Tips 1. Open-ended questions: what, how, why, when 2. Active listening: do summarize 3. Cocoon: focus on every word is said to you 4. Engage with other person: body language and give time 5. Don´t make assumptions: ask if they feel all right 6. Avoid antagonistic sentence: less confrontation
Actually, closed-ended questions (yes or no) can certainly be helpful as they are gates to further conversation!!! Think of a node in a flow chart, IF she says Yes (she likes camping) THEN ask about her favorite aspects, or experiences, imagineer together about some potential camping trip, how you two would handle things! Togetherness develops. Lots of conversation. IF she said no, you know not to talk about that. Clarity comes from Y or N questions. Then ask about some other potential interest, concerts, city travel, or whatever. Closed-ended questions are not dead-end streets!
Omg when people talk I'm like............so how do I react. For some reason I can't sympathize with people or what they say...I'm a robot, give info then go.🤖
Everyone is unique and different. Instead of trying to change people's communication styles to fit some type of norm, why don't we accept people for who and what they are and stop trying to put expectations on people and forcing them to be people they are not.
Very useful for all, who wants skills for effective communication,now a days it must need for us, because it helps to develops good relationship, bonding, understanding and unity.
Things have been delivered in a nice, meaningful and easy to understand manner.It is surely a great helpful video with bright & striking set of examples. But nothing much to be perfectionist.
Thank you for defining the set restrictions to the social set of infinite members. I can now sieve out what is not a solution to the longevity of a conversation.
My professor from Ohio Christian University referred me to this video for one of my assignments, but the captioning of You Tube is horrible. Is there a transcript of what was said, or possibly the ability to caption it properly, so others who need captions might be able to understand your lesson? Thank you!
I like how the actors deliberately turned a closed question into an awkward situation. I guess women are incapable of expanding on a yes or no reply, and men incapable of expanding on something they started. lol.
I've always been the type who don't really talk much to someone I don't really know. I've always been shy . If I know the person enough I can talk conversations fine.Other wise I just keep to myself. These days the way people are your just better off talking to people you really know. All this bullying today also doesn't help trying to have conversations with people you don't know too.
This is a good and helpful video. I like communicating. I think this video is applicable for online relationships and friendships as well. I'm thinking of a recent ex-boyfriend and close male friend. I think he should watch this video. Many of the issues and problems I had in the relationship with that ex-boyfriend is addressed in this video. I felt that the ex-boyfriend made many assumptions about what I was thinking and feeling without asking me directly how I felt and thought about things. He had a bad habit of making assumptions. He also didn't ask many open-ended questions to me. He did a lot of closed questions. But what was worse is that he didn't ask many questions to begin with. I was the one who asked questions. He didn't ask many questions. Another issue I had with the ex-boyfriend was that there were times when I felt he wasn't an active listener. And that he was distracted by other things. It was like he didn't appear sensitive to what I was saying and addressing. The ex-boyfriend and I have talked recently online - briefly in private, but mostly on a public discussion forum, which I quit and left last night. The problem I have had with the ex-boyfriend and close male friend is that I feel issues and stuff are better expressed privately through e-mails. And I felt that there was dysfunction in the relationship because he seemed to pay attention if I said something to him PUBLICLY on a board versus if I said something to him privately through e-mails. It's like his attention was distracted when I would send him e-mails. And he didn't respond sometimes. But he would often respond if I said something to him publicly on the board. To me, I just find it very weird and dysfunctional. I think deeper and even more meaningful communication can be said through private correspondence than writing things publicly on a board for other people to read, judge, analyze. I have always found it weird, odd, dysfunctional that the ex-boyfriend pays more attention if you talk to him publicly online - like a board - versus if you send him a private message. It's like the stuff you say soaks in more and registers more with him if you speak to him on a public forum versus speaking to him privately. For most people, it's the opposite. Most people can say more personal, more informative, more helpful things through private correspondence. But when it comes to that ex-boyfriend, it's the opposite. Me, my friends, and my sister have also felt that ex-boyfriend likes to do the opposite of what people want many times. If I wanted anything at all, many times, he would do the opposite. It was very frustrating. I've never seen another human being who liked to go against the grain of things and do the opposite of what many people wanted. He really was and is very difficult, odd, complex, complicated, etc. It's like he doesn't want to make things agreeable, steady, or pleasant. He has to make things difficult, puzzling, confusing, etc. He could make life easier on him and people, if he didn't do the reverse psychology, always doing the opposite of what other want thing. And him remembering things you said publicly versus privately is another thing that is weird and odd, too. That's why I felt I had no choice but to say things publicly because that's the only way it seems to be able to reach to him and to get him to think about things and have some things soak through his head. It's like he doesn't care for private correspondence many times, and during the times I did say things privately it was like he had short attention span or something, and had better attention span if you said things to him on a public forum. I have always found this to be very odd. I've never dealt with any individual acting this way. But yeah, I think that ex-boyfriend should watch this video, because these are areas that he needs to work on. I didn't think he was a good communicator and listener at times. I always like to communicate and write and express things. For him, it was different.
Baloney. A closed question is much better, more direct, the way to make it work is to ask another closed question. For example, "Do you like films? girl: "yes" guy: "What kind of Films? Open questions are terrible because there vague. I hate being asked open questions.
see its easy for me alto ask question like "do you like films" or "what kind of films" thats easy but when its asked to me idk what to say i just say mm idk nd then not going into my shitty personal life but i dont ever have anything to talk ab like my gf has such an interesting life and ALLWAYS has something to talk ab and is so confident and fluent with her speaking like idk
MAKE ASSUMPTIONS!!!!!! But don't leave assumptions as "carved-in-stone" cold hard facts! Check those assumptions, whether they are valid or not! Checking assumptions is actually fuel for more conversation, and really getting to know someone or a situation properly. We can't just not make assumptions. It happens all the time, especially in social situations.
What’s his name? What type of breed? Is the dog a he or she? Male/female When did you got him/her? How old is she/he? Ask questions to create a great conversation. That’s my humble opinion :>
You can ask another question that follows the close-ended question. Like the 1st question: Do you like films? - If she said yes; you can ask her what she likes to watch... And if no, ask her what she likes to do during her free time. (But it's still recommended to ask open-ended questions)
I really dont like small talks cuz i would feel sleepy. I get to the point when i speak to someone. And everytime i try listening to my friend he gets fcking annoying like every 3 minutes he would talk to me. I try ending the conversation but he keeps talking to me and if i ignore him he keeps calling my name 100 times and keep poking me i wouldnt even be able to do my work during my classes.😭😭😭
My advice. Don't close your laptop like that. They might think they are interpreing ur privacy and make them un comfortable. Stay open unless it is something privet
Tips
1. Open-ended questions: what, how, why, when
2. Active listening: do summarize
3. Cocoon: focus on every word is said to you
4. Engage with other person: body language and give time
5. Don´t make assumptions: ask if they feel all right
6. Avoid antagonistic sentence: less confrontation
hereeee are best video for you: #7SkillsToBecomeAsuperCommunicator
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Actually, closed-ended questions (yes or no) can certainly be helpful as they are gates to further conversation!!! Think of a node in a flow chart, IF she says Yes (she likes camping) THEN ask about her favorite aspects, or experiences, imagineer together about some potential camping trip, how you two would handle things! Togetherness develops. Lots of conversation. IF she said no, you know not to talk about that. Clarity comes from Y or N questions. Then ask about some other potential interest, concerts, city travel, or whatever. Closed-ended questions are not dead-end streets!
Omg when people talk I'm like............so how do I react. For some reason I can't sympathize with people or what they say...I'm a robot, give info then go.🤖
SPACE FR3K same :(
Same..
Hmm...you're not alone (;
Me too 😩💔
That is exactly is my problem too... :(
when life hit's you 1:08-1:11 😂😂😂😂😂😂
lmao 😂
Joel Valdez hits*
Joel Valdez hits
They stole my flirting technique :(
Yep, that's me.😳
1:57 (tip 2) contradicts with 3:25 (tip 5)
Everyone is unique and different. Instead of trying to change people's communication styles to fit some type of norm, why don't we accept people for who and what they are and stop trying to put expectations on people and forcing them to be people they are not.
Nothing of Nobody thank u but if only
Is hard to get society thinking like that.. honestly I dont know why I dont hang out with very many friends so I need this.
Very useful for all, who wants skills for effective communication,now a days it must need for us, because it helps to develops good relationship, bonding, understanding and unity.
thank you very helpful, is there a way to practice more courtesy and communication skills? what would you suggest?
Great materials. I like the examples that show it.
One of the best video i would say. Examples in actual are really helpful. Thanks
Things have been delivered in a nice, meaningful and easy to understand manner.It is surely a great helpful video with bright & striking set of examples. But nothing much to be perfectionist.
"You're sitting in my chair" ... I lost it hahaha "Good Lord Jeffrey, you really must be less antagonistic about these sorts of things!" :P
Hey my name is Mark from palatka FL I go to palatka high School in the 12 grade I need this so people can understand me alot more better
Great video, great help. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
at first i was skeptical but this really works..
Very nice indeed and can transform many lives
Great work
Thank you for defining the set restrictions to the social set of infinite members. I can now sieve out what is not a solution to the longevity of a conversation.
OH MY, I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO SPEAK AS A BOGAN, NOW I KNOW, NO WI AM SPECIAL, NOW I TOO CAN BE A BUSINESS PROFESSIONAL BOGAN, THANK YOU LIFE COACH
My professor from Ohio Christian University referred me to this video for one of my assignments, but the captioning of You Tube is horrible. Is there a transcript of what was said, or possibly the ability to caption it properly, so others who need captions might be able to understand your lesson?
Thank you!
Thanks It helps me.
I'm definitely having my eyes opened just smile sinner you may become a saint one day!
saved by grace!
you have a great idea of communication
Good advice.
Thank you.
I love your accent
Nice simple video on communication for students!
3:03 no I was not watching porn
+uncle denjiz LOL i was thinking the same thing
thats what i thought ha ha
Hahaha
Hahaha
😂 OH YES YOU WHERE 🤫😜
nyc video..a good video with set of instruction and examples as well...
tips are good and like that so much
very nice tips thank u
Amazing advices
It was helpful.. thank you!
I like how the actors deliberately turned a closed question into an awkward situation. I guess women are incapable of expanding on a yes or no reply, and men incapable of expanding on something they started. lol.
Mike Stewie exactly
Napoleon Dynomite conversation. He is either emotionally/logically brain-dead OR stewing in untested assumptions.
very helpful .. thank u ..
excellent video!
I know this is way out of topic but does writing help you on your communication skills?
This was a very well put together video! Thanks =]
good lecture, thank much
I adore it another plz
Useful to know.
very helpfull to me!
Okay thanks for the lesson i like it its true.
i agree with u @bull smooth
this video very use useful thank you
She is Pretty !!!
3:50 what i would say would be more like idk who you think you are but youre either going to get off my chair or get hit by it
very nice
yes.i like it verymuch
Why does this feel like a "how to not piss off your girlfriend when she's talking to you" video lololol
You make it sound so simple. Try talking to someone with severe memory problems, you'll find yourself answering the same questions over and over.
weird because in other videos they say make assumptions instead of asking as it may make the other person feel like in an interview.
Super, Thanks a lot!
I've always been the type who don't really talk much to someone I don't really know. I've always been shy . If I know the person enough I can talk conversations fine.Other wise I just keep to myself. These days the way people are your just better off talking to people you really know. All this bullying today also doesn't help trying to have conversations with people you don't know too.
1:09, lol Great video~~
This is a good and helpful video. I like communicating. I think this video is applicable for online relationships and friendships as well. I'm thinking of a recent ex-boyfriend and close male friend. I think he should watch this video. Many of the issues and problems I had in the relationship with that ex-boyfriend is addressed in this video. I felt that the ex-boyfriend made many assumptions about what I was thinking and feeling without asking me directly how I felt and thought about things. He had a bad habit of making assumptions. He also didn't ask many open-ended questions to me. He did a lot of closed questions. But what was worse is that he didn't ask many questions to begin with. I was the one who asked questions. He didn't ask many questions. Another issue I had with the ex-boyfriend was that there were times when I felt he wasn't an active listener. And that he was distracted by other things. It was like he didn't appear sensitive to what I was saying and addressing.
The ex-boyfriend and I have talked recently online - briefly in private, but mostly on a public discussion forum, which I quit and left last night. The problem I have had with the ex-boyfriend and close male friend is that I feel issues and stuff are better expressed privately through e-mails. And I felt that there was dysfunction in the relationship because he seemed to pay attention if I said something to him PUBLICLY on a board versus if I said something to him privately through e-mails. It's like his attention was distracted when I would send him e-mails. And he didn't respond sometimes. But he would often respond if I said something to him publicly on the board. To me, I just find it very weird and dysfunctional. I think deeper and even more meaningful communication can be said through private correspondence than writing things publicly on a board for other people to read, judge, analyze. I have always found it weird, odd, dysfunctional that the ex-boyfriend pays more attention if you talk to him publicly online - like a board - versus if you send him a private message. It's like the stuff you say soaks in more and registers more with him if you speak to him on a public forum versus speaking to him privately. For most people, it's the opposite. Most people can say more personal, more informative, more helpful things through private correspondence. But when it comes to that ex-boyfriend, it's the opposite. Me, my friends, and my sister have also felt that ex-boyfriend likes to do the opposite of what people want many times. If I wanted anything at all, many times, he would do the opposite. It was very frustrating. I've never seen another human being who liked to go against the grain of things and do the opposite of what many people wanted. He really was and is very difficult, odd, complex, complicated, etc. It's like he doesn't want to make things agreeable, steady, or pleasant. He has to make things difficult, puzzling, confusing, etc. He could make life easier on him and people, if he didn't do the reverse psychology, always doing the opposite of what other want thing. And him remembering things you said publicly versus privately is another thing that is weird and odd, too.
That's why I felt I had no choice but to say things publicly because that's the only way it seems to be able to reach to him and to get him to think about things and have some things soak through his head. It's like he doesn't care for private correspondence many times, and during the times I did say things privately it was like he had short attention span or something, and had better attention span if you said things to him on a public forum. I have always found this to be very odd. I've never dealt with any individual acting this way. But yeah, I think that ex-boyfriend should watch this video, because these are areas that he needs to work on. I didn't think he was a good communicator and listener at times. I always like to communicate and write and express things. For him, it was different.
no need to tell us your life story love!
Y don't u recommend this video to him then. What iz the point of you addressing this situation to us
thank u!
Baloney. A closed question is much better, more direct, the way to make it work is to ask another closed question. For example, "Do you like films? girl: "yes" guy: "What kind of Films? Open questions are terrible because there vague. I hate being asked open questions.
it will helpfull to me
thank for upload. I like it
This video is for people who I tried to be friends with
Amazing video with best examples :)
Glad you found it useful : )
I like your video English conversation
Please. Mentioned in front of screen what people are saying about the videoclasss
see its easy for me alto ask question like "do you like films" or "what kind of films" thats easy but when its asked to me idk what to say i just say mm idk nd then not going into my shitty personal life but i dont ever have anything to talk ab like my gf has such an interesting life and ALLWAYS has something to talk ab and is so confident and fluent with her speaking like idk
MAKE ASSUMPTIONS!!!!!! But don't leave assumptions as "carved-in-stone" cold hard facts! Check those assumptions, whether they are valid or not! Checking assumptions is actually fuel for more conversation, and really getting to know someone or a situation properly. We can't just not make assumptions. It happens all the time, especially in social situations.
Good
good video i like it
I just am moi and have absolutely what I want. But thanks for your yrs of wisdom anyway😂
what is "cocoon"
very nice more video up load
British women give the best advice.
Person: I have a dog
Me: oh that's cool!
Person:...........
Me: *nervous sweating*
What’s his name?
What type of breed?
Is the dog a he or she? Male/female
When did you got him/her?
How old is she/he?
Ask questions to create a great conversation. That’s my humble opinion :>
help full
wonderful! :)
painfully over acted, but it gets the point across I gues :')
It was so badly acted it was funny
Why don’t they teach this in schools 😩
really good tips, it would be great if you summarized it in the end.
I had trouble paying attention to this...
Lol
...said no man ever. 3:03
You can ask another question that follows the close-ended question. Like the 1st question: Do you like films? - If she said yes; you can ask her what she likes to watch... And if no, ask her what she likes to do during her free time. (But it's still recommended to ask open-ended questions)
The last tip was kinda funny... Lol
A colleague is someone you work with, so a 'work colleague' is someone you work with at work?
I really dont like small talks cuz i would feel sleepy. I get to the point when i speak to someone. And everytime i try listening to my friend he gets fcking annoying like every 3 minutes he would talk to me. I try ending the conversation but he keeps talking to me and if i ignore him he keeps calling my name 100 times and keep poking me i wouldnt even be able to do my work during my classes.😭😭😭
i do.t love it
1:07 ive done this before lol
who all are here just because of the Bridge-Course Assignment? XD
Tip 7:
Be a spineless fedora-wearing mangina.
ha lol
She is beautiful.Her eyes drags you in.mama mia!
Antagonistic sentences will get you respect though
3:03 let me just close this important job offer and attend to you
Hahaha. Love the acting
This video reminds me of an ielts exam lamo
My advice. Don't close your laptop like that. They might think they are interpreing ur privacy and make them un comfortable. Stay open unless it is something privet
the blonde is gorgeous
Great Advice, but why do I find these videos so robotic and in smooth? It is as if she is trying really hard to sound like a good communicator
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ya haha she might think so or who were u just messaging :)
i dont know who i am
That lady face expression was nice vt her speech.. vl try
1:08 i do this to get rid of chicks
YEET.
Cacoon.. "The world is too big.." "Imagine your on an island Clark.." xD ah god I am so bad at speaking to people in person. I'm too shy. Any tips? :/