie to a small town, especially since I barely saw my dad and I lived with my grandma for a while.
When school started up I was so shy I basically would do nothing. I sat there like an ice block frozen to my desk. It doesn't help that it was my first time in an area were I was allowed outsise. I was used to being inside at home so my grandma would force me outside to make friends. No kids lived in her neighborhood though... A little after school started we had an apartment and moved out of my grandmas.
So at recess I would be that one kid sitting in the grass playing with it and humming a simple toon to herself...😅 which isn't my personality at all. I'm very bright and bubbly and when I hum I'm bouncing up and down until a word slips out and then I'm bealting my heart out.😂
Back to the story, so when I was inside I was even more scared then outside cuz of all the people. Fast forward to like two and a half months in and I still have no friends.
One day my teacher tells us we have to do a project with a group. So we put oyr tables together in groups of five, or four I can't remember, and start brain storming. Now even though I'm a terrified ice berg I'm still a smart cookie so I emidetly want my opinion hot on the table.
I tell them my idea and then one of the other boys does to, let's call him Killer cuz he's the killer of my dreams. Killer and me didn't have the same opinion and that led to full on war!
He emidetly got upset and it went on, us being upset for around five minutes before he said something I think he regretted a LOT.
That day I'd been wearing my favorite charm bracelet I'd asked for since the beginning of time basically. It was the last thing I got as a present when my parent's were still together.
Killer said he would break my charm bracelet in half if I didn't side with him...
I snapped like a twig.😭
The tears came full force down my tiny little cheeks. I looked like someone had slapped me hard in the face. Regret came over him like a tsunami and he was deeply sorry. But my insides kept crying cuz I couldn't keep it in anymore.
In the end I got an apology, ge got a stern talking to, and I was sad at my desk.
The only good from this was one thing, a friendly voice telling me it was ok and that Killer was a jerk. My bff to this day, let's call her Olive.
So in a way that bad moment made the best friendship bloom.😇
I'm 14 and this happened when I was 9 and it still warms my heart to think about, but also sadness it a little.😢😇
Hope you enjoyed the extra story!
3:14 aww, that was so nice of her to do! ♥ I'm a shy person too! I really wish i had a friend like her
Next month I'm going to highschool, and i don't really like speaking to people, because genuinely they speak filipino, im a filipino too and i know some filipino words i just hate pronouncing and reading in that language.
Have a nice day! 💙
I went through a stage of going silent whenever I was upset, also for about two years, but then I got a different teacher and she didn’t know how to deal with it, so I gradually stopped, but I still sometimes feel like going silent when I’m upset.
Oh, I think what I did is called “selective mutism” but I could be wrong
I also had a friend who didn't speak much at all. We were both second graders and everyone tried their best to make him talk to them. Because of this, I felt that I didn't have any friends at all myself because I was ignored while he was always paid attention to. However, I was one of the first people he talked to. He started whispering things in my ear, and I think that he felt a kinship with me because we were both Korean and we were both blind individuals. It really warmed my heart. Looking back now, I feel so sorry for feeling like he had more friends than me and getting jealous about it, I'm just glad that he trusted me. I'm sure the girl you talked to feels the same way, and know that there are always people like me who are there for you in tough times like these. :)
love you wolfy, ur always accepted here💕
I can relate a lot to this video! Wolfychu had improved so much, I'm also a silent person as well, I don't talk much in school because I get anxious a lot or having anxiety, I'm also usually at the back of the classroom to. I also love Komi can't communicate because it also relates to me so much and I'm currently getting all of the Komi can't communicate manga. Since I watched this AMAZING video, I think this will help me a lot step by step and taking time till I get there. Thank you Wolfychu, your the best!
The smug Anya face sent me!
I gave a AWWWWW when she said told us about how she used to whisper her answer into her friends ear that’s so cute it’s ok to be shy
I like the new ears and hair I just like everything new about it, your a talented artist and if anyone tells you to stop don't because you believe in yourself and shouldn't care what anyone says your you because your unique for what you do so don't stop. (p.s never give up, and always do what makes you happy.)
edit: I also like how knows komi can't communicate, that's the best anime in my opinion.
why is this so relatable
I understand this so much. For a lot of my life I was in the same position. Sometimes I break down again and it is difficult to get myself back to that point without people who I one hundred percent trust helping me.
Komi is above all a good show for those like myself. Unable to communicate without pushing ourselves and extremely inept socially unless in very specific circumstances
Tend to distance myself from others. Some people do walk up to me and compliment me and stuff and I give a quiet low response. I want to make friends but I'm scared, and anxious, I have online friends and I always express my fun side, loud side, and all the hyper things I would talk about etc. Thanks Wolfy for this relatable video! 😊❤️
That Spyxfamily reference
I am like that too! There’s no need to be ashamed of it! Your story is so similar to mine it’s crazy… I was very quiet and no one talked to me until this one girl randomly started to talk to me and we eventually became friends. I’m glad I’m not the only one, but still it’s crazy how similar we are!