The origins of love and hate Book by Ian D. Suttie was published in 1935! The opening gambit ignores this important book. Don Carveth’s (on TH-cam) lectures cover his work and many other psychoanalysts excellently
Hello. Thank you for this interesting introduction to Attachment Theory. In the video you say the concept of Internal Working Models’ is comparable to Object Relation theories of Winnicott and Fairbairn. Please can you elaborate on this? I was interested to know what you meant. Thanks
Brilliant but a very real danger with all of this is to create divisions in society and a state of helplessness or expert dependency for those deemed to not have secure attachments in childhood , to see them now as different in a very negative way and not to see these tendencies in all of us given certain situations . To scapegoat or blame them as "the problem", difficult people which they can become as if to validate the label . But to help them somehow into more adaptive ways of interacting with others and even into open vulnerability and the real potential for intimacy despite these early problems . That given this it is impossible to break through and re adapt that the window for development is somehow irrevocably closed , fate accomple. A state of despair can arise of utter frustration a negative cycle of helplessness ( the neurotic depressive position ?) Again did Bowlby recognize in himself the shadow of his own malaise . I feel then these original dynamics are internalized and the there is the expectation , a way of reacting responding that the child develops to the presence of the mother when it is anxious , in later life this style of interacting then somehow alerts or triggers others maybe into adopting a certain position so that the original dynamic is reinforced even though the child - adult is still not getting its needs met . Maybe this is the root of the human dillema , I know there is something missing , I seem unable to get my needs met despite trying ( maladaptive responses to the potential intimate other ) Perhaps you could say this is the basis of the fault lines which then become the ego ( a process or style of relating which is by degrees maladaptive) . Can i even dare to allow the anxiety up into consciousness, or how do I all most instantly convert it into rage , anger , irritation , frustaion or self attacking depression and what can we do about this . The question is how do i come to know when this is happening and how to transform this , how to be able as an adult to see into these patterns identify and unpick or deconstruct them , to unlearn what are deeply embedded pastern and slowly to open to the possibility that something different might happen this time ? Unfortunately broke my arm in a cycling accident New years eve and am not sleeping well , these lectures are fascinating though .
The origins of love and hate
Book by Ian D. Suttie was published in 1935! The opening gambit ignores this important book. Don Carveth’s (on TH-cam) lectures cover his work and many other psychoanalysts excellently
Well done !
Hello. Thank you for this interesting introduction to Attachment Theory. In the video you say the concept of Internal Working Models’ is comparable to Object Relation theories of Winnicott and Fairbairn. Please can you elaborate on this? I was interested to know what you meant. Thanks
Lacan always made love central. It is very surprising to see a psychoananalytic channel repeating the myth that Bowlby discovered love😶
Brilliant but a very real danger with all of this is to create divisions in society and a state of helplessness or expert dependency for those deemed to not have secure attachments in childhood , to see them now as different in a very negative way and not to see these tendencies in all of us given certain situations .
To scapegoat or blame them as "the problem", difficult people which they can become as if to validate the label .
But to help them somehow into more adaptive ways of interacting with others and even into open vulnerability and the real potential for intimacy despite these early problems .
That given this it is impossible to break through and re adapt that the window for development is somehow irrevocably closed , fate accomple. A state of despair can arise of utter frustration a negative cycle of helplessness ( the neurotic depressive position ?)
Again did Bowlby recognize in himself the shadow of his own malaise .
I feel then these original dynamics are internalized and the there is the expectation , a way of reacting responding that the child develops to the presence of the mother when it is anxious , in later life this style of interacting then somehow alerts or triggers others maybe into adopting a certain position so that the original dynamic is reinforced even though the child - adult is still not getting its needs met .
Maybe this is the root of the human dillema , I know there is something missing , I seem unable to get my needs met despite trying ( maladaptive responses to the potential intimate other )
Perhaps you could say this is the basis of the fault lines which then become the ego ( a process or style of relating which is by degrees maladaptive) .
Can i even dare to allow the anxiety up into consciousness, or how do I all most instantly convert it into rage , anger , irritation , frustaion or self attacking depression and what can we do about this .
The question is how do i come to know when this is happening and how to transform this , how to be able as an adult to see into these patterns identify and unpick or deconstruct them , to unlearn what are deeply embedded pastern and slowly to open to the possibility that something different might happen this time ?
Unfortunately broke my arm in a cycling accident New years eve and am not sleeping well , these lectures are fascinating though .
Frar thyself
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