not true! some times you need to vent and you trust certain people,but you don't trust certain people in able to vent! I have a few very good and true friends!
1. They forget everything you say in every single way (they should be listening) 2. They make fake plans with you 3. They don't make a real effort at all (busy people get things done) 4. They're selfish (they always want something from you) 5. They gossip (vibes speak louder than words) 6. They lie all the time 7. Betrayal
Letting them in on your good news will show you just how they feel about you by how they respond...if they have to force being happy for you, they are not your friend!!!
Yes they are. Some of them want constant attention and expect a lot from you, when they haven’t actually benefited you in any way but are trying too hard to convince you about how great they are with all their grand promises that will never happen. I don’t trust people who depend on flattery to win me over for this very reason
You can also tell when someone is talking behind your back, when mutual friends/acquaintences treat you differently....I have resorted to categorizing users as "takes". So many have made the mistake of taking my kindness for weakness...after 55 years of trying to "treat others as I want to be treated" and being compassionate and generous...it has finally dawned on me that there are very few who have the same outlook,and my circle became very very small almost overnight....how sad
Your experiences in life mirror mine unfortunately. And it is not just a few bad apples either. Over half the population are fakes and takers and betrayers.
I wonder if there was a missing part to that saying. Maybe it should have gone something like this: "Treat people who you've thoroughly vetted to be worthy of you're time and attention how you want to be treated and discard the rest". Sounds harsh but think of the consequences of doing it the other way: you remain surrounded by fake people who leech away your energy, time, patience, resources, etc., etc., etc....
Me too. We just can’t .?it’s a loose battle. Nobody is this way. I think 💭 that was said by somebody who wanted to get over on people and needed victims
You're not alone, the human spirit is in a state of decay from all forms of media and fluoridated water/GMOs, etc. It really baffles me how people lie to themselves and don't see themselves become old and colder inside...more irritable & indifferent towards on another, etc.
A person is also fake with you when they arent there for you , during your suffering ,insisting they only want to hear good things ,and never allowing you to express your feelings . Everything you said here is so true.God bless uou always.🌹💖💖🎉🌷
Well sometimes I was acting fake… to my bestfriend by not being there for her while I was going through something too and I really shouldn’t have distance myself and I am still beating myself up for not living the pain with her… and not being there- I hope God knows That I am really hoping that this is not the end of our friendship
Most people aren't your friends anyway but are just being polite to you so they can work with you as a co-worker, a client or a neighbor etc. And in a way that's ok. You can't be friends with everybody anyway. Just don't mistake them for something they're not.
I think it's important to differentiate between "fake" and "not aligned." People who are being fake are aware of their intentions whereas people who are not aligned with you, simply don't identify your value or feel as though your value is beneficial to them but still recognize the need to treat you with empathy. Huge difference between a fake person and a nice person. Nice doesn't always mean being pleasant, but really just doing the right thing. A nice person isn't always aware of their intentions either.
A quote from a lady named Jess....”if you need a person to agree with you and see the world like you in order to value them, then you don’t love people, you love yourself.” Something to think about!
This is only true if everyone shared the same values but the fact is there are many people who either do direct harm and/or look the other way when people they support do harm- those people don’t fit into your truism and should be fought/devalued.
Forgetting details could just mean someone is generally forgetful or perhaps they have something stressful on their mind. Plans that never come through, I generally agree but again sometimes people have stress in their lives, so that holds them back too. The thing to remember is people have stress in their lives and sometimes health problems. So you should pay attention to signs but be careful not to misinterpret them.
@Jesus Christ Agreed. Something he didn’t mention but really stands out to me as a red flag is someone that comes up to you and acts like your best friend but the moment someone else comes around they will drop you mid sentence to go talk to them.
Exactly! I smoke weed and have a lot of stress in my life and sometimes health issues. This is the main reason I cancel, can't concentrate and forget things. Its not because I'm fake or dislike someone.
Thank you for mentioning this. Especially, people with ADHS can struggle with that and might have to cancel appointments cause they didn't get things done on time. I think, nowadays, a lot of this might get interpreted as toxic behaviour, when people are just struggeling with life.
I'm seeing the ADHD comments I have it as well. I've struggled with the same things you guys have mentioned, but one of the main complaints that people have when we miss things or don't focus is, "if it were xyz you wouldn't forget, or you wouldn't miss." And while it still can happen. There is some truth to that. There is a neurological reason why that happens with us, but this is a general message. If it's an oddly specific reason like that, odds are its already gonna be known so there wouldn't be speculation on fake behavior anyway unless they truly don't understand you to which you should probably cut ties anyway. My point is that despite that fact, if a person really thinks about you all the time and wants to talk to you, even if they're not able to they will find a way the second they can, unconsciously, instinctually. And if they are just shut down generally, fine; but if that behavior is not consistent across all people they consider close, like for example they seem to forget your plans and conversations, but make plans with people at the drop of a dime easily, or telling you about other conversations they have with other people, then they just might be being fake with you, or not care about you as much as you think, or even they think they do. ADHD and weed isn't an excuse in that situation. Weed is a choice (for most unless medical which again, you would already be aware of an have no cause for speculation) and ADHD affects and debilitates us at varying levels per person greatly, but it doesn't mean we aren't capable of doing things consciously and purposely either. P.S. I know the comments made as you grow up, they're hurtful. It's also out of your control, but you gotta accept it and move past the trauma related to the undiagnosed ADHD days and ignorant comments. You know why you do things. Work to make it better, take back control, and don't make excuses with specific examples for people disrespecting your time. Don't got time to focus on that, literally lol we got ADHD, hyperfocus on your dreams and success, we got this.💯💯😁
For starters, when someone isn’t being themselves, you can never fully trust them. That means you can’t trust them with your information or problems, and you probably can’t share your good news with them either
This video really hit home for me. I had people like this in my life and recently cut them off. I no longer give my time to people who don't appreciate me.
I had a best friend "so called" for close to twenty years I put up with so much crap from her we were like sisters but it finally got to the point I had to cut contact with her it hurt but it had to happen it really hurts when you care for someone your that close to you truly don't know at all and had to cut ties with I'm sorry for you because I completely understand the feeling
Most people aren't your friends but are just being polite to you so they can work with you as a co-worker, a client or a neighbor etc. And in a way that's ok. You can't be friends with everybody anyway. Just don't mistake them for something they're not.
It would seem that the desire to have a real friend is more universal than the desire to be a real friend. Since the only difference is the amount of energy required in either case, I am left to think that having a friend is easier than being a friend.
That's the thing they are none you ur own friend. When you are broke you are broke when there's no one to talk to you talk to ur self which are the best conversations to have. By the way
I second that, my mother always used to tell me, "My girl if you have more than 5 friends you have too many"... the reason for this is because so few people are real and honestly want to be your friend 100%. Being someones friend takes alot of understanding and love and effection and emotion, so it works visa versa... I have wasted so much time trying to be the right friend for the wrong people and it almost broke me once, the rejection time and time again was just too much. Now, I dont hurry into a friendship unless the other person is sincere.
For a few years I would invite a friend to hang out with our mutual friends. She would say she was free and she was going then call the hour we should be there to say she couldn't come. It was this year we me made plans and I was the one who canceled and she was mad and angry about me it. She still mad about it.
I've gotten "call me if you're feeling bad" (while depressed) and then I do and next thing I know is the next day when the person needs a favor... Then same again the next week. Now I just smile like 'sure, I'll call you...'
I have a family member like this. She's always trying to act nice to me, but in reality she's just being fake with me. All of these signs are actual guys.
There is a family member from my husband's side who 's very bad behaviour towards me without any reason. This person turns the head to the other side when seeing me and tries to make me feel worthless. It talks to my children and reacts as if I am not present It hates me without any obvious reasons. I know that 's a problematic person, jealous of me. The bad thing is that I have to face that person and this is going on for years and years. I don't see why this happens.
Something that I have noticed about people that are betraying me, is that when other people are present, and witnessing the interaction, the betrayer is careful to reply patiently in full, well thought out answers, and appears interested, affirmative and welcoming. When onlookers are not present, or in direct messages, its like they are having a bad day, or something ( one word replying and distracted ).
I've been taken in and taken advantage of but I've gotten to the point where I haven't fallen for that from anyone again but I know one thing I've never done nor will I ever use betrayal as a vice against anyone it doesn't interest me I walk away from that
Very true words. I'm a senior and now that I look back on my life, I can now see that there were very few true friends. Most people in my past were only nice because of what they could get from me. This saddens me to the core.
I totally understand. I went to a workshop about 5 years ago and did an evaluation on how each person effected my life. I always thought of myself as having so many friends that even in old age we’d sit around together in a nursing home together. After I did the evaluation, I found I only had 2 friends that met the requirements of being a equal friend. I was crushed to figure out so many people were my friends because of what I could give them and I never noticed they never gave back. I wrote them all letters basically writing them off, ending the friendship with reason. It was and still is painful to think about. I don’t regret any of it, each of these people brought small pieces to my story in my life. They became toxic and had to go. I’m down to 2 friends now, I can depend on them 100% to be there for me, it goes both ways. I sure wish they’d have taught this lesson in first grade 😊
Just three signs in and I have a couple people in mind that I have cut ties with and almost completely cut ties with. No time for the drama and pain these people give. Thanks for making this video.
I'm actually guilty of a lot of your points...but it's because I'm an extreme introvert and have emmense social anxiety. It actually takes a lot of effort to break down my wall. I am the most loyal and caring person to the people I encounter though. I never wish ill will on anyone, friend or stranger, and I never gossip.
I’m the same. I’m introverted with crazy social anxiety and not the best at picking up on some social cues. I’ve also been stabbed in the back and fucked over many times so I am very hesitant and careful who I let in my life. But once they in they get all my loyalty and devotion
Thank you for bringing this up. We often don't like to acknowledge that we may well be making the same mistakes we so often criticize in others. But as long as we keep receiving validation of our views, we won't get challenged to wonder if maybe we play a part in perpetrating toxicity in relationships.
This is exactly why I would rather hang out with my dogs then 99% of my so called friends. I have distanced myself from most of them. Toxicity takes a permanent vacation! Btw my best friend of 35 years betrayed me. After 35 years how could she? WTF She’s gone from my group of friends. I will not tolerate me being treated like that.
@@TheJeanette53 yes I have had many “friends’ I finally had a dear friend if 35 years stab me in the back until I was dead. I would rather be by myself then surround myself with ppl. I despise most ppl. Especially ppl that say I have never had a true friend. I am 56 and have learned a few lessons a long the way. Maybe you base your self worth on the fact that you have a few close friends. I don’t care. I love me and I am number 1. I look out for me.
I like when I read the comments, that they’re always about other people. So where are these fake people at? 😂 No one is perfect, and I think we should all do a self examination too!
That's sounds exactly like some of my 'so called' friends and family. If you have big plans and goals you're trying to achieve, they'll act like they're with you but they really wanna see you fail and never prosper to anything greater than themselves. And hoping that you'll stay at the same position they're in so they won't feel so bad about they're misfortunes and lack of achievements.
Your comment is so sad but true. I realised that since I was young but I never wanted to believe it was true now that I am older I can say to you TO BELIEVE THIS SAD TRUE AND GET OVER IT QUICKLY AND JUST WORK ON YOURSELF.
@@ismailhamza4721 No I'm black. I've seen this in all ethnic groups. I just stand back and watch the same predicament we put ourselves into becoming these fakes and haters. When you realize that something's not getting you anywhere or benefiting you anything, then you become conscious of what you really want in life, then you go for it and people see that, then that's when people start switching on you and fakes show up almost instantly. Some people can't stand to see other people come up while they're sitting around waiting for that next handout. It eats them up from the inside out like the plague.
@@KaRiNa-pj9sb That's right. You have the right mindset to keep you going. You may loose some friends but you will gain more from people who respect and honor your achievements and enjoy your company for what you have accomplished. And those who turned their backs on you... let them go and never let them back in your life again because once you do they're going to repeat what they've done in the past and do nothing but slow you down from your progress in achieving your goals. That's what fake people do...
What I learned so far throughout my life is that no matter how good you are, no one will ever have the same heart as you, and if you happen to come across someone with the same heart as you that is rare and you should keep them close, most people want to waste your time or betray you and your trust for them
I love being a giver. My love language was never words of affirmation but instead acts of service. I love making those I love feel good about themselves and add some happiness to their day through the acts I do for them. Never had any problem making friends and having romantic options, everyone wants a giver right? Except very few are actually givers themselves and are just there to take advantage. Had to train myself to tell these people apart and not just see the good in everyone just because. Thanks for the video, it put into words the concepts I couldn’t express myself.
I used to as well. The problem is I have noticed that often not only do they not appreciate my generosity (in terms of giving things, being a good listener, being available, being supportive etc) - over time they actually seem to start resenting & disrespecting me for it. They certainly don’t like it if I try to express an opinion and then they often start a devaluation and discard phase.
I'd add another one. People who have the nerve and audacity to tell you something negative someone else said behind your back or a complete slanderous lie about you but won't tell you who said it. People like that boil my blood with ire. People like that are worse than the ones slandering and talking about you behind your back because they're protecting the filth.
Honestly I think #1 about remembering details is the only one you truly need. If someone is really engaging with you and takes an interest in what you're saying, they'll remember things you said and bring them up in future conversation without prompting.
Please don't forget that your friend could also be depressed when they struggle to get back to you and/or keep trying to make plans but tend to cancel them. Depression is extremely common, way more than you might think and many people are too scared or ashamed to tell their friends and/or family. So please take that into consideration and at least maybe try talking to them before dropping them completely.
@@leomduffy794 Illnesses don't care about disrespect; that doesn't mean the friend doesn't. That's why I said to talk to people before dropping them and not just told everyone to be a doormat because "maybe depression" :)
3:57 That’s so true. *“it takes 2.5 seconds to text HI. There’s 24 hours in a day, if I’m not worth 2.5 seconds of your life then you have no spot in mine”*
After that to, they'll say hi how are you and then its a lot of typing to explain your day ( or worse , nothing) bye .... Maybe ppl dont lije small talk and dont text if they have nothing to say & it may stop that other person whos busy actually doing something at the time
You are so right. My old company did each of these things. They're fake friends for sure. And that's why I left them. There was no one I could trust. And there were also backbiters there. And I don't approve of that either!
Exactly what I've been trying to express to you, Daniel, for over a year. This is why I drop so many! One of the big ones is everyone wants my help, yet they can't help me. I see it as a delay tactic to pull me away from whatever I'm doing.
Same here💁🏻♀️I’m “always” the caretaker and the giver, but I learned the hard way… Not everyone is my friend and just to Love them from a distance …sadly, but true
If there is someone who always talks about negative things of others, you should keep away from them, because you would also be the topic of their conversation when they are with others.
Honestly though, you’re such an incredible and motivating person, it feels like you just want to help people and it’s amazing, thank you for being you.
I have been betrayed enough by people. I use to as a child believed people around me as being good or trustworthy. I learned by the time I was 16 that you can't trust many people and it was better to not trust anyone until they somehow prove they can be trusted. I don't ask for help except by those very close to me. Then I pay them for their time and normally treat them to a meal. I don't count on any help from anyone. I am not bitter but 2 divorces from selfish men who want to roam is enough. I always do my best ,because I have a strong conscience , in a relationship and I don't pry into other peoples lives unless they show they need to open up and release stress. But , when it comes to people in general I don't get involved. I work and then go home. I shop alone and go to church alone! I find I like my own company and solitude! I am always friendly and respectful to everyone I meet! I smile often and like people for the most part. But I don't want to get close to anyone again! Too stressful!
Thanks for sharing this, I’ve never been married but am a child of an ugly divorce. You’ve opened my eyes to the ways i sometimes mistrust myself. I definitely enjoy my solitude as well but would you say past experience can sort of hold you in a hermit mode? I’m sure it’s different for everyone, and to each his/her own. But eyes feeling wide opened to the fact that maybe i was the one being selfish not because they were selfish but because i didnt trust myself enough and so, i went ahead and began being selfish with myself.
@@hymnhallelujahtuhaven6975 hello, yes the Hermit mode could be a problem. I make plans to go places for time to time around my regular habits and routine. I like to change up my life a bit. Go places I have not been to yet. Buy a different fruit or veggie and see if I like it. As far as trusting myself I do. I know myself enough and have had comments from others letting me know what they see in me. Ha ha if it is a man that is not getting what he wants I know he will say something not so nice to change my ways. I don't worry about them. I have enough people around me who think I am very sweet and helpful. Try not to be weak for people who will not value you. Be careful. Have a nice evening.
Outstanding Ms. E. I'm 100% the same way as you. It's the best way to be. It does hurts because you like people to reciprocate, and no one with a sound mind wants to be alone, but I rather be alone than be with a narcissist.
@@edwardperez7665 and the whole society is being trained in the ways of narcissism thanks to social media and the dumbing down of ppl from state govt "education" and church.
Thank you for this video. I have a family member or two who exhibit these words and behaviors - I have been hurt with betrayal and lack of care or concern except to gossip and lie. I get it now and do not interact for long once I begin to see these signs in people. This is valuable information so that you are not drained dry or take it too personally as they aren't really interested in developing a true reciprocal relationship.
This guy is exactly right. There are people I thought were friends and thinking back on them and I realize they always GOT something from me. I’m in a place where I could use some help, just a conversation, just some help doing errands and I have no one. People were always at my house have apparently died or been abducted
I had to reach out and tell you I heard you I am in the same boat I could talk your legs of. My own kids . And the man I love lol. All are takers and then be cone I visible they LIVE BEHIND MY FENCE. I've lived here 40 yrs and I can't move . Until I can afford .a place to live.;(. I feel like I died and no one told me
This is my second video, the other one was haters. Its incredible that you have described everyone I know. I really only have one friend I friended by mistake on Facebook to text and she always answers. The others have all the signs you shared. I'm blown away ! Thanks Daniel. I'll be watching all of your videos from now on.
Absolutely 💯 yes Stay away from those evil peoples they gone destroy your life not only your life your children’s to I am a 60 years old woman I’m suffering until now what devils Evils Jezebels done in my life and my sons life Thank God I have my Lord Jesus Christ with me And my God words . Younger generation take all the advice From these young man psalms 1 God Totally set me free from the devils I don’t mingle with those people anymore.
👏🏽 That was concise & informative…simply excellent, Daniel! I’m a mental health therapist, and I will be sharing this video with my colleagues & clients.
I’ve met so many people like that in my life, often when I was younger I just accepted a fake friend. Especially in school it was hard when they’d turn on you.
Thank you for this, Daniel! I like your videos and am trying to get stronger. I have been manipulated my entire life. Its hard to make friends since its hard to trust anyone. Im so broken💔 at least I know I have a friend in Jesus❤❤❤
The first symptoms you mentioned could just be a person who suffers from ADHD or autism spectrum. Then you mentioned a persons facial expressions, again it could just be an innocent person who is on the autism/ Asperger’s spectrum. I really hate when people misjudge and vilify us for something we don’t do on purpose.
I know!! That’s what I’m saying. There’s a huge gray area for people who suffer from mental illness or certain disabilities. We may do those things because of our illness and that in no way makes us fake. And trust, we don’t want to be that way… where our illness has taken over so much of our life we can’t even make it to plans with friends 💔
I cannot tell you how often in my longish life someone has said to me, "Do you always look like that when you concentrate?" Particularly if it had just occurred to me that the obvious way to open a can of soup was with a hammer and a screwdriver.
Unless they are depressed, not expressive or confused types, this is so true...you are just substitute for them...it's frustrating when they manipulate you and put all the blame on you..absolutely toxic. Thanks for the reminder 👍
Thanks for educating me on this topic I am a giver and sometimes I am so tired when I need friend and family support they are not there I am alone thank God for Jesus,
@@irmaadams8029 Exactly ! Same here... honestly sometimes it's nobody's fault. We need to learn and find ways to deal with it on our own until we find the right people. Just go to a park or open space, exercise , even running helps..find new people to chat.. Whatever works It's heartbreaking if you keep thinking nobody is there for you.
Yes! I really like your straightforward and completely honest truths about this. I've been on both sides and I can truly relate to almost each number on your list. I am someone who truly did change my mind as you put it...or I call it a change of heart. Being honest and real with people has been the most rewarding experience and has deepened my relationships in all ways as well as with anyone I come in contact however brief.
I briefly went out with a guy who "couldn't remember my name" and he was always" 2 hrs late" to meet up! He said he didn't want children knowing that I had three! When he found out I wouldn't sleep with him needless to say that ended everything quickly! FAKE!!
There's a woman I'm friendly with and we talk at the school gate. Literally everytime I speak to her she says about hanging out with our kids, but then would never actually contact me to hang out. She did it again last week, so i even said 'well Wednesday next week is good for me what day suits you' and she awkwardly said 'oh yeah I'll check and text you later'. A week later and still no text. I really don't understand some people lol. I think there's going to be a polite cold shoulder from me when I see her again.
I had a guy "friend" who said we would go do certain things, but he never found the time to do any of it. He would tell me he would "text later after putting his kid to bed" and would never do it. I learned after awhile that his word was not good and that was an awful feeling because I thought we had a real friendship based on trust. It was a sham.
You have to be careful of people who are interested, could be they're narcissistic.... Great information. Live and let live, and good luck to all who are suffering, namaste🙏
This is so true! Learning about this working in organisations and with people is very important and helps you prevent any harm and injury to yourself or your emotions! ❤️
Yes!! My circle is me turning around. Though I'm friendly and supportive and a loyal friend. However, people I engage with become envious and competitive.
Good information, we must know and understand that everyone you meet my not have your best interests at heart, a good Scripture to read, it is better to put your trust in God than to trust in man
Oh let me tell you about my ex colleagues: they always ask "how are you?" But they don't really care. And what is even worse is when they text you just to ask something from you but they start the conversation with "how are you" they really think I don't know they are fake? Are they so stupid and naive?
Thank you Daniel. This is excellent. This video confirms a lot of what I believed about identifying fake people but have been told I was just paranoid by my wife. The only one I would urge caution on is number one. People who are deeply troubled, anxious, depressed or have very bad things happening in their lives can often have difficulty listening and concentrating regardless of how much they value their relationship with someone. They are the caveat, not the rule but it happens more than one might think. Subscribed!
I agree with this. I have a friend with PTSD and sometimes she completely forgets our conversations, but she is very clear on how and why that happens. Thank you for bringing up that point, @Don Mulder!
Thanks Daniel ……this was so informative! I have fake friends in which I no longer have as friends! It is so sad because that person was like a sister to me…. She continued being obviously fake so she had to go! It hurt me to the core I’m ok now and dealing with the loss!
It is true and that’s the part that should tell us something people aren’t perfect as we know but we can’t figure people out it like you said too strange that we can’t level up in building a friendship something is not right . We might just be going in circles thinking we have a friend but we don’t .
Excellent video . Very well done and right to the point . This world is full of selfish , self-righteous lying bastards . I know who most of them are . Most good people have to deal with them every day . Just be happy to know YOU are not one of them .
Body language is the biggest if not the most easiest indicator on whether or not you should have a conversation with someone. It literally shows you if they're being genuine with you whether or not you should tell them to go kick rocks
Seriously this is pretty sad and it almost makes me wanna cry 🙁 well I guess that's the way it's gotta be. I want to thank you so much for sharing this with us 👍🏼👍🏼 2 thumbs up for you Daniel!
That's all I have ever known. I had 'friends' when I had Money. When my life altered do to medical that they were actually Well Aware of*, ope.... they're 'busy' or the list of examples you just gave. When I became 'broke' do to my Epilepsy and serious medical drama, I'm now treated like I'm 5yrs old. ??? My brain is still with it people, you are brainwashed by societies view of the world. What Love and Care is.
We can always justify our every deeds but God looks on our motives. God always knows our thoughts, feelings, actions etc., we can pretend, we can be fake but God looks in our hearts, mind and soul. That's why we should try to be truthful in intentions and everything. Energy/vibes doesn't tell a lie. We can feel it too. God bls to all, 😍🙏
Well, I’m Christian, but you’re pretty naive if you think the rest of the world cares about God one iota. We are a minority among some pretty evil monsters hiding behind the faces of normal people. We must be cautious.
Sadly I can detect everything you just numbered within 30 seconds spending with the person that is why I don't have many friends because most of the people that I am surrounded with are otterly and completely fake :-(
You are 1,000 per cent right in what you have said in this video daniel,i just wish i had have known all of this ealier because my own brother has stabbed me in the back badly.
You are completely right about this subject. In fact you are so on point that I now know that I never have had a real person in my life, especially family. Thank you for the insight
There are non nefarious people who forget and make plans they don't feel up to etc.. Depression is not great to have but is common. Though, gossip and bad behavior are red flags for sure.
Pay very close attention to the way someone talks about others, because that’s the way they are talking about you
yeah that's spot on
So true!
Facts 💯
not true! some times you need to vent and you trust certain people,but you don't trust certain people in able to vent! I have a few very good and true friends!
@@kellymiller9641 then vent to family, not coworkers. Or at least take it to HR. This is not what I meant.
1. They forget everything you say in every single way (they should be listening)
2. They make fake plans with you
3. They don't make a real effort at all (busy people get things done)
4. They're selfish (they always want something from you)
5. They gossip (vibes speak louder than words)
6. They lie all the time
7. Betrayal
Thank you 😊. Was hoping to find a list .
Gee..this is everyone I've ever known in my life 🤔😁🙄
Sounds like 90% of the people I encountered in my life 🙄
Whenever I think I want to watch a video like this one.
I always look for a comment like yours.
Thanks.
Fake people always want validation
Letting them in on your good news will show you just how they feel about you by how they respond...if they have to force being happy for you, they are not your friend!!!
I agree! Changing the subject or just being completely silent as well is another sign.
And you can tell when it’s a forced being happy for you too 💯⭐️
Dealing with fake people can be exhausting and such a waste of time.
It really is!!! That's why when I detect fakeness with someone, I cut them off!!! They don't deserve any of my time!!!
Yes they are. Some of them want constant attention and expect a lot from you, when they haven’t actually benefited you in any way but are trying too hard to convince you about how great they are with all their grand promises that will never happen. I don’t trust people who depend on flattery to win me over for this very reason
They are psichic vampire(they drain YOUr vital energy)
Just a bunch of Black holes. Swim away my friend and let them have their little masquerade till death. I have better things to do
It is
You can also tell when someone is talking behind your back, when mutual friends/acquaintences treat you differently....I have resorted to categorizing users as "takes". So many have made the mistake of taking my kindness for weakness...after 55 years of trying to "treat others as I want to be treated" and being compassionate and generous...it has finally dawned on me that there are very few who have the same outlook,and my circle became very very small almost overnight....how sad
Your experiences in life mirror mine unfortunately. And it is not just a few bad apples either. Over half the population are fakes and takers and betrayers.
I wonder if there was a missing part to that saying. Maybe it should have gone something like this: "Treat people who you've thoroughly vetted to be worthy of you're time and attention how you want to be treated and discard the rest". Sounds harsh but think of the consequences of doing it the other way: you remain surrounded by fake people who leech away your energy, time, patience, resources, etc., etc., etc....
Me too. We just can’t .?it’s a loose battle. Nobody is this way. I think 💭 that was said by somebody who wanted to get over on people and needed victims
Same here!
You're not alone, the human spirit is in a state of decay from all forms of media and fluoridated water/GMOs, etc. It really baffles me how people lie to themselves and don't see themselves become old and colder inside...more irritable & indifferent towards on another, etc.
A person is also fake with you when they arent there for you , during your suffering ,insisting they only want to hear good things ,and never allowing you to express your feelings . Everything you said here is so true.God bless uou always.🌹💖💖🎉🌷
Well sometimes I was acting fake… to my bestfriend by not being there for her while I was going through something too and I really shouldn’t have distance myself and I am still beating myself up for not living the pain with her… and not being there- I hope God knows That I am really hoping that this is not the end of our friendship
@@OceanicPearlz1 Thank you for your kind thoughts .She loses out in the long run .Wishing you a Happy New Year.God bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉
And never say that their SORRY ,
I stopped caring for fake people, i became more distant to protect my sanity.
Same here im trying to
Facts ❤
Same
Same 💯 it’s the safest and brings serious peace of mind ❤
Most people aren't your friends anyway but are just being polite to you so they can work with you as a co-worker, a client or a neighbor etc.
And in a way that's ok. You can't be friends with everybody anyway. Just don't mistake them for something they're not.
The sad part is betrayal never comes from your enemies
NEVER!!! I still be at wits ends thinking how I was betrayaled
@@Her_shey_bar Sorry to hear that. It is incredibly painful both emotionally and physically.
BAM and DAMN
sooooo correct
So true... but in the end a betrayal. Is a portal to get away.....
@@lisalinnae9844 makes sense
I think it's important to differentiate between "fake" and "not aligned." People who are being fake are aware of their intentions whereas people who are not aligned with you, simply don't identify your value or feel as though your value is beneficial to them but still recognize the need to treat you with empathy. Huge difference between a fake person and a nice person. Nice doesn't always mean being pleasant, but really just doing the right thing. A nice person isn't always aware of their intentions either.
A quote from a lady named Jess....”if you need a person to agree with you and see the world like you in order to value them, then you don’t love people, you love yourself.” Something to think about!
I like that so true
Thankyou.
It is true,
Nicely said, I agree
A lot of narcissists around
This is only true if everyone shared the same values but the fact is there are many people who either do direct harm and/or look the other way when people they support do harm- those people don’t fit into your truism and should be fought/devalued.
I feel so bad that I’ve been around fake people my whole life!
I know your pain.....my entire family is fake !!
My whole life i am dealing with fake people.but these tips will help me . I can detect a liar and fake person. Thank you sir appreciate so much
@@LaWendellyn777 that’s sad 😢
@@pontiacuploads1953 so true!
Janique, so have I but it's because I believed more in the goodness of bad people. I had to stop doing that!
Forgetting details could just mean someone is generally forgetful or perhaps they have something stressful on their mind.
Plans that never come through, I generally agree but again sometimes people have stress in their lives, so that holds them back too.
The thing to remember is people have stress in their lives and sometimes health problems. So you should pay attention to signs but be careful not to misinterpret them.
@Jesus Christ Agreed. Something he didn’t mention but really stands out to me as a red flag is someone that comes up to you and acts like your best friend but the moment someone else comes around they will drop you mid sentence to go talk to them.
Exactly! I smoke weed and have a lot of stress in my life and sometimes health issues. This is the main reason I cancel, can't concentrate and forget things. Its not because I'm fake or dislike someone.
Also people with ADHD struggle to focus with eye contact or remembering..they can get distracted easily
Thank you for mentioning this. Especially, people with ADHS can struggle with that and might have to cancel appointments cause they didn't get things done on time.
I think, nowadays, a lot of this might get interpreted as toxic behaviour, when people are just struggeling with life.
I'm seeing the ADHD comments I have it as well. I've struggled with the same things you guys have mentioned, but one of the main complaints that people have when we miss things or don't focus is, "if it were xyz you wouldn't forget, or you wouldn't miss." And while it still can happen. There is some truth to that. There is a neurological reason why that happens with us, but this is a general message. If it's an oddly specific reason like that, odds are its already gonna be known so there wouldn't be speculation on fake behavior anyway unless they truly don't understand you to which you should probably cut ties anyway. My point is that despite that fact, if a person really thinks about you all the time and wants to talk to you, even if they're not able to they will find a way the second they can, unconsciously, instinctually. And if they are just shut down generally, fine; but if that behavior is not consistent across all people they consider close, like for example they seem to forget your plans and conversations, but make plans with people at the drop of a dime easily, or telling you about other conversations they have with other people, then they just might be being fake with you, or not care about you as much as you think, or even they think they do. ADHD and weed isn't an excuse in that situation. Weed is a choice (for most unless medical which again, you would already be aware of an have no cause for speculation) and ADHD affects and debilitates us at varying levels per person greatly, but it doesn't mean we aren't capable of doing things consciously and purposely either.
P.S. I know the comments made as you grow up, they're hurtful. It's also out of your control, but you gotta accept it and move past the trauma related to the undiagnosed ADHD days and ignorant comments. You know why you do things. Work to make it better, take back control, and don't make excuses with specific examples for people disrespecting your time. Don't got time to focus on that, literally lol we got ADHD, hyperfocus on your dreams and success, we got this.💯💯😁
For starters, when someone isn’t being themselves, you can never fully trust them. That means you can’t trust them with your information or problems, and you probably can’t share your good news with them either
Your opinion is an national genetic here in Ireland, so it won't perplexe ...🇮🇪
Yes you definitely can’t share your good news with them they will get jealous of you!!
Any information you give can be twisted to something bad, "a weapon or tool" against you. No matter how positive or good it might be.
its so hard for INFPs to live in a society like this 😩🤚
That's right! It narrows down to "Trust".
This video really hit home for me. I had people like this in my life and recently cut them off. I no longer give my time to people who don't appreciate me.
Amen
Self respect and reciprocation
Same here
Know your worth. I’m glad you’ve had the realisation, there will be some loneliness but at least you’re in good company ;)
I had a best friend "so called" for close to twenty years I put up with so much crap from her we were like sisters but it finally got to the point I had to cut contact with her it hurt but it had to happen it really hurts when you care for someone your that close to you truly don't know at all and had to cut ties with I'm sorry for you because I completely understand the feeling
I don't need signs to know. If somebody is fake, i simply know.✌️
Most people aren't your friends but are just being polite to you so they can work with you as a co-worker, a client or a neighbor etc.
And in a way that's ok. You can't be friends with everybody anyway. Just don't mistake them for something they're not.
Yes I know that's why I stick to myself you're lucky if you have one true friend
You know it Sister.
It would seem that the desire to have a real friend is more universal than the desire to be a real friend. Since the only difference is the amount of energy required in either case, I am left to think that having a friend is easier than being a friend.
That's the thing they are none you ur own friend. When you are broke you are broke when there's no one to talk to you talk to ur self which are the best conversations to have. By the way
I second that, my mother always used to tell me, "My girl if you have more than 5 friends you have too many"... the reason for this is because so few people are real and honestly want to be your friend 100%. Being someones friend takes alot of understanding and love and effection and emotion, so it works visa versa... I have wasted so much time trying to be the right friend for the wrong people and it almost broke me once, the rejection time and time again was just too much. Now, I dont hurry into a friendship unless the other person is sincere.
Sad but true. Unfortunately, most people are fake. I prefer the company of my dogs and cats to people.
I hate it when someone keeps offering to make plans to hang with you and disappoints you by not following through. Just don’t offer.SMH
I have a colleague like this. But when she needs something from me she will be all good and kind.
That has happened to me many times. I gave up saying YEAH, SURE! NOW I SAY, "I CAN'T MAKE IT."
For a few years I would invite a friend to hang out with our mutual friends. She would say she was free and she was going then call the hour we should be there to say she couldn't come. It was this year we me made plans and I was the one who canceled and she was mad and angry about me it. She still mad about it.
I've gotten "call me if you're feeling bad" (while depressed) and then I do and next thing I know is the next day when the person needs a favor... Then same again the next week. Now I just smile like 'sure, I'll call you...'
@@jannlewandowski5540 I wish I can say that to certain ppl and if they ask why just say “because I don’t like you”
A lot of people are only around when they want something from you. But if you ever need something, these people are nowhere to be found.
I have a family member like this. She's always trying to act nice to me, but in reality she's just being fake with me. All of these signs are actual guys.
There is a family member from my husband's side who 's very bad behaviour towards me without any reason. This person turns the head to the other side when seeing me and tries to make me feel worthless. It talks to my children and reacts as if I am not present It hates me without any obvious reasons.
I know that 's a problematic person, jealous of me. The bad thing is that I have to face that person and this is going on for years and years.
I don't see why this happens.
:(
Something that I have noticed about people that are betraying me, is that when other people are present, and witnessing the interaction, the betrayer is careful to reply patiently in full, well thought out answers, and appears interested, affirmative and welcoming.
When onlookers are not present, or in direct messages, its like they are having a bad day, or something ( one word replying and distracted ).
Yup, so true, spot on 🎯💯
You talking about your husband
Been there I know what you mean..
I've been taken in and taken advantage of but I've gotten to the point where I haven't fallen for that from anyone again but I know one thing I've never done nor will I ever use betrayal as a vice against anyone it doesn't interest me I walk away from that
Woah u took it to another level that's is ssoooooo truw
Yes, I KNEW that, just doubted myself AGAIN. When will I be brave enough to call people on their bs?
Very true words. I'm a senior and now that I look back on my life, I can now see that there were very few true friends. Most people in my past were only nice because of what they could get from me. This saddens me to the core.
Never regret any of your experiences, it has built you stronger. Regardless how painful it was, be glad you passed it safely.🙏
I am nearing 62 & yes, we unfortunately understood a very painful lesson many in life were lucky to skip over.😕🌈☮️🇨🇦
I totally understand. I went to a workshop about 5 years ago and did an evaluation on how each person effected my life. I always thought of myself as having so many friends that even in old age we’d sit around together in a nursing home together. After I did the evaluation, I found I only had 2 friends that met the requirements of being a equal friend. I was crushed to figure out so many people were my friends because of what I could give them and I never noticed they never gave back. I wrote them all letters basically writing them off, ending the friendship with reason. It was and still is painful to think about. I don’t regret any of it, each of these people brought small pieces to my story in my life. They became toxic and had to go. I’m down to 2 friends now, I can depend on them 100% to be there for me, it goes both ways. I sure wish they’d have taught this lesson in first grade 😊
@@kajunheart871 this sounds wonderful! so sorry but so glad you got rid of them.
@@ladonnaramirez1533 Thank you!
Just three signs in and I have a couple people in mind that I have cut ties with and almost completely cut ties with. No time for the drama and pain these people give. Thanks for making this video.
And even your instincts can pick up bad vibrations...you will just know when you are around fake people🤞
I'm actually guilty of a lot of your points...but it's because I'm an extreme introvert and have emmense social anxiety. It actually takes a lot of effort to break down my wall. I am the most loyal and caring person to the people I encounter though. I never wish ill will on anyone, friend or stranger, and I never gossip.
I’m the same. I’m introverted with crazy social anxiety and not the best at picking up on some social cues. I’ve also been stabbed in the back and fucked over many times so I am very hesitant and careful who I let in my life. But once they in they get all my loyalty and devotion
@@makmusikchi must be a 🦂
Yes
I agree…this video slaps misguiding labels on a lot of things that can be attributed to mental health
Thank you for bringing this up.
We often don't like to acknowledge that we may well be making the same mistakes we so often criticize in others. But as long as we keep receiving validation of our views, we won't get challenged to wonder if maybe we play a part in perpetrating toxicity in relationships.
This is exactly why I would rather hang out with my dogs then 99% of my so called friends. I have distanced myself from most of them. Toxicity takes a permanent vacation!
Btw my best friend of 35 years betrayed me. After 35 years how could she? WTF She’s gone from my group of friends. I will not tolerate me being treated like that.
Yep people are mostly bad dogs are way better in fact all animals are real , sound s racist but most white people are fake and yep i,m white .
How sad. It sounds like you’ve never had a true friend.
@@TheJeanette53 no its not sad i have one real friend i,m happy being alone 😁
@@TheJeanette53 yes I have had many “friends’ I finally had a dear friend if 35 years stab me in the back until I was dead. I would rather be by myself then surround myself with ppl. I despise most ppl. Especially ppl that say I have never had a true friend. I am 56 and have learned a few lessons a long the way. Maybe you base your self worth on the fact that you have a few close friends. I don’t care. I love me and I am number 1. I look out for me.
I can relate.
Yes, the Lord had this message sent to me in confirming individuals I am dealing with are false.
Amen sis
When the lord speaks- believe him
These people will even try to manipulate what God has shown to you ( watch your back) from experience
I like when I read the comments, that they’re always about other people. So where are these fake people at? 😂 No one is perfect, and I think we should all do a self examination too!
Yes self examination indeed… right here. I regret not being there for my best friend and now she doesn’t think I was a friend…
Your Heart will tell you .
That's sounds exactly like some of my 'so called' friends and family. If you have big plans and goals you're trying to achieve, they'll act like they're with you but they really wanna see you fail and never prosper to anything greater than themselves. And hoping that you'll stay at the same position they're in so they won't feel so bad about they're misfortunes and lack of achievements.
You gotta be Asian. This is so common in Asian countries
Your comment is so sad but true. I realised that since I was young but I never wanted to believe it was true now that I am older I can say to you TO BELIEVE THIS SAD TRUE AND GET OVER IT QUICKLY AND JUST WORK ON YOURSELF.
@@ismailhamza4721 No I'm black. I've seen this in all ethnic groups. I just stand back and watch the same predicament we put ourselves into becoming these fakes and haters. When you realize that something's not getting you anywhere or benefiting you anything, then you become conscious of what you really want in life, then you go for it and people see that, then that's when people start switching on you and fakes show up almost instantly. Some people can't stand to see other people come up while they're sitting around waiting for that next handout. It eats them up from the inside out like the plague.
@@KaRiNa-pj9sb That's right. You have the right mindset to keep you going. You may loose some friends but you will gain more from people who respect and honor your achievements and enjoy your company for what you have accomplished. And those who turned their backs on you... let them go and never let them back in your life again because once you do they're going to repeat what they've done in the past and do nothing but slow you down from your progress in achieving your goals. That's what fake people do...
@@ismailhamza4721 you're racist dude
What I learned so far throughout my life is that no matter how good you are, no one will ever have the same heart as you, and if you happen to come across someone with the same heart as you that is rare and you should keep them close, most people want to waste your time or betray you and your trust for them
But most people feel that way. What about those that don't and truly want friends
I love being a giver. My love language was never words of affirmation but instead acts of service. I love making those I love feel good about themselves and add some happiness to their day through the acts I do for them. Never had any problem making friends and having romantic options, everyone wants a giver right? Except very few are actually givers themselves and are just there to take advantage. Had to train myself to tell these people apart and not just see the good in everyone just because. Thanks for the video, it put into words the concepts I couldn’t express myself.
You sound JUST like me...
I used to as well. The problem is I have noticed that often not only do they not appreciate my generosity (in terms of giving things, being a good listener, being available, being supportive etc) - over time they actually seem to start resenting & disrespecting me for it. They certainly don’t like it if I try to express an opinion and then they often start a devaluation and discard phase.
I'd add another one. People who have the nerve and audacity to tell you something negative someone else said behind your back or a complete slanderous lie about you but won't tell you who said it. People like that boil my blood with ire. People like that are worse than the ones slandering and talking about you behind your back because they're protecting the filth.
It may not be others saying it behind your back though? Could be the person actually telling you such (they may be the actual back talker)
Stay away fromTOXIC PEOPLE
Honestly I think #1 about remembering details is the only one you truly need. If someone is really engaging with you and takes an interest in what you're saying, they'll remember things you said and bring them up in future conversation without prompting.
Please don't forget that your friend could also be depressed when they struggle to get back to you and/or keep trying to make plans but tend to cancel them. Depression is extremely common, way more than you might think and many people are too scared or ashamed to tell their friends and/or family. So please take that into consideration and at least maybe try talking to them before dropping them completely.
Thank you!
Was hoping I wasn't the only one to realize in real life it isn't so black and white
But if it happens over and over it's completely disrespectful.
Great point. . 💕.
@@leomduffy794 Illnesses don't care about disrespect; that doesn't mean the friend doesn't. That's why I said to talk to people before dropping them and not just told everyone to be a doormat because "maybe depression" :)
Ty i was just gonna write this
3:57
That’s so true.
*“it takes 2.5 seconds to text HI. There’s 24 hours in a day, if I’m not worth 2.5 seconds of your life then you have no spot in mine”*
After that to, they'll say hi how are you and then its a lot of typing to explain your day ( or worse , nothing) bye .... Maybe ppl dont lije small talk and dont text if they have nothing to say & it may stop that other person whos busy actually doing something at the time
So true
You are so right.
My old company did each of these things. They're fake friends for sure.
And that's why I left them.
There was no one I could trust.
And there were also backbiters there. And I don't approve of that either!
Exactly what I've been trying to express to you, Daniel, for over a year. This is why I drop so many! One of the big ones is everyone wants my help, yet they can't help me. I see it as a delay tactic to pull me away from whatever I'm doing.
Same here💁🏻♀️I’m “always” the caretaker and the giver, but I learned the hard way… Not everyone is my friend and just to Love them from a distance …sadly, but true
Theodore Roberts yes my dan, people always want my help, but are oddly absent whenever i need a lift
Even if they are busy they will still have time for you!💯
If there is someone who always talks about negative things of others, you should keep away from them, because you would also be the topic of their conversation when they are with others.
I love the person you are. How can anyone find fault with this advice? Only fake people.
Hello? #trendingnowtv
me i can spot all of these real quick 🤦♀️ these are the basics also
This has helped me figure out who the snakes are or were in my life. Thanks for your insight!
Agree snake / evil
Truth! I am so done with fake friends, fake family, fake people. Keep your circle small and true
Honestly though, you’re such an incredible and motivating person, it feels like you just want to help people and it’s amazing, thank you for being you.
I have been betrayed enough by people. I use to as a child believed people around me as being good or trustworthy. I learned by the time I was 16 that you can't trust many people and it was better to not trust anyone until they somehow prove they can be trusted. I don't ask for help except by those very close to me. Then I pay them for their time and normally treat them to a meal. I don't count on any help from anyone. I am not bitter but 2 divorces from selfish men who want to roam is enough. I always do my best ,because I have a strong conscience , in a relationship and I don't pry into other peoples lives unless they show they need to open up and release stress. But , when it comes to people in general I don't get involved. I work and then go home. I shop alone and go to church alone! I find I like my own company and solitude! I am always friendly and respectful to everyone I meet! I smile often and like people for the most part. But I don't want to get close to anyone again! Too stressful!
Thanks for sharing this, I’ve never been married but am a child of an ugly divorce. You’ve opened my eyes to the ways i sometimes mistrust myself. I definitely enjoy my solitude as well but would you say past experience can sort of hold you in a hermit mode?
I’m sure it’s different for everyone, and to each his/her own. But eyes feeling wide opened to the fact that maybe i was the one being selfish not because they were selfish but because i didnt trust myself enough and so, i went ahead and began being selfish with myself.
@@hymnhallelujahtuhaven6975 hello, yes the Hermit mode could be a problem. I make plans to go places for time to time around my regular habits and routine. I like to change up my life a bit. Go places I have not been to yet. Buy a different fruit or veggie and see if I like it. As far as trusting myself I do. I know myself enough and have had comments from others letting me know what they see in me. Ha ha if it is a man that is not getting what he wants I know he will say something not so nice to change my ways. I don't worry about them. I have enough people around me who think I am very sweet and helpful. Try not to be weak for people who will not value you. Be careful. Have a nice evening.
Outstanding Ms. E. I'm 100% the same way as you. It's the best way to be. It does hurts because you like people to reciprocate, and no one with a sound mind wants to be alone, but I rather be alone than be with a narcissist.
@@edwardperez7665 and the whole society is being trained in the ways of narcissism thanks to social media and the dumbing down of ppl from state govt "education" and church.
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Thank you for this video. I have a family member or two who exhibit these words and behaviors - I have been hurt with betrayal and lack of care or concern except to gossip and lie. I get it now and do not interact for long once I begin to see these signs in people. This is valuable information so that you are not drained dry or take it too personally as they aren't really interested in developing a true reciprocal relationship.
This guy is exactly right. There are people I thought were friends and thinking back on them and I realize they always GOT something from me. I’m in a place where I could use some help, just a conversation, just some help doing errands and I have no one. People were always at my house have apparently died or been abducted
I had to reach out and tell you I heard you I am in the same boat I could talk your legs of. My own kids . And the man I love lol. All are takers and then be cone I visible they LIVE BEHIND MY FENCE. I've lived here 40 yrs and I can't move . Until I can afford .a place to live.;(. I feel like I died and no one told me
Same here. It was painful to realize about a few after knowing them for decades. Users
I have to reevaluate myself. 😳
I do forget important details about others. This was great advice, Daniel
Thank you 🙏🏻
OMG the statement “vibes are louder than words” I needed this information in my life
This is my second video, the other one was haters. Its incredible that you have described everyone I know. I really only have one friend I friended by mistake on Facebook to text and she always answers. The others have all the signs you shared. I'm blown away ! Thanks Daniel. I'll be watching all of your videos from now on.
Absolutely 💯 yes
Stay away from those evil peoples they gone destroy your life not only your life your children’s to I am a 60 years old woman I’m suffering until now what devils Evils Jezebels done in my life and my sons life
Thank God I have my Lord Jesus Christ with me And my God words . Younger generation take all the advice From these young man psalms 1 God Totally set me free from the devils I don’t mingle with those people anymore.
- Vibes speak louder than words..)
👏🏽 That was concise & informative…simply excellent, Daniel! I’m a mental health therapist, and I will be sharing this video with my colleagues & clients.
I’ve met so many people like that in my life, often when I was younger I just accepted a fake friend. Especially in school it was hard when they’d turn on you.
Good job!! Don't listen to what people say, watch what they do.
This is how I live as well ...
Thank you for this, Daniel! I like your videos and am trying to get stronger. I have been manipulated my entire life. Its hard to make friends since its hard to trust anyone. Im so broken💔 at least I know I have a friend in Jesus❤❤❤
All facts 💯 and truth, thanks for those good Words of wisdom and encouragement, keep up the good work Sir and Brother
Daniel, you are a bright young man, wise beyond your years. thank you for your help.
The first symptoms you mentioned could just be a person who suffers from ADHD or autism spectrum. Then you mentioned a persons facial expressions, again it could just be an innocent person who is on the autism/ Asperger’s spectrum. I really hate when people misjudge and vilify us for something we don’t do on purpose.
Anxiety and depression as well
Exactly
I know!! That’s what I’m saying. There’s a huge gray area for people who suffer from mental illness or certain disabilities. We may do those things because of our illness and that in no way makes us fake. And trust, we don’t want to be that way… where our illness has taken over so much of our life we can’t even make it to plans with friends 💔
See my kind of people 😌
I cannot tell you how often in my longish life someone has said to me, "Do you always look like that when you concentrate?" Particularly if it had just occurred to me that the obvious way to open a can of soup was with a hammer and a screwdriver.
Unless they are depressed, not expressive or confused types, this is so true...you are just substitute for them...it's frustrating when they manipulate you and put all the blame on you..absolutely toxic. Thanks for the reminder 👍
Thanks for educating me on this topic I am a giver and sometimes I am so tired when I need friend and family support they are not there I am alone thank God for Jesus,
@@irmaadams8029 Exactly ! Same here... honestly sometimes it's nobody's fault. We need to learn and find ways to deal with it on our own until we find the right people. Just go to a park or open space, exercise , even running helps..find new people to chat.. Whatever works
It's heartbreaking if you keep thinking nobody is there for you.
Thank you for the logic and positive attitude. We need to educate ourselves nowadays in this world of users and future fakers. Great job! 👍❤
Yes, fully comprehended, and so much emotional laziness in the world these days.
Yes!
I really like your straightforward and completely honest truths about this. I've been on both sides and I can truly relate to almost each number on your list. I am someone who truly did change my mind as you put it...or I call it a change of heart. Being honest and real with people has been the most rewarding experience and has deepened my relationships in all ways as well as with anyone I come in contact however brief.
A half hearted handshake and/or hug tells me everything I need to know going forward.
This came right on time I just felt a huge shift of energy under the roof I live over the last 30 minutes to a hour ago smh
Precisely described my ex-wife, particularly about the constant lying.
I briefly went out with a guy who "couldn't remember my name" and he was always" 2 hrs late" to meet up! He said he didn't want children knowing that I had three!
When he found out I wouldn't sleep with him needless to say that ended everything quickly! FAKE!!
I don't quite understand guys like that. I want to get to know a woman before going to bed with her.
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@@Boosted_aj Is that supposed to have some kind of significance?
Why would you date a man who didn't want children and you have three?
There's a woman I'm friendly with and we talk at the school gate. Literally everytime I speak to her she says about hanging out with our kids, but then would never actually contact me to hang out.
She did it again last week, so i even said 'well Wednesday next week is good for me what day suits you' and she awkwardly said 'oh yeah I'll check and text you later'. A week later and still no text. I really don't understand some people lol.
I think there's going to be a polite cold shoulder from me when I see her again.
That's just small talk hun. She doesn't mean it literally, just something to chatter about. Don't take it personal.
I had a guy "friend" who said we would go do certain things, but he never found the time to do any of it. He would tell me he would "text later after putting his kid to bed" and would never do it. I learned after awhile that his word was not good and that was an awful feeling because I thought we had a real friendship based on trust. It was a sham.
Turn the tables on her. The next time she suggests hanging out, agree to it and then ghost her.
@@comment5398 but why bring up hanging out at all? Just make your small talk without false invitations.
@@NoMoreTears64 some folks are extremely flaky. Bullet dodged
My mama used to say if 2 people are agreeing all the time then someone is being fake. I have always kept that with me.
You have to be careful of people who are interested, could be they're narcissistic....
Great information. Live and let live, and good luck to all who are suffering, namaste🙏
This is so true! Learning about this working in organisations and with people is very important and helps you prevent any harm and injury to yourself or your emotions! ❤️
Yes!! My circle is me turning around. Though I'm friendly and supportive and a loyal friend. However, people I engage with become envious and competitive.
Good information, we must know and understand that everyone you meet my not have your best interests at heart, a good Scripture to read, it is better to put your trust in God than to trust in man
Thanks Daniel, let me prepare myself and i brand new myself no more fake people in my life 2021 brand new me. YES🙏🙏
Oh let me tell you about my ex colleagues: they always ask "how are you?" But they don't really care. And what is even worse is when they text you just to ask something from you but they start the conversation with "how are you" they really think I don't know they are fake? Are they so stupid and naive?
Thank you Daniel. This is excellent. This video confirms a lot of what I believed about identifying fake people but have been told I was just paranoid by my wife. The only one I would urge caution on is number one. People who are deeply troubled, anxious, depressed or have very bad things happening in their lives can often have difficulty listening and concentrating regardless of how much they value their relationship with someone. They are the caveat, not the rule but it happens more than one might think. Subscribed!
I agree with this. I have a friend with PTSD and sometimes she completely forgets our conversations, but she is very clear on how and why that happens. Thank you for bringing up that point, @Don Mulder!
Thanks Daniel ……this was so informative! I have fake friends in which I no longer have as friends! It is so sad because that person was like a sister to me…. She continued being obviously fake so she had to go! It hurt me to the core I’m ok now and dealing with the loss!
Agreed 🙌🏽 recently experienced this. People are strange as hell
Yup💯
It is true and that’s the part that should tell us something people aren’t perfect as we know but we can’t figure people out it like you said too strange that we can’t level up in building a friendship something is not right . We might just be going in circles thinking we have a friend but we don’t .
Yes! 🙌
Tell me about it
Me too. But I would say that women tend to be more deceptive than men.
So true about people running their mouths but not owning up to anything!! 😢
Yes Sir! You were right on the money and right n time! I am purging fake people in 2022! Thank you!
They say there thinking about you and miss you but dont make the effort to call and text you. They dont really care about ya.
Or they only call/text when they need something
"Vibes is louder than words" 👍❤
Man I love the energy and the way you speak the facts! Appreciate you!
Excellent video . Very well done and right to the point . This world is full of selfish , self-righteous lying bastards . I know who most of them are . Most good people have to deal with them every day . Just be happy to know YOU are not one of them .
YES !! Great video Daniel 👍👌
Your Energy Introduces you Before you Do...
I guess I don't have any friends at all. All the people that friends with me are fake the whole time. 😥
Body language is the biggest if not the most easiest indicator on whether or not you should have a conversation with someone. It literally shows you if they're being genuine with you whether or not you should tell them to go kick rocks
I keep on coming back to this TH-cam Channel to refuel my motivation to maximise my life.
Seriously this is pretty sad and it almost makes me wanna cry 🙁
well I guess that's the way it's gotta be.
I want to thank you so much for sharing this with us 👍🏼👍🏼
2 thumbs up for you Daniel!
That's all I have ever known. I had 'friends' when I had Money. When my life altered do to medical that they were actually Well Aware of*, ope.... they're 'busy' or the list of examples you just gave. When I became 'broke' do to my Epilepsy and serious medical drama, I'm now treated like I'm 5yrs old. ??? My brain is still with it people, you are brainwashed by societies view of the world. What Love and Care is.
We can always justify our every deeds but God looks on our motives. God always knows our thoughts, feelings, actions etc., we can pretend, we can be fake but God looks in our hearts, mind and soul. That's why we should try to be truthful in intentions and everything. Energy/vibes doesn't tell a lie. We can feel it too. God bls to all, 😍🙏
Well, I’m Christian, but you’re pretty naive if you think the rest of the world cares about God one iota. We are a minority among some pretty evil monsters hiding behind the faces of normal people. We must be cautious.
YES. THANK YOU D.A. This is so helpful.
Yes, I started purging these people right out of my life with no regrets!!
Sadly I can detect everything you just numbered within 30 seconds spending with the person that is why I don't have many friends because most of the people that I am surrounded with are otterly and completely fake :-(
Yes, thank you for always sharing and keeping me motivated and inspired. You Rock! 👍🤗
You are 1,000 per cent right in what you have said in this video daniel,i just wish i had have known all of this ealier because my own brother has stabbed me in the back badly.
Found through a TH-cam comment and Thank God I found you
Spot on my dude spot on
You are completely right about this subject. In fact you are so on point that I now know that I never have had a real person in my life, especially family. Thank you for the insight
There are non nefarious people who forget and make plans they don't feel up to etc.. Depression is not great to have but is common. Though, gossip and bad behavior are red flags for sure.
YES, DANIEL! THANK YOU FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND INSPIRATION! ❤