I STRUGGLE with receiving the Father's love. I'm stuck in the performance cycle. I had good parents but they neglected my emotional needs, and validation. Then, I married an alcoholic/narcissist. I'm 65 years old and just now have become aware of my need for Abba's love and what my needs are and how to handle my needs and emotions. Emotions and needs frighten me.
This was amazing. Watched both Part 1 and Part 2 and have realized just how codependent I have been on my poor wife during our 28-year relationship (26-year marriage). How she was able to put up with me for so long is a miracle in itself. Now time to correct myself and prayerfully can become healthy in my marriage!
I'm an emotional etch-a-sketch, as soon as I'm shaken a little everything goes out the window. You're helping me a lot Mark, God bless. Thank you Jesus for letting me find this ministry.
So I grew up just codependent. I think that I never experienced anything else. All my love relationships were with narcissists, beginning with my mother, best friends, boyfriends. Of course I developed OCD and panic attacks. My relationship with God is healing because of your help, so thank you so much. Now I’m just isolating myself. I like being around people but I get worn out. I prefer to be alone now. I don’t have balance. When I’m in love I’m crazy lol so now I don’t even venture into that anymore. 😅
I find myself almost belly laughing as I watch this because it is so full of clarity. Where was this decades ago?! The trauma portion really hit home. Realizing one can face Active and Passive trauma at the same time. Active trauma, a child watching her mother have such intense nervous breakdowns that she had to be committed and 2) Passive trauma from a passive, codependent father who never discussed problems or emotions. Just suck it up and walk it off. If our family named our home the way rural folks name their farms/ranches, it would have or should have been "Culture of Trauma". Thank you again for another enlightening, paradigm shifting video to help us on our healing journeys of brokenness. And the humor. Oh my gosh, it cracks me up when you sing 🤣🤣🤣 "pop songs are songs of codependency" I'll never hear music the same.
❤❤ Love that you're always on point! Over twenty years in a codependent friendship with covert christian narcissist; ended a few years back, still trying to recover. Before that was codependent to husband's alcoholism for twenty years til God delivered him. Still working on identifying and allowing God to heal my heart. Thank you for what you are doing!!!
Wow!! Not only is this so good, I’ve been listening to Tim Fletcher for a long time. I have CPTSD and multiple narcissists in the family. It’s so amazing to get this information from a Biblical standpoint as well! Thank you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I just listened to this teaching again cause I am in the midst of certain situations where I’m helping others and I noticed that it was hard to keep my peace and not be immersed in the situation of the other. Thank you a lot for what you bring. That really helps! I already feel more at peace and more like I’m watching the movie than beeing in the movie! 😅 God bless you
Both parts of this series were life changing. So grateful to have come across your channel. I listened to your book about God’s love and now going back to it with this new perspective. Thanks for being a blessing, sir!
You’re also really good at explaining things without the spiritual terms…eg saying the Jezebel spirit, Ahab spirit…..the way you explain everything is so GROUNDED! Thankyou so much 🙏🏽❤
Just fell back into a bad habit, specifically doing something i didn't want to do because i didn't want to be uncomfortable after saying "no, i changed my mind". I'm sad and disappointed in myself, but I'm trying not to let that send me spiraling
This is actually really exciting brother. Your reference this gentleman Tim Fletcher who references Gabor Mate. God showed me this gentleman along with your TH-cam channel back in December and it goes hand-in-hand. Maybe others may be able to grab something from his teachings also.
Great insight! Only thing -I’d like clarification on is the “codependent on God is not right”. Immediately the scripture came “without Me you can do nothing” “in Him we live and move and have our being” and “I do nothing on my own accord but only what I see the Father doing” -just what popped into my mind just now. Jesus spent all night in prayer etc etc. it’s pure dependence on God, clearly. Gotta go now, but if I sat and thought I’m sure there would be tons and tons more just like that. I don’t get it… It would be great to get more clarification on that point thank you.
I STRUGGLE with receiving the Father's love. I'm stuck in the performance cycle. I had good parents but they neglected my emotional needs, and validation. Then, I married an alcoholic/narcissist. I'm 65 years old and just now have become aware of my need for Abba's love and what my needs are and how to handle my needs and emotions. Emotions and needs frighten me.
It was one of the final quotes for me: "You're worth more than you tolerate." So powerful and healing. Thank you
This was amazing. Watched both Part 1 and Part 2 and have realized just how codependent I have been on my poor wife during our 28-year relationship (26-year marriage). How she was able to put up with me for so long is a miracle in itself. Now time to correct myself and prayerfully can become healthy in my marriage!
I'm an emotional etch-a-sketch, as soon as I'm shaken a little everything goes out the window.
You're helping me a lot Mark, God bless. Thank you Jesus for letting me find this ministry.
So I grew up just codependent. I think that I never experienced anything else. All my love relationships were with narcissists, beginning with my mother, best friends, boyfriends. Of course I developed OCD and panic attacks. My relationship with God is healing because of your help, so thank you so much. Now I’m just isolating myself. I like being around people but I get worn out. I prefer to be alone now. I don’t have balance. When I’m in love I’m crazy lol so now I don’t even venture into that anymore. 😅
I find myself almost belly laughing as I watch this because it is so full of clarity. Where was this decades ago?! The trauma portion really hit home. Realizing one can face Active and Passive trauma at the same time. Active trauma, a child watching her mother have such intense nervous breakdowns that she had to be committed and 2) Passive trauma from a passive, codependent father who never discussed problems or emotions. Just suck it up and walk it off.
If our family named our home the way rural folks name their farms/ranches, it would have or should have been "Culture of Trauma".
Thank you again for another enlightening, paradigm shifting video to help us on our healing journeys of brokenness. And the humor. Oh my gosh, it cracks me up when you sing 🤣🤣🤣 "pop songs are songs of codependency" I'll never hear music the same.
❤❤ Love that you're always on point! Over twenty years in a codependent friendship with covert christian narcissist; ended a few years back, still trying to recover. Before that was codependent to husband's alcoholism for twenty years til God delivered him. Still working on identifying and allowing God to heal my heart. Thank you for what you are doing!!!
Wow!! Not only is this so good, I’ve been listening to Tim Fletcher for a long time. I have CPTSD and multiple narcissists in the family. It’s so amazing to get this information from a Biblical standpoint as well! Thank you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I actually found Tim Fletcher before you, and I’ve been binge watching both of you!! Thank you!!
It"s hard ..but God is stronger than anything
I just listened to this teaching again cause I am in the midst of certain situations where I’m helping others and I noticed that it was hard to keep my peace and not be immersed in the situation of the other.
Thank you a lot for what you bring. That really helps! I already feel more at peace and more like I’m watching the movie than beeing in the movie! 😅 God bless you
Wow! This was an amazing session!!!! I’m in awe... don’t have words to really express my gratitude Mark. This was so real to me. So real!!!!
Wow, so glad!
Excellent thanks for this teaching Mark. Your humor is wonderful 😅
Both parts of this series were life changing. So grateful to have come across your channel. I listened to your book about God’s love and now going back to it with this new perspective. Thanks for being a blessing, sir!
Wow… my family had all the descriptive words… 1:15:00!!! I wondered why that part of the Bible kept being brought up in my mind! It’s been years!!
You’re also really good at explaining things without the spiritual terms…eg saying the Jezebel spirit, Ahab spirit…..the way you explain everything is so GROUNDED! Thankyou so much 🙏🏽❤
#4 Parent your siblings
I'm so worried that i am a Covert Narcissist.
Keep your love on, is one of my favourite books!
Excellent teaching and teacher. Christian codependency book changed my life .
Which one? Thanks! 💖
@@TShirmira902 Christian Codependency by Stephanie Tucker. She also has TH-cam videos.
@@TShirmira902 Mr Dejesus is an excellent teacher.
@@TShirmira902 Stephanie Tucker
Just fell back into a bad habit, specifically doing something i didn't want to do because i didn't want to be uncomfortable after saying "no, i changed my mind". I'm sad and disappointed in myself, but I'm trying not to let that send me spiraling
Excellent teaching!! Appreciate the additional resources. God bless!!
This is actually really exciting brother. Your reference this gentleman Tim Fletcher who references Gabor Mate. God showed me this gentleman along with your TH-cam channel back in December and it goes hand-in-hand. Maybe others may be able to grab something from his teachings also.
I’m 36 and I’ve struggling with this my whole life.
Great insight!
Only thing -I’d like clarification on is the “codependent on God is not right”. Immediately the scripture came “without Me you can do nothing” “in Him we live and move and have our being” and “I do nothing on my own accord but only what I see the Father doing” -just what popped into my mind just now. Jesus spent all night in prayer etc etc. it’s pure dependence on God, clearly. Gotta go now, but if I sat and thought I’m sure there would be tons and tons more just like that. I don’t get it… It would be great to get more clarification on that point thank you.
Thanks for recommending Tim fletcher 🙏🏾❤️
This is sooo SO Good!!!! Thankyou so much ❤
Excellent, needed and valuable. May you continue to be blessed for giving us such rich content.
So good. Thank you!
Oh my word, i wish i heard the story about the interruption, thats exactly what happened 😮😢
Do you have a workbook to this subject? This is good. I need help and healing.
So good!
So true
27:28
lol singing. country music is very codependent too!
You are SO right!
My helping,isnt helpful 😮😅 recovering people pleaser here.❤
I choose to take 5 steps back from siblings 😮😅.